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wednesday, july 31, 2019
‘Ideal man’ refuses to free himself from second marriage DEAR ABBY: I spent less than a year after the past 11 years in an meeting her. emotionally and physically He keeps telling me abusive on-again, off-again how “full of myself” relationship. I finally got I am, and/or that I out and am very proud of have nothing to worry myself for doing it. about. But I’m not I am now deeply in love getting any younger, with an amazing new man. and this man IS truly He is everything I prayed my ideal man. I have for — the whole deal. There giving him Dear Abby tried is only one problem: He’s ultimatums, but we Jeanne Phillips get into arguments married. I knew he was married, that last for hours, and but, Abby, the marriage was phony. we end up in circles all over again. The girl used him to become a legal Help! U.S. citizen. She’s now back in her home country, apparently “married” — ANXIOUS IN ARIZONA and has a family with someone else, but my boyfriend is still married to DEAR ANXIOUS: If the life you her. want includes marriage and children, I don’t know the whole legalities, by now you should realize your but he still isn’t filing for divorce, “ideal man” is not prepared to give even though he’s constantly telling you what you need. He’s using the me he will. I have been with him for “phony” marriage — if it even exists almost three years now, and I’m tired — to avoid making a commitment to of wasting my time. I have never been you, and talking circles around you married, and he married this woman (filibustering!) so he can maintain
the status quo. I’m pretty sure you already know what you have to do, as painful as it may be in the short term. Do it now so you won’t be writing me in another three years with the same problem. DEAR ABBY: I’m having a strong disagreement with my sister regarding responsibility for finding child care. My wife and I have to go away for a couple of days, and we need someone to watch one of our children for a Friday and Saturday night. I’m taking my older daughter to a travel tournament, and my wife had a previously planned trip out of town that same weekend. I asked my sister to stay with our other daughter and our dogs in our home because I thought it would be nice for them to spend some time together. She vehemently rebuffed me because “it’s the mother’s responsibility to find someone.” I have never heard of such a thing. I felt like I was transported back to the 1950s. To me, family is family. Why would it matter if my
Crossword | Eugene Sheffer
family came and watched my child as opposed to my wife’s family? We are not talking right now because of this issue. I think it was rude and just plain archaic. — BACK IN TIME DEAR BACK IN TIME: Family is indeed family. Could your sister have been offended that your wife didn’t call and ask for that favor? Or does she dislike your wife for some reason? She was not obligated to agree to baby-sit your child, but for the reason you stated, it would have been nice and an opportunity to bond with the girl. From now on, leave your sister out of the baby-sitting equation, unless she volunteers. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Jacqueline Bigar’s Stars
ARIES (March 21-April 19) HHHH At first, you might feel as if you woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Quickly, you will feel otherwise. You are clearly on top of your game. Think of clearing out a misunderstanding between you and another person. Tonight: Fun and games.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20) HHH Do not become too complacent about what is happening around you. Others find you to be full of fun and surprises at the moment. A conversation starts up out of the blue, allowing a new beginning for you and another person. Tonight: Run errands on the way home.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
CANCER (June 21-July 22) HHHH Curb an innate possessiveness or perhaps jealousy that keeps coming up. A situation arises in which you will be able to root out the real cause of these uncomfortable feelings. With the knowledge that ensues, you will gain more understanding and control of this uncomfortable emotion. Tonight: Meet a friend for bubbly and munchies.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) HHHHH You could find yourself in an irksome situation that you might want to change. You will have an opportunity to iron out this discomfort and possible misunderstanding in the next few days. Use caution around money dealings. Postpone any decisions in this area until tomorrow. Tonight: Stop and visit a friend.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) HHH You could be very tired of a
Dear Heloise: What is MSG, and how is it used? My husband won’t touch the stuff. Is it really dangerous to eat? —Rochelle R., Bedford, N.H. Monosodium glutamate (MSG) is a flavor enhancer found in mainly Chinese and Japanese cooking. Research has shown that some people suffer side effects from consuming this product. The side effects can range from headache and flushing to numbness and tingling, weakness and more. — Heloise
BLACKBERRIES Dear Readers: Like all berries, blackberries have some wonderful benefits and a delicious taste. They grow on shrubs, known as brambles. Not only are they low in calories, with only 62 calories per cup of berries, they also are an excellent fruit for diabetics. They contain magnesium, potassium and vitamins
Rubes | Leigh Rubin
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) HHH One-on-one relating draws good results. A partner finally hears your willingness to work through a problem loud and clear. You’ve possibly tried a new approach to eliminate a recent tension. Listen to the other party. This person’s feelings count! Tonight: Take your cue from a loved one.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) HHHHH Zero in on a long-term goal. You might not hit a bull’s-eye at this very moment, but you will in the near future. A friendship plays a significant role in the realization of this desire. Be open to a discussion. Tonight: Where the crowds are.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) HHHH Do not overthink another person’s gesture. You could easily misread what is going on. Accept a gracious gesture. Stay open to conversations and some fun. You like the potential opening you see. Tonight: Midweek break. Frolic away.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) HHHH A must appearance is inevitable. A boss or authority figure wants to know your true feelings and thoughts about an important matter. An unexpected twist with a close friend or loved one adds more color to your day. Tonight: Accept an invitation out.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
HHHHH You cannot imagine that others will seem so friendly and willing to pitch in after their recent coldness. This thaw in an interaction might happen as soon as today, but it will definitely take place in the next few days. Meanwhile, follow a whim!
C, E, K and A, and are a good source of fiber. — Heloise SEND A GREAT HINT TO: Heloise P.O. Box 795001 San Antonio, TX 78279-5001 Fax: 210-HELOISE Email: Heloise@Heloise.com
BIRTHDAY CAKE BLUES Dear Heloise: A child’s birthday can be very messy, especially when it comes to the cake. I always seem to end up with cake all over the place. Got any hints to help me out? — Georgia K., New Castle, Pa. Georgia, use flat-bottom ice cream cones and fill half-full with the cake batter, then set them in a muffin tin to hold them upright. Bake at 350 F for about 20 minutes or until done. When cooled, ice the tops and serve. — Heloise
HHHH Focus on the quality of your day-to-day life. You might want to schedule a class in yoga or head to the gym more often. You might feel the need for some other change to keep your life more active and vital. Tonight: Follow your instincts.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
hints from heloise MONOSODIUM GLUTAMATE
Tonight: Authenticity counts.
loved one’s or friend’s attitude of late. A New Moon encourages you to look within and decide how much you caused this issue -- honestly. You will have an opportunity to clear the air. Tonight: Vanish. Mystery behooves you.
BORN TODAY Author J.K. Rowling (1965), actor Wesley Snipes (1962))
Conceptis Sudoku | DaveByGreen Dave Green
7 9 2 3 4 8 1 6 5
1 4 6 5 7 2 3 9 8
5 3 8 9 1 6 2 7 4
9 8 3 7 5 4 6 1 2
4 7 1 6 2 3 8 5 9
6 2 5 8 9 1 4 3 7
3 6 9 4 8 7 5 2 1
B.C. | Johnny Hart
2 5 4 1 6 9 7 8 3
8 1 7 2 3 5 9 4 6
7 9 8 2 4 1 5 8 8 9 6 6 5 2 7 8 5 1 9 6 2 6 4 3 1 9 1 5 7 3 4
Ziggy | Tom Wilson
Tundra | Chad Carpenter
Garfield | Jim Davis
Take it from the Tinkersons | Bill Bettwy
Shoe | Chris Cassatt & Gary Brookins
Mother Goose and Grimm | Michael Peters
2019 Conceptis Puzzles, Dist. by King Features Syndicate, Inc.
This year, you manifest many of your desires. If you’re single, if you want to change your status, you will find an excellent reason to! If attached, you see a resurgence of more romantic days, to your delight. You and your partner both could be surprised at your new closeness. A fellow LEO adds a lot of zip to your days! The Stars Show the Kind of Day You’ll Have: 5-Dynamic; 4-Positive; 3-Average; 2-So-so; 1-Difficult
HHHHH You feel better and better as the day ages. A new beginning becomes possible, involving communication and/or feelings. In the near future, if not today, make sure to connect with a friend who you’ve felt quite distant from. Tonight: A force to behold.
2019 Conceptis Puzzles, Dist. by King Features Syndicate, Inc.
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July 31, 2019 edition of the Peninsula Clarion