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Northern Nevada 9th Anniversary

THE BOARD OF TRUSTEES OF THE NATIONAL MULTIPLE SCLEROSIS SOCIETY SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA & NEVADA CHAPTER & DINNER CHAIR NORM DIANDA CORDIALLY INVITE YOU TO JOIN THEM IN

HONORING

MARY SIMMONS

Thursday, August 27, 2015 5:00 pm cocktails 6:30 pm dinner The Silver Legacy Resort Casino, Reno

The Dinner of Champions, honoring community leaders, The Dolan Family, raises critical funds for cutting-edge MS research for better treatments and a cure, as well as services to help people with multiple sclerosis and their families to move their lives forward.

Southern California & Nevada Chapter

For more information, call Linda Lott 775.827.4257

39 NORTH MARKETPLACE: The street fair

showcases the best in art and crafts and highlights produce, health and wellness and specialty food vendors. The event also features cooking demos, food/health tutorials and the Kids Connect Zone. Th, 4-9pm through 7/30; Th, 4-9pm through 8/20. Opens

8/13. Free. Victorian Square, 14th Street and Pyramid Way along Victorian Ave, Sparks, www.39northdowntown.com.

ARTOWN: The 19th annual arts festival offers more than 500 events ranging from live music, dance, theater and performances to visual arts, workshops, multicultural events, fashion shows and tours. Artown events take place in various locations throughout

Reno and Sparks, but the festival’s main locations are Wingfield Park in downtown

Reno and Bartley Ranch Amphitheater in

South Reno. M-Su through 7/31. Free for most events. Call or visit website for details, (775) 322-1538, www.renoisartown.com. BIG RED & FOOD TRUCKS EVENT: Big Red enter-

tains with their blues, swing and big band sounds and six food trucks including Bacon

Mania, Smokers Wild, Green Papaya, Happy

Cow, La Mex and Wandering Boba. Th, 7/16, 6-8pm. no cover. Harrah’s Plaza, 219 North

Center St., (775) 788-2900; www.caesars. com/harrahs-reno/shows/plaza-concerts. CARSON CITY GHOST WALKING TOURS: Explore

Carson City’s rich and intriguing history during seasonal Ghost Walking Tours, led by the theatrically devised and entertaining historical character Madame Curry. The “spirit”-led, guided walking tour takes attendees to some of the downtown district’s westside historic homes and businesses. Some of the outside stops on the tour include The Bliss Mansion, Ferris Mansion and Rinckel Mansion. The 90-minute guided walking tour leaves rain or shine. Please arrive at least 10 minutes before the walk begins. Tours depart from 3rd and Carson streets next to the St. Charles Hotel (Firkin & Fox Pub). Advance tickets are available online at www.brownpapertickets.com. Sa, 7/18, 6:30pm; Sa, 8/15, 6:30pm; Sa, 8/29, 6:30pm; Sa, 9/12, 6:30pm; Sa, 9/19, 6:30pm; Sa,

10/24, 10am-2:30pm. $15 in advance, $20 at the door, free for kids under age 3. Carson

City Ghost Walk, corner of Third and Curry

Streets behind Firkin & Fox/St. Charles Hotel in Carson City, (775) 348-6279, http://carsoncityghostwalk.com. EVENINGS ON THE RANCH: Featured performers

for Wednesday programs include cowboy poet and entertainer Larry Maurice on

July 22 and “Tuned Up and Twisted Cowboy

Poetry” with Tony Argento on July 29.

Bartley’s historic ranch buildings will be open for display at 6 p.m., followed by the programs at 7 p.m., every Wednesday on

Bartley’s Plaza pavilion, located next to the Western Heritage Interpretive Center.

W, 7pm through 7/29. Free or $3 suggested donation. Western Heritage Interpretive

Center, Bartley Ranch Regional Park, 6000

Bartley Ranch Rd.; (775) 828-6612; www.washoecounty.us. FEED THE CAMEL: The family-friendly food truck event features mobile food purveyors, libations and arts. W, 5-8pm through 9/30. McKinley Arts & Culture Center, 925

Riverside Drive, (775) 450-0062; https://www.facebook.com/pages/Feed-

The-Camel/256832417824677?fref=ts.

HEART HEALTH FAIR: Learn about heart health and how you can maintain a healthy heart.

Th, 7/16, 2-4pm. Free. Monaco Ridge Assisted

Living, 10101 Double R Blvd.; (776) 982-7035. JEFF LOCK INSPIRING NATURE SLIDESHOW:

Photographer Jeff Lock and Nevada Fine

Arts present inspiring and captivating slide presentations of adventure and travel during Artown. F, 7/17, 6-7:30pm. Nevada Fine

Arts, 1301 S. Virginia St., (775) 786-1128. LAKE TAHOE SHAKESPEARE FESTIVAL: The 43rd

annual festival features two mainstage productions, Shakespeare’s romantic tragedy, Romeo and Juliet, and the world’s longest-running musical, The Fantasticks. The productions will be performed in rotating repertory by a single company of actors through Aug. 23, Tuesday through Sunday, at 7:30pm. A multi-event Monday Night Showcase and new Summer Encore Showcase will augment the Festival’s 2015 mainstage productions and feature a diverse array of live music and entertainment from a variety of genres. Monday

Night Showcase performances will run from

July 20-Aug. 17, 2015, and Summer Encore

Showcase performances will run from Aug. 27–Sept. 12. M-Su through 9/12. $15-$672.

Sand Harbor State Park, 2005 Hwy. 28 in

Incline Village; (800) 747-4697, http://laketahoeshakespeare.com. LAVENDER DAY: The May Arboretum Society hosts its first Lavender Day at the Labyrinth

Garden. There will be demonstration on harvesting lavender and infusing it, information on its medicinal use and how to include it in recipes. Master gardeners will be on hand to provide tips for growing lavender in Northern Nevada. The Society will have a diverse selection of lavender plants for sale, in addition to sachets, wands and wreaths and edible lavender treats. Sa, 7/18, 9am-noon.

Free. Wilbur D. May Arboretum and Botanical

Garden, Rancho San Rafael Regional Park, 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-4153, www.mayarboretumsociety.org/events.html. LGBT AMERICA PAGEANT: Mr. and Miss LGBT

Northern Nevada will be crowned at this pageant presented by SNV Productions.

Su, 7/19, 4-8pm. $15-$20. Eldorado Resort

Casino, 345 N. Virginia St., (775) 750-7712, www.lgbtamericapageant.com. RAIL CITY FARMERS’ MARKET: The boutique

market will offer fresh produce and products from local farms and food purveyors, including Snyder Family Farms, Workman

Farms, Sand Hill Dairy, the Bakery Gallery and Mitchell Pickle Packing Company. Su, 10am-2pm through 9/27. Free admission. Rail

City Garden Center, 1720 Brierley Way in

Sparks, (775) 355-1551, www.railcitygardencenter.com. RENO STREET FOOD: PARTY IN THE PARK: The

gourmet street food event features more than 25 gourmet food, craft desserts, beer, wine and mixed drinks vendors and live music. Relax in the park and bring your lawn chairs and a blanket. F, 5-9pm through 10/2.

Free admission. Idlewild Park, 1900 Idlewild

Drive, (805) 795-0539. RIVERWALK DISTRICT WINE WALK: Visit any

Riverwalk District Merchant on Wine Walk day to get a map of participating Wine Walk merchants. Go to the participating merchant of your choice, and, with a valid photo ID, you’ll receive a wine glass and an ID bracelet that allows you to sample wine at any participating merchant. Every month offers a different theme and part of all proceeds are donated to a local charity. Third Sa of every month, 2-5pm. $20. The

Riverwalk District, Downtown Reno Along

The Riverwalk, (775) 825-9255, www.renoriver.org. SANDS FARMERS’ MARKET: Eighty vendors

under a 10,000-square foot tent will sell fresh produce and more from the area. Bring the kids to join the fun and activities in the Kids Zone. Live bands perform every week. Th, 4-9pm through 8/27. Free. Sands

Regency Casino Hotel, 345 N. Arlington

Ave., (775) 348-2295, www.shirleysfarmersmarkets.com. SKY TAVERN SUMMER MUSIC SERIES: Sky

Tavern’s family-friendly summer concert series kicks off with a performance by

The Derailment with opening acts Asphalt

Socialites and Liam Kyle Cahill. All donations and food and drink sales benefit the

Sky Tavern Junior Ski Program. Su, 7/19, 12-4:30pm. Free with suggested donation of $10 per adult minimum. Sky Tavern Ski Area

Lodge, 21130 Mount Rose Highway 11 miles west of US 395, (408) 234-6429, www.facebook.com/SkyTavernSummerMusic. SOCIAL SCIENCE: INSIDE YOUR OUTSIDE:

Neurologist J. Ivan Lopez discusses what happens to the brain during a stroke and how to spot a stroke F.A.S.T. Sa, 7/18, 6-9pm. $15 members, $20 non-members; $25 at the door. Terry Lee Wells Nevada Discovery

Museum, 490 S. Center St., (775) 786-1000, http://bit.ly/sciencebrainchat. TRANSGENDER PANEL DISCUSSION: This panel

of experts features transgender persons and health-care professionals who treat and support them. A Q&A session will follow. Th, 7/16, 6:30pm. Free. Brewery Arts Center Performance Hall, 511 W. King St., Carson

City, (775) 220-4151, http://transgenderalliesgroup.org. VALHALLA ART, MUSIC AND THEATRE FESTIVAL:

The 34th annual festival celebrates music, theater and the visual arts with concerts, exhibits, events and activities that continue throughout August. The events occur in the Boathouse Theatre, The Valhalla Grand Hall and the Grand lawn. M-Su through 8/26. Prices vary. Tallac Historic Site, 1 Valhalla Rd. off Highway 89 in South Lake Tahoe, (530) 541-4975, http://valhallatahoe.com.

All Ages

RANCHING AT RANCHO: A fun, free ranchingthemed open house in the main barn area.

Each week features a new theme from goats to tractors and everything else in between.

Visit with resident chickens and turkeys, cool off inside the Discovery Room or your little one can enjoy a pony ride for only $5. Themed

Ranching at Rancho activities will only be offered on Saturdays, but you can ride the ponies on Friday, Saturday or Sunday between 10am-1pm each week. M-Su, 10am1pm through 11/21. Free admission; $5 for pony rides. Rancho San Rafael Regional Park, 1595

N. Sierra St., (775) 785-4512, www.washoecounty.us.

Art

ARTISTS CO-OP OF RENO GALLERY: Rockin’ Out

Art Show, More than 150 artists share their work in this benefit art show. More than 20 percent of the proceeds will be donated to the Nevada Rock Art Foundation. M-Su, 11am-4pm through 7/31. Free admission. 627

Mill St., (775) 322-8896, www.artistscoopgalleryreno.com. FIRST UNITED METHODIST CHURCH: Around the

World: An Artown Event, Go on a visual art journey with the artists from the Latimer Art Club and see an array of original artwork taken from members’ travels near and far. Through 7/31, 9am-4pm; Tu, 7/21,

7pm; Tu, 7/28, 7pm. Free. Contact Linda

Walker (775) 322-4564, RFUMCOffice@gmail. com, www.latimerartclub.com for details on this exhibit. 209 W. First St., (775) 322-4564. FRIENDS OF NEVADA WILDERNESS: Wild Nevada

Exhibit, The second annual Artown exhibit features the work of noteworthy artists and photographers as they celebrate the beauty of Nevada’s public lands. All of the art in the exhibit will be available for sale with a portion of the proceeds going to support Friends of Nevada Wilderness’ programs throughout Nevada in preserving wild lands. M-F, 10am-4pm through 7/31. Free, donation

appreciated. Contact Shevawn Von Tobel (775) 324-7667, shevawn@nevadawilderness. org, www.nevadawilderness.org/artown for details on this exhibit. 1360 Greg St., Sparks, (775) 324-7667. HOLLAND PROJECT GALLERY: Shape of Memory,

The exhibit features intaglio prints and hand made books by current University of Nevada, Reno master of fine arts student Quynh Tran. Through spontaneous mark making, repetition and layering of lines, shapes and color, Tran’s work sets out to convey the experiences and struggles she faces as a native Vietnamese woman encountering cultural differences in America. n opening reception with the artist will be held on Thursday, July 16, from 6-8pm. Tu-F, 3-6pm through 7/31; Th, 7/16,

6-8pm. Free. Contact Alisha Funkhosuer (775) 742-1858, alisha@hollandreno.org, www.hollandreno.org/event/shape-of-memory for details on this exhibit.Geo-Gami, Local artist Vance Houston will exhibit new sculptural works intricately engineered from thousands of sheets of folded paper. Through obsession and true dedication, Houston takes the traditional art of origami to the next level. There will be an opening reception with the artist on Thursday, July 16, from 6-8pm. Tu-F, 3-6pm through 7/31; Th,

7/16, 6-8pm. Free. Contact Alisha Funkhouser (775) 742-1858, alisha@hollandreno.org, www.hollandreno.org/event/geo-gami for details on this exhibit. 140 Vesta St., (775) 742-1858, www.hollandreno.org.

COFFEE CO.: Capturing the Sound, moments captured on film poignantly document the emotions and experiences of the photographers. This photo exhibition will showcase local bands and shows at venues and DIY music spaces in Reno. M-Su through 7/31;

Sa, 7/18, 6-8pm. Free. Contact Summer Orr & Lupe Reyes (775) 742-1858, intern@hollandreno.org, www.hollandreno.org/event/ capturing-the-sound for details on this exhibit. 945 Record St., (775) 348-8087. JOT TRAVIS BUILDING, UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA,

RENO: I Am My Brother’s Keeper, Yad

Vashem’s new exhibition pays tribute to the courageous deeds of the Righteous

Among the Nations and to the resilience and determination of those who survived the Holocaust. The exhibition makes use of state-of-the-art multimedia productions to bring the actual voices of both the rescuers and those who were rescued to the audience, reflecting upon their moral choices and engaging the audience to contemplate how spontaneous, intuitive decisions can make a difference and save lives.

Through 8/15, 4-8pm. Free. 900 N. Virginia

St., (775) 784-6837. MCKINLEY ARTS & CULTURE CENTER: Fifty

Requiem for a scream

I’m a 28-year-old woman in a relationship with a really great guy. The problem is, it started as a hookup, and

I faked my orgasm. I didn’t announce I was having one, but I, um, made certain noises. I was enjoying myself, but I just didn’t feel one coming, and I didn’t want him to feel bad. Now that we’re “a thing,” I can’t keep faking, but I’m not sure how to tell him.

There are a number of reasons women fake orgasms, like that the guy is taking forever. The woman’s thinking, “What is this, the slow train to Siberia? No, the bus. The slow bus. Over the back roads. With a day trip to Latvia. Hey, driver! This is my stop.

Stop the bus, please! I know—maybe this’ll work:

Aahhhh-aaaaah-AAAAAAAH!” Movies—and not just the dirty ones—also lead to orgasm fakery, giving us distorted expectations of how orgasms look and sound and how quickly they happen for a woman, even in casual sex with a stranger. (Welcome to the toilet stall or car hood insta-gasm!) Back here in real life, research by sociologist

Elizabeth A. Armstrong finds that, on average, in a first or second hookup involving intercourse, a woman has only a 35 percent chance of getting to the big finish (compared with a 75 percent chance if she’s having sex in a relationship). A woman’s chances do increase the more she hooks up with a particular bedfella. But often, until a hookup becomes a regular thing, a man will have his cake, and, yes, a woman will have hers, too, but somebody clears the plate before she gets to the frosting. The value of practice isn’t exactly surprising, considering that even for a guy trying his bestest, hooking up with a new girl can be like driving a rental car: You hit what you think is the turn signal, and— oops!—there go the windshield wipers and the car alarm. Of course, it doesn’t help that a woman tends to feel awkward detailing her sexual needs to a man she barely knows: “Hold on—let me pull out the 41-page manual.” As you’ve discovered, the problem comes when

Hookup Guy becomes Boyfriend Guy and is under the impression that he’s providing happy endings and not the never-ending middle. The right time to correct this is as soon as possible (though not while you’re in bed).

Explain why you love sex with him and then confess:

You faked it the first time and didn’t quite know how to roll back from that.

Shades of Green: Antonia Lowden, McKinley

Gallery West hosts new work by local artist

Antonia Lowden. Fifty Shades of Green features tapestries that explore the artist’s changing impression of the Arizona landscape in winter. M-F, 8am-5pm through 8/14.

Free. .Snow Drawings: Sonja Hinrichsen,

McKinley Gallery East hosts new work by

Sonja Hinrichsen. Snow Drawings is an ongoing environmental project in which the artist draws designs into fresh snow Pledge that in the future you’ll only cheer when your team is winning, and tell him that the next time on open fields. M-F, 8am-5pm through 8/14. you’re in bed, you’ll show him what works for you.

Free. Contact Nate Clark (775) 334-6264, clarkn@reno.gov, www.renoculture.com (Basically, guide him like you would a fireman: “This for details. 925 Riverside Drive, way! No, over here! HURRY!!!”) After a few test runs, (775) 334-2417. he should feel secure that if you’re screaming during METRO GALLERY AT RENO CITY HALL: Under sex it’s because he’s truly showing you a good time.

Shelter: Judy Schott, Metro Gallery in City

Hall host new work by local artist Judy

Schott. The exhibit features 25 portraits of people living in family shelters run by Volunteers of America. Each image is Flee market accompanied by a short story from the individuals. M-F, 9am-5pm through 8/14. Free. Contact Nate Clark (775) 334-6264, clarkn@reno.gov, www.renoculture.com capitalism for details on this exhibit. 1 E. First St., (775) 334-2417. You recently printed a letter from a woman who NORTH TAHOE ARTS CENTER: Two New Exhibits had decided to stop dating so she could make better at North Tahoe Arts, All in the Details fea- choices about men. I also decided to do this, though tures new watercolors by Lisa Jefferson in the Main Gallery and Abstract Realities, a collection of mixed media paintings and I haven’t had her trouble in sticking to my plan. The thing is, since I stopped dating, I have been deluged collage by Connie Rodriguez and Tricia with suitors. Coincidence? Or do men sense when

Poulos Leonard, will be on display in the Corison Loft Gallery. Through 8/3, 11am-5pm. you’ve packed away your desperation?

Free. Contact North Tahoe Arts (530) 581- Men, like all of us, are most attracted to what’s some2787, exhibits@northtahoearts.com, www.northtahoearts.com for details on this exhibit. 380 North Lake Blvd. Art what out of reach. Had Rapunzel been sitting behind an unlocked window on the first floor, she would have

Gallery & Gift Shop in Tahoe City, been just another chick with a hairbrush. (530) 581-2787; www.northtahoearts.com. Value is actually a relative thing. A lack of SIERRA ARTS GALLERY: Wise Witches: A col- supply—something being or seeming rare and hard lection by Franz Szony, The exhibition features a gallery of “photographic busts” to get—tends to increase demand (as in, desirability). and dreamscapes celebrating the divine Consider the pricing of different sorts of rocks, and feminine, the androgynous and the supernatural. Tu-Sa, 10am-5pm through 7/31. Free. why you see Jared ads for expensive diamond rings 17 S. Virginia St. Ste. 120; (775) 329-2787; and not expensive princess-cut gray speckled pebbles: www.sierra-arts.org. “Just $5,901.76, for this lovely bit of roadside gravel!” UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA, RENO: Reflections Understanding the value of scarcity can help you on Pyramid Lake, An exhibit put on by the University of Nevada Reno’s Special transform how you act with men—and, in turn, how

Collections showcasing historic, artistic, they treat you. There’s this mistaken notion that scientific, native and natural visions. M-F through 9/15. Free. 1664 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-1110; www.unr.edu. you have to feel secure before you can act that way. Actually, you can simply act more secure—though it won’t feel “natural” at first—and you should find Museums that men respond to you as if you are more secure. NATIONAL AUTOMOBILE MUSEUM (THE HARRAH Combine that with a mindset of “I hope I like them”

COLLECTION): SpaceMobiles: From Rockets instead of “I hope they like me” and you should find and Rovers to Cars on Mars, This exhibit takes a look at America’s fascination with exploring new frontiers and the machines yourself coolly considering prospective suitors—as opposed to answering the door to a confused pizza that make it possible. M-Su through 4/11. delivery guy with, “I cleared a drawer for you. Pick a $4-$10, free for members and children age 5 and younger. Contact National Auto toothbrush.” Ω

Museum (775) 333-9300, www.automuseum. org/exhibits for details on this exhibit. 10 S. Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., No.

Lake St., (775) 333-9300. 280, Santa Monica,CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com).