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The Out of the Closet thrift store and AHF Pharmacy are at the corner of 5th and High.

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you are here There was a time when if we didn’t help ourselves, no one else would. Ronald Reagan didn’t utter the word AIDS until 12,000 people had died of the disease. The first time the subject came up at a White House press conference, the president’s spokesman responded, “What’s AIDS?” and asked, to the laughter of reporters, “I don’t have it. Do you?” There was a reason the LGBT community didn’t ask for help. A disease that took thousands of gay lives was fodder for giggles among the reporters who could have educated people about it and the government officials who could have cared. Government ignored us for a long time - or only paid attention when politicians wanted a scapegoat or police wanted people to harass. Educators turned their backs on bullied kids. Faith leaders blamed us not just for AIDS but also for hurricanes and terrorist attacks. LGBT people built our own community, locally and nationwide. We built community centers. We organized groups to support young people and those coming out, to fight for our health and safety and civil rights, to provide

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creative and social outlets. That’s what we’re celebrating this month in outlook - that desire to make life better for others that’s so prevalent within LGBT community. We’re not so isolated anymore. The federal government is spending $3.5 million over an ongoing three-year span to prevent and treat HIV/AIDS in Central Ohio. The Columbus City Council gave $50,000 in May toward Stonewall Columbus’s effort to renovate and expand the Center on High. A recent poll found that nearly 70 percent of Ohioans favor a bill that would outlaw job discrimination based on a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity. But we still need to help ourselves. On Page 26, Jennifer DeLuke talks to some of our community’s top organizers - Nina West, ARC Ohio’s Joel Diaz, the Legacy Fund’s Scot Dewhirst and Equality Ohio’s Elyzabeth Holford about the origins of their own activism and why they think it’s important for others to get involved. And giving goes beyond writing checks.

seeks only donations of time from its members. Gay for Good, a national effort that came to Columbus just a few months ago, emphasizes service to the broader community by helping build playgrounds and delivering meals and performing other acts of kindness. Getting involved is sometimes easier said than done, though. So this holiday season, outlook will launch an online resource that will offer up plenty of ideas for helping out. Each day between Thanksgiving and New Year’s, we’ll showcase a different LGBT organization at outlookcolumbus.com. We’ll tell you about the group and what it does in the community. We’ll tell you about its financial and volunteer needs. We’ll tell you who’s ready to take your call should you want to join their efforts. We hope you’ll help extend the season of giving well into 2014. Your community needs you. Bob Vitale Editor-in-Chief bvitale@outlookmedia.com Twitter: @Bob_Vitale

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Camp Sunrise Joins ARC Ohio

Pride Band Seeks Donors, Plans November Concert

Camp Sunrise, the Columbus-based summer camp for children affected by HIV/AIDS, is merging with AIDS Resource Center Ohio.

Columbus’s Capital Pride Band needs more cowbell!

The move continues a consolidation of HIV/AIDS prevention, testing and treatment organizations in the state. The Columbus AIDS Task Force and the Ohio AIDS Coalition joined ARC Ohio in 2011. Tom Tootle, president of the Camp Sunrise board, said his organization had been discussing the idea of merging with a bigger agency for about two or three years. Insurance, permits and other expenses inherent with running a nonprofit have been eating up about a third of the camp’s budget, he said. “There’s a lot of things we have to spend money on that have nothing to do with sending kids to camp,” he said.

Columbus Council’s Tyson Backs Marriage Equality Columbus City Councilwoman Priscilla Tyson, who opposed marriage rights for same-sex couples during a primary campaign for Congress in 2012, says she now favors marriage equality. “People should be able to marry whomever they want to marry,” the Democrat told outlook. Tyson said she became convinced that efforts to overturn Ohio’s 2004 marriage ban wouldn’t force religious institutions to perform marriages they oppose. That was the reason for her opposition in 2012. Her stand against marriage equality during the congressional primary upset many in the LGBT community because Tyson has been a strong and vocal ally on other issues. She sponsored legislation to add gender identity to Columbus’s anti-discrimination laws in 2008, and she was part of the unanimous council that extended family health coverage to the partners of LGBT city workers in 2010. “Her change of heart is what we’re seeing across the board in Ohio,” said Ian James, cofounder of Freedom Ohio, which is pushing for a statewide vote on marriage equality in 2014. Of six City Council candidates this year, only Tyson and fellow Democratic incumbent Eileen Paley support full marriage equality. The election is Nov 5.

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Since 1994, more than 600 Ohio children between the ages of 6 and 17 have attended Camp Sunrise. The camp calls itself a place for kids “to experience the joys of friendship, the love and support of a caring community, and an encouraging environment free of the stigma surrounding HIV/AIDS.” It’s open to children living with HIV/AIDS, as well as those who have a sibling, parent or caretaker living with the disease, or who are grieving the loss of a loved one. The camp is free for the children who attend.

Stonewall Offers Aid to Area Schools’ GSAs

Stonewall Columbus plans to offer financial help to gaystraight alliances at Central Ohio schools.

Actually, a cowbell would be easy. It’s the timpani, marching baritones and vibes that cost $7,600. The 100-member and growing LGBT marching band is taking part in a new fundraising site of the Greater Columbus Arts Council called Power 2 Give. It’s like a onestop shop for lovers of the arts to support local groups. At the GCAC site - visit power2give.org and click through to Ohio, Franklin County and the Capital Pride Band - you can charge a donation to your credit card. Anyone who gives $500 or $1,000 will be invited to march with the band at Pride in 2014. The band will perform in concert at the Lincoln Theatre on Nov 9 at 8p. The concert, titled “Once Upon a Dream,” will feature the works of Beethoven, Stravinsky and moviescore composer Danny Elfman (Edward Scissorhands, Beetlejuice). Tickets are $20 in advance at Ticketmaster or from band members and $25 at the door.

Marriage Crusader Dies in Cincinnati John Arthur, the Cincinnati man at the center of a federal case pushing the issue of marriage equality for Ohio, died on Oct 22 of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis.

At a Goodale Park vigil conducted as part of October’s antibullying Spirit Day, Executive Director Karla Rothan said Stonewall will award “mini-grants” to area teachers for projects that will promote diversity, discourage bullying or aid the activities of GSAs.

Arthur, 48, and his husband, Jim Obergefell, flew on a medical transport plane to Baltimore in July so they could marry in a state that recognized their 21-year relationship. Back in Cincinnati, they filed a federal lawsuit demanding that Ohio recognize their marriage and list Arthur as married and Obergefell as his husband on his eventual death certificate.

A summit hosted by Kaleidoscope Youth Center in October was aimed at helping more schools establish gay-straight alliances and helping existing groups expand their efforts.

Federal Judge Timothy Black issued a temporary restraining order granting the couple’s request, and the final outcome of the case is pending.

There were just six alliances in Columbus schools last year and about 40 in Central Ohio. In California, where the movement began as a way to improve the school climate for LGBT young people, more than 900 gay-straight alliances exist.

“Their love is a model for all of us,” said Al Gerhardstein, the couple’s lawyer. “Even as John faced his last days he was fighting for the rights of all same-sex couples. Part of John’s legacy will be the difference he has already made in the struggle for marriage equality.”

As of press time the Cap Pride Band was halfway to its goal. Help them get there!

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Russia’s LGBT Athletes Protest Anti-Gay Law A team of Russian athletes competing at the World Outgames has made a silent statement that speaks volumes about their country’s hateful and violent crackdown on LGBT people. A NOH8 photo released by the group in October was a show of solidarity with their fellow lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Russian citizens.

LGBT Domestic-Violence Victims Don’t Seek Help Less than 9 percent of LGBT domestic-violence victims sought police help last year, and even fewer sought protection through court orders or shelters, according to a new national report. The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, which includes Ohio’s Buckeye Region Anti-Violence Organization, also found that gay men and people of color are the LGBT community’s most frequent victims in violent relationships.

The Russians said they wanted to bring attention to their country’s antigay law and what could happen to LGBT athletes and spectators at the 2014 Winter Olympics scheduled for February in Sochi, Russia. The law bans just about all mention of gay issues as “propaganda of nontraditional sexual relations.” The Russian government has also warned that it won’t allow protests at the games.

Postal Service Plans Stamp to Honor Milk

Lambda Legal Fights W.Va. Marriage Ban A national LGBT-rights organization is challenging West Virginia’s ban on same-sex marriage with a lawsuit on behalf of three couples. Lamba Legal, which also is challenging Virginia’s marriage ban, argues that West Virginia law unfairly discriminates against same-sex couples and their children. The suit claims they’re denied the legal sanction, respect, protections and support that marriage provides. “Every day that same-sex couples in West Virginia are denied the freedom to marry, the government sends a message that they are second-class citizens and their families are not worthy of equal dignity and respect,” said Beth Littrell, a staff attorney for Lambda Legal. “West Virginia’s state motto, ‘Mountaineers Are Always Free,’ is hollow until all West Virginians - no matter who they love - have the freedom to marry.”

Nineteen anti-violence organizations in 20 states provided data for the report, which covered 2012 incidents.

The campaign has been around since the 1990s when stamps were 32 cents, but the U.S. Postal Service finally will issue a stamp in 2014 to honor slain gay-rights hero Harvey Milk.

It found that just 8.9 percent of survivors of intimate-partner violence reported incidents to police. Only 4.9 percent of survivors sought court orders for protection, and 3.7 percent sought access to domestic-violence shelters.

Milk, the first openly gay man elected to political office in the United States, will be the first LGBT politician to be featured on a stamp. He was elected to the San Francisco Board of Supervisors in 1977 and assassinated a year later by a fellow official.

Aaron Eckhardt, the training and technical assistance director at Columbus-based BRAVO, said historic mistrust of police keeps many LGBT people from seeking help when they’re in violent relationships, but inequality in many states’ laws plays a huge role, too.

The stamp will feature Milk’s message: “Hope will never be silent.”

In states such as Ohio where same-sex couples can’t marry or have their relationships recognized in any way by state government, concerns over finances and child custody keep some people in dangerous situations, he said.

Marriage equality came to New Jersey on Oct. 21 after the state’s Supreme Court refused to halt rights granted by a lower court and Republican Gov. Chris Cristie dropped his anti-marriage fight.

Eckhardt said the lack of marriage – and divorce – makes comingled finances, joint property, child custody and visitation even more difficult to settle for LGBT Ohioans, let alone those who also are dealing with an abusive partner.

“The public interest does not favor a stay,” the court stated unanimously. Opponents of marriage rights, including possible 2016 presidential candidate Christie, had asked the court to put marriage on hold until it ruled on a lower court’s order in favor of marriage equality.

“There’s a myth out there: If you’re not married it’s easier to leave,” Eckhardt said. “That’s not the case.”

Nancy Michael, a plaintiff in the suit along with her partner, Jane Fenton, and their 6-year-old son, said: “West Virginia is home for us. Our family is here, our jobs are here, and our community here is a great support for us. We have done everything we can to protect and take responsibility for our family, but we worry all the time that it isn’t enough.”

Court Orders Equality for New Jersey Couples

New Jersey is the 14th state with full marriage rights for its lesbian and gay citizens.

Michael Premo of New Jersey United said: “This is an amazing moment in New Jersey history, and we rejoice with our family and friends who will finally be able to get married.” Across the state, couples were waiting at courthouses and city halls to get married at midnight. In Newark, Mayor Cory Booker, fresh off a special-election victory to the U.S. Senate, presided over weddings.

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Back to the Basics Safety, Health, Anti-Discrimination Move to Top of Legislative Agenda by Bob Vitale

gory of being a wedge issue anymore.”

At the end of a year dominated by coverage and conversations about marriage equality, it’s other longstanding issues for LGBT people that are getting the most attention.

In Ohio, the effort to win passage of an LGBT-inclusive Employment Non-Discrimination Act has focused solely on U.S. Sen. Rob Portman, one of a handful of federal lawmakers identified as potential backers.

Ohio legislators have introduced separate bills that would ban so-called conversion therapy for LGBT children and add sexual orientation and gender identity to the state’s hate-crime laws.

Rob Young, an HRC organizer in Columbus, said volunteers have been driving up to 45 minutes for community meetings and other events to help the cause. Phone banks and canvassing efforts have been taking place in Columbus, Cleveland, Cincinnati, Toledo and Dayton.

law - called ethnic intimidation in the state - to include crimes committed against people because of their actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender identity or disabilities. The law already covers race, color, religion and national origin. The law adds one degree of severity to the crime with which a suspect is charged.

“It shows people are willing - this is important to Five hate crimes received wide attention this year in Ohio. In April, a 20-year-old transgender woman named Cemia “CeCe” Dove was found dead in Olmstead Township near Cleveland (see Page 14). In a span of four days during June, three gay men were attacked in Columbus, and a gay man was attacked by a group of 20 young men outside a Cleveland bar over Labor Day weekend.

And civil-rights groups have intensified their efforts to win passage of the federal Employment Non-Discrimination Act, as well as an Ohio version that also would ban housing discrimination based on people’s sexual orientation or gender identity. Polls show overwhelming support for anti-discrimination laws that cover LGBT Ohioans. Nearly 70 percent are in favor, and nearly 80 percent think laws are already in place.

Columbus, Cleveland and Cincinnati are among Ohio cities with broad local hate-crimes laws, and a federal hate-crimes law was expanded in 2009. But Antonio said a gap exists when it comes to state-level crimes.

“I really think the majority of the people in the state of Ohio are fair and believe in equality,” said state Rep. Nickie Antonio, D-Lakewood. “Our public policy needs to catch up.”

Another proposal, Senate Bill 188, would ban psychologists, therapists and other professionals from trying to change the sexual orientation or gender identity of Ohio children by practicing socalled “conversion therapy.”

Equality Ohio Executive Director Elyzabeth Holford said proponents need 11 more votes in the state House and four more votes in the state Senate to win passage of the anti-discrimination bill known as the Equal Housing and Employment Act.

Ohio would be the third state to ban the discredited practice if the bill written by Sen. Charleta Tavares, D-Columbus, becomes law. Rob Young photo by Andrew Williams

An ongoing lobbying effort has called in supportive business owners, corporate leaders, clergy and other faith leaders to talk with their hometown legislators who are on the fence. The September poll by the Washington-based Public Religion Research Institute found support for anti-discrimination laws among majorities of Ohio Republicans, Democrats and independents, as well as evangelical Christians and Catholics. “We’re making sure they know their voters support this,” Holford said. “We are not in the cate-

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The Human Rights Campaign, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Equality Ohio and other supporters have been collecting thousands of postcards addressed to Portman, and they’ve been urging people to call his offices in Ohio call 866.326.3683 to be connected - to ask for his vote.

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The Ohio Republican announced his support for marriage equality early this year but has remained silent on the Employment Non-Discrimination Act.

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them,” Young said. “They not only show up, they bring their friends with them, too.” Back at the state level, two other pieces of legislation have been introduced this fall to address LGBT concerns. Antonio, who became the first openly gay Ohioan elected to the state legislature in 2010, introduced hate-crimes legislation in October. House Bill 300 would expand Ohio’s hate-crimes

“This is about protecting children,” Tavares said. “Colleagues on both sides of the aisle want to prevent anything that causes harm to young people.” California and New Jersey already have banned conversion therapy, a practice that has been denounced by most mental-health professionals. “It doesn’t work,” said Michael Ranney, executive director of the Ohio Psychological Association. “And in the process of doing it, many people are hurt.”

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Remembering Cemia “CeCe” Dove The 20-year-old from Cleveland was found dead in April in a pond in Cuyahoga County’s Olmstead Township. She had been stabbed multiple times, and her body was tied to a block of concrete. A 36-year-old man faces aggravated murder and other charges in her death. “Too often we lose loved ones because of fear or hate,” Cleveland City Council member Joe Cimperman said after Dove’s murder. “Violence should not be tolerated against anyone regardless of race, gender identity, gender expression or sexual orientation.” Eyricka Morgan, 26

Stabbed to death in New Brunswick, N.J., on Sept 24, 2013.

Day of Remembrance Honoring Transgender Victims of Violence

Vigils will take place in Columbus, across Ohio, around the nation and all over the world on Nov 20 to remember transgender people who’ve been killed in the last 12 months. Transgender Day of Remembrance events are planned in at least 24 U.S. states, Canada, the United Kingdom and other countries.

Died of severe head injuries after being thrown under a truck in Belo Horizonte, Minas Gerais, Brazil, on Aug 28, 2013. Wagner Paula Rodrigues, 42

Stoned to death in Belo Horizonte, Minas Gerais, Brazil, on Aug 24, 2013. Domonique Newburn, 31

Stabbed to death in Fontana, Calif., on Aug 20, 2013. Joales dos Santos, 22

Transgender Day of Rememberance is part of Transgender Awareness Week. Among local events is a panel discussion hosted by TransOhio and Columbus Urban Pride on Monday, Nov 18 in the Cartoon Room of OSU’s Ohio Union at 6p. “At the Intersection: Black, Brown and Trans” will explore issues of gender identity, race and ethnicity.

Killed by a gunshot to the chest in Parnaíba, Piauí, Brazil, on Aug 18, 2013.

The following events are planned in Ohio on Nov 20:

Stoned to death and her skull was crushed in Téofilo Otoni, Minas Gerais, Brazil, on Aug 11, 2013.

Columbus: A vigil is planned at 7p at King Avenue United Methodist Church, 299 King Ave in Victorian Village.

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Cincinnati: There will be a vigil in Fountain Square from 7p-9p. Toledo: The vigil is scheduled for 7p at Sylvania United Church of Christ, 7240 Erie St in Sylvania. In Cleveland on Nov 22, people will gather at Huntington Park (Lakeside Avenue and West 3rd Street) at 5:30p for a candlelight walk to Cleveland City Hall. The vigil will take place in the City Hall rotunda.

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Rafael da Silva Tavares, 21

Killed by six gunshots in Baixada Fluminense, Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, on July 19 2013. Natália Sotero, 20

Died of gunshot wounds in Curitiba, Paraná, Brazil, on July 17, 2013. Unidentified woman

Died of a gunshot wound to the head in Cuiabá, Mato Grosso, Brazil, on June 25, 2013. Otávio Nascimento Valadares, 20

Died of a gunshot wound to the head in Cuiabá, Mato Grosso, Brazil, on June 12, 2013. Unidentified child, 13

Hanged in Macaíba, Rio Grande do Norte, Brazil, on June 8, 2013.

Islan Nettles, 21

Ronald Feitosa Souza, 26

Died of blunt force trauma in New York, N.Y., on Aug 17, 2013.

Beaten to death in Colniza, Mato Grosso, Brazil, on May 23, 2013.

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Fábio da Conceição Machado, 26

Beaten to death with sticks in Conceição do Lago-Açu, Maranhão, Brazil, on Aug 1, 2013. Gaye

Died from likely strangulation in Istanbul, Turkey, on July 29, 2013. Mylene, 42 Bludgeoned to death with a hammer in Limoges, France, on July 24, 2013. Dwayne Jones, 16

Died after being beaten, stabbed, shot and run over by a car in Montego Bay, Jamaica, on July 22, 2013.

Stoned to death in Mumbuca, Mateiros, Tocantins, Brazil, on May 15, 2013. Jorge Luciano Soares De Oliveira, 38

Died of a blow to the head in Porto Alegre, Rio Grande do Sul, Brazil, on May 12, 2013. Unidentified woman

Died of a gunshot wound to the head in Belo Horizonte, Minas Gerais, Brazil, on May 11, 2013. Rosa Fernando Domingues, 36

Stabbed to death in São José do Rio Preto, São Paulo, Brazil, on May 11, 2013.

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Beaten and shot in the head in Guadalajara, Jalisco, Mexico, on April 11, 2013. Ashley Sinclair

Naomi Estrada, 19

Died of gunshot wounds to the head and chest in Guadalajara, Jalisco, Mexico, on Feb 1, 2013. Karen

Beaten and shot in the head in Orlando, Fla., on April 11, 2013.

Stabbed to death and beheaded in Zimatlán de Alvarez, Oaxaca, Mexico, on Jan 28, 2013.

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Shot to death in Baltimore, Md., on April 3, 2013. Adán Amilcar Iglesias, 20

Shot four times in the head in El Carmen, Honduras, on March 4, 2013. Stephanie, 33

Beaten and strangled to death in Embu das Artes, São Paulo, Brazil, on March 3, 2013. Unidentified woman

Died of multiple gunshot wounds in Belo Horizonte, Minas Gerais, Brazil, on Feb 24, 2013. Unidentified woman

Died of seven stab wounds in Gravataí, Porto Alegre, Rio Grande do Sul, Brazil, on Feb 24, 2013. Joelma

Shot to death in Altos, Piauí, Brazil, on Feb 9, 2013. Mônica Lewinski, 38

Died of a gunshot wound to the head in Curitiba, Paraná, Brazil, on Feb 8, 2013. Palmira Garcia, 37

Died after being tortured and partially scalped in Las Marvales, Venezuela, on Feb 5, 2013.

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Stoned and stabbed in the neck with a broken bottle in Jaboatão Guararapes, Pernambuco, Brazil, on Jan 24, 2013. “Tiffany” Wesley Holder, 19

Died of multiple stab wounds in Georgetown, Guyana, on Jan 11, 2013. Daniel Mendoza Ricardo Macias, 23

Stabbed to death in Georgetown, Guyana, on Jan 9, 2013. Nicole Galisteu, 20

Shot to death in Santa Cândida, Curitiba, Paraná, Brazil, on Jan 8, 2013. Evon Young, 22 Beaten, choked, suffocated, shot and burned in Milwaukee, Wis., on Jan 1, 2013. Camila

Beheaded and burned with her partner, Dalvalei José Alves Pereira, 37, in their home in Novo Gama, Goiás, Brazil, on Dec 24, 2012. Renato Espinosa Reyes, 23

Shot to death in Toluca, Mexico, on Dec 5, 2012. Yeison Ramirez Acosta, 22

Died of stab wounds to the face, chest, and abdomen in Avenida Lequerica Velez Magangue, Bolivar, Colombia, in December 2012. outlookcolumbus.com

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In Full Bloom Flora Owner Caters to the Urban Gardener

by Ian Schwartz David Snow doesn’t consider Flora a flower shop. “It’s much more of an urban garden store.” He would know the difference. Snow spent 11 years with Oakland Nursery after stints in various green businesses. “I liked working there a lot and could see myself there even longer,” he says over the front counter of the store he owns at 930 N High St in the Short North. “But it got to the point where I wanted to run a place myself.” “I always enjoyed flowers and working in the garden as a kid, so that was really all I ever wanted to do.” Through his own desire and with his partner’s support, Flora was born. The store opened in April 2012 at a different spot on High Street, but Snow moved to the current location to attract more people and reopened in October of the same year. “The concept for Flora was actually simple,” he

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said. “I wanted to take a Smith & Hawken with an urban garden, put it in a blender, and come out with my business.” The plan is to keep it local, however, with a clientele made up mostly of people within the Short North. “I get a few women from Bexley or Grandview, but for the most part, we cater to people with small patios and balconies in the city,” he said. “I wouldn’t mind adding a store or two in the future in those places, though,” he added. “But never a huge chain where it loses its personality.”

In addition to the flower-shop staples of stems and bouquets, Flora also does custom jobs. He has paid house calls to apartment-dwellers who want some potting work done, although most customers come into the store. “We’re also trying to partner with local businesses to do arrangements for them,” he said. “We’ve done stuff for The Wood Companies, Northstar and The Jackson before, and we’d like to continue doing so with other businesses in the area.” A big draw at Flora, though, is the seasonal décor. And fall means Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas all in a row.

As soon as you walk in, you get Snow’s vision of being much more than a flower shop. Neatly arranged rows are filled with pots, fountains and garden implements, while the front is stocked with home and seasonal décor. In the back, gardening signs hang on the wall above racks of seeds and soil.

“April, May, and June are our big flower months, and we did well for July this year too,” Snow said. “But October through December are the times we get a lot of business for seasonal items, especially our trees and wreath greens for Christmas.”

You can even grab a greeting card to go with your purchase or for any simple occasion.

Gallery Hops also tend to be busy times for Flora. Snow’s partner, friends and employees help or-

ganize artists and DJs to come into the shop during Gallery Hops, especially the December Holiday Hop, he said. For November, the store has lined up an artist who does polymer clay ornaments, and there will be a demonstration and finished products available. In December, he’s working to get a local oil painter to come in for the same deal. With a prime spot in the Short North for a shop unlike any other in the immediate area, Flora finds itself in the unique position of supplying a neighborhood full of amateur gardeners and decorators. “We want to stay local and community based so people can just walk over and find a distinctly eclectic mix of things while also providing good customer service,” Snow said. Flora Home & Garden is located at 930 N High St. Visit the store’s website www.florahomeandgarden.com or call 614.294.1400. Flora is open Tuesdays-Thursdays, 10a-6p; Fridays and Saturdays, 10a-8p (10a-10p for Gallery Hops); and Sundays 11a-5p.

Urban gardening is not the same as growing pot in your basement, hippie.

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Network is bigger and better than ever. Free to be a member. Free to attend.

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Home − Yikes! − for the Holidays

by Regina Sewell

If you think you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your family. - Ram Dass Remember last year when you spent the holidays with your family and everything was perfect? Everyone got along. Nobody made snarky comments about people who were out of hearing distance. No one dropped the turkey. It was wonderful wasn’t it? No, wait. That was one of those happy holiday specials about a family that had no GLBT kin. The reality is that for most gay, lesbian, bi and transgender folks, the holidays are stressful. For many of us, family relations are complicated. If you happen to come from one of those perfect families, lucky you! If not, you can take the old-school approach and see if it works any better for you this time around. Or you can try a new tactic or two and see if they work better. Old School Spin: Start worrying weeks if not months ahead of time. Assume that your relatives will be uncomfortable, judgmental, angry, disgusted, rude and/or downright rejecting. Torment yourself by playing painful scenarios over and over on the movie screen in your mind. When you do get together with your family, walk in with your guard up and be prepared to take offense at even the slightest comment or gesture.

Shock treatment: If you’re not out to your family (or at least not november 2013

all of them), there’s no faster way than to blurt it out during the middle of a big family dinner, somewhere between “pass the potatoes” and dessert. It’s quick, it’s easy, and it gives relatives who truly had no clue time to self-medicate with pie and whipped cream.

Alcohol therapy: If you happen to come from a family that goes better with beer (or wine or shots), indulge. Alcohol always helps remove the filter and lets you say whatever’s on your mind. Alcohol also puts you in closer touch with your anger, so you’re more likely to get in fights with your family. Shopping therapy: Now that Black Friday officially starts on Thursday, you’ve got the perfect excuse to ditch the family completely. If you play your credit cards right, maybe you’ll be able to buy their love. Don’t worry about the bills coming in January or February. While you’re at it, resist any temptation to calculate the interest rates on those “great deals” that don’t get paid off quickly. Admit it. You’ve probably tried at least one of the old-school strategies, and I’m guessing it didn’t work out all that well for you. If you want different results, you’re going to have to try different tactics. New School Shift perspectives: Don’t walk through the door ready to pick a fight. Shifting your perspective changes your experience. Don’t assume you know what other people think or how they will react. That weird look might be indigestion. Many people will surprise you if you let them. You’d be amazed at how many relatives eventually, if not immediately, support you and continue to welcome

you in the fold.

Acceptance: Of course you want to accept yourself. That’s just good medicine anytime. But you also need to accept that it takes time for many parents to acknowledge and accept that they have a gay, lesbian, bi or transgender child. It probably took you a while to come out to yourself. It’s probably going to take time for some to accept it. If they didn’t know about your sexual orientation or gender identity, they have to come to terms with the fact that you aren’t who they thought you were and that some of the dreams they had for you will be different. Acceptance 2: It’s also helpful to accept the fact that you have no control over what other people think. Talk to someone who understands what you’re going through. Build in time to meditate and journal so you can stay grounded, express your feelings and let them go. If you need to skip the gathering altogether, plan your own with friends and loved ones. Boundaries: You don’t have to tolerate disrespect or snide remarks. You don’t have to listen to someone when they try to save you or tell you that you’re going to hell. Say something like, “I really don’t want to talk about this right now” and walk away. If they want to save your soul, that’s their business, but you don’t have to listen to it. If it irks you that people insist on referring to your wife as your friend or calling you Robert instead of Bobbi Ann, correct them in a gentle way. To ask Regina a question, propose a column topic, read about her approach to counseling, or check out her books and other writing, go to www.ReginaSewell.com.

Ellen Griswold: “I don't know what to say, except it's Christmas and we're all in misery.”

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Doin’ It for Themselves Film Group Pushes Women of Color from Margins to Mainstream by D.A. Steward The revolution will not be televised, but it just might hit the big screen. Sistah Sinema is an international movement that’s taking media representation of queer women of color to revolutionary new heights. A series of Sunday dinners at founder Isis Asare’s Seattle home in 2010 featured home-cooking, a few good friends and an independent film (The Aggressives, a Daniel Peddle documentary on New York’s lesbian drag balls). It sparked an idea that would come to span continents. “It was just a powerful moment because it was a group of queer women of color watching a film for us and about us, and for many of us we didn’t even know these types of films existed,” Asare said. “I just thought this should be experienced by more than just us in the room.” Taking her cues from predecessors like Sisters in Cinema, Asare screened Family by Fatih Trimel for a small group of friends at a bar and grill for Sistah Sinema’s inaugural event at the start of 2011. Things quickly grew from there with satellite groups popping up in San Francisco, Portland and even historically homophobic areas like Kingston, Jamaica. Thankfully, the Sistah Sinema movement has made its way to Ohio with chapters in Cleveland and, more recently, Columbus. A year ago Deidra McPherson had just returned to Cleveland after several years away and was trying to find a community of her own

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when she came across Sistah Sinema online. She connected with Asare through Facebook and a few Skype calls later the rest was history.

name a film besides Pariah that has featured queer women of color and had mainstream distribution. Sistah Sinema creates a media space that represents us.”

A nearly sold-out showing at Cleveland’s Museum of Contemporary Art and an anniversary celebration in June are just a couple of the highlights from a year of beautiful community building.

Sistah Sinema is revolutionizing queer representation in film, providing a wider audience for films that aren’t typically supported by Hollywood, and funding films for and by queer women of color.

“[Sistah Sinema has] made our community stronger,” McPherson said. “Queer women of color are often very much divided from our own communities. We’re bringing the community together in a space where they can speak openly and honestly. So this outlet is extremely powerful.”

Members helped Kickstarter campaigns reach their funding goals for several films, including The Post Women, Black Is Blue and Major, a groundbreaking documentary on the life of transgender elder and pioneering civil rights activist Miss Major.

A perfect storm occurred earlier this year in Columbus when Amber DuPree, a film student at OSU, collided with Tami Lunan, an Equality Ohio intern and founder of Hey Girl Hey, a queer women of color social support group. Equality Ohio’s connection with McPherson then led to the first Sistah Sinema screening for Columbus women in April. “What was really important was that [Lunan] had started Hey Girl Hey and there was a large community already formed that would want to watch the films,” DuPree said. “I don’t think I would have been able to get this off the ground if it wasn’t for that community already being there.” In Columbus, Sistah Sinema screenings are the second Saturday of each month at 7p at Stonewall Columbus, 1160 N High St in the Short North. Much like screenings around the nation, films are paired with discussion hours. “We don’t exist in the mainstream,” DuPree said. “I can’t really

Next year, Sistah Sinema plans to expand from 11 cities to more than 20. Asare hopes to have 100 chapters by 2018. If she and others meet this goal they’ll have created a system of distribution that won’t be able to be ignored by the mainstream, pushing representations of queer women of color to the norm. Asare uses a quote by queer filmmaker Tina Mabry (Mississippi Damned) to describe her vision for Sistah Sinema: “We are moving from the margins and redefining the mainstream.” “That’s what it’s all about,” she said. “Letting Hollywood know that our stories do matter and making them realize there is an audience that will pay to see them.” For more information on Sistah Sinema and to find a screening near you visit www.sistahsinema.com. D.A. Steward hosts Queer Minded, an online radio show that airs live every Thursday at 8p at talktainmentradio.com. You can find more on all his projects at www.dwaynesteward.com.

Amber DuPree, pictured above, started the Sistah Sinema chapter in Columbus.

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Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don’t Almond Joy’s got nuts. Mounds don’t.

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Mario vs Debbie What are you thankful for?

My health and my sanity. I was a reckless person most of my 20s. I did a lot of drugs, and I had more penises in me than Jenna Jamison. I was always alert enough to protect myself physically and mentally. Now that I am older, I am relatively healthy (yes, I know I’m fat) and relatively sane. Seeing people close to me lose their health and their mental capacities was and is hard, and this makes me more thankful for my own.

Despite a myriad of injury, illness and just plain accident-proneness that has plagued me throughout my entire life, I am thankful - actually super surprised - that I am still alive. Thank you, Baby Jesus. I am also thankful for having wonderful friends, family, colleagues and my beautiful future wife, Kim. And beer. I am very, very thankful someone invented beer.

What are you not thankful for?

Mentally repressed people, folks who settle for mediocre. In the last few years, I have become more acutely aware and have encountered people who are so resistant to change and to progress that they have made life miserable for others, and I have had to survive these assholes.

I am not thankful for how in this day and age we still have Third World poverty, sickness and hunger. With all the advances in technology/science, people are still in crisis without the simple necessities for basic survival. Time for a more generous age to occur..

Best musical. EVER.

Kinky Boots. This is a new musical, I know, and I am a Broadway junkie. It has been a long time since I have felt so energized after a musical show. I think this energy came from a combination of the music and the emotion conveyed on stage. You feel Cyndi Lauper writing these songs and you knew her heart was there on stage. A big, fat, gay bravo to her and Harvey Fierstein!

Do you believe in life after love?

Bitch, please. My life is a series of Cher songs. I have been a gyspy, a tramp and a thief. I am a dark lady inside. Very dark. I try to turn back time quite often with the overpriced cosmetics I buy. So do I believe in life after love? I do. Your life journey becomes enhanced and becomes easier with love. You learn more from humans who love you than those who hate you. This is plenty of life after love.

How long would you last in The Hunger Games?

If The Hunger Games was a chemical and technological competition, watch out. I am really good at chemistry and have a few tricks up my sleeve, plus I am a decent techie, too. I would wipe out a few tributes with a good, silent vapor spray and use their tech to wipe out the rest. Ouchie.

Haiku: Gravy Greasy mess, not lube Sloppy, icky, hiding food Food is better nude

What are you thankful for?

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Best musical. EVER.

Rent! I love the stage production, movie and, of course, soundtrack. This show affects me deeply as it resonates with my early adult years and reminds me of the losses of friends to AIDS. “Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes, how do you measure a year in the life? How about Love?”!

Do you believe in life after love?

I started to sing this out loud in my best Cher (batting eyelashes, flinging imaginary hair, tongue swipe on lip). Yes, there is always life after love. Oftentimes, it will be a better life if anyone has experienced a painful and detrimental love. Hearts do heal and sorrows always end.

How long would you last in The Hunger Games?

I would not last long, that’s for sure. I would a) want to help everyone because I am friendly = killed; b) get caught sleeping because I love to nap = killed; c) starve as I am not too handy for hunting and cannot differentiate wild edibles and poisonous ones = killed. So, yeah, I would get it at the first showdown.

Haiku: Gravy

Brown salted meat fat Craving moist sloppy drippings Slather it hard, Bitch

My Grandma is Dead / Gravy is Filling my Shoes / God I Hate Reno

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I love it when Mormons come to my door. I invite them in for hours.

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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 23 IT’S A FAMILY AFFAIR 1950s Family Weekends: Toys/Games @ Ohio History Center/Ohio Village, 800 E 17th Ave, 614.297.2300, www.ohiohistory.org: Feeling wholesome? Enjoy a family weekend of hands-on activities and programs related to the new exhibit, “1950s: Building the American Dream.” All activities are included with museum admission. 10a-5p; $5-$10.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 23 DON’T SLIP INTO A FOOD COMA A Tasting Tour of German Village @ German Village Society Meeting Haus, 588 S Third St, 614.221.8888, alacartecolumbus.com: This three-hour tour is less than 10,000 steps but is packed with sights and tastes. Sample the best of Katzinger’s deli, see the original Max and Erma’s and taste its signature tortilla soup, enjoy Schmidt’s famous sausages and cream puffs, and stop at the Fudge Haus. 1p-4p; $45.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 18 I DIDN’T KNOW I WAS LOST Miranda July @ CCAD Canzani Center, 60 Cleveland Ave, 614.224.9101, www.ccad.edu: This award-winning filmmaker and best-selling author will present LOST CHILD!, part retrospective, part artist lecture, part interactive performance. She’ll discuss books, shoes, friends, movies, performances and personal protection devices. 6:30p; free.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 30 BUCKLE UP, BITCHES Pam Ann Cockpit USA Tour @ Capitol Theatre, 77 S High St, 614.469.0939 www.capa.com: Outrageous Pucci-clad Pam Ann is the alter-ego of Australian comedian, writer and producer Caroline Reid. She rags on air travel, the quirks of some of the biggest international airlines and some of the stereotypes commonly held about flight attendants everywhere. 8p; $46-$56.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 21 A BIG TO-DO Holiday Hoopla @ Shadowbox Live, 503 S Front St, 614.416.7625, www.shadowboxlive.org: Sketch comedy that pokes fun at our desire to make the holidays perfect and seasonal tunes from house band BillWho?. Through Dec 28. 7:30p; $20-$30.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 20 YOU’RE MY BUTTERFLY, SUGAR, BABY Madama Butterfly @ Southern Theatre, 21 E Main St, 614.469.0939, www.operacolumbus.com: It’s the story of a pleasure-seeking American naval officer, a naively faithful young geisha and a blunt clash of cultures. 2p (also 11/22 8p, 11/24 2p); $38-$98.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 14 YOU GOTTA KNOW WHEN TO FOLD ’EM SRO Theatre Company: Death of a Salesman @ Columbus Performing Arts Center, 549 Franklin Ave, 614.258.9495, www.srotheatre.org: It’s the classic Arthur Miller play about Willy Loman, the washed-up salesman obsessed with greatness who undergoes a midlife crisis after facing his unrealized dreams of success. Through Nov 24. 8p; $10-$20.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 8 LEGGO MY EGGO Lego Columbus: Think Outside the Brick @ Columbus Museum of Art, 480 E Broad St, 614.221.6801, www.columbusmuseum.org: Remember when you would spread your Legos out all over the floor to create towering masterpieces and you would inevitably step on a rogue piece? Oh, the pain! I wonder if that happens to any of these artists. Through Feb 16. Free-$12.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 29 DON’T BE A SCROOGE A Christmas Carol @ Ohio Theatre, 39 E State St, 614.469.0939, www.capa.com: The Nebraska Theatre Caravan captures every detail of the Dickens classic, from the spine-chilling ghosts and gorgeous renditions of traditional British carols to crotchety Scrooge and lovable Tiny Tim. 7:30p (also 11/30 and 12/1 2p, 7:30p); tickets starting at $22.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 28 RUN TURKEY RUN Columbus Turkey Trot @ Whole Foods Market Upper Arlington, 1585 W Lane Ave, www.columbusturkeytrot.com: This 25-year-old run benefits Easter Seals and the Make the First Five Count program. 8:30a; $38.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 17 EXTRA MARSHMALLOWS, PLEASE Hot Chocolate 15/5k @ Neil Ave and Spring St, hotchocolate15k.com/columbus: It’s never too late to fulfill those New Year’s resolutions. This road race offers two distances and the promise of chocolate at the finish line. Use code: CBUSMUG9 to get a free travel mug in your race goodie bag! 7:30a; 5K, $47 and 15K, $69.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 16 SEXY NEVER LEFT Justin Timberlake @ Nationwide Arena, 200 W Nationwide Blvd, 614.246.7825, www.nationwidearena.com: As long as he’s got his suit and tie, JT will leave it all on the stage that night. 8p; $56.55-$193.85.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 27 PUT ON YOUR YARMULKE, IT’S TIME TO CELEBRATE HANUKKAH Hanukkah @ Jewish homes everywhere: This is the first and last - time that the Festival of Lights has started before Thanksgiving. Don’t forget to light your first candle at sunset!

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 29 AN OFFER YOU SHOULD’VE REFUSED Curtain Players Theatre: The Game’s Afoot by Ken Ludwig @ Curtain Players Theatre, 5691 Harlem Rd, 614.360.1000, www.curtainplayers.org: It’s December 1936 and William Gillette, admired the world over for his leading role in the play, Sherlock Holmes, has invited fellow cast members to his Connecticut castle for a weekend of revelry. But when one of the guests is stabbed to death, the festivities quickly turn dangerous. Through Dec 15. 8p; $15-$17.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 24 GOBBLE GOBBLE Turkey Trot @ Blendon Woods Metro Park, 4265 E Dublin-Granville Rd, 614.891.0700, www.metroparks.net: Be pre-emptive in burning off those Thanksgiving pounds: Take a 1.5-mile, off-trail hike to locate a turkey flock. Meet at the nature center. 2p; free.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 17 ARTS AND CRAFTS Holiday Craftacular @ Schiller Park, 1069 Jaeger St, 614.645.3156: Complete with a hot chocolate station and holiday carollers, this fair boasts 40 artists selling everything from jewelry to paper goods to holiday items. The first 50 shoppers receive swag bags. 11a-5p; free.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 15 THAT’S SUPPOSED TO BE THERE Matthew Brandt: Photographs @ Columbus Museum of Art, 480 E Broad St, 614.221.6801, www.columbusmuseum.org: Brandt pushes the boundaries of the photographic process by embedding unexpected elements like bubblegum, Kool-Aid, honeybees, dust and water. Through March 9. $8-$12.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 6 MY LOVE, MY LOVE, MY LOVE, SHE KEEPS ME WARM Macklemore & Ryan Lewis @ Schottenstein Center, 555 Borror Rd, www.schottensteincenter.com: It’s a Columbus stop for the duo behind “Thrift Shop” and the GLBT rights anthem, “Same Love,” that was heard at every 2013 gay wedding. 7:30p; $39.50-$45.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 7 THE DANCING DEAD The Zombie Prom @ Drake Performance and Event Center, 1849 Cannon Dr, 614.292.2295, theatre.osu.edu: Put on by the OSU Department of Theatre, this “girl loves ghoul,” rock ‘n’ roll, off-Broadway musical is set in the atomic 1950s at Enrico Fermi High. 7:30p (through Nov 17, Thu-Sat shows at 7:30p, Sun shows at 3p); $25.50.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 6 A PRIEST, A RABBI AND A LAWYER CALL AHEAD FOR A RESERVATION CATCO: Fully Committed @ Studio Two Theatre, Riffe Center, 77 S High St, 614.469.0939, www.catco.org: Hilarity ensues when a beleaguered reservations clerk takes phone calls from an assortment of desperate callers who will stop at nothing to land the perfect table. Through Nov 24. 11a; $11.50.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 8 CAN YOU BE GAY AND CHRISTIAN? Love Across the Spectrum: LGBT Christians Speak Out @ Ohio Wesleyan University, Hamilton-Williams Campus Center Atrium, 40 Rowland Ave, Delaware, 740.368.2000, lats.owu.edu: Join LGBT Christians and their allies for two days of speakers and workshops. Featured speakers include Justin Lee, Padraig O’Tuama, Amy DeLong and Jennifer Knapp. 4p registration (also 11/9 9:30a); $35-$70.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 2 IT’S A SMALL WORLD AFTER ALL The 2013 Columbus International Festival @ Vets Memorial, 300. W Broad St, columbusinternationalfestival.org: The 58-year tradition of bringing together the diverse cultural community in Central Ohio features ethnic food, live cultural entertainment, an international shopping bazaar, parade of nations and a U.S. citizenship ceremony. Through Nov 3. 10a-9p.

out & about SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 2 HOTTEST HOEDOWN IN TOWN American Cancer Society Columbus Cattle Baron’s Ball @ LC Pavilion, www.promowestlive.com: Cancer sucks, but Western-style shindigs to battle it do not. The hoedown features live entertainment, Texas-style cuisine, dancing, gaming and auctions. 7pmidnight; $300 general admission.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 9 REM SLEEP CYCLE Capital Pride Band @ Lincoln Theatre, 769 E Long St, 614.384.5640, www.CapPride.org: Our LGBT concert and marching band’s fall concert is themed, “Once Upon a Dream” and features The Sleeping Beauty, highlights from Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory and “Moonlight Sonata.” 8p; $20.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 14 RESPECT MY AUTHORITY Elevator Repair Service presents Arguendo @ Wexner Center for the Arts, 1871 N High St, 614.292.3535, www.wexarts.org: The New York ensemble Elevator Repair Service presents a play that’s the transcript of a 1991 Supreme Court case examining whether a state prohibition against complete nudity in public violates the freedom of expression. 8p; $10-$17.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 12 KEEP CALM AND LET THE BASS DROP Skrillex @ Bluestone, 583 E Broad St, 614.884.4646: Grammy Award-winning Skrillex brings signature dubstep swagger to Columbus. 9:30p; $40-$75.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 1 I’M BLUE, DA BA DEE DA BA DIE Blue Man Group @ Ohio Theatre, 39 E State St, 614.469.0939, www.capa.com: The Blue Men do not make a vocal peep when they combine comedy, music and technology in their Vegas-like show. 8p (also 11/2 2p, 8p and 11/3 1p, 6:30p); tickets starting at $28.

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TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 12 KEEP CALM AND LET THE BASS DROP Skrillex @ Bluestone, 583 E Broad St, 614.884.4646: Grammy Award-winning Skrillex brings signature dubstep swagger to Columbus. 9:30p; $40-$75.

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GIVING BACK

Activism Lives in the LGBT Community by Jennifer DeLuke On a chilly, drizzly Thursday night in late October, 75 people light candles at a vigil for LGBT youth who’ve committed suicide because of the bullying and harassment of others. On a sunny and warm Saturday the week before, five volunteers give up a chunk of their weekend to ask Italian Festival patrons to support a bill in Congress that would prevent employers from firing people just because they’re gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. At the end of Nina West’s “Heels of Horror” Halloween shows, audience members make it rain singles, fives, tens, twenties and checks at a time - to help pay for treatment for people with HIV/AIDS. Despite declarations that we live in an age of apathy and disconnect, there’s plenty of evidence that LGBT people still are engaged and involved in their community. • After three gay men were attacked over a fourday span in June, thousands of people, both LGBT and allies, wore pink to make a statement against violence. On one day, people donated $12,500 to BRAVO, the Buckeye Region Anti-Violence Organization. • Columbus Pride drew a record 300,000 people this year. Volunteers - 450 of them - set a record as well.

• During the first-ever Give Out Day, a national november 2013

event in May to boost donations to LGBT groups around the country, AIDS Resource Center Ohio raised nearly $25,000. It was the highest amount in the nation.

After graduating and moving to Columbus in the early 2000s, he worked as a server and entertainer and began wondering how he could make a bigger difference in the LGBT community.

“Giving is caring,” said Amy Eldridge, executive director of Columbus’s Kaleidoscope Youth Center, who considers time and talent - not just money as valuable contributions. “We are all interconnected. We all give and we all receive in our lives. ... When we give we also receive. The volunteers at our center always talk about how enriching the experience is for their lives.”

“I wanted to be more than just a drag queen,” Levitt said.

Columbus is one of the few cities with a dedicated charity fund that’s designed as a financial support system for local LGBT groups, said Scot Dewhirst, chairman of the board for the Legacy Fund, which was established in 2000. The fund has received more than $668,000 in gifts and donations since 2000 and awards grants each year. The fund will continue in the future through the bequests of LGBT people and allies who’ve remembered it in their wills. Among the biggest gifts has been a separate, $350,000 bequest that established a scholarship fund for LGBT college students in Central Ohio. Andrew Levitt, who performs as Nina West, said both good and bad experiences at Denison University sparked his interest in giving back. During his second and third year in college, Levitt faced relentless harassment that nearly pushed him to drop out. He found inspiration in an openly gay, HIV-positive professor.

He thought about friends living with HIV who struggled to receive care because they made too much money to qualify for assistance but not enough to pay for medication on their own. He helped start Project: Zero Ohio, which raises money to pay for people’s care by recruiting local businesses to sell products customized to the LGBT community. “It’s important to give back,” he said. “We can give back in so many ways.” ARC Ohio Chief Development Officer Joel Diaz worked one summer as a teenager at an HIV/AIDS clinic and saw people who didn’t feel comfortable going anywhere else for treatment. The impact of that summer, however, wasn’t felt until years later when he came out. He realized the importance of organizations and individuals who understand and are sensitive to the issues faced by the LGBT community. “I realized how scary that process [of seeking medical care] is for someone who is LGBT. How am I going to be treated by a medical professional? Am I going to be comfortable? Am I going to be treated well or will I be judged? How are they going to make me feel?”

Despite the rain, over 75 people attended the Spirit Day Vigil last month.

Like so many post-grads, Diaz found himself short on cash after graduating from OSU. Instead, he gave his time, volunteering to run the Columbus AIDS Task Force (now ARC Ohio) Art for Life fundraiser and the annual Columbus gala dinner for the Human Rights Campaign. The guy short on cash helped raise $350,000 for HIV/AIDS services in Central Ohio. Their advice: participate and get involved. “Don’t underestimate what you can accomplish,” Levitt said. “One person can really do a lot,” said Diaz. Elyzabeth Holford, executive director of Equality Ohio, said she sees that impact every day from volunteers with the statewide civil-rights group. Equality Ohio hosts weekly volunteer nights in Columbus, Cleveland and Cincinnati and gathers everyone in Columbus each spring for a lobby day at the Statehouse. On Oct 26, the group hosted its first Student Organizer Boot Camp, designed to help LGBT students at Ohio universities organize and advocate for the issues of concern on their campuses. “You have a direct effect when you volunteer,” Holford said. “You have a direct effect with what’s happening in Ohio - not just our laws, but how we are treated in the state of Ohio. That is a powerful thing.” “At the same time, it’s good camaraderie.” outlookcolumbus.com

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There Are Plenty of Ways to Get Involved Your community needs you. LGBT groups in Central Ohio help kids, fight for our civil rights, keep people well and treat them when they’re ill, keep us safe, and offer fellowship and entertainment.

on outlookcolumbus.com. We’ll share a little about what they do and how we as individuals can help. If you’re looking to make a holiday donation or volunteer some of your time, this will help you find your match.

They can’t do it alone, you know.

Here are some of the groups we’ll be highlighting. If you’d like your organization to be part of the project, email Editor-in-Chief Bob Vitale at bvitale@outlookmedia.com. The more the merrier!

This holiday season from Thanksgiving to New Year’s, outlook will spotlight one or more community groups every day

• AIDS Healthcare Foundation • AIDS Resource Center Ohio • Arts & College Preparatory Academy

• BRAVO, Buckeye Region Anti-Violence Organization • Camp Sunrise • Capital Pride Band • Columbus Gay Men’s Chorus • Columbus Lesbian and Gay Softball Association (2015 Gay Softball World Series) • Columbus Pride • Columbus State Community College Pride • Equality Ohio • Flaggots Ohio • Freedom Ohio • Gay for Good

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Bass, plus opportunities for people to share their own coming-out, falling-in-love or other stories.

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The site, www.LoveIsChangingHistory.com, is designed to show “how LGBTQ love is changing history all over the world,” according to AT&T.

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• Gay Games Cleveland • Gay Ohio History Initiative • Girls Rythm & Rock Camp • Greater Columbus MPowerment Center • Huckleberry House • Human Rights Campaign Columbus • Kaleidoscope Youth Center • Legacy Fund of the Columbus Foundation • Ohio AIDS Coalition • Out of the Closet

And here’s where those touches and mouse clicks count:

One Click = One Dollar in AT&T Online Project

Sometimes, you can make a difference with one touch. A website created by AT&T during October for LGBT History Month includes two short films, directed by actor and ally Pauley Perrette (NCIS) and out boy-band alum Lance

Through Nov 11, AT&T will donate $1 to the Trevor Project, the national suicide-prevention organization for LGBT youth, every time someone shares the website on Facebook or Twitter. A $1 donation also will be made every time people share one of the videos on Facebook

• PFLAG Columbus • Pride OSU • Project: Zero Ohio • Scarlet & Gay • Shades (OSU) • Stonewall Columbus • TransOhio • Why Marriage Matters Ohio

or Twitter or add their own stories to the website’s collection. The company promises a minimum of $25,000 and up to $100,000 for the Trevor Project. In addition to the financial help offered through the Love Is Changing History project, the films and stories shared on the website will send an affirming message to LGBT young people, said Abbe Land, executive director and CEO of the Trevor Project. “It is so important that vulnerable youth know that they are valuable and that people care about them,” she said. More info: www.LoveIsChangingHistory.com.

outlookcolumbus.com The easiest, no-cost way to get involved is just one click away. Share LoveIsChangingHistory.com november 2013

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Gays Doing Good

New LGBT Group Emphasizes Community Service by Molly Duerré

five of us founded the chapter here.”

For some of us, August marks the end of things summer, outdoor concerts, laying poolside, drinking a margarita or three. But for five friends, the end of summer marked a beginning.

Fellow co-founder Joanna Gardner said Gay for Good was born from a simple question: Where can a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender person go to meet other gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender people?

On Aug 12, nearly two-dozen people gathered in Columbus’s Linden neighborhood to kick off the local chapter of a national organization, Gay for Good.

“The gay bars, of course!,” Gardner said. “With no disrespect to big ideas on cocktail napkins or happy-hour networking, our West

The group helped others build a playground that day at the E.L. Hardy Center, a community center that offers everything from homework help to unicycle lessons for inner-city kids. In September, members delivered meals for Lifecare Alliance. In late October, they were planning to paint rooms at the Ronald McDonald House. According to co-founder and Pittsburgh transplant Tera McIntosh, Columbus was in need of an organization like Gay for Good.

“When I moved to Columbus, I saw a lack of connection between the large GLBTQ population and the community and wanted a way to fill the gap and meet new people other than just visiting the bar every weekend,” she said. “So I gathered some new and old friends with an all-you-can-eat buffet of expertise and local knowledge, and the november 2013

Yes, straight allies are welcome to be part of Gay for Good, its founders emphasize. Plainly visible on the organization’s webpage, gayforgood.org, the mission is fairly straightforward: “to energize and mobilize the LGBT community to interact with the greater community by volunteering their time to various social welfare and environmental service projects.” With more than 4,000 members and 10 chapters nationwide, the organization is working hard to ensure that the LGBT community is visible and appreciated. Other chapters are in Boston; Chicago; DallasFort Worth; Los Angeles; Orange County, Calif.; Pittsburgh; San Diego; San Francisco and Seattle. Gardner said the Columbus chapter of Gay for Good doesn’t have a political agenda. It’s not pushing any issues or actions unless they’re part of the monthly event.

Coast founders were beginning to grow tired of that particular social arena.” They sought a new social venue with a broader impact, but they wanted to keep things fun and convenient for members. “The model of community outreach checked all the boxes,” she said. “So with a small investment of kindness, empathy and connection from our LGBT and straight ally community, collectively, we achieve our mission.”

“It is our hope that by developing a different kind of LGBT network, new resources and collaborations can be made available to our members and the city of Columbus alike.” The Columbus chapter has more than 600 Facebook followers and about 25 to 30 people who come for monthly projects. There’s not commitment demanded from members, she said, so “the cool thing is those 25 people are sometimes completely different at the next event.” There are no donations required, either,

she said, “just a standing invitation to our members to do good when they can.”

Want to Help?

On Saturday, Nov 9, Gay for Good will help the Franklin County Special Olympics during its winter swim meet at Upper Arlington High School. There are two shifts available: 8:30a-noon and 11:30a-5p. Volunteers can serve as runners, scorers or timers, and can assist with awards. On Saturday, Dec 7, Gay for Good will build wagons for the Mid-Ohio Food Bank to distribute in 20 counties after they’re filled with food. You can join Gay for Good by visiting gayforgood.org or the Columbus chapter’s Facebook page: Gay for Good-Columbus, OH. Cofounder Joanna Gardner said: “This will keep you abreast to monthly service and social events tailored to our members and allow you to RSVP for those that fit your schedule. Reach out to a founder or member. Show up to an event. Suggest an idea for a partnership. Send a smoke signal, for Pete’s sake; we just want to meet you and get you involved!”

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National Poinsettia Day, Dec 12, honors the plant & Dr. Poinsett, who brought it to the U.S.

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Homo Improvement

For New Group, Many Hands Make Less Work

by Erin McCalla You just bought a house, a fixer-upper. After about a month, you’ve racked up at least a half-dozen home improvement projects to complete: remove the wallpaper in the guest bathroom, paint the living and dining rooms, lay tile in the master bath, organize the basement where you’ve just been dumping overflow items that didn’t fit upstairs, overhaul the entire backyard with a new landscaping plan. Your list is overwhelming and seemingly insurmountable. You have no one to help you. Or so you thought. Homo Improvement was started in January by Meg “Catfish” Lyons for that very reason - to organize a group to help each other with home projects that seem too big to do alone. After a tough 2012, Lyons decided that 2013 would be her “year of joy.” She wanted to help people and meet new friends without having to go to the bars. A friend suggested that Lyons help her install a patio, and that’s when the idea for Homo Improvement was hatched. Members usually meet the third Saturday of each month. The main gist is this: You help people with their home-improvement projects, and, in turn, they’ll come to your house to help with yours. You don’t need to sign a contract or verbally commit to a finite amount of time. Lyons doesn’t expect volunteers to come every single month, but she asks participants to work on six full Saturdays a year to get work done at their own houses. Those who pay in get paid back. While the majority of the members are “dykes” (Lyons’s word, not mine), there’s an eclectic mix of people who bring varied skill sets. Those who can’t perform the physical tasks bring food as their way of helping out. And the group is open to everyone. “You don’t have to be a homo to be in Homo Improvement,” Lyons said. HI Project - another name Lyons uses to emphasize its inclusiveness - works on two houses each month from 9a to 4p, with 10 people at each house. The homeowners provide coffee and breakfast and all the materials needed for the job. Workers are equipped to do drywall, tile, painting, yard work, organizing and more.

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An average of 28 people show up every month, but they’ve had as many as 40 or more. Some people come to help every time. But not everyone owns a house or joins to reap the benefit of getting work done at his or her own home. Members donated their time during a February “Month of Love” when they helped a lesbian couple who have six adopted children. One of the women uses a wheelchair; the other had recently undergone hip surgery. “I always say there’s good people in the world, but these people are the best,” Lyons said. “This would not work if the people didn’t work. All these projects - we help each other and we gain a sense of community. My friend said, ‘You’re doing ministry there, without the church/religion part.’” While it’s a casual group, there’s one rule that must be followed: no alcohol. Because - and this should go without saying - booze and power tools do not mix well. But since social connections and friendships have been formed from the endeavor, Homo Improvement hosts occasional dances at the open and affirming Gahanna Community Church to let loose after the hard work is done. The group had a Valentine’s dance and a “Spring Fling.” In October, it hosted a dance to celebrate Lyons’s 60th birthday. Lyons also organized an art show to raise money to buy blue painter tape, spackle and brushes, and to rent wallpaper steamers, tile cutters and other tools from the Tool Library. The group is still in its infancy, so Lyons appreciates the input and says she has learned a lot from the whole process. Eventually, she would like to expand to do more projects for people in need. “I never know where it’s going to go,” she said. “I’m not going to let it stop; it’s going to keep going and not fall apart.” Currently, Lyons uses Facebook as her tool to reach those who want to get involved with Homo Improvement. You can search “The HI Project” for information on the next event. “There is so much giving. It’s a two-way street; we rotate and keep it fair. But often it seems like more giving,” Lyons said. “We can’t change the world, but we can change somebody’s world.”

Homo Improvement founder, Meg “Catfish” Lyons, is pictured above in red.

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CityMusic Brings the World to Columbus by Maryam Rezayat If you can’t bear to eke out one more, “Hey, Hey, Hey!” and all that roaring has you hoarse, it might be time to switch off the radio and try a fresh, interactive form of musical entertainment. CityMusic, a group that says it’s dedicated to expanding the musical horizons of Central Ohio residents, will host master fiddler Alasdair Fraser this month and also team up with the Thiossane Institute to bring West African drum orchestra the Sing Sing family to Columbus.

Throughout the week, the famous West African family will host lectures, dance workshops and drum circles, all capped off by the 7:30p performances. Audiences will gain an appreciation for the rich history of the sabar drum and Senegal dance traditions, which the Sing Sing family actively works to maintain and pass on to a new generation. In honor of CityMusic’s 30th anniversary, concert-goers 30 years old or younger will get a half-price discount on tickets. The discount ties into Howes’ desire to draw in a younger crowd, which she says is lacking among the 50-somethings who typically attend the concerts.

Fraser, long-regarded as Scotland’s premier fiddle ambassador, will be joined by California cellist Natalie Haus at the Brewery District’s Via Vecchia Winery on Nov 10 at 2p. Doors open at 12:30p for food and wine.

“I like to think that we create a neutral place to find community and bond over the love of music,” Howes said. “That’s really important for the younger generation.”

The award-winning duo, intimately set up in the center of the room, will play classical ballads, perform traditional dance numbers and share stories. This is no old-timey show, though: The two successfully blend Scotland’s musical heritage with modern techniques.

Both Fraser and the Sing Sing family will participate in Musical Opportunities Reward Everyone programs at Columbus schools. M.O.R.E., founded by CityMusic in 1990, provides musical outreach to inner-city youth through afterschool workshops and summer camps.

“Fiddlers are the dance band of a Scottish party,” said CityMusic Executive Director Heidi Howes. “They’re very fun and lively. This will be a great thing for people to see if they’ve never been exposed to it before.”

Tickets for the events can be purchased at citymusiccolumbus.org or by phone at 614.223.3093. For more information about the World Music Summit, visit thiossaneinst.org.

The Sing Sing Family’s Nov 15 and 16 performances at the Lincoln Theatre are part of the larger World Music Summit.

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I bet this guy could take the devil down in Georgia, too.

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The Columbus bond issues are not a tax increase.

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deep inside hollywood

Boots, Biceps, Bulges: A Tom of Finland Biopic The late Touko Laaksonen, the Finnish artist known as Tom of Finland, probably did more to push gay male erotic images into the mainstream than anyone else in the 20th century. His illustrations were designed to inspire lust and to erase the boundary between art and pornography. They also helped re-create happier, hornier self-images for many gay men in the 1970s with their fantasies of muscular masculinity, confidence and outsize sexual achievement. One documentary short film, Boots, Biceps and Bulges: The Life & Works of Tom of Finland, arrived in the late 1980s, while 1990’s Daddy and the Muscle Academy was an LGBT film festival staple just as Tom was dying at age 71. Now, a biopic currently titled Tom of Finland is in production, ready to tell the story of the sexual and artistic pioneer. Finnish director Dome Karukoski will be at the helm for the feature, which has yet to be cast. It has the official, authorized blessing of the Tom of Finland Foundation, so as extremely hot men find their way into the cast, you’ll hear about it here first.

Upcoming Chippendales Pic Will Get Behind the Bowties Alan Ball has a to-do list when True Blood comes to an end: He’s going to get a lot of guys naked. That means he’s writing and directing I Am Chippendales, adapting his screenplay from the book by Rodney Sheldon. It’s the story of Somen “Steve” Banerjee, an Indian immigrant who started his career pumping gas in Los Angeles before running an upscale nightclub that would evolve into the Chippendales male revue franchise. Banerjee became very, very rich catering to the as-yet-untapped market potential of the straight female (and gay male) libido. Chippendales exploded into the mainstream of pop culture in the 1980s, when gangs of women decided, en masse, to begin attending male strip clubs. As the decade wore on, however, Banerjee’s excessive lifestyle and paranoia grew. Things got weird, illegal activity followed, and assassination plots were hatched. The man who brought so much joy to so many people via the simple act of taking off a man’s shirt and leaving the bow tie around his neck found himself in prison, where he died. One day there will be a happy male-stripper movie (downbeat Magic Mike, we’re looking at you) but until then we’ll take what we can get. Casting is under way, and Ball hopes to start shooting sometime in early 2014. Until then, keep it in your pants.

‘Open’ Finally Gets Some - Cast Members, That Is We reported already that Ryan Murphy’s (pictured) latest project, the HBO series Open - the one without singing teenagers or covens - would star Wes Bentley. That’s still the case, but he now has more people to act opposite and behave R-ratedly around him. Jennifer Jason Leigh, Scott Speedman, Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol’s Michelle Monaghan and Fringe’s Anna Torv all have signed on to participate in what is described as a provocative investigation of human sexuality and modern relationships. That means everyone on the show will be attractive, and really, that’s kind of what you want with a show about sex. With Murphy at the helm, it’s certain to have its share of gay characters and plot lines; we just don’t know who the homo characters are going to be at this point. Since it will be on HBO, we’re just going to start lobbying right now for full frontal nudity from everyone in the cast. No more sex with bras on and strategic sheet placement! Liberation for the flesh!

Romeo San Vicente should probably clear all those old episodes of True Blood featuring a shirtless Joe Manganiello off his DVR. He can be reached at DeepInsideHollywood@qsyndicate.com.

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When Bob googled for “Tom of Finland” it suggested “Tombs in Finland.” Bad Google.

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Feel like a star without all those pesky paparazzi.

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Pam Ann Flies the Friendly Skies to Columbus by Erin McCalla Fasten your seatbelt and make sure your chairs and tray tables are in the upright position. Pam Ann is landing in Columbus on Nov 30 for a stop on her Cockpit USA tour. I talked with Aussie Caroline Reid - who invented the brassy, sometimes brash and often raunchy character, Pam Ann - about her gay audience, her own inflight experiences and touring with Cher. Erin McCalla: Is this your first time performing in Columbus? Are you familiar with Midwest gays? Pam Ann: Yeah! I love coming to new places. No, you’ll have to fill me in. EM: We are pretty welcoming and nice. PA: So I might scare a few people? EM: Ha! No, definitely not. I read somewhere that you said, “Gays have taught me everything I know.” What have the gays taught you? PA: The vocabulary and how free they are. I think I’m a gay man trapped in a woman’s body. What you can get away with in gay circles, you can’t get away with in other parts of society. I’ve been hanging with gays since I was 16. I do have a straight boyfriend, he came on a gay cruise with me. To be with me, you have to roll with the gays. I’ve worked at a lot of drag venues. They are extraordinary performers. EM: And that’s been your inspiration for Pam Ann? PA: I think so. I’ve always liked fashion - I thought I was going to be a designer. But Pam Ann evolved from dressing up at a birthday party and hanging out with queens. I’ve always dressed extravagantly; Pam Ann gave me an excuse to go further. EM: Is it just gay men who love you, or do you have a lot of lesbian fans too? PA: I do have a lesbian stalker. Seven years now. I’m just like, “Girl, it’s not gonna happen.” I would love to play for an all-lesbian audience. EM: What’s the most bizarre experience you’ve had on a flight? PA: This guy was on Ambien, and he came over and he was on top of me while I was asleep. He had one leg on each armrest, going, “Good morning!” I was talking him down and then I told the crew, “I think he’s had a bit of Ambien.” Then we were all in on it. The crew hid his shoes. He woke up and had no recollection. He was very sweet. I think he worked at

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Disney, which made it better. EM: What’s your in-flight cocktail? Or do you prefer to stay sober while flying? PA: Are you kidding? I am so shitfaced on those flights. A friend and I were at JFK, and we were lushing it. They kept having to de-ice the wings, and the crew kept coming back around with champagne. We must have had two bottles and we hadn’t even left. EM: Have you ever been denied at the gate? PA: I’m smart - I don’t get too drunk before I board. I just get the merry type drunk - maybe just a tiny bit too loud. EM: Are you a member of the mile-high club? PA: In real life? No! There was one guy who I was sleeping next to who I wanted to kiss. I never thought it was sexy to do it in the toilets. They’re filthy. And you always get the ugly ones seated next to you, don’t you? One time I picked up a male flight attendant and had him come back to my hotel. EM: So there are straight male flight attendants? PA: Well, we get back to my room and I didn’t think he knew who I was, and he started going, [squeals] “You’re Pam Ann! Oh my god!” I just picked up a gay man! My gaydar was out. EM: I heard you’re on Grindr, does Pam Ann have a man in every port? PA: Absolutely. It’s her job. Those flight attendants are dirty whores. Especially the Virgin crew. EM: You toured with Cher. How did that come about? PA: Her manager is Australian, Roger Davies. He’s a real Australian, like crikey! He said, “Maybe you’d like to support her?” “Uh, yeah.” Cher was [probably] like, “Whatever. Who cares? As long as she doesn’t upstage me.” I had a recording in the show where I said, “Cocksucking” and then I said it again later in the performance, and they had to ask her if that would be all right. Cher said, “You can have one. Change the second to “fucking.” I love that they even had that conversation. About whether Pam Ann could say “cocksucking.” EM: Are you and Cher friends now? PA: No, I met her twice. And both times, she walked away saying, “Was that Pam Ann?” She didn’t watch me, or know who I was.

EM: So, you’ve opened up for Cher, and Madonna is a fan. Who would win in a cage match? PA: I’d love to see that! That’s kinda hot. It’d be a tie. If Madonna could get Cher’s weave off, then Madonna would win. First, they would really try to kill each other, then probably end up laughing. Or fucking. Like, start snogging and fuck. I’m getting turned on by that. EM: It would be every gay man’s dream! PA: Or lesbian, right? Gay men would love it, too, but more for the fashion of it. EM: Speaking of gay men’s dreams, you played David Furnish’s birthday party. What was that like? PA: It was the best party I’ve ever been to in my entire life. We took a 737 to Venice and back. I performed on the flight and after a few drinks in Venice, I performed there. At the end of the night and I was with Donatella Versace, Phillip Tracy and David LaChapelle, and Donatella didn’t want the DJ to stop. She wanted to hear one more song. And we all waited for her security to get a CD with this song on it. And it was “Video Killed the Radio Star.” Of all the songs, that’s what she wanted to hear. We were the last to leave. EM: OK, now it’s time for some word association: Pilots? PA: Jamaican cocks. (laughs) I don’t know why. EM: Elton John? PA: Fairy godmother. EM: Layover? PA: Fucking. EM: Straight male flight attendants? PA: Anal sex. Pam Ann is performing at the Capitol Theatre on Nov 30 at 8p. For tickets go to: www.capa.com.

EM: Madonna called you “cruelly funny?” PA: That’s the most perfect quote. She’s so right.

The bottom of her shoes are red with the blood of everyone she walked on to get to the top.

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Mondays at Hubbard Grille are always a rootin’, tootin’ good time!

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‘Just Treat Him Like a Person’ Mom Pens Memoir About Raising Gender-Creative Son by Molly Duerré In her groundbreaking first book, Raising My Rainbow, Lori Duron chronicles her adventures in raising her gender-creative son, C.J., who was born male, yet loves everything pink, sparkly and sassy. Duron opens up her life to readers, sharing some of the most joyous and difficult moments she and her husband have experienced as parents. Inspired by Duron’s blog of the same name, Raising My Rainbow will change you. She spoke to outlook about why her book is a must-read for everyone, not just those of us who identify as members of the LGBT community. Molly Duerré: Why should people who are not parents or who are not members of LGBTQ community read your book? Lori Duron: Our story is unique, enjoyable and educational. I promise that there is something in it for everyone. It’s about personal growth, dealing with met and unmet expectations, choosing empathy over judgment, and working toward equality. Everybody can benefit from learning more about those things. Oh, and I think most readers will laugh a little along the way. Learning and laughing are a wonderful couple. MD: For the people who are just learning about C.J. and your family and have never encountered your blog, what would you like them to know before they pick up Raising My Rainbow? LD: The book is a lot like the blog. It gives people a glimpse into our lives in hopes that they will see that we are not weird - we are just different. And, different isn’t bad. Different can and does happen to anybody. Your neighbor. Your coworker. Your friend. Your enemy. You.

The book is about expectations. You don’t always get what you expect when you are expecting. When your child is born you expect that their sex and gender will align. Sometimes they don’t. You expect that your male child will like traditionally male things and that he’ll be physically and emotionally attracted to a woman. Sometimes that doesn’t happen. There is comfort found in expectations, but when those expectations are squashed when your child is 3, 4 or 5 years old you start to question why [expectations] exist at all. november 2013

You build new expectations and try not to be jaded when people around you hold tight to the old ones. MD: What reaction do you hope for from your readers? LD: It took us a while to realize that what we want most from other people is empathy. You don’t have to fully understand gender, sex and sexuality; we just ask that you have an open heart and an open mind. Imagine for a minute what our child and we have to go through on a daily basis. What would you do if you had a child like C.J.? Judge less and imagine more. Treat others how you want to be treated. Period. MD: How have you changed? When our son grabbed that first Barbie, we set out on a journey of evolution - though we didn’t know it at first. The evolution was slow and, at times, didn’t feel like it was moving forward or felt like we were fighting it. But, it happened; no one in our family is the same person that they were three years ago. Now, I wouldn’t change this experience for anything in the world. I couldn’t always say that. MD: How do you view the current state of LGBT civil rights? LD: It astonishes me that in 2013 we need a civilrights movement at all. It should be a given that all people are created equal and should be treated as such - whether it’s on the playground or in the nation’s capital. The book is my way of taking a firm stand in the movement. It is my way of publicly saying that my son and brother deserve the same human rights and human decency taken for granted by the majority of the country’s population. I want my son to be treated like a human being. If you can’t tell if he is a boy or a girl, then just treat him like a person. MD: Do you plan to write more books in the future, maybe a sequel as C.J. grows older or about something else entirely? LD: I’m definitely interested in writing more books and have a few ideas is mind, but I’m really trying to savor being a published author for the first time and want to use the opportunities that my book has afforded me to educate about and advocate for differently gendered and LGBTQ youth.

There should be more moms like Lori Duron.

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Congrats to Michelle and Tanisha, who are living united in marriage!

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LGBT Films Span Four Nights at Film Festival

by Maryam Rezayat The longest-running film festival in the nation isn’t in Los Angeles or New York. It’s in Columbus, and this year’s Columbus International Film + Video Festival kicks off Nov 3. Although the festival always features international films, the 2013 event is more international than usual. Films come from the Democratic Republic of Congo, Israel, Austria and the UK, among others. “We’re not Toronto or Sundance, but people from all over the place send us the most amazing films,” Columbus Film Council Executive Director Susan Halpern said. “I feel honored that these filmmakers let us show their work.” Several international flicks come from the LGBT community. The festival has teamed up with Stonewall Columbus to present three nights of LGBT films. LGBTFEST begins Nov 10 at Studio 35 Cinema & Drafthouse in Clintonville with G.B.F., a comedy about two closeted best friends. It continues with Continental, a documentary examining New York’s Continental bathhouse, on Nov 12 at Wild Goose Creative in the University District. On Nov 14, the event moves to the Canzani Center at the Columbus College of Art & Design for the traditional evening of LGBT shorts. Five award-winning shorts will be screened, and the Silver Chris Award winners (first place in the LGBT division) will be in attendance to introduce their film, Ying and Yang, and answer questions afterward. “We’ve always been LGBT-friendly, but we’ve never showcased it until now,” Halpern said. “It makes sense because Columbus is such a gay city. It’s wonderful.”

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LGBT FEATURE FILMS G.B.F. Sunday, Nov 10 @ 8p Studio 35 Cinema & Drafthouse, 3055 Indianola Ave Admission: $5 G.B.F. is the story of two closeted best friends, Tanner, (Michael J. Willett, United States Of Tara) and Brent (Paul Iacono, The Hard Times of R.J. Berger). While Brent longs for popularity, it’s Tanner who catches the school’s attention when he is accidentally outed. Soon, the three most popular girls in school fight to land Tanner as their gay best friend. Continental Tuesday, Nov 12 @ 7p Wild Goose Creative, 2491 Summit St Admission: $5 Continental is a stylish examination of a lively and lascivious piece of real estate that transcended sexual identity and acted as a beacon to the hip, beautiful and infamous. Housed at the site of the legendary Ansonia Hotel, the Continental became one of the most important keystones for a sexual revolution, fostering an environment of tolerance and contributing to a level of mainstream gay acceptance the likes of which has never been seen again. Blue Is the Warmest Color Sunday, Nov 17 @ 7p The Drexel, 2254 E Main St, Bexley Admission: $9 ($7 seniors, $7.50 students) The winner of the Palme d'Or at the 2013 Cannes Film Festival, Blue Is the Warmest Color is the story of 15-year-old Adèle, who aspires to become a teacher. But her life is turned upside down when she meets Emma, a blue-haired art student at a nearby college, who instigates a romance. For show times, ticket information and other events at the Columbus International Film + Video Festival, visit www.columbusfilmcouncil.org.

SHORTS AT THE LGBTFEST Wednesday, Nov 13 @ 6:30p CCAD Canzani Center, Gay Street and Cleveland Avenue Admission: $5 Grotto (pictured above) When 20-year-old Marco returns home from college for the summer, he reunites with his best friends at a midnight pool party with intentions to tell them some hefty news. But as he tries to hold his ground, an unexpected guest to the party, coupled with an approaching storm, compromises everything he anticipated. Brighton Brighton follows the journey of Edward as he ventures to the famed English coastal resort for a day. The reason for his trip is unclear, at first, as we watch him paste photographs of himself as a young boy at famed monuments around Brighton, all the while ignoring phone calls that come in to his mobile throughout the day from his boss and his boyfriend. A Matter of Sex Guy and Lior, a gay married couple, are about to bring a baby to the world with a female couple who are looking for the same thing. During this process Guy starts to have some sort of attraction to one of the girls, Yael. Hatch Hatch follows two couples and the wrenching decisions they must make on a wintry Vienna night. Milo and Biljana, immigrants seeking opportunity, must acknowledge that they can’t raise their newborn and hope to achieve their own dreams at the same time. Across town, Thomas and Andreas, an older couple, desperately want a child. Ying And Yang Masculinity. Femininity. Pansexuality. The inner thoughts of a young man named Devin as he tries to get a grip on his identity, his sexuality and his relationships. This piece is entirely spoken-word. No dialogue. Just poetry. (Filmmakers Kevin Darnell Walker and Randall Lorin Sawyer will introduce their film and take questions afterward.)

Who still has a VCR? Who knows what VCR stands for?

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interview

Marshall’s Plan

McPeek Is Back on the Air After a Year in Key West

by Bob Vitale When he was introduced to Good Day Columbus viewers back in September on ABC6 (WSYX-TV), Marshall McPeek said he missed Jeni’s ice cream during his year in Key West but not Central Ohio’s icy Februarys. A year after signing off from NBC4 (WCMH-TV) McPeek is back on Columbus TV, bringing the number of gay meteorologists in town back up to the national average. The Bucyrus native sat down with outlook to talk about why he came home, what’s ahead at Channel 6 and what’s the deal with gay men and weather: Bob Vitale: When last we saw you, you were packing up and heading to Florida... Marshall McPeek: We were. We were there almost a year. It was fast. BV: What made you want to come home? MM: ABC6 and Fox 28 called out of the blue and offered me an opportunity to work with Shawn Ireland ... and I said who wouldn’t leave Florida for that? [Ireland is sitting nearby in the ABC6 studios, and soon hands over a roll of toilet paper “in case the crap gets really deep...”] Honestly that’s what happened. It was a real surprise for all of us, very pleasantly so. I was on a photo shoot. My business there was real-estate marketing and general marketing, and I was at a photo shoot working with a client and the phone rang. ... And that was when the station called and said, “Here’s what we’re proposing. What do you think?” And so we talked about it, and they lured us away from paradise. BV: And back to paradise? Did you miss Columbus? Did you miss TV? What was the lure back? MM: We’re closer now to family and friends, which is always great. The opportunity to work with a really great team is a wonderful thing. BV: How are you settling back in? MM: While we’re waiting for the house in Florida to be sold, we’re in temporary housing in German Village. We look forward to getting back into a house. All of our stuff is in storage. When we have a house again and we have our stuff, it’ll feel like home again. We’re on the market in Key West. If anyone needs a house, it’s a cute little three-bedroom house with a pool. God, I miss the pool...

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BV: You left one gay mecca for another... MM: Kind of, yeah! Key West is an amazing place ... and so is Columbus. When you get outside either one of those two places is when you begin to appreciate it. We felt really comfortable in Key West, and that’s what makes it feel like home. And Columbus has the same thing, where it’s very comfortable. A lot of cities aren’t that lucky. BV: At Channel 6, is your role different than at Channel 4? Are you going to be hosting? MM: My primary focus is Good Day Columbus from 7-9 [in the morning] and then the third hour of Good Day Columbus with Shawn Ireland from 9 to 10, plus the noon newscast on ABC6. I think some of the things outside of that are still evolving. BV: I’ve known people in TV and had friends in TV, and a lot of times they stay closeted. You’re not that way. Has TV changed, or are you different than a lot of others? MM: I think a lot of it is we are very fortunate to live in a community that welcomes everyone, and so it has been easier for not just me, but there are other people in the media who are out. ... If this were a less friendly community, it probably wouldn’t be a good place to be out. I have plenty of friends in the business who are not out. ... I think I’ve been very lucky. I work in a community that is welcoming, and that’s fantastic. BV: We were running low on gay meteorologists in Columbus... MM: Never running low on gay meteorologists! Let me tell you how many I know. I started writing down a list at one point. Of course you have Sam [Champion] at Good Morning America on the network, but I know personally meteorologists - gay meteorologists - in D.C., Cleveland, of course Columbus, Miami, San Diego, umm, Minneapolis, St. Louis, Chicago, off the top of my head... BV: We’re not outing anyone, are we? MM: No! No! We were at an NLGJA [National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association] convention at one time, and I think he was kidding, but it was still pretty funny, but someone said he was looking for funding to do a study on what is it with gay men and weather? I don’t know, but there are a lot of us. You can’t do this if you’re not fascinated with weather to begin with, but I don’t think that’s spliced onto the gay gene. BV: It’s not like showtunes or brunch or anything like that... MM: I don’t know what it is, but there are a lot of us. A lot of us...

Welcome home, Marshall! We hope you brought the sunshine.

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savage love

by Dan Savage

My girlfriend snooped on my browser history the other day specifically to see what porn I had been looking at. I’ve told her I look at porn a few times a week, and she said she didn’t mind.

than other women, but sometimes that type just does it for me. Compounding this, my girlfriend is overweight not on par with the women in the videos I watched and now she’s worried that her weight is the only reason I’m attracted to her.

She asked me what type of stuff I usually look at, and I was mostly honest. My viewing habits are pretty vanilla It’s not! How can I explain this to her and put her mind except for BBW porn. It’s not my go-to, but it was what at ease? she found in my browser history the day she snooped. She had some issues, and I don’t know how to address - Busted Boyfriend Worries them. I’m not more attracted to overweight women

looked only at porn that featured conventionally attraca Iftiveyouwomen - all those skinny bitches - your girlfriend would be

HATE CRIME: One of the shitbags invited to speak at the gaybash-a-thon known as the Values Voter Summit in Washingworried that you’re not attracted to her because of her size. But ton, D.C., last month called homophobia a myth. He said gay she caught you looking at BBW porn, and now she’s worried people are not victims. We are the violent and intolerant ones, that her size is the only reason you’re attracted to her. he argued, and Bible-believing Christians like him are the real victims. I don’t think you can win this one, BBW, but you can try saying this to her: “I like women of all shapes and sizes, honey, includ- Later that very same day, Oct 12, a gay man was attacked in ing yours - as you can clearly see if you look at all the porn sites New Glasgow, Nova Scotia, in an apparent hate crime. Scott I’ve visited, instead of just obsessing about that particular Jones was stabbed twice in the back, and his throat was one.” slashed. He survived the attack, but his spinal cord was severed and he is now paralyzed from the waist down. I don’t think it’ll do much good, because your girlfriend probably doesn’t want you looking at porn at all. Saying it’s OK, Scott is Canadian and has access to high-quality medical snooping and grilling aren’t signs of “OK with porn.” So use care. But Scott faces a long struggle, and there will be exprivate browsing, clear your browser history, or watch porn on a penses - retrofitting his home, loss of income - that he’ll need secure computer in a secret, undisclosed location. help with. If you have a few bucks or loonies to spare, please consider making a donation at supportscottjones.com.

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the divine life by Debé Scorpio (October 23 - November 21) This is your time to shine, you sexy beast. Your charisma is working, but be careful not to overwhelm a new conquest, or you may have buyer’s remorse later. That goes for any high-end presents to yourself as well. Be frugal, but still have fun. Let others spoil you instead. You’re good at that. Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21) It’s hard to believe your energy could rev up another notch, but that’s what I’m seeing for you. Things look good, but don’t let runaway optimism steer you over a cliff. Too much of a good thing might actually be too much, even for you. Capricorn (December 22 - January 19) You get introspective this month, planning and preparing for the months ahead. Slow and steady wins the race, and make time to be helpful and supportive. Sounds like a perfect time to hone your foreplay skills. Aquarius (January 20 - February 18) Work is humming along, so turn your attention to your social life. You are in demand, but you may resent everyone wanting a piece of you. It’s OK to decline some invitations. No means no, right? Unless it’s your mom, then all bets are off. Pisces (February 19 - March 20) The upcoming holidays can be exciting, but also stressful. You’re as popular as whipped cream on pumpkin, but don’t commit to baking too many pies. Also, try not to take it personally when no one wants your mincemeat pie. It’s not about you; it’s about the pie. Aries (March 21 - April 19) You’re setting your sights high, but you may need to take a reality pill. Check your ego at the door and take a practical look at your goals. I’m not pissing in your cornflakes; good things come to those who plan. Taurus (April 20 - May 20) The full moon in your sign this month has you feeling frisky, but be careful with sexy newcomers. They might be more trouble than they’re worth. Check them out before you check them into the love shack, OK?

Gemini (May 21 - June 20) You are strong out of the gate this month, charming the pants off everyone at home, at work and on the town. Be careful not to overdo it though, or you’ll pull up lame. You want to be able to finish what you started. Cancer (June 21 - July 22) Don’t worry if something goes awry at work, because the universe is making room for bigger and better things. The upcoming holidays can add to your stress, but try not to freak out. Good things are coming - just breathe. Leo (July 23 - August 22) Be careful what ideas, or cutie pies, you get an urge to stalk. That exciting challenge early in the month might seem like quicksand by month’s end. You don’t want to end up at an uncomfortable Thanksgiving dinner with new in-laws, right? Virgo (August 23 - September 22) Moderation is not the word that comes to mind around the holidays, but that’s your mantra for the month. Luckily, you’re in your wheelhouse. If anyone can focus and pace themselves, you can. Of course, this will annoy the hell out of the rest of us. Libra (September 23 - October 22) Life is a whirlwind of activity this month, and you feel pulled between love and work. Successfully juggle the two, and you’ll find your charms will get you everywhere. Be alert for a friend who is looking to be more. Famous Gay Scorpios: Jody Foster, Rock Hudson, K.D. Lang and Truman Capote Handy Tip The Girdle of Venus used to seen as a sign of wantonness, but is now interpreted as a heightened sensitivity and mark of sensuality.

Debé is a highly respected palmist, teacher and co-owner of Enchanted Elements. She is available for personal readings, parties, events and workshops. Contact her at 614.437.2642 or www.enchantedelements.com.

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local celebrity bloggers

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Pam Antos

Teacher at Hilliard’s Innovative Learning Center

Top 5 Ways to Support an LGBTQA Child 5. Be a good listener - just let them talk. Don’t feel like you need to have all the answers. 4. Help them get connected to support networks and other resources at home, school and online. 3. Be an ALLY who advocates for them. Don’t allow homophobic remarks to go unchallenged. 2. Celebrate who they are! Encourage them to be themselves. 1. Offer your unconditional love and acceptance. Bethany Lewis Above all, that’s what we need and want. OSU Sexuality Studies

and Psychology Major

Nov. 4 topic: Spirit Day Vigil

Top 5 Ways I Want to Change the World 5. Implement daily widespread dance parties that are as common as coffee breaks. 4. Create legal rights, currently regarded as marriage rights, for two people who choose each other regardless of any factor. 3. Teach and counsel people to have happy, safe and loving relationships. 2. Implement international lifelong, comprehensive sex, relationship, gender and sexuality education. 1. Eliminate the difference between toys “for boys” and toys “for girls.” Nov 11 topic: A Straight Girl’s Stumblings Through a Queer World

Shane Morgan

Founder and Chair, TransOhio

Top 5 Issues Facing the Trans Community 5. Acceptance of self and moving beyond the binaries. 4. Employment discrimination. 3. Language and culture. 2. Access to competent mental and physical health care. 1. Violence against trans people. Nov. 18 topic: Transgender Day of Remembrance

Joshua Snowden

Graduate Administrative Associate at OSU Harding Hospital

Top 5 Best Things About Having a Group of “Rainbros” 5. You can wear each other’s clothes and people don’t question. (This does not work in the straight community.) 4. Your friends don’t judge you for ordering the fruitiest drink at the bar. 3. Disney movie sing-a-longs and wine nights are a perfect Friday night. 2. They’re the most accepting and supportive friends you’ll ever meet. 1. Hugs, cuddles and “I love yous” are abundant.

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Queens of Diamonds Across

1 Ed Wood role 5 Infection fighter 10 James VI, e.g. 14 Bard’s river 15 More shifty 16 Island of Diamond Head Beach 17 “___ diamonds” (Elizabeth) 20 Sexual favors obtained while surfing? 21 Palindromic form of address 22 Acapulco article 23 Nathan and family 24 Prez who shared a bed with Joshua Speed 25 Chemical suffix 27 Mary Tyler Moore’s costar Ed 29 Josh of The Deep End 32 Cathedral of Hope area 36 Homes away from home 37 Ill-suited 38 Elizabeth 40 Marilyn 41 Parish priest 42 Bear that may be a minor 45 Network for armchair athletes 46 “Mary” and “Nelly,” e.g.

11 Way to go, in San Francisco 12 John Goodman’s Normal, ___ 13 Harbor pushers 18 Ingrid’s Casablanca role 19 Estevez of Bobby 26 My Favorite Wife costar Irene 28 Elton John’s title 30 Per person 31 Tommy’s gun 32 Many P-town beach vehicles 33 Beach toy 34 Graceful trees 35 Riverfinger Women writer Dykewomon 39 Wild parties 40 The Advocate, briefly 42 Heavy coats Down 43 Come back to 1 Tower of many 44 Type of step tongues 48 Barbra’s Funny Girl 2 Madonna title role guy 3 Screenwriter John of 52 Etching fluids Sweeney Todd 53 Unfaithful lover 4 Rolling Stones’ hit of 54 Painter Matisse 1973 5 Cold War abbreviation 55 More queer 56 Omelet ingredients 6 Liv of Persona 57 Arizona river 7 Edith Eyde pseudo59 “Dancing Queen” nym band 8 Sites of auto dents 62 ___ Miz 9 Kind of code or rug 63 To’s partner 10 Gay guy, to Brits 47 “Unhand me!” 49 Spring month for Debussy 50 Sex Crimes division, to B.D. Wong 51 The Village People’s kind of man 56 I problem 58 Weird Al Yankovic song about oral sex? 60 Yearned 61 “Diamonds are a ___” (Marilyn) 64 Tickled-pink feeling 65 Prickly bush 66 “Bet you can’t,” e.g. 67 Give some lip 68 Houston hurler 69 Direction from Rick Rodgers

You have to read Pam’s blog. Her speech at the vigil was outstanding.

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Ninaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s versatile. You get her in the front and back of this issue.

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