WHAT happened was . . .
What Happened Was... Trouble in the love department? With sex? Or just people in general? Send us your queries, questions, and problems, and we’ll give you the answers served straight up and with a little ice. I’m in a relationship for many years, and together we have built a nice life together. But lately, I feel like we are just companions. My partner is not interested in having sex at all, and except for the occasional cuddle, we don’t have much contact except for fixing up the yard or working on the house. He even encourages me to go have sex with others, and we are at a point now where I have started to act on that - first as a means to get a reaction out of him, but now because I really think don’t he cares anymore, and I need that in my life too.Are we just waiting for something else to come along?
Sincerely Relationship-wreck Dear Relationship-wreck Relationships change - especially after many years of companionship. Some grow into a stronger and deeper love, while others become just that; companionship. Fine for some, unbearable for others. It is time you both start to assess what you want - or don’t want - out of the relationship. Agree to do some thinking on your own and then meet for a fair and honest discussion of what you really want. In case this is difficult, seeing a therapist can be very helpful to guide you both in the right direction. There is no reason for you to stay together if it is impeding on the potential happiness of the other. Or maybe there is a spark there that can be rekindled again? Who knows? Do your both the favor and find out!
I’m ready to settle down but my boyfriend still wants to go out and party, and I still go with him because I’m jealous and can’t handle the thought of him out and about being hit on by guys. Is there an alternative that can be made for us, so we’re both happy?
Sincerely Settle Down Now
60 | 05.02.18
Dear Settle Down Now Don’t think so much alternative, but rather compromise. I’m sure your boyfriend isn’t thrilled to have you tag along as the jealous guy who wants to go home. On the other hand, you’re not pleased that he doesn’t just want to spend a night at home with you. So compromise! But in that compromise, you need to work on why you have strong feelings of jealousy towards him, and then you need to work on how you can build enough trust so you won’t be jealous of him going out on his own. Building trust works wonders on how people interact with each other, and funnily enough: trust nurtures even deeper trust! Try it! It works!
I’m a drag performer, and I love it, but it is such a man shunner in the sense that when in drag, no one wants to hit on you, and when guys find out it’s me out of drag, they’re suddenly not interested anymore. I don’t want to conceal who I am, but sometimes it’s just easier to omit the fact that I do drag to get laid! How can I break this unfortunate cycle?
Sincerely Dude Looks Like a Lady Dear Dude Looks Like a Lady Kudos on finding something you are passionate about - even something that would take many waaaaay out of their comfort zone and require a pretty strong selfconfidence to boot. Doing drag is a very strong form of self-expression, and it takes someone with a good set of balls to do it. And those qualities are exactly what a guy should see in you both in and out of drag. TV shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race are already making strides in showcasing how bad-ass drag queens really are, and as long as you stay true to yourself, you will also contribute to breaking this bias and find that man who sees the amazing man - and woman - you can be for them! NEED ANSWERS? REACH OUT TO US, AND YOU WILL GET THEM! SEND YOUR BURNING QUESTIONS VIA OUR EDITOR AT MIKKEL@PEACHATL.COM.