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Cunnilingus served ‘on the side’ is deliciously orgasmic

The ‘Kivin Method” might give the tastiest orgasms ever

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Remember in the movie Harry Met Sally when the older woman in the restaurant was watching Sally fake an orgasm and said, “I’ll have what she’s having.” (Watch on YouTube – 3 min). Well, there’s a new and better version for women’s orgasms served up by cunnilingus – and it’s not a fake. You might want to order it as an appetizer, “on the side.” Or as an entrée.

If you want fast, delicious orgasms (as quick as 3 minutes) just order a serving of what’s sometimes called the “Kiven Method.”

“The giver comes in-between the legs at a horizontal angle, which maximizes exposure to the tongue and focus on and across the clitoris, labia majora, and labia minora.”

We’ve provided 3 articles. Two in full and a link (at end of chapter) to a description on Reddit by the guy who supposedly popularized the method a few years ago.

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The Kivin Method for Oral Sex Can Make You Orgasm in 3 Minutes Flat

from @iamwellandgood by @Morgan Mandriota

As the saying goes, when something's not broken, don't try and fix it. And while that may seem to be the case for the way many people with vulvas regard the head-between-the-legs approach to oral sex, because, hey—for many it works so well. But, does it work best? Not necessarily. Once you learn how to master the Kivin Method for oral sex, which many contend leads to a faster and stronger orgasm, you'll be left wondering why you waited so long to experience its magic throughout the duration of your sexually active life.

The Kivin Method is a technique that's best explained as “sideways oral,” says United Kingdombased sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight. As opposed to that aforementioned vertical approach, with the Kivin Method, the giver comes inbetween the legs at a horizontal angle, which maximizes exposure to the tongue and focus on and across the clitoris, labia majora, and labia minora. “We now know that the clitoris isn’t just a little external nub but instead is a much larger, and longer, internal organ boasting thousands of pleasurable nerve endings,” says Knight. [Editor’s

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note: The structure of the clitoris was not fully understood until 1998 – Yikes!] “Instead of being licked up and down, which would miss out on stimulating the crura and bulbs—or the arms and legs—licking occurs lengthways [with the Kivin Method], meaning that stimulation is spread over a larger surface area.” And, she adds, some have reported using the method has led to them climaxing in three minutes flat.

How to practice the simple Kivin Method of oral sex for faster orgasms To get in position for the Kivin Method, the receiver lies on their back and brings one knee to their chest, creating space for their partner to enter horizontally. They can then rest their leg over their partner’s back or keep it elevated. (Keep in mind that the comfort of the receiver plays a vital role in how successful this technique will be. In fact, Knight says anything that removes attention from pleasure can have a negative effect on the overall experience.) Whichever stance you choose, aim to create a comfortable, stress-free environment where you can fully relax and enjoy.

Some have reported using the method has led to them climaxing in three minutes flat. Unfortunately, there's no known Kivin Method founder as of yet to whom you can send flowers and

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words of gratitude for developing the orgasmrevolutionizing model. But, as far as thank-you notes are concerned, Knight says Reddit can be credited for popularizing the term. One user shared his experience using this technique with his wife several years ago, and people were willing to take his word for its orgasm-amplifying effects. “She came within about 5 minutes of me finding the rhythm and best hand position," the Redditor shared. "This was definitely a big change—I often go 15 to 20 minutes and have her teetering on the edge without managing to get her to come.”

Well. If there were ever a time to say, "I'll have what she's having.”

Anecdotal evidence aside, there's not much by way of data to prove the method's efficacy. But, the personal experience of the Redditor and thousands of upvotes flooding the post’s comments vouch for the success rate enough to make it at least worthy of trying.

And, as is the case with all new endeavours, practice makes better (if not perfect). Once you get into the groove and figure out which positions and movements work best for you and your partner, feel free to play around and incorporate different types of stimulation, whether that’s with your tongue,

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fingers, or toys, or other physical locations, like the vagina, anus, breasts, or other erogenous zones. If you're interested in adding sex toys into the mix, Knight recommends something small and maneuverable, such as a bullet vibrator or a finger vibrator to amplify that orgasm even more.

Of course, no single technique is one-size-fits-all, so using the Kivin Method and licking your partner sideways rather than vertically doesn't guarantee a life-changing orgasm. But, trying it is undoubtedly worth three to ten minutes of your time—and then maybe a few more minutes to do it again.

“Most sexually adventurous women want a man who regards cunnilingus as a basic woman right.”

– Mokokoma Mokhonoana

More on the Kivin Method

You can’t know too much. So here’s a second article that goes further on some of the important techniques and anatomical details. A few things are repeated but we’ve edited for redundancy.

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If You or Your Partner Have a Vulva, It’s Time to Talk About the Kivin Method

From Healthline by @gabriellekassel

[*Taps microphone.*] Attention cunnilingus givers and receivers: We’ve got an oral sex technique to add to your rotation.

Behold: the Kivin method.

What is it? At its most basic: sideways cunnilingus.

Marla Renee Stewart, sexologist with Velvet Lips Sex Down South and co-author of “The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay,” explains that when it comes to performing oral sex, most of what we see in porn and experience IRL is a lover positioned straight between the other’s legs.

“Most people go straight down,” Stewart says.

The Kivin method has the giving partner situate their body so that it’s perpendicular — not parallel — to the receiver’s. Oh, and it also makes sure that the oh-so-sensitive perineum gets some sweet, sweet loving.

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Where did the idea come from? There isn’t one official sex master to give kudos for inventing the method.

In all likelihood, it’s been around for decades. As Stewart says, “It’s an oral sex method I, and other sex educators, have been teaching for years and years and years as ‘sideways cunnilingus.’”

But the name is thought to have gained traction from Reddit.

So, sure, the name seems random AF. But as Stewart says, “If the name makes it easier to talk about and ask for side-lying cunnilingus, it’s a win.” Fair.

What makes it different from the usual up and down? There are three main benefits of the Kivin method that ~regular ol’ oral~ doesn’t provide.

1) First, perineum (aka taint) stimulation. It might sound like two tiny tweaks, but consider this: The perineum — that’s the blip of skin between the vagina and anal entrances — “is incredibly nervedense and yet often ignored during oral,” Stewart says. (And sadly, it’s ignored during most sexual activities.) 2) Second, better access to the entire vulva.

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While straight-on oral provides the giver pinpointed stimulation to the clitoris, it doesn’t put the giver’s mouth in the optimal position to stimulate the receiver’s labia, clitoris, and pubic mound.

Plus, many vulva owners actually find direct clitoral stimulation too intense, to the point of being unpleasant.

3) Finally, Stewart adds, most clitoris owners have one side of their gem that they like licked more than the other.

“This method gives you the opportunity to discover what that side is, if you don’t already know,” she says. Orgasm gap, begone!

How do you do it? First, make sure the receiver wants to try it. Because not all vulva owners will!

One Redditor says: “I loathe [the Kivin method]. In fact, it makes me rage out when someone tries it, I tell them it’s no bueno but they think it’s a hidden secret path to the greatest orgasms ever known so they keep going.”

Please don’t be like these lovers!!

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But if your boo enthusiastically consents, here’s how it works: 1. The receiver lies on their back with one leg lifted. 2. The giver slides underneath the lifted leg, lying sideways, mouth facing the receiver’s bits. 3. The giver uses a finger (or two) to apply consistent pressure to the receiver’s perineum while swiping their tongue back and forth or up and down along the receiver’s vulva at whatever rhythm and angle the receiver enjoys.

Trust, it sounds more complicated than it actually is.

How does it feel for the receiver — is it actually a guaranteed O? Babes, nothing is a guaranteed orgasm. Not even the Kivin method.

No two vulva owners have the exact same vulvas, hot spots, and preferences in bed. So whether or not a vulva owner climaxes comes (heh) down to what the receiver needs to climax.

That said, the Kivin method is known as having a high success rate. Stewart says this is because this method — unlike, say, P-in-V intercourse — prioritizes clitoral

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stimulation, which more than a thirdTrusted Source of vulva owners say is a nonnegotiable for orgasm, and another third say greatly improves their climax.

Is there anything you can do to help maximize your efforts? You bet.

Compliment the receiver!

*Side-eyes vaginal wash commercials.* Many vulva owners were taught that their vulvas and vaginas are dirty, smelly, or unclean (which to be very clear, they’re not!).

Still, unlearning this misogynistic rubbish is a lifelong process.

Telling your partner how good they taste and smell can do worlds for easing any lingering anxieties that interfere with pleasure.

Try: ✓ “I’ve been thinking about how you taste all damn day.” ✓ “I could lie down here and breathe in forever.” ✓ “I love having your juices line my mouth.”

Oh, and be enthusiastic

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Most vulva owners have also been socialized to put their pleasure, needs, and wants second, which can make them feel guilty about being the center of attention during sex.

Don’t be shy about throwing your boo a compliment.

Bring in a sex pillow or wedge For bigger-bodied folks, something like the Liberator Wedge or Dame Pillo — which can be positioned under the receiver’s hips to lift their bum up — can create more space between the receiver’s leg and the bed.

This means the giver doesn’t have to bear the weight off the receiver’s leg.

Add in a vibrator “Likely, the giver will be using their tongue along the receiver’s clit, so a clitoral vibrator will just get in the way,” Stewart says.

But if the giver needs internal stimulation to get over the edge, she says, “You might have the giver use an internal vibrator on the receiver.” Or just use a finger So long as your nails are trimmed and fingers are clean, using your finger to penetrate your partner (with consent) will be a much appreciated move for

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the 18 percentTrusted Source of vulva owners who can orgasm via penetration.

Pop in a butt plug Because TBH, what sex acts aren’t made better by the addition of a booty plug?

And as Stewart says, “It all comes down to layering erogenous zones.”

So, if your booty is one of your hot spots, go ahead and slide one in.

If you’re feeling really adventurous, you might try a vibrating butt plug like the We-Vibe Ditto or a plug that simulates anilingus, like the b-Vibe rimming plug.

Use lube Stewart recommends adding a dab of lube on the vulva side of a dental dam to help reduce the potentially uncomfortable friction between the clitoris and barrier.

But even if you aren’t using a barrier method, you may opt to use the wet stuff. For instance, if the receiver is self-conscious about their taste, you may opt for a glycerin-free, flavored lubricant, like Sliquid Swirl Green Apple.

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And if the giver has dry mouth, you might try a lube with aloe (which helps the body produce more saliva), like Good Clean Love.

Oh, and obviously you N-E-E-D to use lube if there’s backdoor action.

Editor’s note on sex lubricants There are many options in lubricants and we have discovered what millions of women have: CBD infused lubes. They are made with all-natural ingredients (no toxic chemicals) and the benefits of CBD go well beyond lubrication to enhancing arousal, wetness and orgasms. And they are yummy tasting. In full disclosure, we’ve tried and tested and found the best for our taste and needs to be Cowgirl Sex Soss (an independent, woman-owned sponsor who’s dedicated to women’s sexual pleasure and empowerment). They are an awardwinning firm based in the “hemp and cannabis capital of the world,” Colorado, USA.

Read the Cowgirl Soss blog, “Be Better at Oral.” As they say, “If you’re gonna go down, do it (and receive it) well!”

What if it doesn’t ‘work’ [Kivin Method]? Ask yourself: ✓ Did the receiver experience pleasure?

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✓ Did I learn more about what I do and do not enjoy? ✓ Did we have fun trying something new?

If you answered yes to any one of these questions, it “worked.”

Once more for the pleasure seekers in the back: Orgasm isn’t the only measure of success in bed. K?

What’s the bottom line? The Kivin method is certainly worth trying. But there’s no one-size-comes-all move.

So, if it makes you or your boo experience out-ofthis-universe pleasure? Fab! But if not? Enjoy exploring until you learn what does!

On Reddit As mentioned, a husband made this popular a few years ago on Reddit and here’s a link to what he said (2 min).

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“Real sex is as much about reciprocity as it is exploration and if you need a reason to resent a man later on, just consider the guy who doesn’t believe in cunnilingus.”

– Roberto Hogue

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