byJenniferKelleher Expectations in Relationships

Today, we unpack the theme of expectations in relationships. I recently heard the quote, “expectations are premeditated resentments.” In relationships, this means that if we set expectations in our minds about how the other person should behave and their behaviors do not match our ideas, we can become disappointed and perhaps even resentful.

It is important to recognize that certain expectations in relationships are reasonable. For example, we all deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. We deserve unconditional love, support, intimacy, and passion. When entering into a relationship, it can be helpful to get clear on the non-negotiable expectations you have for your partner. Being clear allows you to notice when expectations are not being met, and honor yourself and the other person by communicating this to them. It also helps you to discern, when you find yourself getting disappointed, whether the expectation at hand is of core importance. Is it a priority? If not, can you focus more on your partner’s positive attributes and less on negativity? For example, what qualities attracted you to your partner in the first place?

It is also possible to have unrealistic expectations in relationships, and these include things like thinking your partner has to be perfect, wanting to change your partner’s values, making your partner the source of all of your happiness, or thinking that you and your partner have to share all of the same beliefs. Expecting more from others than they can realistically provide can negatively impact your relationship, create conflict, and leave you feeling angry and resentful.

Healthline outlines some key signs to help you recognize patterns of unrealistic expectations. If this sounds like you, it may be time to do some self-exploration: (1) You feel stressed and upset when things don’t go as planned or your routine deviates slightly. (2) You find plenty to criticize in yourself and others. (3) You fixate on small details and find it very important to get everything right. (4) When things go wrong, even in minor ways, you feel let down and frustrated. (5) You have very specific visions and find it difficult to accept other possible outcomes. (6) When others don’t fall in line with your plans, you feel irritated and resentful.

If you find yourself having unrealistic expectations for your partner, it is important to pause, gather, and remember a few things. First, we are all flawed. Nobody is perfect and we all do the best we can with what we have. Second, the only person responsible for your happiness is you. Instead of focusing on how your partner can make you happy, focus on how you can make yourself happy. What (that is good for you) makes you feel good? Balance your life with things like nourishing food, exercise, time with loved ones, fresh air, restful sleep, good personal hygiene, and relaxation. When you are good, nurtured, and cared for, your partner will be, too. Third, life is always evolving, and circumstances can change quickly. Come to yoga to learn how to be more flexible in body and mind so that rigid expectations don’t get the best of you!

Join yoga instructor and reiki master Denise Lee on Wednesday, May 10 from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. in a warm, friendly, and supportive setting for a special workshop called Yoga That Heals. Learn how to use breath techniques, energy movement, and restorative yoga postures to uncover and recover from grief. Sign up on oceanblissyoga.net.

Outdoor Pop Up Market

On Saturday, May 6 from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m., head to the Beach 21st Street Plaza for an outdoor market hosted by the Rockaway East Merchants Association.

Belle Harbor Beach Cleanup

On Saturday, May 6 from 10:30 a.m. to 1 p.m., join the BHPOA for a beach cleanup. Meet at the beach wall at Beach 134th Street to get bags, gloves and tools. Bring a rake if you have one.

Earth Day Rockaway

On Saturday, May 6 from 12 p.m. to 4 p.m., head to the RISE Center (58-03 Rockaway Beach Blvd.) to enjoy a day of fun in Rockaway with free environmental activities and programs for families and kids of all ages. There will be live music as well as a mock dolphin rescue, plantings, composting, face painting, water testing, fire safety, and art-related booths.

Blood Drive

On Sunday, May 7 from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m., head to the St. Francis de Sales gym (219 Beach 129th Street) to give the gift of blood in memory of Walter Blum. Bring ID. For more info, call Suzanne at 347-282-0018.

Nature Photography Hike

On Sunday, May 7 at 10 a.m., head to Beach 94th Street and Shore Front Pkwy. to join the Urban Park Rangers for a nature photography walk where plenty of flora and fauna can be captured as well as landscape photography. Participants should bring their own camera or smartphone and will learn basic camera skills for finding shots.

Rockaway Makers Market

On Sunday, May 7 from 12 p.m. to 4 p.m., head to the Rockaway Brewing Co. (415 Beach 72nd Street) for a market featuring local vendors, live music, Jamaican cuisine and the first Junior Makers Mini Market.

Community Board 14

On Tuesday, May 9 at 7:15 p.m., head to the Knights of Columbus (333 Beach

90th Street) for the CB14 monthly meeting. Those wishing to speak must sign up before the meeting.

Morning Moves at RISE

On Thursday, May 11 at 11 a.m., head to the RISE Center (58-03 Rockaway Beach Blvd.) to join Ann Fosteris’ Fitness to You class.

JASA Weekly Yoga

On Mondays at 11 a.m. and Fridays at 11:30 a.m., adults 60+ are welcome to JASA Rockaway Park

Older Adult Center (106-20 Shore Front Parkway) for weekly Yoga with Cynthia. Open to Adults 60+. To register, call: 718-634-3044.

JASA Weekly Arts

On Thursdays at 10 a.m., adults 60+ are welcome to JASA Rockaway Park Older Adult Center (10620 Shore Front Parkway) for weekly painting/arts and crafts. Let your creativity be free! To RSVP and for more details, call: 718-634-3044.

Spring Plant Sale Fundraiser

Join Edgemere Farm for its annual Plant Sale Fundraiser on Sunday, May 7, from 10am to 1pm. Support the farm by getting your plant starts from us (annual & perennial flowers, herbs, and a variety of veggies), participate in ou r seed swap, get a bag of free DSNY ‘Big Apple Compost’, and enjoy a free performance by Rockaway Chamber Music at 11am.

Mother’s Day Half Marathon & Rose Gurry 5K

Save the date. On May 13 at 8 a.m., Rockaway Track Club is hosting its Mother’s Day Half Marathon, Rose Gurry 5K and a one mile walk to help raise funds for St. Camillus Special Olympics. Check in on Beach 94th Street and the boardwalk. The races begin at 9 a.m. Pre-register at: Rockawaytc.org

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Legal Notices

SILVER YOUNG HOLDINGS LLC Articles of Org. filed with NY Sec. of State (SSNY) on 03/18/2023. Office in Queens Co. SSNY designated agent of LLC upon whom process may be served. SSNY shall mail copy of process to 136-20 38th Avenue, Suite 3A-1, Flushing, NY 11354 Purpose: Any lawful purpose.

TRINITY LUXE HAIR CLUB LLC. Art. of Org. filed with the SSNY on 02/17/23. Office: Queens County. SSNY designated as agent of the LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail copy of process to the LLC, 118-30 205TH ST, APT 2 SAINT ALBANS, NY, 11412, USA. Purpose: Any lawful purpose.

Notice of Formation of GM FF II, LLC. Arts. of Org. filed with Secy. of State of NY (SSNY) on 4/3/23. Office location: Queens County. SSNY designated as agent of LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail process to: 42-15 235th St, Douglaston, NY 11363. Purpose: any lawful activity.

Notice of formation of Clique Studios NYC LLC. Articles of Organization filed with the Secretary of State of New York SSNY on August 2, 2022 Office location: Queens County, NY. SSNY is designated for service of process. SSNY shall mail copy of any process served against the LLC to 144-15 243rd Street, Rosedale NY 11422. Purpose: any lawful purpose.

JUNOMRJ PROPERTIES LLC, Arts. of Org. filed with the SSNY on 03/23/2023. Office loc: Queens County. SSNY has been designated as agent upon whom process against the LLC may be served. SSNY shall mail process to: Yury Tsadyk, 6846 Juno Street, Forest Hills, NY 11375. Purpose: Any Lawful Purpose.

Notice of Formation of PEEK A BOO EI LLC, Articles of Organization Filed with the Secretary of State of New York (SSNY) on 11/22/2022. Office location: Queens, NY. SSNY designated as agent of LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail process to 141-28 71st Avenue, Flushing NY 11367. Any lawful purpose.

Notice of Formation of JRPP LLC, Articles of Organization Filed with the Secretary of State of New York SSNY) on 4/3/2023. Office location: Queens, NY. SSNY designated as agent of LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail process to JRPP LLC, 8302 Cornish Ave Apt 3D, Elmhurst, NY 11373. Any lawful purpose.

Notice of Formation of RemoteAir Hvac LLC, Articles of Organization Filed with the Secretary of State of New York (SSNY) on March 15, 2023. Office location: Queens, NY. SSNY designated as agent of LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail process to RemoteAir LLC, 3110 75th St, East Elmhurst, NY 11370. Any lawful purpose.

14-20 130 STREET LLC. Arts. of Org. filed with the SSNY on 03/30/23. Office: Queens County. SSNY designated as agent of the LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail copy of process to the LLC, 55 Bregman Avenue, New Hyde Park, NY 11040. Purpose: Any lawful purpose.

Zhong Geng LLC, Arts of Org.filed with ec. of State of NY (SSNY) 3/14/2023.

Cty: Queens. SSNY desig. as agent upon whom process against may be served & shall mail process to 47-45 189th St., Flushing, NY 11358. General Purpose

144 Sheridan Ave LLC, Arts of Org. filed with Sec. of State of NY (SSNY) 10/27/2022. Cty: Queens. SSNY desig. as agent upon whom process against may be served & shall mail process to Dragisa Fljankovic, 156-51 78th St., Howard Beach, NY 11414. General Purpose

Notice of Formation of ALPHABET GROUP LLC Arts. of Org. filed with SSNY on 06/21/2022. Office location: QUEENS County. SSNY designated as agent of LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail process to: 13211 101ST AVE, FL 2, SOUTH RICHMOND HILL, NY, UNITED STATES, 11419 Purpose: Any lawful activity.

Legal Notices

DEAR GOD LLC Art of Org. filed with the SSNY on 03/17/2023.Office: Queens County. SSNY designated as agent of the LLC upon whom process against it may be served. SSNY shall mail copy of process to the LLC, LEGALCORP SOLUTIONS 1060 Broadway Suite 100 ALBANY, NY 12204 Purpose: Any lawful purpose.

1566 LGP, LLC, Arts of Org. filed with Sec. of State of NY (SSNY) 4/5/2023.

Cty: Queens. SSNY desig. as agent upon whom process against may be served & shall mail process to 3636 Main St., Flushing, NY 11354. General Purpose

4014 3RD AVENUE, LLC Articles of Org. filed NY Sec. of State (SSNY) 5/1/23. Office in Queens Co. SSNY desig. agent of LLC whom process may be served. SSNY shall mail process to 76 Hillside Ave., Manhasset, NY 11030. Purpose: Any lawful purpose. Principal business loc: 43-06 54th Rd., Maspeth, NY 11378.

KENLE DEVELOPMENT LLC Articles of Org. filed with NY Sec. of State (SSNY) on 03/13/2023. Office in Queens Co. SSNY designated agent of LLC upon whom process may be served. SSNY shall mail copy of process to 45-43 ROBINSON ST, QUEENS, NY, 11355, USA. Purpose: Any lawful purpose.

Notice of Formation of Furnify LLC. Articles of Organization filed with the Secretary of State of New York SSNY on 03/04/2023. Office located in Queens, NY. SSNY has been designated for service of process. SSNY shall mail copy of any process served against the LLC 29-59 Northern Blvd, Apt 15R, Queens, NY 11101. Purpose: any lawful purpose.