STYLE + PLANNING
YOU ASKED, ANSWERED! HOW DO I TALK TO MY FIANCÉ ABOUT BUDGET? WE’RE ON TWO DIFFERENT PAGES, AND MONEY DISCUSSIONS ARE SO UNCOMFORTABLE.
BUDGET
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Uh, I get it—thinking about bills makes me want to cry. Budgets are stressful, but money needs to be something you can discuss openly with your partner. Consider this talk a little practice for your financial future. Bring up your wedding spend in a way that doesn’t feel accusatory, set boundaries (no raised voices, no low blows, etc.) and work together to come up with a list of priorities—costs included.
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HOW MANY SPEECHES OR TOASTS IS TOO MANY? I’m a sucker for a good toast, but even I can agree there’s such a thing as too many. You don’t want to keep guests from mingling and dancing just to hear the whole wedding party wax poetic about your love. I say you choose a rep from each side (typically an MOH and a best man, but gender is made up, my loves) and allow for parents to toast at their discretion. Somewhere around four to five short (think: around six minutes) toasts feels just fine to me. From there, get the party started.
TOASTS
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NEITHER OF US WANTS TO WRITE OUR OWN VOWS, BUT WE WANT OUR CEREMONY TO FEEL PERSONAL. ANY IDEAS?
‘I DOS’
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You’d be shocked by how many people have this same issue. Writer’s block can be a beast, and some of us just aren’t cut out for public declarations of love. Whatever your reason, you could replace traditional vows by reciting a poem you both love, repeating the lyrics to a song that means a lot to you, or taking part in a personalized unity ceremony. (My fave I’ve seen: a guac-making ceremony. *Drools.*)
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MY ____________ IS CONTROLLING AND WANTS A SAY IN EVERY DECISION. HOW DO I MAKE SURE THIS WEDDING ISN’T THEIR “I DO” TAKE TWO? I’m #TeamCompromise, but to a point. Is this person dictating major choices and expressing disapproval for the details too? Is this turning into a wedding you don’t even recognize? Hard stop. Form a united front with your s/o and talk to this person about the importance of your vision. If they have a financial stake in the game, you might need to make some tough compromises—prioritize accordingly.
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CONTROL
4/28/20 12:34 PM