North County Woman Magazine-Holidays 2014

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holiday 2014


A Lifestyle Magazine for Every Woman

"Tis the Season for Peace Find it at Lake Austin Spa & Resort

TIPS TO MANAGE HOLIDAY STRESS Eat, drink and be merry!

Women and Finances Are you in charge of your own?


Sharlene Borromeo Wins Top Designer Seat


Siciliano Puts the Fizz Into Your Holidays

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 Contents | FALL 2014



4_LETTER FROM THE EDITOR 6-9_ON THE SCENE: The Pulse: La Costa Film Festival; Hera Hub Happenings; Jockey Fashion Show

10_ENTERTAINMENT: A New Year Retreat, Lake Austin Spa & Resort 13_FOOD: Holiday Events at Old California Restaurant Row in San Marcos 14_ETIQUETTE: Holiday Party Planning Ideas & Etiquette 16_FEATURED WOMAN: Jayla Siciliano Puts the Fizz Into Your Holidays 21_HUMOR/RAZZLE, DAZZLE FRAZZLE: 'Tis the Season (Without Rhyme or Reason!) - A Holiday Poem

22_GIFT GUIDE: Holiday Gift-Giving Ideas 24_FASHION: Fashion Week San Diego 28, 29_YOUR HEALTH: Diabetes Prevention for the Entire Family; 10

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Natural Tips for Reducing Holiday Stress

31_WOMEN IN BUSINESS: Easing Into the Holidays 32,34_STYLE: Holiday Hair & Makeup; Holiday Fashions 36, 37_LIFE: Words of Lizdom, Five Jolly Ways to Grow Your Biz; The Clarity Corner, 'Tis the Season to be Grateful and...

38_ESTATE PLANNING: Creating Your Estate Plan 39_FINANCE: Women & Investing 40_ADOPTION OPTION: Find Your New Best Friend this Holiday Season 41_INSPIRATION: Joy to the World!



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 Letter From the Editor | HOLIDAY 2014

Welcome AS WE WRAP UP ANOTHER YEAR OF THIS PUBLICATION, WE HOPE THAT IN THIS ISSUE YOU WILL FIND HELPFUL HOLIDAY TIPS FOR BOTH YOUR BODY AND YOUR MIND. After reading the article on our featured woman, Jayla Siciliano, may you open a bottle of Bon Affair and truly enjoy all that this wonderful time of the year has to offer. We'd like to say a special thank you to our sponsors and to all of the amazing women who support North County Woman magazine. May peace and happiness fill your hearts and your homes. Cheers and Happy Holidays,


Kerry Wright Publisher/Editor





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ON THE COVER Jayla Siciliano is wearing a magenta beaded gown from Boutique de Marcus located at 685 2nd Ave., San Diego, CA/619.239.2887. Photographed by Denise Vakili Photography. Hair by Quattra Via | Salon | Spa | Inner Beauty Gallery. Makeup by Charlene Hooker of Love Love Love It.

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The Pulse:

On the Scene at the 2nd Annual La Costa Film Festival BY CINDY MATALUCCI

WE WERE SO EXCITED TO COVER AND DO EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEWS FOR THE 2ND ANNUAL LA COSTA FILM FESTIVAL THIS YEAR HELD AT THE GORGEOUS OMNI LA COSTA RESORT & SPA. This festival is amazing and is getting bigger and better every year thanks to Mike and Ruby Callihan the founders of this amazing festival and the growing number of supporters they have gained over the last 2 years! We got the chance to speak with Mike and Kymberly Wright, the Program Director about their fabulous festival! This year, the festival partnered with Mandalay Sports Media (MSM) to help curate the festival’s sports themed narrative, documentary and shorts programs, as well as to expand their outreach to filmmakers and distributors in this space. The La Costa Film Festival ( screened 43 films from 13 countries and hosted nightly red carpet galas, exciting panels and numerous special events. The festival debuted a World Premiere as well as a special tribute to renowned actor Ed Harris. Yes we got to meet him and interview this Legend! Amazing!! Pinch me:)

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The La Costa Film Festival opened with Frank Vs. God, starring Henry Cusick and Ever Carradine, which follows a hot shot lawyer, who after a series of misfortunes, decides to serve God with a lawsuit. The director and the lead actress, Ever Carradine offered comments before the start of the film screening, which took place under the stars on Center Court of the Omni Resort La Costa on Thursday September 18th at 8:30 pm. The screening followed the Opening Night Gala ‘Taste of North County’ which showcased the area’s exquisite cuisine, award-winning craft breweries and boutique wines – all accompanied by live music. Of course we get the inside scoop for you and talk with director Stewart Schill and lead actress Ever Carradine about this amazing movie and what it felt like debuting at La Costa. We also spoke to John Hughes about the skateboard movie Signal Hill Speed Run! He was a pioneer of the knee boarding in the 70s! The Friday Night Gala kept the party moving, preceded by a special reception at the Cinepolis Luxury Cinemas in Carlsbad honoring Ed Harris. Mike Tollin, the producer/director of Radio: The movie, was on hand to share the spotlight and add his insights on the film and working

with Ed Harris. The party then moved back to the Omni La Costa for the World Premiere screening of Brothers in Exile , a true American story which follows the heart wrenching journey of two brothers who risk their lives to escape Cuba and play professional baseball in America. The film’s director, Mario Diaz and Dave Check, MLB producer, offered brief comments prior to the screening.

The evening finished with a rousing special After Party at the Omni, with live music, appetizers, and plenty of libations. Saturday was all about the sports panels. We loved being involved and BRAVO La Costa Film Festival for a fabulous 2nd year!!! For all videos, interviews and pictures please go to la-costa-film-festival/

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Authors' Salon L to R - Linda Scott, Ed.D. M. Louisa Locke, Susan Meissner

Artist Lola Juris at Hera Hub, Carlsbad

Left - M. Louisa Locke, R- Susan Meissner


HERA HUB’S OCTOBER AUTHORS’ SALON CONTINUED TO ATTRACT AVID READERS, INTERESTED NOVICE AND EXPERIENCED WRITERS, AS WELL AS PUBLISHED AUTHORS. Featured authors M. Louisa Locke and Susan Meissner shared excepts from their bestselling books and talked about how they obtained their story concepts and connect with their readers. “It was our intention to create a venue to celebrate local authors, share writing resources and publishing strategies. With the valuable connections that Linda Scott, Ed.D., founder of eFrog Press, has established in the writing and publishing community, it seemed like a perfect collaboration which benefits the North County community,” said Catherine Mowbray-Lorenz, Director of the Hera Hub Carlsbad. As one guest stated, “It is a wonderful night out, which provides fun, intellectual stimulation and encouragement to writers.” Authors’ salon will be presented quarterly at Hera Hub Carlsbad, with a different genre featured each quarter. The next Authors’ Salon will be held on Tuesday, January 27th, and will feature award-winning children’s authors Edith Hope Fine and Nancy Johnson. For more information visit

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herahubcarlsbad or email Our coworking space serves as a revolving gallery featuring local artists. Lola Juris, an 85-year-young watercolorist from Carlsbad, is the spotlighted artist this autumn. Lola has been painting for over 70 years, and we are grateful that she has shared her gift with our members and visitors. Our art exhibits rotate throughout the three San Diego Hera Hub locations every four months, with a new exhibit being introduced annually. Deborah Wiley, our art curator, organizes and curates the art to ensure that we have a variety of compelling and lovely works to display. Hera Hearts launched in October and provided three North County Nonprofits with mastermind opportunities to receive high-level feedback from the audience addressing their most important challenges. Leap to Success, Chelsea’s Light and the Palomar Health Foundation were the featured nonprofits. Guest speaker, Chief Deputy Assistant District Attorney Summer Stephan addressed the vital need that these nonprofits provide to victims of violence in North San Diego County. Hera Hearts’ aims to provide a fresh perspective on challenges and to increase exposure for nonprofits.


Soroptimist Club Fund Raiser


THE SOROPTIMIST CLUB HELD IT'S ANNUAL WOMEN OF SUBSTANCE & STYLE FUNDRAISER AT THE DEL MAR HILTON IN OCTOBER. Over 300 Women came together for an amazing afternoon of fun, philanthropy and fashion. The event featured popup boutiques, lunch and a runway show featuring Jockey's popular women's fashion line Person 2 Person. Proceeds from the event benefited Soroptimist International, Oceanside-Carlsbad whose mission is to: "Improve the lives of women and girls in our local community and throughout the world." If you're interested in learning more about the Soroptimist Club or Jockey Person 2 Person, please contact Lisa O'Hearn at 760-685-3759 or

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WITH HOLIDAY FESTIVITIES UNDERWAY, PLANNING A NEW YEAR’S RETREAT IS A GREAT WAY TO GIVE YOURSELF SOME QUALITY, QUIET TIME IN THE COMING NEW YEAR. Lake Austin Spa Resort is the perfect place to replenish. With a short flight to Austin, a city with great creative energy, and a peaceful short drive through scenic Hill Country, Lake Austin Spa

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Megan Arterberry is a freelance writer

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SPENDING TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND ENJOYING FAVORITE MEALS TOGETHER IS ONE OF THE SPECIAL TREATS OF THE HOLIDAY SEASON. Old California Restaurant Row is North County's largest dining and entertainment experience with 15 fantastic restaurants serving authentic food from around the world. So whether it’s a get together for breakfast, brunch, lunch or dinner this holiday season, diners are sure to find the perfect spot at Old California Restaurant Row. This year, Old California Restaurant Row will be celebrating the holidays with a free family event on Sunday, December 7 from Noon to 2 pm. Santa and Mrs. Claus will arrive on the Holiday Express Train and families are invited to enjoy a free train ride throughout Restaurant Row.

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Santa will also be available for photos. A professional photographer will be on hand to take a free photo of each child with Santa just for supplying an email address (photos will be emailed). Mrs. Claus will be giving away free holiday activity books for children along with free dining booklets for mom and dad filled with special offers from many of the restaurants. Customers can also enjoy live entertainment and holiday happy hours offered by many of the restaurants. So make arrangements today to meet your friends and family at Old California Restaurant Row and share some great holiday memories together. And if you’re looking for that perfect gift, stop by any one of Restaurant Row’s 15 bistros and eateries to purchase a gift certificate. Old California Restaurant Row is located at 1020 W. San Marcos Blvd and includes 15 restaurants. For a complete list of restaurants at Restaurant Row and for information on special events held throughout the year, visit the website at

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a La La La La:

Holiday Party Planning Ideas and Etiquette


“Once again, we come to the Holiday Season, a deeply religious time that each of us observes, in his own way, by going to the mall of his choice.” ~ Dave Barry

Photo: Denise Vakili

THE GUEST LIST If you are planning a bigger party, consider guests who will mix well. If you are hosting your exercise group, don’t worry about not inviting your closest friends. They understand it is a party for the group and are not invited to every gathering. PARTY THEME Think beyond the traditional dinner party. Consider other ways to celebrate depending on the guests and timing.

Andie Beyer Green Andie lives in La Costa, California. Holly's Girlfriend ( provides etiquette and manners as well as conversation news. See for more on etiquette and manners from Holly's Girlfriend.

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Brunch Tea Ornament and/or cookie exchange Open house Theme cocktail party Wrapping party Potluck appetizer party Holiday movie marathon

PREPARATIONS Plan the event so that you can enjoy your guests. For example: • If possible, prepare food beforehand • Choose a drink that works well with your theme (e.g., glögg for a glögg party) instead of offering your entire bar, which can lead to guests asking for specialty drinks you do not know how or want to make • Set up a help-yourself drink and/or a water station if you are having more than a few guests If you are hosting a larger party with guests who do not know other guests, ask a friend who is an easy conversationalist to introduce them to others.

INVITATIONS The holiday season is a busy time, so send invitations early. Set the RSVP date so that you have enough time to plan, shop and decorate.

ARRIVAL Aside from taking coats and purses, your first job is to get your guests drinks. This gives your guests something to do with their hands. Now you can relax and enjoy your party. Keep an eye out for your guests and remember you set the tone for the evening, so enjoy yourself.

“He puzzled and puzzled until his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. Maybe Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more!”

~ How the Grinch Stole Christmas! by Dr. Seuss

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Featured Woman


AS A WINE DRINKER, I WAS VERY EXCITED WHEN I HAPPENED TO BE WATCHING SHARK TANK ONE EVENING AND COMING UP NEXT WAS A WOMAN PITCHING A HEALTHY ALTERNATIVE TO WINE! I wasn’t quite sure how that was possible, but I was intrigued. As I watched Jayla Siciliano present her product to the Sharks, I couldn’t help but think one thing… how is she pulling this off? It looked so intimidating to be standing there fielding questions from some of the best entrepreneurs in the country. However, Jayla looked cool, calm and collected; you could see and feel her passion for her product. I was so impressed by her, I immediately did two things: I emailed her about possibly featuring her in the magazine and I went out and bought a bottle of Bon Affair.

All gowns provided courtesy of Boutique de Marcus in San Diego. Hair by April Brodsky of Quattra Via | Salon | Spa | Inner Beauty Gallery. Makeup by Charlene Hooker of Love Love Love It.

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Turns out, I love the wine! And after meeting Jayla, I couldn’t help but love her too! This is a woman who followed a dream, stuck to her belief she had a viable product, and weathered the storm of entrepreneurship. Physically, she’s a tiny woman, but her tenacity to succeed


is larger than life. Most impressive, I think she is truly one of the nicest women I’ve ever met! We had so much in common and our initial coffee meeting turned into a two-hour gabfest. Read on to discover the passion behind the product, and what it’s really like to be on Shark Tank! NCW: Give our readers a bit of history on what Bon Affair is and how you came up with it. J.S.: Bon Affair is a light sparkling wine option that I created to balance my love for wine and my love for living a healthy, active lifestyle. In my past career, I worked in the fashion and action sports industry and there were constantly events/travel/dinners. They all seemed to involve alcohol and social drinking. Outside of work, I was super active with teaching kickboxing, snowboarding, wakeboarding, hiking, outrigger, and various other activities. The social drinking that was connected to all of the work events I attended was not ideal for my lifestyle. I discovered that adding soda water to my wine allowed me to drink socially and still feel good the next morning.

NCW: When did you know that Bon Affair was a risk worth taking? J.S.: While I was working at Burton I was starting to feel really burnt out. Although they were an amazing company to work for and it was a great job, I didn’t feel like it was going to get me where I wanted to go. While out one summer evening, I noticed how many of my friends (women and men) were drinking spritzers. It was then that I realized there was an underserved market. A couple months later during one of my longer business trips to Asia I was feeling extremely exhausted. I was about to turn 30, I wasn’t married, I didn’t have children, and I was ready to take the risk. It was now or never! I returned home from that trip, gave my notice, and dove in head first.

NCW: You were on the television show Shark Tank! How exciting! Can you tell us what that was like? J.S.: It was a pretty awesome experience! However, I never thought I would do something like getting on national TV and spilling my guts about my business. I knew it was a risk going on there, but I was willing to gamble in order to get the exposure and connections I needed to get Bon Affair off the ground.

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It was a LONG process leading up to the show. I studied every episode before I went on. I knew it was going to be a tough sell for the sharks so I was ready to be torn apart. I went in there to get a deal and it was intense! I was in there for about an hour and they were all firing questions at the same time (something you don’t realize when watching the show). It was difficult to know who to answer and they cut you off mid-sentence. Honestly, the whole experience is a bit of a blur. It felt as though I were in there for only five minutes when some of the Sharks started going out and not wanting to make a deal. It was a whirlwind! Thankfully, I secured a deal with Mark Cuban, and I was super excited! Unfortunately, I couldn’t talk about it with anyone because of the airing dates of the show and it was pure torture. We finally closed the deal five months later and the episode aired three months after that. All of the waiting and not being able to talk about it really felt like the hardest part. The best part? After the show aired, the business exploded! Our online sales sky rocketed and have remained steady. We now have distributors in four states which is so helpful because before Shark Tank I was doing all the deliveries myself. It’s been a crazy amount of work, but the great response from consumers has made it so much fun! NCW: What is it like working with Mark Cuban and what is the most important thing you have learned from him thus far? J.S.: It’s been great working with Mark! Not only has he provided us with amazing resources in all areas of the business, but he’s had some great ideas. In addition, he was instrumental in getting us into the Texas market. I couldn’t be happier.

The most important thing I’ve learned is to work on a tight budget and manage our cash flow. Having someone like Mark involved just makes you insanely motivated! I didn’t think I could be any more motivated before this, but sure enough it goes to show you can always improve and kick it up a gear. NCW: For all of our female entrepreneurs out there, what advice would you like to share with them about starting a new business? J.S.: Patience and persistence are the words I live by. I think it’s important to understand that things typically take longer than you want/expect, but you must remain relentless in your pursuit. If you’re passionate about your business, ready to make some sacrifices, and willing to work your butt off - go for it! I think the number one thing that helped me out along the way (aside from my insanely supportive husband) was finding good advisors who gave me tough love and told me the truth. Ultimately, surrounding yourself with people who believe in you helps you get through the tough times. NCW: Where can we go to purchase Bon Affair? J.S.: Bon Affair is available in Whole Foods all over Southern California and Albertsons in San Diego, as well as online in 43 states. I want to thank Jayla for taking the time to sit down with us and allowing us to feature her in the magazine. In my opinion, she deserves to do some celebrating herself! She literally threw herself into a tank of business-hungry sharks and came out a winner. She is funny, kind, and extremely motivated. She had a dream and turned it into reality. Let’s all raise a glass of Bon Affair and cheer Jayla on living the ultimate American dream!

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‘Tis The Season (Without Rhyme or Reason!) BY STEPHANIE LEWIS

T’WAS THE NIGHT BEFORE MENOPAUSE, WHEN ALL THROUGH MY BOD, NOT A CREATURE MOANED OR COMPLAINED MORE THAN ME, OMG! The Size 6’s were hung in the closet with care, In the hopes that Jenny Craig would soon take me there. My husband was nestled all snug in his bed, While visions of erotic positions danced in his head. When out on the lawn, there arose such a clatter Like when I shoved a Hooter’s waitress, with a taco platter. Away to the window I flew, triggering a hot flash, Followed by clammy skin, irregular heartbeat, and allergic rash. (Brain fog made me forget to tear open the shutters and pull up the sash) Oh, the moon on the breast of the new fallen snow! Not to mention my own breasts had sunk to a new low. When what to my fatigued eyes, who should appear? But a rich, black, chatty woman and a man wanting to do my pap smear. This wasn’t the plastic surgeon I ordered or the Avon Lady chick! I looked closer, recognizing Oprah and Dr. Oz, her sidekick. Then more rapid than eagles, my troubles came with sharp aim,

I demand someone plump or ugly like ‘Elf on the Shelf,’

And Dr Oz. and Oprah whooped and shouted, calling them by name.

Someone who makes me feel better, when I compare myself.

“Now Itchy, Now Bitchy, Now Sweaty And Sleepy,

With a wink of her eye, and a twist of her shiny, platinum head,

Now Bloaty, Now Psycho, Forgetful and Weepy.

Suzanne said, “No more Somercizing, you’ve nothing to dread!”

Onward Insomnia, Moody, and Fibroids So Creepy!

She spoke not another word and went straight to her work,

To the Top of the medicine cabinet with your symptom roll-call

Filled a few lacy stockings, (with garters) flashing a sexy smirk,

Dash away Metamucil, Calgon, Midol, Prozac and Geratol!

And laid a manicured fingernail aside her cute button nose,

Then up to the Ceiling Fan, this pair of Celebrities flew,

Didn’t her mom warn her about smirking, maybe her face froze?

Cameras rolling, talk shows and infomercials filming on cue.

I sprung to my feet as Dr. Oz and Oprah gave a wolf whistle,

Just then in a Twinkling, what did I hear on the roof?

Finally some hope that went beyond Black Cohosh and Milk Thistle!

A Sitcom Star more famous than this ridiculous spoof!

Who knew that a night of magic with Suzanne, Oprah and Dr. Oz

As I drew in my muffin top, and was turning around,

Would have me feeling so much better about entering Menopause?

Down the chimney Ms. Suzanne Somers came with a bound.

And away they all flew, but I heard them exclaim,

She was dressed all in (faux) fur from her head to her (chiseled) thigh,

“If you listen to us, you’ll be one awesome, hot dame!”

And she said, “Tis not the Thigh Master that keeps me so spry!”

That was the last I saw of those three, as they drove clear outa sight,

Bundles of hormones were flung over her (well-toned) back,

“Happy Menopause to all and don’t grow old without a good fight!”

With more Bio-Identicals stuffed in her (shapely) fanny pack. Her eyes, how they sparkled, her dimples how merry, Her cheeks were like roses, her lips like a cherry. “Listen,” I interrogated, “Do you still eat Gluten and Dairy??” “And how come you’re still here? Three’s Company went off the air? If I sound like a Grinch – It’s cuz I just found yet another gray hair. What did you do with that fat guy and his white beard and round belly? That shook when he laughed, like a bowl full of jelly. (And made me feel less guilty when I indulged at the Deli.) Say, you don’t have a stump of pipe in your teeth, With smoke that encircles your head like a wreath.

Stephanie Lewis

Stephanie D. Lewis, mother of six, is a regular contributing writer at the Huffington Post. Find more of her unique Female Humor at Order her psychological thriller novel, Lullabies & Alibis on Amazon. Reach Stephanie for your freelance writing needs at

And I betcha a new blonde wig, you wear Spanx underneath!”

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G ift Guide

Make the holidays merrier for the moms, sisters, aunts and friends in your life by gifting them one of the many unique gifts below. Kaila Beauty Bar & Med Spa In Encinitas and Quattra Via Aveda Salon | Spa | Inner Beauty Gallery in Carlsbad both offer a variety of gifts for men and women.

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SURVIVOR SIGN $19.99 Kaila Beauty Bar & Med Spa in Encinitas

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’doreus Takes a Win for

Plus-size Fashion

Sharlene Borromeo Earns Top Designer Seat at Fashion Week San Diego WRITTEN AND PHOTOGRAPHED BY DENISE VAKILI

ANOTHER FASHION WEEK SAN DIEGO (FWSD) WRAPPED ON SUNDAY, OCTOBER 5, AT THE SAN DIEGO PORT AUTHORITY BROADWAY PIER, AFTER A WEEK OF FESTIVITIES, INCLUDING RUNWAY FASHION SHOWS, MEDIA EVENTS, INDUSTRY TALKS AND A TRUNK SHOW. But the highlight of the week was the Thursday night show, when plus-size contemporary women’s wear designer Sharlene Borromeo’s models took to the runway wearing her markedly innovative, classic and timeless designs for her line, A’doreus. Taking home a first-place win for top FWSD designer, Borromeo could not have been more thrilled.


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“It’s pretty awesome just because I’m the only plus-size designer here at Fashion Week San Diego, and it’s really important because it’s a niche that hasn’t been tapped into yet,” said Borromeo. “ I’m just really excited and honored that Fashion Week San Diego gave me a platform to be the first and only plus-size designer here.” Borromeo’s showcase at FWSD is a logical reflection of statistics, which are now showing that 70 percent of American women are size 16 and above. According to NPD Group, the plus-size category in America alone generated $17.5 billion from May 2013 to April

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2014, and, according to analysts, retailers and fashion designers alike are seeing this as a growth opportunity. “I love what I do, and what keeps me going is being able to put a garment on someone and see them transform into a very confident woman,” Borromeo said. “ I definitely think that plus-size fashion is just as relevant as regular-size fashion because a majority of American women are larger, and that’s not being represented at malls or online. I’m here to help represent that community.”


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Diabetes Prevention for the Entire Family BY KELLY MOTADEL, M.D., M.P.H. To be sure, please consult with your personal physician.

NEARLY 10% OF AMERICANS, OR 25 MILLION PEOPLE, HAVE DIABETES. More startling is that according to the American Diabetes Association, another 86 million Americans across all ethnicities have “pre-diabetes,” yet most of them are unaware of it. You may be one of those people, and now—during American Diabetes Month—is the time to take action to prevent the onset of this chronic and often fatal disease. KIDS & TEENS The rise of obesity amongst children has pushed diabetes into my pediatric practice. The San Diego County Childhood Obesity Initiative promotes an easy pneumonic. “5-2-1-0” stands for daily limits of: • • • •

5 or more servings of fruits and vegetables 2 hours or less of recreational screen time 1 hour or more of physical activity 0 sugary drinks (soda, juice, sports drinks, etc.)

WOMEN Adults should get screened for diabetes. Diets high in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, beans, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish, and poultry, as well as regular exercise (150 minutes weekly) remain the primary form of prevention. However, if you are under 60, and at an increased risk for

Vista Community Clinic helps Oceanside and Vista residents choose health at community health fairs held throughout the year. Most recently, VCC was part of the American Diabetes Association’s health fair in Vista.

developing diabetes (obese, or history of diabetes in pregnancy), your physician may start you on a medication to prevent diabetes. PREGNANT WOMEN If you’ve had gestational diabetes, you’re at an increased risk for developing diabetes in the next 10-20 years. To prevent gestational diabetes, improve your health before you get pregnant. Once you’re pregnant, don’t’ “eat for two.” Pregnant women need no extra calories in their first trimester, and only about 350-450 extra calories—from nutritious sources—in the second and third trimester to sustain a healthy pregnancy. Those born to a mom with gestational diabetes have an increased risk for diabetes later in life. Breastfeeding may reduce the risk of diabetes for both mother and child. While some people will develop diabetes despite their best efforts, all of us should work to reduce our chance of diabetes. It’s good for overall health and it might just save your life. To learn more about diabetes and prevention programs, talk to your doctor, visit the American Diabetes Association at , or visit Vista Community Clinic’s website.

Kelly Motadel, M.D., M.P.H.

Kelly Motadel, M.D., M.P.H. is the Chief Medical Officer of Vista Community Clinic, a network of non-profit community clinics serving North San Diego County for over 40 years. Upon graduating from the University of California, San Diego School of Medicine, she simultaneously earned her Master of Public Health while she completed her residency and internship at the University of California, San Francisco program in Fresno, CA. She is board certified by the American Board of Pediatrics. Dr. Motadel is a wife and mother of two children, a 3 year-old son, and a 13 month-old daughter.

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Your Health | HOLIDAY STRESS 

10 Natural Tips for Reducing Holiday Stress BY MARTI AVILA

BE HONEST. What’s the first thing that comes to mind when someone mentions the holidays: winter scenes, candy canes and carolers, or maxed out credit cards, burned turkeys, and a family member crying in the bathroom? If you said the latter, congratulations, you are in the majority group. Although holidays are supposed to be a time for family, friends, and celebration, they can also be a time of anxiety, depression, and stress, but they don’t have to be.

too much alcohol, and you’re setting yourself up for a rough time.


SLEEP. You’ve seen the studies on how important sleep is. It is twice as important during hectic, busy, stressful times. Your body needs the down time to recuperate, recover, and rebuild. The most important thing you can do is adhere to your usual sleep pattern as closely as possible. With all of the holiday parties, be sure to take into consideration the time you have to be up the next day and how long you want to stay. If you come up short on sleep, add an extra hour of sleep for several nights to make up for the deficit. The recommended amount of sleep is seven to eight hours.


PERFECTION… THERE’S NO SUCH THING! Trying to be the perfect wife, mother, boss, employee, hostess, and even friend is an impossible job. Doing the best you can while enjoying yourself and those around you is a much easier, smaller bite to chew and more realistic. Delegate, don’t over extend yourself, say NO, and have fun. It’s your life, and it is up to you to make it a good, memorable one.


EXERCISE. It’s no secret that exercise relives stress, but did you know it helps keep your immune system strong and may even alleviate most colds? A brisk walk, a 15-minute bike ride, anything to get your blood circulating and oxygen/nutrients pumped to every cell in your body is always a step in the right, healthy direction. And just as a reminder, jumping to conclusions and beating around the bush are not forms of exercise!


BULK UP ON SUPPLEMENTS. Being stressed REALLY burns up your B vitamins as well as many other nutrients. Not only do you have to replace the ones you are burning up, it will not hurt to have extra in reserve.


LAST, BUT NOT LEAST, AND BY FAR THE EASIEST TO DO IS… BREATHE! When things get tough, the breath gets going. It is a typical impulse when stressed to take shorter, more shallow breaths. This reaction leaves your body with less oxygen when it really needs more. Breathe in slowly as you count to five and then exhale slowly. Do this three times and you will be surprised at how much better you feel immediately!

Following are 10 tips on how to keep the stress levels down this holiday season and the fun levels up:


BE GENTLE AND KIND TO YOURSELF AND FIND HUMOR WHEREVER YOU CAN. Keep things in perspective. It seems that everyone else’s deadlines and projects are always more important than yours. Remember that you are the engine pulling the family/office/ charity/organization/school functions and projects train. If the engine breaks down, then the whole train comes to a screeching halt. Even machinery has to be turned off for maintenance, especially during heavy use. The holidays are no exception. Take a time out and do whatever you like to do in order to give yourself more energy, power, stamina, and happiness (reading a book, yoga, watching a movie, getting a massage). Most importantly, do what makes you happy and don’t feel guilty about it. Trust me, you will earn your time out when everybody shows up at your house for the holiday dinners!


BE AWARE AND ACKNOWLEDGE ANY FEELINGS THAT MAY COME UP. Holidays are not always fun and games for everyone. There may be past hurt feelings or memories of family or friends that are no longer with us. Remember the fun times you had with them, cherish the memories, and be grateful that they were in your life to begin with. Look for good, positive things, and be grateful for what is in your life now.


PLAN AND CALCULATE FOR UNHEALTHY MEALS AND BEVERAGES. It is hard to eat 100% healthy anyway, but during the holidays sometimes it can be nearly impossible. I recommend eating light meals such as salads, roasted or lightly steamed vegetables, quinoa etc…along with drinking a lot of alkaline water the day before, the day of, and the day after a party. Make sure you eat healthy BEFORE you go to a party, and while you are there go easy on the unhealthy stuff. Don’t deprive yourself, but just a few bites of what you want to eat is a healthier way to go. And speaking of eating well…


EAT HEALTHY! 80% of your immune system is located in your gut. So if you want to stay healthy (sans colds and flu), keep your digestive system healthy by eating mostly organic squash, veggies, fruit and taking probiotics. An excellent way to prepare your gut for healthy digestion is by drinking hot water with honey and lemon first thing in the morning instead of coffee. This also aids in weight loss. (Now I have your attention, don’t I?)


AVOID SUGAR AND ARTIFICIAL SWEETENERS AT ALL COSTS! I might as well have asked you to kiss a unicorn while I’m at it, right? The truth is that eating sugar is the first step towards stress. If you have a toxic gut, how can anything else run well? Add to that junk food, GMO’s, and

So when the phone rings and you see that it’s your credit card company while the oven is billowing black smoke, and you hear whimpering coming from your bathroom, hopefully you will laugh, roll your eyes, take a deep breath and realize that this, too, shall pass… as long as you have plenty of tissues in the bathroom!

Happy and healthy holidays, everybody!

Marti Avila

Marti Avila is a Certified Holistic Health Coach; a Certified Ayurveda Practitioner; Certified Dr. Amen Brain Health Professional; trained in Dr. Sara Gottfried’s “Natural Hormone Cure”; Member of AADP; runs corporate wellness programs for companies; and does coaching oneon-one with individual clients. She has private practices in both Nevada and California. For more information please go to: www. or contact Marti at:

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Women in Business | EASING INTO THE HOLIDAYS 

The Professional Woman’s Guide to Easing Into the Holidays BY SUSAN DOHERTY

DO YOU LOVE IT, HATE IT OR JUST TOLERATE IT? I’m talking about the holiday season. However you may have answered that question, there is one thing that goes with the holidays for virtually everyone: holiday stress. Some thrive on it, others take months to recover from it.

there don’t open the menu and be the first to order (to avoid temptations); stick with your choice! • At the holiday meal buffet fill your plate with healthier options first. Put only a taste of the cheese-mashed potatoes on the plate, watch the bread and butter servings and perhaps share a piece of grandma’s apple pie with a loved one.

Below are 10 strategies to help mitigate the mental, emotional and physical damages that come with the season. Try to put at least six of them into practice and you can celebrate the New Year with health and happiness!


TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF. We get so caught up with our todo list, which typically involves what we want to do for others, that we often forget to take care of our own needs. Put time on your calendar for reading, a hot bath or even 20 minutes of meditation.


MAINTAIN YOUR EXERCISE ROUTINE. While it may be difficult to keep up the high intensity regiment of a normal week, keeping the placeholder of that routine is helpful come January. If you normally run, but don’t have time for exercise and a shower before the holiday party, either cut back on the time allotment or go for a walk instead. Even if all you do is change into workout clothes and sit on the weight bench, you are helping to maintain the habit. (And once you get there you might actually lift a weight or two!) It will be so much easier to start back up again if you haven’t neglected your routine altogether.



DON’T OVER COMMIT YOUR TIME. Between work, shopping, holiday parties and events, vacations, travel, family obligations, holiday cards, religious traditions -- and the list goes on, it is easy to become overwhelmed with commitments that start before Thanksgiving and carry into the New Year. Make a list of your top priorities and learn to say no to much of what falls below that line. EAT CONSCIOUSLY. The average American gains several pounds over the holidays. There are many ways to keep the calorie counts down. • Start every day with a nutritious breakfast. This will reduce the calories consumed during the rest of the day. • Drink a hot cup of herbal tea before meals. • When eating out at a restaurant, review the menu online before your go. Choose a healthy meal option; once

• Take a walk just before or after the meal. • Avoid the cookies and brownies sent by the well-meaning vendor.


LIMIT ALCOHOL INTAKE. It’s easy to get caught up in the “spirits” of the season, but they add hundreds of calories, lower our ability to make healthy choices and can lead to anxiety and even depression, particularly during the holidays. Choose a spritzer with lime instead.


FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE. You can choose how you react to people, places and things. For instance, you can be frustrated with crowded malls or you can listen for the sounds of holiday carols, watch people laugh, and enjoy the fun of finding just the right gift for a loved one.


DON’T RUSH! Plan your time so that you aren’t rushing to get everything done or to arrive on time, as this will surely cause a build-up of stress. Take deep breaths, slow down and just know all will be fine once you get there or when it gets done even if not on an arbitrary schedule.


LOOK FOR GIFTS WITH MEANING. Commercialism can create stress; therefore, finding a gift that your recipient will love will provide you with the joy of giving more than the scarf that is on sale on the end-cap at the mall, unless, of course, you know she will love it!

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THE HOLIDAYS CAN BE A TIME OF GRIEF. Choose to remember lost loved ones with happy memories instead of sadness. BE GENEROUS OF TIME AND SPIRIT. Volunteer to serve meals to the homeless or wrap gifts collected for the children’s hospital; open doors for the elderly or a shopper with loaded arms; or allow a driver to move into your lane. Nothing reduces stress like getting out of our own heads and helping others – or just being kind.

Susan Doherty

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Holiday Tips and Tricks BY BRITTANY ADAMSON

AS YOU GEAR UP FOR THE HOLIDAYS, THERE IS ONE THING THAT MIGHT NOT BE AT THE TOP OF YOUR LIST BUT IS SURE TO CROSS YOUR PATH: HOW ARE YOU GOING TO WEAR YOUR HAIR AND MAKEUP IN A WAY THAT FLAUNTS YOUR NATURAL BEAUTY BUT HAS AN EDGE? The holidays are the perfect time to glam up your look! Most likely you will have a couple of events to go to and you do not want to be caught rocking the same style! Having a few options in your back pocket is always a good idea. Not a beauty pro? You can still pull off something easy yet eye catching; however, if you have a specific red-carpet look that you’re going for, I suggest calling your favorite hairstylist/make-up artist. It can be difficult achieving the perfect look, so spoil yourself this season! Feel like a star and let somebody else handle the hard work while you sit back with a glass of wine and a magazine. Whether you choose to do it yourself or seek a professional, read on for great tips and tricks that will make you feel confident to take on the holidays with your best foot forward. Hairstyles have a lot of range this season. For my medium-to-long hair bombshells, a nice way of dressing up long hair is by curling it and then

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using a vintage hairpin or brooch to pin it up. You can also sweep all of your curls to one side and attach your accessory down at the nape of the neck to help hold hair over the shoulder, while still adding a little something. Pulled back or worn down, long, wavy hair is always gorgeous for a holiday party. To achieve the looks mentioned above, prep freshly washed hair with volumizing spray or mousse before giving yourself a blow-out using a round brush. The bigger the round brush, the more volume and less curl you’ll have; a smaller round brush will produce less volume and more curl. I love using Aveda’s Phomolient, Volumizing Tonic, and Pure Abundance style prep on damp hair. Make sure to wind the hair around the brush to get big waves. You can also use fat curlers or a one to two-inch curling wand (depending on the length of hair) to achieve a similar affect by curling hair in long, horizontal sections. Once hair is set, make sure to add volume at the crown, if needed, and spray with hairspray to ensure it holds. Another look is the messy side bun. This look is always a great go to

and is easy to transition from day to night. Start by creating texture with lots of dry shampoo. You can also backcomb hair to get it nice and big! Work with hair that hasn’t been freshly washed so it doesn't slip. Pull hair into a ponytail holder on the side, backcomb the ponytail so it maintains it's texture, then wrap the fat ponytail into a loose bun and secure with pins. Spritz hairspray to maintain the look. I always like to pull out a few strands around the face for a sassy finish.


For all my short-haired beauties, a vintage style inspired by the The Great Gatsby is always elegant. Start with a side part, which is the key to achieving this look. Next, create waves by using a curling wand with a smaller barrel for shorter hair. (Tip: prior to curling, use a heat-resistant spray such as Aveda Brilliant Damage Control with Chamomile). Separate hair into sections and start curling. Once hair has cooled, use a paddle or boar bristle brush to softly brush out the curls so they create loose waves. Try to focus on creating an S pattern with the hair around the face, spraying with hairspray as soon as you see it. (Note: If you want this look but have longer hair, simply follow the steps above and then create a faux bob by winding curled hair under and pinning at the nape of the neck). Another option for dressing up shorter hair is to simply add a few waves and spray with hairspray to keep it in place. Adding extra curls takes you from day to night in a snap. If you have a great sleek bob, consider getting it blown out professionally so it's picture perfect. You can also add a headband as a cute accessory. To add a little drama to your look, consider a side-swept bang paired with a messy bob. This is an absolutely gorgeous haircut for any party, and your friends are sure to notice the difference. Last, but not least, when you are in a pinch for time try these on-the-go tips. For straight, medium-length hair, wash and blow dry hair so its 70% dry in the morning, twist into a low bun (leave a few unkempt strands out around the face) and then undo hair before the party - you'll have gorgeous waves! You could also do the opposite. Blow dry hair and wear it down during the day then twist into a sophisticated bun for the evening. Allowing a few ends to pop out is very trendy right now. For curly, semi-long hair an unkempt updo is very sexy for parties. Let hair air dry in the morning and twist ringlets in place with fingers. After work, pull hair up into a modern version of a French twist or messy bun. Another option is to pull hair on the sides back and clip in place with a fancy clip. This look shows off your long curly locks but accentuates the face as well. Messy fishtail braids, milkmaid braids that wind around the top of the head, and the adorable braid that seems almost hidden in a pile of beachy waves are still popular styles. Regardless of the type of braid you choose, you will be right on trend if you weave a braid into your hairstyle this holiday season. Just make sure to look in a mirror and check yourself from behind to make sure your hair is perfect. Once you’ve chosen the hairstyle, it’s time to think about makeup! Two looks are classic and hot right now: The smoky, shimmery eye paired with light lips and the deep-red lips balanced with a light eye. Shimmer is in this year as it was last year, and it's the perfect festive look as long as you don't go overboard on the glitter. Primers are a must this season for both face and eye makeup. Primers go on before foundation or eye shadow and keep makeup in place for hours. They also fill in fine lines and skin impurities so your tinted moisturizer goes on smoothly (a personal favorite is Smashbox Photo Finish). If possible, try to skip the foundation and use a tinted moisturizer, which is much lighter and gives a dewy, more sultry finish. I suggest carrying oil-blotting papers if your skin tends to get shiny as time wears on. It's better to blot the oil than to continue applying powder, which can leave your makeup looking cakey. For a smoky eye, apply eyeliner on both top and bottom lashes. You can wing your eyeliner out if you choose, but be sure to smudge the rest as dark eyeliner

can age you. Next, use an eye shadow primer (I love Aveda’s Liquid Transformer), and add shimmery shadow on the lid. Apply your favorite mascara to finish the dramatic eye, and brush your outer lashes towards the outside of the eye to create more of a cat eye. Next, dab a shimmery blush to cheeks. Powder your face lightly if you choose, and contour under cheekbones and around jawline if desired. To complete the look, apply a light lipstick or gloss. If you’re going for a look with deep-red lips, choose a matte eye shadow in a color that's as close to your skin tone as possible. At most, add light, luminescent neutral color to the inner corner and through the contour of the eye and thin liner to the top eyelid (my favorite is liquid for this look). Apply a very light shimmery blush on cheeks. Finally, line lips and fill in with your favorite red color. For a high-class party, apply more shimmer or go deeper with the red lipstick. The number one rule to remember: never play up BOTH the eyes and the lips. Have fun this season! Make your look as memorable as you are. Remember this is the time to give and that doesn’t just mean to others. Gift yourself some pampering and achieve the head-turning compliments you deserve. Make sure to capture a photo to remember how good it felt to do a little extra. YOU DESERVE IT. Happy holidays and cheers to a new year and a new you!

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THE HOLIDAY SEASON CAN BE AN EXCEPTIONALLY BUSY TIME FOR MOST, BUT THIS DOESN’T MEAN THAT YOUR EVERY DAY STYLE HAS TO TAKE A BACK SEAT. First fashion rule of thumb, don’t over think it. Let your seasonal style remain effortless yet adventurous. Whether you’re running errands, hosting a dinner party, or attending a work function, be a little playful in the way you dress. After all, the holiday season is about entertaining! It is ok to have fun with fashion especially during the holidays! As all of your holiday parties start to roll around don’t panic. You can express your style differently at each event. For example, a holiday work function is your time to shine. A chance to break out of your normal work mode and show your co-workers a more glammed-up version of what they are accustomed to seeing around the office. Throw on a slim, sexy, and effortlessly chic pantsuit with a feminine blouse. Try adding a little sparkle, such as a statement necklace to take your polished look to the next level. For holiday gatherings with friends and family try incorporating a few fun holiday additives into your look to really funk up your style. Try mixing in a little fur, faux of course, and some gold accessories to your average silk dress to transform your typical party attire into holiday-worthy wear. No matter what the occasion, even if it’s just a simple get-together, this is your time to step out of the box and be a bit more adventurous with your look. During a season full of fabulous fabrics, textures, and styles why wouldn’t you want to take a little risk? Toast to the holiday season with fabulous fashion and dress to impress! With all the glitz and glamour this season has to offer it will be hard NOT to step out in style.

1 DRESS: Tolani Natasha Red Diamond $178 SHOES: Marco Delli Shakira Bootie $495 HANDBAG: Stela 9 Handbag


BELT: Streets Ahead Black Leather Belt $138 JEWELRY: American Gypsy Vintage Silver Necklace $148

Angelica Lopez

Wardrobe Consultant & Jewelry Designer AMERICAN GYPSY JEWELRY

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I am currently the store manager at Camellia, a women’s contemporary clothing boutique nestled along the Coast Highway in Solana Beach, California. Camellia has been a wonderful outlet to help grow my career in the fashion community, as well as with the launch of my jewelry line, American Gypsy in 2012. American Gypsy is a collection of eclectic, bohemian-inspired fashion jewelry, consisting of materials from all over the globe from past and present times. I take pride in providing my customers with truly unique pieces of jewelry that will take them effortlessly from season to season for years to come!



DRESS: Lavender Brown Cowl Neck Shift $208 COAT: ABS Faux Fur Swing Coat $358 SHOES: Sam Edelman Julian Black Suede $148 BELT: Streets Ahead Gold Chain Belt $158 JEWELRY: American Gypsy Vintage Coin Collar $158

3 SHIRT: Axara Silk Top$168 PANTS: Axara Trouser $214 SHOES: Sam Edelman Okala Black Leather $110 HANDBAG: Hammitt "The Strip" AM Bag $624 JEWELRY: American Gypsy Agate Dagger Necklace $198

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Jolly Ways

To Grow Your Biz Over the Holidays BY LIZ GOODGOLD

HERE’S MY BIG SECRET: • Let everyone else believe that no business gets conducted over the holidays • Let my competitors take a vacation • Let other folks give up on working for the six weeks during Thanksgiving and Christmas….because I’m networking my way to new biz over the holidays! Wanna join me? HOLIDAYS ARE THE PERFECT TIME TO BUILD YOUR NETWORK, CEMENT RELATIONSHIPS, AND GET ON THE BUDGET FOR NEXT YEAR. WHY?


Liz Goodgold

Liz Goodgold is a branding speaker, author, and coach who works with entrepreneurs to brand out, stand out, and cash in on their expertise. Download her free booklet on branding at or reach her at or 858550-7000.

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There are endless holiday parties offering you an opportunity to make new connections. Make a resolution today to attend one new association event.


Business folks have more time for a cup of coffee or lunch to learn about new growth plans. Start calendaring your appointments now!


Budgets are being finalized during this timetable. Leapfrog over your competitors by having your project earmarked for funding.


Holiday cheer makes attendees feel more relaxed, social, and even inclined to “pay it forward” by helping colleagues. What’s your plan to help someone else?


Delivering a thoughtful holiday gift gives you the opportunity to truly thank them for the current business. Have you thought about gifts?

What’s your holiday plan? I welcome your comments.


Tis the Season to Be Grateful and...


THE HOLIDAY SEASON IS A GREAT TIME TO DO TWO VERY IMPORTANT THINGS: BE GRATEFUL AND EXPRESS YOUR GRATITUDE TO OTHERS. Work on a plan to make 2015 your best ever and share that plan with people who will support you and hold you accountable.

Charlie Martin

Charlie Martin is a seasoned business executive with over 35 years in senior leadership experience including CEO, COO, EVP and 10 years as a Certified Executive Leadership Coach. He is the author of The Tools of Engagement and holds M.A and B.S. degrees from the University of Central Missouri and Leadership Coaching Certification from Georgetown University. Charlie is known as “The Clarity Coach.” He resides in Carlsbad and helps companies and individuals get clear about what they want to achieve and then helps them achieve their defined goals. For more information or to contact Charlie, please visit: 214-869-6148

It’s easy to overlook how many things we all have to be grateful for, however, the holidays aren’t the only time we should think about showing gratitude. This is something we should strive to do every day. Haven’t been great at doing this daily? Now is a good time to catch up and create a new groove. What do you have to be grateful for? Here are some categories to help you get started: • Health. You notice it when you don’t have it, and being unhealthy gets in the way of almost everything you want to accomplish. Whatever level of health you do possess—celebrate it and be grateful.

write it down in your journal. • Opportunities. All you have to do to recognize your opportunities is ask yourself, “why not me?” Express your gratitude for the freedom you have to choose your pursuits. Celebrate your options. Be grateful for all the possibilities that are available to you. • Helping Hand. Think of all the ways you can help others realize their dreams and step up and help them. The feeling you get from supporting and helping others is immeasurable! Be grateful for the opportunity. This list of categories could go on forever but this should get you started this holiday season. Once you start down the path of recognizing, recording, and sharing daily what you are grateful for you may never stop! Perhaps you will get others started and maybe even start a movement throughout North County. Now for the and….

• Family and Friends. Notice how much you are supported by them, thank them and give back fourfold. Think of all the ways others have helped you arrive to where you are and know they were glad to do it.

Be sure to spend some time during the holiday season to think about 2015. I’m not talking about the New Year’s resolution kind of thinking I’m talking about deep, introspective thinking.

• Living in beautiful North County San Diego. It’s easy to take where you live for granted. It’s even easy to complain about the things that irritate you. Get up one day when you are not going to work, and make a list of all the positive things about where you live. Keep that list handy and notice just one great thing to be grateful for every day and

What do you want 2015 to be like for you? When and what will you need to do to start taking those small positive steps in order to make it happen? Enjoy the positive spirits of the holiday season. Express your gratefulness and give a little thought to the possibilities that are available to you for 2015.

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 Estate Planning | 2015 RESOLUTION

Creating Your Estate Plan ~ A Great 2015 New Year’s Resolution BY BECCA FLETCHER

Becca Fletcher

If you would like help with planning your own estate, please contact Becca Fletcher at and visit

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AS YOU ARE CONSIDERING YOUR NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS FOR 2015, AND IF SO, WHY NOT CONSIDER CREATING YOUR ESTATE PLAN AS PART OF YOUR RESOLUTION LIST? Creating an estate plan is often something people put off, but in my experience, people who DO create their estate plans feel a huge sense of relief! Because of the reduction in stress, many report sleeping better at night and traveling with more confidence as a result of having a plan in place. Establishing an estate plan with a revocable living trust and powers of attorney for health care and financial decisions provides comfort knowing that you will avoid probate. Furthermore, it ensures that someone is there to take care of your needs if you are ever severely injured or incapacitated. Also, if you have young children, creating an estate plan allows you to name the people who would take care of your children if you were not able to do so yourself. This is such a huge issue and one you likely do not want to leave to the courts to decide. Give yourself the peace of mind that comes with generating a plan for your loved ones and your estate, and start your year off on the right foot!

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Windus Fernandez Brinkkord


is an independent financial advisor who specializes in helping professionals, executives, and high net worth individuals build their wealth and achieve their financial goals. She provides her clients with the guidance and advice they need to stay focused and the support they require to build the retirement of their dreams. Windus provides her clients with independent, objective advice that always keeps their needs, goals, and values first. She believes in helping her clients build active, successful lives that emphasize a balance between work and play. Windus is a keen hiker, surfer, and outdoor athlete and enjoys sharing her love of the outdoors with her clients. For more information, please contact Windus at 858.314.5169; www.the windusplan; windus.

and Investing: Do You Have a Plan? BY WINDUS FERNANDEZ BRINKKORD

WHERE MEN ONCE DOMINATED FINANCIAL AFFAIRS, THE GROWING PRESENCE OF WOMEN IN THE WORKPLACE AND AS HEADS OF HOUSEHOLD IS INTRODUCING A PARADIGM SHIFT. Women are rapidly becoming a force to be reckoned with as they take increasing responsibility for their long-term goals and financial health.

financial planning as they should be. A 2011 report released by HSBC showed that many women are not prepared for retirement; just 24% of women in their fifties claimed to have a financial plan in place.i The same report found the following: • 65% of men make all or most of their household's financial decisions without input from wives or other family members.

Women investors face special challenges that make financial literacy and advanced planning especially important. Women are more likely to outlive their husbands, or be disproportionately affected by a divorce, making long-term financial strategies especially critical. This four part series was developed as a resource for women who are seeking guidance on how to take control of their financial lives. We hope that you will find it useful and we encourage you to take notes as you go along and write down any questions you may have. In this issue, we start with the foundation of woman as investors. CHALLENGES WOMEN INVESTORS FACE Women face particular challenges in investing and financial planning. It’s important to acknowledge these challenges and explore them with your family and trusted financial professional. Determining the right solutions to your particular financial situation is critical to developing a long-term strategy and pursuing a comfortable, secure retirement. While every woman and every family is different, research shows that American women face many challenges and this first challenge is particularly difficult:

• 4 in 10 men claim sole decision-making responsibility in retirement planning, compared to 25% of women.ii Lack of involvement in financial affairs can put women in a highly vulnerable position should anything happen to their husbands. For more information on how to better prepare as a couple or as a female investor, please contact Windus directly. In the next issue, I will discuss more about how much more conservative woman are in regards to investing in general while earning less than their male counterparts. Men Still Take the Lead in Retirement Planning: Survey; Investment Executive. 2011. i

Men Still Take the Lead in Retirement Planning: Survey; Investment Executive. 2011. ii

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At some point in their lives, 90% of women will have sole responsibility for their finances. Source: A Woman's Guide to Financial Planning 2011

Based on what research has found about life expectancies, on average, women outlive men. Losing a spouse is heart wrenching, and in a family where the husband managed the finances, a widow may need to quickly take control of family finances. Without planning, this transition can add to an already stressful situation and lead to costly errors. Families can prepare for this eventuality by ensuring that both spouses are involved in managing family finances. However, research shows us that many women are not as involved in their


• Globally, over 1 billion women participate in the workforce. Out of these, 70 million are American. • U.S. life expectancy of American women: 80.69 years. • U.S. life expectancy of American men: 75.65 years. • In the U.S, approximately 33% of working married women earn more money than their husbands. • Women are the sole heads of 32% of U.S households. • More women are inheriting wealth because of longevity and demographic patterns. Sources: U.S. Census Bureau, CIA World Factbook 2011

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Adoption Option


is a 9-month old neutered male. He is a black lab blend whose owner passed away and has no family members to care for him. He came in on 10/7/14.


is a 5-year old gray, spayed female pit bull that came in as a stray on 8/20/14.


is a 2-year old male who is a chocolate colored Doberman blend. He came in as a stray on 9/29/14.


is a 3-year old male German shepherd. He loves tennis balls but not other dogs. He came in as a stray on 10/2/14.

For more information about these and other loveable, adoptable animals please visit: County of San Diego Department of Animal Services


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Joyto the


Wishing you a beautiful holiday season and a new year of peace and happiness!

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