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by AMY ALKON Reno Bites Restaurant Week
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The fifth annual culinary event encourages local foodies to explore Reno’s culinary culture. Dozens of participating chefs and restaurants, including Bistro 7, Brasserie St. James, Campo, Chez Louie, Homage, Noble Pie Parlor, among others, will offer specialty items, price points and signature events ranging from global culinary tours to meals invoking bygone eras and spooky tales. The Chef Showdown on Friday, Oct. 15, will pit eight local chefs against each other as they prepare one dish using secret ingredients, which the chefs then present to a panel of judges to see who wins top honors and prizes. Reno Bites Week runs from Friday, Oct. 7, through Sunday, Oct. 16. Visit http://renobitesweek.com.
Film BOY AND THE WORLD: This cautionary tale about the dangers of globalization was nominated for best animated feature at this year’s Academy Awards. In Portuguese with English subtitles. Tu, 10/11, 7-9pm. $7 general, $6 seniors, students, $5 members. Good Luck Macbeth Theatre Company, 713 S. Virginia St., http://artemisiamovies.weebly.com.
ARGENTA CONCERT: WU HAN-SETZER-FINCKEL: In a piano trio formation, pianist Wu Han, violinist Philip Setzer and cellist David Finckel will perform works by Dvorak and Schubert. Th, 10/6, 7:30pm. $30; $5 for UNR students with ID. Nightingale Concert Hall, Church Fine Arts Building, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 784-4278, www.unr.edu/arts.
CARLO AONZO: An evening of mandolin, guitar and bass in an intimate setting. The Reno Swing Set opens the show. Sa, 10/8, 7pm. $20 in advance, $25 at the door. Mountain Music Parlor, 735 S. Center St., (775) 8435500, www.mountainmusicparlor.com.
A HEALTHY HOMECOMING CELEBRATION: Local musician Brother Dan returns to Reno after an extended absence after receiving a liver transplant. The event will feature special musical guests, an appearance by the BroDANcers, a silent art auction and other surprises. Sa, 10/8, 7-10pm. Cantina Los Tres Hombres, 926 Victorian Ave., Sparks, (775) 356-6262.
JULIE FOWLIS: EXPLORING GAELIC MUSIC: The award-winning Scottish singer, who sang the theme song for Disney’s animated fea-
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ture Brave, will present a program on the music of the Scottish isles. Tu, 10/11, 5pm. Free. Northwest Reno Library, 2325 Robb Drive, (775) 787-4100; W, 10/12, 11:15am. Free. South Valleys Library, 15650A Wedge Parkway; W, 10/12, 5pm. Free. Incline Village Library, 845 Alder Ave., Building A, Incline Village, (775) 832-4130.
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ist along one of the Galena Park trails and learn about the area. Bring water, sunscreen and hiking boots. Sa, 10am. $5 donation. Galena Creek Visitor Center, 18250 Mt. Rose Highway, (775) 849-4948, www.galenacreekvisitorcenter.org.
onstAge 2016 VOICES OF THE PAST CEMETERY TOUR: Funtime Theater presents its annual ghostly walking tour. Sa, Su, 10am & 1pm through 10/9. $10-$15. Silver Terrace Cemetery, North E and Carson streets, Virginia City, http://funtimetheater.com.
GRAND CONCOURSE: Restless Artists’ Theatre presents Heidi Schreck’s play which navigates the mystery of faith, the limits of forgiveness and the pursuit of something resembling joy. Th, 10/6, 7:30pm; F, 10/7,
7:30pm; Sa, 10/8, 7:30pm; Su, 10/9, 2pm; Th, 10/13, 7:30pm; F, 10/14, 7:30pm; Sa, 10/15, 7:30pm; Su, 10/16, 2pm. $12-$20. Restless Artists’ Theatre, 295 20th St., Sparks, (775) 525-3074.
A mile in somebody else’s choose I’m a woman who’s on the feminist dating app Bumble, where women have to make the first move. Men can only write back to women who message them. I thought this would be empowering, but even pursuing a guy in this small way feels unsexy and overly aggressive. Do I just need to get over my retrograde thinking?. Who does the chasing in dating isn’t some arbitrary thing. It comes down to what evolutionary biologist Robert Trivers, in 1972, called “parental investment.” His theory—borne out in research on humans, animals and insects—is that the sex that has the highest cost from sexual activity (the female—in almost all species) will be choosier about whom they mate with than the sex that invests less (which is almost always the male). In humans, of course, women are the ones who get pregnant and stuck with the kids, and men can, as anthropologists quip, just “inseminate and run.” So—over thousands of generations—women being choosier and men being, uh, chase-ier got wired into human psychology. We can’t just shrug off the emotional mechanisms that drive this behavior even today—even if Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe deems it “heteronormative” hooey that women damage their desirability by chasing men. A trip to the Panamanian wetlands would show her she’s wrong—that what drives which sex does the chasing and which does the choosing really is about who gets stuck with the child care. Yes, in most species, that’s the female. But check out the role reversal in the wattled jacana, a long-legged South American wading bird. Zoologist Stephen Emlen and his team found that it’s the male jacana, not the female, that sits incubating the eggs in the nest and cares for the chickies after they hatch. And right in line with Trivers’ parental investment theory, female jacanas are the ones who do the chasing, competing for the males. Some even have “harems” of up to five boy birds. And it gets worse. The Emlen team found that as male jacanas sit tending their egg brood, they’re sometimes forced to watch while their girlfriend bird gets it on right in front of them with the other boy birds in her harem.
Getting back to Bumble, where the app goes wrong is in removing the filtering that comes from a man needing to lay his ego on the line and expend effort to pursue a woman. The notion that it’s “empowering” for women to do the chasing ignores that it’s in men’s genetic interest to not turn down a mating opportunity—even with a woman they aren’t that interested in. Also, because men evolved to expect choosier women, even subtle forms of chasing like your contacting a man first may send a message that you’re not all that. If you’re really looking to put him off, why not turn the tables all the way and send a panorama shot of your erect penis? You: “Yoo-hoo? Where’d you go?!”
When push comes to love I’ve been dating a 55-year-old guy for a year. I have two teenage boys; he has no kids. He initially mentioned marriage but now doesn’t want to “rush” moving in with me and my boys. As a first step, he’s moving closer. He just signed a lease on an apartment near me. I love him, but I’m overwhelmed handling two teenagers alone. Should I tell him he needs to speed up the pace? Perhaps because you’re seeing this through “I need a break!”-colored glasses, you confuse being careful with not caring. But zoologist Amotz Zahavi has some good news for you. His research finds that when a message involves some expense to the sender, it’s more likely to be for real. For example, anyone can claim they’re committed, but as the saying goes, talk is cheap. Moving, however, is not. Your boyfriend may ultimately decide that the package here isn’t for him, but pressuring him is unlikely to help. In fact, it’s likely to pressure him right out of your life. Ω
Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., No. 280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com).
