Advice Goddess

solve a murder and shop at the silent auction. F, 10/21, 6-10pm. $45-$55. Hidden Valley Country Club, 3575 E. Hidden Valley Drive, (775) 323-5511.

WOMEN AS CHANGE MAKERS SUMMIT: Women

As Change Makers is designed to provide women with the tools, knowledge and network to take their business or career to the next level. WACM is an annual event benefiting Zawadisha, a local social enterprise whose mission is to provide small loans to Kenyan women to help finance their livelihoods. F, 10/21, 9am-5pm. $85$325. Whitney Peak Hotel, 255 N. Virginia St., (530) 416-5682, www.wacm.co.

ALL Ages

DOWNTOWN LIBRARY STORY TIME: Stories and

activities especially for the preschool child. Tu, 10:30am. Free. Downtown Reno Library, 301 S. Center St., (775) 327-8312.

FAMILY GAME NIGHT: Come into the library, find a table, grab a game and have some fun. Second and fourth W of every month,

4:30-6:30pm. Free. Northwest Reno Library, 2325 Robb Drive, (775) 787-4100.

GALENA TODDLERS: This nature education program for toddlers includes storytime, outdoor exploration and crafts. Third

Th of every month, 10am through 3/16. $5

suggested donation. Galena Creek Visitor Center, 18250 Mt. Rose Highway, (775) 8494948, www.galenacreekvisitorcenter.org.

INSIDE OUT: AN ANATOMY EXPERIENCE: This

exhibition will take you on a journey into the curiosities of human anatomy. Through digital and hands-on exhibits, you’ll learn how our bodies work, grow, age and heal. Tu-Su. $9-$10. Terry Lee Wells Nevada Discovery Museum, 490 S. Center St., (775) 786-1000, www.nvdm.org.

SUPPLEMENTAL NUTRITION ASSISTANCE

PROGRAM (SNAP) OUTREACH CLINIC: The

Food Bank of Northern Nevada hosts SNAP outreach clinics to assist low-income families and individuals in applying for SNAP benefits. First come, first served. Th, 10am-noon. Free. Downtown Reno Library, 301 S. Center St., (775) 327-8312.

ArT

CARSON CITY COMMUNITY CENTER: Silver

StateSwimmer. The Capital City Arts Initiative presents artwork by Michael Malley at the Carson City Community Center’s Sierra Room. M-Th, 8am-5pm through 11/10. Free. 851 E. William St., Carson City, (775) 887-2290.

FRONT DOOR GALLERY, CHURCH FINE ARTS

BUILDING, UNIVERSITY OF NEVADA,

RENO: BrettFlanigan. The first show in University Galleries’ new mural series features mural art by the Oakland-based artist. M-F through 11/11. Free. 1664 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-6658.

MCKINLEY ARTS & CULTURE CENTER: Horse,

Paula Rie Bonham’s series of mixed media paintings focuses on movement and strength expressed through the powerful image of the horse. M-Su through 11/4. 925 Riverside Drive, (775) 334-2417.

METRO GALLERY AT RENO CITY HALL: New

WorksfromtheStudioArtQuilts. Through 11/4. Free. 1 E. First St., (775) 334-2417. AmongUs…ArtShow. Featuring visual artists from Nevada and California with food by Nom Eats and music by DJ Elzo. Sa, 10/22, 6-10pm. Free. 1108 California Ave., (775) 476-2003.

SHEPPARD CONTEMPORARY GALLERY, CHURCH

FINE ARTS BUILDING, UNIVERSITY OF

NEVADA, RENO: SameerFarooq:Blind Forms. Tu-Th, noon-4pm through 10/22; J. Antoni&S.Petronio:HoneyBaby, Tu-F, noon-4pm through 10/22. Free. 1664 N.

Virginia St., (775) 784-6658.

SIERRA ARTS GALLERY: MeetVisitingArtist

JenniferValloric. Weaver Jennifer Valloric will be on hand to describe her work and answer questions about her latest sitespecific installation at Sierra Arts Gallery. Th, 10/20, 5-7pm. Free. 17 S. Virginia St., Ste. 120, (775) 329-2787, www.sierra-arts.org.

TAHOE GALLERY AT SIERRA NEVADA COLLEGE:

Blindsides:LivAanrud. A show of Aanrud’s tapestries. Th, 10/20, 5-7pm. Free. 999 Tahoe Blvd., Incline Village, (775) 831-1314.

MuseuMs

FOURTH WARD SCHOOL MUSEUM: The

ComstockThroughTime. This exhibit highlights some of the history of the Comstock through photographs and personal accounts. Then-and-now photographs help to emphasize the changes in the community and surrounding area. Books, journal entries and oral histories will give the visitor a first-hand account of daily life. M-Su, 10am-5pm through 10/31. $5

adults, $3 for children ages 6-16, free for children age 5 and younger. 537 S. C St., Virginia City, (775) 847-0975.

LAKE MANSION: FreeGuidedToursatthe

LakeMansion. The Lake Mansion is one of the few residences in the area that is listed on the Nevada State Register of

Historic Places and the National Register of Historic Places that is also open to the public to explore. F, noon through 12/31.

Free admission, donations accepted. 250 Court St., (775) 826-6100.

NEVADA MUSEUM OF ART: TrevorPaglen:

OrbitalReflector, W-Su through 12/31;

AnthonyMcCall:Swell, W-Su through 1/8;

UgoRondinone:SevenMagicMountains,

W-Su through 5/11; AndreaZittel:

Wallsprawl, W-Su through 12/31; Dennis

Parks:Land,LanguageandClay, W-Su through 1/8; AiWeiwei—CircleofAnimals/

ZodiacHeads:Gold, W-Su through 10/23;

TiltingtheBasin:ContemporaryArtof

Nevada, W-Su through 10/23; Contemporary

Nevada:StateoftheState, W-Su through 10/23; RobertAdams:AroundtheHouse,

W-Su through 12/11; LeikoIkemura:Poetics ofForm, W-Su through 1/15. $1-$10. 160 W.

Liberty St., (775) 329-3333.

WILBUR D. MAY MUSEUM, RANCHO SAN RAFAEL

REGIONAL PARK: MarriedtoAdventure. The safari-themed exhibition tells the story of Martin and Osa Johnson—daring naturalists, filmmakers, photographers, explorers and American heroes of the 1910s-1930s. This exhibition is on loan from the Safari Museum in Chanute, Kansas and features more than 100 original photographs, movie posters and artifacts that capture the romance and adventure that characterized Martin and Osa’s life together. W-Su through 10/30. $8-$9. 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-5961.

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Talk dirt-cheap to me

by AMY ALKON

My husband of a year is very tight with cash. It’s always save, save, save. I recently traded in my car, and I needed $1,000 more for the new one, but he never offered to give it to me. My parents ended up paying it. I make my own money, but not a lot, and I’m wondering what kind of financial arrangement makes sense in a marriage. Your husband comes into the living room, and there you are—sitting on the floor with a Starbucks cup and a cardboard sign that says, “Anything helps. God bless.”

Unfortunately, the passive-aggressiveness of the wife-as-panhandler approach is toxic in the long run. However, the theatrics would get your message across better than the nonverbal forms of communication you’ve probably been using.

If you want something from your husband, you have to put that out there in spoken-word form. But beyond that, you two need to sit down and hammer out a fiscal policy for your relationship—where the lines get drawn on “yours”/“mine”/“ours” and “what if one of us has a financial crisis and needs an alternative to, oh, stealing a mule to get to work every day?”

In coming up with this policy, it’s important to go beyond the cold dollars-and-cents view and discuss each other’s attitudes surrounding money, especially any issues and fears. Then, when there’s a conflict, each of you can maybe start with a little compassion for the other’s point of view.

It also might help to understand that our views about money are influenced by genetics and what behavioral ecologists call our “life history strategy”—a term that relates to whether our upbringing was stable and “safe” or risky and unpredictable. Child development researcher Jay Belsky and his colleagues find that a stable childhood environment tends to lead to a more future-oriented approach (saving, for example), whereas, say, growing up ducking gunfire or just having divorced parents and getting moved around a lot tends to lead to a more now-oriented approach (spendorama!).

Family studies researcher Jeffrey Dew finds that married couples with a bunch of “consumer debt” (owing on credit cards, loans for consumer goods, and past-due bills) fight more about everything—from sex to chores to in-laws. Research by sociologist Carolyn Vogler, among others, finds that couples who pool their money (like their money got married, too!) tend to be happier. I would guess that the spirit in this is important—“us against the world!” instead of, “If you lose your job and can’t pay your share of the rent, don’t worry, baby. I’ll help you pitch your tent on the front lawn.”

Leaf him alone!

Pot is legal where I live, and it helps ease my knee pain from years of running. I’ve noticed that it also makes me feel more sensual. I want to share the marijuana experience with my boyfriend when we make love, but he says pot makes him “inert” and “obsessively analytic.” How do I get him to be more open-minded? Welcome to what biologist Ernst Mayr called “human variability”—the existence of individual differences. We see it in how some of us enjoy a surprise kick of peanut butter in our chocolate milkshake, while for others, it’s “Wow … look how I’ve swelled up, just like a human balloon.” Likewise, research on the cognitive impact of pot by neuroscientist Antonio Verdejo-Garcia shows varying effects on research participants’ “sustained attention” (among other things)—in line with which one of two genotypes they have.

Consider that being nagged to start smoking pot is probably as annoying as being nagged to stop. Sure, you have the best of intentions—sharing your sensual experience with him. And, if he smokes pot, you can—after he stops communing with the rug, asking the little fibers, “Did you ever consider that the tortilla is the perfect metaphor for human consciousness?” Ω

Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., No. 280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com).

Poetry/Literature

WORDWAVE BOOK FEST IN TAHOE: The festival

includes Native American storytelling, speakers and workshops for readers and writers, a makers’ faire with letterpress equipment and a novel-writing camp for kids. Sa, 10/22, 9:30am-10pm; Su,

10/23, 11am-1pm. Free admission. Valhalla Grand Hall/Grand Lawn, Tallac Historic Site, 1 Valhalla Road, South Lake Tahoe, www.tahoewordwave.com.

Music

JAZZ BENEFIT CONCERT: The University

of Nevada, Reno’s program in Jazz & Improvisational Music presents trumpeter Dave Douglas accompanied by the Westerlies, a New York-based brass quartet that includes Riley Mulherkar and Zubin Hensler on trumpet and Andy Clausen and Willem de Koch on trombone. The concert also will feature University jazz faculty and students in collaboration with Douglas and the Westerlies. All proceeds from the concert will help fund future efforts by the program. M, 10/24, 7:30pm. $25; $5 for UNR students with ID. Nightingale Concert Hall, Church Fine Arts Building, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-4278.

LIFE IN COLOR: The “World’s Largest Paint

Party” features Adventure Club and

Ghastly. Sa, 10/22, 9pm. $25.03-$64.39.

Reno Events Center, 400 N. Center St., (775) 335-8800. NV WIND ENSEMBLE/NEVADA CHAMBER

SINGERS: The Nevada Wind Ensemble and Chamber Singers will perform masterworks of the wind band and choral repertoire. W, 10/26, 7:30pm. $5; free for UNR students with ID. Nightingale Concert Hall, Church Fine Arts Building, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-4278.

SLAYER WITH ANTHRAX AND DEATH ANGEL:

The thrash metal bands perform. Su, 10/23, 7pm. $39.50. Reno Events Center, 400 N. Center St., (775) 335-8800.

SUNDAY JAZZ AT RENO LITTLE THEATER: For

the Love of Jazz and KNCJ presents this monthly jazz event featuring mimosas, treats and live music by local jazz musicians. This month’s artist is vocalist Carolyn Dolan with Peter Supersano on keys. Pay what you can tickets. Su, 10/23, 10:30am. Reno Little Theater, 147 E. Pueblo St., (775) 813-8900.

TRAILER PARK TROUBADOURS: Singer-

songwriter Antsy McClain and his band bring their unique blend of music and “humor with heart” to the stage. Th, 10/20, 7pm. $30. Piper’s Opera House, 12 N. B St., Virginia City, (775) 843-5887.

UNIVERSITY JAZZ ENSEMBLE 1: The

University of Nevada, Reno’s large jazz ensemble plays big band music of the past, present and future. Th, 10/20, 7:30pm. $5; free for UNR students with ID. Nightingale Concert Hall, Church Fine Arts Building, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-4278.

10/23:

PumpkinPalooza

The annual harvest festival features a pumpkin derby, children’s costume parade, storytelling, carnival-style games, pie-eating, pumpkinseed spitting, marshmallow shooting and mummywrapping contests, live music and more. The event benefits the Nevada Nevada Center for Independent Living. The festivities take place from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Sunday, Oct. 23, at Victorian Square in downtown Sparks. Admission is free. Call 353-3599 or visit www.pumpkinpalooza.org.

sPorts & Fitness

GALENA CREEK GUIDED HIKE: Join a natural-

ist along one of the Galena Park trails and learn about the area. Sa, 10am. $5 donation. Galena Creek Visitor Center, 18250 Mt. Rose Highway, (775) 849-4948, www.galenacreekvisitorcenter.org.

onstage

MEREDITH WILLSON’S THE MUSIC MAN:

Nevada Repertory Company presents the Tony Award-winning Broadway musical about a fast-talking traveling salesman whose plans to fool naive townsfolk and skip town with the cash are foiled when he falls for Marian, the town’s librarian. F, 10/21, 7:30pm; Sa, 10/22, 7:30pm; Su, 10/23, 1:30pm; W, 10/26, 7:30pm; Th, 10/27, 7:30pm; Sa, 10/29, 7:30pm; Su, 10/30, 1:30pm; 11/2-11/5,

7:30pm. $20; $18 seniors, children ages 2-18 and UNR faculty/staff with ID; $5 for UNR students with ID (limited quantity). Redfield Proscenium Theatre, Church Fine Arts Building, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-4278, www.unr.edu/arts.

MONTY PYTHON’S SPAMALOT: Lovingly ripped

off from the classic film comedy, Monty PythonandHolyGrail, Spamalotretells the legend of King Arthur and his Knights of the Round Table. F, 10/21, 7-9pm; Sa, 10/22, 7-9pm; Su, 10/23, 2-4pm. $20 gen-

eral admission, $18 students, seniors, $16 BAC members. Brewery Arts Center, 449 W. King St., Carson City, (775) 883-1976, www.breweryarts.org.

SILENCE! THE MUSICAL: Good Luck Macbeth

Theatre Company presents this musical parody of the 1991 film TheSilence oftheLambs. Th, 10/20, 7:30-9:30pm; F, 10/21, 7:30-9:30pm; Sa, 10/22, 7:30-9:30pm.

$15 in advance, $18 at the door. Good Luck Macbeth Theatre Company, 713 S. Virginia St., (775) 322-3716. STAGE KISS: Brüka Theatre opens its 20162017 season with Sarah Ruhl’s romantic comedy about what happens when lovers share a stage kiss—or when actors share a real one. Th, 10/20, 8pm; F, 10/21, 8pm; Sa, 10/22, 8pm. $20 general admis-

sion, $18 students, seniors, military, $25 at the door. Brüka Theatre, 99 N. Virginia St., (775) 323-3221, www.bruka.org.

THREE ONE ACT PLAYS AT THE BOATHOUSE:

WordWave presents the three winners of its one-act play contest. “Joint Chiefs,” “Death and the Psychiatrist” and “In the Garden” will be performed. Sa, 10/22, 7:30pm. $10. Valhalla Boathouse Theater, Tallac Historic Site, 1 Valhalla Road, South Lake Tahoe, (530) 545-1373.

cLasses

THE BASICS: ALZHEIMER’S DISEASE: Learn

about the differences between normal aging and dementia, the basics of Alzheimer’s disease and related disorders, the diagnostic process and management of the disease, as well as resources offered by the Alzheimer’s Association, keys for planning for the future and how family members and caregivers can help the person with dementia. Th, 10/20, 1:30-3pm. Free.

Arbors Memory Care Community, 2121 E. Prater Way, Sparks, (800) 272-3900, www.communityresourcefinder.org.

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