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Direct action must be smart, strategic

The arrests of three gay activists on June 2 following their protest on the floor of the North Carolina House of Representatives has sparked varied responses and levels of support from across the country and within the state. (See story on page 12.) Obviously, GOP leadership in the North Carolina legislature isn’t happy. Republican Speaker of the House Thom Tillis, who represents Charlotte’s northern suburb of Cornelius and other portions of Mecklenburg County, called the protest “another disruptive and disrespectful display that will not be tolerated in this House.” Reporters with the legislative press corps said state Sen. James Forrester (RGaston) was also upset. He stopped by the legislature’s press room to complain about “homosexuals protesting my bill,” according to WRAL’s government reporter. What’s more telling of the sheer ineffectiveness of the June 2 outburst on the floor of the House is the response of politicians who

have been outspoken on their own opposition to the anti-gay marriage amendments. Mecklenburg County Democrat Tricia Cotham declined to comment directly to qnotes, but tweeted about the protest as it occurred. “Scared the ____ out of us in the back,” Cotham wrote on the social network. Rep. Marcus Brandon (D-Guilford), the state’s only openly gay lawmaker, also spoke out via Twitter, writing, “Attention all potential protesters please find a better way than busting thru the front door of the chamber #notcool #ncga.” Anyone with knowledge of history and understanding of movements for social justice knows that non-violent resistance and direct action, including civil disobedience, have been key components of every successful movement for social change the world over. Those same people also know that such tactics must be used intelligently and strategically and carry a clear message.

Unfortunately, the June 2 protest on the floor of the state House was not intelligent nor was it strategic, and it certainly didn’t have a clearly articulated message. Brandon, for example, said he wasn’t even aware that protesters were aligned with a pro-gay group. “You didn’t even know what they were protesting because it was so disruptive,” he told qnotes the afternoon following the protest. “I had no clue until now what they were protesting because it was such a disruption and it’s so scary; the only thing I was thinking about was, ‘Do I need to duck under my seat or what?’” The protest was organized by the North Carolina chapter of GetEqual, a national direct action group that has held protests and other civil disobediences across the country. For the most part, GetEqual’s actions have fit the usual mold of strategic, non-violent resistance. What happened here? Was there no planning? No strategy session? I’m no stranger to non-violent direct action and civil disobedience. Like others with passionate beliefs, I, too, have “been to jail for justice.” Each time, however, the direct actions were planned weeks, if not months, in advance and had a clear goal and objective in mind. Additionally, the direct actions in which I’ve chosen to participate have each been timed and planned strategically in order

to benefit, rather than hinder, those particular goals and objectives. What goal did these three gay rights protesters seek to accomplish? Do they realize that they might have just sealed their own demise? GetEqual’s actions in Raleigh have stirred the hornet’s nest. They have taken what was primarily a carefully orchestrated, behind-thescenes effort to secure votes on our side of the issue and turned it into a public conversation pitting all “the homosexuals” against an even angrier right. Those Democrats and moderate Republicans who might have been led to switch their votes will now surely suffer under the weight of a legislative leadership hell-bent on seeing this amendment through to the end, if only to prove a point about disrupting their legislative proceedings. No LGBT community leader in this state or in this nation is seriously opposed to direct action or civil disobedience. The large majority of those involved in this particular social justice movement are well aware of the successful employment of these tactics in other historic movements for change. Smart leaders know, however, when direct action and civil disobedience can harm a cause. The June 2 outburst on the floor of the North Carolina House of Representatives is a perfect example of a direct action gone terribly, terribly wrong and all LGBT North Carolinians will pay for it. : :

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strategy. The President continues to work to dispel the myth that bullying, particularly of LGBT students, is a harmless part of growing up and works each day to better the lives of LGBT Americans in every facet of American life. On the international stage, President Obama has shown global leadership in condemning antiLGBT violence at the United Nations and took the opportunity at the National Prayer Breakfast to speak out against the ‘odious’ anti-gay legislation pending in Uganda. “Forty-two years ago this month, LGBT Americans’ struggled for equal rights entered into the American consciousness when individuals at the Stonewall Inn decided to take a stand. In the four decades since, Americans across this country have kept up the fight for equality. This PRIDE Month, we recommit to this struggle for equality as we strive to finally make injustice and inequality things of the past.”

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North Carolina Democratic Party North Carolina Democratic Party Chair David Parker released this statement for LGBT Pride Month: “We have seen progress in our lifetime. “When we have been honest and compassionate, we have participated in the difficult work of that progress. It is only when we have been afraid, when we have stood aside or turned away that we have found ourselves on the wrong side of the great battles for human rights in America. “Total equality is the ultimate goal. Through many thousand acts of personal and collective courage in the struggle for LGBT rights, be it a single teenager coming out to his family or a City Council passing a nondiscrimination hiring clause, we move ever closer to that goal. “The Democratic Party acts upon the belief that history moves toward inclusion and understanding. While politics is an exercise in patience and persuasion, we will do every-

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thing in our power to remember that equality isn’t an abstract concept; it is a daily battle for dignity and access. When that daily battle is your life, patience with the process is not always easy. “But while progress may be slow, it isn’t silent. That LGBT Pride Month is being celebrated so widely is an indication that fear is subsiding across the community. The North Carolina Democratic Party joins President Obama and Democrats across America in celebrating unity, equality, and the lives of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people everywhere. “The contributions of LGBT citizens to this state are unquestionable. Likewise, no one should have any doubts about the North Carolina Democratic Party’s unwavering support for equality.” : :

Presidential Proclamation — Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month May 31, 2011 BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA A PROCLAMATION The story of America’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) community is the story of our fathers and sons, our mothers and daughters, and our friends and neighbors who continue the task of making our country a more perfect Union. It is a story about the struggle to realize the great American promise that all people can live with dignity and fairness under the law. Each June, we commemorate the courageous individuals who have fought to achieve this promise for LGBT Americans, and we rededicate ourselves to the pursuit of equal rights for all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. Since taking office, my Administration has made significant progress towards achieving equality for LGBT Americans. Last December, I was proud to sign the repeal of the discriminatory “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. With this repeal, gay and lesbian Americans will be able to serve openly in our Armed Forces for the first time in our Nation’s history. Our national security will be strengthened and the heroic contributions these Americans make to our military, and have made throughout our history, will be fully recognized. My Administration has also taken steps to eliminate discrimination against LGBT Americans in Federal housing programs and to give LGBT Americans the right to visit their loved ones in the hospital. We have made clear through executive branch nondiscrimination policies that discrimination on the basis of gender identity in the Federal workplace will not be tolerated. I have continued to nominate and appoint highly qualified, openly LGBT individuals to executive branch and judicial positions. Because we recognize that LGBT rights are human rights, my Administration stands with advocates of equality around the world in leading the fight against pernicious laws targeting LGBT persons and malicious attempts to exclude LGBT organizations from full participation in the international system. We led a global campaign to ensure “sexual orientation” was included in the United Nations resolution on extrajudicial execution — the only United Nations resolution that specifically mentions LGBT people — to send the unequivocal message that no matter where it occurs, state-sanctioned killing of gays and lesbians is indefensible. No one should be harmed because of who they are

or who they love, and my Administration has mobilized unprecedented public commitments from countries around the world to join in the fight against hate and homophobia. At home, we are working to address and eliminate violence against LGBT individuals through our enforcement and implementation of the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act. We are also working to reduce the threat of bullying against young people, including LGBT youth. My Administration is actively engaged with educators and community leaders across America to reduce violence and discrimination in schools. To help dispel the myth that bullying is a harmless or inevitable part of growing up, the First Lady and I hosted the first White House Conference on Bullying Prevention in March. Many senior Administration officials have also joined me in reaching out to LGBT youth who have been bullied by recording “It Gets Better” video messages to assure them they are not alone. This month also marks the 30th anniversary of the emergence of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, which has had a profound impact on the LGBT community. Though we have made strides in combating this devastating disease, more work remains to be done, and I am committed to expanding access to HIV/AIDS prevention and care. Last year, I announced the first comprehensive National HIV/AIDS Strategy for the United States. This strategy focuses on combinations of evidence-based approaches to decrease new HIV infections in high risk communities, improve care for

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people living with HIV/AIDS, and reduce health disparities. My Administration also increased domestic HIV/AIDS funding to support the Ryan White HIV/AIDS Program and HIV prevention, and to invest in HIV/AIDSrelated research. However, government cannot take on this disease alone. This landmark anniversary is an opportunity for the LGBT community and allies to recommit to raising awareness about HIV/AIDS and continuing the fight against this deadly pandemic. Every generation of Americans has brought our Nation closer to fulfilling its promise of equality. While progress has taken time, our achievements in advancing the rights of LGBT Americans remind us that history is on our side, and that the American people will never stop striving toward liberty and justice for all. NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim June 2011 as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month. I call upon the people of the United States to eliminate prejudice everywhere it exists, and to celebrate the great diversity of the American people. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirty-first day of May, in the year of our Lord two thousand eleven, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-fifth. BARACK OBAMA

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news notes: from the carolinas, nation and world compiled by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com | David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com | Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

Charlotte Fundraising for equality

CHARLOTTE — Join Scott Bishop, John Covington, Josephine Hicks, Rick McDermott, Randy Stephens and Ken Wittenauer at a fundraiser for Equality NC on June 16, 6:30-8:30 p.m., at The Vue, 404 W. 5th St. This year is an especially challenging one for LGBT community members as it fights back against the right’s push to have an antiLGBT constitutional amendment thwarted in the North Carolina General Assembly Executive Director Ian Palmquist will be on hand to talk about the anti-LGBT amendment and answer questions about this and other vital issues affecting LGBT citizens in the Queen City. Drinks and hors d’oeuvres are courtesy of sponsors Alston & Bird and Armin’s Catering. To register, visit equalitync.org. For more information, email Kay Flaminio at kay@equalitync.org. — L.M.

One Voice raising money and more

CHARLOTTE — One Voice Chorus is hosting a fundraiser, “Broadway, Trivia & Prizes (oh my!),” on June 30 and July 1 at 7:30 p.m. at Duke Energy Theatre, 345 N. College St. “Hollywood Squares” meets Broadway in this audience-interactive, cabaret-style event that honors a game show and music of Broadway. Tickets are $20. For tickets or more information, email Chad Mackie at chad_nc_99@yahoo.com or visit onevoicechorus.com. — L.M.

Triangle Center to create library

RALEIGH — The LGBT Center of Raleigh’s library will be opening in mid-August. Its mission is to provide access to resources for LGBT study and entertainment and to encourage exploration of the LGBT experience in a safe and welcoming environment. They are now accepting donations of books, magazines, DVDs and CDs to add to the growing collection. Bring items to the center during regular business hours. The center is a 501(c)(3) non-profit corporation and all donations are tax deductible. VHS videos, cassette tapes or records are not being accepted. They are also on the lookout for a flip video camera, water cooler, gift cards for landscape materials and a landscaper and able-bodied individuals who can help with renovations. For more information, email erin@lgbt centerofraleigh.com. — L.M.

Camp time for kids

RALEIGH — The 2nd Annual ASPYRE (A Safer Place for Youth to Reach for Excellence) Youth Leadership Camp will be held June 24-26 on the North Carolina State University campus. It focuses on helping LGBTQQ and allied youth to learn valuable leadership principles in a safe and positive environment. Registration is $50 and includes food,

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overnight room and activities. For a complete itinerary and registration, visit lgbtcenterofraleigh.com/site/programs/ youthnfamily/aspyre. — L.M.

Safe sex hard for trans

RALEIGH — North Carolina State University released findings early this month saying that for those in the transgender community, talking about safe sex is more complicated. This study hopes to advance methods for both the LGBT and straight population. Dr. Kami Kosenko, an assistant professor of communication at NC State and lead author of the study told Science Daily, “The main reason for this study is the fact that we’re seeing evidence of devastatingly high HIV prevalence rates in the transgender community.” He added, “The HIV prevalence rate is less than 1 percent for the general U.S. population. But for the transgender population, the HIV prevalence rate is estimated to be as high as 60 percent in major metropolitan areas. Although these are only estimates, they are troubling.” How transgender individuals speak about safe sex is one of the key factors researchers say. Talking about safe sex is compounded when also dealing with sharing one’s gender identity. Honesty about one’s past in also brought into question, both in the transgender community and beyond. The paper was published in the Journal of Communication. Funding for the research was provided by the National Institute of Mental Health. — L.M.

Western Friends to host dinners

HICKORY — Dining for Friends will hold their finale on Sept. 17, 8 p.m.-12 a.m. at Market on Main. They are looking for supporters to host fundraising dinners at their home to help feed the coffers of ALFA so that they can continue to provide support and resources for those who are affected and infected with HIV/AIDS. Organizational meetings began on May 19 and continue monthly. Contributors, volunteers and sponsors are urged to call 828-322-1447, ext. 224, or email Executive Director Rodney Tucker at alfadirect@alfainfo.org to get more information. — L.M.

South Carolina Pride event approaches

COLUMBIA — Promoters for the 6th Annual South Carolina Black Pride, “Mind, Body, & Soul,” have announced that they still have space in their event guide for advertisers. Deadline is June 17. They will be distributed to sponsors, participants and guests. The Expo will be held on June 25, 2-8 p.m., at Columbia Metropolitan Convention Center, 1101 Lincoln St. Enjoy live entertainment and workshops. Host hotel is Courtyard by Mariott Columbia Downtown at 630 Assembly St. For more information, email info@

southcarolinablackpride.com. A complete list of events is available online at southcarolinablackpride.com. — L.M.

Campus Scene Camp just around corner

NASHVILLE — The Fifth Annual Summer Leadership Camp, aka “Camp Pride,” will be held from July 19-24 on Vanderbilt University’s campus. Keynote speakers include gay college student Daniel Hernandez, Jr., who was credited for saving Rep. Gabriel Giffords life in the Arizona shooting; Dr. Sue Rankin, noted LGBT campus climate researcher; Blue Copas, an Army Arabic translator discharged in 2006 under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell;” T.J. Jourian, from Logo’s “TransGeneration;” Mara Kiessling, president of the National Center for Transgender Equality; Shane Windmeyer, author and director of Campus Pride; and Robyn Ochs, a bi-activist, trans advocate and national public speaker. But, that’s not all. Bebe Zahara Benet from “RuPaul’s Drag Race” will entertain, along with singer/songwriter Randi Driscoll; trans spoken word performer Kit Yan; actress and comedian Gina Rodger; and drag diva Buff Faye and more. Benet joins the camp as one of the Divas of Diversity from Hope’s Voice. Hernandez will be awarded honorary the Voice & Action Award on July 23 during the five-day event. This year an Advisor Bootcamp professional track for LGBT and ally student organization advisors, graduate students, faculty and staff has been added to the camp experience. The camp is open to college students 18 years and older. Tuition is $895. For more information or to register, visit campuspride.org. — L.M.

National/Global Poll: Majority for marriage

WASHINGTON, D.C. — A new Gallup Poll shows a majority of the American people (53 percent) support marriage rights for committed gay and lesbian couples. This is one of several major polls to confirm the sea change in public opinion on the issue of marriage equality. The poll found Democratic and Independent support for marriage equality increased by more than 10 points over the past year. Sixty-nine percent of Democrats, 59 percent of Independents, and 28 percent of Republicans support marriage equality. Previous polls by CNN, Associated Press, and Washington Post similarly registered majority support of marriage equality. “At the moment,” writes Gallup, “those advocating changes in constitutions and laws to allow same-sex marriage in additional states can take heart in the apparent shift in national sentiment in their direction.” — D.S.

HRC endorses Obama reelection

WASHINGTON, D.C. — The Human Rights Campaign, the nation’s largest LGBT civil

daughters and sons of lesbian mothers in the study who reported experiences of homophobic stigmatization did not report higher levels of substance use. The results were compared to a demographically matched group of adolescents from the national Monitoring the Future Survey conducted by the University of Michigan with funding from the National Institute on Drug Abuse. The Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study is the first to explore the association between homophobia and substance use in adolescents raised by lesbians. — D.S.

Fed guidance for trans workers President Barack Obama signs “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” repeal measure.

rights organization, has endorsed President Barack Obama for reelection. According to a statement, the decision was made based on the president’s demonstrated commitment to LGBT equality and his record of accomplishment, from major legislative victories to critical administrative reforms. “President Obama has improved the lives of LGBT Americans more than any president in history,” said HRC President Joe Solmonese. “In 2008 we were promised change and profound change is what we got. More remains to be done and ensuring that President Obama is able to continue the forward momentum toward equality for another term is an absolute priority of the Human Rights Campaign.” — D.S.

WASHINGTON, D.C. — LGBT leaders and advocates praised the Office of Personnel Management (OPM) for publishing guidance regarding the rights of transgender federal employees. Pursuant to a June 2009 presidential memorandum, OPM added gender identity to the categories protected under the equal employment opportunity policy for Executive Branch positions. The guidance published May 27 provides further information to federal managers and human resources officials to ensure that transgender employees are treated fairly and equally in their public service to

our nation. The document can be viewed at opm.gov/diversity/Transgender/Guidance.asp. — D.S.

Giants make it ‘Better’

SAN FRANCISCO, Calif. — The San Francisco Giants are the first team in professional sports to produce an “It Gets Better” video taking a stand against anti-gay bullying and homophobia. Lifelong Giants fan Sean Chapin encouraged the World Series champions to make the video by starting an online petition on Change.org. More than 6,000 Giants fans signed the petition. Over 10,000 “It Gets Better” videos have been produced since syndicated columnist Dan Savage and his partner Terry Miller launched the project in September 2010, in response to an epidemic of teen suicides by gay kids and kids perceived to be gay. The Giants video can be viewed at youtube.com/ watch?v=A1TcD95kmGQ — D.S.

Gay acceptance up worldwide

CHICAGO, IL — A report by the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago presents new findings on the

cross-national differences in attitudes toward homosexuality. Based on five rounds of surveys administered in different countries between 1988 and 2008, the report examined general trends and ranked countries regarding their attitudes towards homosexuality. The study concludes that “overwhelmingly, societies have become more accepting of homosexual behavior.” Thirty-one countries were identified with data that showed trends in public opinion about homosexual behavior. Of those, approval of homosexuality increased in 27 countries and in only 4 countries did it decrease: Russia, the Czech Republic, Cyprus and Latvia. Moreover, the growth in approval was stronger than the decline. The top five countries with the highest acceptance of homosexuality ratings are the Netherlands, Denmark, Norway, Switzerland and BelgiumFlanders. The bottom half of the list consisted of seven ex-Socialist states, four East Asian nations, three Latin American countries and Cyprus, South Africa and Turkey. — D.S. info: Have news or other information? Send your press releases and updates for inclusion in our News Notes: editor@goqnotes.com.

LGBT smokers urged to quit

WASHINGTON, D.C. — Throughout June, the American Lung Association is encouraging members of the LGBT community to honor Pride Month by focusing on their health, particularly by quitting smoking or encouraging their friends to quit. According to Smoking Out a Deadly Threat: Tobacco Use in the LGBT Community, a health disparity report released by the American Lung Association last year, LGBT Americans smoke at a much higher rate than the general public. Key facts highlighted in the report include the following: Gay, bisexual and transgender men are 2 to 2.5 times more likely to smoke than heterosexual men; Lesbian, bisexual and transgender women are 1.5 to 2 times more likely to smoke than heterosexual women; and, Bisexual boys and girls have some of the highest smoking rates when compared with both their heterosexual and homosexual peers. — D.S.

Nevada expands protections

CARSON CITY, Nev. — Gov. Brian Sandoval has signed into law SB331 and SB368, barring discrimination in public accommodations and housing respectively. SB331 protects against discrimination in public accommodations on the basis of gender identity or expression, while SB368 adds sexual orientation and gender identity or expression to Nevada’s housing anti-discrimination law. Additionally, in May the Nevada legislature passed and Gov. Sandoval signed AB211, legislation that expanded the state’s anti-discrimination laws in employment to cover gender identity or expression. — D.S.

Study examines drug use

LOS ANGELES, Calif. — New findings from the U.S. National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study, the longest-running study ever conducted on American lesbian families (now in its 25th year), reveal that 17-year-old

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Three arrested in gay protest at legislature Former Democratic Senate candidate, two activists burst onto N.C. House floor following pro-gay rally on Halifax Mall by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

RALEIGH — Three gay rights the House floor protest were varied. ferent times and the action we saw yesterday “I am no longer willing to passively bear activists, including a former Robin McGehee, GetEqual’s executive diinvading the House chamber, I think, had a witness to the ghettoization of LGBT people, Democratic Senate candidate, rector, said the protest served as a call to both negative impact on our ability to stop a conthe poor, the middle class and the weak,” he were arrested June 2 for their protest on President Barack Obama and state lawmakstitutional amendment on marriage this year,” wrote. “No body and no individual has the the floor of the North Carolina House of ers to stand up for full LGBT equality. he said in an interview a day after the arrests. rightful dominion to diminish the unalienable Representatives. The arrests followed a “[W]e’re proud to support LGBT North “Direct action is a really important strategy rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happipro-LGBT rally opposing a state constitutional Carolinians in issuing the same call to their and tactic but it needs to be used in smart and ness in our United States of America.” amendment that could strategic ways and unforThe three pro-gay arrests came a week ban marriage and other tunately that’s not what after state NAACP president Rev. William relationship recognition we saw yesterday.” Barber and six other demonstrators were for same-sex couples. Rep. Marcus Brandon arrested in the House for protesting the The rally was held (D-Guilford), the state’s proposed state budget. The June 2 incident on Halifax Mall outside only openly gay lawmaker, was the third protest at the General Assembly the North Carolina told qnotes he wasn’t this year, though it was the first on the House Legislative Building aware at the time that the floor itself. and attracted approxiprotesters were from a House Speaker Thom Tillis (Rmately 200 people. It pro-LGBT group. Mecklenburg) later described the protest as was sponsored by the “You didn’t even know “another disruptive and disrespectful display North Carolina chapter what they were protesting that will not be tolerated in this House.” of GetEqual, a national because it was so disrupThe June 2 rally was prompted by an LGBT direct action tive,” he said. “I had no earlier, May 17 rally staged by anti-gay group, and Sexuality clue until now what they religious leaders from across the state. That and Gender Alliance, were protesting because event was attended by some 3,500 people and an Appalachian State it was such a disruption included speakers from a variety of religious University student and it’s so scary; the only groups including Tony Perkins, president of group. thing I was thinking about the Washington, D.C.-based Family Research Two versions of a was, ‘Do I need to duck Council. Last year, Perkins’ organization was proposed constitutional under my seat or what?’” named a hate group by the Southern Poverty amendment are under Brandon said there Law Center. consideration in the were more appropriate Proponents of the amendments say they Approximately 200 people attended the June 2 “Rally in Raleigh” preceding the arrest of three gay activists in the North Carolina House of Representatives. General Assembly. The means for protesters to are needed to prevent the extension of marPhoto Credit: Pam Spaulding/PamsHouseBlend.com send a message. more stringent Senate riage to same-sex couples, but opponents version, sponsored by “The rally is a great charge that the language used to construct Gaston County Republican James Forrester, state elected officials,” she said in a statevenue to do it,” he said. “We had a press them is vague and could lead to discriminawould ban both public and private relationship ment. “As North Carolina gears up to host the conference here [during the May 17 anti-gay tion and legal uncertainly for both LGBT and recognition including marriage and domestic Democratic National Convention next year, rally] and it was a much better way to talk heterosexual North Carolinians. partner benefits offered by municipal governwe hope that the state will be moving toward about it, it was a much more powerful way to As of press time, neither the House nor the ments and private companies. The less harsh fully recognizing the dignity and equality of deal with it. Now that I know that was a gay Senate had taken up the bills and legislative House version targets only marriage. LGBT North Carolinians, rather than trying to group, I’m more disappointed.” leaders had indicated they could adjourn as After the rally, openly gay Chapel Hill busifurther enshrine discrimination in the state Following his arrest, Neal released a letter early as June 17. Other lawmakers have said nessman Jim Neal, who lost to current U.S. constitution. North Carolina residents deserve saying current attempts by lawmakers to that legislative leadership could bring the Sen. Kay Hagan in a 2008 Democratic primary, better than the legalized discrimination that write discrimination into the constitution are legislation up for debate during a September led other activists into the Legislative Building this bill promises.” a threat and intimidation toward LGBT North special session on several proposed constituand onto the House floor. The group chanted Other LGBT leaders urged caution. Ian Carolinians. tional amendments. (See story on page 13.) : : “Liberty and Justice for All in North Carolina” Palmquist, executive director of the statewide as they entered the chamber’s doors. Video Equality North Carolina, offered a brief stateposted online by PamsHouseBlend.com shows ment via Twitter following the arrests. “While LEGISLATIVE WATCH Neal being apprehended by General Assembly we share the protesters’ passion for equal police almost immediately. Other activists rights, we cannot condone today’s disruption Keep up with the final days of the 2011 legislacontinued to advance into the chamber. Rally of the House session,” Palmquist wrote on the tive session, including news and developments organizer and GetEqual North Carolina chapter social network. on the state budget, the anti-gay constitutional founder Angel Chandler, 38, of Black Mountain Palmquist told qnotes that the House floor amendment and other issues at our Legislative and Mary Beth Counce, 53, of Asheville were protest could adversely affect his group’s efWatch at goqnotes.com/in/ncga/. later arrested. forts to stave off the amendment’s passage. LGBT community leaders’ responses to “Different tactics are appropriate at dif-

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Open mic broadcasts GOP closed-door talks on anti-gay amendment Catawba County Republican says House leadership supports amendment passage this year by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

RALEIGH — A day after pro-gay protesters were arrested on the floor of the North Carolina House of Representatives, lawmakers at a closed-door, House Republican caucus meeting spoke about the proposed constitutional amendments on marriage, unaware that their comments were being streamed into the legislature’s press room. Rep. Mark Hilton (R-Catawba) said he had met with the “conservative, pro-family caucus” and several anti-gay groups. He said the constitutional amendment was one of the issues outside groups were pushing. “It’s important to the conservative groups that we get this passed this year because they need that to be able to get their ground game working to get the maximum effect to get out the vote,” he said. Hilton also said this year’s legislative session was turning out to be “one of the most conservative, pro-family legislative sessions I’ve ever seen” and thanked Speaker Thom Tillis (R-Mecklenburg) for his support of the amendment. “Speaker Tillis has assured us it will happen this year,” he said. “It may be in a special session for constitutional amendments but it will happen this year.” Ian Palmquist, executive director of the statewide Equality North Carolina, said his group had been aware of the possibility of the amendment’s passage this year, but that recent developments seemed to be sealing the deal. “It is our understanding that in the last 24 hours both Speaker Tillis and [Senate President Pro Tempore Phil] Berger have now committed to moving the legislation this year,” he said. “We’ve been working very hard over the last six months to do everything we can to avoid this. This is the first time we’ve seen such a clear commitment [from Republican leadership].” Equality North Carolina has been working to secure the necessary votes to stop the amendment on both the House and Senate floors. “The includes mobilizing constituencies in key legislative districts to get them to contact their legislators and mobilizing leaders in the

faith and business communities and political leaders to speak out against the amendment,” he said. Palmquist said his group has received support from most of the Democratic caucus, which holds a minority in both chambers of the legislature for the first time in over a century. “Most of the Democratic caucus continues to support our position but there are a number of Democrats and moderate Republicans who we believe are persuadable but are not 100 percent on our side at this point.” The gay rights leader, who has announced he will be stepping down from his role in July, also said June 2 pro-gay protests on the House floor could adversely affect his group’s efforts. (See story on page 12.) “Different tactics are appropriate at different times and the action we say yesterday invading the House chamber, I think, had a negative impact on our ability to stop a constitutional amendment on marriage this year,” he said in an interview a day after the arrests. “Direct action is a really important strategy and tactic but it needs to be used in smart and strategic ways and unfortunately that’s not what we saw yesterday.” : :

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Fund’s record giving bolstered by corporate bucks Keynoter Mitchell Gold delivers strong message to Charlotte and Tar Heel LGBTs Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

CHARLOTTE — At their annual fundraising supporting the groups I cherish,” she said. In 2008, Gold edited “CRISIS: 40 Stories luncheon at Uptown’s Omni Hotel on May 25, North Carolina furniture manufacturer Revealing the Personal, Social, and Religious the Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund announced Mitchell Gold, a well-known philanthropist Pain and Trauma of Growing Up Gay In recipients for 2011 grants totaling a record and advocate for LGBT social, civil and America,” a book exploring discrimination at $85,000. Another $25,000 in additional monies from Wells Fargo were contributed to eight organizations’ operating grants. The event, dubbed “The Happening,” serves as the fund’s annual gift-giving ceremony and a fundraising lunch. In addition to the operating funds contributed by Wells Fargo, the company also pledged a $25,000 matching challenge for all money raised for the fund. The event was emceed by Maureen O’Boyle, anchor for news station WBTV. “While I am not technically a part of your community, I feel like I’m a part of it today and am grateful to be here,” Mitchell Gold speaks to the nearly 400 attendees at the 2001 The Happening. O’Boyle said in her opening statements. Later, thanking companies and reigious equality, keynoted the luncheon. the hands of religion. [Ed. Note — This writer organizations that had sponsored the event, In his message, Gold challenged attendees contributed a chapter to the book.] O’Boyle encouraged attendees to support to speak out and take stands for equality in Gold, who was married to his partner LGBT-friendly businesses. Charlotte, in North Carolina and in the nation in Iowa, said he is amazed at the progress “I do shop at organizations that I know are as whole. the community has made, but said religion-

based bigotry continues to take its toll on young people. He cautioned, “It ain’t good enough for me. Anybody who’s really satisfied with the state of LGBT rights and emotional wellness in this city, in this state and in this country, if you’re satisfied with it, sit back and listen no more. But, if you are not satisfied, if you in your hearts see the gay rights movement a little differently, as I do…then we cannot allow the face of the gay rights movement to be adults. It has to be the children, the vulnerable kids.” Gold also said North Carolina’s and Charlotte’s LGBT community must stand up against efforts to write discrimination into the state constitution. The legislature is currently considering an amendment that would ban recognition of both marriage and other types of public and private relationships for samesex couples. “What do you think the conversation is going to be like around a 14-year-old’s table with their parents, listening to their parents say, ‘We have to have a constitutional amendment. We can’t have gays getting married. Gays will ruin the

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moral fiber of society?’ and all of that kind of stuff that people say when they are at a dining room table on a Sunday,” he said. “This constitutional amendment will be a ferocious battle for months. What will that kid be thinking?” Gold noted that 31 states had attempted and failed to keep marriage amendments out of their constitutions. He said different tactics are needed if the LGBT community plans to win on this issue. “We have to make sure the leadership in our state and in this city does something,” he said. “Speaker [Thom] Tillis is in your city. Speaker Tillis has the power to keep this amendment from passing. He has the the ability to be a key part in squashing this.” Gold encouraged attendees to reach out and educate Tillis. “We have to educate Speaker Tillis and get him to understand that this legislation was brought about by senators and representatives in the House from their religious beliefs,” Gold said. “There is nothing civil about it. They brought this legislation because of their own personal religion — outdated, ill-informed and horrifically painful to a lot of people young and old.” He added, “We have to educate Speaker Tillis and if that means going to his church on Sunday and sitting in those pews and standing up with a sign that says ‘End the Harm,’ I dare Charlotte to do that and if you do I will be there with you.” : :

Gifts that make a difference Recipients of Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund and Wells Fargo Foundation philanthropy say the gifts their organizations

received on May 25 will go a long way in improving services or expanding outreach. “Most people in the community are aware that we have not been able to be a full-time center since 2007,” said John Stotler, chair of the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. “Our goal in 2011 was to became a full-time center again and this [gift] will help us a long way toward that.” LaWana Mayfield, a fund board member and leader with the Ujamaa Institute said fund gifts will support her group’s youth training initiatives. “It is a special program that is targeted toward youth doing philanthropy and teaching them that it is more than giving money — it is giving your time, talent and treasure,” she said. Steve Bentley, executive director of Time Out Youth, said he hopes the increased funds from Wells Fargo and the fund will enable his group to increase staff hours and support their school outreach program. Similarly, Campus Pride’s Shane Windmeyer said his group’s increased funding will be used to provide immediate needs for youth seeking to attend their 2011 summer leadership camp. “We are working with two students right now,” Windmeyer said. “one student who very recently lost her apartment in a tornado and another student who couldn’t afford to attend the camp because of his own personal, family situation. These funds will allow us to get some scholarship resources out there for these youth.”

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Grants dispersed The Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund dispersed a record $85,000 in grants to several LGBT community organizations and others dealing with LGBT issues. An additional $25,000 was granted to each of the eight organizations receiving operating grants from the fund. A list of grant recipients is reprinted below: Operating Grants Campus Pride, $4,500; Charlotte Black Gay Pride, $2,000; Charlotte Pride Band, $2,150; Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte, $5,500; Lionel Lee Jr. Center for Wellness, $3,350; One Voice Chorus, $5,000; The Lesbian and Gay Community Center, $7,500; Time Out Youth, $19,000. Community Connections Grants Actors Theatre of Charlotte, $5,000; Charlotte Chamber Music and Gay Men’s Chorus, $2,900; One Voice Chorus, $2,500; Temple Beth-El, $1,800; The Lesbian and Gay Community Center, $5,000; Time Out Youth, $2,300; UNC Charlotte Department of Counseling, $1,500. ADAM Queer Youth Grants Campus Pride, $2,585; Community Culinary School of Charlotte, $3,790; Lesbian and Gay Community Center, $1,780; The Ujamaa Institute, $2,845; Time Out Youth and Gay Men’s Chorus, $4,000. Wells Fargo contributions Campus Pride, $2,850; Charlotte Black Gay Pride, $1,300; Charlotte Pride Band, $1,300; Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte, $3,450; Lionel Lee Jr. Center for Wellness, $2,300; One Voice Chorus, $3,200; The Lesbian and Gay Community Center, $4,800; Time Out Youth, $3,500.

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out in the stars by charlene lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor

June 11 - 24 Love is fluffy, like walking on air. And, it all floats gloriously overhead until Mercury and Venus squares retro Neptune. Hey, who popped our balloon? Better pack a pillow for that long way back to reality. GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Pink Twins ache to make a name for themselves in the public eye and will try a variety of stunts to juice their ascent. If you are tempted to try something new just to make a splash, stop and think about it. There is something that you are not seeing. It would be a shame to strut and fret your time upon the stage only to fall in a pothole upon your entrance. CANCER (06.22-07.23) They say that one good turn deserves another, but you could go into a tailspin. Don’t over promise your volunteer time, gay Crab. You will only be rewarded with a lot more charitable stuff to do. Try, instead, to parse out your time wisely, focusing on cementing friendships. A fly-by-night romance may take you to new heights. Beware of getting vertigo. LEO (07.24-08.23) Will a certain compadre become more than just a friend? This is the time to test the limits of a simple platonic relationship…or maybe not. There is ample foggy thinking going on here and little thought behind it for any future repercussions. Things can get hot and heavy and totally out of hand, proud Lion. Are you prepared for the aftermath? Or, will it be an afterglow. VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Your driving need to achieve could hit a go-slow zone. Suddenly, everything that you have been focusing on — your career, your contact list and your next big thing — needs

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to be refocused and redrawn. Good. Things are still shifting on the political chessboard and queer Virgins don’t want to play the pawns anymore. Checkmate upcoming. LIBRA (09.24-10.23) As feisty as you usually feel, proud Libras may be hit with a bout of fatigue and ennui. Maybe it’s because the world seems too big and unwieldy or maybe it’s because the details of the day-to-day are beginning to pile up and bury you. Don’t completely lose your steel resolve. A zippy renewed vitality is around the corner. So, stand back world! SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) You have that certain something. Do you really know what that is? If so, pour it on and let it slide around. If not, test drive your capabilities and see who hops on board. It is a time of giddy experimentation that can take you to new heights. Fun and creative pastimes take on a dizzying and romantic hue. But, is it a trip to the moon on gossamer wings? Do you really care? SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Balance right now will be everything, especially when it comes to family, partnerships and your home base. Relationships require more attention and may conflict with your idea of harmony and happiness. Gay Archers who have a tipsy domestic situation will have to figure out how to stabilize and solidify it. Of course, you could just leave it all to fate. CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Co-workers try to horn in on your action and why not? You have managed to create a mystique about yourself on the job. It is how you carry yourself. And, you have successfully wooed the big bosses and seemed primed for bigger things. But, you know the truth, pink Cap. All that muss and fuss is so you can do what you want when you want it. So, just do it. AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) The price of a good time just went up, Aqueerius. But ,don’t be discouraged by the ever-escalating price tag for your jollies. There are certain things in life that are worth it, right? Your creativity is at a peak. But, avoid talking on and on about it. There are some things that just need to be demonstrated. Let actions speak louder and prouder than words. PISCES (02.20-03.20) We are all a product of our upbringing. And, you will clearly see how your childhood has helped to form your progress as an adult. That is actually good news, Guppie, because it is also a good time to break with old bad habits and see the world through fresh eyes. Of course, those eyes may be wearing rose-colored glasses. Enjoy the view. ARIES (03.21-04.20) Proud Rams who crave feisty words of love will receive a barrage of them now. However, it may turn out to be a shrill drill instead of a thrilling twill. So, be prepared to be underwhelmed or disappointed in the short term. In the long term, however, anything is possible! A secret admirer may not be so secretive. Ugh. Please, remain a mystery! TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Enjoy the bon temps while the money flows and flows. Queer Bulls are into luxury, glitter and gold and spreading it and themselves all around town. Friends get into the act and it is all so wonderfully decadent. But, guess what? You may find that you fritter your money away on wasteful pastimes and unworthy, tawdry companions. Uh, this is bad? : : © 2011 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Entertainment. info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available at bookstores and major booksites.

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cessful for anything, you really should be fully awake. (Let the teacher show you how it’s done by taking a look-see at my cartoon.)

by trinity :: qnotes contributor

If the first date is such hell, why bother? Dearest Trinity, I hate first dates. Why would anyone put themselves through such hell as a first date? Skeptical, Nashville, TN Dearest Skeptical, Think of a first date as fun and lighthearted, like a stroll in the park, not the Last Supper. Think adventure! Think, learning about your likes and dislikes. Sure, some people are boring, but some are charming and funny, you’ll see. And, while some people are easy to figure out, others are shy, nervous or happen to be having a bad day. Life is exciting, sweetie, dating is exciting and first dates — well, try starting them off with a good martini. Hey Trinity, My girlfriend gets on my case because I’m sometimes late for work. She says, “To be successful you have to show up on time.” But, I say success is about showing up period. Don’t you think? Successfully Late, Providence, RI Hey Successfully Late, Yes, it’s been said, “Being early is on time. Being on time is late. And, being late is unacceptable.” However, pumpkin, just show up and you’re 90 percent there. Oh, and to be 100 percent suc-

Dear Trinity, I always date bad boys who treat me like crap and take advantage of my generosity. Sweet and kind eventually just turns me off. What’s my problem? Bad Choices, St. Louis, MO Dear Bad Choices, Does the word “self-destructive” ring a bell? While tough and rough is sexy and a good challenge may be a big turn on, eventually, honey, you have to start dating someone who likes you more than you hate yourself. Make the switch. Hello Trinity, I just got dumped and I want to die. I put everything into this one. I can’t believe this is happening. I can’t even get out of bed. Any magic pills or potions? Dumped And Dead, Houston, TX Hello Dumped And Dead, I wish I had some pills, but I took them all! Now, I must ask, “Is it really the worst thing? Will you give a damn in two years? And, must you take forever to heal? Darling, why not speed up the process with: Trinity’s Speedy Tips For Getting Over Getting Dumped 1. If you’re depressed be depressed. Don’t hide it, but rather feel it and get into it. A lot of great music and poetry came from depression.

2. Do things that make you laugh. Watch TV comedies, rent funny movies and visit funny friends, but laugh. Yes, on one hand life is serious, but on the other hand, it’s also very funny. 3. Sleep, sleep, sleep! Your mind and emotions are going to tango for a while, so let your dreams do what they do best — help you fantasize. 4. Keep busy with projects, i.e. work, school or volunteering. Sitting around feeling useless will make you crazy! Hey, start a dating book, I did! 5. On a piece of paper, everyday write: “I forgive him. I forgive that bastard! She is forgiven!” Forgiveness is healing and, besides, you’ll forgive them anyway in 10 years. 6. Give your depression two weeks, no more. That’s enough. Being depressed is very unhealthy! And, then begin tips seven thru 10! 7. Start dating right away. Even if you know you’re not ready, just start practicing again. Also, get out and socialize, i.e. clubs, parties, anything! 8. Have sex! That’s right! And, right away. Don’t save yourself. You need to feel sexy, alive and grounded. Even hire someone. Just this once! 9. Force yourself to get over it and move on. Be that person people say, “He isn’t wasting time feeling sorry for himself!” 10. Lastly, go away, stay away, move away, but don’t cohabitate with or near anyone who dumps you. And, get rid of the guns! : : — With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama, and now performs globally. info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild 800-637-8696 . www.ptown.org

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Pride in Raleigh grows with hometown LGBT Center First annual OutRaleigh Festival a hit, Center finds new home by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

Organizers of the recent OutRaleigh Festival say they could have never expected the positive turnout they received when their event unrolled on downtown streets on May 14. Bobby Hilburn, executive director of the LGBT Center of Raleigh, the festival’s sponsor, said they expected a couple thousand attendees. When the event had come and gone, organizers counted more than 6,000. “We were definitely pleasantly surprised — one word that comes to mind is ‘overwhelmed,’” says OutRaleigh committee member Daire Roebuck. “It was really something to stand up there on the stage and look at the old capitol building and see Fayetteville St. filled with people and vendors and gay pride balloons and flags.” The event on May 14 marked the first time Raleigh held its own LGBT community festival in years. The capital city had hosted statewide Pride events and other smaller activities in the past, but locals wanted a new event to call their own. Roebuck says OutRaleigh’s success is part of the tremendous growth the community has seen across the state. In recent years, a variety of small-town communities have organized similar LGBT festivals and Pride events. “It’s absolutely fantastic to see it all and it is a positive consequence of our communities growth,” she says. “We have this absolute influx of population to this state from all over the country — people moving from Michigan and New York and places that have long-established Pride festivals. They come down here and to places like Salisbury and think, ‘Why can’t we have Pride here?’ I think it is great

that there is this proliferation of Pride events.” Though successful, Hilburn says the Center and the organizing committee felt their fair share of growing pains. “It was definitely a learning experience and a very rewarding experience,” he says. “We grew as a result of this planning process.” OutRaleigh’s success mirrors that of Hilburn’s center. The group’s initial board first met in 2008. By February 2010, the center found its first home on W. Cabarrus St. In April 2010, the group announced they would merge with Triangle Community Works, a community service and programming organization established in 1994. Two months ago, the center moved to larger space at 411 Hillsborough St. “We’ve found a home that is three times larger than our old space,” Hilburn says. “We plan for this space to be our home for the next three-to-five years and it will enable us to provide numerous programs and multiple meeting locations for various organizations. We’re still not where we want to be but we are heading in the right direction as far as a facility goes.” The center held a grand opening for their new space on the same day as the OutRaleigh Festival. Hilburn says that the community has responded positively and are continuing to support the center’s programming in new and exciting ways. He says Raleigh-based Workplace Options and Duke Medicine have both given at least $10,000 to the organization. In addition to OutRaleigh, the center has several regular programs working to reach out and make a difference in the lives of LGBTs across the Triangle area. Hilburn says

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Festivals, parades and other activities through October

South Carolina Black Gay Pride | June 24-26, 2011 Join other LGBT people of color and allies for South Carolina’s annual black LGBT Pride festival in Columbia. Attracting a couple thousand people each year, SC Black Gay Pride events feature forums, a festival, parties and more. Various events, locations and times. For more information, visit southcarolinablackpride.com. Salisbury Pride | June 25, 2011 The LGBT community in Salisbury celebrates with its first-ever local Pride festival. The town’s LGBT street festival begins at 11 a.m. and runs through 5 p.m. E. Fisher St., Salisbury, NC. salisburypride.org. OBX Pridefest | June 25, 2011 Local organizers in Salisbury aren’t the only community celebrating a first-time Pride. Community members in Nags Head, N.C., are gearing up for their inaugural event this year. Over 30 entertainers, musicians, singers, dancers, comedians and bands coalesce into this day-long festival on the coast. For more information on the festival, other associated events and travel/accommodations, visit obxpridefest.com. Charlotte Black Gay Pride | July 14-17, 2011 Celebrating their 2011 theme, “Together We Can,” Charlotte Black Gay Pride ramps up for a series of events throughout Charlotte including a community forum and film festival, educational workshops and worship services. Various events,

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the center’s “Gay and Gray” initiative has been among the most popular. Gay and Gray chair Les Geller says the initiative seeks to serve the social, healthcare, legal and other needs of an aging LGBT population ages 50 and over. He’s been encouraged by the support the initiative has received from both younger and older center supporters. “We’ve seen quite a bit of support from the younger generation, which has been quite a surprise to me,” Geller says. “Several members of our committee are under the age of 30 and our volunteer coordinator is 26 years old.”

Hilburn says the center has other programs they’ll soon be rolling out as the center continues to grow with its surrounding community. Those programs include a new transgender initiative. “We look forward to serving our community in the coming year,” he says. “We invite people to come by and look at our new center. We want to make sure we welcome all members of our community. We have an open door policy. : : more: Be sure to pick up our June 25, 2011, print edition for more on the LGBT Center of Raleigh’s Gay and Gray initiative.

The LGBT Center of Raleigh’s new location is larger and offers more opportunities for expanded programming says executive director Bobby Hilburn. Photo Credit: LGBT Center of Raleigh

locations and times. For more information, visit charlotteblack gaypride.com.

along with accompanying events in Chapel Hill and Raleigh. Details to be announced. For more information, visit ncpride.org.

Triangle Black Gay Pride | July 28-Aug. 1, 2011 Shades of Pride presents the 2011 Triangle Black Pride festivities. Events include a “S.I.N” or “Sexy in Nightwear” dance party, an open mic and poetry slam, health screenings and educational workshops and more. Various events, locations and times. For more information, visit triangleblackpride.org.

Catawba Valley Pride | Sept. 30-Oct. 2, 2011 Pride is bursting out all over and it’s headed for higher ground. The Catawba Valley Pride 2011 is in full gear. “The Sky Is The Limit!” is the theme organizers chose. A logo contest is in full swing to create the look of this upcoming event. For more information, visit catawbavalleypride.org.

Pride Charlotte | Aug. 19-28, 2011 A week-long series of LGBT community events culminating with the annual Pride Charlotte Festival, held this year on Aug. 27 in Uptown Charlotte along S. Tryon St., at the new Levine Center for the Arts. Organizers say they hope to have 15,00020,000 attendees. Various events through Pride Week begin on Aug. 19 and run through Aug. 28. For more information on these events and others, visit pridecharlotte.com.

Blue Ridge Pride | Oct. 1, 2011 Asheville paints the Appalachians rainbow! A day-long outdoor festival in downtown Asheville plus other events throughout the weekend. Details to be announced. For more information, visit blueridgepride.com.

SC Pride Festival and Parade | Sept. 3, 2011 The statewide South Carolina Pride Festival returns to downtown Columbia’s Finlay Park. Join as many as 14,000 Palmetto State LGBTs and allies for a day of fun. Details to be announced. For more information, visit scpride.org. NC Pride Fest & Parade | Sept. 24, 2011 North Carolina’s annual statewide LGBT Pride festival and parade attracts approximately 8,000-10,000 to Durham each year,

WSPride2011 | Oct. 15, 2011 Equality Winston-Salem joins Salisbury and Nags Head organizers in debuting their first locally-produced Pride festival. Fifteen years ago, NC Pride was held in Winston-Salem and local organizers are ready to bring the same feeling back with more local flair. For more details, including how to volunteer or contribute to the new event, visit equalitywinstonsalem.org. — Did we miss a Pride festival or parade? Let us know and we’ll feature your listing in our next print edition and online. Or, submit your Pride festivities and other events online at goqnotes.com/qguide/events/submit/.

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People who are taking the negative out of being positive by Dale Pierce ~ Practice Manager

Welcome to the third rotation of articles in this series from Rosedale ID. Every third issue, we plan on spotlighting a patient who is living with the HIV virus — we hope our interview with them helps you to relate to their story as we put a face on HIV/AIDS. Our first personal spotlight is on a 46-yearold African-American male, who has battled the disease since 2001. In interest of privacy we have changed names to protect his anonymity, so today we will be calling him Tim. When I first sat down with Tim in my office to do his interview, I immediately noticed a sense of self-assuredness that comes not only from the struggles with the virus, but also from living a positive life. He had been to his regular doctor earlier in 2001 for his routine checkups and noticed swollen lymph nodes on his neck (common in HIV-infected individuals). All his tests had always came back negative and he

always questioned his sexual partners and made sure that he was practicing safe sex, with a one-night exception he recalls he was “caught in the moment.” In addition to the swollen lymph nodes, Tim had also been experiencing a lot of fatigue and other relatable symptoms. The thing that makes that day so unforgettable for Tim, and later the rest of the world, was that Tim was scheduled to visit his doctor on Sept. 11, 2001. As he sat in the waiting room dealing with his own anxiety over his results, a special news break had come over the television. A plane had crashed into the World Trade Center and it was believed to be a terrorist attack on our country. Tim was in shock and being that he had friends and family in New York City, was obviously distraught and concerned for their safety. Tim was so overcome by his emotions he left the office to go home and monitor the progress of those events. Two days later on Sep.13, 2001, he would learn his own HIV status was positive, a moment that began to change his world forever as well. Early on in the process Tim said that it was easy to make one simple decision: “Do I want to live or do I want to die?” His choice was obvious for him. He mentioned to me that although he certainly understood the seriousness of the diagnosis, it had to be an “okay, here is

what the cards dealt, now how do I deal with it” attitude. Tim immediately started a regimen of three different anti-retroviral medications and suffered through the side effects with the knowledge that his only options were to take the medications so he could continue to thrive in his life. Tim did not particularly enjoy going to the larger facility where he was originally referred and after a few visits sought out a private clinic and physician, Dr. Joseph Jemsek. In the years to follow, as Tim settled into his routine with Dr. Jemsek and his staff, his counts improved and his numbers thrived, as well as his attitude and continued zest for life. He made a move out of state for some time and eventually returned several years later to his home in the Carolinas. At the time he returned to find that Dr. Jemsek had closed his practice and moved out of the area. Rosedale ID had taken over the patient base and private practice of HIV. Tim said he was relieved and refreshed to find familiar faces at the new Rosedale ID offices. Tim had also fallen on some hard times and was concerned that he was about to lose his insurance at one point, which, unfortunately, happened to him. Rosedale ID and the Ryan White and ADAP program were able to come to the rescue.

Today he is back working a great job, with private insurance, and happily still enjoying the “family” feel of our facility. Tim mentioned to me in our talk that he feels that finding out his diagnosis has helped him to “live his own truth.” At times he still feels somewhat lonely when dealing with his disease. This comment took me aback being that all the years I have known him, he has been full of life and a great spirit. He said it is not always his own thinking, but the fact that the “stigma” around the disease and especially in the African-American community is what builds walls and barriers around his feelings and interactions. He mentions that his experience at Rosedale ID and with the staff there has helped him tremendously when dealing with his own insecurities because he is treated like “a member of the family.” Most recently, since Rosedale ID has its own mail-order pharmacy through a partnership with Kerr Health, we were able to reduce Tim’s co-payments on his medications. Living your truth and thriving is a powerful thing. Tim and many of our patients are prime examples that HIV is no longer a death sentence. Your treatment can be incorporated into your daily life and in some ways help your mind, body, and spirit to prosper. — Sponsored Content —

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drag rag by miss della :: qnotes contributor

Pageants are sizzling this summer! So, it’s not many times that I can say I’m actually excited to be writing the Rag. I’ve enjoyed doing it, but it’s a monthly thing for me and has been for many years. But, when you have two national titleholders living in your home state, that’s cause for celebration, in my opinion. By now, most of you know Luscious just won Miss Gay U.S.ofA., and we have Miss America Coti Collins living in Raleigh (although she’s doing her La Cage gig in Oregon right now). We hope to do a separate write-up about Miss LuLu since she is the first Carolinian to win this U.S.ofA. title, although many Miss Americas (seven) have ties to the Carolinas by birth or living arrangements. In fact, Luscious is one of those, too. She competed as Miss Georgia with excellent promoters. And, sponsors, too, I’m sure. Her runners-up included Amy DeMilo (also her RU at the state prelim), Natasha Braxton, Naomi St. James and Delores Van Cartier, followed by Alina Maletti, Trinity Taylor, Chelsea Lauren, Kennedy Davenport, Kathryn Nevets, Adeciya Iman and Justice Paige Counce. Our own Jessica Raynes Starr won Most Beautiful — a feat that has not been pulled off by a “boy queen” (an impersonator who lives as male) in ages! Please see future articles about more NC accomplishments. NC is back on da map, kids! That same weekend, Catia Lee Love, a former Miss America, and might as well be a Carolinian, won Miss Gay U.S.ofA. Classic. Others in the Top 6 included Dina Jacobs, Alexis Principle, Aaron Davis, Coco Chandelier and Iroc Octavia Goodness. Since I’m harping on the Miss America contest, too, it’s only right that many months after her win, we feature a picture of Coti Collins. I know, it’s about time, gal. Recent qualifiers to this contest in the fall up in Columbus, OH include Miss Oklahoma Roxie Hart (former Miss EOY); Atlantic States, Jessica Jade

and RU Monica Moore; Virginia, Onyx Revlon; and Mid-Atlantic, Tatiyanna Voché. Another contest quickly approaching is the newer, exciting All-American Goddess in Dayton, OH. With competitors like

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Brittany Moore, Strawbella Bea’Goddess, Kori Stevens, Aurora Sexton, Michelle Fighter, Shae Shae LaReese, Nina DeAngelo, Sania DeLa Cruz, Mercedes Alexander, Alana Steele and Jasmine International, it’s no wonder I’ll be in that audience! Plus, I’ll get to see my good AAG at Large sisters, the reigning Dena Cass (sick-o-ning promos, check out the website!) and Kelexis Davenport. See y’all there! Other contests quickly approaching that I just may pop up at — Miss and Mr. Unlimited At Large in Hickory the third week in June and Miss TX FFI and At Large in San Antonio for July 4th weekend. Local contests that have taken place include Miss NC EOY, which Asheville’s Manhattan won. Her RUs included Jayda Colby, Malayia Chanel Iman and Macaria Rage. I hear Miss EOY Vanessa DeMornay was wonderful and Chad Michaels was also in the house! On the NC America scene, I’ve got a lot of catching up to do! Nirobi will be competing as the alternate to Miss Metrolina and the new Miss Greensboro is Brianna Davis with RU Ferocia Starr. The new Miss DIVAS is Jade Paris with RU Robyn Cassadine and Miss Asheville Angela Lopez with RU Jacquelynn L. Matthews. Angela also recently just won the Miss Rainbow In contest and her RU was Malayia Chanel Iman. Other big names coming to town, folks, at the Scorpio: Former All-American Goddess and “RuPaul’s Drag Race” Season 3 contestant India Ferrah; Miss Erika Norell on Friday, July 1, and from the “Drag Race” Season 2, Jujubee on Sunday, July 3! This column is dedicated to the memory of a dear old sis, Tracey Stephens of Chicago and Charlotte, and who had been living in Atlanta. Tracey was 1st RU to Miss NC America in 2009. : : info: Drop me a line, OK? TheTeaMissD@yahoo.com

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by leslie robinson :: qnotes contributor

Squeeze play In just a week, four male sports figures came out. From the basketball world, Rick Welts, the CEO of the Phoenix Suns, and Will Sheridan, a former player at Villanova, went public. Pro bowler Scott Norton and ESPN sports reporter Jared Max decided it was time, too. What’s going through the minds of other gay men in the sports world now? Perhaps, some of them are thinking along these lines: Jesus H. Christ! Four of ‘em! It’s a damn stampede. Stampede, hah, probably a rodeo star will be next. “Brokeback Mountain” lives. I didn’t figure on coming out of the closet till I was …Who am I kidding, I never figured on it. I just knew I couldn’t. Automatic. Like throwing to first. Automatic.

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Except for that throw in the fifth yesterday. I threw it to the friggin’ cameraman. Two errors in a week. Not like me at all. Maybe this stuff is getting to me. Maybe if another guy comes out, I’ll forget how to bat. I bet it really is easier if you don’t play a team sport. Too late for me to switch to pole-vaulting. That bowler. Bowling isn’t a team sport. Or, is it? Do two guys ever bowl at the same time in the same lane? Yeah, if they’re named Fred and Barney. It’s stupid to say it’s easy for guys doing individual sports to admit they’re gay. It’s never easy. Being a man is what it’s about. Masculinity. “Macho, macho man.” Oh, God.

The away fans, that’s gonna be bad. They’ll boo me, yell all kinds of crap. “Hey Frazier, do you like fair balls or foul balls?” Ownership? Too busy screwing 20-year-olds to notice. Old Mac? He won’t get it. But, he stands by all his players, so maybe… So, if I came out, it would be mega-stress. Dealing with the reactions of everybody, from the ball boys to the media. On the other side, there’s the stress I have now. Living a lie. Which is kinda getting to me. Damn those four! All my life I’ve had peer pressure to stay hidden. Now, I’ve got peer pressure to come out! I suppose that’s cool in a way. Barriers are falling. Boom. Okay, okay, I’ll make a deal with myself. I’ll definitely come out when I retire. And, I’ll think about coming out sooner. Jesus, maybe I’ll join the next wave. It’ll be me, a hockey executive, a swimmer and a play-by-play man. But, one of them better go first. : : info: generalgayety.com

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Baseball, baseball, baseball. It’s all I’ve ever been, all I’ve ever wanted to be. And, I got here. The big leagues. Made everybody proud. Worked my ass off. Made me proud. God, Coach Graham. Made me a great shortstop. And, told the freshmen to stop throwing like fairies. Said every ball thrown short in the dirt kicked up fairy dust. Be a man. Be a man. Doesn’t a man stand up for himself? No goddamn way. If I came out, told the whole world I’m gay, I’d be screwed! Don’t think they could actually fire me, but I’d be sent down to Little League. My teammates would freak. Well, not Adam. Or, Jake. They’re pretty cool. And, Juan has a gay brother. Len, with his “faggot this” and “faggot that” would probably wanna fight. Others just flat wouldn’t talk to me. But, others would ask me about being gay I bet. Could I handle that? Being the dugout homo expert? Here’s the thing. If I got honest, I could stop dating in the shadows. Maybe even snag me a handsome Hollywood type. Or, a third baseman. The fans? Probably mixed. Mostly good.

on being a gay parent by brett webb-mitchell :: qnotes contributor

Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re related In a previous column, I wrote about the way that the federal government reminds me how odd and â&#x20AC;&#x153;second classâ&#x20AC;? my family is when coming through passport control when re-entering my country. I have stood in line and watched as families with children, warring spouses and multi-generational families sail through passport control with little-to-no hassle. I, on the other hand, have always had to separate myself from my partner, each of us filling out our own, individual re-entry cards, marking â&#x20AC;&#x153;0â&#x20AC;? where you record if you are with any other family member, be it a spouse, child, or parent who is living under the same roof. That small, slightly insignificant act was a gestural reminder that my â&#x20AC;&#x153;familyâ&#x20AC;? is not comprehended, or treated like a family, American style. My family was different and defied the norm simply because the person I am in relationship to and love is

of the same sex. The person with whom I have shared my ups and downs, trials and tribulations, joys and sorrows, comedic high points and life decisions for over 15 years was not â&#x20AC;&#x153;family.â&#x20AC;? If this isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t family, I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know what is. So my partner, Dean, and I were on our way back from Costa Rica a few days ago. Before they handed out the re-entry forms, the flight attendant asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Take one form per household.â&#x20AC;? I looked at Dean and said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Household?â&#x20AC;? I checked it out with the flight attendant and she said that the federal authorities were getting tired of all the paper work and that they were simply asking for one form per household, as long as the people were living under â&#x20AC;&#x153;one roof.â&#x20AC;? We got one form! That was a first. Re-entering the States in Atlanta, Ga., we passed a kiosk with more blue and white re-entry forms. I knew that if we got up to the counter with the federal authority, we could simply get another form. I was a bit anxious, questioning what would happen with Dean. But, we thought there would be no harm in trying. Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s the worse they could do to us? Tell us to get an-

other form, thus further cementing our second-citizen status? When called upon with the simple command, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Next!â&#x20AC;? we moved together, as a couple, to the federal agent. I gave him the one form and the two passports. He looked at the re-entry form and then simply asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Are you related?â&#x20AC;? Even though his last name is Blackburn and I am Webb-Mitchell, after living together for over 15 years, yes, we are related. He scanned our passports, wrote a large â&#x20AC;&#x153;2â&#x20AC;? on the form itself, stamped the re-entry form and gave it back to us for us to get our luggage and go through customs. No one asked us at any of these next two stations if we were related or had to show further identification. They just waived us through, as if, well, we were family. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Oh my God!â&#x20AC;? I said, as partly prayer and part exclamation, as we walked down to the next area to get another flight to Raleigh-Durham. For the first time since I was in a heterosexual marriage, the U.S. government recognized my family as a family, just like anyone elseâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s family. This is a small change that had a big affect upon my psyche and the psyche of literally thousands of LGBTQ couples and families. A new day is dawning, with more changes to come as we, who are LGBTQ and in relationship say, sing, dance, and announce to the world that, â&#x20AC;&#x153;yes, we are related.â&#x20AC;? : :

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out in print by terri schlichenmeyer :: qnotes contributor

Chaz Bono’s ‘Transition’ The face in the mirror is yours. Yes, you recognize that chin, the eyes that droop when fatigued, the mouth that’s etched parentheses around itself, as if to enclose something you said. That’s your hair. Those are your ears. That’s your nose. It’s you there in the mirror — the outside you — but inside, well, what you see isn’t what you know. In the new book “Transition” by Chaz Bono (with Billie Fitzpatrick), you’ll read what it’s like to feel like you’re in the wrong body, and how a tiny Hollywood darling became a man. On the wall of his home, Chaz Bono has a picture of himself and his parents, taken when he was a toddler. They all look happy, Bono says, but he doesn’t remember that day or much of his childhood. What he does remember, though, is that

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he always felt like a boy, even though he was the daughter of Sonny and Cher. Bono says that, as a child, he dressed in boy clothes as much as possible and answered to a boy’s nickname. He played with boys at school and his best friend was a boy. Nobody thought much about it, he says. That’s just the way it was. Puberty was rough and Bono came out

as a lesbian, but something still wasn’t quite right. He didn’t identify with women, gay or otherwise, and distant feelings of masculinity colored his relationships with them and with his family. Still, he lived his life as a woman: falling in love, starting a band, buying a house and trying to stay out of the public eye. Bono’s father seemed supportive of his lesbianism. His mother had trouble with it. But, happiness eluded Bono and he turned to drugs to cope with the frustration. By then, though, he thought he knew what he needed to do… On March 20, 2009, he says “I drove myself to the doctor’s office… I felt only confident that what I was doing was right.” “After all the years of fear, ambivalence, doubts and emotional torture, the day had finally come. I was on testosterone and I have

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more information or to purchase tickets, visit tgmchorus.org.

is planned. E. Fisher St. 11 a.m.-5 p.m. Free. salisburypride.com.

Join Pride Charlotte and a host of pageant hosts for a series of contests leading up to one lucky girl’s chance to be named Miss Pride Charlotte. Pageants for Miss Pride Charlotte, Mr. Pride Charlotte MI and Mr. Pride Charlotte will be held throughout June and July. For more detailed information on each of these events and others, visit pridecharlotte.com/events/.

June 18 • Asheville Gay 5K/Gay Games The Gay 5K and Fun Run to support Blue Ridge Pride. Come as a team or individual to participate in the Gay Games. Think adult field day with some costumes, music, and super gay prizes. After party at Altamont Brewing Company in West Asheville. Register a team at www.blueridgepride.com. Carrier Park, 220 Amboy Rd. 10 a.m.-4 p.m.

June 25 • Charlotte | Stonewall Party The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte hosts a commemoration of the 1969 Stonewall Riots. Join community members for free hot dogs and hamburgers and games outside the center. Inside, watch the documentary “Before Stonewall.” LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11. 704-3330144. gaycharlotte.com.

June 11 • Greensboro June 18 • Winston-Salem Location, Location, Location Join Triad Pride Men’s Chorus on a musical journey across the nation. Songs include: “From Where I Stand,” “Loch Lomond,” “Kansas City” and many more. Greensboro Day School Sloan Theatre, 5401 Lawndale Dr. 8 p.m. A second show will be held June 18, UNC School of the Arts Watson Chamber Music Hall, 1533 S. Main St. 8 p.m. $15/advance. $20/door. To purchase tickets, call 336589-6267 or visit triadpridemenschorus.org.

June 20 • Statewide QList voting ends! Today’s your last day to vote in our 2011 QList — Best of LGBT Carolina. Voting stays open until 11:59 p.m., so get in your votes for your favorite nightclubs and bars, restaurants and coffee shops and community groups and leaders! goqnotes.com/qlist/.

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June 12 • Charlotte Miss Gay Charlotte America The 30th Annual Miss Gay Charlotte America Pageant, featuring Emory Starr, Starla DaVinci, Blair Williams, Felicia Monet & Tiffany Storm. The Scorpio, 2301 Freedom Dr. 9 p.m. scorpios.com. June 12 • Raleigh Sing for the Cure Triangle Gay Men’s Chorus and the Common Woman Chorus of Durham will present the Triangle’s first performance of A Proclamation of Hope — featuring Sing for the Cure at the Meymandi Concert Hall of Raleigh’s Progress Energy Center for the Performing Arts. For

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June 23-26 • Columbia SC Black Pride A series of community events, nightlife activities, a town hall and other events mark the sixth annual South Carolina Black Pride. This year’s theme is “Mind, Body & Soul.” For a full list of events and other information, visit southcarolinablackpride.com. June 24 • Winston-Salem June Bride Bingo Equality Winston-Salem presents “June Bride” Gay Bingo. Event location moves to downtown! MC Benton, Jr. Convention Center, 301 W. Fifth St. equalitywinstonsalem.org. June 25 • Salisbury Salisbury Pride Community members celebrate their first LGBT Pride event in Salisbury. A festival with community leaders and entertainment

June 25 • Nags Head OBX Pridefest The Outer Banks’ first Pride festival is a threeday celebration of music, laughter and family and it’s at the BEACH in Nags Head! Over 30 entertainers, musicians, singers, dancers, comedians and bands. More details at obxpridefest.com. June 26 • Winston-Salem Miss Gay Winston Salem America Preliminary pageant to Miss Gay NC America. AIDS Care Service will be on hand to promote awareness in the community as well as entertainers from across the state! Club Co2, 4019 Country Club Rd. 10 p.m. 336-908-2551. June 30-July 3 • Charlotte Antiques show From apartments to million dollar homes, you’ll find unique items to fit any style and budget at the International Collectibles and Antiques Show! Including: home decor, antiques, furniture, collectibles, art, jewelry, crafts and more. Metrolina Tradeshow Expo, 7100 Statesville Rd. icashows.com/ ICAShows.

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arts. entertainment. news. views. July 4 • Charlotte Presbyterian Hospital July 4th Spectacular Spend your Fourth of July with friends and family in Center City Charlotte at Memorial Stadium. 310 N. Kings Dr., for the Presbyterian Hospital July 4th Spectacular! Family-fun activities will take place from 4-9 p.m. FREE admission! Alcohol free! Food, live music and more! findyourcenter.com. July 15-17 • Charlotte Charlotte Black Gay Pride The annual black LGBT Pride event in Charlotte, attracting 3,000-4,000 annually. For more information on various Pride and related events visit charlotteblackgaypride.com. July 28-Aug. 1 • Charlotte Triangle Black Gay Pride The annual black LGBT Pride event in the Triange, attracting approximately 2,000 annually. For more information, visit triangleblack pride.org.

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never looked back — not once.” Author Chaz Bono says at one point that he was never very good at transitions. He did a pretty good job at this one, with a few minor bumps. “Transition” is filled with angst, anger, sadness and pain, topped off with wonderment and joy. It’s also repetitious, contains a few delicately squirmy moments and its occasional bogginess is a challenge for wandering minds. For wondering minds, Bono is quick to defend and explain away his family’s reluctance to accept his gender reassignment, but he’s

also willing to admit to being hurt by it. Still, contentment and awe shine forth at the end of this book, and readers will breathe a sigh of relief for it. If you can face the slowness that crops up in “Transition” now and then, you’ll find it to be a pretty good memoir. For you, it’s a book to put your hands on. : : info: “Transition” by Chaz Bono (with Billie Fitzpatrick) © 2011, Dutton • $25.95

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