Who to turn to when looking for a Muslim Marriage Partner? www.pi-media.co.uk
I November 2019
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By Nadia Mohammed, Personal Match UK, Director
Nowadays Muslims within the UK are no longer relaying solely on their parents to introduce them to potential partners. I am not someone to speak negatively on meeting within the home, it has worked for years and has a high success rate with couples getting matched, it’s us that’s changing. Why are we changing? A simple answer is, we want more. More in every way, I am not generalising here, but what seems to be the reason is the more we achieve the more we require our partner to have achieved. This isn’t everyone but to an extent everyone has a standard that either that themselves have created or exposure to social media has had an impact on. The way of looking of looking for a partner is so uncertain, there isn’t one mainstream way to find someone. A lot of the times it happens within the avenues you least expect. That may be online, through families, friends, colleagues, through a service etc. One thing that shouts out to me when speaking to so many individuals throughout the years is Trust. Who can we trust? The first
answer that comes to mind is our parent/family, they want what’s best for us but even they can’t hit the nail on the head when it comes to finding us the right person every time. I can’t tell you where or when you will find a partner but I can help you identify signs. These are so important, it will give you control back into your life and no longer trust blindly for someone to find you a partner. You should feel confident in your choice. When you speak to them, do they make you feel comfortable? Normal? Like yourself? Instincts and gut feelings are usually right and we let our thoughts overtake this. An educated choice is always more reliable. Does that person(S) ask you questions that click in your head and you think ‘oh yeah, nobody has actually asked me that before’. They should help you identify what you want in a partner, if you are unsure deep inside what qualities in a partner you want, how can they match you with just an age and occupation? Ask to speak to previous or current people they have matched to
ask any questions Do they seem like they know what they are talking about? The marriage industry isn’t the easiest. That person needs the experience in speaking to different people and understanding what is needed to match them. They should also advance on what they have learned to make it a smoother process. There should be no grey areas, any questions you have they should answer for apart from “when will I get married?” The way they introduce you to someone, do you like the way they do it? Does it in keep with your comfort level and values. Allow a few days to think over before making a payment (if required), within 2/3 days. Do your research, are there better options out there? By better I do not mean cheaper, I mean more advanced and with a higher chance of providing you with what you are looking for. Have you built rapport with that person or service? Do they treat you with respect? Search for reviews online. These points are brief but crucial when making a mental, emotional, financial investment and commitment to finding a partner. Look at what options are open to you out there and once you actually speak to a few people who can help you find your marriage partner you’ll know who is genuine. There are genuine people and services out there you just need to find one that delivers. By deliver I don’t mean they will get you married as nobody can promise that but those who will introduce you to high quality potential partners.