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SUNDAY, JULY 13, 2014
ENGAGEMENTS
THE SUMTER ITEM
CLUB DIGEST
Bailey-James Mr. and Mrs. John Paul Bailey of Sumter announce the engagement of their daughter, Stormy Ann Bailey of Sumter, to Oliver Johnson James of Manning, son of Mr. and Mrs. Johnny Marten James Jr. of Manning. The bride-elect is the granddaughter of Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Rutledge Dollard Sr. and the late Mr. Paul M. Bailey, all of Sumter. She graduated from the University of South Carolina. She is employed as a dental hygienist by Gentle Dentistry at Oak Grove in Lexington. The bridegroom-elect is the grandson of Mr. and Mrs. James Henry Johnson Jr., the late Mr. and Mrs. Johnny Marten James Sr. and Ms. Ruth Cantey Johnson and the late Mr. James Henry Johnson Sr., all of Manning. He graduated from the University of South Carolina. He is employed by Residential Construction Management.
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JAMES, MISS BAILEY
The wedding is planned for Nov. 8, 2014, at Bethel Baptist Church of Sumter. ••• The couple is registered at Belk, www.belk.com and Naomi & Warner, 12 S. Main St.
‘For richer or poorer’ is not working out for wife and mother DEAR ABBY — My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We have had our ups and downs, but the last few Dear Abby months have ABIGAIL been hell. My VAN BUREN husband lies about having paid bills. When I ask, “Have you paid the rent?” I mean “IN FULL,” not a partial payment. We have now been evicted for nonpayment of rent and are living in a hotel. Utilities have been cut off because of his partial payments and his lying about their having been paid in full, and I’m tired of it. It’s not just the two of us who have been affected because of his mismanagement of money, but also our two children who are caught up in this mess. I’m not one of those wives who sit around not knowing what’s going on with the finances. I have bills I pay for the house, too, and after they are paid I give him money to pay other bills. I am sick and tired, Abby, and I want to divorce him. What other choice do I have? The “for richer or poorer” thing is no longer working for me. How much should a person tolerate before walking away from marriage? Had enough in Tennessee DEAR HAD ENOUGH — You say this has been going on for a few months. Where is the money going that isn’t being spent on bills? You say you give your husband money. Is he bringing in any, or is he jobless? Before you decide to walk away, you need to understand why it is that your husband has been lying to you, particularly if this is recent behavior. If you are better at handling money than he is, then you should be handling the finances and paying all of the bills. That would be a solution to your money troubles. But reading between the lines of your letter, it appears there may be a lot more going on between you and your hus-
band than you have disclosed. And if that’s the case, I’d recommend marriage counseling before I’d recommend divorce. DEAR ABBY — When I was a child, my mother always told me to close the bathroom door after using the toilet so as not to allow any offensive odors to escape. I’m an adult now, have a nice home and entertain often. I am dismayed that most of my guests leave the bathroom door wide open after each use. It is particularly offensive because of the close proximity of the powder room to the dining room. Like the habit of men forgetting to put the toilet seat down, I find this “open door” policy both disgusting and inexcusable. Would you kindly advise whether my mother was correct, or am I being too sensitive? I’ll post your answer on the door of my guest bathroom for my guests to see. Grossed Out, Carmel Valley, California DEAR GROSSED OUT — While it would be hard to argue in favor of offensive fumes wafting into a hallway, not everyone feels as strongly as you and your mother do on this subject. Your guests may be leaving the door open so other guests will know the bathroom is unoccupied. Because you prefer for it to be shut at all times, rather than post a letter from me on the door, consider installing an automatic spring closer on it, or post a small sign that reads, “Please Shut Door When Leaving.” Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. To order “How to Write Letters for All Occasions,” send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds) to Dear Abby — Letter Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 610540447. Shipping and handling are included in the price. For everything you need to know about wedding planning, order “How to Have a Lovely Wedding.” Send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Wedding Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Shipping and handling are included in the price.)
CAMPUS CORNER UNIVERSITY OF SOUTH CAROLINA Sigma Alpha Lambda announces that Taylor Kaye Servais of Sumter, daughter of Richard and Mona Servais, has recently become recognized as a member of Sigma Alpha Lambda, National Leadership and Honors Organization at the University of South Carolina.
LANDER UNIVERSITY Lander University conferred degrees upon the following area students: • Clarendon County — Darion Canty, Summerton, bachelor of science, business administration • Sumter County — Kristopher Morgan, Pinewood, bachelor of science, business administration
Lion District 32C Governor Randy Edwards, far left, stands with newly elected Sumter Lions Club officers for 2014-15. They are, from his left: President Robert Young; First Vice President Earl Klaege Sr.; Second Vice President Wayne Hogon; Secretary Tom Reaves; Membership Chairman Bob Fleury; Tail Twister Fred Kubala; Treasurer Sep Harvin; Director Judy Jeney; and Lion Tamer Billy Steele.
NU MASTER CHAPTER OF BETA SIGMA PHI A business meeting was held at the home of Mary Ann Clark on May 1. Clark relayed important information about recycling and the responsibilities we all have to support this program. On May 15, a salad supper was held at Fran Kolar’s home. Officers for the 2014-15 sorority year were installed. Kolar was selected to receive the chapter’s congeniality award. A bring-your-own-steak cookout was held on May 30 at the home of Margie Zelano. Beginning Day will be held in late August with business meetings resuming in September on the first and third Thursdays of each month. Socials will continue through the summer.
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Jean Rogers-Mcafee, left, is presented a plaque in recognition of her having been selected the American Legion Auxiliary Unit 15 Member of the Year 2013-14. Presentng the award are Unit 15 Past Presidents Parley Committee, Nancy Jordan and Fay Cook, chairwoman.
SUMTER DUPLICATE BRIDGE CLUB The bridge winners for June are: • June 4 — first, Lila Cobb and Marie Hill; second – Kenneth Hamilton and Richard Hinkle • June 11 — first, Gary Harbath and Larry Baum; second, tie, Lila Cobb and Marie Hill, and Stan Kohli and Marvin Chin • June 18 — first, Lila Cobb and Marie Hill; second, Kenneth Hamilton and Richard Hinkle • June 25 — first, Pat Lauterbach and Hugh Cook; and second, Jimmie Ann Anderson and Lila Cobb
LEAGUE OF WOMEN VOTERS The League of Women Voters of Sumter County was represented by Delois Woodward at the 2014 League of Women Voters of the United States (LWVUS) 51st biennial national Convention June 6-10 in Dallas, Texas. “The energy and passion for democracy was infectious at our convention,” Woodward said. “I was so proud to join with 700 other delegates from almost every state in the country, in urging all voters to join the League in protecting the right to vote and fighting against the big moneyed self-interests that so dominate and divide our politics today. The League is one organization trusted to take on these issues and effective enough to win because we are real people, grounded and active in our communities.” While in Dallas, Woodward attended workshops and caucuses, and discussed many of the critical issues facing our democracy this election year. The League’s Power the Vote 2014 initiative was highlighted throughout as delegates celebrated the organization’s accomplishments and hard work on voting rights, campaign finance reform and the environment. Woodward and other attendees were welcomed to the convention by Dallas County Sheriff Lupe Valdez and Houston Mayor Annise Parker and gained insights on national demographic trends from Steven Murdock of Rice University. Governing Magazine’s Peter Harkness shared insights on trends in state legislatures, and ideas to help foster civic renewal and restore trust in government were presented by Peter Levine of CIRCLE and Patrick Bresette of Public Works. A panel discussion on vot-
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S.C. American Legion Auxiliary President Linda Smiley presents a plaque to Sumter’s Sgt. Jamie Bryan Vipperman, who was selected as the Department of S.C. American Legion Auxiliary Woman Veteran of the Year. Vipperman was recognized at the department’s 95th annual convention in Greenville. ing rights and reform featuring former U.S. Election Assistance Commissioner Ray Martinez and Ann McGeehan, the former Director of the Texas Elections Division, rallied attendees to action. NPR commentator Wade Goodwyn also addressed delegates at their banquet dinner providing his insights on the state of voting and election reform across the country. “I was proud to represent the LWV of Sumter County at Convention 2014,” Woodward said. “The League is a vibrant organization of volunteer men and women using our community-based power on the critical issues of the day in all 50 states and D.C. ... My experience was one of learning and networking. Meeting other league officers and having the time to get to know our state league made me hungry for more. Yes, there is work that needs to be done, but I feel as a team we can make things happen.” The League of Women Voters, a nonpartisan political organization, encourages informed and active participation in government, works to increase understanding of major public policy issues, and influences public policy through education and advocacy. Founded in 1920, the League is one of America’s most trusted organizations.
Membership in League is open to men and women of all ages.
SUMTER LIONS CLUB The club held its officer installation dinner at Swan Lake’s Heath Pavilion on June 24. Officers for 2014-15 are: President, Robert Young; first vice president, Earl Klaege Sr.; second vice president, Wayne Hogon; secretary, Tom Reaves; treasurer, Sep Harvin; Lion Tamer, Billy Steele; Tail Twister, Fred Kubala; membership chairman, Bob Fleury; and song leader, Arthur Wilder. Fleury also received the 201314 Lion of the Year Award. Lion 32C District Governor Randy Edwards and First Vice President Randy Croom attended this installation and dinner. Sumter Lions Club service projects for 2013-14 year were Sumter County Fair Booth, Candy Day, Shrimp and Oyster Roast, White Cane Day and broom sale. All funds collected are donated. This past year the club contributed to American Red Cross, YMCA, Kubala Golf Tournament, Camp Leo, Salvation Army, Leader Dogs, Lion Club International Foundation, Sumter United Ministries, Habitat for Humanity, Eye Care, Hearing Aid assistance, Commission for the Blind and Storm Eye Institute.