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Our cofounder answers your questions.
I’ve always envisioned my bridesmaids in white, but is that a fashion don’t? It’s absolutely okay to dress your bridal party in white—choose whatever color you want. Ivoryclad bridesmaids will look gorgeous, especially in photos— fresh and modern but still a tad traditional. Of course, white isn’t always the easiest hue to wear (remember how long it took you to find your gown?), so consider your girls’ shapes and comfort levels before making the final decision. And, if you’re open to their opinions, have them weigh in on the choice.
TOASTING NOTES How do I choose the right wine and champagne for toasts—one everyone likes that fits our budget?
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It’s typical to serve either champagne or a signature drink for the first toast—your guests will probably be expecting it and definitely appreciate it. From there, opt for recognizable (and delicious) wines, like light chardonnays and medium-bodied merlots. Try for low-alcohol-content drinks (maybe avoid super-dry wines or champagnes)—something you can toast with over and over again. Finally, stay within your budget. If you want, splurge on high-quality champagne for the first toasts, then switch to more reasonably priced sparkling wine for refills. For all the fizz and half the cost, you’ll have the perfect sip for toasting throughout the night.
OPINION OVERLOAD
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My fiancé’s family is bombarding me with weddingrelated demands. How do I remind them that it’s my day without stepping on anyone’s toes?
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For better or worse, your fiancé’s family is part of the package. You don’t want to get off on the wrong foot with your new family, so diplomacy is the name of the game. On matters that won’t make or break the wedding (or irritate you too much), try to take the high road. For any of their more unreasonable requests, make a polite but firm executive decision, saying something like, “I’m sorry, but unfortunately we really can’t accommodate X, Y or Z.” And when it comes to the big issues, feel free to enlist your fiancé’s help.
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WEBSITE WOES
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What exactly goes on our wedding website? I don’t even know where to begin.
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A wedding website is for any details that don’t belong on the invite. Start with the basics: some background on your relationship and who’s in the wedding party. Next, provide logistics like directions, local amenities, special travel arrangements and hotel blocks, plus a timeline of additional events, like welcome cocktails or a farewell brunch—just leave out exclusive parties like the rehearsal dinner. Then get to the fun stuff: Share registry info (don’t be afraid to link directly to it), clarify the dress code and set any social media guidelines, whether you’re unplugging or rocking three custom hashtags. And now it’s easier than ever to personalize your (free!) pretty page with us—visit TheKnot.com/weddingwebsites. >>
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CARLEY: TODD FRANCE PHOTOGRAPHY; BRIDESMAIDS: KATE HOLSTEIN PHOTOGRAPHS
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47% 77% of couples have a white or ivory color palette
of couples create a personal wedding website
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