July 2020 Issue

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Talking to Kids About Racism Page 8

Pandemic Decision-Making Page 12

Working from Home Page 16

Behaviors Adults Can Do Better Page 26

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RACISM AND KIDS Raising unbiased children.


PANDEMIC DECISION-MAKING Risk vs. Reward. A DAD’S EYE VIEW Making memories… FAMILY MOVIE REVIEWS For the kids: Scoob! For the adults: Military Wives

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Concern Grows Over Drop in Immunizations by Pilar Bradshaw, M.D., F.A.A.P. • Eugene Pediatric Associates


ediatricians locally and across the nation are concerned about the health of children in the wake of the COVID-19 health crisis. In addition to increased stress, feelings of isolation due to social distancing, loss of learning time, mental health challenges, and food and economic insecurity, many families have chosen to postpone well-child checkups, including critical immunizations. S ince the star t o f the pandemic , pediatricians are seeing a 50-70% drop in vaccination rates nationally, compared to the previous year’s average. Even at Eugene Pediatric Associates, where rigorous new standards of social distancing and safety protocols were adopted weeks before Oregon’s governor issued a stay-at-home directive, our year-to-date vaccination rates are down 16%. This dramatic drop in immuniz at ions is al ar ming b e c au s e preemptive care is critical to a child’s health. Preventable diseases, including m e a s l e s , w h o o p i n g co u g h a nd meningitis, are still a threat. Remember the measles scare we experienced in Lane County last fall? It’s not only unvaccinated children who are in danger of b e coming sick . W hen vaccination

rates drop, community-wide protection, known as “herd immunity,” shrinks. If a disease emerges in our region, it will spread more quickly, stay longer and infect more people. The American Academy of Pediatrics strongly recommends that babies and children of all ages, including teens, be seen in person for well-checks and vaccinations during the COVID-19 health crisis. We understand parents’ concerns about taking their well children to

the doctor’s office out of fear of exposing them to coronavirus, however, all local clinics have taken measures to make your visit safe. We are happy to address your concerns when you call to schedule. Let’s work together to protect our children from preventable illnesses.

Talking About Race and Racism with Young Children by Ellie Springer


ace and racism are tough for adults to talk about in this country, and many adults think that by not talking to children about race, they will grow up “colorblind” and not racist. But the truth is that children begin to notice racial differences as early as 6 months, and because racism and biases DO exist in our society, children see it and learn it. By the time they are preschool age, children can internalize racial biases. Many of us have been taught that talking about race is rude or inappropriate. But if we teach our children that, by shushing them if they point out someone’s different skin tone or pretending that we don’t see race, we won’t be doing what we can to end racism.

So how do you talk with young kids about race? How do you raise children to be raceconscious and unbiased? It's OK to Be Uncomfortable • Reflect on your own feelings and biases about race. Children learn the most from what they see us do, so be aware of how you react in encounters with people who look different than you and of the people you choose to spend time with. • Talk with your kids about race. Ask them questions about what they know and what they think, and be honest and open when you answer their questions. Be factual but age appropriate. • Expose your children to a wide variety of people, in real life, and/or in books, toys, and media. • Be prepared to be uncomfortable. This is tough stuff!

Author's Note: I am white, and many of the tips I am including here are for white parents with white children. Parents of color, or parents with children of color, might have some different or additional conversations. I have focused on white families, because I do not think it is appropriate for me to speak for people of color. I have included resources written by people of color to share their perspectives, and there are many more out there that I encourage you to explore. —E.S.

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Noticing Differences Your child may notice the skin color of a person or toy, “Why is her skin so brown?” That can make us feel embarrassed, especially if other adults hear it. But it’s okay for your child to notice difference-aren’t we always asking them what color something is? So you can say something like, “Yes, she has darker skin than you do. Different people have different skin colors.” With older children, add, “Humans have something called melanin in their skin, and if you have more of it, your skin is darker. We all have different amounts of melanin in our bodies.” Compare your skin tone to your child’s and others in your family. Sometimes people in the same family have similar skin tones, and sometimes they have different colored skin. If your child has darker skin, affirm for them that their skin is beautiful and that they are just right the way they are. Some children will say something about preferring certain toys or friends because of the way they look. This can be very upsetting, because you might feel your child has already absorbed some racist ideas. But this is common and doesn’t mean your child is “a racist.” Preschool-aged children are learning to categorize things and people, and they often think that like should go with like: all the blocks go on one shelf, all the dolls go on another; therefore, white children go together and brown children go together. You can actively counter these ideas by telling your child that anyone can play with anyone, no matter their skin color, and remind them of people they know who look different than they do whom they like. Point out that people have different eye and skin colors, people are different heights, some

people wear glasses or hearing aids, and none of those things make one person better or worse than any other. Try not to have a big reaction, because this will reinforce the idea that race or skin color is taboo and something we shouldn’t talk about. I read a blog post where someone pointed out that in the classic Brown Bear, Brown Bear, the colors of the humans are not noted, whereas the colors of the animals are. So she said she reads, “I see a white teacher looking at me” and points out the many different skin colors of the children. That’s a great way to talk about skin color in a neutral, matter-of-fact way. Know Your History With older preschool-aged children, you can tell them that our country has a history of some people being treated unfairly because of their skin color, and we (if you and they are white) have to be very careful that we don’t do that, as it really hurts people. As they grow, talk with them about the history of our country as it relates to race: Native people, Africans brought here as slaves, immigrants from Asia and South America. This is important history for all of us to know and understand if we are to understand current attitudes about race in the United States. You should be careful about assigning a racial identity to someone without knowing how they identify themselves, but you can tell your children that some people who have dark skin are called AfricanAmerican or black, and some people who have light skin and dark hair and eyes are called Asian-American. Tell them that is because

Books for Babies and Toddlers

Books for Pre-schoolers I

Books for Pre-schoolers II

Any books with photographs of babies of many races are great.

These books have characters of color but are not about race.

These books specifically address skin color, race, and/or difference.

• Global Babies (series)

• Saturday, Oge Mora

• I Am Brown

• Smile! (Baby Faces series)

• Yesterday I Had the Blues

• Same, Same but Different

• My Face Book

• Julián the Mermaid

• Making Faces

• Last Stop on Market Street

• Whose Toes are Those?

• Ada Twist, Scientist

• Shades of People and All Kinds of People - both books with photos of children by Shelley Rotner

• Everywhere Babies

• Bee Bim Bop!

• Peekaboo Morning

• Hush: A Thai Lullaby

• Please, Baby, Please

• The Wheels on the Tuk Tuk

• Baby Dance

• Round is a Mooncake; Round is a Tortilla

• One Love and Every Little Thing (based on Bob Marley songs)


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• Shopping with Dad

• It’s Okay to Be Different by Todd Parr • Mixed: A Colorful Story • A series of books with photographs of children all over the world by Ann Morris includes: Bread, Bread, Bread, and Houses and Homes • Little Humans, a book from the Humans of New York author

their ancestors (their great-great-grandparents) originally came from a part of the world called Africa or Asia. If you know people who are immigrants and were born in another country, tell your child those facts, “Her mom and dad were born in a place called India, and they moved here to the U.S. Many people in India have brown skin. Their family speaks another language with each other, and they also know how to speak English. Isn’t that cool that they can say the same thing in different ways?” How to Talk About the News When talking about protests, you can tell a 5-year-old, “A police officer used his body to hurt someone (or kill someone), and many people believe he did that because the man was black. Most police officers know that is wrong, and they wouldn’t do that. These people are angry that it happened, and they are standing here to say that it is wrong and shouldn’t happen.” With a 2-year-old, you could say, “Sometimes people are unkind to other people because they have a different skin color. We know that’s not okay, and we have to treat everyone with kindness. These people are here to say that we should all be safe, no matter what color our skin is.” With an infant, just point out that someone has dark skin, and she has light skin. How to Raise Race-conscious and Unbiased Children • Choose dolls and other people toys with different skin tones, regardless of your child’s skin tone. • Talk explicitly and in positive terms about people’s skin tones-people you see in person, and in books and on screen, even if their race is not the focus of the story. • Choose books, movies, and television with people of different races in them, but not only books about racism and prejudice. Choose stories with characters of color that are not about race or prejudice, and talk about those characters just the way you would about a white character. “She loves horses, just like you.” “He doesn’t want his sister to knock over his tower.” Be careful to avoid stories that exploit stereotypes--a LOT of old books and movies (and some not so old ones) have those stereotypes all through them--and if you do see stereotypes in your child’s movies or books, call it out and talk with them about it. “This book shows a Native person wearing feathers and calls him an Indian. Native people don’t always wear feathers; that’s a stereotype. Native and Indigenous people wear clothes just like us, and many of them don’t like to be called Indians.” For more on stereotypes in media, go to: https:// mediasmarts.ca/sites/mediasmarts/files/pdfs/tipsheet/TipSheet_ TalkingKidsRacialStereotypes.pdf Unfortunately, the uncomfortable truth is that our culture is filled with subtle and not-so-subtle racist messages. As a parent, the choices you make can not only protect your child from absorbing those messages but also help raise a race-conscious and unbiased generation.

Further Reading Here are more articles that give more good tips on talking to kids about race and racism: • https://www.healthychildren.org/English/healthy-living/ emotional-wellness/Building-Resilience/Pages/Talking-toChildren-About-Racial-Bias.aspx • A blog post that gives specific language you can use with your children: https://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/talking-with-children-about-racism-police-brutalityand-protests • A list of FAQs in early childhood from the Anti-Defamation League: https://www.adl.org/education/resources/ tools-and-strategies/question-corner • EmbraceRace.org is a great site for learning how to talk with children of all backgrounds about race. They have webinars, articles, and tips for choosing books with diverse characters. Here are their 10 tips for talking with all children about race: https://www.embracerace.org/resources/teachingand-talking-to-kids • A blog post from a black mother on how she cares for her children: https://www.mother.ly/news/racism-and-mental-health-african-american-kids • An article about how to talk with Asian-American children about race and stereotypes: https://www.emkpress.com/ pdffiles/racism.pdf

Ellie Springer is an early educator working with families with young children in the Boston area. O R E G O N F A M I LY. C O M • J U L Y 2 0 2 0


RISK vs REWARD DECISION-MAKING IN THE PANDEMIC from the providers at Oregon Medical Group


s we move through the various phases of reopening during COVID-19, we believe it is important to remind you that caution remains extremely important for our community’s health. In fact, unless we continue to be diligent, moving past Phase 2 to Phase 3 is not necessarily a one-direction path. We could be forced to step back to the previous stage. At the same time, the virus is not going away and until there is a vaccine, we must learn to manage risk. We know that parents face many tough decisions this summer, from whether children should have play dates to if excursions to public places like the pool are a good idea. With official re-openings, we are forced to make individual decisions based on each person’s health, circumstances and risk tolerance. Balancing risk and reward can be challenging. To help, we offer the following guidance: Consider each body If you or your child has underlying conditions, asthma or is immune-compromised, staying home is safest. (If your child sees an OMG provider and falls in this category, please contact us for guidance.) Outside is best Get outside. The virus can disperse more broadly outdoors. You’re not sharing the air as much as when you are inside.


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Less is more If you opt to allow your children to have playdates, choose one or two favorite friends to limit your child’s circle and the number of people who might be introducing the virus. Space things out Yes, allow for six feet between you and others. But also minimize your movement from one activity to another. For example, take one outing each day, not three. This gives your children bright spots to look forward to while reducing the chance of exposure and spread. Keep it clean Hygiene remains essential. Frequent and thorough handwashing is critical. Covering your sneeze or cough are another, and masks are an absolute. It’s true that they don’t keep you safe, but they protect others. If we all use them, we can drastically reduce the spread. There are many resources online, and some rank risk. We’re all learning more about this virus, and we’re hoping that by the time this article runs, more will be known and shared online. Please be sure to consider your source. The Centers for Disease Control and governmental health authorities like Lane County Health are the most trustworthy sources. Of course, you can always call your Oregon Medical Group provider with questions specific to your family. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for the latest news.

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A Dad’s Eye View Humor by Rick Epstein

Making Memories at the Mini-Golf I

don’t know about you, but I tend to over-estimate the abilities of 2-year-olds. They walk and talk just like people, so I assume they ARE just like people. But take them miniature-golfing and they’ll remind you that not so long ago they had gills and tails. It was a hot August night at Golfzilla Mini-Golf. My wife, Betsy, our three little daughters, and I were in line for our equipment. One of the posted rules was, “Be careful with your putter. It is a dangerous weapon.” “Let’s not give Wendy a dangerous weapon,” my wife said. Wendy was the 2-year-old. So we only rented clubs and balls for the four of us. Sally, age 5, happily knocked her orange ball around the course with some skill, even scoring a lucky hole-in-one. Meanwhile, little Wendy busied herself picking marigolds, trying to eat them, and picking up the balls, including those belonging to other golfers, and throwing them. “Wendy, stop that!” “Wendy, come back here!” “Wendy, spit that out!” Before long, complete strangers were saying, “Look out! Here comes Wendy.” To distract her, we’d carry her over to a heavily chlorinated waterfall and hold her up to touch the concrete gnome that was perched on top of it. She’d quiver with excitement every time, thinking it was alive, expecting it to react. She was also intrigued by the Golfzilla statue at the 18th hole, but it was out of reach inside a cage. Marie, 8, was having a bad time. Even more infuriating to her than Wendy’s ball-snatching, was Sally’s hole-in-one. Marie’s red ball was not going where she wanted it to, and frustration turned careful strokes into vicious slashes. On the 11th hole, Marie took an especially vengeful bash at the

ball. It bounced off a low stone wall and into a clump of marigolds beside a 6-foot Dutch windmill. Exasperated but not quite ready to fling herself onto the ground, she bent over the flower patch and rummaged around in search of the ball. The blunt plywood blades of the windmill, their slow motion powered by a little electric motor, were awfully close to Marie’s head. Before I could say anything, Marie became, after Don Quixote, the second great tragic figure to be hit on the head by a windmill. “Ow!” she said, backing away, not actually hurt. Trying not to smile, Betsy said, “I’ll find it for you,” and stepped into the danger zone. Her bent head also received a tap, and this time the windmill stopped dead. Marie howled, “Now we’re in big trouble!” She burst into tears and flung herself to the ground. “What’s the matter with HER?” Sally asked curiously, provoking a roar of rage. My wife gave a windmill blade a little push and the rotation resumed. We got a replacement ball from the attendant, and Marie recovered her composure and finished out the game with some dignity. In the car going home, Sally asked, “Can we go again tomorrow?” Trying to make Betsy laugh, I said, “It wouldn’t be as much fun if we went every day. But we’ll go again someday.” “Good,” said Marie. I looked at her in surprise. Seems I wouldn’t recognize Fun if it lay weeping on the ground right in front of me. That was 15 years ago. We never went back, and the place went out of business waiting for us. Last June, with time on my hands, I stopped by the old Golfzilla course. Skinny trees and knee-high weeds grew everywhere, and vines were climbing the windmill. The waterfall’s basin contained a murky soup of wiggly larvae, and Wendy’s gnome had cleared out. Golfzilla lay rainswollen and sun-cracked in his cage. But things are happening there now. Driving by, I got a glimpse of raw earth, yellow bulldozer and new masonry. A news item confirmed it: New Owners, Big Makeover, Re-opening Soon! Call us fools, but my wife and I think it’d be fun to go back. All the girls will be home for Labor Day Weekend, and I bet they’d indulge us. They are now 24, 21 and 17, so their golf game may lack the intensity of extreme youth. It had better – especially if we let Wendy wield a putter this time. Rick can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com. O R E G O N F A M I LY. C O M • J U L Y 2 0 2 0


Balancing Working from Home and Raising Children by Meredith Tufts


n our One-2-One support chats with parents,

we get a lot of questions about how to balance working from home when you also have young children and toddlers to take care of. With summer activities limited and an uncertain school structure next fall, we offer these tips for working from home: Keep expectations reasonable for yourself and your kids and allow more flexibility and acceptance that the situation is far from ideal. Be extra kind to yourself and your children! If you’re trying to start a new pattern or teach new behaviors, like asking your child to play more independently or wait to interrupt you, set your family up for success by starting small and gradually lengthening the time they are playing by themselves or waiting for your attention. Start each day with quality time together (quality is more important than quantity), letting your child take the lead. This helps fill their need for connection so they can be more self-sufficient in their play and give you a chance to do some work.


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Set clear expectations: What can they do during your work time? When is it okay for them to interrupt you and how should they do it? Try using visuals to give them a clear sense of the day (this could be a drawn schedule of the day, a small stop sign to show that it’s a time they can’t interrupt you, etc). Use role-play to practice, both with you as the adult and them as the adult! For example: “After we play lions, it is time for me to do my work. While I’m working, you can play with your toys in the living room or play quietly with soft dough at the table with me. When my work is done, we’ll eat a snack together, then go out for a walk.” “When the stop sign is on the door, it means I’m on the phone or on a computer meeting. You can quietly sit on this chair, or put your hand on my shoulder if you need help and I will help you when I can.” Think about your child’s temperament and developmental needs to help make sure the activities you’re offering can engage them. Do they need more opportunities to move, more sensory activities, things to build (and knock down!), or something that challenges their

mind? Children are developing quickly and their preferences for different activities often reveal a specific aspect of development that their brain is especially urging them towards, so we sometimes need to adjust what we’re offering. Rotating what’s available is helpful because children will focus longer and show more creativity when they have a smaller number of choices. Connect after work: Talk about what they played or watched; engage in play or an activity together. Lastly, notice what works in your family! There’s no one, right way, so notice what does work well and find ways to expand on it. Don’t be afraid to reach out to others for help or ideas, or to change up what isn’t working. We’re all figuring this out as we go!

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Movie Time for Stay-at-Home Streaming!

Super hero helpers.

by Bonnie L. Harris

Zoinks! A Hopeless Reboot Warner Animation Rated: PG Streaming on Amazon


he creators of new Scooby D o o a n i m a t e d fe a t u re reached too high and too wide for this mess of a film that sadly could have been a charming reboot for the beloved Saturday morning series. Five credited screenwriters tells you nobody could make up their minds about which story to tell so the producers chopped up the pieces and strung together something they thought would entertain kids. Part prequel and part sequel, Scoob bounces between

origin story and an updated superhero saga with some Greek mythology to muddle the story even more. Personally, I loved the first ten minutes because I always wondered how Shaggy & Scooby met and how the gang, Fred, Velma, & Daphne, became friends. They solved their first myster y on Halloween, which would have been a great movie and a worthwhile adventure. But alas, the Scoob version jumps forward ten years and the cute kids with the budding personalities transform into their shallow

adult stereotypes. Then, for no apparent reason, Blue Falcon & Dyno-Dog (who nobody’s ever heard of) appear to help save Scooby and the world from Dick Dastardly. He’s the caricature

villain with mini-robot minions and he’s after an ancient treasure that can only be unlocked after gathering three giant dog skulls. Somewhere in there, Scooby’s

FOR THE PARENTS Sing for Me Military Wives

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you inside the characters’ lives as they search for ways to keep themselves and their families together. Kate, the Colonel’s wife, feels she


f you need a shot of feel-good charm that’ll make you laugh and cry, then Military Wives is a can’t miss. Inspired by true stories, it’s about a group of British women who create an amateur choir while their spouses are deployed in Afghanistan, and thanks to Amazon streaming, this indie gem is now available outside the UK. Military Wives doesn’t break any molds, in fact it’s absolutely formulaic, but it’s a sweet, uncomplicated movie filled with honest emotion that pulls

Lisa and Kate clash.

paw opens the door to the Greek underworld and we meet Muttley, Dick Dastardly’s dog that he sacrificed in a time portal. Did I mention it’s a complete mess of a movie? But Scooby and the gang survive the mayhem to return to the Venice boardwalk in CA and unveil their new PI business with a souped-up Mystery Machine. At $15 to rent or buy, Scoob apparently topped the streaming charts, but it’s only because there’s so little out there that’s new and parents are getting desperate.

has to be strong and set a good example for the younger wives while Lisa, the Major’s wife, believes everyone needs to cope in their own way. As organizers Kate and Lisa needle and annoy each other as the choir comes together, but they both realize its value when they’re selected to sing for London’s annual Remembrance Day ceremony. The choir transforms from just a feminine morale booster to an essential lifeboat when tragedy strikes, and it ’s a poignant struggle to bring everyone together for the wonderful final performance. Keep the tissue handy and enjoy every note!

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Explore Nearby Nature

by Beth Stein


Talking Stones


f stones could talk, what would they say? Would one stone speak of its journey down a river, another of its birth in the belly of a volcano, and another of its long deep sleep in the earth? Or would stones tell stories about the people who shared their land? If your family is looking for a meaningful adventure in nature nearby this summer, you should visit the Whilamut Natural Area of Alton Baker Park, where a special set of stones do speak. Since 2002, the Talking Stones have graced pathways and riverside viewpoints throughout the park. Placed to honor our community’s original inhabitants, the


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Kalapuya people, the basalt Talking Stones are each engraved with a Kalapuya word or phrase, as well as its English translation. On a hike through the park, from Eugene all the way to Springfield, you can visit fifteen stones. Several can be seen on a loop walk that passes the Nearby Nature Park Host Residence and the Frohnmayer Footbridge. Others are within a short walk of the Aspen Street Boat Launch in Springfield. (A map of the Talking Stones is available at nearbynature. org/kalapuya-people.) Once 15,000 strong, the Kalapuya have inhabited what is now


website), check out the park kiosk on the north side of the Frohnmayer Footbridge, visit the UO Natural and Cultural History Museum, attend a program hosted by Esther Stutzman, or become a Nearby Nature volunteer (nearbynature.org/volunteer). Beth Stein is the Executive Director of Nearby Nature, a non-profit education group dedicated to fostering appreciation of nature nearby and providing tools for ecological living. The organization hosts summer daycamps in local parks as well as school programs, special events, and restoration projects. For more information, call 541-687-9699 or see nearbynature.org.


called the Willamette Valley for thousands of years, and still live here to this day. In the words of Kalapuya elder and storyteller Esther Stutzman, “We have always been here.” Esther is a frequent visitor at Nearby Nature, where she talks about Kalapuya life and lore with our volunteers, staff, and students two-three times per year. Thanks to Esther’s shared knowledge, children who go on Nearby Nature field trips or participate in our camps know that the original Kalapuya people lived in wooden longhouses in permanent villages, and used what is now called the Willamette River like a highway. Their long sleek cedar canoes were perfectly suited to navigating the braided channels that made up the river 200-300 years ago. Our students understand how camas wildflower bulbs, a staple food for the Kalapuya, were roasted in underground, stone-lined ovens. And they also know, of course, how coyote got his yellow eyes and why snakes no longer have arms and legs! (To listen to a story told by Esther, see wisdomoftheelders. org/turtle-island-storyteller-esther-stutzman.) As you wander through the Whilamut Natural Area this summer (also named to honor the Kalapuya people) say the carved words aloud as you pass each stone. Ga-Ach-Li—peaceful in daylight. Illioo—joyful. De-Ha-Yaba—near a camas field. Imagine yourself walking by the river, three hundred, perhaps three thousand years ago. Ignore the sound of cars, airplanes, and trains. Imagine you are one of the original Kalapuya people of this place, in the Eugene-Springfield area, specifically called the Tsanchiifin. Imagine the tales that the Talking Stones could tell if they could truly speak. Nearby Nature, the City of Eugene’s Alton Baker Park Host, is honored to have our staff living and working in the traditional homeland of the Kalapuya people. To learn more about the Kalapuya, see the map noted above (as well as other information and links on our

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hildhood is all about exploration and imagination. With a little bit of both, you can take your family for an adventure to discover new things in familiar places. Although your travel plans may have been suspended this year, you can create great new travel memories by being a tourist in your own town during this time. Here are a few ways to begin your local summer vacation.


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Try a New Dish This may mean ordering from a restaurant you’ve never been to before or getting takeout from your favorite place but picking something new from the menu. Together, your family can decide what culinar y destination they want to visit with each meal you choose. Play some music to match the dishes (i.e. zydeco for cajun night). It’s not just fun to use your imagination in this way, it is also helpful as you’ll be supporting your local businesses.

Take a Selfie Everyone has the scrapbook (or desktop folder) or vacation photos. 2020 can still be a year of making memories with your family. Find some local art or historical sites nearby that are safe to visit and bring the camera. Science says that smiling actually makes you happier so go ahead and say cheese. Wear Your Travel Attire Maybe you always pack a certain beach hat or adventure shoes or your “responsible dad”

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fanny pack. Don’t let it sit unused this year. Imagination works better when you dress the part - just ask any kid in a spiderman outfit. Take a Drive Grab a map of your area and plot a route near home you’ve never driven before. Some of your nearby communities may not be open so be prepared by packing snacks and filling the tank before you leave. Bring the camera so you can be prepared to take more selfies if you happen upon interesting roadside attractions.

Camp in the Backyard If your favorite part of travel involves spending more time outdoors, then set up a tent on the lawn. If you don’t have access to outdoor space, build a fort or set up a tent indoors. With a little imagination, some string lights and nature sounds, you’ll enjoy the fun of camping without the bugs. Book a Night at a Local Hotel You’ve probably never stayed in a hotel in your hometown before, so it’ll be easy to

pretend you’re a tourist stopping in for the night. Make sure to follow current safety mandates in place to keep you safe. Your hotel will be able to give you an idea of what to expect before your arrival. Plan a Future Trip Get inspiration for your future trip from a visitor bureau like Eugene, Cascades & Coast by ordering a visitor guide and dreaming about all the things you’ll do when you’re ready to pack your bags. O R E G O N F A M I LY. C O M • J U L Y 2 0 2 0


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in the short term as fewer cars, trucks and planes ply our roads and airways. But the longer-term outlook isn’t so good, especially when factoring in the damage done to public transit systems. Alon Levy and Eric Goldwyn of NYU’s Marron Institute of Urban Management report in CityLab that public transit ridership in major cities in the U.S., Europe and China is down 50-90 percent. Unfortunately, attracting r iders back to potentially crowded buses and trains won’t be so easy, given the germ factor. Who wants to share tight quarters with dozens of strangers on a bus or train given the transmission risks? The irony is that public transit options have been starting to proliferate as various metro areas fund light rail and other mass transit infrastructure projects to boost usage and keep drivers and their cars and trucks off the road. While environmental advocates aren’t optimistic that we can keep up the emissions reductions achieved over the last few months, they are hopeful

from the Editors of “E” the Environmental Magazine

Dear EarthTalk: Do you suppose the drop in carbon emissions that resulted from transportation and industry slowdowns during the Coronavirus pandemic will continue—or will we just go right back to normal once the threat has been neutralized?


o one is happy about the havoc the Coronavirus has wreaked, but one bright side has been the reduction in carbon dioxide (CO2) emissions that occurred. Global CO2 emissions during April 2020—while the world was largely locked down— were 17 percent lower than the same time a year earlier, according to researchers from the UK’s University of Anglia. But emissions are already starting to go back up with the easing of stay-at-home restrictions. This decrease was an unwitting occurrence and it won’t do much to stave off climate change. Dan Gearino, writing in Climate News, says: “…don’t expect this to be the silver lining of the disastrous pandemic. Climate

scientists and environmental advocates say any short-term drop in emissions g ives a misleading sense of progress. This could do harm if it saps some of the urgency to address climate change at a time when there are many competing demands for public money and attention.” Indeed, the United Nations Environment Programme says that global CO2 emissions would have to fall by 7.6 percent every year this decade—slightly more than the overall reduction we’ll see in 2020—to limit overall warming to less than the 1.5 Celsius rise scientists warn could turn our world upside down. Stay-at-home orders around the world have no doubt had a positive environmental impact

CONTACTS: “Temporary reduction in daily global CO2 emissions during the COVID-19 forced confinement,” https://www.nature.com/articles/ s41558-020-0797-x; “Analysis: Coronavirus set to cause largest ever annual fall in CO2 emissions,” https://www.carbonbrief.org/ analysis-coronavirus-set-to-causelargest-ever-annual-fall-in-co2emissions; “Coronavirus: When Meeting a National EmissionsReduction Goal May Not Be a Good Thing,” https://insideclimatenews. org/news/31032020/Covid-viruscoronavirus-emissions-energygermany-paris-agreement-targets; “How U.S. Public Transit Can Survive Coronavirus,” https://bit.ly/cantransit-survive-coronavirus. EarthTalk® is produced by Roddy Scheer & Doug Moss for the 501(c)3 nonprofit EarthTalk. See more at https://emagazine.com. To donate, visit https://earthtalk.org. Send questions to: question@earthtalk.org.


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that the world’s reaction to the pandemic—people and governments coming together to protect human health and minimize loss of life—bodes well for our ability to handle the climate crisis as it gets more critical over the next two decades.

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Lane County Master Gardeners Are Here to Help BECAUSE GARDENING DOESN’T STOP FOR A PANDEMIC


• Lane County Master Gardeners Association: https://www.facebook. com/LaneCoMGA/ • OSU Extension: https://extension. oregonstate.edu/mg/lane/havegardening-question • Huerto de la Familia: https://huertodelafamilia.org/

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espite social distancing requirements, Lane County Master Gardeners are still finding ways to support the local community with sciencebased garden advice – and with plants. In May, Master Gardeners donated over 2,200 vegetable and annual starts to community gardens, senior living centers and individual families’ “pandemic plots”. When the traditional spring plant sale was cancelled, Master Gardeners found a way to distribute the plants they had grown. Vegetable starts were provided to Huerto de la Familia for their four community gardens and to Eugene Area Gleaners, an all-volunteer food distribution organization. “People were very excited today” said Jennifer Denson of Burrito Brigade upon receiving two boxes of vigorous tomato starts.

Community Resources

Science-based Garden Resources Local gardeners are growing more produce than ever this year, with many families breaking ground on a vegetable plot for the first time. OSU Extension publications are a great resource for new or experienced gardeners – need some help with tomatoes or tomatillos? This free resource is offered in English and Spanish: https://catalog. extension.oregonstate.edu/ec1333 Master Gardeners Are Ready to Help While the Eugene office is closed to visitors, Master Gardeners’ Plant Clinic volunteers are still available, working remotely to answer your questions. Just leave a phone or email message and a Master Gardener will contact you to help resolve your growing problems.

• Eugene Area Gleaners: https://eugeneareagleaners.com/ • Burrito Brigade: https://www.facebook.com/EugeneBurritoBrigade/

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Kid Behaviors Adults Could Learn to Do Better


by Cheryl Maguire

lease use your inside voice”… “Eat your broccoli”… “It’s bedtime”… “Wear your jacket”. As a parent you have probably said at least one of these statements more than a hundred times to your child. Adults are always telling kids how to behave. But there are times when kids do things better than us. Here are five behaviors adults can learn from kids:


Most toddlers favorite word is no. A child will cross their arms and stand their ground shouting no until they turn blue and pass out. Adults do not have the same ease of using the word. Why is saying no hard for adults? According to an article in Psychology Today Magazine there are many reasons adults struggle with using the word no. Often people want to belong to a group so they may say yes to receive approval from others. Another reason a person may resist using the word no is fear of upsetting another person. Lastly, a person may want to be helpful and feel valued, so they reframe from saying no. How can adults just say no? Psychology Today Magazine says the word no should feel empowering. By practicing and remaining diplomatic most people will improve their ability to say no to others. Envisioning how easy it is for a child to say no may also help you realize you can do it as well.


ABILITY TO NEGOTIATE. If you tell your child their

bedtime is 8 pm, often they will ask how about 8:30 pm? Or if you suggest they eat five more bites of their dinner they respond with, “can I only eat three bites?” Children have little fear or resistance to negotiating with adults or other kids. Why is negotiating hard for adults? An article on Salary.com states, “our research found nearly one-fifth of workers never negotiate after they’re offered a job.” After interviewing 2,000 people about why they don’t like to negotiate Salary.com found the biggest reason was fear of losing their job. Other answers were people felt they would seem greedy or they wouldn’t get a raise, anyway. In a Money Watch article by Jeff Haden he states, “I hate negotiating,


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mostly because a negotiation often feels confrontational.” Heidi Grant Halvorson Ph.D. shares this viewpoint by stating, “A negotiation is an experience that is rife with conflicting motivations.” How can adults negotiate better? Negotiating is an important skill since it enables you to earn a higher salary or pay less for a car or house. This skill can help you in both your personal and business relationships. Similar to saying no, you will feel empowered when you are able to negotiate effectively. In the Psychology Today article “How to Negotiate Like a Lawyer” Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. offers five strategies you can use to improve your negotiating skills which are to prepare, plan, assert and implement the solution. She stresses the importance of listening to the other person and doing your research before the negotiation.


PLAY CREATIVELY. If a child sees a basket of dolls or

Legos, they can play creatively for hours. Sometimes a cardboard box is enough inspiration for a child to pretend to be in a car, train or plane. As people age, they no longer use pretend play. Why is creative play challenging for adults? In an article on Psych Central Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. discusses why adults struggle with creative play. She states, “Play for adults is perceived as unproductive, petty or even a guilty pleasure.” This leaves adults feeling as if the creative play is unnecessary, yet she found play helps people to feel happy. How can adults play creatively? Tartakovsky suggests you can add play into your life by changing how you think about it and give yourself permission to play. She recommends using your childhood memories of play to reconnect with the idea. You can also play with your child or other children you know.


If you have witnessed a child learning to walk or learning to ride a bike, you will see that despite falling down, they continue to get up until they mastered the skill. Children don’t allow failure to hinder them from trying again until they succeed.

Why is it difficult for adults to succeed? Most success is the result of many failed attempts such as mastering a new skill. In a Psychology Today article Guy Winch Ph.D. discusses how when people fail they can believe they are helpless and unable to achieve your goal. How can adults succeed? Winch suggests the best way to overcome failure is to focus on the aspects you can control. After you are able to figure out what isn’t in your control, try to improve it by taking a class or preparing and practicing for the next time you attempt the skill.


Children laugh at almost anything. If an adult speaks in high pitched voice, stumbles owver a shoe, or mispronounces a word a child will erupt into a fit of laughter. It is easy to make a child laugh. If you ask any comedian, they will probably tell you it’s not as easy to elicit laughter from an adult. Why is difficult for adults to laugh? People may hold back with

laughing due to a fear of offending others. Robert Provine, Ph.D. author of the book Laughter states that adults laugh less than children due to the fact they play less. How can adults laugh more? Provine found people are more likely to laugh when they are with other people as opposed to being alone. You can also read humorous books, watch funny TV, or spend time with your child since laughter can be contagious. It can be frustrating to hear your child say no to you or negotiate a later bedtime, but next time it happens notice how easy it is for them to do these behaviors. It can inspire you to do the same with your relationships. Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, Parents Magazine, AARP, Healthline, Your Teen Magazine, and many other publications. You can find her at Twitter @CherylMaguire05 O R E G O N F A M I LY. C O M • J U L Y 2 0 2 0






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eet Allie, a beautiful 5 year old pitbull lab mix looking for a family to romp around with. She’s a happy, active loving dog looking for her perfect family! Allie is very friendly and enjoys being around people. She loves getting attention and receiving all the love from her people! She is medium to high energy, so she is looking for an active family to take her on lots of adventures and keep her active. Our staff love watching her sunbathe and see how happy she gets when she has a human friend to play with in the yards. She came into the shelter with severe allergies but after treatment she is doing so much better. Her new family will need to be committed to continue treating her allergies. Allie has a good history with kids but can get jumpy when she gets excited. She may do okay with a cat after a slow introduction. She weights between 45-55 lbs. Allie is such a lover with the cutest personality. She would make the perfect loyal pup to her a family. If you are interested in adopting a dog, or would like to learn more about adding a dog to your family, please visit Greenhill Humane Society. Greenhill Humane Society is open for adoptions by appointment seven days a week, 11 am – 6 pm at 88530 Green Hill Rd in Eugene. For more information call (541) 689.1503 or visit www.green-hill.org


he Cat Rescue & Adoption Network presents Puzzle, a loving 5-year-old male tabby looking for a special forever home. This sweet boy loves to hang out on the couch with his humans, enjoying pets and tummy scratches. He has tested positive for feline leukemia and FIV (feline immunodeficiency virus), which can’t be passed to dogs or people. Feline leukemia kitties typically lead a healthy life until they reach the end of their disease. He is currently in excellent health, and sure to bring joy and companionship into the lives of his lucky new family for years to come. He must be indoor-only, and he needs to be your one and only kitty. He is neutered, up to date on vaccinations, microchipped, has been de-fleaed and dewormed, and has had a complete dental. His adoption fee is $70. To meet Puzzle, please call 541-225-4955 option 1 or send an email to adoptinfo@CatRescues.org

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