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Josephine July 2011

St. Joseph’s women’s magazine

White hot Beat the heat with the always cool color of summer

Berry berry good

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Confident colors Add some bright colors to your home for sizzling decor

It’s all about the first impression You never get a second chance

Reunion ready Your old classmates will see you at your best

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cover girl Music has been a way of life for Jessyca Farris for as long as she can remember — even if it’s not the main way she makes a living. An employee with the city of St. Joseph by day, the St. Joseph native also is a guest singer with local ‘80s tribute band Blue Oyster Culture Club. She writes and performs her own music, too, mainly punk rock and acoustic. And this is all on top of another full-time job as a mother of 18and 17-year-old sons and a 3-year-old daughter. Given that she comes from a long line of music lovers, Farris isn’t surprised her children share in her passion for music and performing — so much so in the case of her younger son that she may accompany him on an audition for American Idol. “I think it’s probably in the blood,” she says.

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Clean out your makeup How to sort what you need from what you don’t

You never get a second chance When looking for a new job, the first impression really counts

Reunion roundup Tips for putting the best you forward when meeting up with former classmates

Hot hues Add some sizzle to your home this summer

White’s all right In the heavy heat of summer, white cools your look down

A lot from a little Woman leads group that aims to make a big difference in small ways

Battle of the berries Which fruit is the top super food?

Stop the impulse buying Whether you’re shopping in a store or online, think before you purchase

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By Jess Dehaven Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re right in the heat of summer, and this month Josephine has some stories that hopefully will help cool you down. White is a color thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s known to beat the heat, but if itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s one youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve hestiated to add to your summer wardrobe, resist no more. Kristen Hare talked to the experts about how to wear white well. Get the details on page 20. Many of us like spending time outside in the summer, but if the temperatures have you spending some quality time inside with your air conditioner, we can offer you the best of both worlds. Cathy Woolridgeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s story on page 16 will help you bring a bit of summer inside. Berries are another way to get a taste of summer. Turn to page 24 for Sylvia Andersonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s look at which ones are good and good for you. And finally, planning is under way for this yearâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Josephine Expo, so mark your calendars for Oct. 1. The event will run from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the Civic Arena, and spaces already are filling up for exhibitors. If you have a business, homebased or traditional, weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d love to have you join us. For information, call (816) 271-8563 or email josephineexpo@newspress now.com. For updates on the Expo, watch our website, www.newspress now.com/josephineexpo, or become our fan on Facebook. See you there!

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July 14 9:30 a.m. St. Joseph Garden Club, Joyce Raye Patterson Senior Center, “Gardeners Enjoy Birds Too” by Shelly Cox. Visitors welcome, call 232-9151 for information.

Every Friday Friday Night Wine Tastings, 5 to 8 p.m., Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE, $5 per person.

Every Saturday 7 a.m. Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village

July 7 6 p.m. “The Wellness Pregnancy” program on staying healthy and common pregnancy complaints, Green Family Chiropractic. Call 3878994 or check www. greenchirofamily.com for information.

July 8, 15, 23 5 to 11 p.m., Scrap and Gab, Darla’s Flowers, Gifts and Scrapbooking, $15, 364-2299

July 6 and 20 6:30 p.m. Scrap & Chat, at Belt Branch, 1904 N. Belt Highway, of Rolling Hills Consolidated Library. Club gatherings are open to the public. The library provides long tables and an Ellison die-cut machine for scrapbook enthusiasts to use.

7 p.m. Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course is designed to help couples cooperate with their fertility in family planning. Call 232-2258. 7 p.m. Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, Chillicothe Housing Authority building. Call (660) 7070097. 6

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6:30 p.m. St. Jo Women On The Go, Moila, dinner, $15. Call 279-4583 for reservations. July 21 5:30 p.m. Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person. Call 232-9750.

6 p.m. “Why do kids need chiropractic care,” Green Family Chiropractic. Call 387-8994 or check www.greenchirofamily. com for information. June 28 6:30 p.m. St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 390-8081.

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Help for sunburns HealTH. What you thought would be a golden tan has become a blistering sunburn. Now what? According to Mayoclinic.com there are some home treatments you can use to get relief. Put cool cloths on sunburned areas or take cool showers or baths. Apply soothing lotions that contain aloe vera. Topical steroids (such as 1 percent hydrocortisone cream) also may help with sunburn pain and swelling (not for children under 2). If blisters form, don’t break them. You’ll only slow the healing process and increase the risk of infection. If needed, take anti-inflammatory medication such as aspirin or ibuprofen according to the label instructions until redness and soreness subside. Unfortunately, there is little you can do to stop skin from peeling. And it may take 12 to 24 hours after sun exposure to know how bad you are burned. Next time, put on sunscreen. newspressnow.com/josephine

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What is he thinking? Our Kevin Krauskopf offers a little insight into the man brain. It’s really no secret that most men feel a societal pressure to keep up a “manly” or “macho” front most of the time. So, ladies, if we let down our guard and tell you that our favorite book is “Harry Potter” or that we really kind of liked the sappy rom-com we watched with you the other night, that’s privileged information. Please treat it as such.

Relate. Friendship triangles make good reality television, but speaking from experience, they’re not a hundredth as fun in real life. Odds are in a small group two people will be closer, often because of shared history or experience. Acknowledge the divide and make time for each friend separate of the other, says Cosmopolitan writer Holly Eagleson. If one friend wants to make a fuss about the one-on-one time, distance yourself for a while. The other sides of the triangle should respect your friendship with the other enough to leave it be.

A self-tanning tip Beauty. A fake tan may be safer than the real deal, but this doesn’t mean you don’t want your tan to look real all the same. To accomplish this, Real Simple magazine recommends cutting your self-tanner with moisturizer. Mix equal parts of each in your palm and blend them together before applying. The diluted tanner will give you a more natural color.

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Clean out your makeup How to sort what you need from what you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t By Jennifer Gordon Josephine magazine

After you stop wearing baby blue eye shadow and lollipop-flavored lip balm, you think youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve learned something about the right beauty routine. Then you walk through a beauty supply store or past the makeup counters in the department store. The rows and rows of creams, eye shadows, blushes and foundations make you wonder: Do I really need a moisturizing spray? What are all those brushes for? Before you start picking up eye shadows that promise to make your eyes pop, think about what kind of complexion you have. If you look good in purple, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re a cool complexion and will want to stay away from gold-based foundations, which could make you look like a tanning-bed victim. If you look good in red, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re a warm complexion, says Vicki McCourg, a cosmetology instructor at Vatterott College in St. Joseph. Neutral complexions will look good in reds or purples. â&#x20AC;&#x153;That goes for color with everything â&#x20AC;&#x201D; foundation, powder, lips, eye-make up color,â&#x20AC;? says McCourg. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Stick to your shade ... that way you can get rid of a lot of stuff.â&#x20AC;? Warm complexions will look good in bronzes, yellows and dark grays. Theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll want to use a darker blush with a brown tint. Cool complexions can try out shades of purple with eye shadows and will look good in rosy lipsticks and blushes. Neutrals will want more of a bronzy feel to their makeup. Some hair products are redundant. You donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t need both mousse and gel, says Shirley Morrison, owner of Beauty First in St. Joseph. Finer hair types will want to stay away from any product that might weigh hair down. Instead of an additional spray or volumizing cream, fine hair types might want to try a volumizing shampoo and a light conditioner. Curly hair usually requires the most product, as it usually needs frizz control and curl enhancer. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a lot of cocktailing people do anymore to get what they need for their hair,â&#x20AC;? Morrison says. â&#x20AC;&#x153;The important thing is to find the right product to work for your hair.â&#x20AC;? Everyone needs a clarifying shampoo, a regular shampoo, conditioner, detangler

and hair spray, but after that it depends on what look youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re going for. Skin products also vary from person to person. Those with sensitive skin might opt for a gentle, daily exfoliater over a more intense bi-weekly product. As far as all of the anti-wrinkle creams go, McCourg advises you skip straight to a dermatologistâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s office. Doctors can prescribe the dose of retinol you need for the amount of damage done to your skin. Sun and tanning bed exposure, more than age, will factor into your wrinkle- and age-fighting needs. Above all with beauty products, trust your judgment. Youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll know when you have the wrong product or one that does nothing for you. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Your hair will tell you. Your face will tell you. Your skin will tell you,â&#x20AC;? Morrison says.

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You never get a second chance When looking for a new job, the first impression really counts By KIM NORVELL Josephine magazine

It’s true when they say you only have one chance to make a good first impression. While the “good” part can change over time, what people first think when they meet you typically sticks. Those snap judgments are made every day by every person, but perhaps the most important impressions are those made by prospective employers. According to Psychology Today, snap judgments are a “holistic phenomenon” wherein the person making the judgment finds individual clues that reach the mind at the same time, forming “an impression larger than their sum.” Those clues can include anything from a piece of jewelry to a person’s posture. Many career toolkits say it’s impossible to change an employer’s first impression of a job candidate, mostly because there isn’t enough time. Either the Please see Page 13

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CONTINUED FROM Page 12 employer has too many applicants to go through, or they’re on a time crunch to hire the right person. Don Huffman, division of work force development supervisor at the Missouri Career Center, says it’s imperative to impress any person you come in contact with, whether it be a receptionist at a company, a CEO or even someone who is helping you find a job. “If you come in and do a good impression on one of us, when we’re out there trying to sell a customer to an employer ... we’re going to be honest. So we naturally want to represent our customers in the best possible light,” Mr. Huffman says. His organization is used as a resource for those seeking employment, those looking to advance their careers and those working to better their professional skills. The Missouri Career Center reaches out to employers for advice to pass along to those finding jobs, including what to wear and what they expect to gain when conducting an interview. “That employer is going to make

an impression, an opinion, instantly whether they see that person fitting in to the population. Even at the factory, even if it’s at a trash dump. Wherever the job is, you’ve got to demonstrate the picture that you fit into that group of people,” Mr. Huffman says. With these words of advice, Mr. Huffman says it’s not about changing your personality or lifestyle, but mending what you see as fitting in with what employers want, especially when it’s the first time meeting them. Whether it be meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time or interviewing for a job, these tips hold true for every situation. Learn to get over nervousness. Mr. Huffman says employers expect nerves when a candidate is being interviewed, but it’s best to practice questions you believe will be asked in order to calm your nerves before you go. According to Psychology Today, people are hard-wired to make instant judgments that respond to stereotypes, so someone who seems hesitant and nervous may be perceived as ineffective. Do your research. This goes back

to fitting in with the company. Know what to expect, including what people in that environment wear, what type of people work there and their general attitudes. According to Psych Central, knowing a little bit of information about your boyfriend’s parents before meeting them will not only help with conversation topics, but will demonstrate to them you care enough to take the time to get to know them before your first meeting. Same goes with employers. Don’t be too personal. “Keep the answer to the questions as direct to the skills and abilities that you have,” Mr. Huffman says. It will be no use to an employer to tell them you’re twice-divorced with three kids. An employer’s only concern is how your skills will benefit the company and make them money. There will be plenty to learn about one another once you’re hired. Same goes with meeting someone’s family for the first time. “It’s a tense situation as is and talking about controversial or emotional topics can stir things uncomfortably,” twoofus.org suggests. “It’s perfectly fine to talk about vanilla-safe topics for the first meeting, or two or five.”

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Reunion roundup Tips for putting the best you forward when meeting up with former classmates

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What started simply as losing weight for her 20th reunion led Heather Rowlette to a career in fitness. The Anytime Fitness marketing director and nutrition consultant says, like most people, she wanted to attend her high school reunion looking her best. “I think when you’re healthier, even when you’re not at your ideal weight, you look better and show confidence,” says Rowlette, a graduate of Central High School.

did 50 years earlier — complete with a mini skirt and boots. “She stuck out like a sore thumb,” Fitzgerald says. Make a mental note before the event not to drink too much — you may say or do something you’ll regret later, Fitzgerald says. And while alcohol can serve as a social lubricant, nerves also can make some people talk more than they should. If former classmates begin to ask too many probing, personal questions, know that you don’t have to answer them, Fitzgerald says. Instead, she says, turn the focus back on the asker by changing the subject. She recommends starting a weight-loss “Reunions can be full of surprises,” “People spill their guts a lot when they plan at least six months before the big day. Fitzgerald says. “The people you thought don’t have to,” Fitzgerald says. “Give only This will allow for you to adjust to your would succeed don’t and vice versa.” as much information as you feel comfortnew routine and for a lifestyle change to Most importantly, Fitzgerald adds, “... able with.” last long after the reunion. Be yourself, relax and realize that everyIf you’re not sure how to start a con“If people can just stay active and get one else is feeling the same way you are.” versation or want a good go-to when the their heart rate up 20 to 30 minutes a They have the same questions as you, dialogue dries up, bring old photos or a day and eat right, they will lose weight,” “‘Have I changed?’ “‘Do I look the same?’” yearbook to share memories. Rowlette says. While others may try to be something “As we get older, (reunions) bring Pam Sollars, dress specialist at Dillards they’re not, Fitzgerald says to stay in the back memories of a time that was good,” at East Hills Shopping Center, recompresent, be yourself and not who you were Fitzgerald says. “It seems the older we get, mends shopping for just the right reunion when you graduated. we want to reconnect with our family and outfit with a trusted friend or family At Fitzgerald’s 50th high school refriends. We long for that connection with member and to start with the basics. union, a classmate tried to look like she people.” In other words, if you haven’t been fitted for a bra in a while, now is the time. “People want to look good,” Sollars says. “If you don’t have the right undergarments, (your outfit) won’t look good.” Take your time and try on as many clothing styles as you can, she adds. Some clothes that look bad on a hanger may g g look great on and vice versa. If you’re still not sure about a certain outfit, go back to Serving St. Joseph since 1917 the basics. “It’s amazing how some undergarments will actually tuck in problem areas,” she says. Getting into the right mindset to not Platinum Gold only lose weight, but to face old foes is also a key part of preparing. “I remember having some anxiety,” Rowlette says. “You kind of get flashed back to high school of comparing yourself. It is funny how you want to compare yourself — your career, your life, your kids.” As for the healthy lifestyle that came as a result of her reunion preparations, Rowlette says, “I realized that it’s time I Treatments Offered did it for me and not the appearance of it.” Marilyn Fitzgerald, advanced practice Deep Tissue • Swedish • Medical • Hot Stone nurse in mental health psychiatry at The Hours Center, says that mental preparation can make all the difference in whether or not Mondays, Tuesdays, and Fridays 8am-5:30pm you have a good time at a reunion. Thursdays and Saturdays 8am-12pm “The main thing is to know what is going to cause the anxiety and be prepared 1918 N. Belt Hwy. • 279-3319 for that,” she says. R

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Summer is finally here and many of us are reveling in its warm, colorful and laid-back vibe. The outdoors beckon and you want to play. ¶ Although you can’t spend all of your time outdoors, you can bring summer inside your home. And the fun part is that it’s not that difficult. ¶ “Summer does tend to be a little simpler,” says Jamie Withrow of Jamie’s Secret Garden in St. Joseph. “We like to air out a little more.” ¶ If you don’t really know where to start, try taking a look out your window. The scene is bathed in vivid color and movement. ¶ “They want color and life,” says Tabitha Yount of Stewartsville, Mo., and owner of Elegant Interiors by Tabitha Yount.

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When it comes to color, Yount says bright orange is proving popular. Withrow adds that red also pops for the season. And Lisa Ridder, one of the interior designers with I.O. Metro at Zona Rosa adds that a blush pink popular in the 1930s and updated with a salmon hue is proving a hit this season. Lime green and turquoise also add a kiss of summer. And an old favorite still dazzles. “White is beautiful and elegant,” Ridder adds. If you’re envisioning bright orange or lime green walls, calm down. Our interior designers point out that you can add a pop of color with accessories. Colored pillows, lightweight throws and chunky pottery all say “summer.” Also introduce bold, bright color with flowers, real or fake. “Take your favorite glass bowl and fill it with something textured,” Ridder says. That “texture” could be colored rocks, glass beads or even a variety of fruit. Yount has used rocks that her daughters found as decorations. After cleaning them, she placed the rocks in a clear vase and added some greenery. “You use the most unusual things in the most unusual ways and it flows,” she says. Here’s a tip from Martha Stewart (marthastewart.com) that plays on the unusual: Use one of those mini tabletop bird feeders in the kitchen to hold sponges. Or, put one in the bathroom to hold soap or hair ties. “It’s all using your imagination,“ Yount says. “There’s no right or wrong to it.” Need more inspiration? Garden statuary can find a new home inside, as can outdoor furniture.

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Some of the outdoor offerings can be almost as comfy as indoor pieces, Ridder notes. Bring a chair in and place a pretty cushion on it. Consider bringing in tree branches (spray for insects first) and place in vases. Faux topiaries can add a punch of panache to your entryway. Use mini topiaries inside, as well. “Greens add life to a room,” Withrow says. Do a little decor shopping without ever leaving home by swapping things from one room to another. “Shop” for items for the living room in the bedroom and vice versa. Rotate artwork, our pros suggest. Doing so breathes new life into items you already own. The same goes for your accessories. Swap out your heavy drapes for lighter versions. Use sheers, silk panels or even shower curtains. Opt for lighter lampshades and switch out towels in the bathroom to reflect the summer season. “Mirrors are perfect for summer because they reflect the light,” Ridder says. “Pull down a piece of art and put up a mirror.” Or, create a wall collage with photo frames and fill them with summer vacation photos. Ridder says that when small items are grouped together “you see it as one.” “You could put a zebra-tinted cowhide on the wall under a piece of art,” Ridder says, “It’s unexpected.” That same cowhide or accent rug also can dress up your floor. Try layering either over carpet and it will help define your space, according to Ridder. “Your floor is your fifth wall,” she says. “Treat it like a wall.” Continue the summer decorating out on a covered or screenedin porch.

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“You decorate these much like you do the rest of the house,” Withrow says. It’s not hard to find indoor/outdoor lamps, cushions and pillows and furnishings that exceed the traditional patio furniture styles. “Daybeds outside,” Yount says, “that’s a trend now.” Add a good book and a glass of iced tea and you have your own private oasis. Whether you want to bring the outdoors in or the inside out, the trick is to decorate with what you love, what makes you happy. Play with things until you get a look you like. “The best thing is to have fun and not take it so seriously,” Withrow says. “The rule books don’t live in your house, you do.” But I can’t afford a designer... Think you can’t afford the services of an interior designer. You would be wrong. The designers interviewed for this article — Jamie Withrow of Jamie’s Secret Garden, Tabitha Yount of Elegant Interiors by Tabitha Yount and Lori Ridder of I.O. Metro — say they can help people with decorating tips, no matter what their budget. “Designers are accessible to anybody and everybody,” Ridder says. One way to scope out decorating ideas is to pay attention to how their shops are decorated. If you see something you like but aren’t sure how to use it in your own home, just ask. Even better, take a photo of the room you want to decorate with your phone and show it to the designer. She can help you choose accessories and offer tips on how to use them in your home. If you are on a budget, by all means, let the designer know.

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White’s all right In the heavy heat of summer, white cools your look down By Kristen Hare Josephine magazine

There used to be a fashion rule about white. Basically, the rule said, you were only supposed to wear white between Memorial Day and Labor Day, making white the color of summer. “I think that’s just out,” says Tobi Pendleton, St. Joseph Vanity store manager. What’s in is white throughout your wardrobe, from tops to bottoms to dresses, even belts. But before you go out and hit those white sales, here are a few tips for looking good in the color that isn’t. “I don’t think anyone should be afraid to wear white,” says Tammi Gumm, owner of Clara’s Fashions. “You just have to really look to get the right fit and the right fabric.” 20

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FORGET THE WHITE-OUT In the heat of summer, white feels cool, says Pendleton, but don’t go all white head to toe. Instead, she says, add color. “It’s pretty easy because you can put it with whatever.” Kris Losson, assistant manager at Maurice’s in St. Joseph, agrees about adding a pop of something to a white look, especially with pants. “When I work with a customer, I like to pair it with a dark color on top,” she says. Losson’s a big fan of black and white, and she also recommends accessorizing the white look to get color that way, too. The experts at Glamour magazine agree — add some color or you’ll look like a cartoon nurse, they say on glamour.com. If you’re not too big on bright colors, they recommend adding in a nice neutral like camel or even gold or silver to mix things up. Think of bringing this in using belts, shoes and bracelets if you’re wearing white on top and bottom or an all white dress.

MAKE SURE IT’S THE WHITE FIT Glamour’s second white tip is to avoid tight whites. What you can get away with in black may be a different story here, so try things on and make sure the fit is a good one.

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Gumm agrees. “White pants are different than black pants,” she says. “You really have to pay attention to fit, you have to pay attention to the fabric.” At her store, she also looks for details, like the pockets. Will they show through? When shopping for white, Pendleton says she’s also very particular about finding the right fabric and fit. And just as important, white wearers should consider what’s going on under that white top, bottom or dress, because if it’s not the right bra or underwear, everyone will know it. “There’s a lot of people that don’t think about it,” Gumm says. And while a little girl in a white dress looks cute even if her pink underwear shows, that’s not a great look on grown-ups. They should know better, Gumm says. Pendleton recommends nude thongs if you’re comfortable in them, or choose underwear styles that are no-show, which are sold pretty much everywhere. “So there really isn’t an excuse anymore, I think, to see someone’s rainbow thong under their shorts,” she says. If you have a sheer white top, she recommends wearing a cami underneath, and consider a nude or white bra. Slips will help cover you up under a skirt or dress, and consider white denim, Glamour recommends. It’s thick and on trend. newspressnow.com/josephine

WHITER WHITES At Maurice’s, Losson has seen a lot of white this season — in dresses, pants, capris and tops. Pendleton also sees a lot of options at Vanity, but as a shopper, she says, she doesn’t want something that’s high-maintenance to clean. “I’m a mom, and I don’t wear it if I’m going to be around my son,” she says. About.com recommends treating stains right away when they fall on your white clothes, and don’t necessarily add the chlorine bleach. It can yellow clothes, the site reports, so look for an oxygen-based bleach instead. They also recommend ½ cup of baking soda for every ½ cup of bleach, and for those cottons that have gotten dingy, add a cup of white vinegar to a pot of water and bring to a boil. Add the clothes, then let them soak overnight once the stove is turned off. Regardless of how you wear it — on top, bottom or all over, Gumm says not to be intimidated by white. But definitely look in that three-way dressing room mirror. “As with anything, you have to look and feel good in it,” she says. “So if you do, wear it.”

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A lot from a little St. Joseph woman leads group that aims to make a big difference in small ways By Erin Wisdom Josephine magazine

Sum up Donna Beaderstadt in just a couple words, and “happy helper” may very well be the first that come to mind. ¶ The St. Joseph woman has a passion for helping people and a generally sunny disposition that must be innate, given the fact she earned the nickname Sunshine at age 2. ¶ “And it’s never left,” she laughs. She put this demeanor to good use for years in sales-oriented careers — even snagging a husband while working behind the counter of a Kansas City jewelry store, where she was commonly known as Diamond Donna. Her unsuspecting husband-to-be came in to buy a ring for himself but ended up with a little more than he’d bargained for: A date for New Year’s Eve and, just 49 days later, a wife. That whirlwind arrangement is what brought Ms. Beaderstadt here 15 years ago. It’s also what helped make it financially possible for her to retire two years ago and to embrace a new opportunity as the president of the newly formed St. Joe Women On The Go. The group, which began with 17 members in 2009, in an unofficial sense was born from the local chapter of the American Business Women’s Association. Ms. Beaderstadt served as the chapter’s president at the time and saw the challenge its members faced to pay annual dues and serve on a variety of committees. When the local ABWA group dissolved, she and some of its other members went on to found St. Joe Women On The Go as a way to remain active in the community in a simpler way. “It was founded on the idea of ‘Let’s have some fun, meet once a month and do some little things,’” Ms. Beaderstadt says. “But in those tiny little ways, we’re making a difference.” Now numbering 27 members, the group has made contributions to almost as many organizations. To name just a few: It’s held a spaghetti dinner to raise funds for a child to attend Royal Family Kids

Camp, has provided diapers to the Pregnancy Resource Clinic, has sent money to Haiti and has put together hygiene bags for the homeless. The women also have an ongoing project in which they collect donations weekly from the two St. Joseph Walmarts — generally items the stores can’t sell for some reason — and distribute them to local organizations such as the YWCA’s women’s shelter, Grace House and the Social Welfare Board. “You wouldn’t think a broken bottle of shampoo would bring happiness to someone,” Ms. Beaderstadt says, also noting that she came close to tears when she witnessed a woman’s joy over receiving a colorful gravy boat. “She was so happy to have something to decorate with, because she never had before.” The St. Joe Women On The Go mission statement is “to help those less fortunate in St. Joseph and the surrounding areas

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through volunteering and charitable contributions,” but just as important to the group are the purely fun aspects of its monthly meetings — such as the “death by chocolate” theme it embraced in April and Bunco games members play from time to time. Meetings are held at 6:30 p.m. the second Thursday of each month at a member’s home. St. Joe Women On The Go is seeking new members and — despite its name — would welcome not only any women but also any men who are interested. For more information or for directions to the July 14 meeting, contact Ms. Beaderstadt at 279-4583. Although St. Joe Women On The Go uses a round table at meetings to keep any one person from having a spot at its head, Ms. Beaderstadt’s leadership qualities haven’t gone unnoticed. “She has a lot of smarts, a very good way with words and always a smile on her face,” says Jackie Comella, the group’s vice president. “She’s steered us along the straight and narrow.” And along the way, Ms. Beaderstadt has been able to share her appreciation for simple joys, as well as her ambition to give them to others. “We have to find pleasure in small things,” she says. “That why St. Joe Women On The Go has been such a success: We’ve done so much with small things.”

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The search is on. According to the Mayo Clinic, finding the next super food is one of the top food trends this year. And if you have been on the search, you may have noticed there’s a bit of a berry battle going on. At one time, the cranberry seemed to be getting all the press. Then it was the blueberry and, now, a group of unknowns are taking the lead, such as the acai and aronia berries. Why berries? “The benefits of berries are largely as antioxidants,” says Diane Waddell, a nurse practitioner with Heartland Complementary and Integrative Medicine in St. Joseph, “which helps in general with disease prevention and keeping our cells as youthful as possible.” Berries were the subject at a recent holistic conference she attended in Minneapolis called iMosaic. She says the value of berries are sometimes ranked by ORAC level (Oxygen Radical Absorbance Capacity), which tests foods antioxidant power. An intake of 3,000 to 5,000 ORAC units daily have been proven to have significant impact on health. “One of the presenters said that for the most part there is no super-super berry,” she says, “but that many are very good.” And compared to all fruit, “berries pack the most antioxidant punch for their size,” adds Jim Fly, co-owner/manager of A-Z’s FreshAir Fare. He has studied berries in depth through his training to be a certified health coach with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York. “Plus, they are low-glycemic,” he says. “They don’t raise blood sugar like bananas or other large fruits can.” Fruit juices should be avoided as they contain a large amount of fructose, Mr. Fly says. Each glass of juice, even those with no sugar added, has more sugar than a glass of soda and will negatively affect your immune system. Calorie wise, you should try to eat them in their fresh state instead of dried. For example, a half cup of fresh cranberries contains 44 calories and dried contains 370. When you go for fresh, buy organic. The Environmental Working Group consistently rates berries at the top of its list of most contaminated fruits.

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AroniAberry Aroniaberry is the most recent entry in the berry battle. The fruit is a true native plant of eastern North America. They have a mildly sweet flavor with a pronounced astringency like dry wine, according to the literature from Blazerfarmz of Amity, Mo. The farm packages and distributes aroniaberries in several forms, including jams, fresh/frozen and chews. “Aroniaberries are outrageously high in very important procyanidins, anthocyanins and phenolic acids,” it states, and “has the highest concentration of procyanidins of any plants known to man.” They also claim aronia is one of the most powerful antioxidants on the planet. The vote is not in yet from health experts about this local berry. Check them out for yourself at www.blazerfarmz.com. elderberry If you are prone to catching flu, stock up on elderberries. According to research by Madeleine Mumcuoglu in Israel, elderberry extracts have successfully and consistently defeated the flu virus in laboratory tests, according to a report on theherbcompanion.com. In small clinical trials, Mumcuoglu and her colleagues found that elderberry extracts speed flu recovery by two to four days compared with a placebo. With the head of virology at the Hadassah-Hebrew University Medical Center, she tested elderberry extract against eight strains of flu virus and found it effective. Elderberry concentrates are available at many health food stores. blAck currAnt Black currants have a very high content in antioxidants and vitamins. In particular, they’re very rich in vitamin C and contain several rare nutrients, like GLA ( Gamma Linoleic Acid, a very rare Omega-6 essential fatty acid) and MAOI (Monoamine Oxidase Inhibitors), so can be used in therapies against depression, according to black-currant.com. Black currants (fruit or capsule form) can be a help for treating symptoms of menopause, premenstrual syndrome, painful periods and breast tenderness, according to webmd.com. It is also used for boosting immunity. rAspberry Raspberries are rich in anthocyanins and cancer-fighting phytochemicals such as ellagic, coumaric and ferulic acid, Mr. Fly says. They also contain calcium, vitamins such as A, C, E, fiber and folic acid. Some of the fiber in raspberries is soluble fiber in the form of pectin, which lowers cholesterol. Raspberries have also been found to protect against esophageal cancer and other cancers. “Jonny Bowden, in his wonderful 2007 book, ‘The 150 Healthiest Foods on Earth’ cites the raspberry as one of the best sources of ellagic acid, a cancer-fighting compound,” Mr. Fly says, “colon cancer specifically.” The anthocyanins in raspberries, like those in cherries, appear to inhibit the COX-2 enzyme, which is involved in inflammation and specifically arthritis. AcAi The acai berry was ranked as Dr. Perricone’s No. 1 Superfood on Oprah.com back in 2005. “A remarkable concentration of antioxidants that help combat premature aging, with 10 times more antioxidants than red grapes and 10 to 30 times the anthocyanins of red wine,” the website states. However, the berry has recently come under fire for not being quite as super as all that. A recent article in the New Yorker explains how two brothers from California marketed the unknown berry from Brazil into becoming a sought-after health cure-all for everything from arthritis to erectile dysfunction. Acai berries may be a good source of antioxidants, fiber and heart-healthy fats, but according to the Mayo Clinic, research on acai berries is limited, and claims about the health benefits of acai haven’t been proved.

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Stop the impulse buying Whether you’re shopping in a store or online, think before you purchase By Crystal K. WieBe

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emember those Italian leather heels you bought on vacation? They were so cute that you refused to feel guilty at the cash register. But after just a couple of outings you realized the shoes weren’t that comfortable — or even very “you.” And then the credit card bill arrived. Impulse buys. We’ve all fallen victim. Not even financial experts are immune. For Elaine Coder, Investment Advisor and Director of Client Services for Family Investment Center Inc. in St. Joseph, jewelry and accessories can be very tempting. “Sometimes,” she says, “I’ll get home and think, ‘Why did I buy that?’” To avoid the sting of buyer’s remorse, Coder reminds herself and her clients to “Be deliberate and think before you buy.” That means shopping around and researching your desired item online before committing. “The real test is what something is worth, not what it costs,” Coder says. “eBay can tell you very quickly what something is worth.” Buying deliberately also includes challenging yourself about the validity of the purchase. Do you want it? Do you need it? Can you live without it? These are great questions to ask yourself before spending money on anything, whether it’s an unexpected splurge or a planned investment. If you

have kids, make them answer the same questions before agreeing to buy them anything — or allowing them to make a purchase on their own. Another way to limit impulse buying is not to carry plastic. Even if you pay your credit card off each month, Coder warns that you may be overspending. “Studies have proven that you will spend more if you use a credit card,” she says. “I even can tell with myself, because you don’t feel the impact of it as much.” (Until the end of the month, that is.) This may also come as a surprise, but coupons also can encourage impulse purchasing. Coupon ladies used to be about as cool as cat ladies, but through the economically tough past few years, demanding your discount has come into vogue. There are even workshops and websites about the couponing lifestyle. More popular are social buying websites, which provide daily bargains on everything from pedicures to all-inclusive vacations. As long as enough people buy in, the deal is on — often for as much as 50 percent or more off retail price. That advertised savings can be pretty persuasive. And it’s true, whether the discount is for a can of peas or a cruise, coupons and special promotions can be a great way to save. However, it’s important to remember that because they’re designed as buying enticements, coupons also get you to spend. “You can get sucked in to buying stuff just because of the coupon,” Coder says. “I’ve got things I’ve bought that just sit on the shelf.” KansasCityOntheCheap.com is a guide

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to deals in and around Kansas City. Blogger Julie Henry runs the site, which lists the daily local offerings, in addition to specials offered independently by restaurants, theaters, museums, shops and more. She offers coupon hunters the following advice: “As a general rule, I’d say look for discounts on things you’re already using or deals that will save you money on events that you already have planned. I also use coupons or online deals when I want to try new things. I usually decide what I want to do first and then go look for a discount.” So, if you’re impulsive, don’t even tempt yourself by checking out the deals until you’re planning to spend on something, anyway. Although, even when a coupon nets a discount on something you would buy, it’s still wise to compare prices. Coder used to be a big coupon user at the grocery store until she realized that even with the discount, premium brands can be more expensive than plain labels. If you are an impulse buyer, much of this advice probably sounds great in the abstract, but you may be wondering how to “buy deliberately” in those moments when you feel most impulsive. The answer isn’t easy. Avoiding frequent buyer’s remorse takes time and active budgeting. Coder advises clients to keep their financial goals in mind whenever they’re shopping. When your finances are on track, you know how much you can justify spending on a whim. And that’s true financial freedom — as Coder puts it: “The best feeling in the world.”

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N It’s a new world Being a single dad is like nothing you’ve ever experienced

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reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press. The St. Joseph native has served on the News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.

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ow you’re a single dad. And you’ve no doubt by now found out that it isn’t the same as just being single or just being a dad. It’s about straddling the two worlds of dating and parenthood and finding a balance. You’re only a dad and you’re only as single as visitation allows. Not only that, but the dating game has changed quite a bit since you last roamed the range. There’s a whole ‘nother language like BFF, LMAO, LOL and other texting words you’ll now have to learn. No doubt the music has changed too since you last hit the clubs. No one in this crowd has ever heard of the Miami Sound Machine, Men at Work or the Pet Shop Boys. And those clothes. No one wears a pink T-shirt with a white designer sport jacket anymore nor does anyone wear a leather jacket, one glove and a Jheri-Curl either. You’ll have to get a whole new dating wardrobe. Even if you do get lucky and pick somebody up, it isn’t like the old single days when you could just bring anybody home. Now you have a son or daughter to worry about. Someone who was desirable at last call and 3 a.m. can easily turn undesirable at 9 a.m. sitting at the breakfast table in a camisole and smoking while the kiddies are eating their Cheerios. That will definitely make an impression on their little minds. And you can be sure they’ll go back and tell mommy. Even if they don’t, the ex will surely ask them about daddy’s friends. Kids also sometimes have an aptitude for seeing simple, inconsequential things in fantastical and exaggerated ways. To a small child, a heavily made up and perfumed woman may conjure up images of witches, evil stepmothers and other scary female characters they’ve seen in PG movies. Some ex-wives can conceptualize those same images, too. You don’t want to use your children to attract women. You don’t take them

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in the park for a walk like you would a cute dog so as to strike up a conversation with some babe in shorts walking her poodle. For one thing, it’s sleazy and women will see right through it. There is one occasion where it’s OK to sort of use your kids in a courtship situation. If you’ve been on a few dates with a woman and she seems like she might be the ideal mate, introduce her to your kids. If she shows an interest in your children and enjoys being around them, she might be a keeper. If you sense she is annoyed by them or feels they are a nuisance, drop her and right away. You’re a package deal now. If she doesn’t accept your kids, then she really doesn’t accept you. With that said, you really don’t just want to spring some new woman on your kids, either. Get them primed to meet your new “friend.” Explain to them that you need friendship, too. Finally, here’s some good advice from the AskMen.com website on being a single dad. They say simply embrace the single dad status. Tell women up front that you’re a single dad and how important your kids are in your life. In many cases, that will make a woman hot for you.

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ummer means camping to a lot of my friends. They love to pack up their tents and sunscreen and head to the lake where they can splash around in a nature-made pool, catch fresh fish for dinner and lay under the stars while a cool summer breeze blows across their skin. I personally have a real aversion to the temporary, recreational outdoor living that my friends love so much, and on the few occasions I have tried camping, I have always left feeling like a dirt-covered, bug-bitten homeless person. I blame myself for not being able to embrace camping because I am a city girl who likes modern conveniences like blow dryers and towels still warm from the dryer. Plus, I like the world to think I awake in the mornings with my hair perfectly coiffured and my makeup naturally applied by angels as I slept, and that facade is ruined when I go camping because of the high levels of “au naturel” going on. I also prefer a house with wood walls. Tents have walls made of cloth and the “door” is locked with a zipper. That means if I am being chased by a bear or a psycho in a hockey mask, my only safety is running into my material house and zipping myself in. Technically, pulling my jacket up over my head and zipping it tightly closed will offer the same level of protection. Then there is the whole, “wildlife” issue. I am a huge animal lover, and I have been known to stop traffic to save a squirrel; but fighting a colony of ants for my watermelon, swatting bugs as I sit by the fire and raccoons and possums ravaging my campsite while I sleep can really test my resolve and turn my idea of living at peace with nature into “one of us is going down”! And swimming in a lake should not be considered a recreational activity but instead a scientific experiment on how much hand sanitizer is necessary to kill the bacteria that is on your skin after you go tubing in a giant mud puddle (which, let’s admit, is really what a lake is). I find it difficult to splash around in the same water where fish poop and snakes spit, preferring my water to be filled with lavender-scent-

ed bubbles that I can lie in and not have to worry about the bodily functions of cold-blooded creatures. I do admit, though, there is not a lotion or cream in this world that provides the same exfoliating benefits as getting sand and mud in your swimsuit. One afternoon of squirming around in an attempt to get it out of those hard-to-reach places and your skin will be as smooth as a newborn babe. And who doesn’t love walking a country mile to the wonderful public bathroom that has no doors, looking as if it was teepee’d on prom night and decorated by creative geniuses who write things like “For a good time, call 555-5555” on the walls. But despite all of the bad, I do give a thumbs up to a night under the stars. What a glorious sight to behold, being away from the glare of the city lights, allowing the stars and moon to shine without competition. It is breathtaking as you lay on the hard, cement-like ground in your thermal sleeping bag in the 100-degree heat looking upwards toward the night sky decorated with its twinkling lights. If you don’t get a heat stroke or typhoid from the mosquitoes, camping really is a way to get out and enjoy the beauty of God’s creation.

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The great outdoors Go ahead and enjoy yourself, Stacey will see you when you get back Stacey molluS is a humor columnist

who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”

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ham and mushroom quiche Olive oil spray ½ cup whole wheat bread crumbs ½ pound lean deli ham, torn into bite-size pieces 1 cup sliced shiitake mushrooms 1 cup sliced red onion 1 cup sliced red bell pepper 2 large eggs plus 4 whites ¼ teaspoon ground nutmeg ½ cup skim milk ½ cup shredded, reduced-fat, sharp Cheddar cheese Salt and freshly ground pepper Heat oven to 400 degrees. Spray bottom and sides of 10inch pie plate or shallow casserole dish with olive oil and sprinkle with bread crumbs. Gently roll and shake plate to distribute crumbs over sides and bottom. Place ham, mushrooms onion and bell pepper in the pie plate. In a small bowl, beat eggs and whites with a fork. Beat in the nutmeg, milk, cheese and salt and pepper. Pour into prepared pie plate. Press the ingredients under the eggs with a fork. Bake about 25 minutes, until quiche is firm. Remove, cut in halves and serve. Makes 2 servings.

Nutrition information per serving: 451 calories (30 percent from fat), 14.9 g fat (5.4 g saturated, 5.7 monounsaturated), 280 mg cholesterol, 48.1 g protein, 30.8 g carbohydrates, 4.9 g fiber, 2001 mg sodium.