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She Goes Out: photo story Clear the clutter Kim Tran keeps Vietnamese heritage alive

A New Kind of DJ Laurie Shepherd and Lorie Mount change the music-playing game March 2010

Contents ON THE COVER DJs Laurie Shepherd and Lorie Mount Photo by April Knox


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editor's note I don’t know about you, but this time of year I start getting a little antsy. The weather is getting better (however we’ve been known to get snow, freezing rain or any mix of unpleasant precipitation during mid-March), and I can see the light at the end of winter’s long tunnel. Spring technically begins in three days; however we usually don’t get to enjoy the full effects of this lovely season for a few more weeks. Hang in there, people! In Columbus and the surrounding communities, spring also marks vacation time for many. Spring break serves as a chance to get away for a taste of the warm weather to come or as a reward for making it through another winter. But what if a vacation isn’t in the cards for you this season? Not to worry — She magazine is here to save the day! OK, that’s a little dramatic. However, this issue does contain a compilation of profiles and feature stories designed to inspire you, give you ideas for making the most of spring or just take you away from these remaining dull days for a few moments. Realtor Kim Tran shows us a slice of her rich Vietnamese heritage — how her culture and upbringing have gotten her through good times and bad, even as she faces a new challenge in her life. Meet a North Vernon teacher and a Columbus law student who shed their professional personas for a side business as disc jockeys. On nights and weekends they entertain as Lx2 DJs. Spring is also the time of year to get organized. We’ve hoarded all winter and cooped ourselves up indoors. It’s time to shed a few pounds of clutter, and we’ve found the professionals to show you how. Check out our spring cleaning story in the pages to follow. So, that’s enough from me. Open the blinds, let in a little light and get reading! Happy spring!

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After being cooped up all winter, many people anxiously await the warm breath of fresh air spring brings to the world. It’s a time to open the windows and let a little sunshine inside. But that sun can sometimes shed light on the fact that spring cleaning is in order. The daunting task of clearing out the clutter can be overwhelming, but the key is taking it one step at a time. “Don’t become overwhelmed with the situation,” said Lori Rowan, owner of Sort-It-Out, “whatever it is.” Rowan is a professional organizer in Columbus who said that any situation is manageable; the key is taking that first step. She advises clients to first pick an area that is most important to them. She also encourages people to visualize the end goal and think about what they want the space to look like. Then take things out of the room and organize them into three piles: keep, donate and pitch. Rowan said people should not get upset if progress is slow. Organization takes time. She recommends blocking off an hour a night or three hours on the weekend to work. Organizer Katy Brown agreed that setting aside a specific amount of time to work on an organizational project is the way to go. Brown, who owns Your Corner of The World in Bloomington, said setting small goals and letting go of unrealistic expectations are the keys to successful organizing. “Don’t lock yourself in a room for one weekend and expect to knock everything out,” she said. For example, she said, cleaning out a garage crammed with junk will go a lot quicker if the whole family gets involved and sets small goals. They might set aside one to two hours to work, and once the time is up, stop. Brown is a big believer in a rewards system. She said after the family spends that hour or two they should treat themselves to lunch, a fabulous cup of coffee or some kind of reward for sticking to their goal. “Whatever is going to bring joy to your village,” she said. SHE m a g a z i n e • m a r c h 2 0 1 0


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The small goal helps maintain focus, and the rewards system is more likely to help people make organizing a part of their life they can carry throughout the whole year. The family is also less likely to buy things they don’t need as a reward because they know how much energy it took to clean out the junk they already have. Another plus Brown said there are many benefits to organizing. Some of her clients, for instance, lose weight after they get organized. She said once they become more mindful of the things that come into their homes, they are more in tune to what goes into their bodies. It is also a physical job to get and stay organized, so they are burning more calories. However, Brown warns people against a diet-type mindset when it comes to organization. It shouldn’t be a quick way to lose a few pounds of stuff. These healthy habits should be incorporated into a person’s life and become a part of who they are. “It’s funny,” she said. “People are different. Some people clean in the spring, and some clean in the fall.” In the spring they’ve been cooped up over the winter. The windows have been closed, and there is that feeling of needing to disinfect everything in sight. “By the time spring comes, there’s a natural impulse to lighten up,” she said. People who follow the school calendar often go through the same thing in the fall because they have a feeling of renewal and a fresh start. But no matter when people decide to get organized, Brown said, it’s important to maintain those habits. She said the march 2010 • she magazine

hardest part of getting organized is that people often don’t know how or where to start. They should make small changes in the way they live in order to adopt a more organized lifestyle, she said. Setting a kitchen timer for 15 to 20 minutes and dedicating that small amount of time to getting as much done as possible will yield surprising results. “It’s incredible what you can accomplish,” Brown said. Clearing clutter also helps cut down on allergies and asthma because less clutter means less space for dust and dander to accumulate. It allows people to clean well, she said. Aside from the physical benefits, Brown said, there are psychological benefits as well. When things are organized, people spend less time looking for lost or misplaced items. She said families function better and fight less about who is responsible for doing what chores or who lost the keys. It takes less time to get ready for school or work, and she said it’s just good for the soul to be in a space that is functional and beautiful. Clear clutter; find cash Brown said there are also financial benefits to getting organized. She has worked with clients who find large amounts of cash hidden amidst the mess. She also had one client who was about to shred a pile of receipts and found a $100 bill. One found checks totaling around $1,800, and others find birthday money and gift cards they forgot about. Organization also keeps people from buying things they already have but that they forgot about or lost. Bills are sometimes misplaced, and they rack up late fees and bad credit. page 



Few people have large chunks of time to devote to wholehouse cleaning, but you can get it done 10 minutes at a time. Make a goal to clean something every day for 10 minutes. Maybe on some days you can carve out two or three 10-minute cleaning slots. In 10 minutes, you can … • Wipe down the inside of the microwave oven, sponge the front of the refrigerator and unload the dishwasher. • Clean the TV and computer screens as well as the mirrors in your bathrooms. • Dust part of your bedroom, or at least get the dust bunnies under the bed, and spot-clean picture frames. • Clean switch plates and doorknobs — with all-purpose cleaner and rag in hand. • Clean the top of the refrigerator. Clean kitchen countertops; wipe off canisters and small appliances. • Vacuum the staircase. • Chip away at a larger project you’ve been putting off, such as cleaning out kitchen and bathroom cabinets and drawers. • Straighten a shelf or two in the linen closet. • Remove the books from one shelf on a bookcase, dust the books and shelf and replace them. • Vacuum two or three pieces of upholstered furniture. • Sweep, vacuum or damp mop the kitchen or bathroom floor. • Spray the inside of your microwave with a plant mister and turn it on high for a few seconds. Allow it to sit for a minute or two, then wipe with a clean cloth. (You can also clean the microwave by nuking a few tablespoons of baking soda in a cup of water and then wiping up the mist with a paper towel.) Use a toothbrush to scrub stubborn stains. It shouldn’t take more than 10 minutes. • Clean out last week’s leftovers from your refrigerator the night before trash pickup. — Information provided by Jennifer Hollander, Simply Organized Opposite Page: Photos submitted by Jennifer Hollander

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LX2 By Shannon Palmer Photos by April Knox Stereotypically speaking, the term “disc jockey” still brings to mind a man behind loads of heavy equipment taking requests for the electric slide and pumping up the crowd with shouts to get the party started. In stark contrast to that image are Laurie Shepherd and Lorie Mount — co-owners of LX2, a DJ service that provides entertainment for all occasions, plus a little flair. Shepherd and Mount became friends while teaching at Jennings County’s Brush Creek Elementary School several years ago. Although Shepherd had been the DJ for the sixth-grade dances for some time, they were relatively lowkey events for which she had volunteered to support her students and the school. All of this changed when principal Jeannie Koemel asked Shepherd to DJ a fundraising event to help a local family in need. Although she was grateful for the offer, Shepherd was a little hesitant to take on a larger venue alone. In came Lorie Mount who, at the suggestion of Koemel, decided to help with the event. Their success sparked an idea between the sixth-grade teacher (Shepherd) and the now third-year law student (Mount): Why not turn something they loved into an official business? News spread about how fun the two were to have at events, and by 2005, they had been asked to do several school dances, and former students wanted them to play at their graduations and weddings. “We were still using CDs at that time, and there was a lot of equipment for set-up. The iPods hadn’t become the hot item yet. I believe I only had one friend that had one at the time,” Mount said. Stepping out of their comfort zone, the women did their homework and decided to buy an iPod docking station and sound system. This helped minimize their equipment load. Page 10

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“Remember, we’re ladies, and we needed something that we could actually carry,” Shepherd joked. Handy name After familiarizing themselves with their modern technology, LX2 officially opened for business in 2006. The acronym stands for Laurie/Lorie times two, and since they are similar in appearance, it seems to fit. Sharon Low, a co-worker at Brush Creek, asked the duo to DJ her son’s wedding reception, and she recommends LX2 for anyone looking to pull off a high-spirited evening. “The response from our guests was fantastic. They really know how to throw a party. My son’s wedding reception was one of the best times of our lives,” Low said. “They are just great people, and I highly recommend them. They tell jokes, get on the dance floor and really know how to get the audience going.” “We didn’t know if people would be open to girls as DJs because most of the time they are guys,” Mount said. “So we embrace the opportunity, and it has taught us not to be afraid to do something you have a passion for.” The women say they also have a great time working together. It is their girl time, and often it is the only chance they find to get together to catch up.


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Laurie Shepherd helps a sixth-grade student.

LX2 “We are mommies first,” Shepherd said. “So family time is important. Plus we have our careers that we love as well, so this is an extra bonus.” As they reminisce about the learning curves they have faced, laughter and situations not unlike Lucy and Ethel come into play. Although professional and thorough with their clients on specifics such as musical tastes and agendas, the two “Loris,” as they are sometime called, have a blast. And they have fans. “I love it when Mrs. Shepherd and Mrs. Mount DJ our dances. They are fun. They’ll get out and dance with us and always play what we want to hear,” said Emily Palmer, a student at Jennings County Middle School. Shepherd, who has been teaching for 17 years, and Mount, who taught for six years until switching gears to attend law school, both have a knack for understanding a crowd. Entertaining — whether it’s a classroom full of children or a room full of guests at a wedding reception — takes intuition and sometimes risk. “You have to be willing to play songs you wouldn’t normally listen to yourself,” Mount said. “We were hosting a wedding reception and had a request to play ‘American Pie.’ We were both hesitant because it is such a long song, but we programmed it in, and instantly the crowd was on their feet and shouting out the lyrics.” “This gave us the direction for the rest of the evening, and it was a great event,” Shepherd said. When a potential client inquires about LX2 services, the women send an information packet and make an appointment to discuss the type of music preferred. Then collaboration begins on a playlist of songs that will help make the event successful. Girls will be girls One of the perks of playing music for celebrations is the clothing. While male DJs usually wear a tux or suit, LX2 will come appropriately attired as well. As career women and mothers all know, opportunities for heels and hair spray can be few and far between, so Shepherd and Mount are happy to have a reason to dress up. As far as their future with LX2, both agree that this is a part-time venture, one that enables them to pursue a passion without sacrificing family or career time. “If we had to do it every weekend, it wouldn’t have the same appeal,” Mount said. “But one piece of advice I can give to other women is that if there is something you are hesitant about doing, but are passionate about, just go for it.” LX2 can be reached at or 812592-1676. page 13

She Went Out

W e at e , w e ta l k e d , w e watc h e d — and we enjoyed the company

By Kelsey VanArsdall PHotos by carla clark Neither wind, nor snow, nor bone-chilling temperatures could keep the ladies of Columbus from celebrating a night out with the girls. Well, we had another wonderful turnout for last month’s She Goes Out: A Valentine for the Girls. More than 120 women (and one lone man who appeared to be the best husband ever) gathered Feb. 11 for another dinner-and-movie night, hosted by She magazine and sponsored by Yes Cinema, Tre Bicchieri Italian Restaurant, Lockett’s Ladies Shop and Red Lips Boutique. Attendees enjoyed a family-style dinner of roasted chicken, asparagus and potatoes and then headed over to the cinema for a special showing of “He’s Just Not That Into You.” Models from Lockett’s Ladies Shop put on a fashion show at the restaurant and theater that got those in attendance ready for spring. Our sponsors also made it possible for two lucky women to walk away from the evening with a beautiful Vera Bradley backpack and clutch from Lockett’s and cute purse from Red Lips Boutique. Check out the photos of the fun evening: march 2010 • she magazine

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From top left: Carol Ahlbrand and daughter Ferrell Ahlbrand. Lauren Eads and Lisa Pein. Tre Bicchieri's signature cocktail for the evening. Ladies settle in for the movie.

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Believing in the positive

Photo By Joel Philippsen

Kim Tran has learned to be a survivor no matter what the obstacle By Jennifer Willhite Kim Tran’s calm, relaxed attitude and genuine concern for humanity are contagious. Her life experiences, diverse talents and strong constitution exemplify that which makes her unforgettable. For Tran, a real estate agent with Century 21 Breeden Realtors, it’s all about faith, independence and living life to its fullest potential. Raised in a Buddhist temple in Vietnam, in the company of four other children near her age, she learned early about the importance of responsibility and self-reliance. The children were allowed to attend school outside the temple, but upon returning after school, they had chores to do and a rigid schedule. She remains proud of her Buddhist faith. Tran lived at the temple until she married her first husband, who was a Vietnamese naval officer, in 1974. She was 21 years old. According to custom, Tran moved in with her husband and his family. Following the fall of Saigon in April 1975, the couple left the country. After a brief separation due to the wartime situation, they arrived at Camp Pendleton in California. By the middle of August they received an immigrant family sponsorship in Denver. “It was a big culture shock,” said Tran. “When we got to Denver, of course we stayed with the sponsor for a couple of months. We got jobs and worked. Then I got pregnant.” Tran worked full time and attended the University of Colorado, earning an undergraduate degree in business. Life in America She and her husband had four children and eventually moved to Houston after he lost his job. The move to Texas was yet another culture shock for the young couple, and the two divorced a few years later. Tran soon found herself a single mother with four children and no child support.

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Tran’s travels to Vietnam. Submitted photos

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In 1986, she became a flight attendant — something she had long dreamed of doing. “My dream as a girl was to become an air hostess, so I had jumped at the opportunity when Eastern Airlines was hiring,” she said. “That was an interesting adventure.” During her time as a flight attendant, she experienced two emergency landings. Tran says the key thing to remember in a time of crisis is to stay calm. “Calm is something that I think is in my blood,” she said. “I am a very calm person. You probably don’t ever see me get mad, especially in the work force.” She later met and married a professor of English, and they moved to England with her children in 1988. Three of her children still live in London; her youngest daughter died at age 10. The couple later divorced. While in England, she returned to her roots, working with Vietnamese refugees and pursuing her love of photography. “When I went to England, I worked as a community development officer for helping the Vietnamese community,” she said. “I worked with lots of refugee organizations.” She attended the University of Wales and earned a master’s degree in economics and social studies. During this time, she also gained recognition for her photography portfolio. “I won a fellowship called Millennium Committee in 2000 to celebrate the millennium,” she said. “The committee gave me money to go to Vietnam and do a piece of work about the daily life of the people of Vietnam today under my vision, rather than the Western vision.” Her photographs were exhibited in London. In 2009, her work was included in an exhibit at the Garfield Park Arts Center in Indianapolis. Being her own rock In 2002, Tran came to Columbus, where her then-boyfriend lived. She continues to keep her strong heritage alive, regularly singing with Vietnamese groups in Indianapolis who hold charity concerts benefiting the less fortunate in Vietnam. Her love for acting led her to become a member of a local theater group Page 22

known as the Riverside Players. “As a woman, I feel that we need to put [forth] our full potential,” she said. “It’s just sometimes when you have a family, at that time it’s just not easy. But now because I am older and being single … I just do what I want to do.” Close friend Lynn Dole firmly believes that Tran’s calm attitude is contagious. “When I am running here and there and then go see Kim, I am relaxed as soon as I enter her home,” Dole said. Her approach to life is deeply rooted in her faith and has helped her face many obstacles. Most recently, Tran was diagnosed with breast cancer in December. Her unwavering strength and belief in the power of positive energy are evident as she talks about her current struggle. “If you go through a hurdle of some sort, like myself now, just write out the positives and negatives and just look at the bright side,” she said. Tran considers community and friendship to be essential elements to a healthy, happy life. “I think the important part is don’t sit at home and feel sorry for yourself, ’cause you have a lot more to offer,” she said. “Even just a hand to another woman who needs your help. Like right now, I am having lots of help from friends. “And I think we can do that, and when we have others, we feel good about ourselves and that creates the positiveness and high spirit of who we are.” Friend Nancy Pugh says she admires Tran’s love of life and spark the most. Pugh describes her as “a do anything for you type lady, with lots of class. “I would have to say that she is there for you no matter what,” said Pugh. “Even if she doesn’t know you very well.” To Tran, her social conscience contributes greatly to her world view. “For me, if I could do anything to make people happy that makes me happy,” she said. “And all of that is now being repaid. When I do things for people, I don’t expect anything back. But it comes back.” Her many years of experience with the public and her private struggles have made her embrace a concept that is simple: Harboring negativity, withholding forgiveness and holding onto bad experiences are the most toxic things anyone can do. “Whatever comes my way, I take it,” Tran said. “I think that is important for my life. Because otherwise I wouldn’t cope. I wouldn’t survive.” SHE m a g a z i n e • m a r c h 2 0 1 0

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Real women take center stage

W By Meghan Daum | Los Angeles Times Gee, someone deserves a medal! Women of a certain heft are suddenly everywhere. “Mad Men’s” Christina Hendricks, the Jessica Rabbit-proportioned redhead who also happens to be a good actress, is on the cover of New York Magazine. Michelle Obama, who a recent Times editorial described as an “athletic, real-woman-with-curves,” launched her initiative to fight childhood obesity. Meanwhile, the 2010 Winter Olympics was the source of some interesting insights into what athletes — especially female athletes — actually weigh. Sure, the figure skaters are mostly sparrow-like. But a lot of ladies in other sports are, well, substantial. Elana Meyers of the U.S. women’s bobsledding team is, according to the Team USA Web site, 5 foot 8 and 180 pounds (stats that are pretty much in line with those of her teammates). The U.S. women’s hockey team captain, Natalie Darwitz, is 5 foot 2 and 143 pounds. Alpine skier Lindsey Vonn, who appeared in a bikini in Sports Illustrated, is 5 foot 10 and, rumor has it, weighs in at around 160 pounds. There’s nothing surprising about a muscular athlete weighing more than a bony fashion model or even a flabby-if-thin regular person. But unlike in real life (thank goodness), we watched Olympic athletes’ heights and weights — in sports like luge or bobsled, where such stats are relevant — flashed across the screen for the entire world to see. It’s the opposite of watching movies or television shows, which might as well taunt viewers with subtitles like “Eva Longoria: size 0” or “Jennifer Aniston: tighter than you’ll ever be.” Instead, the Winter Olympics added a novel dimension to the nation’s ceaseless obsession with female body weight — actual numbers.


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Moreover, they put not only a human face on those numbers but some pretty glamorous faces. It’s one thing to see perfunctory footage of protruding bellies during television news reports about the obesity epidemic, or to hear the latest stats from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention about the average American woman, who stands 5 feet, 4 inches tall and weighs just over 164 pounds. Or to see images of our national look: overstuffed jeans and double chins. It’s quite another thing to see a woman in that approximate height-and-weight range competing in the Olympics. The Vancouver Games provided something those height-and-weight charts cannot: evidence that when it comes to fitness, and looks, the numbers are only part of the equation. Still, I know what you’re thinking. For most of us, 164 pounds on a 5-foot-4 frame is, with rare exception, probably too much. Besides, some of those women competing in Vancouver were, you know ... big. I don’t think I was the only one who, when looking at the Sports Illustrated photos of Vonn, wondered how much Photoshopping took place. Not because she isn’t a beautiful woman, but because a photo of anyone who weighs 40 to 50 pounds more than the average fashion model of the same height is likely to get some technological assistance, especially when the woman depicted is wearing a fringe bikini and thigh-high furry boots (and especially when not even professional models are immune to nips and tucks from art directors). That’s why, for all the lip-service paid to the culture’s growing acceptance of normal-sized women, we’re still a long way from bestowing words like “attractive” — or even “fit” — on anyone who’s less than discernibly thin. We put Christina Hendricks on a magazine cover, but then we congratulate ourselves for “accepting” her. We call Michelle Obama, who is known to work with expensive trainers, a “real-woman-with-curves,” while ignoring the fact that more accurate examples of that description would probably take the form of Laura Bush or Hillary Rodham Clinton. But every time the weight of another female athlete makes it into our brains, we move ever so slightly away from lip service and toward another kind of service, the kind that slowly chips away at the idea that the only women who deserve to be proud of their bodies are those whose weight doesn’t exceed that of your average Saint Bernard. Instead of congratulating ourselves (in a way), we’re congratulating them. Instead of marveling at their ability to excel despite what they weigh, we’re forced to concede that going down a mountain at breakneck speed, and who knows what else, is not for the faint of heart — or the size 0.

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Give your body a workout in 10 minutes By Megan K. Scott | Associated Press Writer NEW YORK — No need to spend 30 minutes slogging away on the elliptical or making the rounds on the weight machines. Here’s a 10 minute no-equipment program that works the entire body from Peter Park, fitness expert for and Lance Armstrong’s strength and conditioning coach. Note: Park recommends doing the workout twice a day for better posture, a stronger core and a balanced body.


The workout

1. Chair Pose (This works the lower back, hamstrings): Stand with your feet 6 inches apart. Bend your knees slightly and push your hips back. Lift your arms up above your head as high as possible while looking straight ahead. Keep your weight on your heels. Hold the pose for 30 seconds.

2. Glute Bridge (For the glutes):

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Lie on your back with your arms at your side, palms down by your hips, knees bent at 90 degrees. Your feet should be six inches apart and flat on the floor. Push up through your heels to lift your hips as high as possible while squeezing the glute muscles. Hold for 15 seconds. Then lower. Repeat four times.

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3. Plank (For your abs, core):


Lie flat on your stomach with your toes touching the floor. Place your elbows directly under your shoulders with your forearms flat on the ground. Using your abs, lift your hips in the air until your body is parallel to the floor in a push-up position. Squeeze your glutes and brace your abdominals while holding a rigid plank position. Hold for 30 seconds. Then lower. Repeat.

4. Back Extension (For the lower back):


Lie flat on your stomach, your arms at your sides, with your legs extended straight behind you, heels touching and toes on the floor. Squeeze legs together. Press your elbows into your ribcage. Lift your hands off the floor. Raise your chest into the air while keeping your feet on the ground. Then lower. Do 2 sets of 15 repetitions. On the last rep of each set, hold the highest position possible for an additional 15 seconds.

5. Hip Flexor Stretch (For the hip flexors, quads): Step into a long lunge. Lift arms straight above your head and extend them back slightly. Bend your torso back and away from the rear leg to stretch the side of the body. Hold for 30 seconds. Do the same on the other side.

6. Negative Push-Up (Arms):


Move into the plank position and slowly lower body evenly to the ground, holding strong through the core. The negative push-up should take 15 seconds from top to bottom, in a constant slow motion.

7. Wall Squat (Legs – not pictured):

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Press your back flat against a wall, legs shoulder width apart. Slide down until knees are bent about 90 degrees. Keep your upper back against the wall and raise your arms completely above your head. Keep your head, back and arms firmly against the wall. Hold for 45 seconds.

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hiring planners to help before baby arrives By Caryn Rousseau Associated Press Writer OSWEGO, Ill. — With twins on the way, Stacey Blackmar and her husband were looking to be prepared first-time parents when they started researching baby products. Instead, they found themselves bewildered with all the choices and information available.

Baby planners will offer researched recommendations on baby products, like strollers and cribs, and make referrals to and do interviews with possible nannies and midwives. Many clients are busy professional women or pregnant women who live far away from their families, Moog said. Baby planners charge a la carte rates from around $50 to $150 an hour or by packages, which can cost several hundred to several thousand dollars, she said. The Blackmars have hired Gowryluk-Knapp to plan their baby registries, help set up their nursery and choose products that will make their home environmentally friendly before the babies arrive. She researches products and notes features that will fit her clients’ lifestyles. For example, she recommends the Blackmars buy a stroller with a hand brake because they have a large dog. “I actually consider myself a mommy coach,” said Gowryluk-Knapp, a former nanny. “I never take the decisions away. I coach the mom to make good choices.” New mother Amy Blair, a senior vice president of human resources at Liberty Global Inc. in Denver, said she and her husband hired April Beach of “It was overwhelming. I was looking at strollers,” Sweet Pea Baby Planners to save time before their said Blackmar, a high school math teacher who lives daughter was born. in the Chicago suburb of Oswego. “Everybody has different opinions. Then you ask your friends, and “Both my husband and I have intense professional they have different opinions.” jobs,” Blair said. “A lot of the things April does you can also do yourself, but it does take a lot of time Their solution was to hire Joelle Gowryluk-Knapp, and we just did not have it. This is a huge industry, who runs Nest Help, a baby planning service in Chiand you can get sucked into all kinds of things, and cago. The budding industry helps where a birthing April gave us advice only on those specific things we coach or midwife or nanny can’t, with services that needed.” range from nursery planning and home baby proofing to baby shower planning and shopping for maBeach said she can be on call in the weeks near a cliternity clothes. ent’s due date to perform simple chores, like making Between 60 and 70 baby sure their bags are packed planners have started offer“If what’s important to you is or installing car seats. She ing services in the United wants to enhance materStates in the last few years, nity for a mother, she said. said Melissa Moog, presigoing to birthing classes instead dent of the National Baby “A mother today looks a Planner Association. lot different than a mother 15 years ago,” Beach said. “We’re like wedding planof doing research on car seats, “She is powerful. She is ners, but we’re helping you strong. She is knowledgeprepare for your baby’s arable. Women today know rival and all the information it’s OK to ask for help. and research you have to I can do that for you.” That’s a victory for all deal with,” said Moog, who of us.” runs Portland, Ore.-based itsabelly Baby Planners. — Melissa Moog But hiring baby planners may not The goal is “to basically reonly be a question of asking for help. Kerduce the overwhelming feelings of stress and save rie Smedley, a developmental psychologist time so you can spend quality time on what matters and associate professor at Lebanon Valley to you,” Moog said. “If what’s important to you is College in Annville, Pa., said it may be an going to birthing classes instead of doing research example of parents struggling to meet soon car seats, I can do that for you.” ciety’s high expectations. P a g e 34

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Associated Press photo: Stacey and Scott Blackmar discuss the merits of double strollers with baby planner Joelle Gowryluk-Knapp, right.

“We have an expert society or an expert culture where we really don’t trust we can do anything without researching it and getting help,” Smedley said. “You can’t really trust any of your own instincts; you need an expert.” But there also can be opposite pressure from the longtime idea that parents should want to do everything for their children, said Parenting magazine senior editor Christina Vercelletto. “A lot of it has to do with the expectation that anything to do with a baby is something that a mother should want to do,” she said. Vercelletto said baby planners can alleviate stress and be useful to parents who can afford the services, but there are plenty of other good resources available, such as advice from friends and family, for parents who can’t pay for any extra help. “Especially in this economy, this is a luxury service,” Vercelletto said. “If this is something you feel is going to put a strain on your budget, absolutely there’s no reason to feel it’s a must do.” Moog said the economic downturn has some baby planners losing would-be clients and stresses that baby planners will work with clients from any budget. “It’s not your super rich,” Moog said. “It’s not your celebrities.” For the Blackmars, having expert advice from a baby planner means peace of mind. “It’s a smooth transition, less stressed and relaxing,” Stacey said. “I want to make sure all my T’s are crossed and my I’s are dotted.”

“A mother today looks a lot different than a mother 15 years ago. She is powerful. She is strong. She is knowledgeable. Women today know it’s OK to ask for help. That’s a victory for all of us.”

— April Beach

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M ilestones help parents gauge speech and language development By Janet Miller You may have asked your child’s physician, “Is my child’s speech and language developing normally?” Many parents ask because they know that typically developing communication skills is an important foundation on which academic skills grow. Remember that each child is different, but described below are skills which typically emerge around certain ages:

By 12 months most children will: • Understand their name. • Laugh and try to make sounds like you do. By 15 months most children will: • Say two or three words, but not clearly. • Reach and point to something they want while making a sound. • Understand simple questions like “Where is your nose?” or directions like “Show me your shoe.” By 21 months most children will: • Play with toys and pretend to do things. • Say about two or more words. P a g e 38

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By 24 months most children will: • Say two words together like “more milk.” • Understand more words than they can say. By 3 years most children will: • Use short sentences like “Daddy going car.” • Have a conversation with family members or other familiar people. • Listen to simple stories and answer simple questions. By 4 years most children will: • Use sentences of four to six words • Give directions like “Fix this for me.” • Ask many questions like what, where, why.

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If your child’s speech and language skills seem to be delayed, your doctor may refer her to an audiologist for a hearing evaluation.

By 5 years most children will: • Use sentences that sound almost like an adult. • Be able to pronounce most speech sounds. • Follow related directions like “Get your crayons, make a picture and put it on the fridge.”

If your child’s speech and language skills seem to be delayed, your doctor may refer her to an audiologist for a hearing evaluation, also known as an audiological evaluation. Your doctor may also refer your child to a speech-language pathologist for an evaluation. This therapist will collect information on her development and history of ear infections, and will work with your child to be able to compare her skills with those of same-age peers. You will be present in the room while this evaluation occurs. There will be time at the end of the session to discuss the results, the recommendations and your feelings about the recommendations. Many parents ask about the reasons for delayed speech and language development. The evaluation may or may not be able to pinpoint the exact reason for delayed development, but there are a number of factors that can lead to below-average communication skills:

• Frequent ear infections.

• Family members not requiring a child to try to say a word or sentence again more clearly. • Other family members talking for the child or not requiring the child to ask for what he wants. If you have general questions about your child’s speech development, please call 376-5373. If you are interested in other information about speech and language development, visit the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association Web site at Janet Miller is a speech and language pathologist for Columbus Regional Hospital.

• Delays in overall development, with language also being delayed. • Using sounds that are easier to pronounce to substitute for more difficult sounds.



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By Alison Ladman For The Associated Press Cheesecake isn’t a terribly difficult dessert, it just requires a bit of attention to detail. This recipe is perfect for those who love sweet-tart desserts. It has a classic graham cracker crust and a rich and creamy berry cheesecake, all topped with a sweet-tart blackberry lime curd. The recipe for the curd makes more than what you need for the cheesecake. That’s because it’s easier to make it in quantity. Leftovers are delicious on toast or waffles in place of jam, or spooned over vanilla ice cream. march 2010 • she magazine

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Blackberry Lime Cheesecake

Ingredients: Start to finish: 1½ hours (1 hour active), plus cooling

2 tablespoons flour

Servings: 6

2 eggs

For the crust:

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

2/3 cup (2 ounces) graham cracker crumbs (about 5 whole crackers)

For the curd:

3 tablespoons butter, melted 1 tablespoon brown sugar For the cheesecake: 16 ounce-package frozen blackberries, thawed 30 minutes at room temperature, divided 3/4 cup sugar, divided

2 eggs ½ cup sugar ½ cup lime juice Finely grated zest from 2 limes 4 tablespoons (½ stick) butter, cut up Fresh blackberries and mint leaves, to garnish

16 ounces cream cheese (2 packages), room temperature

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Heat the oven to 350 F. Spray a 6-inch springform pan with baking spray. In a small bowl, use a fork to combine the graham cracker crumbs, melted butter and brown sugar. Press the mixture into the bottom of the prepared pan. Bake for 8 to 10 minutes, or until golden around the edges. Set aside to cool. Leave the oven on. Reserve 2/3 cup of the semi-thawed blackberries. In a blender or food processor, combine the remaining blackberries with ¼ cup of the sugar. Process or blend until pureed. Strain through a fine mesh strainer to remove the seeds. Set aside the puree. In the bowl of a stand mixer, combine the cream cheese, remaining ½ cup of sugar and the flour. Mix on low until combined. Scrape down the sides of the bowl, then mix some more. Do not mix any faster than medium-low; you don’t want to incorporate air into the mixture. Add 1 egg, mix thoroughly and scrape the bowl. Add the second egg, mix and scrape again. Add the vanilla and mix one more time. Fold ½ cup of the blackberry puree and the reserved whole blackberries into the batter.

Transfer the batter to the crust. Bake for 10 minutes, then lower the temperature of the oven to 250 F and bake for another 30 minutes. The top of the cheesecake should be slightly puffed and spongy-firm to the touch. It should just jiggle slightly in the center when the pan is tapped. Let cool at room temperature for 1 hour, then refrigerate until completely chilled. While the cheesecake bakes, make the blackberry-lime curd. In a medium stainless steel bowl, combine the eggs and sugar with a whisk. Add the remaining blackberry puree, the lime juice and lime zest. Set the bowl over a medium saucepan of simmering water. The bowl should rest on the top edge of the pan without touching the water. Whisk the mixture continuously until it reaches 170 F. Remove from heat and add the butter, one piece at a time, whisking to combine. Press plastic wrap directly onto the surface of the curd and refrigerate until cool. When ready to assemble the dessert, remove the springform pan sides. Run a spatula under the crust to remove the bottom of the pan. Transfer to a plate. Spoon the blackberry lime curd over the top of the cheesecake. Garnish with fresh blackberries and mint leaves and serve.

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viewfrommars Do these pants By Andrew Larson

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For my entire adult life, I have ascribed my relative good health to a predictable fitness cycle. It’s called “the yo-yo.” Based on a tried and true principle, it works according to the idea made famous by Newton: What goes up must come down. I added my own twist to his law: What goes down must also come up. I don’t worry much about my weight because certain things are non-negotiable in my life. One is that I refuse to buy pants bigger than the ones I’m wearing right now (I am likewise very hesitant to buy pants much smaller, either). If they start to get snug, I do something about it. When they get too loose, I cinch down the belt. The pants are “the rock” in my system. Megan’s on my same system (yo-yo and the pants thing are integral to us both). The problem is, though, that we’re usually out of sync with one another; she’ll be on a big kick, and I’ll be squirming in my pants … or vice versa. Back to my being cheap: The one major peeve I have about fitness regimens is the infatuation with throwing money at it and hoping the pounds go away as well. My idea of investing in fitness is a new pair of running shoes a couple of times a year, or maybe a new bike once per decade. Just my opinion, but I detest the con-

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make me look fit? cept of gym memberships, nutritional supplements, expensive workout mats and stretchy resistance bands. However, I recently found myself swayed. Around Christmas, Megan started talking about these new workout DVDs that are getting everybody ripped. My reaction was predictably flippant. One night, she popped in a workout she had borrowed from a friend. I barely looked up from my work but allowed myself a sneer and a chuckle at her protestations from the 15-minute “ultra ab workout.” Then I noticed how snug my pants were feeling. It gave me pause. Two days later, I was right alongside her (using my tattered old camping pad as my workout mat), groaning in despair. In the subsequent days we both persisted with the torture sessions, and the soreness decreased each time. Two weeks later, I’m ready to pull the trigger on the whole set of workouts. It’s awesome finally being in sync with Megan in a fitness regimen. We need stuff like this that we can do together. And it works for us. It’s kind of funny, especially surveying the scene in our living room, with all three boys either crawling around us or joining in for some reps.

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More important than the actual workouts, Megan and I being in sync means we’re on the same page with so many other things healthrelated: holding one accountable for bowls of ice cream, allowing one another time to take care of ourselves, encouraging each another to “BRING IT!” and happily comparing our slightly-less-flabby abs. The only hope for breaking the “yo-yo cycle” is to commit to a longer-term goal, which I’m working on. It might be to complete a triathlon, or a big run, or a backpacking trip — I don’t know yet. What I do know is that whatever the goal is, I want it to be a goal for both of us. I hope that having Megan as a workout buddy becomes the new “rock” in my system, and I want to be hers, too. Andrew Larson is a teacher at Signature Academy New Tech High School. He lives in Columbus with his wife, Megan, and their three boys.

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Minute Recommended reading Food Rules: An Eater’s Manual,” by Michael Pollan. $11. 140 pages. In his new book, Michael Pollan, best-selling author of “The Omnivore’s Dilemma” and “In Defense of Food,” has produced a food bible filled with simple, common-sense rules. Chapters in the book include: “Don’t Eat Anything Your Great-Grandmother Wouldn’t Recognize as Food,” “Avoid Food Products that Contain More Than 5 Ingredients,”

“Avoid Food Products Containing Ingredients a Third-Grader Cannot Pronounce” and “Breakfast like a King, Lunch like a Prince, Dinner like a Pauper.” Whether at the supermarket or an all-youcan-eat buffet, this handy, pocket-size resource is the perfect guide for anyone who would like to become more mindful of the food we eat. —Viewpoint Books

Landscape logic If you received a shamrock plant for St. Patrick’s Day and would like to extend its life or keep it for next year, here are some tips. Shamrocks grow well in average house temperatures and especially prefer cooler temperatures at night. Bright, indirect light is acceptable, but a few hours of direct sunlight will help encourage blooming. Avoid the drying air from a register. Water the plants when the top of the soil feels

a little bit dry, but be careful not to let the soil get too dry, since the roots are shallow. Use a fertilizer for blooming houseplants, according to label directions. After blooming, it’s a good idea to allow plants a rest, otherwise known as a dormant period. During this time, let the soil dry a bit more than usual and discontinue fertilizing. Resume normal plant care in about two months. — Extension educator Mike Ferree

Healthy habits Clean out your medicine chest. At least once a year, throw away all medicines that are outof-date or have a noticeable change in color or smell. You should also discard any that have a missing label or package instructions. — Columbus Regional Hospital P a g e 48

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