Fun ’n’ Advice
Peninsula Daily News
Dilbert
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Garfield
Momma
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DEAR ABBY: I have been battling breast cancer and have been blessed to have a lot of support from family, friends and some awesome medical providers. My husband’s best friend and his wife socialize with us quite often, and the friendship is important to him. I recently celebrated a birthday and these friends had us over for a belated birthday dinner. They bought me beautiful flowers and a gift. The card attached made a joke about my “aging breasts,” which she found quite funny. Abby, I had a mastectomy, which she knew about! To make matters worse, my hair has just started to grow back from the chemo, so I decided to have some highlights put in, and she told me she didn’t like my new hair. I am hurt and dumbfounded by her insensitive behavior. Unfortunately, this isn’t the first time she has said things like this. How do I tell her I’m offended by her rudeness without compromising my husband’s friendship with them? Harried Friend
by Lynn Johnston
by Brian Crane
Frank & Ernest
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by Bob and Tom Thaves
by Mell Lazarus
Rose is Rose
Elderberries
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by Corey Pandolph
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by Hank Ketcham
One thing led to another and “Tish” Van Buren and I slept together. Now she’s pregnant. I’m happy to be back with Molly now, but have been contacted recently by Tish with proof of the pregnancy. I’m afraid Molly will leave me if she knows about it. She’s the woman of my dreams and the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. Help, please. It’s Complicated in California
Abigail
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by Pat Brady and Don Wimmer
Dennis the Menace
DEAR ABBY
Dear It’s Complicated: I’ll try. Talk to Molly about this and consult an attorney. Molly should not hold against you something that happened while you were separated. Whether the child is yours can be determined by a paternity test. If it is yours, you will be responsible for proDear Harried Friend: You nailed viding child support until he or she is it. The woman is insensitive — but an adult and emotional support well you said she has also made tasteless beyond. comments in the past. If Molly is, indeed, the woman of For the sake of the friendship your dreams, she’ll stand beside you. between your husbands, tune her out If not, you are better off without her. and spend less time with her one-onAnd in the future, please use birth one. control, so you can plan the number It’s OK to tell her that her joke of offspring you bring into this world. about your “aging breasts” hurt your feelings in light of your mastectomy, Dear Abby: I work as a mattress and that as your hair is growing back salesperson. Often when I tell my you thought you’d like to try somesenior customers about the 10-year thing “different.” However, if you use warranty on a bed, they’ll reply, “Oh, I the word “offended” she’ll probably doubt I’ll be around that long.” become defensive, so avoid that word. At that point I’m usually at a loss A final thought: Most people are for words. terrified of cancer. People sometimes Any suggestions as to an appropritry to make jokes about things that ate response? make them uncomfortable in an effort Speechless to diffuse those feelings. in Suffern, N.Y. This may be the reason the woman Dear Speechless: Smile and say, tried to joke about it, so don’t let it “Then be sure to include the mattress cause you to carry a grudge. in your will.” Dear Abby: I have recently recon________ ciled with my girlfriend of six years, Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, “Molly.” It has been five months since also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was our last fallout and longest breakup. founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. LetWhile we were apart, a woman I ters can be mailed to Dear Abby, P.O. Box knew through my business made it 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 or via email by logging onto www.dearabby.com. clear that she was interested in me.
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Insensitivity adds to pain of cancer
by Scott Adams
For Better or For Worse
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Doonesbury
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by Garry Trudeau
by Eugenia Last
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Work behind the scenes. Finish your work before you reveal what you are trying to accomplish. It’s better to surprise everyone than to fall short of the expectations you have raised in others. 3 stars
ARIES (March 21-April 19): Do what you can to improve your home and domestic life financially and emotionally. You’ll face criticism if you are too busy pleasing outsiders instead of the ones who are always in your corner. Do something nice for the ones you love. 2 stars
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): You need a change of pace and a change of scenery. Make plans that will allow you the freedom to interact with people who can contribute to some of your ideas and plans for the future. Love is highlighted during the evening hours. 3 stars
TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Short trips are highlighted. Engage in conversation that brings you knowledge about something you want to pursue. Getting the OK from people you love will be easy if you are straightforward about the details. 4 stars
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Be careful how you approach touchy topics when dealing with friends, relatives or your lover. Kindness and compassion will help you get what you want; criticism will not. Expand your interests if it will help you share a special moment with someone. 4 stars
GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Your desire for change may not make everyone close to you happy. Your best bet is to inch your way in the direction you want without making a big splash. Once you have things in order you can share your plans and your success. 3 stars
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Not everyone will be on your side. Be careful when sharing your ideas and plans, especially with colleagues or someone who can make an impact on your future. Allow a little time for something entertaining. It will lift your spirits. 2 stars
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Communication can resolve misunderstandings. Engage in heartfelt communication and you will find out where you stand with people in your personal and professional world. Diplomacy and charm will help you win trust as well as favors. 3 stars
CANCER (June 21-July 22): Share your feelings. Added responsibilities can be lifted if you are honest about what you can and are willing to do and what you are not. Don’t be afraid to apply a little pressure if someone gives you a hard time. 3 stars
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Question anyone who is dubious. It’s up to you to ferret out any information that you need to know before making a decision, especially if it has to do with your income. Someone from your past may be the ideal partner in your future. 5 stars
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Watch what you say if you socialize. Not everyone will share your opinion, and you may be judged harshly. Greater effort put into earning a living or finding ways to subsidize your income will bring positive results as well as praise. 5 stars
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CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Getting along with others will be half the battle. Put your time and effort into building a strong and stable base at home emotionally, financially and physically. Spend time with the people who really mean something to you. 3 stars
by Bil and Jeff Keane