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Group Brings Fun, Connection to a Locked-Down World During COVID-19 By Chris Rudisill | QNotes Contributor taurants or businesses, have been mostly off-limits. Barrio and Smith credit the early growth of Charlotte Gaymers Network, which now has over 412 members on its Facebook page, to this need for inclusive socialization. Like bars, the group even enjoys having a resident deejay and drag queen. Most of their events have been online, but they did host a Halloween “gaymer gathering” at Tabbris Innovation Center in Southend with local drag queen Lilli Frost, who was one of the early people in that Facebook messenger chat with Barrio and Smith. They limited attendance to 25 people, following Gov. Roy Cooper’s restrictions, and required everyone to wear a mask and undergo a temperature check at the door. They hope to bring back these in-person events in the future, but for now are focused on keeping members engaged online. Smith points out that in-person events sold out in less than 45 minutes.
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Charlotte Gaymers Network participants (from left to right) Nathan Gellin, Nathan Mundo, Zach Smith, CG “Shuma” Nobles, Roger Brendle, Caliph Smith
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or Zach Smith, gaming has been a safe space for much of his life. “Some of my first memories are of playing video games,” he says. Smith, who is the executive director of the Charlotte Gaymers Network, remembers playing on a Sega Genesis with his sister when he was young. “For me, growing up and getting bullied as a gay kid, video games were a safe haven — an escape to sort of not face the kind of cruddy reality I was facing at the moment,” says Smith. “I think that’s why they became so important to me.” Now, he and others in Charlotte are creating that same environment for the LGBTQ community — often in a virtual way during the COVID-19 pandemic. On July 6, Smith and Jonathan Barrio started talking about gaming after realizing there was a subset of Queen City Prism members, which Barrio also helped found, who were into the hobby or sport. What started as a small conversation of about 15 people meeting for happy hour gaming sessions every day after work soon grew into a massive group of LGBTQ
Lilli Sareena Frost puts a little kicking action into a game move during a recent COVID-19 event experience.
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gamers, or as they like to say “gaymers.” During the pandemic-caused quarantine, gaming helped break the monotony of being stuck at home and provided a social outlet for people. “This is something that people need and want and desire, especially in the middle of this pandemic,” says Barrio. The two say they grew closer to members of Prism through the subject of gaming and attribute much of that early success to Animal Crossing: New Horizons. This latest release of Nintendo’s social stimulation video game came out on March 20, just as lockdowns were reshaping lives across North Carolina and the nation. According to the game’s website, Animal Crossing allows you to “create your personal island paradise on a deserted island brimming with possibility.” In 2020, that thought sounds very appealing. A Twitter video on the day of release prompted widespread cheer from LGBTQ gamers when a character called Merry gushes about her love of comics and romantic comedies, referencing a princess whose “true love” is another princess. The subtle nod did not go unnoticed by fans and set off a tweet storm of acceptance and visibility among LGBTQ gamers around the world. As the pandemic raged on, traditional safe spaces of the LGBTQ community, like gay bars and gay-owned res-
Taking a short break from game play are (left ot right) Dylan Ritch and Alan Michael Skirnick
Charlotte Gaymers Network launched its first tournament in October as well. Smith describes the event as “Iron Man-style” with games every week that focus on a different genre. The tournament started with 22 people and there are 10 to 11 people still competing as they enter into the final weeks of play. Participants pick a game from a pre-selected pool that the group’s board of directors have identified. Players rack up points each week and the top four will compete on Dec. 5 for the grand prize, a Dell gaming laptop. The prize was donated by an anonymous community member, which shows the generosity that continues to amaze Barrio and Smith. Events have been sponsored by local businesses like Charlotte’s Pure Pizza and have garnered the support of Charlotte Esports’ C.J. Collins, who founded the Charlotte Phoenix, a professional esports team. This helps ensure events by Charlotte Gaymers Network remain free for anyone to participate, something Barrio points out as very appealing for companies right now trying to reach people in different ways. “What we found so interesting about Charlotte Gaymers Network is that there is a passion there that is ignited because whether you’re 50 or you’re 19 — a gamer is a gamer,” he says. “That’s a level playing field for everybody, no matter what your class is, your background, your place in corporate America — whatever it may be. As a gamer, we’re all on the same playing field.” Pointing out the “pay to play” style of LGBTQ events in many cities like Charlotte, Barrio says that the accessibility of gaming is a positive for many in the community. Their motto is “never a cover, always a group.”
Getting in on the the gaming event fun are participants (left to right) Matthew Morrow, Michael Martines and Christopher McKinnis see next page u
