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15. On announcing yourself, e.g., by having made Salaam, if the inmates of the house have not recognised you and they ask, 'Who is it?, do not say: It's me:' State your name.
16. It is highly disrespectful to remainsilent after having heard the question. Similarly, it is disrespectful and cause for much annoyance to reply after some delay.
Some Malfoozaat of Hadhrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanavi (rahmatullah alayh) pertaining to listening Hadhrat Thanavi had granted a certain Thaakir (one who passes his time in Thikrullah) some time for discussion after Maghrib at his request. After Maghrib, Hadhratcalled him because he was seated at a distance. Although the Thaakir stated to come towards Hadhrat, he did not answer the call to indicate that he had heart it. But, Hadhrat was not apprised of his coming, hence he called asecondtime. Meanwhilethe Thaakir hadarrived. Hadhrat asked:
"Why did you not answer? By answering, the caller will know that the one who has been called has heard the call. By not replying, there is uncertaintyand this necessitatesrepeated calling. This inconvenience is the result purely of your negligent attitude. What difficulty was there in saying, 'yes!?Nowadays, academic knowledge is imparted in every place. But, there is a dearth of Akhlaaq (moral character). Now I have been annoyed and perplexed. I will give you another time. Remember this."
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2. A man presented a paper to Hadhrat who wrote a ta'weez and explained its method. After having heard the method of the ta'weez, he remained silent. He did not say whether he had understood or not. Hadhrat asked:
"Have you understood the method explained by me?" The man said: "I have heard it." Hadhrat said: "Then why do you not say, yes or no?" He replied: "My hearing is not good." Hadhrat said: "You said that you have understood the method. In other words, you said that you have understood it without having heard it. In the beginning you should have said you cannot hear properly. Answer me. Have you understood what I have said?" He replied: "1 have understood a bit." Hadhrat said: "You should have answeredand informedof whatever you have understood. By answering, the other person will be relieved." The man said: "I have erred." Hadhrat commented: "Do not repeat again such an error."Thereupon, addressingthe gathering, Hadhrat said: "It is not the fault of these poor people. It is the fault of the elders who refrain from admonition."
Aadaab of Mulaaqaat (meeting one another) When you go to meet a person do not disturb him by intruding while he is busy. If, for example, he is engaged in Tilaawat, Wazeefah or he is in privacy or sleeping or preparing to sleep or involved in something else in which he will be disturbed if you intrude or he may be inconvenienced by your intrusion, then at such a time do not greet or shake hands. Either go away and return later orwait elsewhere (where his attention will not be attracted). If the matter is urgent and requires immediate attention, seek his permission first. 2. When having arrived at the venue of the person whom you wish to meet, inform him of your presence either by Salaam, speech, etc. Do not sit in a concealed place or in such a way that he has not learnt of your presence. Perhaps he wishes to say somethingwhich is not intended for your ears. It is evil to listen to another person's secrets
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