The T-Word

Candice Fraser The Kindness Couch

Have you ever wondered why we do/think/feel certain things that stop us living a full, meaningful and happy life?

Self-sabotage, victim mentality, avoid things that are healthy for us….. We all do these things occasionally. But when we get stuck repeating these behaviours they impact our life, negatively. A possible cause – Trauma - and it lives in the body and subconscious mind.

When we are experiencing a stressful/traumatic event, we instinctively repress parts of it into our subconscious mind for reasons of pure survival

But the problem with repressing things is they can go on to controls our current behaviours and thought patterns, without us knowing why.

Others tend to normalise their trauma assuming because it happened to them it happens to others, so it must be normal, therefore it’s okay. But it’s not.

People who love us, and we love, can unintentionally cause trauma, leaving us feel too guilty to resolve what’s within.

Most people experience traumatic periods or events, some carry the trauma with them, others don’t.

If you notice your thoughts/actions/feelings get in the way of leading a full and happy life, it might be helpful to spend some time gently reflecting on your life, how you want it to be and what’s getting in the way If you get stuck, therapy can help.