Lead Like Jesus: Ignite Student Guide by NavPress

Student guide

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Acknowledgements I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:3-6 The Apostle Paul reminds us of the importance of giving thanks to those who’ve partnered with us. There have been many people who participated in the creation of Ignite to whom we are grateful... Our Heavenly Father who gives richly to all who ask, to His Son, Jesus for a life well-lived that perfectly demonstrated the message we teach and to the Holy Spirit for the ability to live, love and lead like Jesus… Phyllis Hendry for championing the message that Jesus is the greatest leadership role model of all time… Tommy Moore for his practical leadership and strategic thinking in support of the product development process that created Ignite… Karen McGuire for her direction and wisdom in insuring the integrity of the Lead Like Jesus message is reflected in the content of the Ignite program… Wendy Seidman for leading the charge of turning an idea into reality through her gifts, talent, expertise and endless hours of priceless time… John Herring, Life Bible Study and NavPress for catching the vision of students who lead like Jesus and investing time and resources into making it a reality… Mark Clement, Scott Ross and Big Picture Media for writing, filming and creating video content that would inspire students to reach higher and dream more… Jerry Haddock and the Association of Christian Schools International for encouraging the creation of a leadership experience for students to support the ACSI mission… Julie Georggin for her commitment to bringing this experience to students and vital leadership in establishing Lead Like Jesus as a trusted provider to ACSI… The Youth Advisory Council of the LLJ facilitators who dreamed dreams, shared ideas, and believed that the Lead Like Jesus message should be taught to students… Word Worship and Brett Rutledge for the permission to use Make Us More… Every adult leader, teacher and parent who invests his or her life in raising up the next generation of leaders in the image and model of Jesus… And every student who is inspired and challenged by Ignite to transform the world.

IGNITE STUDENT GUIDE TABLE OF CONTENTS Session 1: Who Will I Follow?..................................................................................................................... 3 Session 2: The Heart of a Leader—How Am I Edging God Out?................................................ 9 Session 3: The Heart of a Leader —How Do I Exalt God Only?.................................................19 Session 4: The Head of a Leader —Where Am I Headed?...........................................................27 Session 5: The Hands of a Leader —How Do I Develop People?..............................................35 Session 6: The Habits of a Leader —How Do I Stay Connected with God?.........................45 Appendix:.........................................................................................................................................................53 ++ Takeaways ++ Experiencing God’s Unconditional Love (verses) ++ EGO Assessment: o Pride Assessment o Fear Assessment

SESSION 1

WHO WILL I FOLLOW?

WELCOME LARGE GROUP ACTIVITY Before the video begins, take a moment to answer the following question:

I’m not a leader.

How do I view myself? 3

I’m not sure.

5 I’m definitely a leader.

WHY LEADERSHIP MATTERS As you watch this video, you can use the notes below to follow along.

Leadership matters (whether it’s good or bad) because it impacts others’ lives. Definition of a Leader: Any time you influence the thinking, behavior or development of another person, you’re taking on the role of a leader.

Large Group Discussion 4

WHO WILL I FOLLOW? (PART 1)

Large Group Discussion

WHO WILL I FOLLOW? (PART 2) As you watch this video, you can use the notes below to follow along.

He calls us to use our influence to serve. (He calls us to lead as He led.) How well am I leading? ++ Who should I measure myself against? ++ Who should I use for my leadership role model? ❑ Parents? ❑ Celebrity? ❑ Star athlete? ❑ Music artist? ❑ (Other?)

What about Jesus (as your role model)? He: ++ Changed the course of history. ++ Started a worldwide movement that still exists today. ++ Was the main character in the best-selling book of all time. ++ Built into a team of people. ++ Delegated His mission to them (the Great Commission). ++ Dealt with the same challenges as you and me: o Imperfect people o Rejection o Criticism o People bullied Him o Major temptation o Betrayed by close friends Transformed Leadership: ++ Leading yourself ++ Leading others in a one-on-one relationship ++ Leading a group or team ++ Leading a community or organization We’re going to focus on leading yourself because our hearts have to be transformed to be like Jesus, and that’s the only way we’ll be able to lead like Jesus.

Large Group Since Jesus is to be our leadership role model, we then need to look at who He was most influenced by. ++ John 12:49-50—For I did not speak on my own, but the Father who sent me commanded me to say all that I have spoken. I know that his command leads to eternal life. So whatever I say is just what the Father has told me to say. ++ John 14:31—But he comes so that the world may learn that I love the Father and do exactly what my Father has commanded me.

++ John 15:15—I no longer call you servants, because servants do not know their master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.

What did Jesus’ Father say about His Son? ++ • Matthew 3:17—This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased. Clearly the Father loved Jesus and influenced Him. The most influential relationship we’re called to have is with the Father—just as Jesus did.

SMALL GROUP ACTIVITY: HOW CAN GOD INFLUENCE YOU? 1. G et into groups of 4. (Depending on the number of students, one or more groups of five may be necessary. The person with the longest hair leads.) 2. R ead the following scripture passages and then answer the question: What does God say about us? Psalm 139: 13-16—The Message Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day. Ephesians 1:11-12—The Message It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us,

had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone. What is God saying about youâ&#x20AC;Śus?

3. A s a group, brainstorm answers to the question below. Then write down one step you will take and share it with the group. During your day, when you realize that other people are influencing your choices, what steps can you take to be influenced by the Father instead? What is one step I can take to be influenced by the Father instead of by others?

Large GROUP DEBRIEF Ideas to help you be influenced by the Father instead of others:

in closing Write down one step you want to take in the Takeaway section in the Appendix.

SESSION 2

The heart of a leader HOW AM I EDGING GOD OUT?

Large Group Four Leadership Domains The Heart of a leader—our motivation or why we lead. This is where transformation begins. The Head of a leader—what we think and believe about leadership. It influences our choices and decisions. The Hands of a leader—what leaders do. It impacts our actions. The Habits of a leader—how leaders stay intimately connected with God.

This session is about the Heart of a leader: Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

How am i edging God out? It’s easy to see others’ shortcomings and faults, but when it comes to our own, we’re often blind. Leading like Jesus is a heart issue; if we don’t get that right, then nothing will make us a servant leader. Matthew 20:26-28 Whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many. BTW, Jesus didn’t offer a Plan B ++ He didn’t say: “Oh, you only have to serve those who are nice to you.” ++ We’re not off the hook with those who are angry or bitter. ++ Jesus said to serve, just as He served.

So, what causes us to only look out for ourselves (satisfying our own needs first instead of serving the best interests of others?)*

Edging God out as... who i worship

My source of security & self-worth

My Audience & ultimate authority in my life

Results in two kinds of EGO problems

We’re about promoting ourselves. We tend to show off, do all the talking take all the credit. It’s me, me, me.

We’re about protecting ourselves. We’re always worried. So, we care too much about what others think about us. We try to control the people around us.

(*One answer is that we put our trust in things and relationships—to give us our self-worth and security—instead of in God and His promises. )

Large Group Discussion

EGO Assessment

JUST YOU

1. Complete both parts of the EGO Assessment located in the Appendix: • Pride Assessment • Fear Assessment 2. Total your scores to determine what your heart motivation is.

PRIDE AND FEAR

Edging God out as... who i worship

My source of security & self-worth

My Audience & ultimate authority in my life

Results in two kinds of ego problems

We’re about promoting ourselves.

We’re about protecting ourselves.

We tend to show off, do all the talking take all the credit.

We’re always worried. So, we care too much about what others think about us.

It’s me, me, me. “I’m better than…” We have an overly high opinion of ourselves. We tend to be haughty and arrogant. Romans 12:3 “…thinking more of and about yourself than you should.”

Pride & Fear

Always Cause us to compare ourselves to others, so we’re never happy…(never content or we become arrogant and judgmental). Distort the truth about living life God’s way, so we think we’re missing out if we do (which causes us to lie or exaggerate). Separate us from God, others and ourselves (so we feel isolated and alone).

We try to control the people around us. “I’m not good enough.” We are insecure, have low self-esteem/lack selfconfidence. We can be afraid to give our opinion. We try to please others. We think too much about what others think. We can also come off as prideful. We worry about our appearances. We strive for perfection. Proverbs 29:25 “The fear of man is a trap.”

Large Group Discussion Scott, the youth pastor in the video, mentioned 3 ways that pride and fear affect us. They always cause us to: ++ Separate from God, others and ourselves. ++ Compare ourselves to others. ++ Distort the truth by lying or exaggerating.

Current or Past Project Work Group: When you compared yourself to others, did you become anxious or arrogant?

How did you isolate or separate yourself from the group: Did you remain silent (not speaking up because you were afraid) or did you monopolize the conversation (keeping others from contributing)?

In what ways did you lie or exaggerate to keep from getting in trouble or to sound better than you really were?

SMALL GROUP ACTIVITY 1. Get into a group of four or five. (The leader is the one who has had a pet the longest.) 2. Share with your group: a. Which you’re primarily challenged by: pride/fear/both. b. How you normally express it. (If it helps, you can use a statement from the Assessment you thought was most true of you.) c. A current project work group/service group/club you’re in—a group where you have to work with others to get something accomplished. (If you aren’t currently in a group, think of a past group experience.) d. A time when you reacted out of pride/fear and what you think triggered it.

Pride/fear/both?

How you normally express it:

Project work group:

What triggered your pride/fear?

in closing The key to handling these types of situations and people is to recognize what triggers us to respond out of pride and fear. Because before we can LEAD like Jesus, we have to BE like Jesus. Write down your Takeaway from Session 2 in the Appendix.

SESSION 3

The heart of a leader HOW DO I EXALT GOD ONLY?

EXALTING GOD ONLY (Part 1) LARGE GROUP ACTIVITY If you were in Carmen’s situation, would you: 1. Just act like you normally would? 2. T urn around and make a joke to lighten up the situation, like “You’d look much better if you tied your hair up”? 3. T ry again to connect with Tasha? 4. Just leave and connect with her later?

EXALTING GOD ONLY (Part 2) Moving away from pride and fear means understanding each other’s world—seeing things from another’s perspective, not just your own. How does that happen? ++ Reach out to that person, putting their hurt, pain, or anger before your own pride or fear. ++ When you get rejected, don’t give up! ++ STOP and step back emotionally. o “Stuff” your own EGO down by acknowledging: • Your own fear (fear of rejection, being lashed out against). • Your own pride swelling up (from being treated in a way you don’t like). o Choose to act: • With humility vs. being prideful. • With confidence vs. being fearful. Moving away from your pride or fear means moving toward Exalting God Only

Exalting god only as... The only one I worship

The only one who gives me my security & Self worth

My Audience of one and the highest authority in my life

Replaces pride and fear with

Large Group Humility and confidence only come through surrender—giving ourselves—our EGO— completely to God. Tasha and Carmen’s relationship began to move: ++ From isolating themselves from each other to being in community. ++ From distorting the truth by putting up fronts to authenticity and trust by being real and truthful with each other. ++ From comparing themselves with one another to contentment by stopping the competition and accepting each other. Now the question is: What are you going to do about YOUR heart? A transformed heart is only something the Holy Spirit can do. But, there is something you CAN do and that is to invite God to be Lord of your life. We’re talking about total surrender, like King David did in Psalm 51:10, when he said: Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.

SURRENDER

JUST YOU

The purpose of this time is to give you an opportunity to ask God to become the Lord of your life, including the Lord of your relationships. Allow God to speak directly to you about how you can grow in humility if you tend to be prideful or in confidence if you tend to be fearful. 1. D ecide whether it’s pride or fear that primarily motivates you. (If it’s both, choose one to focus on at this time.) 2. Read the verses below under that heading (Confidence or Humility) and choose the one that is the most meaningful to you.. 3. A s time allows, do one or more of the following (there’s space below to write down your thoughts): a. Write the verse in your own words. Then read your paraphrase back to yourself.

b. State the opposite meaning of the verse. (Proverbs 3:4-6—Don’t trust God, figure out everything on your own.) • What impact does the verse have now? c. Personalize the verse. (Prov. 3 (insert your name), trust in God . . .) • Let the Holy Spirit apply it to a need, a challenge, an opportunity or a failure in your life. • What will you do to apply this verse in your life? Be specific. d. Pray the verse back to God. Put your own name or situation in the verse. (Father, please help me to trust you with my fear of (insert fear here); I can’t figure this out myself.) CONFIDENCE •F or you have been my hope, O Sovereign LORD, my confidence since my youth. Psalm 71:5 •T he fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17 • But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. Jeremiah 17:7 • Such confidence as this is ours through Christ before God. 2 Corinthians 3:4 • I n him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence. Ephesians 3:12 • I n this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. 1 John 4:17 HUMILITY • He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them his way. Psalms 25:9 • Humility and the fear of the LORD bring wealth and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4 •B e completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3 •D o nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Philippians 2:3 •T herefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12 •W ho is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. James 3:13

Notes:

4. S pend a couple of minutes writing down one step you can take to move away from fear/pride toward confidence in God/humility.

A step I can begin taking toward confidence/humility:

SMALL GROUP ACTIVITY: EXALTING GOD ONLY 1. Get into groups of three or four. 2. Tell your partners the following information: ++ The work group situation you discussed in Session 2 ++ What triggered your pride/fear/both ++ What you did about it (even if it was “nothing”) ++ The step you just identified that you want to begin taking—from page X 3. Then as a group, brainstorm other steps or ways you could respond.

LARGE GROUP DEBRIEF

in closing As leaders, we need to CHOOSE to step back and respond to others with humility or confidence rather than reacting out of pride or fear. We need to invite God into the moment. Write down your Takeaway from this session in the Appendix.

SESSION 4

The heAD of a leader WHERE AM I HEADED?

The Head of a leader is what we think and believe about leadership, people, and work. It influences our choices and decisions. It starts with knowing who we are and connecting our vision to God’s vision.

WHY VISION MATTERS (PART 1) Our Heart—What motivates us Our Head—What we believe about leadership and leading others (it influences our choices and decisions): ++ It’s knowing who you are, where you’re going, and how you’re going to get there. ++ It’s knowing how and why to include others.

LARGE GROUP DISCUSSION

WHY VISION MATTERS (PART 2) What would you do if people in your group weren’t putting in the effort to get something done? You could try: ++ Ordering them around. ++ Using threats. ++ Giving up totally and just doing it yourself. OR you could try encouraging them by using a leadership skill called “Vision Casting.”

Vision ++ It’s a picture of the PREFERRED future, the future you want to see come true. ++ It’s got to tell others what you want to see happen and why—because vision is what gives people the inspiration to keep on keeping on. For example: ++ Martin Luther King saw a future with everyone having civil rights—not just a few ++ Jesus saw sin no longer blocking our way to God. o He saw a future where there were no more sacrifices—He was it, the final one. o So now all we have to do is ask Him for forgiveness and to come into our lives to lead us. Proverbs 29:18 says, “Without a vision, the people will perish.” How does vision affect our world? In Jake’s case: ++ He already knows “what” he wants Sam to do: come to practice, come on time and play his heart out. ++ Jake’s missing the “why”—the inspiration for Sam to “keep on keeping on.” ++ So, finally, Jake tells Sam it isn’t really about just following through on a commitment or not wanting to make a fool of themselves (neither of those goals are very inspiring). ++ The vision is really about helping out kids—a whole school full—who can’t afford school supplies and backpacks. ++ Then Jake ties in how their band could make that happen—that music is powerful and can touch the hearts of their friends like nothing else. This connection through music can inspire friends to really want to give their money to this cause.

LARGE GROUP DISCUSSION Jesus’ vision for leadership was and still is radical. He lays it out in Matthew 20:25-28: Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” He knows we’re wired for greatness, and He even affirms it. However, He does have a radical definition of it. The world defines a great leader as having power over others by being the smartest, the richest, the sexiest, the most powerful. You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Jesus on the other hand defines a great leader as someone one who strives to serve others. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve . . . Notice that Jesus doesn’t tell us to be “greater than”—that would be comparison. Rather, Jesus just tells us to become great. Because He knows that when we’re great, we’ll bring out greatness in others. To be great, we need to serve. Being a great leader means using our influence to serve others not exploit them. And a key way we can serve others and bring out their greatness is by: ++ Understanding God’s vision for us personally and how it fits into His overall plan. ++ Inviting others to join in.

FIRST STEPS TOWARD A PERSONAL VISION STATEMENT (PART 1) 1. What am I good at? / What do I love to do? [Hint: Think about your skills/abilities/talents or your spiritual gifts if you know them.]

JUST YOU

For example—I’m good at or love: Art/music/singing Math/science/computers Writing Sports Fixing cars Selling/Making money Cooking School Waterskiing Reading Tutoring Animals Organizing/planning Getting people together Hospitality Helping others Leading Teaching/speaking/debating Star the top 2-3 that you feel the strongest about. 2. How can I use what I’m good at or love to do to serve others? For example: ++ I love playing in a band, I could get our band to play for charity events to help the poor/needy. ++ I’m good at art and I’m creative. I want to help organizations that help the homeless by doing the artwork for their flyers, posters, or brochures, so people will really want to volunteer and give money to get people off the streets. ++ I love to read, so I’m going to start a book club and invite/include those students that are on the fringe. ++ I’m good at math and I could tutor others in the peer mentoring program or an after-school program/ministry. ++ I love waterskiing and I have the gift of evangelism. I want to use waterskiing to reach other kids for Christ. So, I’m thinking of starting a waterskiing club/ministry and offer to teach kids how to ski and use that time to ask them questions and talk to them about God. ++ I’m good at leading others. I could get a group together to raise money for the food pantry.

How can I use what Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m good at or love to do to serve others?

SMALL GROUP ACTIVITY: FIRST STEPS TOWARD YOUR VISION STATEMENT (PART 2) 1. Get into groups of 4. (The person with the shortest hair is the leader.) 2. S hare what you just wrote down (#2 above: how you can use what youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re good at or love to do to serve others) with the group. 3. T hen, as a group, brainstorm as many ideas as possible for how you could use your skills/ abilities/talents/spiritual gifts to serve others. Be sure to write their ideas down in the space below. 4. Allow about 2 minutes per person, and then move to the next person in the group. 5. After everyone is finished, take a moment to review the brainstorming ideas you just wrote down and the idea you shared with the group (#2 above). Then star the one you like the most. Brainstorming Ideas:

LARGE GROUP ACTIVITY What’s one thing you can do to bring out the “greatness” in others (your work group or your family)—what’s one way you can serve them?

in closing Write down your Takeaway from this session in the Appendix.

SESSION 5

THE HANDS OF A LEADER HOW DO I DEVELOP OTHERS?

Large Group Jesus led and equipped others for greatness using the same stages that He experienced and progressed through as a carpenter.

THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER (PART 1) The Heart and the Head are vital to leadership, but at some point you need to put leadership into action. The Hands is where: ++ You’re thinking more about others (than yourself!)—helping them get “A’s.” ++ You’re really loving them—“The opposite of loving others is using them.” ++ You help them move from where they currently are to where they want to be. The Hands is about developing others. Jesus developed others the way that He was developed as a carpenter. ++ Stage 1: Novice o Someone who’s just starting out o They need basic information about what they’re doing—the “who, what, when, where, why and how” to do the task ++ Stage 2: Apprentice o Someone who’s in training—they’re getting the hang of a task, but they’re still not able to work alone o They still need instruction. They need to be able to practice the task/skill and be evaluated on it. They need to know that they’re doing the right thing the right way and to be corrected when they don’t quite “have it” yet.

++ Stage 3: Journeyman o Someone who’s able to work independently because they’ve developed the skills to do the task/skill well o They just need to be assigned the job (so they can go get it done!), but they also need encouragement because they can still get disillusioned and discouraged. ++ Stage 4: Master/Teacher o Someone who’s mastered the skill/task and is now able to teach others o They just need affirmation and autonomy.

LARGE GROUP ACTIVITY If it helps, use the Learning Stages chart to help determine which stage you think the following situations describe.

LEAR N I NG STAGES NOVICE Someone just starting out

APPRENTICE Someone in training

JOURNEYMAN Someone able to work on their own

MASTER Someone able to teach others

LEADER PROVIDES (Leadership Styles)

INSTRUCTING

COACHING

MENTORING

COMMISSIONING

Basic information; what, how, where, when, why

Instruction; practice; evaluation

Assignment; encouragement

Affirmation; autonomy

The task is the disciples casting out a demon: “Lord, have mercy on my son,” he said . . . I brought him to your disciples, but they couldn’t heal him . . . Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of the boy . . . then the disciples came to Jesus in private and asked, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?” he replied “because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed . . . nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:15-20 Learning Stage: The task is being a disciple: As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. “Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will make you fishers of men.” Matthew 4:18-19 Learning Stage:

The task is learning to drive: A teenager has just received her driver’s license and her dad asks her to drive to the store for him. She rear-ends another car because she was playing with the radio. Learning Stage:

The task is preaching the Good News: “God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified, both Lord and Christ.” When the people heard this they were cut to the heart and said to Peter and the other apostles, “Brothers, what shall we do?” Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins . . .” Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day. Acts 2:36-41 Learning Stage:

As you do this next activity, keep this verse in mind: Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Matthew 20:25

PARTNER UP: DEVELOPING OTHERS USING THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER (WOC) MODEL 1. Find a partner. Then take a couple of minutes on your own to answer question #2. 2. T hink of a work group situation where you’re helping someone learn a task. However, if there isn’t one, then any situation will work. Then write down: a. The task b. The Learning Stage you think that person is in (Novice/Apprentice/Journeyman/ Master-Teacher) c. Your next step—the kind of leadership you think they need (Instructing/Coaching/ Mentoring/Commissioning) • For example: o Work Group Situation: Aksel isn’t getting the PowerPoint (PPT) presentation done because he‘s struggling with how to integrate some pieces into it. When I tried to explain it to him, he just didn’t get it. o Task: He needs to integrate elements into the PPT presentation. o Stage: Novice. Even though he’s a master/teacher with the basics of PPT, he’s a novice when it comes to integrating other elements into it. o Next Step (leadership required): Instruct by first showing him step-by-step how to integrate one of the elements; next have him integrate one while I’m watching (so I can troubleshoot); and finally, have him integrate another element while I’m working on something else in case he needs help.

• For example: o Other Situation: My mom isn’t understanding when I try to teach her how to download an app on her iPad. o Task: She needs to download apps on her own. o Learning Stage: Novice. She’s clueless about this technology! o Next Step (leadership required): Instruct my mom by first showing her how to download an app and then having her write down the steps before she finally tries it herself.

Situation:

Task:

Learning Stage you think that person is in:

Next Step to take (leadership required):

3. T ake a few minutes to share your answers with your partner. Then brainstorm other ideas for next steps you could take with that person.

THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER (PART 2) As we develop others, we need to recognize when pride or fear is getting in the way of helping others win. (It can be really hard to care about someone who’s challenging you, your motives, or what you’re trying to do.) So, as quickly as you can: ++ Recognize when you’re wanting to react to someone out of your pride/fear. ++ Overcome it by responding differently or having an uncomfortable conversation. For example, Carmen with Mike: ++ Carmen recognized pride beginning to well up inside her, as a response to how Mike was reacting to her. ++ She then talked to Mike right away about it. o She didn’t say: “That comment was really annoying, why did you say that?” (This causes people to become defensive.) o She did say: “Maybe it’s just me, but I feel like I’m really irritating you. Did I do something wrong?” (Starting with an “I” statement causes people to be more open.)

PARTNER UP: THE WAY OF THE CARPENTER AND PRIDE/FEAR 1. G et back with your partner and think about the person you were just brainstorming about. 2. L ook at the following charts and read the statements that correspond to the stage that person is in.

Put a check by the statements that reflect how your pride/fear might be affecting your relationship.

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH A NOVICE Fear: ❑ Of failing ❑ Of losing (“wasting”) time training/overseeing Novice ❑ Of the Novice being better than you are Pride: ❑ Impatient with having to teach the fundamentals ❑ Frustrated with slow progress ❑ Tempted to delegate prematurely ❑ Tempted to judge the Novice’s potential too quickly

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH AN APPRENTICE Fear: ❑ Of failing ❑ Of others’ opinions ❑ Of criticism (from Apprentice) ❑ Of losing your own position (to Apprentice) Pride: ❑ Frustrated with Apprentice’s lack of enthusiasm ❑ Unrealistic expectations ❑ Tempted to delegate prematurely ❑ Tempted to judge the novice’s potential too quickly

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH A JOURNEYMAN Fear: ❑ Of intimacy required to deal with Journeyman’s issues/needs ❑ Of Journeyman surpassing them Pride: ❑ Lacking sensitivity to Journeyman’s lost enthusiasm ❑ Taking advantage of the Journeyman

LEADER EGO ISSUES WHEN WORKING WITH A MASTER/TEACHER Fear: ❑ Of personal competition from fully inspired and equipped follower ❑ Of losing their role/job when follower can do what the leader can do ❑ Of losing control ❑ Causing the leader to not share information or recognition

3. Then share one way you’ll change your approach with that person. ++ For example: I want to be more patient with Aksel and I need to help him out instead of expecting him to deliver something he currently can’t do without some help. ++ For example: I get frustrated with having to explain things to my mom over and over. So, I want to approach her with a heart that really wants to serve her instead of approaching her as though she’s a pain.

One way you’ll change your approach:

LARGE GROUP DEBRIEF

LARGE GROUP DISCUSSION A key part of being a great leader is being a great follower and learning how to lead up. This means being able to positively influence those who have rightful authority over you by how you respond to them. A key relationship where you can begin leading up is with your parents.

in closing Write down your Takeaway in the Appendix.

SESSION 6

THE HABITS OF A LEADER HOW DO I STAY CONNECTED WITH GOD?

Large Group THE HABITS OF A LEADER (PART 1) Habits—those practices that help us stay connected with God. Jesus, the Son of God, even HE had to have great Habits to stay connected with His Father So, if He needed it, stands to reason we do too! 5 Key Habits: 1. S olitude—being silent and completely alone with God to listen to His “still small voice” At daybreak Jesus went out to a solitary place. The people were looking for him and when they came to where he was, they tried to keep Him from leaving them. Luke 4:24 ++ No agenda ++ Away from everyone and everything

2. P rayer—having a conversation with God Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Mark 11:24 ++ Talking with Him, but also listening to Him ++ Really believing He cares about you and wants to know what’s on your heart ++ Believing that He will change you ++ A way to connect our plans and efforts with His plans

LARGE GROUP ACTIVITY Rate yourself: SOLITUDE 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently. PRAYER 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently.

THE HABITS OF A LEADER (PART 2)

3. A pplying Scripture—reading the Bible and then applying it/using it in your life Do not merely listen to the Word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. James 1:22 ++ A love letter from God ++ A “how-to” manual for life—including how to deal with people

4. E xperiencing God’s Unconditional Love—reflecting on and soaking in His love And may I have the power to understand how wide, how long, how high, and how deep your love really is. May I experience your love so that I will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from you. Ephesians 3:18-19 ++ Experiencing how crazy He is about you ++ Because we can’t give something away that we don’t have ++ (Unconditionally loving the people around you) ++ (Getting your self-worth and your security only from Him) ++ (This is the antidote to pride and fear.)

5. S afe Relationships—friends you can relax and be yourself with and hold you accountable As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17 ++ Who encourage us ++ Who when necessary, keep our feet on the ground (will tell us the truth) ++ (Who will be real with you) ++ (Who will challenge, encourage and ask hard questions when you need it)

These 5 Habits connect you to God so He can ignite something incredible in your life.

LARGE GROUP ACTIVITY Rate yourself: APPLYING SCRIPTURE 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently. EXPERIENCING GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently. SAFE RELATIONSHIPS 1 2 3 4 5 I don’t do I sometimes I do this habit this habit. do this habit. consistently.

1. L ooking back at how you assessed yourself, which Habit do you do the most? What benefit do you get from that Habit?

2. W hich Habit would you like to start or do more of? It doesn’t have to be a Habit that you rated yourself low on.

3. What Habit did you choose and why?

4. Find a partner (or get into groups of 3 to include everyone) and share your answer.

The point is for the Habits to CONNECT US WITH GOD not become a task to be checked off! The only antidote to our pride and fear is experiencing His unconditional love. (Note: The Experiencing God’s Unconditional Love verses (and more) are in the Appendix.) Jesus came from love, with love and for love. And he wants us to feel and believe that we’re unconditionally loved. The final secret for leading others like Jesus is that it’s love-based.

PARTNER ACTIVITY: EXPRESSING LOVE

1. F ind a partner. If you need to have a group of 3, do so. 2. F ill in the blanks in the following sentence and then share your answer with your partner: “I want to be more

(insert a word from the list below) with (a key relationship). One way I’ll do that is by

(insert one action you’ll take).” For example: • I want to be more courteous with my dad. One way I’ll do that is by not looking at my cell phone when he’s talking to me. • I want to be more patient with Michael, who’s in my work group. I’ll do that by not interrupting him anymore.

Words Describing Love (1 Corinthian 13): ++ Patient ++ Kind ++ Content ++ Humble ++ Courteous ++ Good-natured ++ Gracious ++ Encouraging ++ Sincere 3. Pray for your partner, specifically for the key relationship and action step they identified.

Large Group COURSE SUMMARY As leaders, we need to constantly be reminded of how much we matter to God because, as leaders, we need to remind those around us how much they matter to God. Leadership is fundamentally about serving others as Jesus did and loving them as He did. ++ We’ve discovered that our Heart is mostly motivated by pride or fear. But, then we discovered how we can move toward humility or confidence. ++ We looked at the Head of a leader and you took the first steps toward writing your own Vision statement. ++ We then turned to the Hands of a leader and how you can develop others by serving them instead of using them. ++ Finally, we experienced a few of the Habits of a leader—how we can stay connected with God. You chose one to begin practicing. Turn to the Takeaway section of your book. Look at the ones you wrote down, and then star 1—or 2 that you want to act on.

in closing

Ignite! CLOSING PRAYER

APPENDIX

TAKEAWAYS FOR... SESSION 1:

SESSION 2:

SESSION 3:

SESSION 4:

SESSION 5:

SESSION 6:

EXPERIENCING GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (OPTION: Insert Your Name in the Verses Below) ++ (Your name), I no longer call you “servant.” I call you “friend.” (John 15:15) ++ Seek first my kingdom and all you need will be yours, (Your name). (Matthew 6:33) ++ (Your name), I take great delight in you. (Zephaniah 3:17) ++ Come to me like a child. (Luke 9:48) ++ Put your hope in me. (Psalm 42:5-6) ++ I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. (Jeremiah 29:11) ++ You can always approach me with confidence. (1John 5:14) ++ Ask and you will receive. (Matthew 7:7-8) ++ I am the vine. You are my branch. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. (John 15:5) ++ I forgive you. (Mark 11:25) ++ I have called you by name and you are mine. (Isaiah 43:1) ++ Nothing can separate you from my love. (Romans 8:38-39) ++ You are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalms 139:14) ++ Forget what is behind and press on to the goal to which you have been called. (Philipians 3:13-14) ++ Follow me, and I will make you a fisher of men. (Matthew 4:19) ++ You are the apple of my eye. (Psalms 17:8) ++ Come to me and I will give you rest. (John 15:16) ++ You didn’t choose me, I chose you. (John 15:16) ++ Call to me and I will tell you great things. (Jeremiah 33:3) ++ I will never leave you or forsake you. (Joshua 1:5) ++ I am preparing a place for you. (John 14:3) ++ I know your name. (Exodus 33:17) ++ Before you were born, I knew you. (Jeremiah 1:5) ++ I stand at your door and knock. If you open it, I will come in. (Revelations 3:20) ++ I will work all things for your good. (Romans 8:28) ++ I want you to have life, life to the full. (John 10:10)

PRIDE ASSESSMENT Use the following scale to assess how true these statements are of you. Be sure to answer them as realistically as possible—not how you want to be! 1 2 3 4 5 _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ It’s definitely not true.

It’s rarely true.

It’s sometimes true.

It’s true most of the time.

Yes, it’s definitely true of me!

_________ I don’t like acknowledging that someone else’s idea is actually better than my own. (“The better their idea the more angry I get!”) _________ I n conversations/groups, I do all the talking, boast, crack jokes and/or showoff to get attention. _________ I expect others to do what I ask because I’m the smartest in the group, captain of the team, or first chair, etc. _________ I judge the value of an idea by who said it rather than how good the idea actually is. _________ I treat people as too far beneath me to talk to them (For example: those who aren’t that athletic, not as smart, don’t dress well, don’t have as much money, are from another culture/ethnic group or are in the wrong group of friends.) _________ I find myself correcting people if they say or do something incorrectly. _________ B eing right or not wanting to admit I’m wrong is more important than owning up to the truth. _________ E xceeding in sports, band, school or another area is a mark of success and is more important to me than if I hurt people in the process.

_________ I act as if rules and standards don’t apply to me. _________ I look in the mirror to find the source of all success (taking all the credit) and out the window for the cause of failure (pointing the blame at others).

_________ TOTAL

40-50 Pride is your primary motivator. 30-39

Pride is an issue that you need to address.

20-29

Pride is a small factor in your life.

10-19

Pride is rarely a factor in your relationships.

FEAR ASSESSMENT Use the following scale to assess how true these statements are of you. Be sure to answer them as realistically as possible—not how you want to be! 1 2 3 4 5 _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ It’s definitely not true.

It’s rarely true.

It’s sometimes true.

It’s true most of the time.

Yes, it’s definitely true of me!

_________ People say I’m negative, anxious, or critical. _________ T o increase my sense of security and self-esteem, I rely on who I know or which group I’m in; how much money I have; where I live; what I own; or how well I’m performing in school/sports/music/etc.

_________ I ’m more concerned about others’ opinions than listening to my own “heart.” _________ I ’m too afraid of being rejected to take a stand. _________ I find myself not saying “no” even when I know that “no” is the right answer. _________ I hate conflict and avoid it at all costs. _________ I t’s really hard for me to tell others that I don’t know the answer or that I need help. I’m afraid I’ll look dumb or that I don’t have my act together. _________ F itting in is critical, and I will do anything to keep being accepted by the group I want to belong to. _________ I t’s important for people to like me. So, it upsets me when I’m in conflict with someone or someone says something negative about me or rejects me. _________ I need approval of others to feel like I’m “OK” or doing well.

_________ TOTAL

40-50

Fear is your primary motivator.

30-39

Fear is an issue you need to address.

20-29

Fear is a small factor in your life.

10-19

Fear is rarely a factor in your relationships.

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