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Wednesday, March 26, 2014
Husband can’t erase wife’s journal writing Dear Abby: I have been married almost 20 years. Eight years ago, my wife began an emotional affair with a co-worker. It lasted a year, until he left the company. Although they never had sex, they did have some physical contact that most people would consider inappropriate, and my wife considered ending our marriage because of the feelings she had for him. She now says the episode was a huge mistake and she loves me more than ever. The problem is, she wrote many entries about him in a journal. I know she kept writing about him several years after they lost contact, includ-
Should she get rid of the journal? – Considering Counseling
47-year-old man who was single until 7 years dearABBY ago. Then I met “MagAbigail Van gie,� the most wonderBuren’s ful woman I had ever (Jeanne Dear Considering known. She wasn’t the Phillips) column Counseling: Because you hotsy-totsy one-nighter appears are still hurting 7 years type I was used to. She during the after the fact, stop “conwas a real woman who week through sidering� counseling and fulfilled everything I had Universal Press get it NOW. ever dreamed of (includSyndicate. If your wife is a serious ing bringing a wonderful journal writer – and many 4-year-old little girl into people are – that she my life). The biological ing saying that she loved would want her writings father is out of the pichim more than a year to remain intact, in spite ture. after he’d left. of the fact they reflect her Maggie had wrestled I want my wife to emotional affair, is not with some health issues – remove the portions of unusual. If that’s the case, nothing serious until last the journal pertaining to instead of insisting she April, when she had surthis guy. She doesn’t want edit or destroy her jourgery. Complications set to. I’m still hurting from nal, my advice is to stop in, and I lost the only perthis and am considerreading it. son who ever mattered, ing counseling, but for aside from our little girl. now, what do you think? Dear Abby: I’m a My question is, since
we were never married, how do I refer to Maggie when relating what happened? I am in the process of adopting her daughter and explanations to strangers are tough. (“Wow, you’re taking on a child when you don’t HAVE to?�) How do I respond to these remarks? I know this is a multi-part question, but I have so many unanswered questions lately, I figured I’d ask you for an opinion. – Grieving in Missouri
to refer to her as your late significant other, your partner or longtime girlfriend. I would like to compliment you for stepping up to care for the girl when her biological father did not. And I do have suggestions for how to respond to anyone insensitive enough to ask why you would “take on� a child you didn’t “have to.� The first would be to ignore the question. The second would be to avoid such a person in Dear Grieving: Although the future, and the third you and Maggie weren’t would be to reply, “I love legally married, you were her like a daughter, want a couple for some time. to make sure she’s secure I’m very sorry for your and provided for, and loss. It would be accurate THAT’S why I’m doing it.�
COMMUNITY EVENTS Wednesday, March 26 Open pool, open cards, open Wii games and computer lab, 8 a.m.-4 p.m., Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815-622-9230. Open pool, open cards, open Wii games and computer lab, 8 a.m.-4 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815-288-9236. Popcorn and quilting, 8:30 a.m., Polo Senior Center, 101 E. Mason St., 815-946-3818. Pool players, 8:30 a,m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. Crafting, 9 a.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. Mexican Train Dominoes, 9:30 a.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. 313 card game and Wii Bowling, 10 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050. Lifescape lunch, 11:30 a.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815288-9236. Sign up by 10 a.m. previous business day. Lunch, 11:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m., Whiteside County Senior Center,
1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815622-9230. 500 card game, noon, Polo Senior Center, 101 E. Mason St., 815-946-3818. Pinochle, noon, Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050. Sewing after lunch, noon, Robert Fulton Community Center and Transit Facility, 912 Fourth St., Fulton, 815-589-3925. Bingo with the Beukemas, 12:15 p.m., Robert Fulton Community Center and Transit Facility, 912 Fourth St., Fulton, 815-589-3925.. Pinochle, 12:30 p.m., Big Room, Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815-622-9230. Bingo and bridge, 12:30 p.m., Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815622-9230. Wii Bowling party, 12:30 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815288-9236. Bingo, 1 p.m., Rock Falls American Legion Hall, 712 Fourth Ave. Wii Bowling, 1 p.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. Second Wind Entertainers, 1:30
p.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3253. Community cards, 2 p.m., The Meadows of Franklin Grove, 510 N. State St., Franklin Grove, 815456-3000. Kings Kids Club, 6 p.m., Liberty Baptist Church, 2002 Ninth Ave., Rock Falls, 815-579-1209 or 815-625-4101. Sauk Valley Chess Club, 7-9 p.m., Northland Mall, 2900 E. Lincolnway, Sterling, 815-622-8838. Thursday, March 27 Val’s Vittles, 7 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050. Open pool, open cards, open Wii games and computer lab, 8 a.m.-4 p.m., Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815-622-9230. Open pool, open cards, open Wii games and computer lab, 8 a.m.-4 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815-288-9236. Pool players, 8:30 a.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. Bingo and popcorn, 9-10 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050.
Line dancing, 9:30 a.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. Community coffee, 10-11 a.m., The Meadows of Franklin Grove, 510 N. State St., Franklin Grove, 815-456-3000. Zumba class, 10:30-11 a.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815288-9236. Lifescape lunch, 11: 30 a.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815288-9236. Sign up by 10 a.m. previous business day. Lunch, 11:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m., Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815622-9230. Mexican Train Dominoes, noon, Polo Senior Center, 101 E. Mason St., 815-946-3818. Organized Wii Bowling games, noon, Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon. Hand and Foot cards, 12:15 p.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. “Hand and Foot� card game, 12:30 p.m., Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815-622-9230. Bingo, 1 p.m. Sterling Women
of the Moose, 2601 E. Lincolnway, Sterling. Crocheting, knitting and crafts, 1 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815-288-9236. Euchre/500 games, 1-2 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon. Euchre, 1 p.m., Sterling Moose Club, 2601 E. Lincolnway, Sterling, 815-622-8220. Euchre, 1-3 p.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050. Exercise group, 4 p.m., Robert Fulton Community Center and Transit Facility, 912 Fourth St., Fulton, 815-589-3925. Mexican food, 5-8 p.m., Rock Falls Veterans of Foreign Wars, 217 First Ave. Mexican Train Dominoes, 6 p.m., Tampico Area Community Building, 106 W. Market St., Tampico, 815-535-3665. Bingo, 7 p.m., Latin American Social Club, 2708 W. Fourth St., Sterling, 815-625-8290. Friday, March 28 Open pool, open cards, open Wii games and computer lab, 8 a.m. -4 p.m., Whiteside County
Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815-622-9230. Open pool, open cards, open Wii games and computer lab, 8 a.m.-4 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815-288-9236. Pool players, 8:30 a.m., Rock River Center, 810 S. 10th St., Oregon, 815-732-3252. Bridge, 8:45 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050. Bingo, 9 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050. Bingo, 9:30 a.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815-288-9236. Wii Bowling, 10 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-562-5050. Line dancing, 11 a.m., Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815-622-9230. Lifescape lunch, 11: 30 a.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815288-9236. Sign up by 10 a.m. previous business day. Lunch, 11:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m., Whiteside County Senior Center, 1207 W. Ninth St., Sterling, 815622-9230.
SUPPORT GROUPS, CLUBS, AND SERVICES Thursday, March 27 Childhood immunization clinic; women, infants and children clinic; and family planning services, all by appointment only, Lee County Health Department, 309 S. Galena Ave., Suite 100, Dixon, 815-284-3371. Abuse Changing team, 815625-0338. Twin City Sunrise Rotary, 7 a.m., Ryberg Auditorium, CGH Medical Center, 100 E. LeFevre Road, Sterling. TOPS IL 1426, 8:30-9 a.m. weigh-in, meeting at 9 a.m., Coloma Homes, 401 W. 18th St., Rock Falls. TOPS IL 825, 9-10 a.m. weighin, meeting at 10 a.m., Coventry Activity Center, 612 St. Mary’s Road, Sterling, 815-626-0034. Foot screenings, 9 a.m.-2 p.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle, 815-5625050. Senior Computer Intermediates, 9 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle. Sign up: 815-562-5050. Golden K Kiwanis, 9:30 a.m., YMCA, 2505 YMCA Way, Sterling. Free blood pressure checks, 10-11:30 a.m., Oregon Healthcare Center, 811 S. 10th St.
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Senior Advanced Plus computer classes, 10 a.m., Hub City Senior Center, 401 Cherry Ave., Rochelle. Sign up: 815-562-5050. Whiteside County Senior Center Outreach caseworker, 10-11 a.m., Robert Fulton Community Center, 912 Fourth St., Fulton. Caregiver Support and Education Group, noon, St. John Evangelical Lutheran Church, 703 Third Ave., Sterling, 815-6267333, ext. 317. Alcoholics Anonymous, noon, 6 p.m., closed, Big Book, 90-92 S. Hennepin Ave., Dixon. Alcoholics Anonymous, noon, closed, St. Paul Lutheran Church, 114 S. Fifth St., Oregon. Alcoholics Anonymous, noon, closed; 5:30 p.m., open, beginners; 7 p.m., closed, step, Bazaar Americana, 609 W. Third St., Sterling. Reality Check Narcotics Anonymous, noon, 6 p.m., First Christian Church, 506 Fifth Ave., Rock Falls, 779-245-8214. Downstairs, west door. Sauk Valley Alcoholics Anonymous Group, noon, open, 12 and 12; 8 p.m., closed, 12 and 12, back door, 1503 First Ave., Rock Falls. Alcoholics Anonymous, 2:30 p.m., clearance required, BAAbble on for Life Prison Group,
Saturday, March 29th 4:30 p.m. Centennial Auditorium Sterling High School Sterling, Illinois Ticket Prices:
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815-973-6150. Facebook computer class, 3-4:30 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon. Register: 815-288-2936. Narcotics Anonymous, 4-5 p.m., Sinnissippi Centers, 2611 Woodlawn Road, Sterling, 815625-0013. Overeaters Anonymous, 5:30 p.m., Lee County Council on Aging, 100 W. Second St., Dixon, 815-441-4452. Speak Boldly Toastmasters, 6 p.m., Sterling Public Library, 102 W. Third St., Sterling. Breast Cancer Networking Group, 6-7 p.m., Home of Hope Cancer Wellness Center, 1637 Plock Road, Dixon, 815-2884673. TOPS, 6:30 p.m., Rock Falls United Methodist Church, 210 Fourth Ave., 815-625-0431. Sterling Optimist Club, 7 p.m., Candlelight Inn, 2907 N. Locust St., Sterling. Al-Anon, 7 p.m., St. John Lutheran Church, 703 Third Ave., Sterling. Alcoholics Anonymous, 7 p.m., closed, and Al-Anon, 7 p.m., United Methodist Church, 709 Fourth Ave., Rochelle. Alcoholics Anonymous, 7 p.m., closed, 808 Freeport Road, Sterling.
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Alcoholics Anonymous, 7 p.m., open, Big Book, Rolling Hills Center, 201 state Route 64, Lanark. Amateur Radio Club, 7:30 p.m., 1409 Eighth Ave., Rock Falls, 815-946-4340. Alcoholics Anonymous, 7:30 p.m., closed, St. Anne Church, 401 N. Cherry St., Morrison. Rock River Valley Barbershop Chorus practice, 7:30 p.m., Rock Falls Community Building, 603 W. 10th St., 815-284-7569. Alcoholics Anonymous, 8 p.m., closed, United Steelworkers, 502 Woodburn Ave., Sterling. Volunteer Care Center of Lee County, 403 E. First St., Dixon. Appointment: 815-284-9555. Friday, March 28 Childhood immunization clinic; women, infants and children clinic; and family planning services, all by appointment only, Lee County Health Department, 309 S. Galena Ave., Suite 100, Dixon, 815-284-3371. Bi-County Special Education Cooperative preschool screenings for Sterling School District, 8 a.m.-3:15 p.m., Wallace Education Center gymnasium, 506 W. Fourth St. By appointment only: 815-625-5755.
Bi-County Special Education Cooperative preschool screenings for Prophetstown and Lyndon, 8:15 a.m.-3:15 p.m., First Congregational Church, 218 E. Third St., Prophetstown. Appointments: 815-537-2345. Bi-County Special Education Cooperative preschool screenings for Tampico, 8:30-11:30 a.m and 12:30-3 p.m., Tampico Elementary School, 304 E. Kimball St. Appointments: 815-4382255. Mercy Nursing Services free blood pressure clinic, 9:3011:30 a.m., Oliver’s Corner Market, 748 N. Brinton Ave., Dixon. Bible study, 10 a.m., Oregon Healthcare Center, 811 S. 10th St. Blood pressure checks, 11 a.m., Robert Fulton Community Center and Transit Facility, 912 Fourth St., Fulton, 815-589-3925. Alcoholics Anonymous, noon, 6 p.m., open; 10:30 p.m., open, candlelight, 90-92 S. Hennepin Ave., Dixon. Alcoholics Anonymous, noon, closed, St. Paul Lutheran Church, 114 S. Fifth St., Oregon. Mercy Nursing free blood pressure clinic, noon-1:30 p.m., County Market, 1380 N. Galena Ave., Dixon Alcoholics Anonymous, noon,
closed; 3:30 p.m. closed; 7 p.m., closed; 10 p.m., open, candlelight, Bazaar Americana, 609 W. Third St., Sterling. Sauk Valley Alcoholics Anonymous Group, noon, closed, It’s Your Meeting; 8 p.m., open, grapevine, 1503 First Ave., Rock Falls, back door. Reality Check Narcotics Anonymous, noon, 6 p.m., First Christian Church, 506 Fifth Ave., Rock Falls, 779-245-8214. Downstairs, west door. Alcoholics Anonymous, 7 p.m., closed, 808 Freeport Road, Sterling. Alcoholics Anonymous, 7 p.m., open; 7 p.m., Al-Anon, Immanuel Lutheran Church, 960 U.S. Route 52, Amboy. Alcoholics Anonymous, 7 p.m., closed, Rochelle Community Hospital, 900 N. Second St. Reformers Unanimous Addiction Abstinence Program, 7-9 p.m., First Baptist Church, 24 N. Mason Ave., Amboy, 815-8572682. Alcoholics Anonymous, 7:30 p.m., closed, First Congregational Church, 218 E. Third St., Prophetstown. Alcoholics Anonymous, 8 p.m., closed, Church of God, 816 S. Clay St., Mount Carroll.