A Bride's Guide Tips and advice for planning the big day
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JANUARY 28, 2016 — Issue 98
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or many brides and grooms, one of the despite the chilly weather that surrounds a winmost important aspects of any wedding ter wedding, prices for vendors are exceptiondoesn't involve flowers or dresses. It ally lower due to the off-peak season. doesn't entail how your invitations look, the DJ In the end, though, it all comes down to you pick or the venue — although that may have preference. My fiance and I decided to host our some significance. own wedding during May, mainly due to the Above all these details, a key decision is pickbearable springtime weather and option to have ing the wedding date. it outdoors — just make sure to have an indoor CLAIRE MUNN While most couples tend to go straight for the backup plan. SoIn Designer spring and fall months, winter and summer have Each season also has its different trends in also gained in popularity. flower arrangements, dresses and overall decor. With every season, there are pros and cons to getting While choosing a date is sometimes the first step down married, as you'll read today in today's ultimate SoIn the wedding planning road, remember is this. No matter Bridal Guide edition and cover story by Tara Schmelz. what happens — rain or shine, blizzard or drought — the While spring months can bring ideal temperatures, the most important thing is getting to spend the rest of your threat of rain is always a possibility. But April showers life with the person you love the most. aren't just limited to spring, as experienced by our fall bride. If worry continues over a monsoon ruining your — Claire Munn is the lead designer of SoIn. She can be perfect day, then summer time may be a better choice, reached by phone at 812-206-2131 or email at claire.munn@ newsandtribune.com. Follow her on Twitter: clamunn. although droughts will become more of a chance. And
tially expensive part of many couples’ weddings. The bride needs her bouquet, as do her bridesmaids. In addition, many couples decorate their ceremony space with flowers, and of course reception table centerpieces typically include flowers as well. When working with your florist, request in-season flowers, which will cost considerably less than exotic flowers that are out of season. In addition, let your florist know your budget and ask that he or she recommend flowers that won’t break the bank.
Ways to trim wedding costs Couples planning their weddings realize pretty quickly just how expensive weddings can be. Depending on where couples tie the knot, the costs can stretch into the tens of thousands of dollars, leaving many young men and women to scramble to find ways to trim costs without trimming quality. Many couples look for ways to cut wedding costs, and couples facing that very dilemma should know that there are several ways to save money but still host the wedding of their dreams.
GUEST LIST Guest lists can consume a significant portion of couples’ wedding budgets. When compiling the guest list, couples should keep in mind that guests will need save-thedate cards, invitations, catered meals (including cocktail hour, dinner and dessert), drinks, and gifts (including hotel gift bags and wedding favors). So the cost per guest will be more than just the per person cost of the meal couples negotiate with their caterer. Couples who can pare their guests lists down to just family and close friends
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RECEPTION A couple’s wedding reception also will chew up a lot of their wedding budgets. But there are ways to reduce the costs of receptions, too. Couples planning on having a morning wedding can shift their receptions from the evening to the afternoon, when the cost per meal will be considerably less. Afternoon receptions also can be alcoholfree, saving couples even more money. If a nighttime reception is a must-have, choose a limited cash bar instead of an open bar. Limited cash bars often provide guests with free beer and house wine while guests who prefer liquor or mixed drinks must pay for their own libations. If you are planning an outdoor wedding reception, you may even be able to provide your own alcohol, which can save considerable amounts of money. Couples also can trim reception costs by choosing the least expensive meal package. Packages often differ greatly in price but are not always so different with regard to
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ARRANGEMENTS Floral arrangements are a big and poten-
While it’s become customary to prepare gift bags for guests staying in hotels, couples should not go overboard with such gifts. Gift bags need not include more than a snack, a bottle of water and a homemade thank-you card. Couples also should not break the bank with regard to reception gifts, which have also become a standard offering. Keep such gifts simple and inexpensive, even opting for homemade gifts if you and your future spouse are skilled with crafts. Wedding costs can be eye-opening for couples preparing to walk down the aisle. Fortunately, there are many ways to cut costs without cutting quality. — Metro Creative Connection
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Ta me those wedding day nerves
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Wedding rings: Symbolic gestures of commitment Couples adhere to many traditions on their wedding days, including the exchange of wedding rings. Wedding rings symbolize the union of two people and their pledge to remain faithful to each other. No one is exactly sure just when the tradition of exchanging wedding rings originated, but some say it can be traced back to ancient Egypt, when the oldest recorded exchange of wedding rings was made. Reeds growing along the Nile were twisted and braided into rings and given during betrothal ceremonies. The round ring symbolized eternity, and the hole within the center meant a gateway to things unknown. As new lands were explored and territories expanded, traditions from one culture were adopted and modified by other cultures. The same is true with wedding rings. According to the Diamond Source, wedding rings were adopted by Romans and incorporated into Western wedding ceremonies. Romans’ rings were highly decorated, and some historians believe wedding rings were given to represent ownership over brides instead of symbolizing love. Rings have been simplified since those days and ultimately made of many materials. Throughout history, wedding rings were worn on various fingers and even both hands, whereas many married people in
Western cultures now wear their wedding rings on the left hand and on the fourth finger. Romans once believed that this finger contained a vein, called the “Vena Amoris,” that ran directly to the heart. Though that is not true, the tradition has prevailed. Another theory on ring placement is that wedding rings are worn on the ring finger because that finger isn’t used as much as the rest of the hand, ensuring delicate ring materials won’t be damaged. Ross Simmons Jewelry states that gold is still the most popular metal choice for wedding rings, but couples are opting for some other metals that are more durable. Platinum is popular not only because it is long-wearing, but it also tends to be the most expensive. It’s also a dense metal and can feel heavy in hand. Tungsten carbide is another durable metal that has grown in popularity in recent years. These rings cannot be cut and resoldered, which means it’s important to size the rings correctly the first time. Titanium is both lightweight and durable, and it’s popular because it is hypo-allergenic. Wedding rings continue to serve as symbols of a couple’s union. Much like the marriage itself, they are designed to last the test of time. — Metro Creative Connection
When couples tie the knot, many changes are in store, many compromises will be made and many lasting memories will be created. But in the weeks and months before their big days, couples can easily get caught up in the whirlwind of wedding planning, never taking inventory of their feelings until their wedding days have arrived. Come their wedding days, couples should not be surprised if some nerves set in. A survey from the anxiety self-help resource The Fear Source indicated 71 percent of brides-to-be suffered from some type of nerves during the lead-up to their weddings. Ninety-two percent of brides experienced nerves on the day of the wedding or the evening before, while 66 percent reported that it affected their daily lives prior to their weddings or hampered their performance and enjoyment during the day itself. According to Psych Central, a modern online voice for mental health information, emotional support and advocacy, pre-wedding jitters are common and can be the subconscious telling a person that something needs to be remedied. Wedding nerves do not mean a wedding is doomed; it just means certain issues may need to be worked through. The following are some ways to tame wedding day nerves.
KEEP AN OPEN DIALOGUE Speak with your future spouse about the things that may be causing your anxiety. Maybe you have doubts on financial choices or where you will be living after the wedding. Communicating openly and honestly is one of the foundations of a strong relationship.
SLOW DOWN AND BREATHE Wedding planning involves making many decisions, and sometimes couples move at breakneck speeds. Make slowing down a priority. Try to enjoy a quiet dinner with just the two of you. When enjoying peaceful moments, take deep breaths, which can be calming and revitalizing. If need be, consider signing up for a yoga or tai chi class to force you to slow down.
ADDRESS PERFORMANCE ANXIETY It’s easy to build up the big day in your mind and hope that everything goes according to plan. But it’s impossible to plan for each and every outcome on your wedding day. Focus on everything that can go right, rather than worrying about what might go wrong. Also, realize that your guests are your friends and family members who will be forgiving of any hiccups along the way. You’re bound to recover gracefully from any mishaps.
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WORK ON CONFIDENCE Wedding fears may stem from inadequate selfconfidence. Give yourself a pep talk and surround yourself with positive people. Keep the worry-warts at arms’ length for the time being.
RECRUIT MORE HELP Weddings are huge undertakings, so it’s no surprise that couples sometimes feel overwhelmed. Ask reliable relatives or friends to double-check all of the last-minute details. This way you don’t feel it is all on your shoulders.
Wedding days nerves are to be expected and often have little to do with the decision to get married. Planning such a big event can be nervewracking, but there are ways to combat any anxiety that builds up as the big day draws near. — Metro Creative Connection
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Grooms: Looking your best Weddings are a chance for couples tying the knot to be the center of attention. All eyes will be glued to the bride and groom on this special day, which makes it even more important for couples to look their collective best. Brides might garner most of the attention on a couple’s wedding day, but dashing grooms also will get their share of attention. As a result, grooms must be just as diligent as their blushing brides with regard to grooming and appearance on their wedding days. To look picture-perfect, grooms may want to include these grooming tips in their wedding day preparation.
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HAIR Schedule a haircut with a professional stylist roughly a week before the wedding to get your hair shaped and trimmed. Although trendy hairstyles may show off creativity, keep in mind that photos last forever, and it’s often better to stick with a classic cut. A barber or stylist may suggest styles that best suit your face shape and hair texture. Above all, the haircut should be neat. Resist the urge to wash your hair every day before the wedding. Allow some natural oils to build up and make your hair shine in a healthy way.
SHAVING Shaving is another thing grooms must consider. If you have a beard, make sure it is clean, combed and trimmed. Men who shave the day of their weddings may find their skin is sensitive and irritated, which can lead to redness. Unless your facial hair grows especially fast, shave the evening before. This is a good time to splurge on a professional shave with a straight razor at a barber shop. A hot shave from a professional will produce a close shave with the least amount of irritation when done correctly.
HANDS Grooms also may want to book a manicure. Keep in mind that salons will do men’s nonpolish manicures and pedicures, and they can be well worth the investment. Photos of entwined hands or close-ups of the ring exchange will have guests zeroing in on your fingers. Have hands look their best with clean, shaped fingernails and trimmed cuticles.
SKIN Get plenty of sleep the night prior to the wedding. Being well rested will help reduce puffy eyes, dark circles and sallow skin. It will also put you in a more positive mood, which can help you enjoy the day even more.
The day of the wedding, shower using water and a mild soap. Avoid any skin irritation by patting your face and body dry, rather than rubbing it with the towel. Moisturize your skin to avoid dry patches. Stores sell many moisturizers geared toward men’s needs, often in unscented or more masculine fragrances. Reducing shine is key for wedding day photos. Rely on face and hair products that will not add unnecessary sheen to your skin or hair to avoid making you look greasy. Matte hair waxes and sprays will tame tresses. Also, ask your fiance^a to pick you up a package of blotting tissues if you are prone to oily skin. These absorbent, typically rice-paper sheets will remove oil from your face and keep sheen to a minimum.
SMILE
Make sure your teeth have been thoroughly brushed and that you have used a minty mouthwash so you’re primed for that first kiss. Many grooms also opt for whitening treatments prior to the wedding so they have a dazzling smile. On their wedding days, grooms will likely be photographed more than any other time in their lives. That means putting extra effort into personal grooming to look their best. — Metro Creative Connections
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Customize your ceremony to give it a unique touch Steeped in tradition, weddings have featured many of the same components for centuries. Those about to tie the knot may feel somewhat limited in their ability to shape their weddings into unique celebrations of their relationships and love for one another. Although it may not seem like there are many opportunities to put your own stamp on the wedding, there are plenty of ways to do just that. When looking to personalize your wedding ceremony, determine if there might be anything blocking you from doing so. For example, if yours will be a religious ceremony, there may be certain rites that need to be followed. Secular ceremonies may offer more opportunities to customize.
VOWS Vows are one of the easiest ways to put a personal touch on your wedding. You can select the words you want to exchange during the ceremony as well as any readings during the service. Work with your officiant to narrow down particular phrasing or sentiments that fit with your vision of the wedding and relationship.
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Wedding party members fulfill certain roles during the ceremony, but they are not limited to those tasks alone. Consider asking wedding party members or other friends or family members to take on specialized roles in the wedding. They may be able to do certain readings, escort guests to their seats, light candles or sing.
MUSICAL INTERLUDES Choose music that connects with your personalities as a couple rather than selecting standard songs merely because they are the easier route. Work with the organist or other musicians and request that they perform or play musical pieces that you enjoy.
CANDLE LIGHTING Many couples like to incorporate candlelighting components to their ceremonies. Lighting unity candles blends two families together into one in a symbolic way. Other couples choose different traditions, such as mixing two different-colored sands in a new vessel. — Metro Creative Connection
Bridal veils come in many different lengths and can complement personalities and gown styles. | PHOTO: METRO CREATIVE CONNECTION
Incorporate some custom elements into the wedding ceremony to give it a unique flair. | PHOTO: METRO CREATIVE CONNECTION
Wedding veils complete bridal look
The perfect dress is on the wish list of many a bride-to-be, but no bridal ensemble is truly complete until the bride chooses her veil. Veils have been worn by brides at their weddings for centuries. Veils can be traced back to the Middle East, where veils helped protect against the weather while also preserving the modesty of the bride. In Ancient Greece and Ancient Rome, veils were used as protection against evil spirits. According to popular wedding website The Knot.com, until Vatican II, all Catholic women were required to have their heads covered in church, including during their wedding ceremonies.
Veils come in various lengths and can complement the style of a wedding gown. Here are the types of veils from shortest to longest. · Blusher: Blushers cover the face, though some extend only to mid-cheek on the bride. · Flyaway: Flyaways cover just the back of the head. Shorter veils may work better on petite women. · Shoulder: Shoulder veils are about 20 inches in length and will hit at the bride’s shoulders or just below. · Waist: Waist-length veils cascade down to the middle of the bride’s waist. · Fingertip: These veils extend
down 38 to 42 inches, brushing against the bride’s fingertips. · Waltz/Knee: For a dramatic look, many brides may opt for waltz-length veils, which fall to the back of the knees. · Chapel/Floor: Veils that extend to the floor may be referred to as “chapel” or “floor-length” veils. Such veils cascade slightly behind the bride. Veils can complete brides’ wedding day looks. Shorter veils may be comfortable to wear throughout the day and evening, but brides may want to consider detachable veils if they are selecting lengthier options. — Metro Creative Connections
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omewhere between saying “Yes,” and “I do,” brides and grooms have to decide what day will be their day, out of 365 choices. Traditionally, “wedding season” refers to late spring/early summer, the busiest time of the year for wedding venues and vendors. However, many brides are saying “no” to tradition and “yes” to their dream, which may or may not include the sun and warmth.
FALL COLORS For 28-year-old Charissa Rembold, her
dream wedding was one that involved a lot of rich, rustic colors. “I always wanted a fall wedding, because of all the leaves and the colors and the weather is perfect at that time,” Rembold said. “[Robert and I] got married outside and it wasn’t too hot or too cold.” Rembold, who is from Pekin, got married to Robert Rembold on Oct. 24, 2015, at the Huber Lakehouse, in Borden. Though she said the weather was perfect, it wasn’t perfectly dry. “It rained on my wedding day — all day long,” she said, with a laugh. “We just moved it in under the shelter house. It made for some great pictures. We did a lot of in
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a date the rain pictures. I’m never going to wear [my wedding dress] again anyway. It turned brown.” Rembold had been with her fiance for six years, engaged for five of those, but planned the wedding in a mere three months. “We always wanted to [get married], but one day we were like, ‘we’re going to do it.’ We kept putting it off because of money and we have a kid, but we decided to up and do it one day,” she explained. She said if she could do it all over again, she would. “I would still do fall, just hope for better weather. And, probably, I would have had a backup plan for the weather,” she said.
Southern Indiana brides discuss best season to get married WINTER WONDERLAND Whitney Shaver, 25, Jeffersonville, dreamed of a winter wonderland for her big day. Snow was on top of her list. “I thought it would have been pretty,” she explained. The bride didn’t get her wish during her winter wedding, which took place Dec. 5, 2015, after a year-long engagement to Tyler Shaver. “We were hoping for a winter-ish wedding, but actually the weather was really nice. It was 50 degrees during the daytime,” Shaver said.
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DATE: Wedding planner says fall is becoming most popular season CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8 Shaver got married at a church in Louisville and celebrated with a reception afterward at the Mellwood Arts Center. A perk to her date was the price. She said she saved a lot of money on her reception location, due to it being off-peak season. However, vendors were busy with holiday parties, so she did have to pay premium prices. She said having a wedding between holidays was tricky. She said some guests were unable to come into town an additional time for the event, since they would be in town for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas. However, Shaver wouldn’t change a thing. “I loved my winter wedding,” she said. “It was perfect.”
Whitney and Tyler Shaver’s winter wedding. | PHOTO BY MONARCH PHOTOGRAPHY, LOUISVILLE
Ashlee and Eric Haub’s summer wedding. | PHOTO BY LESLIE ELDER WITH LETOGRAPHY
SPRING FLOWERS After five years of engagement, 27-year-old April Cavins and her then fiance, Ryan Cavins, decided to finally tie the knot. “I think it was just an open date, so we chose it,” she said of her spring wedding. Cavins got married on May 30, 2015, at Stone Rest Inn, in Greenville. “I was trying to graduate from college [prior to the wedding]. After that, I said, ‘let me get a job, so we can pay for it.’ Then I got pregnant. A year and a half later we got married. Life just happened,” she explained for the delay. Cavins planned an outdoor wedding and it was raining the morning of her big day. She was told it would have to be moved indoors. “Twenty minutes before the wedding my mom said we were setting up outside, so we were outside. It was beautiful,” Cavins said. “I was not stressed at all. I was getting my hair done and everyone was doing everything else, so I wasn’t worried at all.” Even with the weather being unpredictable, Cavins said she would pick spring again. “I like spring the most, I guess, because it’s coming out of winter and it’s a happy time,” she said. “It’s a beautiful time of the year. Flowers are blooming and it makes you happy.”
Charissa and Robert Rembold’s fall wedding. | PHOTO BY REBECCA LAUREL PHOTOGRAPHY
GREEN SUMMER Ashlee Haub, Greenville, said “I do” on Aug. 29, 2015, to Eric Haub at the edge of Rough River, in Kentucky. “We met when we were 16. We wanted a kind of fall wedding, but we wanted it to be warm enough outside, so that’s why we picked August. We’ve been together forever, so it was about time,” 27-year-old Haub said, adding that their engagement was one-and-a-half years. Haub said the scene was perfect, since she and Eric had lots of memories of going to the river. However, the weather was quite warm.
“We got married at 5:30 p.m., so it was super hot and the sun was going down a little bit. You’re already nervous and the nervous sweats since you’re outside,” Haub said. Though it was hot, guests spent the weekend at the lake and got to go out on a boat. She said she recommends brides go with summer for their big day, because of the weather and ability to choose and indoor or outdoor ceremony and reception.
THE VERDICT Melissa Anderson, co-owner of L and M Detailed Events, helps brides
Ryan and April Cavins’ spring wedding. | PHOTO BY JOE AND DANIEL EHLERS plan and coordinate their big days. est when it comes to dealing with Her business helps with about 20 Mother Nature. weddings per year, she said. “You can’t get the outside photos She said she is noticing a trend you’re wanting and your daylight is shorter,” she said of winter weddings. of going from the popular May and However, she said picking winter June months to more of the fall can save a ton of money, with venmonths. dors and venues willing to bargain to “I don’t know if it’s the beautifill the date. ful, rich colors or that it’s not as She said every wedding she has hot. I think those come into play,” done has been special and has seen Anderson said. “A lot of people are great things done with each season. wanting the barn or outside wedding, Though she said if she had to pick a and I think you’re promised prettier season, she’d go with the trend and weather in September.” pick fall. As for weather, she said May is “The weather,” she said, “is a little always tricky with rain. However, more predictable.” she said winter months are the hard-
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Planning for your florals One of the big decisions couples must make when planning their weddings concerns their floral arrangements. The right floral arrangements won’t break the bank but will add substantial aesthetic appeal to ceremonies and receptions. It can be difficult for couples to achieve that balance of cost and look on their own, so the following are a few helpful hints for couples when choosing their wedding day floral arrangements. · Work with a florist you trust and like. All florists are not the same, so finding one you can trust and will enjoy working with can make all the difference. Many couples have little or no experience with floral arrangements prior to planning their weddings, so it can calm couples’ nerves to work with someone they trust in such situations. Florists with significant wedding experience will no doubt make a host of recommendations based on couples’ budgets and preferences, so couples might be more inclined to listen to that advice if they are working with someone they trust. · Choose in-season or native flowers. Couples working with tight budgets may want
to choose in-season flowers or those native to the area where they will be tying the knot. In-season and native flowers won’t need to be ordered or shipped in from afar, which can be costly. · Repurpose floral arrangements. Another way to save on floral arrangements is to repurpose flowers throughout the day. Once bridesmaids no longer need their bouquets, use them to decorate gift tables or cocktail areas. Floral arrangements on display during the ceremony can be removed once you have both said “I do” and moved into the reception area where they can be enjoyed through the night. Go over any repurposing you plan to do with your reception hall manager prior to your wedding day. · Go big. Some flowers simply bloom larger than others, and choosing such flowers may help you save money since you won’t need to buy as many flowers as you would if you were to go with smaller blooms. Once you find a florist to work with, discuss your options with regard to doing more with less. — Metro Creative Connection
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Stay on schedule with invitations
Invitations are a vital component of wedding planning. In addition to informing guests about the details of the ceremony and reception, wedding invitations convey the tone and style of the day. While there are no rules governing wedding invitations, there are some ways for couples to ensure they stay on schedule when mailing invitations. · Order invitations early. Couples can start to consider their invitation options once the wedding date and venue have been chosen. The wedding stationery industry has changed a lot over the years. Couples can now order invitations from local retailers, use online printers, or design and print their own invitations from home. Invitations should be worded carefully and proofed several times before printing. Plan for this time so you will have the invitations ready for mailing roughly three months before your wedding day. Always remember to order extra invitations so you have spares in case you make a mistake or make last-minute additions to your guest list. · Get organized before mailing. Start preparing invitations about a month before you plan to ship them, as this gives you ample time to write envelopes so you do not have to write them all on the same day. Keep the guest list handy and doublecheck the spelling of names and the addresses. Traditional etiquette suggests addresses should be handwritten, but computer-produced calligraphy on envelopes is now just as acceptable. Be sure to
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have the complete invitation weighed at the post office so you will know exactly how much postage is required. Purchase stamps for both the invitation and the response cards. · Coordinate mailing time and RSVP deadlines. Mail invitations roughly eight weeks before the wedding. This gives guests time to make room in their schedules and arrange for travel, if necessary. Set the response date for three weeks before the wedding date so guests will have the time to make a decision and mail back the response. · Don’t let responses linger. Check off who is coming and who cannot make it as you receive each response. This way you’ll know just how many responses are still outstanding and you can follow up if necessary. — Metro Creative Connection
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Rehearsal dinner how-to Many couples find their wedding rehearsal dinners to be relaxing respites from the whirlwind of wedding planning. Such dinners enable the happy couple to slow down and enjoy themselves in a relatively casual gathering with their closest friends and family members. Rehearsal dinners typically take place in the night or two before the wedding. The couple, members of their wedding party, the parents of the bride and groom and others involved in the wedding typically attend this dinner. The couple generally takes the time at the dinner to thank everyone for their contributions to the wedding and to offer some small gifts of appreciation. No rules govern rehearsal dinners, so couples have
DID YOU KNOW? Pets play important roles in their owners’ lives and are increasingly included in more activities, such as vacations, dining out and even weddings. The National Association of Professional Pet Sitters says more couples are customizing their wedding celebrations and bridal parties to include pets. Dogs and cats are turning up in wedding photos as well as trips down the aisle. Some pets even serve as ring bearers. Before giving your pet a job for the wedding, consider his personality and temperament. A dog or cat accustomed to a quiet home may behave differently when placed in a room full of excited people. In addition, confirm that pets are allowed inside your ceremony space. Make sure to inform guests that an animal will be present, so those with allergies can take precautions. If it isn’t practical to have animals in the ceremony, give them a primary spot in wedding or engagement photos. — Metro Creative Connections
the freedom to plan the dinners as they see fit. Rehearsal dinners often come immediately after the ceremony rehearsal, when the wedding party and the officiant go over the timing and details of the wedding. Make arrangements with the ceremony site and officiant prior to making dinner reservations. Parents of the groom traditionally host the rehearsal dinner, so they will be integral in planning the event. That means couples should keep an open and gracious mind. Remember, the rehearsal dinner doesn’t have to be a lavish affair, and it can be customized to any budget or preference. Some couples feel that hosting rehearsal dinners in casual settings can make the dinner more com-
PHOTO: METRO CREATIVE CONNECTION fortable for members of the wedding, who can use the dinner as an opportunity to mingle and get to know one another before the wedding. This will help to tame nerves and enable the wedding party to loosen up and enjoy themselves even more. Restaurants that have special
meaning to the couple often make for great places to hold rehearsal dinners. The bride and groom can suggest their ideas, but ultimately it is the person handling the bill who has the final say. Couples who want greater control over the rehearsal dinner festivities can suggest hosting it themselves.
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Despite its name, the rehearsal dinner doesn’t actually have to be a dinner, as couples can opt for meals at a different time of the day, like brunch or lunch. An earlier occasion gives guests plenty of time to get home and rest up for the festivities of the wedding to come. Toasts are expected at the rehearsal dinner, but they tend to be spontaneous, off-the-cuff remarks. The bride and groom should expect to say a few words of thanks to all in attendance, but remarks need not be too formal. Rehearsal dinners provide an opportunity for couples and their families to spend time together before the larger festivities of the wedding pull them in multiple directions. Plus, they set a fun tone for the wedding weekend to come. — Metro Creative Connection
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JAZZ GREAT HONORS MERTON
• WHAT: Dick Sisto jazz performance • WHEN: 2:30 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 31 • WHERE: St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, corner of 11th and
Market Streets, New Albany • INFO: Contact the parish office at 812-944-0413. Internationally recognized vibraphonist Dick Sisto will perform music composed for the documentary “Soul Searching: The Journey of Thomas Merton,” and share remembrances of his friendship with Merton, a Trappist monk and writer, in a performance beginning at 2:30 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 31, at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, at the corner of 11th and Market streets, New Albany. Noted jazz guitarist Fr. John Moulder of St. Gregory’s Catholic Church in Chicago will also be featured in this 90-minute tribute to Merton. Doors will open at 2 p.m. and admission is $10 at the door, cash or check only please.
WHO CALLED THE DOGS OUT?
• WHAT: Casting call for local dogs for Derby Dinner’s ‘Legally Blonde: The Musical’
• WHEN: 10 a.m. to noon, Saturday, Jan. 30 • WHERE: Derby Dinner Playhouse, 525 Marriott Drive, Clarksville
• INFO: contact Buckholz via email at abc@derbydinner.com
Lee Buckholz, associate producer of Derby Dinner Playhouse, along with a canine behavior trainer from the Kentucky Humane Society, will be assessing local dogs for the roles of “Bruiser,” a chihuahua, and “Rufus,” a bulldog, in Derby Dinner’s upcoming spring production of “Legally Blonde: The Musical.”
LIVE MUSIC AT WICK’S
• WHAT: Live on State • WHERE: Wick’s, 225 State St., New Albany
Friday, Jan. 29: Me & You; Saturday, Jan. 30: Lawn Dart Accident
RIVER CITY WINERY EVENTS
• WHERE: River City Winery, 321 Pearl St., New Albany Saturday, Jan. 30: Music by Joey Constantine, 7 to 10 p.m. Trivia is held every Sunday night.
AUDITIONS HELD
• WHAT: ‘You Can’t Get There From Here’ auditions • WHEN: 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 30 • WHERE: Charlestown Public Library, 51 Clark Road,
Charlestown Rose Island Playhouse Community Theatre will hold auditions for Pat Cook’s hilarious comedy “You Can’t Get There From Here” on Saturday, Jan. 30, from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. at the Charlestown Public Library at 51 Clark Road in Charlestown. If you are unable to attend auditions on Saturday, the director will be available Monday, Feb. 1, from 7 to 9 p.m.
at the Charlestown Arts & Enrichment Center, 999 Water St., Charlestown. The cast consists of five women and two men ages 20s-60s. Auditions are cold readings from the script. Resumes and headshots welcome but not required. Appointment is not necessary. Directed by Rhoda Meier. For more information call 812-256-5105. You will need to leave a message and phone number.
PHOTOS AT LIBRARY
• WHAT: ‘Just Photographin’ Around” by Bob Dorzback exhibit • WHEN: Through Jan. 31 • WHERE: Jeffersonville Township Public Library, 211 E.
Court Ave. The Jeffersonville Township Public Library, 211 E. Court Ave., will host a photography exhibit by Bob Dorzback. The exhibit “Just Photographin’ Around” will be on display through Jan. 31. An opening reception is scheduled for 6 to 8 p.m. Friday, Dec. 4, in the second floor gallery. Dorzback has been an avid amateur and semi-professional photographer for over 15 years and currently resides in Louisville, according to a library news release.
HOW THE GARDEN GROWS
• WHAT: Gardening series • WHEN: February-September • WHERE: Clark County 4-H Fairgrounds, 9608 Ind. 62,
Charlestown The Clark County annual vegetable gardening class series dubbed “The after dinner garden conversation” is here. Starting in February to September, it will have a series of eight classes, one class per month. Classes will take place at the 4-H Fairgrounds, 9608 Ind. 62, Charlestown, Thursdays from 7 to 9 p.m. There will be a fee of $10 for all eight classes. The class schedule is as follows: Feb. 2: Plant science for gardeners; March 24: What to grow in your garden and when; April 14, Space management in the home vegetable garden; May 12: The why and how of growing tomatoes; June 16: Integrated pest management in the garden; July 21: Extending the gardening season; Aug. 18: Organic gardening practices in the home garden; Sept. 22: Container and raised bed gardening. Call the Clark County Extension office 812-2564591 to register or send an email to kafari@Purdue.com and request to be registered.
GRAB A GOLDEN TICKET
• WHAT: First-ever Golden Ticket raffle • WHEN: Through March 31 • INFO: KDF.org • COST: $25/each
The Kentucky Derby Festival is raffling its first ever Golden Ticket for the upcoming 2016 Festival. Raffle tickets are 25 dollars each and only 500 will be sold. Proceeds from the raffle benefit the Kentucky Derby Festival’s Foundation, the charitable arm of the Derby Festival. The Golden Ticket includes a Derby Festival package valued at $1,680. Raffle tickets are on sale now. They can be purchased at the Derby Festival office at 1001 S. Third St., Louisville, by calling 502584-FEST, or online at KDF.org. The winner will be drawn at the Macy’s Spring Fashion Show, on Thursday, March 31.
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Clever takes on tokens Wedding day tokens of good luck come in many forms, but “the something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue (a sixpence in your shoe)” adage remains one of the most popular luck-enhancing wedding traditions.
SOMETHING OLD Something old is one of the easier mementos to obtain. There is a good chance that someone in the family is willing to pass an item down to the bride that she can include in her wedding wardrobe. It also can be something the bride may have in her own memory box. Beads taken from a grandmother’s dress or a swatch of fabric from a beloved toy doll are creative ideas that can be sewn into inconspicuous places on gowns.
SOMETHING NEW Brides already purchase many new items for their wedding day looks, so “something new” should not be too hard to find. Couples may want to work together to find something new they can both carry so they have a matching set upon tying the knot. Interlocking charm bracelets or keychains may work.
What about the groom carrying a small padlock and the bride the key? Quirky couples can each wear one sock from a pair. Get clever and have fun.
SOMETHING BORROWED
Much like something old, something borrowed is yet another way to pay homage to a friend or family member. It’s also one way to add a sentimental twist to everyday items. Borrow a grandfather’s handkerchief to wrap around the stems of the wedding bouquet. Exchange vows with the original rings used by a distant relative at their own wedding.
SOMETHING BLUE
There are many ways to incorporate “something blue” into your wedding ceremony. Brides can paint their toenails blue or wear blue shoes under their gowns. Sew a patch from a pair of denim jeans into the bodice of the dress. Paint the bottom of your shoes bright blue so they stand out when kneeling at the altar. Blue sapphire or topaz jewelry can add an exotic look to the wedding wardrobe. — Metro Creative Connection