Peekaboo May Issue
northwest arkansas
Free Magazine Monkey See, Monkey Do Promoting a positive body image for your children
Chasing Date Night Toss out the Tired Advice
The Music Advantage
The Music Inside
Mary Rose
A Mother’s Love
Itsy Bitsy Yoga A Simple Move for You and Your Baby
Appreciation of the Arts Issue
Letter from the Editor Happy Mothers Day! Whether it is your first or your 41st Mothers Day, take a time-out this month for yourself, because you deserve it. There is no other role in life as challenging or more demanding than being a mother. You can never quit or retire. You can never stay mad at your “little” boss because one hug and an “I’m sorry” and all is forgiven. And let’s face it the money just isn’t there. On the other hand, the role of “mommy” is the most rewarding career available and I wouldn’t trade it in for the world. Mother’s Day was originally celebrated to honor the peace making activities of the women during the Civil War; it wasn’t until during WWI that the efforts led to recognition of the day as a national holiday. Today most of us are not picketing to end a war (although it is very possible during this time), but we are constantly working as peacekeepers in our homes, in our workplace, and even during play dates. Use this time not only to celebrate your own role as a mother but also to honor your own mother as well. Without her you would not be the person you are today. My mom is an amazing woman who raised four children to be strong, loving, independent adults, but she didn’t stop there. Our door was never closed to anyone who needed a place to stay, food to eat, or most importantly a little love from a mom. I know that each of my brothers and sisters, myself included, brought home at least a few friends each to stay with us. There was never a question whether they were welcome; they just were, because my mother’s heart would not allow someone to go without as long as she had something to give. From my mother I learned that no matter a person’s situation (health, financial, or physical) everyone deserved a little compassion and at the very least a kind word and a smile. My mom is the mother of four but I know of many others who she has helped throughout the years ranging in age of 35 to 1 who have had the benefit of her loving nature and would gladly or do call her “mom.” For a great example of another amazing mother read “Mary Rose’s Story” on page 12 and find yourself as inspired as I was by the strength and courage and unconditional love of Patty Bushland. So, Happy Mothers Day Mom! And Happy Mothers Day to all the Moms in Northwest Arkansas.
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May Giveaway “Itsy Bitsy Yoga� Poses to Help Your Baby Sleep Longer, Digest Better, and Grow Stronger
This book includes 70 easy-to-learn practical poses that benefit your child from birth to 24 months. It has a unique blend of yoga postures, infant developmental movement, and parent/child bonding. Enter to win by sending your Information to
giveawaypeekaboo@ yahoo.com Here are the Winners of the Baby Bjorn Potty Chair! Congratulation to: Rebecca Smith, Fayetteville Andrea Wilson, Bentonville Robyn Smith, Prairie Grove Shannon Knotts, Fayetteville Carla Nelson, Beontonville
A Special Thanks to Our Sponsors who Made Our Gymboree Open House a Great Event!! Gymboree Play and Music Rosatis Pizza Maggie Moos Sweet Baby Belle www.sweetbabybelle.com AR/MO Railroad
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Editor-in-Chief Publisher peekaboo.enderle@gmail.com 479.957.0532
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Mother’s Day Picks Let your child paint a special gift just for mom at different strokes in Fayetteville. Create a t-shirt or mug with mom’s favorite picture at print n’ memories email: printnmemories@juno.com No woman can resist jewelry especially when her pride and joy’s name is engraved on it. Order your mother’s ring today at David Adam’s in Fayetteville. Pick up a gift certificate for a spa service or beauty product at GLO.
What’s Inside
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features 8
columns
toyota of nwa
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ask julie
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Community imagination studio
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after the bubbly By Lela Davidson
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mary rose
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college savings
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by Linda Kelly
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the music advantage your baby’s first hour by Elizabeth Day
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arts live theater making the stars of tomorrow
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may is better speech and hearing month
by Suzanne Miltich
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arkansas napvi
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monkey see, monkey do
Cover photographed by Picture People at the Promenade on Pinnacle Hills On the Cover: Isaac Manasseh Struna, son of Terry and Sarah Struna Isaac takes violin lessons from Dr. Scott Buss at Institute of Music, Worship & the Arts in Bella Vista
by Richard Harper
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by Chris Whitaker
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A Dad’s View spend a wonderful weekend Travel Editor Mary Ann Powers
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pages of parenting
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by Lela Davidson
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mommy and me fitness
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baby yourself
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little chefs
chasing date night
A New Approach...
We are going to change the way you buy a car.
When you think of buying a new car your initial feeling is that of excitement and anticipation. There is nothing more empowering than driving off in a brand new car. Especially one that is sleek in design, yet has a safety rating that far surpasses the competition. Where to go next is decided by the answers to the following unknowns. What am I going to do with the kids while I shop for a new car? Is there a dealership I trust nearby? Am I going to feel comfortable with the sales team and have confidence that they have my best interest in mind? A premier dealership right here in NW Arkansas not only understands that families looking for a new car have questions and concerns, they have gone a step farther and answered them for you. Toyota of NWA is committed to selling and ser vicing Toyota vehicles that are recognized as the highest quality, most reliable and dependable Cars, Trucks, Minivans and SUV’s on earth. At Toyota we Strive to Be kind and generous; strive to create a warm, homelike atmosphere.
Toyota of NWA is not only in the business of selling cars, they’re in the business of creating an experience. An experience that extends beyond your initial purchase. Toyota of NWA offers free car washes, and complimentary loaner cars on all new vehicles. There is no one a parent trusts more when it comes to the safety of their children than another parent. And no one understands this more than Angelique Morales (sales consultant and mommy to baby Torin) pictured left. “Since becoming a mother, I especially understand the importance of safety when buying a new car. That is why I am proud to represent a company that takes this as seriously as I do,” says Morales.
Motor Trend named The Toyota Camry Car of the Year in 2007 and the Toyota Tundra was awarded the IIHS Top Safety Pick Award - the first time this honor has been given for a truck. Toyota also offers complimentary life time Power Train warranty. “I believe that it is important to make buying a car a comfortable experience for the female clientele when they make the second biggest purchase in their life buying a car.”
Toyota is dedicated to providing its customers with a positive experience that doesn't stop when they drive off the lot. They were ranked #1 in the state for service. While you wait for your new purchase or maintenance enjoy Starbucks coffee and cookies. Or watch TV in their state-of-the art lounge, check your e-mail with the free Wi-Fi connection or on a computer designated just for Toyota customers.
With three service drives you never have to worry about having an appointment when you need a oil change or maintenance. Just pull up to the porter, hand them your keys and either relax on-site or finish running your errands in a complimentary loaner car.
We even have a play room for the kids with toys, books, TV, Playstation, and games. Best of all the glass windows allow you to watch your children have fun. Beyond the emphasis on safety, Toyota has made it their philosophy to be involved in the local community. “In most businesses after the sell, the relationship ends. That is not the way it is here. At Toyota of NWA we encourage our clients to come in and have a cup of coffee with us, or stop in just to say hi - and they do. It is very much a family
atmosphere,” says Bob Hartman, Customer Relations Mgr. “We view everyone in the community as part of the Toyota “family.” Recently, Toyota threw a weekend event to help the local Red Cross find volunteers for its disaster relief. Not only was there hot dogs, pizza, games, and a bigger than life character for the kids to meet, but a percentage of all profits during that month were donated to the Red Cross. Other examples of community involvement include, team sponsorships (recently supporting the now Toyota of NWA Blues Rugby Team), Breast Cancer Awareness campaign with on-site mammograms, a local Go Green Event, and Regional After Hours to name a few. To see all that Toyota has to offer visit Angelique, she will be your automobile manager at Toyota NWA in Rogers.
toyota.nwa.angelique@gmail.com 411 South Metro Parkway Rogers, Arkansas 72758
1-866-490-9684
The Community Imagination Studio is a division of YouthCAN!, a positive youth development organization whose mission is to enhance educational opportunities for youth in Northwest Arkansas, and to promote community development through accessible arts programs for youth, adults, and families.
“Every first Saturday each month the studio hosts Family Day.”
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he world we live in has become one that is fast paced and often frantic with more “to-dos” than hours in the day. Adults are not the only ones swept up in the non-stop over scheduling; children are no longer able to spend their days climbing trees, playing tag or creating artwork on sidewalks. The imagination has become something that goes no further than turning on the television, and down time is only reserved for bed time. Studies show that imagination is important because it integrates a child’s feelings, dreams, and actions. It is a medium to help a child deal with intense emotions that are at times overwhelming and to come up with various alternatives that might not be as obvious in the “real” world. The Community Imagination Studio, located in Fayetteville, is in tune with a child’s need to express themselves. The studio houses art education programs and classes for children, teens, adults and families in Northwest Arkansas. The mission of the studio is to ignite artistic confidence by providing a studio environment for the diverse youth and adult population. Although we cannot always express ourselves verbally, art is a universal language that can be used to express even the deepest emotions at the youngest of age. At the Community Imagination
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Studio, children are given the freedom to be creative through unique art projects, finger painting, and playing with clay. These activities teach creativity, which helps children in all aspects of life. Besides being just plain fun, when children become depressed, abused, traumatized or medically stressed art expression is a natural way to communicate difficult feelings. The Community Imagination Studio is more than just an art studio it is a place where families can come together and create something amazing. Every first Saturday each month the studio hosts Family Day. During the Family Day program, the studio is open to all families in Northwest Arkansas to come and participate in family themed art projects. YouthCan! believes that families can come together through art. They encourage the entire family to come to the studio and leave their comfort zone and really take the time to focus on each other, use their hands to create, and do so without any distractions. The Community Imagination Studio is an amazing gem making the art of the 21st century right here in Northwest Arkansas! As soon as you walk in the doors you are transported to a place where creativity and creation are king. Once you learn all that the studio has to offer you will never want to leave.
Celebrate Your Birthday with Art! A custom party for your child with the added bonus is that you are doing something good for you little one and their guests by allowing them to use their imagination, create a keepsake, and best of all you just show up and everything is exactly how you imagined!
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Turn the party into a zoo!
Animal Masks - Using different materials, create a mask that resembles your favorite animal.
Storybook Art -Read
a story with a Community Imagination Studio party host and make a project based on the story!
Jackson Pollock-DRESS FOR MESS! Have a wild time dripping and splattering paint just like Pollock.
Clay Sculptures - Use
edible cly to create with. Pound, roll, shape and twist. And when you are finished, you can eat it or take it home.
Large Collaborative Mural - Have
all your guests working together on a large wall painted and collaged mural for the birthday child. Coose a theme and paint to your hearts content!
Pablo Picasso - Abstract
Picasso Faces make wonderful maks! Make a disguise so unique, no one will recognize you!
Alexander Calder-Get
into the swing of things! Build mobiles with all different shapes and colors.
(479) 442-8585 818 Sang Ave.
Fayetteville, AR 72701
susana@youthcaninc.org www.youthcaninc.org www.communityimaginationstudio.org
The original idea of the Mother’s ring, according to local jeweler David Adams, was to symbolize the birth of a child, “from the heart to the hand.” A unique piece of jewelry to commemorate each child in a special way. David Adam’s initial idea was to make the rings as if a child wrote their name for the very first time. The engravings are not a manufactured font but hand graved to symbolize a child’s writing. One ring per child and designed to be stackable, these rings are unique and special just like the bearer of the name engraved on each. “Honestly, what would be more meaningful to a mother than a child writing their name for the first time and putting that ring on her finger. The combination makes perfect sense.”
A Personal Story
Mary Rose
Story by Patty Bushland
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt within the heart.” - Helen Keller
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remember years ago watching “The Miracle Worker” the very touching story of Helen Keller and her teacher, Annie Sullivan. I was a young girl and can picture myself the next day sitting in my parents’ station wagon on the drive to school. I recall being in a daze staring out the window, and then closing my eyes. I imagined the world of a person who is blind. It was a matter of a few short seconds before I shook my head and opened my eyes. Feeling relieved, I thought to myself “No, I couldn’t do it” and never again gave it much thought. Time passed and in December 2005 I gave birth to my fifth beautiful baby. Just days after her birth, I remember watching another movie “Ray” the story of Ray Charles. There was one scene which kept playing over and over again in my mind. Ray had lost his vision as a young boy and as he is exploring his new challenging world he stumbles, he calls for his mother who is nearby. She does not run to his side, even as he calls and calls for her. She only watches him as she quietly weeps. I sat there watching 12
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that movie, with my healthy newborn asleep in my arms, as my heart ached for the little boy and his mother. My children, all five, were healthy!! I sighed and counted my blessings that evening, as I gently placed Mary Rose in her crib. Just a few short months had passed and I found myself kneeling beside my bed, my world turned upside down, as I prayed for my precious 4 month old baby, who I was told is severely blind. Mary Rose has a rare genetic disease called Leber’s Congenital Amaurosis (LCA). I recall the look of shock on my husband’s face, as he sat and listened to the doctor in disbelief. Upon hearing the doctor’s news I sat in the examining chair tightly pressing my sleeping baby in my arms as my tears fell upon her angelic face. She laid there unaware of the difficult journey life has in store for her. My heart racing I felt as if ….. well, I cannot explain for it hurts all over again. When we returned home we sat our other four children down. We told them that Mary
Rose is blind and we need to pray for her and believe in MIRACLES!!! We all hugged for a very long time and each of us began grieving this unexpected turn of events in our own way. If I wasn’t praying I was on the internet looking up LCA, which in turn caused me to immediately begin praying again. How could it be that I now find myself as that mother who weeps as her child struggles through the challenges of a visual impairment? I read early on that raising a child with a visual impairment is a roller coaster of emotions. I agree! Of course, I now know better than to try and predict what my emotions will be. Take for instance the time when at 19 months old Mary Rose finally cruised around the kitchen for the 1st time. She bumped into the stool, turned, walked into a chair, and then banged right into the wall. I had cried while imagining that moment a dozen times, but truth be told I was so proud of her, that with butterflies in my stomach I clapped my hands and praised her!!! The other thing I have learned is the importance of learning from other parents of children with visual impairments. This applies to parents of any child, especially those with special needs. Parents helping parents!!! That was one reason why my husband and I founded a support group for Arkansas parents of children with visual impairments. I am no Annie Sullivan-I am a mother-the best advocate my little girl has. My quest for knowledge to help her is
insatiable! I have not gone to school on how to raise a child who cannot see, but I can learn from those who have gone through it before me. Also I can educate others on what I have learned. The more I can learn to teach Mary Rose the better chance she has to bloom to her full potential. I feel as if I have already grown so much on this journey and she is only 2 years old. I look forward to all that Mary Rose will TEACH ME!!! She is my MIRACLE!!!!!!
students, now grown, tell me they can still sing the states in alphabetical order the same way that they learned in third grade. How fun is that? Mr. Rogers, Sesame Street, Baby Einstein are just a few of the very successful TV programs that continue to teach through music and make it fun at the same time.
“Peek a Boo with Colored Scarves”
The Music Advantage
by Linda Kelly
St. Paul’s Episcopal Church in Fayetteville 224 N. East Avenue 479.442.7373
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“5 Little Speckled Frogs”
ll children are musical. Even from infancy they respond to music with enthusiasm. Some of the best home videos are of babies bouncing to the beat with big smiles on their faces. It has been proven that learning music helps enormously with memory retention. Who doesn’t know how to sing their ABC’s and count to Ten Little Indians (one little, two little, three little Indians...). Former music 14
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The classes I teach for children ages 6 months to 5 years are based on the Carl Orff approach. This approach implements the use of things children like to do: sing, chant rhymes, dance, play instruments and creative imagination. Children learn the fundamentals of music while enjoying making music. Through this class the children become sensitive listeners, considerate participants, and successful musicians. The use of language, movement, rhythm and melody in a game like atmosphere develops mental concentration, coordination, self concept and creativity of the child while building an excellent foundation for any future musical pursuit. Music is all around us and is such a huge part of our world. Studying music isn’t just for school age students…you’re never too young or too old to learn. Children are natural musicians. One of the best ways to give your child a music advantage is to sing, sing, sing! Go to local music events, play recordings of many different kinds of music, dance and move to your favorite songs. It will pay off in the long run for your child to realize that music is important and fun. But the main thing is to keep singing!! You’ll be glad you did. For more information on the preschool music classes for ages 6 months to 5 years contact Linda at 442-7373 ext. 33 or lpkellyar@aol.com. Linda Kelly is the associate organist and choirmaster at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church in Fayetteville. With a degree in music education she taught in the Fayetteville Public Schools and also taught elementary music education classes at the University of Arkansas for music education majors.
Did you know?
* Middle school and High school students with musical experience scored significantly higher than their non-musical peers on standardized tests. * Music majors are the most likely group of college grads to be admitted to medical school. * Students who were exposed to the music-based lessons scored a full 100 % higher on fraction tests than those who learned in the conventional manner. * The ear is the first organ to develop in the embryo, and is fully functional by 18 weeks. * Absolute pitch is found in 95 percent of children who started music study at age 4 or younger. *Music -- especially song -- is one of the best training grounds for babies leaning to recognize the tones that make up spoken language. American Music Conference
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exists to offer childhood experiences to many children and young adults who have been robbed of them by disease or disability. For one week, these young people are able to shift their focus away from sterile medical environments and the language of their disability or illness to focus on activities that build their courage and expand their belief in themselves.
Ask Julie Copyright 2007
May 2008
Dear Julie, I have two children in grades 2 and 4. They keep telling me that all of their friends parents’ let them play on the internet. I am still very nervous about letting them lose in cyberspace. any advice?
Dear Lost,
-lost in cyberspace
The World Wide Web is an endless source of information, entertainment, and it can be used as a vehicle for family together time. You wouldn’t turn your two little ones loose in New York City. Just as you wouldn’t turn them loose on the internet. Be cautious, but also arm yourself with the knowledge and a little help to make their internet experience safe and fun for them. Next time your kids ask you a question about anything, babies, a certain bird, a football player, etc... jump on the computer with them and teach them how to ask it a question. Let them type in the questions themselves. Set your home page to a search engine such as Google, Ask.com, DogPile (awful name, but a great search engine) so your kids can go directly into learning mode. There’s no telling where the evening can go when you and your kids get lost in learning about something new. Keep your little ones away from chat boards, rooms, and message boards. Bookmark their favorite sites and teach them how to go to the bookmarks to open them. Each child can have their very own folder of their favorite sites. Let them know that while they are allowed on these certain sites that you will be checking to make sure they are following the rules and are on safe sites only. Set time limits for them if they are on the computer by themselves. There are lots of different software packages designed to help safe guard your children while on the net. Cybersitter. com, Safesurf.com, and Netnanny.com are a few of the more popular ones.
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Dear Julie, My child is two and a half and is a sweet child as long as he is getting his way. But, when something doesn’t please him, he starts screaming and throwing himself and his toys around. I don’t want him to grow up thinking that he can throw a tantrum and get his way. Any suggestions?
-tired of tantrums in fayetteville
Dear Tired,
At this age it is a battle of wills. If he’s two and a half then he’s probably been getting his way for a long while now with some tough love thrown in. The key here is consistency. You need to consistently tell him this behavior will not be tolerated or rewarded. Find an out of the way place for him to have his fit. Do not give in...EVER. One time is enough to make him think by throwing a fit he will get his way. If time out isn’t working for you then try closing him in his bedroom (make sure he can’t hurt himself or do any damage to the room) and explain to him that when he calms down he can come out and talk. This is going to take time, but it will work in the end. If you don’t feel comfortable closing him in his room then find a quiet chair or a quiet spot in the house. You may have to put him back in his room, or in his quiet spot, over and over and over again. My friends’ use their guest room for their kids. The kids loathe this room. Just the threat of sending them to the guest room alone is enough to make them behave...if only for the meantime! If he hangs on you. Don’t look at him or talk to him. Simply walk, or carry him kicking and screaming, back to his spot. Take a few minutes for yourself to calm down as well. It’s hard work dealing with fit throwing kids. 19
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First Hour
written by Elizabeth Day
he first hour of your baby’s life is an amazing moment that you will wait for and envision throughout your pregnancy. It is also an extremely important period for your baby that will never happen again. In the last ten years, scientists have studied how crucial that first hour can be in “maternal-infant attachment,” or “mother-baby bonding.” When allowed to unfold on their own, the hormones of labor prepare the baby to be highly alert, responsive and ready for meeting his/her mother. The first hour is worth planning for so that you can make the most of it.
You can talk to your care provider before the birth of your baby, and include in your birth plan that you want to have the baby handed to you immediately after birth. Your birth partner can even remind your care provider and nurses that you wish to delay newborn procedures until after you have had at least an hour with your baby to initiate breast feeding and bond.
Many babies are placed under a warmer to regulate their temperature after birth. However, research shows that the best way for your baby to maintain a healthy body temperature is to be placed “skin to skin” with her mother. Your body temperature will actually rise to warm a cold baby. Babys who
A mother of two, a Certified Doula, & Childbirth Educator
are placed skin-to-skin with their mothers cry less than babies placed in bassinets. Other known benefits of skin-to-skin contact include regulating a baby’s breathing and heartbeat, and facilitating breastfeeding. Remember that giving birth is normal, natural, and healthy. Nature’s simple plan for birth is the best way to ensure a healthy and empowering outcome for mother and baby. Remember also that birth is not a aliment, and you are not a “patient.” You are a consumer of maternity care and therefore have options and choices. Don’t be afraid to communicate your wishes to your caregiver and make the decision that is best for you and your baby. Tips for Bonding in the First Hour
... Speak to your baby softly, sing to her, kiss her, touch her face and body, and tell her how glad you are that she is here! ... Don’t be stressed if breastfeeding doesn’t happen immediately. In fact, the best way to initiate breastfeeding is to simply cuddle and relax with your new baby on your chest. ...Let your birth partner hold the baby skin-toskin as well!
For more information visit BirthNetworkNWA.org
bodyline pilates prenatal . mat series . mommy and me For more information call Kelly at 479.636.9651 or e-mail bodylinepilates@gmail.com
Required Reading by Lela Davidson
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t had been on the calendar for weeks: Piano Recital – 4pm. It was 4:30 by the time I realized we weren’t there. I began meltdown. The last time I’d experienced a guilt-fest that intense was Christmas Eve the year before when I’d been certain that I hadn’t gotten my kids even one gift they’d wanted and worse yet, my wrapping was horrible. Now, like then, I puddled onto my bedroom floor, sniffling and sobbing like a toddler. I’d failed as a mother yet again. I cried for the missed recital during broad daylight in front of the kids. “Mom? Are you crying?” My daughter looked at me like I’d grown an arm on top of my head. “Mom? Are you okay,” my son was equally confused. “I’m the worst mom ever,” I blurted through the snot and tears. Not only would my children miss the chance to play, but their names in the program would announce my failure. Davidson. Davidson? Are you here? What’s that – neither Davidson is here? Oh dear. It seems the Davidsons have other plans today. Murmurs would float through the crowd. We’d be banned from the music school. Good mothers, afraid of my contagious badness, would move closer to each other when they saw me at Wal-Mart. Leper mom. My Good Mommy card would be revoked. And whose fault was that? We’re mommies with no training, and no license. I screw up. A lot. I once called my son a moron for spilling a box of angel hair 22
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“Ambitious moms could go
for an Associates in Artsy Craftsy, or a Bachelors in Butt Wiping.” pasta all over the tile. No good mother would do that, but that stuff is hard to pick up. I’ve mastered the Mommy Apology: Sorry, Sweetie. Mommy’s very crabby today. There should a class to teach us the intricacies of calendar management, lunch box basics, and play date etiquette. I want a certificate to hang on my wall, one I can point to and say, this is what they taught me. I’m qualified. Maybe we can learn mothering by mail. Everything from pacifier maintenance to paying for college could be taught by correspondence courses and online chats. Ambitious moms could go for an Associates in Artsy Craftsy, or a Bachelors in Butt Wiping. Overachiever moms could go for their Masters in Mommy & Me or PhD in Potty Training. There would be continuous education in PTA management and extra credit for lice eradication. Face it, we need training. Women’s intuition can leave a lot to chance. It turned out there was another recital the next day. By then my uncontrollable sobs had subsided and I watched with pride as my babies plunked out Old MacDonald and Mary Had a Little Lamb. For this musical talent I had tiptoed at the edge of sanity. I obviously had much to learn. How about you - ready to get schooled? Here’s the first lesson: buy yourself a value pack of post-its and mark up that calendar. Consider these your Cliff notes. Lela accepts Mommy University curriculum ideas and time management tricks in the comments of her blog.
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Mother/Daughter Discussion Group (grades 3-5) Rogers Public Library 6:30 pm
Parenting Classes at Pages of Parenting 7-8pm Brain Games for Babies
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Mommy and Me Art Class Community Imagination Studio 10-11am
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Fayetteville Public Library Story Times
Baby Bookworms – birth to 24 months – Monday and Thursday, 9:45 am Toddler Time – ages 2 to 3 – Thursday, 10:30 am & 11 am, and Friday, 10:30 am Preschool Storytime – ages 3 to 5 – Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday, 10:30 am Cuentos y Mas! Stories and More – ages 3 to 6 – Wednesday, 11:15 am
Springdale Public Library Story Times
Toddler Time – ages walker to 3 – Wednesdays 11 am Preschool Storytime – ages 3 to 5 – Tuesdays, 9:30, 11, and 4 pm, Wednesdays, 9:30 and 11 Lap Sit Stories - birth to prewalkers - Wednesdays 9:30 am
La Leche League First Christian Church, Fayetteville Britni 644-1096 10:30 am International Cesarean Awareness Network Jones Center Aly (479)251-8446 6:30pm Mommy and Me Art Class Community Imagination Studio 10-11am CASA Advocate Volunteer Training CASA Office, Springdale 8:30-2:30 luci@nwacasa.org
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Children and Family Program Budding Artists Ages 7-12 Crystal Bridges 3:30-4:45
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Pop-In Playtime Pre-K 10:11:30
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Pop-In Playtime Pre-K 10:11:30 Story Time for Tots Pages of Parenting 2-2:30
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Story Time for Tots Pages of Parenting 2-2:30 Pop-In Playtime Pre-K 10:11:30
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Family and Teen Fearfactor Jones Center for Families 7 pm
Mom’s Night Out at Pages of Parenting 6pm
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Children and Family Program Discover Art: Poking, Twisting, Dabbing Crystal Bridges 5-7pm
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Mom’s Night Out at Pages of Parenting 6pm
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Grease! Arts Live Theater 2pm and 7pm www.artslivetheater.com
Shrine Circus Parsons Stadium, Springdale
Dive-In Movie Jones Center for Families 6:30 pm
International Cesarean Awareness Network Choosing a Caregiver Jones Center Aly (479)251-8446 6:30pm
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Outdoor Movie Alvin and the Chipmunks Jones Center for Families 7:30
Grease! Arts Live Theater 7pm www.artslivetheater.com
BirthNetwork of NWA Community Birth Activist Meeting Panera Bread, Bentonville 6:30 pm info@birthnetworknwa.org
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Opening of War Eagle Mill 11045 War Eagle Road Rogers, AR May 2-May 4
Beakman Live! Walton Arts Center Fayetteville 7pm
Evening with Children’s Author Stephanie Greene Jones Center for Families 6:30pm
Pop-In Playtime Pre-K 10:11:30
Saturday
New Great Passion Play Opening Night Eureka Springs 7pm-10:30pm
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Peter Pan ENTHIOS Studio Eureka Springs 7pm
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Family and Teen Fearfactor Jones Center for Families 7 pm
CASA Advocate Volunteer Training CASA Office, Springdale 8:30-2:30 luci@nwacasa.org
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Fayetteville Mom’s of Twins Club IceCream Social Lokomotion @ 10:30am Gina (479) 595-3346
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Rogers Museum 1pm Finders Keepers at the Annex www.rogersarkansas.com/museum Arts Live Theatre ALTY Awards and Silent Auction Signature Event Fundraiser! The Town Center, Fayettevile www.artslivetheater.com
CASA Advocate Volunteer Training CASA Office, Springdale 8:30-2:30
Rogers Public Library Story Times
Babies n’ Books – birth to 12 months – Thursday 10:30am Toddler Time – ages 2 to 3 – Thursday 9:30 am Preschool Storytime – ages 3 to 5 – Wednesdays, Thursdays 10:30 am Lap Sit Stories - 12 to 30 months - Wednesdays 9:30 am
Bentonville Public Library Story Times
Baby Play ‘n’ Rhyme– birth to 12 months – Thursday, 9:30 Toddler Time – ages 1 year to 36 months – Tuesday, Wednesday, 9:30 Preschool Story Time – ages 3 to 5 – Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, 10:30
College Savings Saving for college - whether for your
children or your grandchildren saving for college has become easier in recent years with the emergence of state-sponsored savings plans. Called a Section 529 Plan, after the section of the Internal Revenue Code that created them, these plans are offered by all 50 states and provide tax benefits to college savers. While each state plan is different, you can use the value accrued in your plan for any accredited institution of higher learning in the U.S. and in some foreign countries. Another advantage of a college savings plan
is that it may enable you to qualify for more aid than you would with a pre-paid plan. The potential risk with these types of plans is that the investments may lose money and may not perform well enough to cover the college costs as anticipated.
The benefits of a Section 529 plan
Any earnings on the money you invest in a Section 529 plan is tax-free for as long as it stays in the plan. Any withdrawals for qualified educational expenses are free of Federal Tax. In addition to the Federal tax breaks, many states also offer tax advantages to in-state residents, such as an upfront deduction on your contribution or taxexemption on withdrawals. Some states offer tax-free withdrawals only to participants in their own state plan, while other states permit their residents tax-free qualified withdrawals from other state plans. In addition to the tax benefits, the biggest plus of these plans is that the amounts you can put in are substantial- over $250,000 per beneficiary in some states. Most plans are very easy to set up and are professionally administered and often offer a choice of investment selections. You have full control over the account and switch investment options within the same plan once a year. You can also withdrawal the money if you need to, although there will be taxes and penalties owed if a withdrawal were to be made for reasons other than funding education. There are also no Federal eligibility restrictions and each state has the option to allow non-residents to invest in its plan. In fact, many states allow non-residents to invest in their plans.
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While there may be additional taxes or penalties for withdrawal of the funds in the plan for noneducational purposes, that penalty is generally waived if the beneficiary has died, become disabled or if the funds are not needed because the beneficiary has received a scholarship. Also, you can change the beneficiary by rolling the funds over. That way, if your eldest child decides not to go to college, you can put the funds to work for a younger sibling or even a niece or nephew. For grandparents, Section 529 Plans offer state tax benefits, because contributions are considered completed gifts and are excluded from your estate. Grandparents can also switch beneficiaries to other grandchildren. The rules are complex, so consult your financial professional or attorney about gift and estate tax consequences of funding a Section 529 plan. While a Section 529 plan may not be the total answer to your college funding needs, it is one of the many ways you can make sure
The average cost of a four-year public college has risen more than double the rate of inflation since the year 2000. By 2025, a four-year public college could cost as much as $139,367 assuming 5% annual inflation. The College Board, Trends in Student Aid, 2006
that the money to pay for college is there when you need it. To put together a comprehensive college savings plan, and to determine whether a Section 529 plan makes sense for you, contact your financial professional. Contributed by Richard Harper
Richard Harper studied Finance and Investment Management at the Sam Walton School of Business in Fayetteville and has been a financial consultant with AXA-Advisors in Lowell, AR for 5 years. You can reach Richard at: 479.696.8237
Arts Live Theatre Making the Stars of Tomorrow “Arts Live has given me the confidence to try for the impossible.”
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rts Live Theatre is a place where fun, and lots of it, happens. The only dedicated Children’s and Youth Theatre Company in Northwest Arkansas, Arts Live, a non-profit, has been offering productions and classes for grade K-12 for over 20 years. Arts Live offers young actors boundless opportunities through classes and productions. In addition to the classes held at their Evelyn Hills location, Arts Live also hosts satellite programs with Benton County School of the Arts, St. Joseph’s, The New School, The Boys and Girls Club, Westwood Elementary and the Fayetteville Parks and Recreation.
acting classes and the television production class which produces the television series, Fayetteville 72701. Classes are open to everyone. No previous experience is required and students are taught by a staff of seasoned professionals who have worked nationally and internationally in all facets of theatre, film, music and television. Faculty members include Jules Taylor, Missy Gipson, Mario Moreno, Betty Anderson and Bonner Dison. “We are very, very blessed to have such an extraordinary group of artists involved with us,” Smith said. And the staff is kept very busy with over 150 aspiring actors enrolled in classes.
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ark Landon Smith, Arts Live Theatre Artistic Director, says, “Arts Live gives young actors throughout the region an extraordinary opportunity. Not only to be onstage, but more importantly to develop self confidence and friendships.” Tessa Harbaugh, 17, and a 10 year veteran of Arts Live Theatre says, “Arts Live has given me the confidence to try for the impossible. And it has given me opportunities that I used to only dream about.” Zach Stolz, 14, says, “Arts Live is one big family and brings everyone together. It has given me a large amount of confidence in myself. rts Live offers a variety of classes for all ages. For grades K-4 there are the Playmakers 1 and 2 classes; for grades 5-7 there are Improv and Acting classes and for grades 8-12 there are upper level Improv performance classes, 28
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ut audiences have been enthusiastic for Arts Live Theatre productions for several years. Their most recent production, The Pirate Show, was an original production written by Smith, a
career professional playwright, and produced by Arts Live with other theatre companies expressing interest in producing the script. Smith has forwarded a copy to his publisher for possible national publication.
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rts Live Theatre is a vital and important part of the cultural and personal development of the youth of Northwest Arkansas providing a place and an opportunity for young stars to shine. And as ALT continues to grow, there are numerous opportunities to become involved, either as a young actor, student or as a parent through volunteer and support opportunities.
there are several exciting Arts Live Andevents on the horizon! ... Grease May 9-11 at the Continuing Education Auditorium in downtown Fayetteville ... Second annual Arts Live Theatre Awards, the ALTY’s, May 31st at the Fayetteville Town Center. ... June and July: Summer programs which include t wo musical theatre camps for ages 5 & 6, and 7-9 ... Summer Musical Theatre Conser vatory, for ages 10-18 with the production being Suessical the Musical.
or additional information regarding Arts Fproductions, Live Theatre, it’s classes, auditions and visit www.artslivetheatre. com or call 479-521-4932.
Dad’s Corner
A Dad’s View
“I had a well designed plan and things were progressing accordingly - then life happened”
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s a husband, I believe that most men join me in the effort of trying to care for our wives and make sure they have nothing to worry about; at least within the realm of our capabilities. As fathers, I think that natural protecting force is accentuated even more. As for men who find themselves in the role of an expectant father, that need to protect and It is there that I found myself only weeks ago. My beautiful wife, Cassandra, and I had been spending the previous months preparing to celebrate tax day, April 15, with the birth of our new son, Malachi Christian Ray. However, I would soon be reminded that things do not always go the way I orchestrate them in my mind. One would think I would have grasped this fact of life. So many times while taking my morning shower, where I do all my important planning for the upcoming day, things often go a wry- many times before I even pull out of the garage. Back to that to-do list…while I celebrated every item that was marked off – baby’s name had been agreed upon, the upcoming birth was paid for, the crib assembled and outfitted, and a tour of the new hospital had been scheduled. Cassandra was doing well and the doctor’s appointments continued to reveal that our little guy was growing and developing just as the stack of books on our nightstand had forecasted. Nonetheless, with just
Chris Whitaker, author of A Dad’s View, is the father to three wonderful children - Ian, 9, Symone, 6 and Malachi born March 13, 2007. He lives in Siloam Springs with his beautiful wife Cassandra. Chris is a high school teacher and assistant boy’s basketball coach at Trinity Christian Academy, as well as the Media Arts Pastor at Trinity.
more than a month to go, there were still many items on that to-do list waiting to be addressed. I had a well designed plan and things were progressing accordingly – then life happened. The phone call. An ordinary Thursday in class was coming to a close when I received a phone call. It was a number that I did not recognize but something told me to go against my normal protocol of ignoring such numbers and I answered. The person on the other end was my wife. A brief moment of silence immediately tipped me off that something was wrong. With as much composure as she could gather, she simply said, “Don’t panic, but I am bleeding really bad and on my way to the emergency room.” I assured her everything was going to be ok and that I would meet her at the hospital; not the hospital that our OB/GYN practiced, not the hospital that we were to tour in just three days; but the closest hospital my wife’s colleagues could get her to for immediate care. After calmly making a mad dash out of class and making the five minute trip to the hospital in approximately ninety seconds, with apologies to the driver of that maroon Nissan Sentra that I cut off, I found my wife standing at the Emergency Room window. Despite everything, it did not register with either of us the severity of the situation or the fact that we were about to have a
baby. The nurses were deliberate in their actions while keeping us calm as they began hooking Cassandra up to an IV; all the while, she continued to bleed profusely. The most relief came when one of the nurses hooked up the baby heart monitor and we were able to hear the baby’s strong heart beat. While I trusted God that all was under control, and that the baby was okay; it was my wife for whom I was disguising an enormous amount of fear in a feeble attempt to keep her calm. It was only when they told us that a local doctor was coming in to deliver the baby that I realized March 13 would forever have a new meaning for our family. To the relief of both of us, we were told that I would be able to go back in surgery and witness the C-section that was about to transpire. As they wheeled one of the strongest women I have ever known down the hallway, one of the nurses stopped me and explained that I would not be allowed to go back because of the severity of the situation and the fact that Cassandra would be completely sedated. With true compassion the nurse delivered the news, but it was not enough to overcome the devastation of leaving my wife’s side and not being with her during the birth. Reluctantly, I went back to the room we had just left and sat alone with my dad as I waited and prayed quietly. Within minutes, I was told that I had a new son. I immediately ran out to the nursery to find a group of family and friends already admiring our little gift from God. As I made my way to the window, I watched without taking a breath as the doctors and nurses tried unsuccessfully to get some sort of reaction out of our 18 inch fighter that weighed in at 5-pounds 3-ounces. As I studied the faces of the medical staff, time stood still; furthermore, while they hooked him up to oxygen and brought in an x-ray machine, I became increasingly worried. After watching for as long as possible, I ran around the corner and went into the area in which they were working with him. They simply said that he had not reacted the way they would like and that he would be watched closely and would possibly be shipped to another hospital to receive advanced care.
Meanwhile, I was peeking down the hall and waiting to receive the OK to visit my wife. After finally getting the word, I halfheartedly left the nursery and dashed down to the recovery room to find my wife heavily sedated and in pain; but still the most beautiful woman I had ever laid eyes on. After receiving pain medication, Cassandra was out for the count. Knowing she was ok for the immediate future, I left her side to reunite with our son who was still not too happy about the whole series of events as he remained lethargic and content in just sleeping. For the time being, I felt completely alone. I remember rubbing his feet and praying. I immediately became calm knowing that the day’s events were definitely those belonging to God because this was definitely not in my plans and there were still to-do items on my list! .. I realized March 13 would forever have a new meaning for our family.
It was the following day before I got to hold Malachi. It was also the day that we found out just how bad things were. The day before, Cassandra had lost over half of her blood supply and had everyone on the medical team more concerned than they allowed themselves to show; for that I am forever grateful. Also, it was a couple of days before Malachi was able to leave his little spot in the nursery where we watched as babies came and babies left. However, he refused to stop fighting and he never had to be transported to another hospital. Eventually, we came home to a nursery that was not completed, a suitcase that had been laid out waiting for us to pack for our stay in the hospital, a partial list of people we were going to call on our way to the hospital, and a to-do list hanging on the refrigerator with items remaining unmarked. Nonetheless, we were home and everyone was recovering well. Now, as I get out of the shower in the mornings, I don’t plan the perfect day; I do however, take time to admire my wife, Cassandra, my son, Ian, my daughter, Symone, and my little miracle, Malachi, and thank God for His plans and the things He has in store for us. 31
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“Through hearing, babies unravel the code of language.”
May is...
Better Hearing and Speech Month
by Suzanne Miltich, Ph.D., Center Director, LearningRx
Language is a process of free creation; its laws and
principles are fixed, but the manner in which the principles of generation are used is free and infinitely varied. Even the interpretation and use of words involves a process of free creation. - Noam Chomsky Whatever language children are learning whether it be English, Spanish, or any other—they’re learning a code made up of words that stand for objects, people, events, and abstract ideas such as emotions. This code (known as the content of language) is used to express thoughts, ideas, feelings, etc. The language children learn can be explained by rules. Rules that are used to explain the sentences we actually make—like for example knowing how to make plural and past tense and how to ask questions. This is the form of language. We use language to communicate with one another and engage in conversations with children, give them directions, ask questions, etc. We follow rules such as taking turns in conversations, or knowing that we must speak more politely or more casually depending on the situation. When professionals use the term ‘language,’ they’re referring to all these aspects of a child’s language development—content, form, and use.
‘Speech’ may be thought of as spoken language. A child’s developing ability to articulate the sounds of our language and use these sounds in words and sentences is important for ‘speech’. Language also has a written form, and you’re using that form as you read Peekaboo and when you write emails, letters, lists, etc. ‘Hearing’ is the other important part of the process of learning and using language; it allows us to listen to and understand the spoken language of others. Through hearing, babies unravel the code of language. When hearing breaks down, it affects a child’s ability to learn language, as well as their family, social, school, and eventually work life. Children who have difficulties with hearing, speech, and/or language need to be identified as early as possible. Problems commonly seen in young children include -Middle-ear infection. The second most common health problem in preschool children, this can cause temporary hearing loss; repeated episodes may damage hearing permanently. Profound deafness. Can be diagnosed within a few hours of birth. These children need special
attention as soon as possible and can be fit with hearing aids as young as three months or have a cochlear implant as early as six months. Language disorders. Limit a child’s ability to understand and/or use words and sentences to express themselves; a child’s ability to learn reading and writing may also be affected. Articulation problems. May be present if children continue to pronounce speech sounds incorrectly at an age when their speech should be more understandable. Remember, children learn the sounds of speech gradually and aren’t expected to pronounce them all correctly when they start talking or even by the time they enter Kindergarten. Stuttering. Affects a person’s ability to speak smoothly and easily. Most children ‘stutter’ sometimes—when in a hurry or excited, learning to use new words, or make longer, more complicated sentences. This becomes a problem
when it persists and happens frequently. Voice disorders. May limit a child’s ability to produce voice or cause a child to have a hoarse or ‘scratchy’ voice. If you think your child has difficulty with any of these, contact a speech-language pathologist or audiologist for an evaluation. If you’re concerned about your preschool child, call the Northwest Arkansas Education Service Cooperative. For school-age children, talk to your child’s teacher or the speech-language pathologist at school. Other resources include the University of Arkansas Speech & Hearing Clinic and audiologists and speech-language pathologists in private practice. Early intervention is the key to helping young children with speech, language, or hearing problems. The 2008 theme for Better Hearing and Speech Month is ‘Helping People Communicate.’ If you think your child needs help communicating, call to schedule an evaluation.
Spend a Wonderful Weekend: At the Shiloh Museum: Admission is FREE!
Shiloh Museum is located on t wo wooded acres in the heart of Springdale, Arkansas. It’s seven historic buildings as well as the 22,000 square feet of exhibition and meeting spaces make it unique to the area. The museum is doing a handson child friendly exhibit titled Tech-Knowledge-Gee through June 7th. It explores the history of communication from the telegraph to the computer. After that they will have the Play Ball! Exhibit in place as a tribute to baseball in Northwest Arkansas. After touring the exhibit you can go on a tour of the property and its historic buildings. Admission is free. If you have an interest in doing research it’s best to make an appointment. The staff will pull documents, photos and research files and have them available upon arrival. Copies of documents and photos are available for a small fee. Several groups meet at the museum. You can sit in on a free life writing class the 1st and 3rd Monday of the month at 10 a.m. with
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June Jefferson. Or visit the Tellers of Tales the 3rd Saturday at 10:30 (no meetings in July or August) The museum also holds antique appraisals from time to time. If you aren’t able to make it to the museum you can tour their online exhibits or checkout one of their many downloadable podcasts. Shiloh Museum of History has many classes and throughout the year definitely a must see.
Ozarks events, exhibits and it’s
After touring the museum you can stop by The Spring Street Grill for lunch or a slice of their delicious carrot cake. Or go to the Airport Café to watch planes take off. Then visit the wonderful outside playground at the Jones Center for Families or catch an afternoon show at the Arts Center of the Ozarks. To find out more about Springdale and other fun places to visit check out Mary Ann Powers website www.ozarktraveltips.com The museum is located at 118 W Johnson Avenue, Springdale, Arkansas. You can contact them at 479-750-8165. They are open 10-5 Monday through Saturday.
The Hot Spot : 112 Drive-In, Fayetteville
ots of us remember going to the drive-in as kids. You could take a blanket and watch the movie under the stars while munching on popcorn. Children didn’t have to be still or particularly quiet and when they got sleepy you could tuck them into the back seat while you watched the show. You can still enjoy the drive-in right here in Northwest Arkansas. The drive-in, located in Fayetteville, is open March-November. They show a double feature on the weekends. The price is $10 per carload for both shows. You listen to the movie by tuning in to 92.7 on your car radio or you can bring a battery operated radio if you plan on sitting outside. To find out what’s playing and when the show starts you can call 479-442-4542. .
Mention “Peekaboo” when booking! Valid this location only.
Offer Expires 6/30/2008
Making a Difference: Arkansas NAPVI When the world says, “Give up,” Hope whispers, “Try it one more time.”
When something unexpected comes our way we have one of two choices – to run and hide or to face it head on and make the best of it. When Dave and Patty Bushland found out that their baby girl, Mary Rose, was visually impaired they did more than just help their own family, they reached out to parents all across the state of Arkansas and turn the unexpected into a Life Mission to provide support to parents of visually impaired children with information, education, support and networking. So in January 2007, Mary Rose’s parents helped to create the Arkansas chapter of NAPVI (National Association for Parents of Children with Visual Impairments.) They set out to ensure that all visually impaired children Bloom to their full potential. When the world says, “Give up,” Hope whispers, “Try it one more time.” -Author Unknown When I met with Patty I was overcome by her strength and her love for everyone she came into contact with. During our visit we talked about our children and the milestones that they were reaching. While her daughter Mary Rose has added obstacles to overcome I know that because of the loving will and strength that her parent’s possess, she will not only grow to be a strong, independent young lady, she will make an amazing impact on the community around her. Since its creation, Arkansas NAPVI has worked to make a difference in the lives of visually impaired children all over the state! This organization is partnering with several local organizations on exciting service projects 36
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to help visually impaired children. Recently, with the help of a local group of boy scouts and several generous donors, 30 “little rooms” were built and distributed to schools and therapists in the state of Arkansas. A Little Room is a great therapy tool to provide a safe and comfortable environment for a visually impaired child to play and become familiar with objects they will need to learn to use. In June 2007 Arkansas NAPVI partnered with the Arkansas School for the Blind to start Kiddie Camp. The camp included education seminars, therapy workshops, and most importantly fun at no cost to the families. Other ways that Arkansas NAPVI is making a difference includes donating over 150 dual vision books to school and parents in Arkansas. Awarding two $500 scholarships in May 2007 to graduating High School Seniors. Donating $2,500 to Benton County Sunshine School for therapy equipment for the Visually Impaired.
Arkansas NAPVI will also host the 1st Regional Convention June 21st to bring in National Speakers to help local parents.
2nd Annual Garden Party will be held May 31st to help raise awareness for visually impaired children across the state Another event supporting the mission of Arkansas NAPVI will host their 2nd annual Garden Party to be held May 31st at Pinnacle Hills at the home of John and Karen Scholes. The goal is to have 300-400 attendees and
raise $25,000 to help raise awareness for visually impaired children across the state. There are many ways that you can help either by volunteering at a local event, sponsoring an event like kiddie camp, or helping with a project like building the little rooms! For more information visit www.arkansasnapvi.com. Or contact Arkansas NAPVI at (479) 426-0605 or Arkansas_NAPVI@earthlink.net. Arkansas NAPVI will also host the 1st Regional Convention June 21st to bring in National Speakers to help local parents.
One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon--instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. -Dale Carnegie
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“Today that statement would be meaningless, but to my fragile ego it was detrimental.”
Standing in front of a dressing room mirror, a mother complains that her hips are “too big” and her stomach is too fat for a swimsuit this year…
From his recliner, a father criticizes a beautiful celebrity for how fat she looks.
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not to notice when their child is in trouble. A problem cannot be resolved unless it is identified and confronted. Obviously children are not only influenced by their parents, but equally, if not more so by their peers.
In our society it is statistically “normal” for females in America, regardless of size, to feel bad about their bodies and to describe themselves as “fat”. The fact that this has become just a phase or a standard for women is not acceptable.
Believing that outward appearance is a reflection of inner quality, children with body image concerns develop a sense of who they are (physically and emotionally) and how they should behave by internalizing messages about themselves from others, and I was no exception. The matter of poor body image is one that hits close to home for me. In the 6th grade my “best” friend told me on the playground that I was “too fat to lift over the monkey bar.” Today that statement would be meaningless, but to my fragile ego it was detrimental. From this statement I put myself on a full-fledged path to an eating disorder that would affect my day-to-day life for the next 10 years.
Females are not only in the body image battle. A growing number of males are also affected by body image and eating problems, as the lean and sculpted physique is increasingly presented as if it were normal. As a parent it is our responsibility to encourage a good body image in our children as well as ourselves because “what monkey sees, monkey do.”
For most of my middle-school years, and all of my teen years, I was obsessed with my appearance and no matter what the number on the scale, I still saw myself as “too fat” to be accepted. But it wasn’t until I watched a close friend battle anorexia and bulemia did I realize the pain I was causing my friends, family, and myself. Today I still have the same body image issues that a lot of women do but I want desperately for my daughter to never have to experience the same path I put myself through. Bombarded by conflicting media messages about how to stay fit and live long, parents have become increasingly food-phobic and, in many instances, as confused as their children are and unconsciously teach their children through an example that is the wrong example. This is my hope for all young girls. To appreciate their bodies for what they are - amazing. The mental pain that poor body image causes, not to mention the physical pain, is heartbreaking to me now. When I see a young girl afraid to “eat another bite” or look at a friend with an envious eye it makes me want to give her a hug and make her understand how wonderful she is and how beautiful she is.
What parents can do to help promote a positive body image • Model a healthy relationship with food. • Educate children that their body is a machine requiring fuel and maintenance, and that healthy eating means a balanced and moderated lifestyle, rather than an exercise in food restriction. • Listen to "know" your child and to help him or her understand herself. When the child makes negative comments about her shape or size, do not dismiss them, even if they seem irrational; rather, a parent should initiate discussion about how the child thinks she could look better and why. • Help your child develop immunity to the steady stream of media messages that distort her perspective by teaching her to become a more critical consumer of the media messages. • Become aware of your own body image concerns and attitudes that may stimulate your child's fears, distortions, and misconceptions. Parents must be careful not to complain about their own weight.
R Book Review Book Reviews by Marti Genge, owner, Pages of Parenting Bookstore
Pacifiers Are Not Forever,
12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know
by Elizabeth Verdick
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s a Mom for 21 years, at times I feel I’m still new at it. The newest book by Michele Borba called 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know, helps you put it all in perspective. A Real Mom today is so different from when our Mom’s raised us. Michele Borba has a way of writing that says it the way it is. She interviewed 5,000 real moms. For Mom’s that have little ones this is a great book to help you get back to the basics of parenting. Borba states, “A typical twenty-four hours in the life of a mother today includes an intense schedule of constant activity, stress, and pressure.” The question remains, is that really good for your children today? With this book, Borba has given us the information to raise children with confidence, resilience, and character by getting back to basics.
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iving up the pacifier is one of the hardest milestones during those toddler years. This book provides the supportive words and pictures to help you in the process to binky free. My daughter called hers num num and as soon as it conviently disappeared, my worries of future dental work went away! Let this book be your guide into a smooth transition. In the book Elizabeth Verdick said it best, “At first, you might miss it. You might want it back. Quick, get a hug instead.” A bonus to this book is the back page. There are tips for parents and caregivers on strategy and health. Remember though, at this time your child will need extra comfort.
Children’s Reader Corner
Tired of Old Advice:
Chasing Date Night eah, yeah, you know. You’re supposed to Y date your spouse. It’s a good idea. Really it is. But how do you do it? You’ve heard all the
lame date night suggestions. But they’re all so – not you! Where’s the excitement? Where’s the fun? I won’t lie - it takes work, and a new attitude, but the effort is worth it to bring the joy of dating back into your life. Join me for the date night revolution! Chase it, baby! Toss Out the Tired Advice It’s time to trade in the old ways for the new. Lose the unrealistic and boring suggestions in favor of something new. Tired Advice: Dinner and a Movie. Who does this? Watching a movie together is hardly what I’d call togetherness, and eating beforehand just ruins your appetite for popcorn and Red Vines.Go to the Drive-in on Hwy 112 in Fayetteville. Take everything you forbid the kids to eat. Make a meal out of chips, dips and candy. Go heavy on the chocolate. Watch sexy, violent films and get a little R-rated in the back seat! Tired Advice: Make date night a weekly ritual. Puh-leeze! First of all, who has a nanny on call and unlimited funds for dating? I don’t know about you but all my money’s tied up in hockey gear and piano lessons right now. Besides, a standing Friday night date is hardly spontaneous. Take turns each month planning one date. Whoever’s in charge has to do everything from setting up the childcare to making and executing all the plans. This makes dating a surprise again. And it evens things up – both partners have to work at planning the dates. The key is to agree in advance! Tired Advice: Dress up and be romantic. Do you remember dating? It’s not all flowers and champagne. Remember football games, barbecues, and late night lattes? Dating’s all
about connection, and traditionally romantic situations are not necessarily the most conducive to getting to know each other all over again. I say dress up to get dirty. Why not take on an adventure together? Go on a guided fishing tour or climb the wall at Lewis and Clark in Springdale. Better yet, go shopping for running shoes and train for a marathon together. Tired Advice: Visit your favorite restaurant or see your favorite band. We all love a good night out, but remember we’re going for a surprise factor here. Sticking to the tried and true is boring. Step up the spontaneity factor by trying something new. You’ll either end up with something new to love, or you’ll bond over how truly awful it is. Either way you come out a winner. Walton Arts Center has all kinds of entertainment. Pick a date and attend whatever happens to be on stage. If nothing else, it’ll start conversation! Tired Advice: Pour champagne and get into a bubble bath. Maybe if you take up my advice on training for a long run together you’ll be confident enough to get all bare-under-bright-lights with your mate, but why put yourself under that kind of pressure? Face it, none of us are getting any younger, thinner, or smoother! Why highlight the fact? Spend the night in a dimly lit hotel. (Okay, so maybe this is an old standby, but it’s a keeper.) You’ll be surprised at what a change of scenery can do for your outlook. Even your own guest room can be exciting if you’re not used to sleeping there! Drop the kids with a friend and reciprocate next time. Lela is an avid dater. You can find her and her husband making out at the drive-in, hiking around Beaver Lake, and checking into the Embassy Suites under the names Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Submit your own dating advice at www.afterthebubbly.blogspot.com, because like you, she needs all the help she can get.
Fitness / Fashion / Beauty
Itsy Bitsy Yoga
The practice of yoga with a baby can help parents bond with their baby more deeply, and understand how to best care for them. Through yoga, babies sense their parents’ trust and deep commitment as they move forward in their development. Divine Drops was taken from the book “Itsy Bitsy Yoga” Poses to Help Your Baby Sleep Longer, Digest Better, and Grow Stronger by Helen Garbedian. Look for how you can win a copy of this book on page 5. The Effect: This pose has calmed countless numbers of babies and can make them giggle even when they might not be in the mood to. It is also a great inner-thigh workout for mom.
Divine Drops The Move: For babies that can hold their head up on their own. Begin by standing and holding baby’s back against the center of your chest. From behind the baby, reach your right hand underneath your baby’s diaper and spread your fingers as if you are giving her tush a seat to sit on. Next, bring your feet about 18-24 in. apart so you are now in a squatting position. Inhale deeply, filling your upper body and torso with breath. Exhale and bend your knees, quickly dropping down into a wide squat. All the while holding your baby in place. On your next inhalation, press your feet into the floor and rise back into starting position. Repeat this wide leg squat move for 10-15 reps.
Sing and Do: Sing MMMMMM as you stand with feet 18-24 inches apart and toes out and inhale. Sing WHOOSH as you exhale and quickly squat down while holding your baby.
Baby Yourself with Jennifer Yount
To contact Jennifer visit Diffuse Spa inside Fuse Family Fitness or call (479) 845-8024.
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or many of us the warmer weather and bright colorful blooms on the flowers and trees inspire us to incorporate more color in our wardrobe and makeup too. As a Licensed Esthetician, I am compelled to say that the secret to really great looking makeup is great skin! If you have less than average skin, a great exfoliating facial is the priority before experimenting with new makeup. While many are pros at picking the right shades there are still many of us that need a little extra help with the process. Here are some things that I have found to be helpful for making good color choices. Nudes are big for spring-but remember the face needs color somewhere or an accent to make this work. While this can look edgy and cool on magazine covers, this is not a look for novices! Nudes can seem safe, but too much will leave you looking washed out especially when you throw black on. Make sure you add enough contour for cheeks, or a little more liner to the lips to make the nude lip work or a strong liner on the eye with a soft nude lip can be very dramatic. Do go to a counter to try this before you buy. I love Bobbi Brown cosmetics! Her book is full of great simple tips and takes the guess work out of this. Allure magazine has many insights on beauty and they are offering that blue liner is “in” and if you like to wear red on your lips, keep it sheer-a softer way to wear red. For those that like it a bit more natural try a peach shade of gloss to brighten lips and your entire face. For eyes, amethyst and silver for a cool effect. The shimmer of gold is popular too, but use with caution. Sometimes just a hint of metallic is all you need. For highlighting, iridescent colors in white and pink are fabulous for adding a beautiful glow to the skin. Makeup artists have used these simple colors for years to add luminosity to the skin. If you have never tried concealer, give it a try this year. Sometimes just adding a little concealer
will reduce the amount of foundation you need to use. Lastly, I will say this time and time again…we intuitively know the things that are really good for us and really bad for us. If you know orange is not your color, just because the fashion models are wearing it does not mean you should give it a try! I love trends in makeup but ultimately that’s all they are. We have to try new things to fully understand the best thing for our look and style. If you have a makeover and it’s not totally your look, don’t sweat it, its just makeup. Even if you learn what does not look good on you…you are more knowledgeable than when you sat down. I love the artistic aspect of makeup.. manufacturers today more than ever are making fantastic formulations that make color fun and easy to use. Remember to just enjoy it and if you don’t like it, remember you can always wash it off….
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Peekaboo | At a Glance Arts/Music
Arts Live Theater (479) 521-4932
artslivetheater.com
Family
Fun City
(479) 872-7529 funcitypizza.com
Community Imagination Studio
The Jones Center
(479) 8585
(479) 756-8090
www.youthcan.org
Gymboree Play and Music
(479) 268-6664
gymboreeclasses.com
Walton Arts Center
(479) 443-9216 waltonartscenter.org
Banks Simmons First Bank simmonsfirst.com
Bookstore pagesofparenting.com
www.campbarnabus.org
Childcare/Nanny Services AuPair Care
aupaircare.com
Life Made Simple lifemadesimple.net
Play-Care play-care.com
Clothing Children’s Apparel Bella Jack’s
(479) 444-8767
Women’s Apparel B LaRue
(479) 469-9977
Kaleidoscope Dance Academy
(479) 715-6868 103 SE 22nd/ Bentonville
Dentists
NWA Pediatric Dental Clinic nwapdc.com
Educational/ Tutoring
Club Z In-Home Tutoring
(479) 925-7770
Food
Edible Arrangements (479) 935-4478
ediblearrangements.com
(479) 521-7007
maggiemoos.com
Furniture
Insurance Rod Badely - State Farm Insurance (479) 636-9944
rodbadely.com
Jewelry / Gifts David Adams
(479) 444-7778
100 W. Center, Fayetteville
Print n’ Memories
(479) 824-3240
printnmemories@juno.com
Photographers Capture the Heart (479) 855 3821 www.capturetheheart.com
Picture People (479) 636-9494 picturepeople.com
blarue.com
Dance
(479) 631-6377
fuelfitness.com
(479) 442-9598
Camp Barnabus
(479) 273-1789
(479) 751-1600
Kids Furniture
Camps
(479) 313-6233
fitforhernwa.com
Fuel
Maggie Moo’s Ice Cream & Treatery
Pages of Parenting
(800) 428-7247
pumpitupparty.com
Fitness (479) 273-1312
Toyota of Northwest Arkansas (866) 490-9684
(479) 582-3139
(479) 464-0022
Fit for Her
Automotive
(479) 246-0781
jonesnet.org
Pump It Up
clubztutoring.com
Learning RX (479) 695-1234 learningrx.com
Preschool Busy Bees Preschool (479) 267-0456
busybeeskids.com
(479) 464-0229
103 SE 22nd/ Bentonville
Kaleidoscope
Salon / Day Spas Glo Limited
(479) 571- 4456
www.glolimited.com
Transportation
Arkansas & Missouri Railroad
(800) 687-8600
www.arkansasmissouri-rr.com