The Daily Herald Sunday, 02.07.2016
NEW YORK TIMES CROSSWORD PUZZLE
1
“MESSAGE TO BUYers,” BY YAAKOV BENDAVID | PUZZLES EDITED BY WILL SHORTZ
19
Across
23
13 14 15
Solution below
64 65 67 69 71
54
68
78
86
69
70
75
76
92
89
93
94 98
90
91
95
96
99
100
112
113
116
117
118
119
120
121
122
123
76 78 79 80
81 82 86 87 89 91 93
107
108
109
114
110
Throw a monkey wrench into Concert V.I.P. Masculine icon Poetic twilight Low-quality material, in a saying Unsmilingly Attacks
95 96 98
Opposing voice Count (on) “The best is ____ come” 99 Impurity 101 Graceful bird 102 Hazard for high heels 103 1961 Charlton Heston title role
Just look at what happens to people in its absence — when someone dies suddenly, for example. They struggle to make sense of the loss and manage the unanswered questions. This period doesn’t have to be indefinite. It’s simply a kindness to remain available to answer lingering questions or hear someone out, especially since the need to be heard tends to bubble up on its own timetable even weeks after the fact. So maybe his doubts ended things, but on your way out you slammed the door on his hand. Re: Too Soon: This jumped out at me: “he did act the part.” It sounds like the letter-writer is trying to minimize the significance of the breakup by treating the whole relationship as a lie. I think it would be healthier for her to acknowledge that it’s possible for his feelings for her to be genuine at the same time his not wanting to be married was genuine. — Anonymous Valid and insightful, thank you. Washington Post Writers Group
Guilt lingers over parents’ divorce talk
Universal Uclick
A M O U R S A E S O P
F L A N K
B O N M O T C O S T S
C O S T A S E V E R
H A A M L Y L E A S B S E I N S T
Dear Abby: I am a single parent of four children ages 5 to 13. I want to go back to school to better myself and make a better life for them because I am raising them on my own. I keep putting off going back because something always comes up. I’m afraid if I keep this up, then I’ll never do it and will live with regret for the rest of my life. I don’t have a stable support system, and I work full time, so
I’m also worried about having no time for my children. What would you recommend I do? Can you help me push myself? — Wants No Regrets Dear Wants No Regrets: Set goals for yourself. Explore career counseling at your nearest community college and ask for guidance about child care options. When you do, ask if you can take one or two classes a semester, rather than a full course load, and if any of the classes you need are held online. That way, you won’t be spending a lot of time away from your children, and at the same time you’ll be setting an example for them to follow about the importance of education.
C A C H E D
another.” Because you carry feelings of guilt over this, if you feel comfortable enough to do so, talk to your parents about it. If not, then discuss it with a counselor because blaming yourself for reacting as any 12-year-old would is wrong.
S P U T N I K
S A L E S R E P S
E X A M I N E R
A E N E A S A L L U D E T O
D R E D G E T E A S E R S
Dear Abby: During my childhood, my parents fought loudly and often. When I was 12, they spoke to my sister and me about getting a divorce. I was heartbroken and fought back. Like any kid in that situation, I was upset and scared. I told them they were being selfish and irresponsible for breaking up our family when they were the ones who chose to have children in the first place. They ended up staying together and never mentioned the D-word again. It’s 15 years later; they have now been married for 40 years. When I’m around, I still hear them squabble, but nothing like when I was young. They obviously care about one another. As an adult, I am plagued by guilt. Had I been older and wiser when they first contemplated divorce, I would have agreed that they were probably not a good match, and told them to do whatever they needed to be happy. Did I do the wrong thing when I was young? — Remorseful In The South Dear Remorseful: What you said when you were 12 may have affected your parents’ decision about divorcing, but it was not the deciding factor. It may have slowed them down and made them think that as long as their children were minors, they should make a greater effort to keep the family intact. By the time you became an adult nine years ago they appear to have made peace and patched up their major differences. As you stated, “They obviously care about one
104 Fort ____, Fla. 108 Penny ____ 109 Commuter option 111 Alternatively 114 Big name in camping gear 115 Strands in a lab
HOROSCOPE
DEAR ABBY | Abigail Van Buren
S L I D I N
Ten years ago: Some 10,000 mourners, including four U.S. presidents, said goodbye to Coretta Scott King during a service in Lithonia, Georgia. Abu Hamza al-Masri, a radical Muslim cleric linked to 9/11 plotter Zacarias Moussaoui), was sentenced in London to seven years in prison for inciting followers to kill non-Muslims. Five years ago: Speaking to the U.S. Chamber of Commerce, President Barack Obama echoed John F. Kennedy as he prodded business leaders to “ask yourselves what you can do for America,” not just for company bottom lines. AOL Inc. announced the $315 million purchase of The Huffington Post website. Today’s birthdays: Author Gay Talese is 84. Former Sen. Herb Kohl, D-Wis., is 81. Movie director Hector Babenco is 70. Actor Miguel Ferrer is 61. Reggae musician Brian Travers (UB40) is 57. Comedy writer Robert Smigel is 56. Actor James Spader is 56. Country singer Garth Brooks is 54. Rock musician David Bryan (Bon Jovi) is 54. Actor-comedian Eddie Izzard is 54. Actorcomedian Chris Rock is 51. Actor Jason Gedrick is 49. Actress Essence Atkins is 44. Rock singer-musician Wes Borland is 41. Rock musician Tom Blankenship (My Morning Jacket) is 38. Actor Ashton Kutcher is 38. Actress Tina Majorino is 31. Actress Deborah Ann Woll is 31. Thought for today: “A day wasted on others is not wasted on one’s self.” — Charles Dickens (born this date in 1812, died 1870). Associated Press
Of course it’s possible to jump out too quickly. That’s not to say you did; if you reached a point where you couldn’t see anything that would ever make you want to commit to this person again, then you did the right thing by saying so openly and sticking to it. If you had asked for my advice during this process, though, I would have advised against blocking all communication from him. When people end a significant relationship, they don’t adjust to the new state of things immediately. It takes time — and you’re proof of that yourself. You didn’t leave after the first conversation, but instead after the third or fourth over a couple of weeks, after you’d had sufficient time and discussion to grasp what was happening. You denied him that same time to adjust, though. This communication after the fact is often excruciating, but I think — absent abuse — it’s important to healing.
L A U D E D
TODAY IN HISTORY
and physical disgust at the prospect of marrying me. You can’t fix that, right? Weren’t my efforts enough? — Jumping Into a Breakup
111
115
Was she too quick to end relationship? Dear Carolyn: You know how you shouldn’t jump into a serious relationship quickly? Is it possible to jump out of one too quickly? Two months before our wedding, my ex told me he “couldn’t do this” and wasn’t sure if he ever wanted to. Everyone else called it cold feet, but I had two or three discussions with him over a couple of weeks, then promptly left after the third or fourth one because I saw no point. He was upset that I canceled all things weddingrelated, but I didn’t (and still don’t) see any other options. I immediately blocked him on all avenues of communication and those blocks remain in place to this day. We’d been together for three years, and he did act the part of a loving boyfriend and fiance. That’s why I had many friends and family tell me I gave up too soon. “You can’t just give up when things get tough!” “He could be trying to contact you right now and you’d never know!” After his confession, I saw nothing but mixed messages
101
106
Super Bowlwinning coach Carroll Target of a curfew, maybe Old Southwest outlaw Title chameleon of a 2011 animated film Fraternity letters
104
85
105
74
103
77
84 88
97
71
80
83 87
102
59
79
82
65
55
62
74
64
49
58
73
81
48
53
TELL ME ABOUT IT | Carolyn Hax
Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Today is Sunday, Feb. 7, the 38th day of 2016. There are 328 days left in the year. Today’s highlight: On Feb. 7, 1936, President Franklin D. Roosevelt authorized a flag for the office of the vice president. On this date: In 1795, the 11th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution, dealing with states’ sovereign immunity, was ratified. In 1857, a French court acquitted author Gustave Flaubert of obscenity for his serialized novel “Madame Bovary.” In 1931, aviator Amelia Earhart married publisher George P. Putnam in Noank, Connecticut. In 1940, Walt Disney’s second animated feature, “Pinocchio,” premiered in New York. In 1948, Gen. Dwight D. Eisenhower resigned as Army chief of staff; he was succeeded by Gen. Omar Bradley. In 1962, President John F. Kennedy imposed a full trade embargo on Cuba. In 1965, during the Vietnam War, Viet Cong forces attacked Camp Holloway, a U.S. Army helicopter base near Pleiku, killing eight Americans and wounding more than 100 others. In 1974, the island nation of Grenada won independence from Britain. In 1984, space shuttle Challenger astronauts Bruce McCandless II and Robert L. Stewart went on the first untethered space walk, which lasted nearly six hours. In 1986, the Philippines held a presidential election marred by charges of fraud against the incumbent, Ferdinand E. Marcos. Haitian President-for-Life Jean-Claude Duvalier fled his country, ending 28 years of his family’s rule. In 1991, Jean-Bertrand Aristide was inaugurated as the first democratically elected president of Haiti (he was overthrown by the military the following September). In 1999, Jordan’s King Hussein died of cancer at age 63; he was succeeded by his eldest son, Abdullah.
47
61
72
63
36
46
67
18
41
57
66
17
30
35
52
60
16
22
40
51
L O W P O I N T
SUDOKU
11 12
63
39
45
56
15
26
34
P E T E
106
10
54 57 58 59
44
14
29
N O T C H
102 105
8 9
52
38
50
M Y E R S
55
100
7
51
43
13
21
33
37
E L C I D
49 50 51 53
96 97
3 4 5 6
Steak cut “The Old Lion” storyteller Overhead items Always Break Berry that’s much sought after? Musical documentary/ biopic of 2015 Smears Stick in the ground? News sensation of 10/4/1957 Ocean State sch. Ballet dancer’s support 10, say Bag carrier Ones doing demos, maybe
12
25
32
G R A T E
46
92 94
47 48
1 2
31
E L S E
45
91
Down
40 42 43 44 45
11
28
U B I C R A D A I R E D R A D T E L I N C E A E Y S M L A P P L P A R T S T O W S S T I E R E L T I N C L T O U T E T S D E E R E R H E A R E L D A D R Y P I N O A L A N N
42
83 84 85 86 88 90
39
10
24
A N T E
38 41
81
37
9
20
27
42
8
T S A T R E Q S M U I T A T E D N A S S M A E A M S N O C A R Y N A S N S G O A O W N S T R E I E A I R
37
70 72 73 75 77 78
33 35 36
7
D R O S S
31 32 34
68
17 18 24 25
Bay Area newspaper Suggest Promos Wedding expense Computer command Court stat Infection fighter “Forrest Gump” setting, for short Longtime Olympics TV host Conjugation factors Mulishness Squirreled away Trysters Witticism With 70-Across, member of Hollywood’s Frat Pack Blathers Old-timey footwear accessory Dish that’s stirred constantly when being made Neighbors of Fijians Guard Soul singer Baker Nadir Herringbone, for example Tried to avoid a tag, say Defender of Troy Clear, as a channel Belt mark Parlor piece Held in high esteem
6
Y E T T O
26 27 28 29 30
62 63 66
16
5
T I M B E A O N U D T R A I N S I O T T A T O E E S N E T S A T
22 23
61
107 Center of a Scrabble board 110 Typically active voting group, with “the” 112 Chum 113 Desert supermarket? 116 Stress, it’s said 117 Bewildered 118 Ex-Yankee Martinez 119 Buzzing 120 During whose reign Peter was crucified 121 Formal letter opener 122 Panache 123 Cell towers for cellphones, for example
4
B A N D O L E R O
20 21
60
Audition caution for a movie with a cast of thousands? One side in “The Terminator” Mexican cigar brand Squirrel away Blue Shoreline problem Brings good news to skiers, say See 45-Down It ends in Nov. Sporty car roof Pickled garnish “Seinfeld” role Note on a watereddown assault indictment? Where to get a mud wrap Numerical prefix Abstain Screen meas. 1914 battle locale Chick magnets? Some safari camping gear Unable to get it, say Houses Feature of the Devil ____ Hots Offer of free pillow fill? Second-largest moon of Saturn Beauty Many a bush plane, in brief Thrice, in prescriptions
3
P R O M O T E R
15 19
56
2
S A B O T A G E
10
Aspect They’re not tipped very much nowadays ____ Bay, former U.S. base on Luzon County center Pope John X’s successor Latin 101 verb Italian fashion label Weigh-station unit Notice regarding voting in a state legislature? In ____ land Fake Prurient material Cool, once Pride : lions :: mob : ____ Some G.I. duties Suited to serve Sign on the N.S.A.’s entrance? Something to chew on Unchanging Person of interest to the I.R.S. Explorer for England who mistook Canada for Asia Deg. for a teacher-to-be Command and Control Runs into Biblical prophet Spanish royalty Nomadic northerner Ace
Puzzle solution below
M A N S M A N
1 6
D5
Happy Birthday: Your emotions will rise to the surface this year, forcing you to address issues that have been bothering you for some time. Put an end to bad habits and make it a point to choose a healthier lifestyle. Your numbers are 3, 6, 18, 21, 26, 37, 42. ARIES (March 21-April 19): Make an effort to reconnect with the people you miss or who have inspired you in the past. Research subjects of interest and you may learn something that will help you make a difference or change your current direction. ★★★★ TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Don’t let emotions or stubbornness set in. You’ll do much better if you cooperate with others. Talk matters through and offer love and affection instead of complaints and arguments. The choice is yours to make. ★★ GEMINI (May 21-June 20): You’ll get the satisfaction you are looking for if you follow through with your plan and are disciplined about achieving your personal pursuits. Don’t let someone with poor habits influence you. Make wise choices and you’ll get good results. ★★★★★ CANCER (June 21-July 22): Look for something unusual to motivate you to get started on a project that will improve your life and your surroundings. A relationship can make a huge difference to your future. Alter your living arrangements and you will prosper. ★★★ LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Try something new and different. The people you meet along the way will get you thinking about doing things that you hadn’t considered in the past. With a little discipline, skill and finesse, you will achieve something great. ★★★ VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Don’t hold back. If there is something you want, put pressure on whoever is standing in your way. You can make things happen if you are persistent and offer incentives that are hard to refuse. Romance will brighten your day. ★★★ LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Do things with children, friends or your loved one. Sticking around home will lead to conflict and leave you stuck doing things you don’t want to do. A good friend will offer a solution to a problem you face. Embrace change. ★★★★★ SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Get together with the people who share your concerns and interests. A chance to do something nice for someone in your community will put you in the spotlight and enhance your popularity. ★★★★ SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Stick to simple pleasures and you will avoid going into debt. A wellthought-out change at home will cut your overhead and make your life easier. Avoid anyone who is indulgent or takes advantage of your generosity and kindness. ★★★★ CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Don’t argue. You have better things to do with your time. Getting together with someone who shares your interests will take your mind off any concerns you have. ★★★ AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Time is on your side. If you are uncertain, wait until you have proof that you are doing the right thing. An emotional matter will dissipate if left alone. Concentrate on something that brings you joy and has the potential to become prosperous. ★★★ PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Get involved in something that makes you feel good or that can offer you the experience you need to pursue your own goal. A relationship that means a lot to you should be nurtured. Be affectionate and make future plans. ★★★
Tribune Content Agency