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Marilyn, Loved but Misunderstood An Exclusive Interview with World Famous Photographer Douglas Kirkland
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Dear Readers, We were honored to have the opportunity to speak with world famous photographer Douglas Kirkland. Not only was he willing to share his beautiful photographs with us, but he also gave us some insight into what it is like to photograph legends, how to take a great photo, and how to pursue a photographic career. Take a few minutes to relive history with this photographic icon. Are you considering joining a women’s group, but confused by the multitude of choices. Read our Definitive Guide to Women’s Organizations and learn about the different options out there and what they have to offer. With our busy lives it is often hard to find time to do it all. Perhaps you need to get in shape, but as a new Mom find it almost impossible to find the time or opportunity to do so, read about Stroller Strides and learn how to combine Mommy time with Me time. If you like to exercise by hitting the links for a quick round of golf take a moment to learn how to improve your game with a few simple stretches. Is the warm weather enticing you to spruce up your house, maybe a new coat of paint is in order? So now it is time to share your desires with your husband or significant other, only to find that they are totally clueless when it comes to one of the most important elements of life, redecorating. Get the male perspective from one of our favorite writers. Take a few minutes to relax and thumb through our pages. Remember San Diego Woman is your magazine so let us hear from you. We are always looking for new ideas and input from our readers. Perhaps you have a woman who you feel deserves to be highlighted on our pages, or a beautiful picture of San Diego that you would love to share. Thank you for all your positive letters and glowing comments about our “new” magazine. We are proud to be the women’s voice in San Diego.
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Cover : Marilyn Monroe Photographer: Douglas Kirkland
Discovering the Baja California Wine Region..Page 6 Travel with our author through this hidden wonderland. Facials, Not Just for Women Anymore...........Page 10 Your man deserves beautiful skin too, learn how to help. How to honor a breast cancer survivor ..........Page 14 Share the joy of recovery with those who have conquered cancer. Step Forward: ..................................................Page 16 Walk your way to health. Internet Doubting? ..........................................Page 18 Is there any honesty on the Internet? Secrets to Becoming a Wine Connoisseur......Page 20 Confessions of a wine imposter. Flames of Devastation......................................Page 24 Getting our lives back after the fires. Basics of Internet Marketing...........................Page 26 Steps to improve your websiteâ€™s visibility.
Clearing and Quieting the Mind.....................Page 30 Learn to unwind and de-stress with our author. A Magnificent Rebirth in New York City........ Page 42 A tribute to our fallen heroes. Surprising Wines of South Africa ..................Page 46 A surprising wine from a little known region. Earning a Gold Star........................................Page 34 How to stay focused and reward yourself for a job well done.
In every Issue Traveling With Teens........................................Page 28 Can you really survive a traumatic trip with your teen? Business Matters..............................................Page 37 Learn how thinking positively can improve your business and your life. Beauty Everywhere...........................................Page 40 Cruising Vegas style. Home Sweet Hometown ..................................Page 41 Our transplanted Bostonian tells about home. Women of Distinction ......................................Page 44 Meet our distinguished recipient of honor. Bitchinâ€™ & Moaning............................................Page 48 Generic may not be a bad word after all.
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The Definitive Guide to Women’s Organizations in San Diego
By Judith Habert, Research by Lauren Narasky & Ashlee Ryan
We have all heard how important networking is to furthering our career, but with so many options out there how do we decide which organizations are worthy of our time and which we would be better off avoiding. What it comes down to is often your reason for the association. Do you want to help promote your business or do you simply want to give back to the community and help those less fortunate than yourself? In many cases both goals can be accomplished with a simple membership, since many women’s organizations pride themselves on their philanthropic focus while allowing successful women to meet and chat about not only their businesses, but also their families and life challenges. To many women this is their only form of socializing in what is the crazy schedule that most working women face today, so how do you make a choice that won’t have you scrambling from one side of San Diego to the next, calendar in hand trying to keep track of which meeting at which restaurant on which day you are attempting to attend. Choices must be made. When you first set out to “Join” we tend to overdo it. But then we are women, we can multi task…we can have it all. But can we? Not if it means 6 meetings a week along with those 7 am breakfasts inbetween getting our children to school and keeping our businesses running smoothly. You have to make a decision; you have to figure out which organizations will be beneficial and which are not worth our time. Below is an informational guide to some of the major Women’s Organizations in San Diego. I am sure we have not found all of them, but we have highlighted some of the most popular so you can have a definitive guide at your fingertips.
National Association for Female Executives – NAFE Website: http://www.nafe.com Founded in 1972, NAFE prides itself on its “history of providing education, networking, and public advocacy to empower its members to achieve career success and financial security. Members are female executives, women business owners and others who are committed to NAFE’s mission: the advancement of women in the workplace.” May/June 2008
Another important feature of NAFE membership is its 60,000 circulation magazine which goes to all members and partners. There are 100 chapters nationwide. There are with over 60,000 members representing some 20,000 business owners. There are about 300 members in the San Diego area spread between the 4 local networks. FEES: 2 yr membership = $60; $80 if outside the US 1 yr membership = $39; $49 if outside the US NAFE members are also automatically members of Women Impacting Public Policy (WIPP), a bipartisan advocacy group. NAFE members receive discounts on various services and products some including 1-800-flowers.com, DHL Express, Avis car rental, and barnesandnoble.com just to name a few.
Soroptimist International www.soroptimist.org/ Soroptimist International strives to be a global voice for women through awareness, advocacy and action with almost 95,000 members in nearly 120 countries. The organization, was founded in 1921 in Oakland, California. It began with 80 women who were interested in helping out their local communities through volunteer services, yet were not allowed to join any men’s organizations. Since then, its membership numbers have grown greatly and the group now focuses on helping women around the world improve their lives. They also strive to help women achieve economic and political equality by giving women a voice and leadership roles. The word Soroptimist is coined from the Latin words soror and optima, and loosely translated as “best for women.” Soroptimist International members focus on “Making a Difference for Women.” They do this by undertaking club projects such as providing women with basic literacy and income-generating skills; funding career development programs for teen mothers; helping minority women obtain routine medical care; and raising community awareness about domestic violence. There are 654 clubs in the United States, and more than 1,400 worldwide. There are 15 local chapters in San Diego County with approximately 500 members.
Young Women’s Christian Association (YWCA) Website: http://www.ywca.org/ Local Website: http://www.ywcasandiego.org Founded in London in 1855 by Emma Robarts and Mrs. Arthur Kinnaird; introduced in the US in 1858 – the
American Association of University Women (AAUW) Founded in 1911, AAUW San Diego is the original “mother” AAUW organization in San Diego. Membership in AAUW San Diego is open to all graduates who hold an associate’s or higher degree from a regionally accredited college or university. In principle and in practice, AAUW values and seeks a diverse membership. There are no barriers to full participation in AAUW San Diego on the basis of gender, race, creed, age, sexual orientation, national origin, disability or class. Main focus: “Education and equity for all women and girls, lifelong education and positive societal change” Branch members pay national, state, and branch dues: Branch members national dues = $47 San Diego members dues = $76 State dues = $16 Students: Undergraduates in two- or four-year regionally accredited educational institutions can join as branch student affiliates or student-affiliates-at-large; national dues are $17 per year (San Diego student fee = $41, state = $16) Members receive: A voice in government, the AAUW Outlook magazine, access to fellowships, grants, and awards, professional and educational support, and updates on research on issues that matter to women Membership application is online; SD branch number: (858) 586-1339
The Association of Junior Leagues International, Inc (AJLI) Website: http://www..ajli.org Local site: firstname.lastname@example.org Mission: “promoting voluntarism, developing the potential of women, and improving communities through the effective action and leadership of trained volunteers. Its purpose is exclusively educational and charitable” Founded in 1901 by a 19 year old NYC debutante, Mary Harriman. Her intent was to improve health, nutrition, and literacy among New York City immigrants. Eleanor Roosevelt became a member of this chapter in 1903. The second Junior League formed in 1907. During World War I, Junior Leagues played an active role, selling bonds and working in Army hospitals. The San Francisco Junior League formed a motor delivery service that served as a model for the nationwide Red Cross Motor Corps. Today, there are over 170,000 Junior League members; 293 Junior Leagues in US, Canada, Mexico, and UK. To join SD chapter: The 9 month Provisional Member training program begins each September. Application deadline = August 15, 2008 for the 2008-2009 Provisional year. All women interested in learning more about becoming a member of the JLSD are invited to attend a prospective member informational event. Membership dues are $150.00.
YWCA is the oldest and largest women’s organization in the US. The YWCA of San Diego County was created in 1907. Mission: Strives to create opportunities for women’s growth, leadership, and power in order to attain a common vision: peace, justice, freedom, and dignity for all people. To thrust its collective power toward the elimination of racism, wherever it exists, and by any means necessary. Throughout the world there are YMCAs in 122 countries serving 25 million women and their families. In the United States there are nearly 300 YWCA associations at over 1,300 sites serving almost 2 million members and participants. There is 1 chapter in San Diego which services the entire county. San Diego’s YWCA tackles domestic violence and homelessness and provides legal services and counseling . there are no fees at the YMCA San Diego. It is no longer a membership organization, but donations are encouraged and welcomed. For more information, contact Melanie D. Seales at 619-239-0355, ext 218
Membership dues are $44.00 yearly, although there are different levels of involvement and membership. Club administration, projects, and programs are financed by club level fees. Each region also can set its own dues based on regional activities and projects. Meeting times and locations are all determined by each individual club. You can also contact Communications Director Jessica Levinson at Jessica@soroptimist.org
National Association of Women Business Owners email@example.com
Women President’s Organization http://www.sdncc.com/
Mission: “to promote, support, and educate women business owners in achieving success” More than 9000 members nationally Traces its roots back to a small group of women in the Washington DC area who began meeting in 1974 to discuss their experiences in running a business. In 1975, they incorporated as the National Association of Women Business Owners and, in 1978, established their first chapters. There are now about 90 chapters nationally. “NAWBO is also represented in 40 countries across the world through its affiliation with Les Femmes Chefs d' Enterprises Mondiales (World Association of Women Entrepreneurs).” FEES: Established Business Owner A business owner who has been in business for more than two years. A regular voting category, members receive all communications and publications, are eligible for all discounts and benefits, and are listed in the annual national and local directories. Annual national dues $150.00+Annual chapter dues $150.00 TOTAL= $300.00 Emerging Business Owner A first time business owner (in business for two years or less). A non-voting category limited to two years, members receive all communications and publications, are eligible for all discounts and benefits, and are listed in the annual national and local directories. Annual national dues $100.00+Annual chapter dues $100.00 TOTAL= $200.00 Student Member An individual who is a student registered full time at a school or university who subscribes to the objectives of NAWBO and intends to start a business. A non-voting member who receives all communications and publications. Annual national dues $100.00+Annual chapter dues $75.00 TOTAL= $175.00 Supporting Member An individual (not a business owner) who subscribes to the objectives of NAWBO and wishes to lend support to NAWBO through membership. A non-voting member who receives all communications and publications. Annual national dues $150.00+Annual chapter dues $500.00 TOTAL= $650.00
Chapters are limited to 20 members. Each chapter has a monthly meeting. Requirement is to have sales of $2 million per year in annual revenue to be a member. There are additional levels of membership. Platinum members must have $10 million in annual revenue, and Zenith members are those with $50 million in annual revenue. Only one member per business is permitted. Women Presidents’ Organization provides an opportunity for successful female business owners to have a sounding board since sometimes it is lonely at the top. By joining this organization women can find other women who have similar business problems. The socializing aspect of this group is important since most women business owners are too busy growing their businesses to build friendships, so the relationship aspect is as important as the business aspect. The group often provides answers to tough business dilemmas. What better place to get information than from successful female business owners? WPO is not a networking group, the purpose of the group is for learning, support, love, friendship and problem solving. Yearly conferences are held to bring together members from across the country.
For questions about application process, women should contact Claudia Klaus (SD Chapter President) or Kelli Adame, at (877) TO-NAWBO or membership@nawbo-sd. org.
The San Diego Women’s Network http://www.sdfoundation.org/sdwf/ San Diego Women’s Network is a place for local San Diego Women to network and expand their business opportunities with other local businesswomen. They host monthly meetings to develop lasting relationships that will contribute to helping local women overcome life’s challenges, gain additional education and experience a sense of personal achievement. They also give back two annual scholarships to select women attending a San Diego community college. To aid in the education of young women, SDWN offers student rates and sponsors high school and college students to attend monthly meetings so they can gain professional experience. Initial annual membership = $100, renewal = $85 Contact info: P.O. Box 927208 San Diego, California 92192-7208 E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
contact your local chamber for information. The only local chamber that we have come across which publishes a women’s group is the San Diego North.
BNI – Business Networking International http://www.bni.com/
Chambers of Commerce
The largest networking organization in the world. Offers members the opportunity to share ideas, contacts and business referrals. Has been in existence for 22 years. Contact Mari Lyn Richardson at 760 5201122 about visiting a San Diego chapter. Members are offered success training programs on networking, advanced training on specific elements of business like the 60 second commercial or the 10 minute presentation. Membership is limited to only one person from each professional specialty. Attendance is critical. If you cannot attend a meeting, you may send a substitute. This will not count as an absence.
Chambers of Commerce are a great source for networking your business. Although, these are not primarily “women’s organizations,” many chambers offer a women’s arm of the chamber where women meet, usually monthly to network among themselves. To find out more contact your local chamber for information. The only local chamber that we have come across that publishes a women’s group is the San Diego North Chamber of Commerce ( http://www.sdncc.com/) They have a Women’s Wednesday Roundtable which is held monthly, and includes a guest speaker. This is a great event to meet fellow female chamber members in a smaller group setting allowing more one on one interaction. Check with your local chamber to see if they offer women’s groups as well.
There are one year and two year participation options. See the Secretary/Treasurer of the chapter you visit for prices. If you apply to participate in BNI, your application will be reviewed by the chapter's membership committee, and you will be notified of the status before the next meeting.
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LeTip International http://www.letipofsandiego.com/ LeTip is the world’s largest privately owned professional business leads organization. Chapters meet weekly to exchange qualified leads, build business relationships, develop strong presentation skills and become proficient networkers. Only one representative from any given profession is accepted into a chapter and members are chosen for their occupational expertise. Chambers of Commerce Chambers of Commerce are a great source for networking your business. Although, these are not primarily “women’s organizations,” many chambers offer a women’s arm of the chamber where women meet, usually monthly to network among themselves. To find out more May/June 2008
Started in 2005 in Murietta, California. More than 100 chapters have opened since then and there are currently over 1000 members. Each chapter is limited to 30 members. The cost for an annual membership is 249.00. Only one representative per profession is allowed in each chapter. Your photo, bio, and website link are placed on the Team Women International site. For additional information contact Judi Finnera at 760 639-2823
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By Lauren Narasky
Sometimes all you need is a little perspective. Try as I may to keep a sense of what is important in the world—health, happiness, loved ones—I still find myself stressing and worrying over tiny, insignificant bits of life on a daily basis. I get angry that my hair won’t cooperate in the morning. Rush hour traffic frustrates me every evening. If I don’t get an A on my next midterm, it’s the end of the world. I don’t have enough time to watch my favorite TV show or go to the gym. This weekend I got a much-needed reminder that these things really don’t matter; that the age-old cliché is true— every day is a gift. I attended the Relay for Life at the University of California, San Diego April 13-14, 2008 and learned a lot while raising money for a great cause. The annual event, hosted by the American Cancer Society, is one that reminds us to never take for granted any person or moment in our lives. The 24-hour event began early Saturday morning with opening ceremony speeches by cancer survivors and participants who were willing to share their inspirational, though at times heartbreaking, tales of loss and survival. Though the day was a scorcher, over a thousand college students showed up to listen to their stories and honor people in their own lives who have been affected by cancer. If you haven’t been to a Relay for Life before, the idea is that an organization, club, business, or just a group of friends must have a representative from that group on the track at all times. The first lap is traditionally reserved for all the cancer survivors in attendance. The next lap allows anyone who has been a caregiver to join in. After that it’s a free-for-all, and so for the next 24 hours, all participants took to the field. I asked May/June 2008
some of my teammates why they relayed. All have had someone close to them in their lives battle cancer, often with sorrowful results, that they wanted to honor. Many also agree that they enjoy feeling like they’re making a difference in the world. Teenagers and college students have long held the reputation for not caring or doing enough to help out charities, but these students felt that this was a misconception. With a heated presidential election looming in the near future, college students are getting more involved in politics and developing an awareness of our responsibility as citizens to be more proactive in our world. UCSD’s Relay for Life not only brought awareness to the participants, it also managed to raise over $60,000 - an amount which will certainly contribute directly to the fight against cancer. I will admit that while my first goal in participating was to pay tribute to loved ones, the event was also a great deal of fun. Participants camped out on the track, brought potluck food to snack on, and played board and card games. Football and soccer scrimmages broke out in the middle of the field, and teams visited other groups trying to raise more money for the event by selling baked goods.
The organizers also coordinated numerous events such as the Booby Relay, a Balloon Mammogram, and Capture the Polyp! These events not only give teams an opportunity for friendly competition, they also bring further awareness and education about cancer itself. Perhaps more importantly. The entire 24 hour event brings a sense of community to all those involved and contains an atmosphere of hope and togetherness. Seeing so many people give up their weekend to support the American Cancer Society and the fight against cancer is quite simply inspiring. As members walked around the track in the dark hours of the night, the glowing message of HOPE from the luminarias that were created on the stadium bleachers seemed to guard over the participants through the night and created a feeling of safety and unity. It reminds us that no matter what we are going through in our lives, we will always have the support and love of our closest friends.
Attending the Relay 15 for Life has given me new resolve to not let the little things prevent me from enjoying the beautiful moments of everyday life. Listening to the stories of people who are battling cancer or who have a loved one fighting the disease has made me realize that I should be extremely grateful for the health of myself, my family, and my friends. All of the speakers who shared their personal struggles relayed the same message over and over again to participants—enjoy every minute of life, and don’t wait for someone’s eulogy to tell them how much you love them. We only have one life, let’s enjoy every moment of it. May/June 2008
“The Art of Giving” Photographs by Lisa K Miller On Saturday March 1, 2008 friends, family, and generous supporters came together to share a night of Art on behalf of Isabella’s Gift, a foundation to help children suffering with Cancer. It was an evening filled with art, dance, fashion, music and food. Artists from San Diego, New York, Seattle, San Francisco and Los Angeles all came forward to display their art and donate work on behalf of this very worthwhile cause. The Collective brought models along who posed on pedestals wearing some of their latest fashions. A silent auction with everything from air travel to signed baseball bats was a favorite part of the event. Local restaurants donated their specialties for the guests to enjoy. Most important of all was the generosity of the guests and supporters and the obvious desire to lend a hand. Way to go San Diego! For more information or to donate to this wonderful cause visit www.isabellasgift.org
Dan Klunk & friends
Mario & Darci Alvarez
Matthew and Sarita Zouvas
Mark Applbaum, Joe Campbell, Jennifer Applbaum
Mark Zouvas, Anne Zouvas, & John Pendarvis Luke & Leena Zouvas
Portrait of Isabella by Kenton Parker
Areta, Anne & Peter Zouvas
Matthew Zouvas & Nancy Clarke
Angelica Goulding & Angela Lowrey
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Jan Elizabeth McCormick, Lara Gates & Jim Gates
Model : Brittany Kaye Photographer: Lisa K. Miller
Did you say Puce?
When did I miss the color chart class? Was there a place in my past where I could’ve learned to differentiate between the shades of maroon and puce? Is it possible that men have a deficiency when it comes to the nuance of color? The answers are no, no, and yes. Mea Culpa. I thought the three primary colors and a few variations were enough.
PLOPPING! This was absurd. Men plop. We reached agreements and compromises and had a great life… for a while. The excitement of moving to a larger house blinded me to what I would face in fixing up the new house. Oh lord, there were so many new colors by that point I began to believe there was a conspiracy to eliminate men from any reasonable involvement in the look of their castle. I steadfastly held to my notion that my involvement was necessary to be a good and caring husband. My consolation was that I still had the garage. They created the word ‘naïve’ for men. Pumpkin is for pies not walls! Sea Mist is what fogs my glasses when I’m standing on Leffingwell Point in Cambria, not a color. Chocolate Chip is a cookie!!!!! When will it end? I swear I have half of my pantry on my walls. The upside to all of this is I can tell if there is a hint of yellow or a blush of rose in a paint chip. I actually SOUND intelligent as my wife nods in agreement. She has trained me well. Clerks in stores have whispered ‘you’re so lucky to have a husband who knows so much.’ Luck? Men deserve college credit for venturing into such uncharted territory. You think crossing the Great Divide was tough, try matching paint chips. Lest you (men) underestimate the validity of decorating, let me point out a few things. By now we have all (hopefully) gotten past the Fung Shui period. Fung Shui is to decorating what disco was to music. The headboard of my bed has never pointed east. Fresh Tulips are cool but who can afford them. And placing a fountain or bird bath in the front of the house to bring the calming (read: good Karma) affect of water throughout the house on the prevailing winds smacks of sly marketing. Okay, I fell for this one. I thought it would be cool to watch little birdies splashing joyfully through their daily bath. Instead I got the neighbors cat, “Zinger,” lapping up my Karma.
The wake up call came on my wedding day. My new bride informed me that her gown was not light beige as I had opined, it was…ecru (?). I should’ve known my learning curve would be steeper than Ralph Nader’s chances in any election. I just didn’t understand that the higher I climbed on that curve the thinner the air got! In my zeal to be an involved husband I informed my wife that I wanted to be involved in the decorating process. I thought,
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the house is one thousand square feet, how difficult can this be? Most men are not built to understand the concept of flow between rooms and the absolute necessity of coordinating it all. Walls, curtains, baseboards, sheets and all bedDecorating is the primal right of the female. It is DNA deep. ding, furniture and knick knacks, and on and on and… As football and burping is to men, decorating is a woman’s It was (initially) a lot of fun. Lori and I would spend our week- domain. The few of us who have stepped past the DMZ and ends planning “the look” of the house. Who knew there was participated in the ritual have been better for it, but there is a such a difference between Linen and Things, and Bed, Bath, price: Our men friends cannot know what we do. The beer and Beyond. We carried paint chips and swatches of cloth hall chiding and character assassination would be enough to everywhere we went. At one point we added a small piece of make us return the merit badges and say something crude carpet (actually three) to the menagerie and befuddled many (while burping) to let our buddies know we’re still one of a server in restaurants with the array of goods where the them. food was to be set. This was an adventure you couldn’t book Lastly, we men are only a guest on the train. We must with a platinum American Express card. behave. Watching Lori decorate (an all encompassing Over the course of a year and a half we compiled and and expensive word) is like watching Swan Lake or seeing completed all of our projects and stood back to admire our Shakespeare for the first time: Complicated and confusing handywork. It was stunning. Then the rules: No shoes. No along the way, but in the end, often exhilarating and ultieating in the living room. No liquids for fear of spillage. No mately satisfying. And, she’s got a guy that knows puce from plopping down on the couch after a hard day at work. NO chartreuse. What more could you want. May/June 2008
Douglas Kirkland .......
An Exclusive Interview with the World Famous Photographer
By Judith A. Habert This past summer at the Del Mar Fair Grounds Photo Expo a chance meeting allowed me to come face to face with a great man, a photo legend, whom over the years has been an inspiration not only to me, but to photo enthusiasts worldwide. Although impressed by the man in front of me presenting a multitude of his famous photos for a large crowd gathered to hear the master speak, what impressed me most were his unassuming qualities, and his willingness to share details of encounters with greatness.
time - I think it was about 15 minutes after I got home - and emailed her thanking her and asking what time and day would work for the interview.
In the 1980’s, as Director of the Professional Services for Canon USA, I was first introduced to this photographic icon who hob knobbed with the stars, photographed royalty, and rubbed shoulders with famous political dignitaries. A staunch Canon supporter in the days when most professional photographers were married to Nikon, Douglas was one of our most avid fans.
Judith and Dogulas- At the Del Mar Fair Grounds Photo Expo
Over twenty years later I would have the chance to speak with him once again. I fumbled to the table where Douglas and his wife Francoise sat, a pile of his latest book, Freeze Frame(a collection of 5 decades of his photographs) lie on the table and a line of people ahead of me clamoring for signed copies. I stood among them trying to remain calm as I was about to come face to face with greatness. Did I have the nerve to ask? Yes, I did…I would ask if I could interview him for our magazine, San Diego Woman. His response was a warm and willing “Of course, I would love to.” I tried to remain calm. Even though I was jumping up and down inside I remained dignified, shook his hand, took a photo with him, purchased his book and stammered my name as he asked me “to whom he should address the book.” Francoise handed me a business card and wrote her personal e-mail address on the back. I waited the appropriate amount of May/June 2008
Douglas Kirkland at work
The day of the interview came and I listened closely as Douglas told me about his humble beginnings and the path that would propel him to become the most famous celebrity photographer of our day. A photographer, whom in any given week, during any given year, had at least 100 publications around the world running one of his photographs.
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Douglas Kirkland was born in Toronto in 1934. At the age of three his family moved to Fort Erie, Ontario, a small town of about 8000, near Buffalo, New York. By the age of 13 Douglas already knew what he wanted to do with his life. At 14 he obtained a job at the local photo studio. He took baby and wedding photos using his 4 x 5 Speedgraphic and flashbulbs. Photography was the center of his universe. He was a voracious reader gathering all of the information available on the new technologies and techniques that would improve his skills and hone his art. At the age of 18 Douglas headed for New York where he attended the New York Institute of Photography. Shortly thereafter, he returned to Canada where he got a job in a local camera shop. Frustrated beyond words because he wanted to be behind the camera and not selling them, he headed back to Fort Erie where he was hired by a local newspaper, The Times Review. Douglas became a jack of all trades, learning all aspects of the newspaper business. His next job was at a larger paper in a nearby town called Welland. He covered basketball games, hockey games and all of the local news stories. Truly gaining an education, Douglas still yearned for more. He read about all of the famous photographers and knew he wanted to lead that type of life. He started sending letters to all of the respected photographers of the time. When his third set of letters resulted in an offer to work as an apprentice to Irving Penn, Douglas was on his way. Assisting Irving Penn through his photo shoots for Vogue, advertising campaigns for DeBeers Diamonds, and helping him number photos from his personal photo shoot with Picasso, Douglas was exhilarated and knew he wanted the same life. The time he worked for Penn was magical but unfortunately short lived. He now had a wife and child and another one on the way, so the $66.00 he was paid to work as an apprentice to Irving Penn just couldnâ€™t support them anymore - he knew it was time to make a move. He moved back to Buffalo and found a job as an assistant to a local photographer. After about 8 months Douglas decided he couldnâ€™t stand it anymore and headed right back to New York. He worked as an assistant for a short time and decided he was ready to take the plunge. He set up a small studio and declared himself a photographer.
Arnold Schwarzenegger I sat mesmerized listening to the story of Douglas’ career. His humility came through loud and clear as he apologized for talking too much about himself and asked me to tell him about me. I hesitated thinking, what could I possibly say that could compete. I mentioned a few details of my photographic background and urged Douglas to tell me more. Now the juicy stories would begin. This was the man who was in a room alone with a naked Marilyn Monroe, as he took the famous photographs that would make his name synonymous with celebrity photography. When Look magazine offered him a job on the recommendation of a colleague, Douglas jumped at the chance. Douglas, at age 25, was the second youngest photographer to ever be hired to work at Look. Stanley Kubrick was the youngest when he was hired at the age of 16. In 1961 Douglas was sent to accompany a writer who was had been assigned to interview Elizabeth Taylor. After a two year illness, Elizabeth was willing to be interviewed but refused photographs, still not confident of how she looked. Knowing that no photos were allowed, Douglas was sent out to accompany the writer and told to see if he could change her mind. The charming Douglas appealed to Ms. Taylor’s heart when he explained that he was a brand new photographer at Look and having the chance to photograph someone of her importance would make his career. He wore her down and she agreed to let him come back the next day and do some photographs. The results were amazing and this would set the stage for his future. From this point forward Douglas was known as the premiere celebrity photographer. A few months later he was sent to photograph Judy Garland with whom he would spend a month following around and photographing her life. Douglas’ biggest break came when he was assigned to photograph the blond bombshell, Marilyn Monroe. His assignment was to get the most sizzling photo that he could for
Look’s 25th Anniversary issue. In those days, unlike today, a size 14 movie star was the norm and her voluptuous form would remain (to this day) one of the most famous photos of his career. Douglas paused as he remembered the famous Superstar. “She was running late. The studio I had rented for the photo shoot was filled with the items she requested; a bottle of chilled Dom Perignon sat waiting for her arrival and Frank Sinatra music was playing in the background. I thought as I waited…Had I oversold myself, was I in over my head?” Marilyn arrived several hours late, but Douglas was just relieved that she showed up at all. After some initial shots the mood was not right in the room and it was Marilyn who would turn and announce “I think I should be alone with this boy. I find it usually works better that way.” So in a matter of moments Douglas was alone in the room with a naked Marilyn Monroe, a situation most young men could only dream about. When, after a few moments of continued shooting - while Marilyn suggestively slithered in below the white silk sheets that were the setting for the photo - she suggested he join her in bed. Douglas did what many men would think the unthinkable, he refused her offer. Not for a lack of interest, but for the fact that he was married to his first wife at the time and she was at home in Lodi, New Jersey with their three children. Douglas knew that he had to resist this temptation. When recounting this story to friends Douglas has always been met with the same astonished reaction. They’d say “You were there with Marilyn Monroe and she asked you to get into bed with her and you didn’t. What’s wrong with you?” But Douglas does maintain that had he taken her up on her offer he does not think that the pictures would have been as powerful. The result might have been devoid of the sexual tension and excitement that came through.
After viewing the beautiful women in Douglas’ collection I asked him the question all of us at San Diego Woman wanted to know, “How do we get a great photo…No more importantly…how do we come out looking like the starlets in his photographs?” His response was unexpected. It wasn’t about natural beauty or selecting the perfect colors, but instead it was pretty simple: He responded, “Come to your photo shoot with an openness, and connect with the photographer. Try not to be nervous. It is actually the photographer’s job to relax the subject and make them feel comfortable. Find a photographer who will make the photo session a positive experience. It shouldn’t be like a trip to the dentist.” Douglas also noted that you should not overdo the makeup, and you should be comfortable in the outfit you choose for your photo shoot. As he notes, “I will often take photos of my subjects with the outfit they show up to the shoot in, not the one they plan to wear for the photos, often those are the best shots.“ One of the most endearing qualities of Douglas Kirkland is his lack of pretention. He continues to travel the world and has published a dozen books over the course of his career, with his next one entitled “Coco Chanel,” due out in August. At the age of 73 Douglas works as hard today as he did when he was a young man working for Look magazine. His career continued to grow after Look magazine folded. He worked for Life magazine and People Magazine in their May/June 2008
Three years later another woman would turn Douglas’ life around. It was a chance meeting at a photo shoot in Paris. The year was 1965 and it was Audrey Hepburn who brought them together. Forty three years later and they still look at each other like those young lovers. Douglas Kirkland’s wife was a student at the Sorbonne in France. Her Mom was a publicist for Audrey Hepburn and Douglas was photographing Audrey for a spread in Look magazine. Francoise came to visit her Mom, their eyes met across the room and the rest, as they say, is history.
After the session ended he sat on the floor by the bed and shared an intimate and profound conversation with Marilyn. They talked about simple things and he got to know this woman who the world genuinely loved and most certainly misunderstood. As Douglas states in his book, An Evening with Marilyn, “I realized at that moment that Marilyn hadn’t just been interested in pleasing kings, counts and presidents all of whom she had known, but the ordinary man. This was the guy she’d grown up with; the ‘shirtsleeves, tell it from the gut’ individual who had no diplomatic niceties or special agendas. If this guy liked ‘that girl’ it really counted, because he could be trusted, he was reliable, and that reliability and honesty was what she admired and hoped secretly to find in a man one day herself.” A promise was made to get together to review the photos and possibly set up another photo shoot at a later date. It would be eight months later, after leaving a photo shoot with Coco Chanel for Look Magazine in France, that Douglas would come face to face with the blaring headlines announcing that Marilyn was dead. Douglas would go on to shoot innumerable celebrities over the course of his career - and continues to do so today - but he would always hold a special place for that radiant woman who smiled up at him from those silk sheets.
early years. By 1974 with the days of the classic photo magazines winding down, Douglas and his wife Francoise decided to move to Los Angeles where he would work as a special photographer on some of the most memorable movies. He worked on movie sets including Titanic, Out of Africa, and the new Epic film ‘Australia’, due out this Christmas. Although he has won awards, met presidents, attended Royal Weddings and has a list of photo subjects that reads like the who’s who of American film culture, Douglas maintains the same work ethic and excitement about his job that he did on that fateful night that Elizabeth Taylor gave him his first big break. When asked how he got to where he is today he responds simply “It required a lot of small steps and never losing sight of my long term goal. I would set my sight on someone that I wanted to be like and when I achieved that level I would raise the bar and find another person. I never became interested in Photography to make money. It was the joy of the art and that it represented freedom and adventures traveling the world, and finding my way out of Fort Erie.” When asked what the field of photography was like today and what are the chances of becoming a professional photographer in this digital age, his response was “First, I would say it still is possible to break into photography, not easy, but possible. You have to be flexible, have a strong desire to do it, and not be easily discouraged. You have to keep reaching…you may have heard me say this before, but it is true. You are only as good as your last photograph. There is no coasting. It’s a time when all of us, in all types of work have to keep learning all the time or we are not pertinent, we’re not with the time. I still have the same love for it as I did when I started. I keep that same strong desire, that deep commitment is vital, and if you don’t feel that, then your likelihood of success is substantially diminished. But it starts with ‘yes you can’…but you must be totally committed to it. There’s no halfway. It’s competitive enough that you have to be good at what you do and all things are possible if you have that strong feeling.”
Douglas has progressed in his art and has not been afraid to move from film to digital imaging. He still shoots with Canon Cameras (see sidebar on becoming a photographer for Douglas’ personal equipment choices,) and has become a professional at Adobe Photoshop, another innovation that was unheard of in his early days. Today Douglas and Francoise, whom he refers to as not only his wife and agent, but his everything, continue to travel the world making wonderful memories and even more wonderful photos. May/June 2008
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So many of us love to catch the special memories of family and friends and record them to last a lifetime. With how fast those moments pass, we want photos to help us recall what our children looked like at age 2 or 5 or even 17. As a hobby, photography is one of the top choices of women in San Diego. How could you deny the multitude of photo opportunities that we have in one of the most beautiful cities in the world? At some point many of us have decided to take photography seriously, to perhaps buy the top of the line equipment and printers and take a serious stab at becoming a professional, or at least take professional photographs. So what type of equipment does a professional photographer use today? During my interview with Douglas Kirkland I asked if he would share with us a list of what equipment he uses to obtain his wonderful results. Below is the list of Douglasâ€™ kit.
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It was 11:30 and I was running late. Not an unusual occurrence for me, as most of my friends and relatives can attest. They have actually gotten into the habit of giving me scheduled arrival times for parties and functions that are a half hour prior to the actual start. It’s not really my fault; I always start out on time, but something or someone seems to sabotage my good intentions. It was the first day of a new computer class that I was required to take for my job. I ran out the door, dropped the kids at the sitter, and suddenly realized that I had no unearthly idea where I was going. I knew what college it was, but that was about it. I had left the course confirmation at home. The college had about 82 buildings and approximately three million classrooms. Panic started to set in. Okay, lets be rational, all I had to do was call the school and ask where my course was being held. Now that should be easy, I thought. I will just call and find out where the class was being held. I searched in my purse for my phone only to realize that in my rush to leave home I had left it on the dining room table. No problem I thought, I will just find a pay phone. I found one pretty quickly but it was out of order, of course. Then I found another, which kept spitting my money back at me. Finally, on my third attempt I found a working phone. Okay, so this call would most likely cost me more than my computer course, but I was late and, let’s face it, I was desperate. I called information and was given the number. The automated voice spit out the number with such authority that when John’s Pizzeria answered I was sure I wasn’t hearing straight. Luckily, John was a student at the college in question and happened to have their number memorized. I hung up and dialed again, it rang and rang and rang and finally, as I was about to tell my tale of woe, I was met with, “You have reached the
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university general information system. If you are calling from a touch tone phone, press 1 now.” So I did. I glanced down at my watch and prepared to recite my story, but to no avail. The instructions continued. If you know the extension of the party with which you wish to speak, press 1 now. If not, press 2 for a general listing of university offices and services.” That was me, I guessed, so I pushed 2 and held my breath. In 10 minutes I’d be officially late for my first class. Then the listing began. Forty-eight different departments and not one of them was called “Help for those too stupid to bring the course information with them.” My finger was shaking and my mind was in a state of utter confusion. I had to decide, so I picked number three, Student Services. Student Services does not include information on where your class is, although I did learn the hours of the student union and the special of the day in the cafeteria. Out of desperation I decided I would try to outsmart the cunning computer by not admitting I was using a touch-tone phone so a real person would pick up. They wouldn’t know I was lying, would they? After 22 rings (yes, I counted) I finally heard a human being on the other end. After explaining my predicament she responded, “Oh, you want Student Services.” Before I could get out the fact that I already knew the cafeteria special and the date of the next beer blast, I was back in the system. I finally reached someone in the computer science department, who, after seven minutes of dead air, finally located my class. I quickly found a parking spot in what turned out to be the furthest lot from my building-just as the skies opened up for a torrential downpour. I was a half-our late by the time I made it to my classroom. Luckily, the professor had been late as well; I silently wondered if she too dealt with the automated operator from hell. The professor began her lecture and we followed the instructions. It took about 10 minutes for her to realize that the software for which the class was being taught had not been loaded into the system. So she sent us home.
Traveling With Teens “I’ve been there!”
By Diane Garner (firstname.lastname@example.org)
Ah, music to a parent’s ears. It doesn’t matter if “there” is the Tower of London or the Alamo, the Grand Canyon or the Acropolis. When your teenagers personally identify with a location far outside their normal, tiny sphere of existence, you experience a strong sense of satisfaction and pride. Walking the paths of Renaissance men, brave Texans, Native Americans, or ancient Greeks can give birth to a lifelong connection to another part of the world. This presidential election year seems an appropriate time to create such a connection to the epicenter of our political world: Washington, 28 D.C. Okay, I know you’re groaning. I understand that politics makes you want to tear your hair out. And right about now, we’re all so sick and tired of campaign ads and candidate bickering that we’re tempted not to vote. We’ll show them, you’re thinking. What happens if you hold an election and nobody votes? Unbelievable as it sounds, that is practically what has been happening in this country. Although you may frequently fight the urge to strangle a politician (or two or three), as a responsible parent you should guide your teen through the rite of passage into the frustrating civic responsibility of voting. And as you may know, the state of California requires a onesemester course in American government/civics for a student to graduate from high school. If you drag your teenager to Washington, D.C. before or during that course, I predict that he will have a more personal interest in the often boring subject. And anything you can do to ensure his graduation, financial independence, moving out of the house… Need I say more? First, let me warn you about visiting Washington, D.C. in the summer. Unlike our beloved San Diego weather, the MidAtlantic region suffers what is commonly referred to as the three H’s: hazy, hot, and humid. Which often leads to the exclamation of another H: “H**L!” This ugly weather phenomenon will sap your energy and your patience, both of which are essential when traveling with your teen. Consider yourself warned and take the appropriate precautions. May/June 2008
Another word of advice is about driving in the District. DON’T! Just don’t. Traffic and parking are miserable. (Just ask my husband about the parking ticket that put an expensive damper on our visit to the White House.) For the sake of your sanity, take the Metro. More like the London Tube than the New York City subways, the Metro is safe, clean, and easy. It can also be exciting if your teen has never traveled by subway. We used it frequently, even during the mad crush of the Fourth of July. (Honestly, that trip was not for the faint of heart. Imagine sardines.) However, watching the fireworks from the lawn of the Washington Monument was an experience our kids will never forget. As your teenager has learned or will be learning, our government has three separate and distinct branches: Executive, Legislative, and Judicial. Each of these branches is clearly represented by a special site in Washington. Obviously, the Executive branch is the President, who lives and works in the White House. This well-known structure is seen almost nightly on the news as the backdrop for the White House correspondent’s report. Press conferences and ceremonies are frequently televised from inside and outside this familiar building. Even Super Bowl and World Series champions get their pictures taken at the White House. On significant occasions, the President addresses the Nation from the Oval Office. Public tours of the White House are available, but they must be arranged in advance through a member of Congress. Don’t wait until the last minute if you don’t have much flexibility on dates. See the White House website for details. We toured during the Christmas holidays and felt the experience was even more memorable because of the amazing decorations. How will your teenager feel if she has walked and whispered within the walls of this historic place? Might the President’s next press conference attract and hold her attention a little more? Of course, the U.S. Capitol is the home of Congress, our Legislative branch. Again, the news is full of pictures of one politician or another sniping at the other political party over something, and these little photo ops often occur in the halls of the Capitol.
Every year, the President presents the State of the Union speech to the American people from the Chamber of the House of Representatives. Perhaps your teen watched the televised funeral ceremonies for President Ronald Reagan or President Gerald Ford and witnessed the practice of “lying in state” in the Capitol Rotunda. Touring the Capitol is very easy to plan. Check the Capitol website for all the information you need.
the above e-mail address, about all of your travel experiences with your teens. Tell me about your best trip and your worst, but especially explain why the trips turned out that way. Tell me your ideas, gimmicks, threats, punishments anything that might help the poor parent who is dreading a family trip with a teenager. Together, we may save a parent’s sanity! So, until next time, keep traveling with your teens!
So, when your teen’s Civics teacher requires him to watch the State of the Union speech next January, will the fact that he stood in the gallery and looked out across that August gathering place change his perspective? You bet! Remember: “I’ve been there.” Finally, the Supreme Court, at the top of the Judicial branch, hears and rules on cases within the hallowed halls of its own building near the Capitol. The media rarely shows us more than the front steps or an artist’s rendering of the judges on the bench, but there is much more to this majestic, inspiring edifice.
How often has this building been featured in news stories on major cases or demonstrations about controversial issues? The next time your large screen TV shows a group loudly enjoying its First Amendment rights denouncing or praising abortion, supporting or condemning illegal immigration, or whatever the issue du jour, your teen can proudly proclaim, “I’ve been there.” These sites are the most obvious places directly connected to the three branches of the U.S. government, but Washington is filled with a multitude of interesting places tied to various governmental functions. Consider also visiting the Library of Congress, the Bureau of Engraving and Printing, and the National Archives. We were fortunate to live in northern Virginia near Washington for three years. Even with that long to explore, we were unable to visit every place we wanted to see. So, when scheduling your family’s trip, plan with priorities and expect to return for additional exploration. In a future column, I’ll talk about some of the classic attractions as well as several lesser-known points of interest. For now, put aside your political apathy, forget your partisan persuasion, and visit the nucleus of our government. After you’ve visited Washington, e-mail me about your trip. Give me some helpful tips to pass along to other parents of teens. I would love to hear from you, at May/June 2008
Depending on the time of year and with some advanced planning, you and your teen may be able to sit in the courtroom as the Supreme Court justices hear oral arguments or release orders and opinions. The days and times are tricky, so be sure to study the website when you plan.
Branding in a Competitive Marketplace Red Lizard Creative www.redlizardcreative.com In an age of social networking, tight advertising budgets and changing user preferences, it’s critical for business owners to understand the evolution of media and consumer behavior. Today’s chaotic information landscape inundates the average American with an estimated 2,500 commercial messages every day. It’s a common belief that consumers have become immune to advertising, an outcome due to the saturation of marketing messages in our daily lives. Many businesses seem to fight this problem by running more advertisements not specifically targeted to the products or businesses’ key audiences…
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5. Realize that you’re not in control of your brand. You can secure alignment between your preferred brand image and your actual brand image through these tips, but your actual brand is determined by the public. 6. Educate your clients on social media practices and encourage them to join the conversation online. Branding is critical to your business’ long-term success. Whether you’re an entrepreneur or a marketing director for a healthcare facility, architecture firm, retailer or restaurant, it’s important to understand that brands are powerful sources
This information overload poses an obstacle for business owners, especially those working with small budgets and limited resources. Today, getting your brand out into the world takes more than hiring an agency to design creative advertisements and place them in magazines - it takes hiring strategic minds who know how to position a brand, recognize the importance of an emotional connection with that brand and understand consumer’s changing behavior in today’s web-based society. So, how does a company brand their product, business or service in an environment where consumers can consult with each other online and offline before making a choice? Here are a few tips to position your brand, find a connection with your audience and drive business:
1. Identify your target audience – who do you want to purchase your brand? 2. Create a clear message of what you want to communicate to consumers, media, investors and stakeholders. 3. Research your competitors and your position within the marketplace. Establish what makes you different and develop creative strategies with emotional connections that resonate with your audiences. 4. Use a variety of media to carry your message.
of competitive advantage and are more important than ever in today’s online communities. It all starts with a user experience, and the savvy marketer knows how to capture the essence of that experiential emotion and reflect it back in marketing communications. Brands tell a story and human beings love stories, so join the conversation and tell yours.
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Memories of Dad Chocolate sodas. When the waves of guilt wash over me, I try to hold my breath by focusing on my memories of afternoons spent with my father sharing chocolate sodas. My Dad was the typical father of a child born in the 1950s. He worked hard during the week, joining the family at dinner. The main child rearing was left to my mother. Dad was a quiet, controlled man who could silence you with a single look. He preferred to talk through any conflicts that arose. He avoided confrontations and hated discord of any kind. My father was a shadowy presence in my childhood. Always there, but not quite connected. He fulfilled the typical role of a father of that era, quietly providing for his family before the age of child- centered parenting began.
Most of the time my childhood memories are of my Dad, instead of with him. I see him coming home at the end of the day (having left long before I awoke), changing for supper and joining us at the dinner 32 table. An average sized man, he seemed imposing to me sitting at the head of the dinner table. He would ask about school and I would try to gain an approving nod by listing an academic accomplishment or achievement for the day. After dinner, he would usually disappear to the bedroom to read the paper or watch T.V. So it was, the weekdays of my childhood passed. Ah, but occasionally there would be a weekend day that he would pause in his puttering and ask if I wanted to join him for ice-cream. I would get butterflies in my stomach in excited anticipation of time with just my Dad. We always got chocolate ice-cream sodas and would talk to each other connected through the soda straws. I felt special and understood during those afternoons. I still swallow past the lump in my throat, feeling the warm memories of those times.
By Deanna Bates
that time, I listened, as only an adolescent can, for the unspoken stories of my father’s youth. As I swallowed creamy gulps of frothy chocolate, my heart heard the loneliness of a young boy on his own. I came to understand why the boy who rarely got letters became the man who signed for junk mail solicitations to see a bulging mailbox waiting for him. I saw the man with a closet full of shoes (that all looked the same to me) as a boy allowed one single pair of military boots to call his own. Most of all, during my chocolate soda outings, I saw my Dad. Fate was not kind to my father. He was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in his 50s. He managed the symptoms (trembling, rigidity, and confusion) well with medications for the first several years. Then the downs came lower and faster as I watched helplessly. My mother traveled to get a break from her role as a caretaker, and I took on more and more responsibility for my Dad. There were good days of chocolate sodas and humorous memories of the days gone by. And there were dark days full of struggle and frustration. Through it all, my Dad remained uncomplaining, a good soldier on a solitary watch of illness. As I watched the man shuffle and stumble, I reassured him that he was not alone – I was there for him.
As I grew into adolescence, the puzzle pieces of my father’s life started to fit together through our ice-cream talks. Raised as the only son of privileged parents, he had a lonely upbringing. He learned to control normal childish tendencies and behave as a gentleman. At 12, he was sent to a military academy. During the WWII years, his parents were preparing him to be a military officer. He learned many lessons during those years at the academy. While I listened to tales of loyalty and the discipline that was instilled in him during May/June 2008
Tossing and turning, I didn’t sleep well that night; although exhausted from trying to balance my overlapping roles- I was anxious. Up early the next morning, while getting my daughter ready for school, I stopped myself as I reached for the phone that would connect me to my Dad. The night before, hoping to sleep in some, he had asked me not to call as early as I had the previous morning. I forced myself to turn my attention to my mothering role as I assisted my daughter in getting ready for her day. On the way out the door, I hurriedly dialed my Dad’s phone number. My stomach knotted as the phone rang over and over again. With my daughter calling for me to hurry, I left a message that I would be over soon. Trying to quell my raising anxiety, I told myself that he must be in the bathroom and not hear the phone. I took my daughter to school and kissed her goodbye. I drove the short distance to my parent’s home in record time. Knocking loudly, I used my key to open the door, as I often did to save my Dad the effort of the walk to greet me. As I pushed the door open, I was keenly aware of the dim silence that greeted me. Worriedly calling for my Dad, I rushed to the bedroom. An unmade bed was all I saw. My voice betraying the rising panic that rose like bile in my throat, I searched the house. As I paused to take a breath, I heard a feeble call in the darkness. Listening intently, I found my Dad in a kneeling, fetal position on the rug at the far side of his bed. Unable to move or recall when or how he had ended up there, my heart tore as he weakly asked in a trembling voice where I had been. The strong father of my childhood said he heard my voice on the phone message machine, but he called and I didn’t come. The lonely boy told me he had been so scared to be alone. Guilt trickled down my cheeks as I cradled him waiting for help to arrive. During the next few weeks as he battled the blood clot that had formed from his frozen position that morning, guilt was my constant companion. I tread furiously as the waves broke around me. I struggled for air when it became clear that he would not recover. As I kept my bedside vigil with the rest of our family, I relived memories of better times. After my father took his last breath, my throat closed, leaving me unable to remember how to breathe. I was drowning in an ocean of guilt, unable to find the air to go on. Then, I remembered: Chocolate sodas. I took a breath and said goodbye to my Dad. May/June 2008
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Chocolate sodas. I breathe the memories deeply as I hold my breath to ride the wave of guilt that engulfs me when I think of that morning. My mother was on a trip, and, independent as usual, Dad would not sleep at our house down the street. I helped him get ready for bed the night before and dispensed the arsenal of medications necessary for him to battle through the night. I asked if he wanted me to sleep in the spare room that night, but he assured me he would be fine until morning. My mind already on my husband and daughter, and my “other” life waiting for me, I kissed him goodnight and arranged the phone next to him so he could press the redial button if he needed me.
Let’s Go Shopping!
By Deborah Damery Lazear, CSW
Every woman loves to shop, don’t they? No! They don’t! Sometimes shopping can be intimidatingespecially if you are looking for something you only know a little about, or perhaps are not feeling adventurous. Like what, you say… how about wine!
years ago I had surgery that required me to use one of those electric carts in the grocery store. Took out a whole display of Merlot in one turn! Anyway, my point is that shelf space costs a lot to the retailer so as savvy shoppers we need to remember that the unusual wines will never be front and center. Have you also noticed the highest priced wines are on the top row, right under the brightest lights? Bottom line is to buy pricey wine, $35 and up, from a wine merchant with the proper storage shop, not at the grocery store. I shop for wine at the grocery store when picking up food
I am in the wine education business so I am frequently asked “Where do you shop?” As if where I shop would help anyone make good choices. The answer is always the same. I shop everywhere. The secret is in knowing how to shop. Shopping for wine can be a daunting experience. So many bottles, so little time! Isn’t it just easier to stop at the grocery store, grab something familiar, run home, and open it for supper? Easier, maybe, but interesting or exciting…probably not. For me, wine shopping is a great adventure full of surprises, disappointments, and maybe a great bargain or two. Put your feet up and for the next few minutes shop with me on a virtual journey through San Diego’s wine meccas. By the way, these tips will apply in any city where you live or visit. Let’s begin with what wine likes and what it doesn’t. Sounds like your mother-in-law, right? Wine is happy when kept at around 55-57 degrees F., in the dark, and with no vibrations. Now this part sounds like my old college roommate with a hangover! I don’t know where you shop, but for me it is rarely cool and most definitely not dark. Except for the occasional earth tremor, the vibration part is not usually a problem. Take your local supermarket, they are all about the same temperature, with nice bright lights so you can see all the advertising: Bad for wine, but good for wine distributors who pay a lot of money for choice visual space: Eye level, end of aisles, and smack dab in the middle on an angle! A few
for the week. I take advantage of the “buy 6, get 10% off” offers. I buy wines that move fast; names are well known, bottles in the middle or lower of the racks, and are meant to be drunk young. Young means right now! For whites, buy the most recent vintage on the shelf especially if it is a lemony, crisp Pinot Grigio (Pinot Gris is the same grape), or a grassy Sauvignon Blanc (also called Fume Blanc, aren’t those marketers clever?). Avoid the bargains of either red or white from Central Valley. If it is good for cantaloupe, it is not good for wine varietals. Every class I teach someone asks me about $2buck Chuck a.k.a. Charles Shaw wines sold at Trader Joe’s. I always reply the same way: If it gets a beer drinker to try wine, go for it. If you are having a huge party and are providing the wine on a budget, go for it. If you are learning about wine and searching for that true varietal experience, maybe not! I keep throwing around this word, varietal, which simply refers to the type of grapes used to make wine. Examples familiar to you would be Chardonnay, Sauvignon Blanc, Pinot Grigio, Merlot, Cabernet Sauvignon, and many, many others. Table grapes and blueberries are not the varietals I am referring to.
Occasionally I find some real treasures in the grocery store. Sometimes they are in a cart at the end of an aisle (marked way down) or on the shelf. Often this means the wine will no longer be carried in the store. Buy 6 of these, and you have made out like a bandit! But buyers beware; hold the white wine up to the light. This shouldn’t be hard in the market. If the color is golden yellow and you are not looking at a dessert wine, put it down. That golden color, as pretty as it is, is an indicator of oxidation. This means that some air has gotten into the bottle and it is flawed. We have probably all tasted this type of wine. I have a girlfriend who loves it! Go figure! It will taste extra ripe and a little flat instead of fresh, and fruity. It won’t hurt you, but it doesn’t taste very good either. Always examine the bottle neck for leakage. Avoid bottles of table wine that show signs of residue around the foil. You are more likely to see this in red than whites.
So, next time you enter a wine aisle, be bold, and be smart, and if it is warm in there, don’t reach for the top!
WINE PAIRING TIP OF THE SEASON This insert is a new addition to San Diego Woman magazine’s wine column. Every edition I will share my research and knowledge of wine and food pairing that is appropriate for the season. This month we celebrate spring produce. Pairing asparagus, artichokes, and salads can be difficult. So many dressings fight with the wine making it taste like tin or metal. Asparagus is easier to pair if grilled with a light sprinkling of olive oil. If you insist on steaming it, and it really is lovely this way with poached wild salmon, choose a Sauvignon Blanc as your match. Best countries would be Loire Valley in France, Washington State, Sonoma Coast, and Chile. I am not a lover of New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc with asparagus or artichokes as they tend towards the gooseberry and grassy side a little too heavily for me. Try it yourself to see if you agree or disagree. Artichokes with a mayonnaise or aioli type dressing also work well with Sauvignon Blanc or a dry Riesling: try the one from Hogue or Columbia Crest; a great value. Washington State is doing a fabulous job with this grape. I have a friend that grills halved artichokes and serves them with a Thai influenced peanut dipping sauce- incredible.
I adore sparkling wine. I must be a real romantic at heart. The secret to not breaking the bank is to search out the other name that a winery uses for its “second” label. An example
I haven’t forgotten the big box stores. Did you know that Costco is currently the largest retailer of wine in the US? Why? Because they buy large quantities and they buy smart. The turn over is fast and huge. It is a great place to shop for your $25 and up wines. You don’t get the volume discount on the cheap stuff like you do at the grocery store, so save that kind of shopping for your next trip to Vons. Costco frequently has people to assist in the wine aisles. I haven’t had great experiences talking to them, so do your homework before you go. Did I tell you they have a great dry sparkling wine under the Kirkland label? Well, I never! Beverages and More are working hard to have educated staff on their floors. I know this first hand because I have had several of them in my classes at SDSU College of Extended Studies, Business of Wine Certificate Program.
is Schramsberg, that bastion of wonderful sparkling wine from California- Napa in particular. The family has been making the best, in my lowly opinion, sparkling wine in America for generations. It doesn’t come cheap, however. They also make another sparkling wine at less than half the price under the label Mirabel. Trust me; there is nothing “second” about it. Google on winery names and look for their other labels. A winery with a great reputation for fine wine will never sell their second label made from plonk; after all they have a reputation to protect. This is an especially important buying tip for Bordeaux. For special bottles and special occasions, I rely on the small shops where you can often talk to the owner who will be very knowledgeable. They frequently have tastings of the better wines at a reasonable price. Take advantage of these to expand your knowledge and palate. Help them to get to know you; it opens all kinds of doors to treasures you might not otherwise experience.
Now for salads. Dressings made with vinegar can be a disaster with wine. Think about it. Bad wine can taste like vinegar so eating food with vinegar can turn a lovely wine into a bad memory. The secret is making dressings using lemon juice lightly for the acid. Have you discovered verjus yet? This is the unfermented grape juice (do not pick up a bottle of Welch’s grape juice in the supermarket thinking this is what I meant) used in salad dressing in place of vinegar. Google on verjus or go to Dean & Delucca to see what they offer.
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How to Become a Great Leader
By Jack Doxey
When I sat down at my computer to write this article my mind floated back to my years as a young man in New York City. I was working my way through college. It was in the early 1950s and I had many jobs while trying to earn my degree.
Your boss would not trust you and constantly inspected and corrected your work throughout the day. I remember working with a book publisher on Long Island. When the employees needed to use the rest room the boss was right behind the employees and would stand outside and time them. If, in his opinion, you were taking too long he would pound on the door and tell you to hurry up and get back to work. Not all bosses acted this way. I do believe that good Leadership did exist in those days but let me assure you, from my experience, it was in short supply. Things have improved and as we begin the new millennium we do have some excellent Leaders.
Here are some traits of well functioning Leaders: Visionary: They have a well articulated idea of what the organization will look like in the future. A Leader has the (necessary) charisma so their people join them and get excited about the Vision. In other words; they have followers in the good sense of the word. Buy In: They can “paint mental pictures” for their people that motivate them to join in on the vision - not in a tepid way but at the same level as their Leader. The truly gifted Leader involves his/her people in the actual drafting of the Vision.
I worked for bosses. A boss in those days was, for the most part, stern, suspicious and argumentative. But most of all they were highly directive. You received instructions in the morning and you made every attempt to carry them out to the letter of the law. You never determined, on your own part, as to how the job was to be carried out.
37 Empowerment: Effective Leaders encourage people to use their own creative ability to get the job done. They trust their people and encourage them to take chances and try new approaches. They don’t hold it against them if, from time to time, they fail in their attempt to reach their goals. At times the Leader provides encouragement and guided autonomy. However, invariably, the people come away with the conviction that they did it themselves. If the organization you work with has excellent Leaders at the top, it will certainly position you to be successful. However that is not enough. In order to accomplish the challenging goals we set for ourselves and our organizations we must have Leaders throughout the entire organization. Are you one of those Leaders? If not, why not step up to the plate and become one. Begin to study and emulate the traits and concepts of a good Leader and set a goal to be recognized as a Leader.
Constant Learning: The enlightened Leader loves the idea of exploring new It will help your professional growth and in the process help avenues and learning new ways to accomplish things. The your organization meet the challenges in this year and whole idea of constant learning is not just for themselves beyond. but also for their people. They create an environment that encourages and rewards constant learning. May/June 2008
Stretch, Then Swing!
By Vanessa Jackson DPT, TPI-CGFI L2 and Kate Grace PT, OPA-C
Although a single golf swing may seem relatively harmless, the accumulation of 60-100 swings per game and 200 or more swings during a practice session, places great stress and strain on your body. Each swing involves complex shear, axial, and compression forces on your spine equal to that of eight times your body weight. In order for your body to endure this magnitude of force without injury and a compromised golf game, it is vital that your joints are capable of achieving a full range of motion. Balance, core strength and good posture are also essential to reaching and maintaining an injury free and comfortable golf stance and swing. When your body is unable to achieve adequate motion from a joint, for example your hips, it will compensate by overloading your spine and wrists in an attempt to achieve the same result. Hip rotation inward is essential to attain a good follow-thru in your lead leg and a smooth backswing on your trailing leg. If you are lacking this motion, your low back compensates with excessive side bending which leads to increased spinal compression and eventually low back pain. It is no secret that with age, your golf swing becomes more challenging and painful due to the effect of degenerative disease, decreased spinal mobility, and trouble with balance and proprioception (A sensory nerve ending in muscles, tendons, and joints that provides a sense of the body’s position by responding to stimuli from within the body). A respectable golf game starts BEFORE you get to the first tee box. Since a golf swing begins at the hips and ends at the hands, Kate recommends that a golfer perform their warm-up routine in the same order. Featured are some quick and effective stretches that Kate suggests being done prior to “teeing- off.” Vanessa Jackson DPT, TPI-CGFI L2 and Kate Grace PT, OPA-C For more information contact us at: Kate Grace Physical Therapy (858) 457-3545 or www.kgpt.com May/June 2008
Smart Women Have Their Estate Planning Houses in Order! If you do not have your estate plan in place, please continue reading as this article will change your life! Get excited - as you are about to do one of the most important things to protect yourself, your family and your wealth!!!! Estate planning isn’t just for the elderly; it is for women (smart women)! Did you know that women own fifty percent of the total wealth in the United States? This percentage is expected to increase over the next decade. Surprisingly, many women do not have an estate plan in place. Without an estate plan, your family, your assets and you are completely exposed and vulnerable. Statistically, with women surviving their husbands, they must have their estate planning completed or their lives will be subject to the judicial system.
By Heidi Klippel
ences your trust (and your trust is a confidential document, not part of the public record), the only thing the public would learn about you is that you have a trust.
Durable Power of Attorney - A durable power of attorney is a document that goes into effect if you are incapacitated. Without this document your loved ones would need to petition the court to enjoy these powers. The court process is called a “conservatorship” and usually costs between six to twelve thousand dollars. A durable power of attorney usually
If you want to join the ranks of the smart women who have their estate planning in order, let us start with the basics. What is an estate plan? An estate plan is a trust, will, durable power of attorney and health care power of attorney. Here are some simple explanations. Trust - A trust is a legal document that is like a contract. You nominate individuals you know and trust to act as your “successor trustees”. Your successor trustees will enjoy the legal authority to “step into your shoes” if you are alive but incapacitated. A trust also enables you to avoid “probate”. Probate is a process where a judge oversees the changing of legal title of your assets from your name into your beneficiary’s names. The problem with probate is it is expensive, slow, and it is a public process. A trust is a must for mothers with minor children! As a mother, you are able to “parent from the grave” with a trust. You decide when and how your children will inherit your estate. What about your animals? The majority of pets that survive their owners are euthanized unnecessarily because no provisions have been made. You can include provisions in your trust that would enable your trustee to place your animals in a loving home or a no-kill animal shelter.
costs around $150.00 to $200.00: You cannot afford not to have this document! This document is important because it gives someone you nominate, know and trust, the power to step in and manage all of your non-trust related affairs.
Health Care Power of Attorney - The purpose of this document is to nominate people you know and trust to make your health care decisions when you are not able to make them for yourself. It also enables you to specify certain health care preferences in advance: e.g. would you want to be on life support if you were in a permanent vegetative state and life support was prolonging an inevitable death? Do you prefer to be buried or cremated? Do you want to donate your organs and tissues for transplant purposes? Are you willing to be a cadaver?
Pour-Over Will - Unlike a traditional will, when you have a trust, you execute an “abbreviated will” called a pour-over will. The purpose of this will is simple; it states that if you neglected to title your assets into the name of your trust and if they are subject to the probate proceeding, then you would like the judge to title those assets into the name of your trust. This is legally significant because this is the only document that is made part of the public record. Since the will referMay/June 2008
Smart women have their estate plan in place!
Estate planning protects your family as it enables you to make decisions in advance and keep your family unit in tact. Your family will not have to fight over whether to bury or cremate you or whether to donate your organs. You get to nominate individuals to raise your minor children instead of having well-intentioned family members fighting in court.
I had a client whose husband did not believe they needed an estate plan. It was a second marriage for both of them. They had no children in common. They both had children from their first marriages. The wife had sold her home to move into her husband’s larger home. She mentioned to her husband that they should execute an estate plan but he didn’t feel it was necessary since California is a “community property state”. He said that if he died, she would inherit everything as his surviving wife. Sadly, he was mistaken. Since the husband had a daughter from a prior marriage and since he never added his new wife onto title of his home, upon his death the home was divided 50/50 between the surviving wife and husband’s daughter. Due to the rapidly increasing housing market, the wife could not afford to buy the step-daughter out. The Wife ended up having to rent an apartment. She does not know when she will be in a position to purchase another home.
Another thing people do not understand in California is that the law does not treat “step children” as “biological children”. In a blended family situation, say the husband has two girls and the wife has two boys (all children from marriage number one), without an estate plan in place, whichever spouse dies first, their biological children are disinherited. You can cure this problem with a proper estate plan.
This is the most loving document in your estate plan. This takes all of the “guess work” out of an already difficult emotional situation. Can you imagine being hospitalized in a coma with all of your loved ones at your bedside wondering if you would want to be on a ventilator? Most of us do not take the time to discuss our medical wishes with our loved ones .
Women business owners must have an estate plan! You must take the time to do succession planning.
Who will manage your business if you are suddenly incapacitated? You must have these documents in place! Do you want your business sold upon your death or passed down to your children? Do you give your child who has helped build the business a “right of first refusal”, e.g., the opportunity to purchase this business first?
Blended families must have a plan!
Many people do not realize that often in blended family situations, surviving spouses and biological children are disinherited under California Probate laws.
Don’t let the State of California handle your affairs - you should handle them now! There is no better time than the present to get your affairs in order. Please don’t be one of those who says, “What do I care, I will be dead.” I cannot begin to share how many siblings I have met who will never speak again because one took mom’s wedding ring and the other felt it should have been theirs. You can ensure the legacy you leave is a thoughtful, loving one if you take the time now to get your affairs in order.
What’s that stuff in my yogurt?
The truth about probiotics and whether or not they are safe.
Have you noticed that the yogurt section of our grocery stores are being overtaken by yogurt products and drinks (which) apparently contain healthy bacteria such as Danimals, Yakult, Ativia and DanActive? These products seem to be the latest craze - but are they safe for both adults and children? Television commercials make claims of reducing infections and promoting a healthy digestive tract and many of these ads target women. Even the names sound scary… L.rhamnosus GG, L.casei DN, B.animalis, and L.reuteri ATCC.
By Jennifer L. Sachs, RD
For example, in March, 2008, a study published in The Journal of the American Society of Nephrology showed that a common bacteria found in our intestinal tracts, Oxalobacter formigenes, may reduce the risk of kidney stones. Scientists are working on developing a probiotic supplement containing these bacteria. Science supports other potential benefits of probiotics for a long list of health concerns including: allergies, cancer,
You are not alone if you’ve taken pause at the suggestion that consuming bacteria could actually be good for your health. We hear horror stories of antibiotic-resistant strains of bacteria that have led to long hospitalizations or death. So why would be want to ingest more bacteria than we normally get from being exposed to germs in our environment? As strange as they sound, these products also known as probiotics, have some good evidence to prove that they really are the straight shooters of the bacteria family. Probiotics are live bacteria found naturally in the body. These products, when taken in adequate amounts in our food or as a supplement, may have a beneficial health effect. The story behind their unusual names is, just as humans are given a first and last name to identify us as individuals, bacteria are organized in the same manner. For example L.rhamnosus GG actually stands for Lactobacillus rhamnosus GG. Lactobacillus is the “first name” also knows as the genus, rhamnosus is the species and GG is the strain. A good test for any nutritional supplement (or product) is to ask whether the health claims made for that product have good scientific evidence to back them up or personal testimonies based on emotion. Because there are so many forms of probiotics, both as over-the-counter capsules and ingredients in some foods, it’s also important to be informed as to which forms were tested in research studies and which ones might be best for you. If you read a review on a study about how probiotics can prevent travelers diarrhea, it’s important to look into which strain was used in that specific study.
diarrhea, elevated blood cholesterol, Helicobacter pylori, high blood pressure, inflammatory bowel disease, immunity issues, lactose intolerance, prevention of dental cavities, and vaginosis. May/June 2008
L rhamnosus GG (LGG)
DanActive (fermented milk)
Inflammatory bowel conditions
8-strain combination of 3 Bifidobacterium strains, 4 Lactobacillus strains and S.thermophilus
VSL#3 (powder) www.vsl3.com
Diarrhea from antibiotics
S cerevisiae (S. boulardii)
www.florastor.com Lalflor (capsule) www.institut-rosell.com Florastor (powder)
L rhamnosus GG
Culturelle (capsule) www.culturelle.com Danimals (drinkable yogurt) www.danimals.com
L casei DN114001
DanActive (fermented milk) www.danactive.com
L acidophilus CL 1285 plus L casei
BioK+CL1285 (fermented milk,capsule) ww.biokplus.com
Gut transit time
B animalis DN173 010 (Bifidus regularis)
Activia (yogurt) www.activia.com
Trying to stay healthy
L reuteri ATCC 55730
BioGaia chewable Gut Health Tablets, BioGaia Gut Health Probiotic Straws, www.everidis.com
L casei DN114001
DanActive (fermented milk) www.danactive.com
Atopic Dermatitis (mostly with newborns)
L rhamnosus GG
Culturelle (capsule) www.culturelle.com Danimals (drinkable yogurt) www.danimals.com
Most strains L bulgaricus and/or S thermophilus
All yogurts with live, active cultures
Colic in infants
L reuteri ATCC 55730 (Protectis)
Reuteri drops www.biogaia.com
B lactis HN019 (HOWARU orDR10)
Strain sold as an ingredient for dairy and supplement products-contact Danisco www.danisco.com
B lactis Bb-12
Good Start Natural Cultures (infant formula) Yo-Plus (yogurt) www.yo-plus.com
L casei DN114001
Danactive (fermented milk) www.danactive.com
L rhamnosus GR-1 plus L reuteri RC-14
Fem-Dophilus (capsules) www.urexbiotech.com; www.jarrow.com
Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) symptoms
B infantis 35264 (Bifantis™)
Align (capsules) www.aligngi.com
L casei DN 114001
Despite the long list of potential benefits, it is important to understand that taking the wrong strain, or dosage, could be unsafe and you may not notice any health benefits. Another study, published in Lancet earlier this year, suggests that a probiotic supplement made up of a combination of strains could actually increase the risk of death in people who have predicted severe acute pancreatitis. These products are not well regulated so talk to your health care provider or contact the manufacturer directly to obtain additional information. *Product chart adapted from The Journal of the American Dietetic association article: “Probiotics and Prebiotics in Dietetic Practice” March 2008.
Women of Distinction Lisa Druxman, Stroller Strides By Judith A. Habert Photos by Karen Kripalani It was the most basic of desires that became the impetus for this San Diego Woman to build an empire. Lisa Druxman was on maternity leave from her job as General Manager of the Sporting Club in La Jolla and she was savoring every moment that she had with her precious little baby boy. The thought of returning to work was weighing heavy on her mind. As a fitness professional (having worked in every aspect of the business) it was unnatural for Lisa not to participate in a daily workout. Knowing that her days of maternity leave were quickly dwindling away, she hated the thought of taking time away from her son to work out. As a result, she came up with a method that would allow her to exercise
was to learn from their experience. As it turned out she would be the one providing a valuable service to moms everywhere. It was an unexpected phone call from KUSI that would help play a role in molding an idea into a full fledged business. Lisa had often provided fitness reports to the TV station and they knew that they could call on her to share“feel good” stories with their viewers. This particular night when the phone call came asking if Lisa would fill in for a guest who had cancelled at the last minute, Lisa decided that it might be time to spread the word about her new exercise concept. With no business plan, phone number, or email address she went
without having to drop him off at daycare: She created a workout based around her daily outings with her baby. Her son was barely four months old, but she could tell he loved this part of their day together as much as she did. The thought soon entered her mind that there were probably other moms who would like to be able to do the same with their babies. It was this thought, along with a desire to network with other moms, that led her to share her exercise program. As a first time mom Lisa was facing new challenges daily as her little boy passed through the various stages of development: A main reason she wanted to be around other moms
on and told of her simple, yet effective routine that any mom could do with the use of her stroller and the great outdoors. Off the top of her head she told of a grand opening in Mission Valley which would demonstrate her program. At the time, there was no grand opening planned. By the time she arrived home, her email was loaded with 75 new requests for information. In all of her previous appearances combined, she had not received this many inquiries. It suddenly hit her that her idea was good, women were interested, and she would be having a grand opening in Mission Valley. She set upon making “Stroller Strides” - the name she had come up with for her new exercise program, a viable business entity. She made some calls to the local media; spread the
word to moms, and when her grand opening came, the media and moms came out in droves. By the end of the first year Lisa had 12 locations and 1,000 moms enrolled in her program. The Stroller Strides program is a structured exercise regimen which begins with a gathering of women and a certified instructor who takes them through a short warm-up and then a 45 minute power walk. Every few moments during the walk the group will stop for a body toning station. Lunges or squats are done using the stroller to accomplish this. Coupled with the local environment, picnic tables and park benches are utilized along the route. By the end of the 45 minute walk participants have received a total body workout including: cardio, strength and flexibility exercises. Not only are the moms obtaining their workout, but the children are being entertained as well. Each week they have themes anything from weather to the zoo and, they also teach letters and numbers, so instructors are experts at multitasking.
The media quickly got wind of this new phenomenon and stories started popping up on The Today show, Montel Williams, Access Hollywood, Inside Edition, and CNN. Lisa also received mention in Entrepreneur Magazine, fitness magazines, and just about every baby and parenting magazine in the country. This grew her program far faster than she ever thought it would. The publicity was great, but Lisa admits that the most important reason the business took off were the moms. “When women like it they talk.” And talk they did: today Stroller Strides has 230 Franchises across the country. They are the 17th fastest growing franchise in the country according to Franchise Times Magazine. Working Mother Magazine voted them one of the top 25 companies for which to work.
Not only were San Diego moms impressed with her program, Lisa was also receiving emails and calls from all over the country inquiring where they could go to join one of her
The Stroller Strides program is a bit trickier in locations that don’t have the same beautiful weather year round as San Diego. Instructors work around the weather conditions by holding their classes in malls, soccer arenas, or even a Sam’s Club.
classes. Again, a twist of fate would take Stroller Strides to the next level. One of Lisa’s staff members was relocating to Monterey and she approached Lisa to ask if she could bring the program along with her. Lisa basically provided the business in a box and off she went to start a branch of Stroller Strides outside of San Diego. When Lisa realized that her idea was not strictly a local phenomenon, she made the decision to offer her business as a franchise to other Moms across the country who also wanted a business that allowed them to be stay at home moms and not miss those important moments in their babies lives. Lisa offered ten licenses to franchisees across the country to see how the franchise concept would be received.
Certainly Lisa is thrilled with the growth of Stroller Strides, but she admits that one of the greatest parts of her business is that she knows she is providing a business opportunity that allows her franchisees and instructors to remain at home with their children. “We want other moms to go after their dreams. Our generation is one of the first that was brought up to be educated and do everything you want to do, but then if you want to become a mom it becomes an either or situation. You work full time and have someone else raise your kids, or you choose to be a stay at home mom.
which provides tips and insights into how to be a healthy role model for your children.
46 I don’t feel that there are very many careers out there that are supportive of doing both. I so much want to encourage any mom to go after her dream and make it happen, because they really can. I heard someone say recently that at the end of life the most common regret is that people didn’t spend more time with their kids - not that they didn’t make enough money or accomplish other goals in their lives.” Stroller Strides classes are available across the country with their most popular membership offered at an affordable rate of $55.00 per month for unlimited classes. There are also other membership options to fit most women’s needs. Today not only are there classes offered throughout the country, but they have expanded to include prenatal classes, a new Stroller Strides Stroller (which comes along with exercise tubing), an instruction book on how to exercise the Stroller Strides way, and a gift certificates for free classes. Lisa has also just written a book entitled “Lean Mommy,”
From that simple desire to stay at home with her new baby, Lisa Druxxman has managed to turn her idea into an immensely successful business venture. For more information on Stroller Strides visit her website, www.strollerstrides.com
Packing Light and Looking Great! By Janice O’Sullivan Travel season is upon us! One of the most common concerns that I hear from my clients is that of “travel wardrobing”; as women, the first thing we think about after making the decision to take a trip, is what we will wear and how to make it all fit in a small bag! Packing for travel is actually very simple; with a formula and a plan, you can eliminate this worry and focus on the journey instead. To save time and mental energy, here are some tips for planning a simple and flawless travel wardrobe that will maximize your options with minimal pieces. 1.Comfort is the key. When packing, reach for fabrics that are lightweight and that stretch, such as cotton knits or blends. These items pack better and come out wrinkle-free!
9. Be YOU! Vacations might seem ideal for trying a new look, but don't be tempted to vary too far from your own personal style. Grab-and-go dressing with easy care styles will always suit you best! 10. Simplicity is the key to traveling light and remaining carefree. Janice O’Sullivan is a San Diego fashion coordinator with Weekenders USA. Janice can be reached at jmvos@yahoo. com or visit www.weekendersusa.com/janiceosullivan.
3. Two tops, two bottoms and a jacket are perfect for a weekend getaway; add another top and bottom for a longer trip to make 3 monochromatic outfits to mix and match. When you add a dress for evenings you'll be ready for anything! A comfortable and timeless little black dress is a perfect choice. 4. Avoid flashy or over-patterned garments as they will take up room in your suitcase and you may only wear them once. The exception to this is having one print that bridges your 2 or 3 color wardrobe plan to maximize the mix and match. 5. Try to pack simple garments that will translate well in any climate. Layering is key. 6. Don't forget to pack a cardigan. Lightweight knit cardigans in basic black or white can be tossed around the shoulders, layered over a t-shirt or tank dress, or worn over that little black dress for evenings. 7. Buy accessories there. Leave your expensive jewelry at home and buy local treasures. If you are in the islands, spice it up with a new coral necklace, wood earrings, and a beautiful wrap. Organic expressions are fabulous when it comes to accessories. 8. SHOES! Try to remain practical without the risk of feeling under-prepared. Simple sandals are key. Add a pair of strappy sandals or wedges for evenings. If you love the great outdoors, pack a good pair of walking shoes. May/June 2008
2.Keep color choices basic and remember that you save space and time when you mix and match. White, black, and an accent color will each work well for monochromatic outfits as well as mixed-color outfits.
May/June Community Events May 3rd, Registration - 7:45 a.m; the 3k and 5k walks - 9 a.m City of Hope’s ninth annual Walk for Hope to Cure Breast Cancer University of San Diego Campus To register, become a sponsor, vendor, donate or volunteer, visit ww.walk4hope.org/sandiego City of Hope is a leading research and treatment center for cancer, diabetes and other life-threatening diseases. May 18, 2008 2:30 PM - 4:30 PM Moores UCSD Cancer Center Mad Hatter's Tea Party At Moores Cancer Center Bamboo Garden General Fee: $25.00 ; $500.00 per table Contact: Susan Faerber (858) 822-6829 email@example.com Join us for a healthy high tea, hat decorating, silent auction and great fun, knowing that all proceeds will benefit the cooking class program for patients at the Moores UCSD Cancer Center. May 15th 9:30am – 4 pm Annual Pet Rescue Day on the Bay Hornblower Cruises & Events, San Diego This event benefits the Helen Woodward Animal Center. By donating a gently used blanket or towel, you and your dog cruise free on any one-Hour Harbor Cruise or Sea Lion Adventure on the Big Bay aboard Hornblower. 619-686-8700 May 17, 2008 8:30am – 11:00am San Diego Arthritis Walk San Diego Chapter of the Arthritis Foundation annual charity walk. Dogs are allowed, but must be on a leash. Pre-registration and day of walk registration 7am. Embarcadero Marina Park South, San Diego Relay for Life: Relay For Life is a 24 hour celebration of hope, progress and answers. In honor of the millions of Americans who have survived cancer, teams of friends, families, and co-workers raise funds to support the continued fight against the disease. You can walk. You can run. You can Relay For Life. This is an American Cancer Society signature activity. Relay For Life of Coronado 6/7/2008 9:00:00 AM Coronado, CA
Relay For Life of National City 8/9/2008 9:00:00 AM National City, CA Relay For Life of Chula Vista 5/3/2008 9:00:00 AM Chula Vista, CA Relay For Life of Imperial Beach 7/1/2008 9:00:00 AM Imperial Beach , CA
600 Sixth St
1644 Lake Poway Rd
Relay for Life of Encinitas 8/16/2008 9:00:00 AM Encinitas, CA
675 Balour Dr
2001 Tavern Rd
1645 Magnolia Ave
151 Escondido Ave
Relay For Life of Alpine 6/21/2008 9:00:00 AM Alpine, CA Relay for Life of Carlsbad 8/2/2008 9:00:00 AM Carlsbad, CA
12th St and D Ave
Relay for Life of Vista 8/2/2008 9:00:00 AM Vista, CA
840 4th Ave
Y-Me 3-mile Non-Competitive Walk Mother’s Day, Sunday, May 11, 2008 Check-In Begins: 7:30 a.m.; Walk Begins: 9:00 a.m. Mission Bay Park, San Diego, CA Register online at http://sandiegowalk.y-me.org Benefits Y-Me’s services for breast cancer patients and survivors
425 Imperial Beach Blvd
Relay For Life of Lemon Grove 5/3/2008 9:00:00 AM 7866 Lincoln St Lemon Grove, CA Relay For Life of La Jolla 6/28/2008 10:00:00 AM 9500 Gilman Dr La Jolla, CA Relay For Life of Mira Mesa/Rancho Penasquitos 5/17/2008 10:00:00 AM 9711 Oviedo Way San Diego, CA Relay For Life of El Cajon 6/7/2008 9:00:00 AM
Relay For Life of Poway 5/31/2008 9:00:00 AM Poway, CA
May 31, 2008 Take Steps for Crohn’s & Colitis Cal State San Marcos, 333 S. Twin Oaks Valley Rd, San Marcos, CA 92096 Nation’s largest event dedicated to finding cures for digestive diseases. More than a walk, the evening includes great entertainment, food and fun! No registration fee for this event, but fundraising is encouraged. All fundraising participants will wear and carry noisemakers to break the silence of these devastating diseases. Participants who raise $100 or more will receive a t-shirt. For more information, or to form a team, please email firstname.lastname@example.org or call at (858) 547-8200
1719 E Madison Ave, El Cajon, CA
MainStreet Oceanside, 300 N. Coast Highway, Oceanside, CA 92054 760-754-4512 Price: Free. Farmers Market, Thursdays 9 am-1 pm: Florals Produce Arts & crafts Food Sunset Market, Thursdays 5 pm-9 pm: Entertainment Food Unique performances Arts & crafts MarketStreet Oceanside Event Schedule 2008 Arts Alive Banner Auction and Fireworks Fundraiser 5 pm-9 pm Fri, May 16 Elk’s Lodge, 444 Country Club Lane Antiques on Mission Outdoor Street Fairs 8 am-4 pm Sun, May 11 8 am-4 pm Sun, Sept. 14
Ofest Summer Beach Festival: Pier Side Nights Concert & Street Fair July 4 Dia de los Muertos Festival 9 am-5 pm Sun, Nov. 2 Saturday for Giving Noon-5 pm Sat, Dec. 6 For more info and please visit msoceanside.com or call (760) 754-4512.
Sun, June 1, 2008, 6:30 am http://www.rnrmarathon.com/home.html San Diego, CA $90 to register Approximately 20,000 runners participate in the Rock ‘n’ Roll Marathon each year. Billed as 26 miles of rock ‘n’ roll, this is one of America’s fastest and most scenic courses, racing through the park and by the harbor. The marathon starts at historic Balboa Park, snakes through the Gaslamp Quarter and circles Petco Park before heading west to Harbor Drive and looping counterclockwise through Mission Bay, ending in Point Loma.
Freedom Days Parade 10 am-Noon Sat, June 28
Sun, June 1, 2008, 9 am-1 pm San Diego Natural History Museum: Guided Nature Hikes Hike the Santa Ysabel Open Space Preserve. Price: Free. Call for meeting location and for more information visit www.sdnhm.org/ canyoneers or call 619-255-0203.
Cedros Avenue Third Thursday Gallery and Shopping Night On the third Thursday of the month, Solana Beach’s art and architecture hub hosts a gallery and shop walk. 5:30-11 pm Price: Free. Across the street from the Solana Beach Coaster stop, Cedros Avenue is an arts and design stroll begging for a fat wallet. The quaint south side of Cedros, also home to the Belly Up Tavern, is lined with clothing boutiques, furniture stores, antique shops and galleries. On the third Thursday of the month, Cedros Avenue keeps the light on a bit later. From 5:30 to 8:30 p.m., various galleries and shops remain open for an after-work wind-down with casual art and boutique receptions. Lay down the bucks or just window shop, the point here is to get out and mingle.March 2-June 29, 2008 ‘Masterpieces of San Diego Painting: Fifty Works From Fifty Years, 1900-1950’ Oceanside Musuem of Art presents a collaboration of “Masterpieces” including the works of Charles Reiffel. Tue-Sat 10 am-4 pm Sun 1 pm-4 pm Oceanside Museum of Art, 704 Pier View Way, Oceanside, CA 92054 760-721-2787 Price: Free-$8. Ages: All Ages. MainStreet Oceanside A traditional Farmer’s Market by day and an eccentric “Sunset Market” by night.
Photograph By Brent Habert
Point Loma Nazarene University May/June 2008
Busalacchi’s on Fifth
BAR AND GRILLE
Family Owned & Operated Since 1986
Traditional Sicilian Cuisine Award Winning Menu Catering For Small & Large Parties Patio Dining - Full Bar Lunch: Monday-Friday 11:30-2:30 Dinner from PM Nightly Located in Hillcrest
A delightful, contemporary touch in the heart of classic Little Italy Featuring: Sicilian Entrees, Pasta, Wood-Fired Pizza Patio Dining • Lunch • Dinner
Sure our name Po Pazzo is Italian, but the food pays homage to the best urban bar and grille. Sound crazy? That’s what Po Pazzo means, just a little crazy.
A new kind of Bar and Grille by Busalacchi
MUSIC • FRIENDS • FOOD
619-238-1917 1917 India Street • San Diego
3683 Fifth Avenue • San Diego
1735 India Street • San Diego
We’re open late! Stop by at midnight!
Authentic Sicilian Cuisine
Breakfast, Lunch & Dinner Gelato • Pastries • Coffee Drinks Authentic Italian Decor • Cozy Secluded Patio Pizza • Salad • Pasta • Sandwiches
European Bistro Lunch & Dinner
1731 India Street • San Diego www.cafezucchero.com
1845 India Street • San Diego www.ziasbistro.com
A Casual Family Restaurant in Little Italy!
619-398-2974 1953 India Street • San Diego www.littleitalyspaghetti.com
866 Eastlake Parkway • Chula Vista www.vialagotrattoria.com
Under Same Ownership AdId: R 1916135 - 01 CustId: 8304122318 Dir/Iss: SDOCA DNG 07/2008 UDAC: FPG - CIP
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