constructed of edible materials. Visit the gingerbread house display and vote for your favorite gingerbread creation. Enjoy holiday music performed by local choral groups and musicians. Join the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators for a reception and book signing. Sa, 12/10, noon-3:30pm. Free admission, $10 competition entry. Wilbur D. May Museum, Rancho San Rafael Regional Park, 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-5961, www.mayarboretumsociety.org.
HANDS ON! SECOND SATURDAYS: Enjoy free admission, live performances, hands-on art activities and storytelling in this free monthly program for families. Second Sa of every month, 10am-6pm. Free. Nevada Museum of Art, 160 W. Liberty St., (775) 329-3333, www.nevadaart.org.
INSIDE OUT: AN ANATOMY EXPERIENCE: This exhibition will take you on a journey into the curiosities of human anatomy. Through digital and hands-on exhibits, you’ll learn how our bodies work, grow, age and heal. Tu-Su. $9-$10. Terry Lee Wells Nevada Discovery Museum, 490 S. Center St., (775) 786-1000.
PHOTOS WITH FATHER CHRISTMAS: Meet Father Christmas and create a holiday memory. Sa, 12/10, 11am-3pm; Su, 12/11,
11am-3pm; Sa, 12/17, 11am-3pm; Su, 12/18, 11am-3pm. Virginia City Visitors Center, 86 S. C St., Virginia City, (775) 847-7500.
SUPPLEMENTAL NUTRITION ASSISTANCE PROGRAM (SNAP) OUTREACH CLINIC: The Food Bank of Northern Nevada hosts SNAP outreach clinics to assist lowincome families and individuals in applying for SNAP benefits. First come, first served. Th, 10am-noon. Free. Downtown Reno Library, 301 S. Center St., (775) 327-8312.
V&T CANDY CANE EXPRESS: The holidaythemed, 50-minute train ride along the V&T railroad route includes hot cocoa, hot cider, cookies, candy canes, carols and a reading of the 1832 classic “’Twas the Night Before Christmas.” Sa, 12/10, noon & 2pm; Su, 12/11, noon & 2pm. $19 adults, $8 children ages 2-12. 1870 Virginia & Truckee Railroad Depot, 166 F St., Virginia City, (775) 847-0380, http://virginiatruckee.com.
Art ART INDEED! SIERRA MEMORIAL ART SPACE: Humankind Over Progress. The abstract art gallery is open for an artist reception on Dec. 11 and the Riverwalk Wine Walk on Dec. 17. Gallery hours are 3:30-7pm Monday-Thursday or by appointment. Su, 12/11, 2-5pm; Sa, 12/17, 2-5pm. Free. 142 Bell St., (775) 846-8367, http://artindeed.com.
ARTISTS CO-OP OF RENO GALLERY: Christmas 50. The Artists Co-op of Reno presents its 50th annual Christmas show featuring the artwork and crafts of local artists. The show and sale is open every day through Dec. 28, with the exception of Christmas Day. M-Su, 11am-4pm through 12/28. Free. 627 Mill St., (775) 322-8896.
HOLLAND PROJECT MICRO GALLERY AT BIBO COFFEE CO.: Sweet Coalesce. Inspired by pop surrealism, local artist Megan Jewett uses watercolor and gouache to create sickeningly sweet paintings depicting tasty treats with a dark twist. Her dessert-inspired work is influenced by the colorful culture of the 1980s and Japanese animation. M-Su through 12/8; Casey Clark Pop-Up Shop and Exhibition. The local potter and ceramics instructor
specializes in unique handcrafted mugs. Mugs will be available for cash only from 6:30am-8pm Monday through Friday and 8am-9pm Saturdays and Sundays. 12/1212/30. 945 Record St., www.hollandreno. org.
HOLMAN ARTS & MEDIA CENTER, SIERRA NEVADA COLLEGE: Leaching Fire. Sierra Nevada College BFA exhibit; a talk by artist Ian Wieczorek on Dec. 8. Th, 12/8, 5-7pm; M-Su through 12/16. Opens 12/8. Free. 1008 Highway 28, Incline Village, (775) 831-1314.
JOT TRAVIS BUILDING, UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA, RENO: Annual Art Student Exhibition. Annual juried exhibition of current students in the University of Nevada, Reno visual arts program. Tu-F, 11am4pm through 12/15; Annual Art Student Exhibition Reception. Th, 12/8, 6pm. Free. 1664 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-6837.
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MCKINLEY ARTS & CULTURE CENTER: Filtered: Paintings by Ashley Follmer. Follmer’s series of oil paintings portrays the effect of mobile devices on interpersonal communication. Through 12/30; Book + Publication Arts: Black Rock Press, The Black Rock Press preserves the history and traditions of the art of the book while turning a creative and critical eye toward its relevance in contemporary art and culture. Through 12/30. Free. 925 Riverside Drive, (775) 334-2417.
METRO GALLERY AT RENO CITY HALL: NonObjective Dimension: Monique Rebelle. Abstract painter Monique Rebelle’s series of oil paintings deals with transcendence and a breakthrough in perception. M-F, through 12/30, 8am-5pm. Free. 1 E. First St., (775) 334-2417.
NORTHWEST RENO LIBRARY: Wild Open Art Show. A solo show by landscape painter Bonita Paulis. M-Sa through 12/24; 10am5pm. 2325 Robb Drive, (775) 787-4100.
SHEPPARD CONTEMPORARY GALLERY, CHURCH FINE ARTS BUILDING, UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA, RENO: FABRICation. Artists Erin Castellan, Kristy Deetz, Virginia Derryberry, Reni Gower, Rachel Hayes, Susan Iverson and Natalie Smith incorporate a textile sensibility in their artwork through elements of fabric and fabrication. Tu-Sa, noon-4pm through 12/15. Free. 1664 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-6658.
WILBUR D. MAY MUSEUM, RANCHO SAN RAFAEL REGIONAL PARK: Around the World in 40 Days, The Sierra Watercolor Society returns to the Wilbur D. May Museum with a new exhibition of original watercolor paintings. Local and regional artists were asked to paint places they have visited or want to visit, favorite views, special events and other scenes. The result is the “Around the World in 40 Days” exhibition, featuring dozens of paintings that evoke the allure and beauty of travel. All paintings in the exhibition are available for purchase. Visitors are also invited to vote for their favorite painting to win the “People’s Choice Award.” W-Su through 12/18. Free. 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-5961.
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Do no harem I’ve been happily married to the same wonderful guy for 20 years. However, the longer we’re together the harder it is to remain faithful—for both of us. Sex and skin are everywhere these days, and men are especially impacted by the barrage of provocative images. How does a woman realistically balance this with the desire to have a relationship that’s monogamous in body and mind? A man can love you to pieces and count his blessings every day you two are together—and it won’t stop him from wanting to see your sister bend over. Sure, it can sometimes happen that a man “only has eyes for you”—like if you and he are kidnapped and held hostage in a small, windowless room. Otherwise, because male sexuality is visually driven, his eyes are likely to scamper up any yummy mummy or big-booty Judy passing by. But there’s good news from neuroscience: Contrary to what most women believe, this—in and of itself—is not a sign of bad character. Though you can have a monogamous relationship, our minds are anything but monogamous and, in fact, pretty much have minds of their own. As neuroscientist Michael Gazzaniga explains, about 98 percent of our brain’s activity happens beyond our conscious awareness—including some of the “reasoning” behind our choices and where our attention runs off to. Key players in who and what we’re drawn to are our brain’s “reward circuitry” and the neurotransmitter dopamine, pushing us to pay attention to and go after stuff that will help us survive and pass on our genes. Dopamine is ever on the lookout for this stuff—including hotties, or, as neuroscientist Wolfram Schultz puts it, “reward-predicting visual stimuli.” Understanding the neuroscience behind attraction is helpful—revealing that attraction is a physiological reaction, like being tired or hungry. The problem is that it’s been seen as a shameful personal failing—instead of the biological predisposition it is—to merely feel an attraction to someone other than your spouse. This means that
the “forsaking all others” business in the wedding vows is often the first and last time the subject gets discussed. However, the late infidelity researcher Peggy Vaughan explained that a couple are more likely to remain faithful if they admit that “attractions to others are likely—indeed inevitable—no matter how much they love each other.” This allows them to engage in “ongoing honest communication about … how to avoid the consequences of acting on those temptations.” In other words, it’s by admitting that we have a problem that we can get cracking on how to solve it.
Censor and sensibility My boyfriend is very smart, but he curses. A lot. Even in front of my family. He says I shouldn’t try to curtail his free expression and mentioned some news report that said smarter people curse more. Am I being a tight-xxx? Or is he full of xxxx? There’s no evidence that smarter people curse more. The actual finding—by swearing researchers Kristin and Timothy Jay—is that people who can rattle off a lot of words—those who have “verbal fluency”— can also rattle off a lot of swear words. I’m no priss about profanity. However, as I explain in Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck, “at the root of manners is empathy”—caring about the impact your behavior has on other people. Your parents are likely to see your boyfriend’s bratty insistence on talking however he effin’ pleases, as a sign of disrespect. It suggests an aggressive, narcissistic lack of interest in others’ feelings—including yours. That’s not exactly a selling point in a partner, plus it could lead you to dread being around your family.
Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., No. 280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com).
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