SHELTER HOME OF CALDWELL COUNTY, INC. PO BOX 426
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LENOIR, NC 28645
Peaceful Notes J U N E
INSIDE THIS ISSUE:
Blackberry 5K
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Delana
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Tammy
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Janice
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Volunteers
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Donors
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Donors
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Shelter Staff
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Board of Directors Brent Phelps Chair Ruth Kinciad Secretary Betsy Wilson Treasurer Nancy Martin Past-Chair Jennifer Bowman Angie Clark Greg Cornett Heidi Downs Anita Dula Debbie Eller Chris Cole Ann Kelly Morris Reaves Rose Reighard Holly Yongue Shelter Home Office Phone Numbers: Lenoir (828) 758-0888 Taylorsville (828) 635-8055 Crisis Lines: Lenoir (828) 758-7088 Taylorsville (828) 635-8851 24 hours a day
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The Answers Always Lived Within Me I was lying on the floor with my head two inches away from the coffee table. A foot was coming in the direction of my face. I quickly rolled and the foot hit the floor. “Jesus” I yelled and I heard the footsteps fading. “Jesus can’t help you”. His foul voice yelled from the kitchen. “He did” I answered. “Your foot is not in my face”. I say under my breath. I bowed my head and said a little prayer. “God please end this madness, I can’t take this no more.” This was not the worst of what I’ve endured in abusive relationships. I’ve been abused all my life and this was a cake walk but at this point I’m tired. I think of Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, “Declares the LORD” plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future… As my abuser walks out the front door and slams it, I take some time to reflect on my life and my relationships. I know I have to stop worrying about what’s wrong with my abusers and focus on what’s wrong with me if I want God’s promise. So here it is and raw as I can give it. I lived in the myth of romantic love; However: Because of my unpleasant, traumatizing experiences in relationships, I perceive the world outside of myself as irredeemable, dangerous, hostile, confusing, and uncaring. I felt lacking and insecure so my love became dependency. In my desperation to form and preserve attachments, I threw honesty to the wind. I clung to worn out relationships when I should have given them up. Most important I lacked a sense of responsibility for myself. I passively looked to others as the source of my happiness and fulfillment, consequently I was endlessly angry, because I always felt let down by others. Still I would cling to relationships with a desperation that led to unloving, manipulative behavior that destroyed the very relationship I tried to preserve. I was always on my knees begging people not to leave me. Beat me! I won’t tell. My dependency appeared to be love because it was a force that caused me to fiercely attach myself to another, but in all actuality it was not love, it was anti-love. I sought to receive rather than give. I worked to be trapped and constricted rather than liberated. After seeing all of my relationships destroyed, I shifted my mind set and became evasive, elusive and uncaring needless to say, that didn’t work in my relationships either. I hear all the time the truth shall set you free. I came to the Shelter Home bearing the gift of the truth hoping it would set me free. My God, I want to be free. -Anonymous, Blessed, Determined Survivor!
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THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO PARTICIPATED IN THIS EVENT! We had a total of 48 participants. The best overall male was Noah Starnes finishing at 19:47.64 The best overall female was Amanda Morgan finishing at 28:55.21 To check the rest of the race results visit www.bigkahunatiming.com
We would like to welcome one of our newest staff members, Delana McCroskey. She is a victim advocate who specializes in child advocacy. Some of her tasks include child intakes, risk assessments, individual educational plans, art therapy, planning and organizing special events for children, giving Speak Up/Be Safe presentations at schools in the area, and just the safety/well being of the children. When asked what she hopes to accomplish in her new position, she states, “I hope to help each individual child understand that what has happened to them (the abuse) is not their fault. I hope to instill in the children that they can do anything they set their mind to. I hope to help each child realize they are important and their life matters. I hope by the end of their stay at the shelter they are able to look back and see their growth compared to when they arrived at the shelter. I want to keep children from slipping through the cracks and assist them in reaching their goals.� Delana is a native of Caldwell County, a West Caldwell graduate, a 2014 graduate of Western Carolina University, and a welcome addition to the Advocacy team at the Shelter Home. She plans to enter the Masters of Social Work program at Appalachian State this fall.
Delana, Welcome Aboard
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Proud to be sponsored by the Caldwell County and Alexander County United Way
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Introducing…... Tammy Watts
has joined the Shelter Home staff as a Shelter Manager part-time. Tammy is a resident of Catawba County and is involved in the youth ministry with her church, New Hope Baptist in Vale, NC. When asked about her new position with the Shelter Home, she says, “I believe that in everything, there is a time and a season, and in this Season with the Shelter Home, I hope to accomplish everything that is laid before me, whether it's a listening ear, prayer, compassion, guidance etc. Whatever God has in his plan here for me at the Shelter Home, it is within my desire to see it accomplished.”
Marley
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has joined the Shelter Home staff as a Shelter Manager for the Summer. Marley is a resident of Lenoir, a Hibriten High School Graduate and is currently attending Western Carolina University with a Criminal Justice focus.
Janice Bumgarner has become one of our most beloved and seasoned volunteers. She is always willing to do just about anything to help out. Janice first learned about the Shelter Home back in 1988 from her dear friend, Wilma Mikeal. Wilma was a longtime employee and volunteer with the Shelter Home for many years. On Monday nights, for 2 1/2 years, Janice volunteered to sit with the children, playing games, reading books and facilitating crafts. She would volunteer during the time the mother’s attended the Shelter Home’s weekly support group. Three years ago in February, Janice came back as a Shelter Home Volunteer. Due to medical issues, she’s only able to help in certain areas, but BOY does she! She has done everything from organizing closets, filing, hand making quilts, wrapping Christmas presents, putting together our “welcome baskets” and even finding items on sale to donate for our Wish List. When asked why she volunteers, she says, “I just enjoy helping out in any way I can. I love to see their smiles, it makes my day, and everyone is always so appreciative for everything.”
We want to extend a HUGE thank you to the Group Volunteers of: Hudson First Methodist Church, Mt. Herman Methodist, and Project Linus for continuing to provide a handmade quilt to each woman and child who enters the shelter. And to: Day 3 Church for donating their time to seed and plant our Vegetable garden this year. It is amazing how it has grown.
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We are grateful for your monetary donations during 2013 and 2014 Adra & Zig Kryszczuk Alexander / Marriage License Fees Allison & Brent Jensen Allison & Donald Stewart Altrusa Club of Caldwell County Alvin Daughtridge American Kennel Club Amy & Talmadge Dunn III Andrea & Alan Trivette Angie & Macon Clark Ann & Alex Bernhardt Found. Ann Hancock Ann Kelly Ann Miller Annette Beam Baker Tire Center, Inc Barbara & David Wiley Barbara & Larry Freiman Barbara Hartley Barbara Jones Basil & Linda Roberts Bea Helton Becky & Herb Stevens Bernhardt Furniture Foundation Betsy & Raymond Williams Betsy M Herron Betty & Eugene Purcell Jr Betty & Gary Schwartz Betty A Atwater Betty Early Betty Lou & Wayne Miller Beverly & Judy Beal Bojangles of Taylorsville Bojangles's of Lenoir Bollinger Foundation Inc Brandy E Cordell Brandy G Link Bronda S Jones Buffalo Cove Baptist Church Caldwell Arts Council Caldwell Bar Association Caldwell County CC Retired School Personnel Caldwell County Rotary Club Caldwell Woman's Club Candace Allen Clark Caroline Sigmon Caron & James Wike Carrie & Chris Jenkins Cecelia M Hartsell (CJ) Cedar Rock Baptist Church Charles & Davanna Downs Charles Downs III Charles K Lovins Charlotte & Kurt Karriker
Flemings Chapel Baptist Church Cheryl Greene Foothills Outdoorsman Association Chili & Company Frances Scheil Chris & Breanna Mckay Friendship Baptist Church Chris Rab Gail & Richard Greer Christopher Cole Galye & Samuel Trivette Church of Resurrection Hope Gamewell Optimist Cindy Story Circle 2 First Presbyterian Church Gamewell UMWomen Colby Stillwell Gateway Nursing Center College Avenue Baptist Church George Foundation Collett & Brenda Wronek Grace Chapel UMC Colliers United Methodist Church Grandview Park Baptist Church Confidence Advent Christian Grey & Tina Scheer Church Gwendolyn Elaine Phillips Connie & Martin Vermillion Harriet & Sonny Hines Cynthia & Charles Pipes Harris Chapel Baptist Church David & Barbara Wiley Hattie Steele Missionary Circle Dawn Cannon Heidi E Downs Dawn Carroll Helen Hall Deborah Ashley Smith Hogan Family Foundation Inc Deborah Sigafus Hope Supris Debra L Eller Hudson United Methodist Women Debra Philyaw Ingunn & Gerald Griffin Destination Transportation James & Lisa Bennick DFY LLC (di'lishi) Jamie Jennings Diane Bennett Jan Pennell Diane Carpenter Jane & Ralph Prestwood Diane Jensen Jane Carswell Roberts MD Domestic Violence Grant (CFW) Janet & James Spoon Jr Donna & James Bradshaw Janet & Mack Edmisten Donna Doughty Janet Carver Donna Whitson Janet Wilson Dottie & Darryl Lloyd Janine & Matthew Hannibal Dr Annie K Prestwood Janis Nash Edyth & Michael Pruitt Janna Stefanek Elaine Bush Jean Branch Elaine Rhodes Jeanne & Sandy Winkler Eliza Bishop Jeannie M Corriher Elizabeth & Wayne Keller Jeff & Rita Joines Elizabeth (Betsy) Wilson Jennie Deal Al & Lilly Bunch Jennifer & Daniel Bowman Elizabeth Kirby Jennifer Hogue Emilee J Icenhour Jessie & Morris Reaves Entre Nous Book Club Jessie Roper Ervil Anderson Joan Snyder Etta B Holloway Jody W Reid Evelyn Beam Joetta Madsen Evelyn Marshall Johnna W Coffey Fairview Presbyterian Church Joseph & Brooke Delk Family Violence Grants Program Joyce & Barry Edwards Faye McGhinnis Judith E Barlow Fellowship Baptist Church Inc Judy & Randy Lail First Baptist Church of Hudson Julene & David Hallock First Baptist Church of Lenoir First Presbyterian Church of Lenoir Julie Miller Gootman Justin Oxford FUMC Taylorsville
Karen Felton Kathryn & Brent Kincaid Kathy McAteer Kaye & James Blair Kenneth & Clarence Phillips Kim Clark Kimberly B Britt Koinonia Class/Sue Bumgarner Lake Hickory Veterinary Hospital Lavina Smith Lee & Russell Beaver Lee Carol & Bob Giduz Lee Cox Len & Katrina Benton Lenoir Kiwanis Club Lenoir Military & Government Surplus Lenoir Service League Lenoir Woman's Club Leslie Gray Lewis & Jane Norman Lida Martinat Lily & Al Bunch Linda & Fred Jenkins Linda & Gary Letterman Linda Campbell Linda Crowder Linda Spears Lisa Clontz Littlejohn United Methodist UMW Lois Clark Lower Creek Baptist Church Lynne Daughtridge Mac & Peggy Martin Magda Colton Margaret Bush Margaret Cannon Marion Day Marjorie O Strawn Marla Parsons Marriage License Fees (CFW) Marsha Holden Marsha Holden Mary & Osborne MacGuire Mary Gail & Allen Stewart Mary Jane McKee Maxine L. Jett Megan Roberts Melanie & Charles Shell Melissa & Scott Jett Merita H Barker Michael H Dewitt Mr & Mrs Steven Crisp Mr. W J Hogan Mrs. Ashley Reid Myra A Dickson
If we have inadvertently left any donation recognition off, we sincerely apologize in advance. Please contact NO T E S Breanna McKay of the oversight: breanna.mckay@shelterhomecc.org
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The Shelter Home is now serving victims of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault in Caldwell and Alexander Counties.
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We are grateful for your monetary donations during 2013 and 2014 The Exchange Club of Lenoir The Jonas Foundation Nancy T Martin NC Coalition Againat Sexual As- Tonia & Colin Bauer sault Town of Gamewell NC Community Foundation, Inc. Trilla Annas Newcomers of Catawba Valley Unifour Community Foundation Norma Suddreth United Methodist Women Granite Falls Options, Inc. United Methodist Women Lenoir Oscar & Ingrid Dobereiner United Methodist Women Taylorsville Pamela Thomas United Presbyterian Church Patricia & Kay Crouch United Way of Alexander County Patricia E Barry United Way Of Caldwell County Patricia Gale Pennington United Way Of Greater High Point Patty & Randy Burke V.O. Thorne Poovey's Chapel Baptist Church Valeria & Dale Andrews Reliable Insurance Agency, Inc. Valerie & Peter Purcell MD Rev Parker & Patricia Williamson Virginia B Mullis Rev.Parker & Patty Williamson Virginia O Thorne Reva M Pennell VOCA Richard & Dorothy Hedrick Wal-Mart Robert Albert Wanda Prince Robin & Greg Cornett Warren & Dianne West Robyn St.Clair Wes Collins Ron & Christine Beane Wesley Friendship Class Whitener Foundation Rosa Miller Whitnel Optimist Club Rose Anna MacDonald Wilbern & Margaret Brown (Willie) Rose Noakes William T Salsbury Ruby & Ralph Boldin William Wakefield Ruth L Kincaid Wilson Family Foundation Scott Brown Winnefred I. Harding Scripture Explorers SS Class Women of the Covenant Shannon West Women of the Moose/Charter 140 Sharon C Poarch Worship Point Baptist Church Sharon P Herman Yadkin Valley Baptist Church Sheila Miller Shelter Home Of Caldwell County Yokefellow Z.Smith Reynolds Foundation Inc Sherri Wright Zion United Church of Christ Sherri Yi
Honorary Donations
N & J Hopson
Sherry Felts Shirley & Charles Foushee Shirley Gray St James Episcopal Church St Johns Lutheran Church Stanley D Bumgarner Steffanie M Jimenez Stella Austin Mission Group
In Honor of Winnie Harding's 90th Birthday In Honor of Fran Scheil In Honor of Jonathan Wilfong His Birthday In Honor of Dr. Jane Carswell Roberts Betty M McRee In Honor of Ruth Kincaid Dr & Mrs. Robert S. Belk Donna & Bob Belk / American Foundation Dr Charles & Frances Scheil In Honor of Dr Jane Carswell Robert" Drs. Debra & Dennie Templeton In Honor of Dr Jane Carswell Roberts Frank & Faith Davison In Honor of Dr Jane Carswell Roberts Jerry & Millie Brooks In Honor of Kay Street Friends Judy Hartley In Honor of CJ Hartsell Katherine & Robert Esch In Honor of CJ Hartsell Kathryn R Jackson In Honor of Nancy Martin & Kay Roukema Keith & Bethany Kirby In Honor of Barbara Kirby Lucy Foard McCarl In Honor of Dr Jane Carswell Roberts Margaret N Lillard In Honor of Imagene Clippard's Birthday Melissa M Eggers In Honor of Jamie Carlisle Jennings" Mrs Virginia Thorne In Honor of Dr Jane Carswell Roberts Pasty Hollar In Honor of Jan Nash Rev Parker & Patricia Williamson In Honor of Dr Jane Carswell Roberts Teresa & Freddie Davis In Honor of Kay Street Friends The Ruby Winkler Circle In Honor of Rachel Bumgarner Virginia O Thorne In Honor of Dr Jane Carswell Roberts William (Mike) Maynard, Jr. In Honor of George Reighard Winefred Harding In Honor of Dr. Jane Carswell Roberts
Dr. and Mrs. Robert Belk
Memorial Donations
Barbara N. Clawson C.B. Clark
In Memory of JD Clawson "In Memory of Kimberly Leeman"
David & Susan Wagner Forbes Printing Gayle Price Hilda & Clyde Cook J.H. (Joyce) Hartley
"In Memory of Carroll Kirby" "In Loving Memory Carol C Hodges" "In Memory of Carroll Eugene Kirby" "In Memory of Clarence Poarch" "In Memory of Carroll Kirby"
Karen & Carl Tolbert Merita Barker Mr & Mrs. Larry Bolick Susan & Bob Powers Pamela & John Ballew Sylvia & Larry Gilliland Tabernacle Advent Christian Church Pamela & Roger Sanders Taylorsville Rotary Foundation, Inc. Pamela K Hildebran Reva M Pennell Telecom Pioneers Rose Reighard Teresa Almquist Terry & Charles Flowers Jr Terri S Niederhammer Steve & Suzanne Earp
Stevens Family Foundation
The Shelter Home is now serving victims of Domestic Violence The Coffey Foundation
Altrusa Club of Caldwell Ann Burbridge Barbara F Freiman
Edward & Palma Neal
"In Memory of Carroll Kirby" "In Loving Memory of Janet E Barker" 'In Memory of Carroll Kirby" 'In Memory of Dorothy Treichel" In Memory of Carol Hodges In Memory of "Royal Dixon Watson" Donation "In Memory of Dick Pennell" "IN Memory George Reighard" "In Memory of Carroll Kirby" MemoryAssault of L Myron Neal & Edith andInSexual in Caldwell and Neal In Honor of Mrs. Verena Simmons
In Honor of Dr. Tye, Dr. Jane Carswell Roberts, Mr. and Mrs. Jim Bennick, Ms. CJ Walton, Mr. & Mrs. Dale Griffith, Ms. Lisa Summerlin, Dottie Metzgy, Barbara Ann Kamp, Sarah Akins, Dr. & Mrs Laif Griffin, Dr Robert Reichling, Dr.C.Larry Lutz, Mr & Mrs Rcihard Hedrick, Ms. Annie Soldati, Dr. James Harris Donations in Memory of Diana Tye:
Alisa & Justin Herman Ann Hancock Ann Smith Anyce McKee Barbara Henderson Betsy & Raymond Williams Betsy Foster Betsy Foster Betty Lou & Wayne Miller Charlene & Fred Pike Charles & Davanna Downs Christina & Timothy Moeller Dr. & Mrs Robert (Donna) Belk Dr. Randal & Barbara Williams Frances Scheil Gayle Price Graystone Ophthalmology Harriet & Sonny Hines Jennie Deal Jessica & Patrick Kelty Karen & James Finley Katherine & John Perkins Kathleen Peiffer Martha Shanks Olivia & Richard Griffin Patricia & James Johnson Sue &Counties. Bob Kirkman Alexander Susan & Rodney Stalheim Woodrow & Nicole Harris
Shelter Home Staff The Shelter Home provides crisis services 24/7 and is able to do this because of a fine staff which is dedicated to making the Shelter Home a place of “Hope, Help and Healing”.
Sharon Poarch, Executive Director .................................................................... .director@shelterhomecc.org Jan Nash, Business Manager ............................................................................. .businessmanager@shelterhomecc.org Lily Moody, Program Director .......................................................................... .lily.moody@shelterhomecc.org Tina Gilbert, Thrift Store Manager……………………………..…….. …………...tina.gilbert@shelterhomecc.org Kim Watson, Court Advocate ........................................................................... .kim.watson@shelterhomecc.org Shannon West, Rape and Sexual Assault Advocate…………………………….. ..shannon.west@shelterhomecc.org Breanna McKay, Community Outreach Coordinator ........................................ .breanna.mckay@shelterhomecc.org Delana McCroskey, Child Advocate………………………………………………..delana.mccroskey@shelterhomecc.org Julie Owens, Victim Advocate - Special Populations………………………………julie.owens@shelterhomecc.org Lisa Clontz, Victim Advocate—Special Populations………………………………lisa.clontz@shelterhomecc.org Brooke Delk, Victim Advocate—Housing and Employment Coordinator……….brooke.delk@shelterhomecc.org Patty Burke ,Victim Advocate, Alexander County………………………………..pattyburke@shelterhomecc.org Dawn Chumley, Court Advocate, Alexander County…………………………....dawnchumley@shelterhomecc.org Shelter Managers: Anita Hicks…………………………………………………… …………………….anita.hicks@shelterhomecc.org Marley Lee……………………………………………………………………………marley.lee@shelterhomecc.org Joyce Price…………………………………………………………………………….joyce.price@shelterhomecc.org Tammy Watts………………………………………………………………………. tammy.watts@shelterhomecc.org
E-mail us or Contact us at: (828) 758-0888 in Lenoir and (828) 635-8850 in the Taylorsville Office
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