by JOEY GARCIA
Conscious dating Where are the conscious men? I moved to Sacramento six months ago. I’m single, 45 years old, fit and have a great career. I do yoga and meditate daily and consider myself a spiritual person. The men I’ve met here are not very self-aware. It’s disconcerting that so many men are spiritually unavailable. What’s going on?
Write a personal note in a beautiful blank card. Pair it with a thoughtful gift that shows you’ve been paying attention to the things your crush enjoys. You can also give her the kind of item you might bring to a dinner party at a friend’s home: a bouquet of flowers, a bottle of wine or an exceptional box of chocolates. Keep the purchase under $25. It’s simple: You haven’t yet met the man That probably answers your question, who is looking for you. Trust me, he’s but just in case, here are other timelines to out there wondering where the conscious consider. The trickiest dating period is one women are, and why he doesn’t feel a to three months, because you’re not excluconnection with the women he’s meeting. sive or serious yet, but one of you probably Hopefully, he’s not putting those women wants to be. Missteps include love bombing down because that wouldn’t be in alignment a crush with gifts that are too romantic or with an evolved consciousness, right? expensive. That’s a sign you’re pushing the So when you meet a man, how do relationship to the stage your mind fantayou know he’s awake? A core quality of sizes about, instead of allowing love to consciousness is the ability to unfold naturally. Redirect your communicate honestly and to focus to a gift certificate for manage conflict respectfully. playful activities neither of A conscious person is you are experts in. Think driven by the desire to rowing, kayaking, indoor When you meet a grow, so he willingly skydiving, outdoor ice man, how do you tackles any relationship skating or a cooking class. issues that arise. When know he’s awake? The couple that plays the going gets tough, together discovers the healhe engages in difficult ing power of laughter. conversations without yelling And since I’ve been talkor name-calling or running ing to a lot of bickering couples away. He’s open to your feedback, let me add that, for them, the best gift recognizes his responsibility and handles it. is one that’s a reminder of happier times. Ω A conscious man wants to be understood and he seeks to understand. He’s authentic and ready to share responsibility for the care and nurturing of the relationship. MedITaTIon of The Week It’s easy to imagine that a conscious “As long as we are not relationship will be a happily-ever-after ourselves, we will try to be story. Yes, there’s love and beauty. But what other people are,” writes there will be fear, too, because a conscious Malidoma Patrice Somé. The relationship will inspire you to play big in greatest gift we can give the your life, to love with abandon and to be Divine and the world is to be seen. If you desire a conscious man, align ourselves. What do you need to shed to be more you? your energy—start living as if you are already in love with him. In the process, you’ll see and can change any attitudes or Joey co-hosts The Salve behaviors that might be pushing away the podcast with Bethany Crouch: man you desire. www.joeygarcia.com/salve. What’s the holiday gift protocol for a girl I like but haven’t dated that long? I’ve been given advice from my mom and some others but I wonder what you think. Thanks. If you’ve been on between one and four dates with someone and think the relationship has long-term potential, keep it classy.
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