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At The Cronin Law Firm, and find the best resolution for emails are answered thoroughly, dren’s interests.” means going to trial, Cronin and “We’re fierce litigators. We exceptional service means that my clients, protecting their busi- Steadfast Litigators her team advance with fearless a nd c l ient s a re l i stene d to take cases to trial and win,” she ca lls are returned promptly, ness interests as well as their chil- When a client’s best interests determination. carefully. says. “Our passion is to help emails are answered thoroughly, dren’s interests.” means going to trial, Cronin and “We’re fierce litigators. We “Too many other lawyers forget people, and the best complia nd c l ient s a re l i stene d to take cases to trial and win,” she that this is a service profession,” carefully. says. “Our passion is to help Cronin adds. “We make sure our returning client or a referral from “Too many other lawyers forget people, and the best compliclients feel heard.” a client.” that this is a service profession,” ment for our untiring efforts is a Cronin adds. “We make sure our returning client or a referral from clients feel heard.” a client.” 21 E A S T LO N G L A K E R OA D, SU I T E 25 0 , B LO O M FI EL D H I L L S, M I | 8 55 - C A L L- C R O N I N C A L LC R O N I N L AW.CO M 21 E A S T LO N G L A K E R OA D, SU I T E 25 0, B LO O M FI EL D H I L L S, M I | 8 55 - C A L L- C R O N I N C A L LC R O N I N L AW.CO M
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Kindness & Gratitude November is such a wonderful month; gratitude and kindness fill the air. Everyone seems to express their appreciation for the gifts in their lives and the willingness to return kindness. What a great time of year. Being thankful for the big things in life seem to be easy, but it’s the little things that often make the biggest difference. A random act of kindness, a loving smile, a kind word, a funny thought, an innocent giggle, a great cup of coffee or a morning kiss from your loved one. Those are the things to embrace.
“Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.”
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As I reflect this holiday season, I find myself overwhelmed with gratitude on so many levels. I am in a very grateful place in my life with a man that I love and adore, blessed with both his and my children, and the beautiful grandchildren they have given us. I have many wonderful friends, and many memorable moments that surround me as well. Life is a journey, a beautiful wonderful journey, and I am grateful for every moment that presents itself. Reflecting on your life, what is it that you are grateful for? Is it the little moments that take your breath away, the large ones that are easy to see, or the simple things that are sometimes missed and realized later? Oftentimes, those are the ones that can make all the difference. Being aware of your moments is the kindest thing you can do for yourself and others. A grateful heart reflects more than your realize.
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Life’s Garden
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love to be in the garden. As I walk among the garden beds that I am privileged to tend, I explore the thousands of ways Mother Nature shows her unending tenacity. Both flowers and weeds greet me with equal delight. As a gardener, I have grown to understand that healthy conditions are necessary for a garden to flourish. Many ingredients contribute to the health of the soil. Decaying leaves, rich soil, tiny insects, microbes, water and so much more, all are necessary to make the soil conditions just right for both weeds and flowers to grow. Singularly, these substances can do little, but together their perfect blending can help plants spring forth from the Earth, delighting us with their variety of textures, colors, fragrances, and tastes. This bounty provides our bounty. From morning to night, and from season to season, the same garden is never truly quite the same. Each and every hour of each and every day, the same place offers vastly different experiences. Each season offers it’s own unique beauty. So too, do the seasons of life. Walking through the garden in the early morning hours of spring, I am greeted with the cool, fresh dew as it sparkles in the morning sun. If you are patient and observant long enough, you can witness the magical elixir of water as it offers each delicate sprout their morning drink before evaporating into the morning mist, blending with the ethers. These morning hours remind me of the promise of new life that our children have before them. With mysterious wonder, an infant takes in the environment, all which can either add or detract from their stability, strength, and growth. We must remember to tend to the garden of our children. As the bright sun begins to warm a summer’s day, both flowers and weeds have quietly expanded their roots, anchoring themselves firmly in the Earth. This enables them to reach for the moisture hidden from view below while reaching for the nourishment provided by our star in the sky. So too, do our young men and women need solid ground on which to stand so that they can feel the
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strength of their roots, even as they reach for their goals and aspirations. As gentle summer evening breezes cool the heat of day, fireflies, crickets, and frogs decorate the air with their rejoicing and merriment, delighting the child within us all. The melody of nature changes as wind and rain come and go in both gentle and violent ways. Nature displays her magnificence unceasingly. I love the stillness of evening’s approach; gentle scents perfume the air with the fragrance of nature’s last call. As we reflect upon the passage of time, and as we think of the ways in which we have either contributed or detracted from the health of our world, we can no longer doubt that our positive contributions are needed at all times. Each and every stroll in a garden is perfect, just as each and every life is perfect. At every moment, during every day, nature always reflects back to us the tools that we need to thrive. In a garden and in life, everything depends upon the conditions in which growth begins. In the beginning of life, it is wise to tend to the environment you create so that little ones can germinate, sprout, and grow strong under the shelter of your care. As weeds infiltrate a garden, so too do seemingly unwanted experiences, needing gentle guidance to remove that which is unwanted. When untended, it is easy for ignored problems to overtake the beauty you wish to encourage. The lessons of life can be hindrances or gifts, depending upon your perspective, your attitude, and your choice. I love to garden. And I love life. I hope you do too. Elaine Grohman is a speaker, author, energy healer and angel reader. She has a private practice in Farmington, MI. For appointments please contact Lainie Rubio at 248.320.6532 or visit her website at www.elainegrohman.com
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entle kind eyes and soothing voice belie a reservoir of tenacity and a fund of knowledge that Sabrina Cronin holds and is perfectly capable of unleashing in the defense of her clients. “My experience as a prosecutor strengthened me tremendously, so I am very good at representing other people,” states Sabrina with a smile. Despite her petite frame and youthful appearance, it is clear when she speaks, Sabrina has the experience to rise up and meet
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any challenge or hurdle, in life or in the courtroom. My immediate impression is that she exudes a quiet power, yet she is genuinely warm and engaging. But her most striking attribute of all was easy to see. She listens. Indeed, she is an intense listener—a skill that is underdeveloped in many people who have half as much responsibility and time as she does. Sabrina allowed no distractions or interruptions during my conversation with her. She is attentive in a way that feels incredibly respectful and caring.
Her calm composure and hospitality completely disguised the level of lively hustle that is behind every aspect of her life. Sabrina is a mother of three young children, ages four, six, and eight, and an attorney and founder of The Cronin Law Firm in Bloomfield Hills; what she accomplishes on any given day is stunning. Sabrina beams when she talks about her children, “Our mornings are crazy. I am up every day at 5:30 am. I make them breakfasts and pack their lunches and help to get them ready. Then we are off to school. Our evenings are
equally busy, with dinner, homework, laundry, activities, my work; I go until 11:30 at night. I don’t believe this is unusual, though. I think every parent experiences this crazy schedule. ” Whether it is parenting or law or the business of running her firm, I dare say that Sabrina is hard-wired to give at least 100 percent effort to her daily responsibilities. She has found value in leveraging her tandem abilities as a busy mother and busy professional. Not every parent or professional possesses her enviable energy and work ethic. She has assembled a professional team with similar values and attributes. She tells me that they know how to budget their time and get things done, and most of all, they care.
Aside from her 20 years of practicing law, Sabrina has an education and experience that includes a JD and MBA. She also has a BFA in addition to a full year at Madonna University studying nursing home administration, regulations, and law. This is a powerful set of tools that she couples with attention to detail and deep compassion for her clients. In her two decades as an attorney, Sabrina has fed her curiosity and challenged herself to get involved more deeply with many aspects of the
law. She has handled civil litigation, family law, and insurance defense. She has also done labor, employment, and human resource work. She has worked for large law firms and also in the Oakland County Prosecutor’s Office as an assistant prosecuting attorney. This diverse background has made her a compassionate and tough litigator. Sabrina represents many CEOs and large companies, but she offers the same effective service and respect to juvenile offenders and drunk drivers. She strives for excellence in every case, big and small.
“I certainly can’t take all the credit for what we do,” she admits. “It is really my team, the team that I built around me, that helps me to do what I do best. I am very blessed. They help me to be a better attorney, a better mother, and a better person.” Now she works with several associates, but Sabrina started it all from scratch from her home office several years ago. The organic growth of her practice is a direct result of her professionalism, business acumen, and especially her obvious personal grit. She has a palpable drive to deliver the best effort possible in all her endeavors, including on behalf of her clients, and that simple recipe has brought her success. People come back. They refer friends and business associates to her. Sabrina has earned a Distinguished Service Award for Oakland County and an American Jurisprudence Award for Trial Advocacy. Her exceptional service includes faithfully communicating with clients and never missing deadlines. Tart dress $144, Rear Ends Necklaces $55 and $48, Gunmetal hoops $41, Lolly Ella, West Bloomfield Ring, Stella and Dot
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We discuss the range of clientele that seek out her firm. While there are many who are faced with things like divorce or business complications, there are also those who have taken a bad turn in their lives and need representation. “Not one person on this earth is without fault at some time in their life,” conveys Sabrina. “We all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. I enjoy helping people and giving them the hope for second chances, especially those who are truly remorseful and they know that they just made a bad decision.” And when those clients are ready to make an effort to alter the trajectory of their lives, Sabrina and her team are there to give them the support they need to have more successful outcomes. “I love the feeling of helping someone. I think the most rewarding part of my job is when I know that I am making an impact on a person’s life, and I am just as much of a counselor as a lawyer to that person.” BBDakota top $70 Sanctuary burgandy leggings $79 Rear Ends, West Bloomfield & Bloomfield Hills Vince Camuto sandals Sundance Shoes, West Bloomfield
It all matters very much to Sabrina. “I take it very personally because for me, it is personal.” She shares that she has experienced some questionable and even abusive situations, “When you have been there, you can smell it in somebody else.” This works in her favor in the legal realm. An impassioned attorney is an energetic and powerful advocate for clients. The Cronin Law Firm is a multi-area specialty law firm that handles a myriad of cases in business law, family law, personal injury, and immigration, to name a few. “We put out quality. We have the breadth and depth of a large law firm,
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Sabrina Cronin with her husband Kevin.
but the personal service of a smaller boutique firm.” Their expertise in business law includes both transactional and litigation. Within the context of family law practice, Sabrina mentions probate, estate planning, juvenile, divorce and custody, and prenuptial and post-nuptial agreements. Personal injury law is another large part of firm’s offerings, and they also handle immigration matters. “We do a lot of litigation,” shares Sabrina. “We also represent criminal defendants. As a former prosecutor, I am very capable of handling this work.”
While this kind of attention supports clients in all facets of her practice, where this makes a very big impact is in business law. “When clients are in the midst of a business crisis, it can be very emotional,” she relates. “That is their livelihood. It is everything to them.” Sabrina understands that a person’s lifestyle, their future, and their identity are all on the line and they can feel overwhelmed and vulnerable. “Even some of the most successful business men and women need strong legal and emotional support sometimes, and I am there for them as much as I am for a frightened juvenile who has committed a crime.” She genuinely means that and has her phone with her all day, every day. “I take calls in the early morning and late at night. At the end of my extremely
busy day, I can lay my head on my pillow and know that I did all that I could and did my best for that day.”
complement each other both professionally and personally.”
Insight, compassion, and a strong devotion to her responsibilities surfaced during my conversation with Sabrina. She carries all of those traits over to her personal life with her husband and family. Her husband, Kevin, is a former special agent with the U.S. Department of Homeland Security and currently works for Mackinac Partners, a premier business intelligence and corporate security firm. Sabrina and Kevin are united partners on several fronts, supporting each other professionally as well as in their marriage and family.
Did I mention that Sabrina is also an accomplished musician? She is modest about her talents and passions that reach beyond her law firm, but not too long ago she enjoyed a successful music career as well as being a piano teacher and voice coach.
“I am proud of Sabrina and all of her accomplishments. She works tirelessly for her clients and her family. On a personal note, Sabrina is an amazing mother and wife, who gave me three beautiful children. Despite our busy schedules, we always make sure to put family first,” her husband Kevin shares.
Her soft side for those she loves is evident as she related caring for her aging father-in-law in her home. Sabrina wanted to keep him close and part of the family, but when he recently reached the point where he needed more frequent medical attention, Sabrina had to allow him be moved to a nursing facility.
Sabrina had nothing but appreciation for Kevin in return. “Kevin has always been supportive and is a very dedicated father. I have the privilege not only to call him my husband, but we are united in business as well. Our careers often intersect and we
“I love him and miss him very much,” Sabrina affectionately reflects, and shares that she gets great satisfaction from being a caregiver and a mom. “Maybe I should have been a nurse. I have a lot of patience for doing things that a lot of other people would not do.”
Sabrina has been told several times in her life that she is too sensitive; that she cares too much. Leaning in with sincerity, she shares, “I use my sensitivity for the benefit of others. I believe it is a strength, not a weakness.” That capacity to step up and champion someone, protecting them in their hour of need is what makes her a great lawyer. As an attorney, she is frequently dealing with people who are at a vulnerable time and turning point in their personal or professional lives and require tough legal representation as well as a little tenderness. She delivers both in spades. Assistant Photographers: Robert Olinski Maurice Sanders Wardrobe Stylist: Jessica Kocik Hair & Makeup: Aferdita Qafa eydis.com | November 2015 | 17
How Giving Creates
ABUNDANCE BY GIVING, YOU ACKNOWLEDGE THE PRESENCE OF, OR YOUR DESIRE FOR, ABUNDANCE by Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC
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ave you heard the adage that what you give, you receive?
It is often suggested that individuals who are depressed volunteer. Giving is a feel-good activity, it can raise endorphins, increase one’s sense of empowerment, and establish social relevance. Financial advisors often recommend that people donate to a charity of their choice, even if it is a small amount. The Beatles sang on their Abbey Road album “And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” 18 | Eydís Magazine
IS INTER-CONNECTEDNESS AND EMPATHY THE KEY? In 2009, the California based McClatchy Newspapers found that those who are poor donate 4.3% of their income to charities, while the rich donate half that (2.1%). After reading this, Michael Kraus, assistant professor of psychology at UC Berkeley, developed a study with colleagues. He found that people with a lower income are conscious of their own precarious situation and are more sensitive to the challenges that others may be facing. Kraus found that those who are middle and upper class were found to be more disinterested of others, yet nearly as
likely to donate when they had been primed for compassion by a sensitizing video. Kraus says, “If you were just to slow down a little bit and consider the people around you and their emotional experiences, you would become aware of other people’s distress and you would probably be more likely to help people when they need it.” (Studies try to find why poorer people are more charitable than the wealthy. Michael De Groote, Deseret News, 5/25/12)
THE ENERGY OF GIVING Medium John Holland says that loving yourself starts a high-level vibration through your heart center, and attracts
feel like inner tension and stiffness. You can address it outwardly by beginning the cycle of giving, or you can address the energy directly. • Connect with nature or your faith. • Look at your thoughts and avoid interpretations of scarcity. • Soften the inner tension and stiffness by relaxing your arms, face, shoulders, and legs, and then focus your breathing into the “spaces between the molecules” of your tightness. When your energy is pinched-off, it affects both emotional longings (love, affection, attention) and moneyoriented desires (material goods, job).
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love in many forms. Here’s another explanation of this: every thought, even those directed toward the self, launches a unique vibration that goes in all directions and dimensions—think physical, time, spiritual—and collects other similar vibrations. Then, this multiplied result returns to its point of origin—you. Teachers of metaphysics explain that whatever you give—fear or love—returns to you ten-fold. If you resist giving, then you pinch the flow of energy (the vibrations), making it less likely to receive. If you are self-aware, you can actually feel this pinching inside your body. It may
Do you feel that your significant relationships are one-sided? If you actually or symbolically point your finger at another, realize that when your index finger stretches outward in blame or anger, three other fingers point toward you. Often, what you are “judging” in the other is what you desire for yourself. Make the effort to evaluate what you think you want from others so that you can identify what you need to provide for yourself. Do you want time with your spouse? Initiate time together. Do you want more physical affection? Reach out and touch. Do you feel overwhelmed and unsupported? Incorporate self-care and healthy boundaries so that you can be open to support others, and to receive from them as well.
GIVE BECAUSE IT IS WHO YOU ARE You may have a knowing that there is something important you are here to do. Sometimes being is your path. If not, and you are still seeking or developing your true mission, you can enhance and spread your light
while you are waiting. You don’t have to be Mother Theresa. While you are working toward the career or spiritual path that you envision, be the light for each person that you encounter. By doing so you become a mirror for love, which encourages an outpouring of love from others.
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Your thoughts: send thoughts of kindness, compassion and good will.
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Your smile: include the loving energy from your heart-center.
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Material goods: release the items you no longer need to provide for others.
Whatever you give comes back to you. This is the “law of abundance.”
Judy Lipson is a licensed, professional counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@spiralwisdom.net, and visit SpiralWisdom.net for more information. This article is for informational purposes and is not meant to replace medical care. eydis.com | November 2015 | 19
ask the expert by Holly CaSaroll
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No matter what I put on my face, my skin is dry, sensitive and looks old. Is there help?
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Dry skin is still a major problem for many people. There is not just one reason why we get it, and putting on many layers of creams won’t solve it either. As this is the season when even normal skin can become compromised, you can follow my fool proof system to get your skin to be moist, less sensitive, and more youthful looking.
DRY SKIN CAUSES
There is a long list of factors that contribute to why we suffer from dry skin in the winter. Some common reasons include sun damage, aging, skin disorders, menopause, medications, disease, a compromised immune system, over exfoliating or not exfoliating at all, dry air, the use of wrong products, too much caffeine or alcohol or lack of water, which all cause dehydration, as well as a lack of good fatty acids in the diet. These all stop the skin’s protective layer and immune system, leaving it more exposed to external factors that cause more damage. Think of how your home has bricks and mortar to seal it from the rain; your skin’s barrier function need to be reinforced in order for there not to be cracks in the system.
DRY SKIN CURES
Use a humidifier: Just as our bodies need water, our skin needs moisture. Be sure to find one that purifies the water, or use purified water in it. Also, be sure to diligently clean it. Exfoliate: Exfoliate multiple times per week from your face to your toes. Exfoliation removes the dead surface cells that get piled up and keep your skin from absorbing topical ingredients better. Don’t overdo it though. A good enzyme, acid, or clarisonic, or even a combination of two of these, will do the trick. A good retinoid will turn your cells over (think faster metabolism), and make the skin look healthier and more youthful by collagen stimulation. 20 | Eydís Magazine
Moisturize: After you take a shower, apply a rich moisturizer to keep skin hydrated. Also, avoid taking hot showers for more than ten minutes because that can dry your skin out. After washing your face, be sure to apply your serums and creams immediately to protect your skin from the elements. Calm Protect Repair (CPR): Use anti-inflammatories like oat, niacinamide, and licorice, as well as anti-irritants, to prevent redness and sensitivity. Protect the skin and aging with antioxidants, water binding humectants, and SPF (remember, we get the deepest most aging rays in the winter still). Finally, repair the skin using oils, ceramides, and fatty acids, which reinforce your barrier and mimic your skin’s natural function, which is far better than just a basic hydrating cream. Incorporate Beauty Foods: Help your skin from within by eating fish for their omegas to help dry skin, avocados for healthy fats, berries for antioxidants, cocoa for antiinflammatory effects, and drink lots of water! Professional Facials: All that being said, cellular level facial treatments are like going to the gym for a good workout and your skin products at home are the diet. In one hour, you can see dramatic changes in texture, dryness, lines, sensitivity, dullness, and lackluster skin
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Serendipity by Adria DeAngelis Veit
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ptimism is a prize possession in the journey of life. Being possessive is often regarded as a negative quality. An exception to this rule is to be possessive of optimism. Our lives are filled with loss and so much gain. When we experience loss, it’s very easy to forget yet incredibly important to recall the gain associated with the loss and what it may be attributed to. What possible gain can be associated with loss? We lose family and friends when their time on this earth has been fulfilled. A hardship leaves us with so many open ended questions. One question in particular: why? Losing family, friends, and pets due to death, is what I believe be to be the worst loss imaginable. Yet we have gained so much from having them as part of our lives. The gain versus the loss is immeasurable. Take a moment to imagine what your life would have been without them! These special souls have enriched our lives in numerous ways that we relish so dearly on a personal level. We would not be who we are without them. They assisted us with our growth, provide support during joyful moments and, most of all, during our trials and tribulations. They were always there verbally or sitting silently as a reminder that we are never alone. Most important of all, they let us know we were loved, and their memory will never let us forget it! You may wonder how an optimistic perspective assists with understanding the gain we receive from loss. When we practice the skillful art of optimism during the trying experiences of loss, we are open to the vast benefits of gain. The strength gained, is there to provide understanding, patience, and growth to continue on with our lives; a deeper understanding of hope, faith, love, and joy. The gains of our personal loss are the gateways to providing support for others. It may be an illness we have experienced that allows us the ability to enlighten someone else. That person may need a little extra boost in their confidence to get through it and know healing success is on the horizon.
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For example, It’s the couple who recently divorced and has now come to the realization that they have gained the best friend they had asked for. No longer in a relationship, they are once again able to recognize the friendship that was at the root of their attraction to one another. The career we had been so attached to the majority of our life suddenly comes to an end. We feel we have lost our life due to the confidence associated with this career. It’s only when we take that important step back and take another look at the loss with an optimistic perspective that we mentally move the blocks and realize your career ending is truly a “present!” The circle of life will be forever inclusive of life and death. However, what fills the circle are the gains associated with them. The gains are there to forever balance our lives. Keep your mind and your heart open. Especially, during the most difficult times in the personal circle of your life. Your life circle will revolve around your losses and continue its rotation around the infinite optimistic gains of your own personal universe. Be mindful that we will continually be schooled in the lessons of our lives: learning every simple scenario of new situations. I would like to extend my sincere sympathy and prayers for those with losses. Sending you many Blessings for the gains of peace you will find through your optimism.
Adria DeAngelis Veit Intuitive Medium Adria.Believe@gmail.com
Lightening Hyper-Pigmented Skin Safely By Margot Kohler Hyper-pigmentation is a complex process, but advances in science offer those affected with unwanted “dark spots” a real solution to lightening their skin safely. Hyper-pigmentation is an over production of melanin in a localized area(s) and can occur for several reasons. The simplest cause is over exposure to UV light. However, for many, it is due to a combination of hormonal imbalance and exposure to UV light. Often, in women, it occurs during pregnancy when hormonal levels are elevated. What’s interesting to know is hyper-pigmentation can also occur when an individual is exposed to high temperatures for long periods of time, like the heat levels in the dessert climates. Those who have no choice but to be outside in those temperatures have a very high probability of developing hyper-pigmented areas on their skin. This is because the proteins that are responsible for initiating the melanin in the first place stem from the blood, and high temperatures cause us to have higher blood pressure. Just think how red our face gets when we are over heated.
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For darker skin types, it can occur for the same reason but even more easily as their skin already has a greater amount of melanin production. There are other causes such as medication or injuries. In some cases, the hyper-pigment will subside during winter months when the skin is in less heat and is exposed to less UV light. For many others it does not fade. For these individuals, a short term and long term prevention treatment should be developed according to their exact causes and skin type. The concern is an overuse of treatments, such as lasers, with little operator knowledge, or prescriptions that have been overly used, causing further damage to the skin. It is best to start with a conservative approach that is guaranteed safe. If desired, a person can always try more invasive treatments with some risks. Fortunately, much research has been dedicated to understanding the biological phases of how this occurs and how active ingredients can inhibit and lighten the unnatural darkened pigment. Even more exciting is the breakthroughs in DNA cellular repair. This helps the skin react properly and offers more “anti-aging” benefits beyond just helping hyper-pigmentation. The key is finding a facility that really understands the condition on all skin types and has the expertise to develop a customized program. Our first defense is using a UVA & UVB broad-spectrum protection. This means both physical and chemical blocks are blended for maximum protection against damaging UV rays. Constant re-applying is important but only practical if one is outside during a recreational activity. For a typical day that might involve driving kids to and from school, a visit to the health club, a trip to the food market, or a drive to the office, the key is layering, just like keeping warm in the winter. There are so many choices. Unfortunately, the vast majority of over the counter cosmetic creams can’t deliver the same results as higher quality ingredients. So, ask questions and be sure and select an expert!
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Beautiful You
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’ve seen before and after makeovers in magazines many times before, but never did I think that I’d be the featured subject. I was so flattered when asked to be in Eydis Magazine. The timing was also perfect because my hair was in its in-between stages of growing out the previous haircut and color. From the moment that I arrived, Maria Savoy and her glamour team of Yannis and Mona, along with the photographer Steve, made me feel very special. I lead a very busy home life as a wife and mother, and a professional life as manager of business development and community relations for the City of Auburn Hills. It’s rare that I have pampering opportunities, let alone the chance to get the supermodel star treatment. I’m so grateful to Eydis Magazine for my special day, and for honoring women in each issue in such a smart, fun, and fashionable way! ~ Stephanie Carroll
Stephanie is a beautiful, spunky, fun-loving woman, but her hair did not reflect her vibrant personality. It was parted down the middle, very thick, much darker in the back, and looked dull and dated. I immediately envisioned what I wanted to do to add life to Stephanie’s hair color to complement her complexion, and to give her a dramatic new look. I added more highlights to make her hair very blonde, blending them all over so that her hair didn’t have such a stark, light and dark, two-tone appearance. I didn’t change the length that much, but I cut a lot of hair in the back to reduce the thickness and texturized the hair around Stephanie’s face. The boldest change I made was giving Stephanie long, straight bangs, which look fabulous on her! They completely altered her look, and she couldn’t stop smiling with a newfound confidence. To change things up a bit, I used a curling iron to separate the layers to create another sexy, sophisticated style. Stephanie was truly transformed, inside and out! ~ Hair by Yiannis Karimalis 248.931.8722, www.yiannishair.com
Stephanie is a beautiful and sophisticated woman. Due to her important position in the work place, I wanted to keep her make-up looking as natural as possible. First, I evened out her skin tone and added a slight touch of neutral blush, giving her a hint of color. For her eyes, I used a cream shadow all over with charcoal in the crease, black liquid liner, and added lashes to make her eyes stand out. Her lips were accented by using a rosy pink lipstick with a soft pink liner and a sheer gloss overlay. She looked fabulous! ~ Makeup by Mona Rickart, 248.798.9888
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Bliss Boulevard By John J. Schalter
Dear John, I’m a college student who is about to enter her third year and I need to declare my major. It’s a scary time for me because my parents have spent so much money on me that I am afraid to make a mistake. How do I make such an important decision? Missy C.
Dear Stacy, First of all, congratulations on your new preoccupation with First of all, congratulations on your decision to take this process to heart (notice, I did not say “head”). Hopefully, I can give you some tools to help you make the best decision possible. Your willingness to step back and examine this area shows real maturity and enlightenment. Rest assured your focus on this area is going to be time well spent. Your first tool is my all-time favorite and foundation of my life. It is gratitude. Get into the habit of making gratitude your gatekeeper. Start your day with it, begin your meals with it and fall asleep whispering its words. Do you realize how great it is to have such a decision in front of you? You and I have been given the incredible gift of choice. Let’s make it a peak experience. Your second tool is fun. The universe loves playfulness. It opens you to the flow of life. I can already tell you the result of this process. (Spoiler alert! I am telling you the ending.) It may takes some time and attention; however, you will make the right decision about your college major, Stacy. And so, let’s let go of any needless pressure. Follow the path of least resistance.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
— Joseph Campbell
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Third, make a decision to follow something beyond such things as happiness, joy, or contentment. It entails finding that live wire inside of you that taps into all of the creative energies of life. This is a concept that is so powerful it almost jumps off the page as I write about it. Find your bliss boulevard and follow it. What is “your bliss?” Rest assured you will “know” it when you “feel” it. Here are some clues. It’s when you start making decisions from your heart and not your head. It’s when you lose track of time because your “doing” has become “being.” It’s when “what you do” becomes more than a job or profession. It is who you are! Bliss was in the eyes of Mother Teresa when she touched a street person, the voice of Martin Luther King when he described his dream, and the posture of Ghandi as he stands up with staff in hand and blocks the path of injustice. And here is the best part, you have a path of bliss inside of you! Finding it starts with the decision to feel it, then follow, follow, and follow. Let its roadway rule your life. You can do it too, Stacy. I know you can. The cards are stacked for you and not against you on this one. Decide to set the bar to the bliss level. It comes free with the price of being human. And you can live your life in a space most people only dream of. It is your gift to yourself. It is your gift to the world. And as we all step into the ever present challenges in our lives, let us remember “we are all too blessed to be stressed.” See you in the next publication. Until then… Peace and Blessings,
John
John is a Life Coach, a practicing attorney (35 years) and a professional screenwriter. He is also a musician, songwriter and artist. He does private coaching and limits his client number to 20. If you would like to discuss coaching and/or get on the waiting list call him at 586-997-HELP (4357). The first consultation is always free.
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It’s Time To Take A Stand by Lila Lazarus
Chances are good that you’re sitting while you’re reading this. Living in Michigan, chances are really good that on an average day, you’ll sit while commuting to work, you’ll sit at your desk, sit down for dinner, and then take a seat in front of your television at the end of the day. We’re sitting seven to fifteen hours a day. And even if we’re diligent about getting our daily exercise, we’re still spending the rest of our day on our derrieres. This article isn’t about exercising more, it’s about sitting less. Let me get to the bottom line: Sitting is killing us. The latest studies conclude sitting for more than three hours a day (and we’re sitting a lot more than that) can cut two years off your life expectancy. All that sitting increases your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and cancer even if you exercise. And sitting is really bad for your mental state. Scientists are calling it the sitting disease. If you are prone to sitting throughout the day, you have a similar risk of heart disease as someone who smokes. Sitting really is the new smoking. And if you’re really honest with yourself and add up how many hours you’re sitting in a day, you might be horrified. Sitting is silently killing us. And sitting certainly doesn’t do anything to help your mental state. Though I admit, there is a little bit of a chicken and egg question here: Are we sitting because we’re feeling bad, or do we feel bad because we’re sitting?
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So here’s my idea… stand up. Yes, right now. Stretch your legs. And even better, when you finish reading this article, go ask a friend to stand up. And have them ask someone else to stand up. Do this at least once an hour. Take a walk around your office. If you have a meeting, see if you can turn it into a walking meeting. Who says you have to sit around a conference table? Have you tried a standing desk? Make it a rule to always stand when you’re talking on the phone. Standing is an easy way to burn more calories and increase your energy. When you stand you improve your posture and get your blood flowing. Standing doesn’t replace exercise, but it does replace sitting. The goal from now on should be spending as little time in a chair as possible. In your lifetime, you’re likely to spend as much as 10 years sitting in front of the TV. 10 YEARS! It’s just something to think about, but think about it standing up. One of my favorite quotes is from Blaise Pascal: “All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.” I wish he would have said “stand in a quiet room alone.” Stand up. Pass it on. PS. I’m proud to say I wrote this entire article standing up. Lila Lazarus is an award-winning health reporter, member of the Governor’s Fitness Council, yoga teacher, co-director of Etiquette University and President of Kids Kicking Cancer.
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lthough you can’t stop time, the right type and amount of physical activity can help stave off many age-related health problems. More than half of Americans expect to still be living at home independently at the age of 80, according to a recent survey by the American Physical Therapy Association. However, the same study showed that at least half of the same population recognizes they will see a decline in strength and flexibility as they age. Movement experts such as physical therapists can help aging individuals overcome pain, gain and maintain movement, and preserve independence – often helping to avoid the need for surgery or long-term use of prescription drugs. These eight tips, provided by the experts at the American Physical 38 | Eydís Magazine
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You can lower your risk of diabetes with exercise. One in four Americans over the age of 60 has diabetes. Obesity and physical inactivity can put you at risk for this disease, but a regular, appropriate physical activity routine is one of the best ways to prevent and manage type 1 and type 2 diabetes.
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Exercise can help you avoid falls and keep your independence. More than half of adults over 65 report problems with movement, including walking 1/4 mile, stooping, and standing. Exercise can improve movement and balance and reduce your risk of falls.
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Your bones want you to exercise. Osteoporosis, or weak bones, affects more than half of Americans over the age of 54. Exercises that keep you on your feet, like walking, jogging or dancing, and exercises using resistance such as weight lifting, can improve bone strength or reduce bone loss.
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Your heart wants you to exercise. Heart disease is the No. 1 cause of death in the United States. One of the top ways of preventing it and other cardiovascular diseases is exercise. Research shows that if you already have heart disease, appropriate exercise can improve your health.
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Your brain wants you to exercise. People who are physically active, even later in life, are less likely to develop memory problems or Alzheimer’s disease, a condition which affects more than 40 percent of people over the age of 85.
Therapy Association, are keys to helping you age well: 1.
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Chronic pain doesn’t have to be the boss of you. Each year 116 million Americans experience chronic pain from arthritis or other conditions. Proper exercise, mobility, and pain management techniques can ease pain, improving your overall quality of life. You can get better and stronger at any age. Research shows that an appropriate exercise program can improve your muscle strength and flexibility as you age. Progressive resistance training, where muscles are exercised against resistance that gets more difficult as strength improves, has been shown to help prevent frailty. You may not need surgery or drugs for your low back pain. Low back pain is often over-treated
Does Your Dog Have Allergies? The most common problem we deal with on a regular basis is an itchy dog. Dogs that constantly scratch, bite their legs, or gnaw on their tails usually have a problem that lies deeper than the skin. Most people assume it’s either fleas or a behavioral issue when in actuality it’s a dietary problem. Before heading to the Vet, the first thing you should do is take a look at what your dog is eating. Surprisingly, the most common ingredient I’ve found dogs to be allergic to is chicken. Following closely behind are corn, wheat, and soy, which are typically fillers anyway. My suggestion would be to find a high quality, all natural food that contains an alternative meat protein and none of the fillers mentioned. Foods that contain fish, venison, duck, and bison are becoming more readily available and are being fed with great success. Grain-free foods are also on the rise. In the wild, a dogs diet would consist of primarily meat based proteins, and the occasional fruit and vegetable. Dogs, being the carnivores that they are, wouldn’t naturally graze through a corn or wheat field. Those grains and others have, in fact, been found to cause or irritate some pets allergies. Grain is also hard to digest. The most important thing to remember when switching to a new diet is that it must be done very gradually to prevent stomach upset. The best way to do so is to slowly mix in the new food with the old. Most dogs can handle a transition time of 3-5 days but the best approach is to start the first week by adding small quantities of new to old (treat sized amounts). The second week you can replace 1/4 serving of old food with
new. The third week should be 1/2 new food and 1/2 old food. The fourth week you can choose to either split new 3/4 to old 1/4 or completely change over to the new food. The speed you do this will be determined by your pets stomach. If upset occurs, reduce the amount of new food being added. One thing I’ve been able to recommend with success to offset most
digestive issues and to aid in the introduction of a new diet is an all natural, pro-biotic with digestive enzymes. Doing so increases the good bacteria in the stomach, allowing easier digestion and more of the food (up to 10%) to be broken down, increasing the amount of nutrients being absorbed. Feeding your dog a good quality food will not only help remedy your uncomfortable companion, but will more importantly provide a noticeable difference in your dogs appearance and improve his quality of life. You’ll see hot spots heal and a full, shiny coat take it’s place. Have someone that understands the differences in all the foods help you. Tell them about your dogs specific problem and current diet so that the right food can be chosen for you. Keep in mind you’ll always get what you pay for and, although you may find it convenient to feed a food that has a great price, odds are you’ll end up paying more in Vet bills through the years. Another thing to keep in mind is that with a higher quality food that’s more nutrient rich, you’ll be feeding your dog less. Aside from that, more of us view our pets as part of the family and we should want what’s best for them. Proper nutrition is the cornerstone to the health and longevity of our four legged buddies.
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Guys N Gals is a bustling place on a sunny Thursday afternoon. The friendly banter instantly revealed the familiarity the floor staff have with the customers, as well as the delicious merchandise. There is a vibe about this place that is unmistakable. Lois Levenson and Julie Julie Feldman Feldman are a mother/ daughter team of superstar retailers who have taken their passion for fashion and infected the entire staff, and everyone who walks in. Without realizing it, I get caught up in the buzz and get serious about a long term relationship with a nubby thermal top that looks like vanilla and feels like butter. Butter love at first sight.
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Sometimes you want to go where everybody knows your name… by Mary Meldrum And they definitely know your name at Guys N Gals.
Guys N Gals is where contemporary women and their children shop.
“Can you tell me where the Minnie Rose pop-up shop is?” inquires Jennifer, a customer who is immediately recognized when she enters Guys N Gals in the Orchard Mall in West Bloomfield. She is escorted to the racks of Minnie Rose designer items in the back of the store. Guys N Gals frequently sponsor designer pop-up events for four to five days featuring a variety of designers throughout the year. When Jennifer was asked how she heard about the pop-up shop, she replied that she had received an email letting her know.
With a large established and devoted customer base, Guys N Gals dutifully informs loyal customers about new arrivals, specific items, and brands through Instagram, Facebook, email, and even phone calls.
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Drapey Bohemian tops, Native American patterns, textured sweaters, fur trimmed, and fringed everything hang on the walls and racks. Luscious scarves and layers of different length necklaces adorn displays like candy to this shopper’s eyes.
Lois opened Guys N Gals forty years ago. For anyone who has ever attempted to start their own business of any kind, I do not need to tell you how hard it is. For anyone who has ever worked in retail or owned a retail business, there are few words to really bring home the enormity of work that forty years in this industry represents. Surviving in a brick-and-mortar space while ecommerce took over retail is no small feat, but it is clear that the warmth and ease of this legacy business cannot be replaced with a website shopping cart checkout. And they are not just surviving. Despite the economic ups and downs, Guys N Gals is doing great thank you very much. This place is a destination. What is so special about Guys N Gals? The list is long, but their constant dedication to giving back with a steady flow of charity events, including their annual Jean TradeIn for the Homeless event that they have done for about three decades. People line up out the door every spring and bring in a used pair of jeans, dishes, toys, or whatever they can donate and they get a new pair of jeans for half-off. Guys N Gals offers customers other opportunities to support local, the Mathew Bittker Foundation, as well as larger
worthy causes like the National Kidney Foundation, Breast Cancer Foundation, and Angel’s Place, to name a few. This is a big part of their community spirit and identity, and clients generously contribute. The phone is ringing off the hook, and every call is a customer or vendor they know by first name. “It’s exciting and fun. People love to be here and be with each other. I love it here. I love the people,” smiles Lois. “I love the customers and I love all our employees.” Lois shares that one of her employees, Cindy, has worked here since she was a young girl. Now Cindy’s children are grown and have graduated college. Guys N Gals has been here long enough to see three generations of shoppers. “We are seeing a grandma and her daughter and her grandchild,” smiles Lois. Remarkably, Lois and Julie are as dedicated and energetic as if this was their first week in business. Their secret is their commitment to their customers with a concierge approach to service and a carefully
edited selection of beautiful clothing and accessories.
handbag. By the way, they have all those too.
Along with the frequent pop-up trunk shows, they have free layaway. They have constructed an outreach to their customers to allow them to stay knowledgeable of new arrivals, even inviting customers to the back room to open and look in boxes of new clothes that haven’t even been placed on the sales floor yet! Wow! Who else does that?
The clothing is trendy, there are beautiful accent pieces and specialty items, but all have a timeless appeal. All of the bubbly store employees clearly love their work and the clothing. They all look great and are excited to help with belting, fitting, layering, and accessorizing.
Guys N Gals carries clothing for little girls’ four to 14, juniors, and contemporary women’s. They also carry little boys’ sizes four to seven. There is an abundance of darling and sassy tops and pants for teen girls. My eyes lock onto adult-size succulent sweaters, yummy tops and dresses, and a great mix of contemporary seasonal wraps, ponchos, hats, and mittens, as well as foundational pieces like black tank tops, leggings, and long-sleeved t-shirts. They have everything from casual to dressy. Many items can work the entire spectrum of snappy casual to dressed-up and beyond; just add the right jewelry and
“Oh, my, look at these cool velvet pants!” exclaims Jennifer as she searches for her size in the black burnout velvet pile. “I will put you on our list and let you know when it is delivered in your size,” says Lois as I sealed the deal with my butter-love top. I will be back. I love to go where everybody knows my name.
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3. Local businesses come in all varieties, a toy store for example. Walk into a toy super store and you will find rows and rows of plastic toys. Most will end up broken or at the local goodwill store within 6 months. Walk into a local toy store and you will find toys that will spark your child’s imagination, help them to learn, and will be a lot of fun at the same time. 4. You’re helping to create jobs. Local businesses create jobs. Often, these jobs are paid better than chain stores and often times their employees are treated with more respect from the actual owners of those businesses. 5. You’ll get the question, “Where did you get that?” Local businesses have that “unique” factor. It’s wonderful to walk around town knowing that you will not see fifteen others sporting the same thing you are. 6. Personal connection with the storeowners or managers. You’ll get pampered. The best gift you can give yourself is often the experience. Customer service at its best. 7. Cost effective. Many times local businesses can give you better prices because they don’t have the overhead that large department stores have. 8. Sales tax funds our local communities and provide vital services, such as police and fire protection, street repairs, and trash collection. The bulk of the money that you spend locally stays local.
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Stylin’ with
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invited to come, browse, and shop at no additional charge. There will be booths from a variety of shops and vendors with beautiful jewelry, clothing, and accessories. This is a great opportunity to get some holiday shopping done and spend some quality “girl time” as well.
2015-2015 Temple Israel Sisterhood Executive Board (From Left to Right) Linda Mickelson, VP - Committee on Committees; Deborah Schiffer, VP - Programming; Caryn Devaney, Corresponding Secretary; Julie Stern, Treasurer; Lisa Grodman, Membership Secretary; Wendy Kohlenberg, President; Susan Singer, VP - Ways & Means; Michelle Silber, Recording Secretary
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he annual fashion show is just one of dozens of events hosted and supported by the Sisterhood of Temple Israel. An affiliate of Temple Israel, the Sisterhood offers a wide spectrum of social, cultural, educational, and volunteer service opportunities.
do not have to be a member of the Temple to attend the luncheon, fashion show, or boutique sale. This is a community-wide event that is open to the public. Any and all are welcome to come with friends and family to enjoy the boutique sale, food and beverages at the luncheon, and the fashion show.
One of the Sisterhood’s best attended and popular events is the annual Stylin’ with Sisterhood Fashion Show, which is being held on Wednesday, November 18th this year at the Chapel entrance of Temple Israel. Fortunately, you
There are several activities within the Fashion Show event. The boutique is the pre-show event that opens at 10:00 a.m. and goes until 3:30 p.m. It features a wide variety of specialty items for sale. The public is
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The sit-down luncheon begins at noon, followed by a strolling fashion show which will begin around 1:30 p.m. Tickets for this part of the event are $50 until October 30th. After that, the ticket price is $60. Join in on the good conversation, camaraderie, and great food. Fashions are presented by Just Girls Boutique and feature Sundance Shoes, El-Mar Furs, Pawn Chick, and On the Fly. Fashions cover a wide variety of tastes and generational favorites, so don’t think this is just for the young or the old. Raffle tickets are also available for $10 a piece or 3 for $20. Winners will be announced and fantastic prizes will be awarded during the luncheon. The Temple Israel Sisterhood is a devoted troupe of Temple Israel women volunteers who sponsor fellowship, fundraising, and community events for the temple year round.
“Thursday night, January 21st, 2016, we will have a bingo tournament at the Temple with prizes that is open to the community,” shares Wendy Kohlenberg, President of the Sisterhood. “And our annual Spring Boutique will be on May 1st, 2016 at the Temple. It will be $3 to get in and the community is invited to come and shop all day.” Other annual events include the Member Appreciation Luncheon, nursing home bingo and holiday party trip, and the House Tour, which is attended by hundreds of people from all over the Detroit area. This is just a small sample of what the Sisterhood manages for the Temple Israel community. There are also book clubs, book fairs, and family camp. And in the true spirit of sisterhood, the women jump in to provide supportive community service in times of need, such as bringing dinner to families during Shiva, their period of mourning. The Sisterhood is also involved in sending Chanukah and Passover gift packages to all of the Temple’s college students, helping during the Temple
week of Housing the Homeless, as well as the Annual Labor Day picnic. The Temple Israel Gift Shop is run by the Sisterhood. It features pieces of Judaica artwork and ritual objects, books, jewelry, and cards, among other things.
President, Wendy Kohlenberg is always available to answer questions or assist with anything related to the Sisterhood. She states that they are always welcoming new members into the fold at Temple Israel Sisterhood and she is happy to help in any way possible. Whether you only have a few hours, one day, or one month to devote to service, the Sisterhood has something to fit your time constraints.
Membership information can be found on their website, or contact Wendy directly at wendyksisterhood@gmail.com, or by phone at 248.891.7803. eydis.com | November 2015 | 45
Fairytales
DO COME TRUE
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he beautiful pink invitation announcement read, “It’s a Girl.” The occasion was the uniting of two kindred souls who were at last recognized as mother and daughter by law. The adoption of a 20 year-old young lady on her birthday last September, by the woman who raised her as her own, was indeed a reason to celebrate. Mindy Krigel of West Bloomfield, MI has known Cameron (Cammy) Swartz since she was just a year old. The divorced mother of one son, Justin, was living next door to Cammy and her father, Doug, who was raising Cammy alone. He was estranged from his
wife, who was seldom present in their lives, when Mindy began her relationship with him. The magical journey shared by both Mindy and Cammy has been typical of most mothers and daughters. The only difference is the non-biological connection. Mindy has devoted herself to being a loving mother; one that has instilled positive values and the importance of self-sufficiency. In turn, Cammy has become a young lady whose high selfesteem and confidence is a direct result of the love and patience that Mindy has displayed over the years. Here is their story, in their own words.
Mindy:
Mindy Krigel and Cameron Blair Krigel
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Cammy and her dad would come over for dinner and Justin and I would play with her. Doug and I became friends and I would find myself visiting next door to help him care for her. He had custody, and her mom was in and out of her life unable to be a full-time parent. I remember falling in love with her as I sat in the rocking chair in her bedroom singing lullabies until she fell asleep. I began helping out her needs such as shopping for her, which of course was very fun for me. He was happy not to have to do it himself.
Cammy: I just had a baby shower in my honor. In most cases I wouldn’t be writing about it, but this wasn’t your typical baby shower. At a young age a guardian angel was sent my way. Her name is Mindy Krigel. She married my dad when I was just a toddler; and when he passed away she took me in and raised me like her own. It takes a special kind of person to give a child the kind of love I have been so grateful to receive. I have been given the best gift of all. I have been adopted by my “Soulmate Mom!” Miracles happen every single day. The miracle of Mindy and Cammy coming together in this life is no accident. This may have been an untraditional adoption, but there is nothing untraditional about the love that they share for each other.
As we became a couple and began forming a family together, Doug would tell Cammy stories of how he looked throughout all of the land to find a mommy just for her, and that he finally found Mindy. He made our real-life story into an enchanted fairytale. Doug and I married when Cammy turned 5 years-old. We went to Disneyworld on Cammy’s 5th birthday, which was when we celebrated our honeymoon as well. Unfortunately, Doug had been diagnosed with multiple myeloma and the length of our future together was uncertain, but with the time left, Doug, Cammy, Justin, and I had
become a real family. Doug passed away in 2003 when Cammy was just 8 years-old. I was amazed at how Justin, my son, had stepped up and literally co-parented with me. The bond between the two of them is something very special. Besides the gift of having the daughter I always wanted, the biggest gift of all, is that Justin and Cammy have each other. They are truly a team, whenever I say no to Cammy, she goes to Justin and he pleads her case for her. When Cammy was 11 years-old my significant other, Arthur Bricker, came into our lives. After four
Arthur Bricker, Mindy Krigel, Daughter, Cameron Krigel, Son, Justin Jacobs
years together, Arthur opened his home to Cammy and I, as Justin was now grown and on his own. Arthur has become a very important part of our family and is a wonderful male influence in Cammy’s life. He has taught her many things about business and guiding her with an abundance of love. Although Cammy has always been my daughter by heart, it was important to Cammy that I adopt her legally. Our day has finally come and I am so grateful. I have always said that if I could have drawn a picture of my daughter, it would look just like her! I love her so much! eydis.com | November 2015 | 47
One Day At a Time by Laura Solomon
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n the eve of a young addict’s one year anniversary of sobriety, we talked about the ways that parents can help their teenagers overcome addiction. He describes his former self as an angry, numbed out teenager with issues that stemmed from childhood trauma, and says he used drugs every day from the age of fourteen until sixteen. His drug of choice was “anything he could find,” including booze, weed, acid and cocaine, Xanax, Vicodin, and Adderall. He admits that he lied, cheated, and stole to get high and he would never stop. He was a slave to it. He hated himself; he thought he was a loser and no one cared about him. His parents and siblings were afraid of him because, when he was binged out, he would go into violent rages and his only “friends” were other addicts. He had burned all his bridges. His parents, who thought they were educated and intelligent about addiction, enabled him by backing down on all their threats to drug test him or send him to rehab. They were afraid he would run away as he had threatened. And then the day came where his emotional pain and addiction were too great and he tried to kill himself. That was the bottom, the day he went to rehab, and the day he changed his life changed for the better. So now, a year into recovery, this renovated man wants to offer sage advice to parents: •
He wants you to wake up.
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Open your eyes.
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Teenagers everywhere have the opportunity to easily have access to drugs and alcohol.
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They WILL deny they are doing it.
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Don’t be naive.
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They will tell you they hate you and that you are ruining their life.
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If you love them, test them.
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Get help.
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Addicts don’t hate YOU—they hate themselves.
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Your child doesn’t have to like you.
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You are not their friend and they don’t have to want to go to rehab.
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You don’t get to do what you WANT, but rehab is what you need.
Rehab was scary and eye opening; he thought he had “ruined his life.” But he came to the realization that rehab wasn’t a punishment or an abandonment—it was a gift. His parents knew he would kill himself and rehab gave him a vacation from his addiction and time to rebuild his life. He learned that he was not alone and that he has a disease and in rehab he learned the tools to stay sober. He changed his life from the inside out. He created a whole new way of life, new friends, rebuilt the relationships with his family and most importantlyhis relationship with himself. For the first time in his life, he is happy, joyous, and free. What a difference a year makes—one day at a time.
Laura Solomon lives in West Bloomfield, Michigan, with her husband and their nine children. She is the author of “Normal Life”, available on Amazon. Read her blog at thereview52.blogspot.com.
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Finding Your
PURPOSE WHO AM I? WHAT AM I DOING HERE? HOW CAN I MAKE A DIFFERENCE? by Judith E. Lipson, M.A., LPC
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o you have a deep yearning to know? You probably first asked this of yourself while in college. During or after the child-rearing years, you may again face this sense of urgency. As you approach retirement, you will once again assess your life experiences and determine if you have really lived your purpose. This can be a life-long search because the journey, and therefore the answer, shifts.
SEEK PASSION OVER COMPULSION
When your purpose seems elusive, pay attention to what you pay attention to. The things that make you happy and make your heart sing are often indicative of your passion. It can guide you to knowing who you are and what you want in life.
This pursuit seems to take on a more vibrant call for the individuals that I call Sensitives – those who are keenly attuned to the six senses. Even during childhood, Sensitives feel urgency.
This is a very different feeling than what is experienced when you play video and computer games. The enjoyment or compulsion of wanting to play is not from passion; gaming is very effective at keeping the brain occupied in order to avoid feelings.
Sensitive or not, you probably feel it more prominently now. There is a need to shift our planet toward peace and love. If your direction and purpose still seem mysterious, you can begin to find your way.
What did you enjoy when you were a child? What types of books did you read? What made you laugh and brought you joy? It’s time to incorporate these playful activities into your adult life once again.
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HEAR YOUR HEART AND SPIRIT What am I most afraid of?
Resistance is thought. You will think that they are your thoughts, but they are the illusion of the ego. Meditation allows you to transcend the illusionary voices so that you can hear your inner voice of wisdom and allow the fear-based thoughts to pass by.
If I knew I would die in 3 months, what would I do??
Rather than succumbing to the fear, overcome it. Resistance is a sign that you are ascending toward your goal. Instead of judging yourself negatively, reframe resistance as readiness for the next step and take action.
If fear and money were not a factor…
DON’T DELAY
What I know for sure. (Oprah’s O Magazine) Using paper or computer, brainstorm the many ways that you can complete one of these phrases in order to identify your passions. Look for the patterns and themes that emerge. If you are feeling resistant, close your eyes and let your breath clear your mind. Most importantly, watch for the surge of emotions. If you experience a mini-cry, note it and keep going. You are getting close. These mini-surges may be direction-finders toward your purpose. When you identify the real deal, its energy will resonate within you.
Don’t believe that something needs fixing before you can achieve. When you were little and naturally moved toward your purpose, others may have blocked you thinking they were helping. Now when you are almost there don’t sabotage yourself. Your purpose is your calling. It may be your career, a hobby or volunteer work. Don’t limit yourself because you believe that you can only make a difference if you can be one thing or do another. These are limiting beliefs. Don’t underestimate the influence of the cashier who greets you with a warm smile that comes from the depths of her heart. She is no less important than the doctor who saves lives. Amateurs yield to the resistance that appears as distractions and fear. Instead, think like professionals – play for keeps. Commit! As soon as you do, your Higher Self will provide a tail wind (synchronicities) to make the journey easier. Judy Lipson is a licensed, professional counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@spiralwisdom.net, and visit SpiralWisdom.net for more information.
RECOGNIZE THE ILLUSION OF THE EGO
Wayne Dyer teaches about perceived identity: The ego is an idea that each of us has about ourselves. Letting it become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self. Instead, learn to recognize your inner reality. Inside is a still voice of wisdom that you have rarely heard or attended to. Dyer calls this your wise guide. Transcend your illusions to find and hear the guidance of your wise self.
OVERCOME RESISTANCE
In The War of Art, Steven Pressfield explains that you will experience resistance when you are moving upward from a lower vibrating level. The resistance is a sign that your wise self has recognized the dream and that you are being drawn to it. eydis.com | November 2015 | 51
BEAUTY BOUTIQUE by Barbie Krajenke
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s you’re stepping into Ruby’s Balm in West Bloomfield, you are made to feel at ease the moment you walk through their doors. The boutique designed, as a European apothecary, is full of lush beauty products tantalizing the senses in an inviting and relaxing ambience. Ruby’s Balm has been a staple in the community for beauty and unique gifts since 2000. In 2014, co-owner Jillian Berger purchased the boutique with her father Marty Gold, former owner of S-G Imported Car Parts.
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Ruby’s Balm maintains an edge by offering “first of its kind” products to be sold for retail in Michigan. The boutique carries an assortment of professional beauty products for women and men, including Laura Mercier, Nars, Jack Black, and Kiehl’s to name a few, catering to the beauty needs of all ages from eighteen to eighty. Ruby’s Balm takes extreme pride in their products. “We are very selective in selecting the products we carry, it has to do what it says it’s going to do. We have to be able to really stand behind the product,” states Berger.
The beauty boutique maintains its original charm by focusing on customer service and providing an array of product selection with the attention of expert employees. They offer makeup, skincare, body and hair care, home fragrance, personal fragrance, lingerie, as well as products for men.
Ruby’s Balm is well run because we both have different strengths. It’s about focusing on what you’re good at and you keep improving.” There is no question that Berger loves what she does and is good at it, she also believes in supporting the community. During the holiday season, Ruby’s Balm is participating in Shop 4 a Cure, a non-profit organization contributing to pediatric cancer research.
“We offer a personalized level of service that you can’t get at a chain store. We have an old school ‘mom and pop’ mentality, fostering a sense of community,” said Berger. “Every person who comes in the door is provided with individual attention. I believe that customers are more than a transaction, we treat everybody as a friend.”
we carry has to be a good piece to integrate into the wardrobe; versatile, classic while being trendy.”
Ruby’s Balm also offers an everchanging line of unique host/ hostess gifts, clothing, lingerie, and sleepwear by Vintage Havana, Cosabella, Barefoot dreams, and local designer Brightly Twisted. Berger states that “the clothing
It is evident that through Berger’s attention to customer service and quality of product selection, she inherited her father’s, Marty Gold, entrepreneurial spirit. Berger attributes the success of the store to working with her father. “I think
Berger would also like to encourage you to stop by her store on Black Friday as she will be hosting her annual Black Friday event with prizes and discounts. Take a trip to their store in person, like them on Facebook, or follow them on Instagram.
RUBY’S BALM
6917 Orchard Lake Road West Bloomfield Township, MI
248.626.7829
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HAPPINESS, LOVE AND
Action by Elaine M. Grohman
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it back and breathe. Sit back and be still. Sit back and witness as your thoughts and mind clutter recede into the background; allow yourself the blessing of witnessing this moment. Sit back and breathe. Sit back and be still. There is nothing that you need to do in this time of togetherness. There is no place where you must be; there is no rushing here or there. There is just being here. Right now. Feel yourself in this moment.
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These simple things, sitting back, breathing, sitting back, being still, is all that needs to be done in order for you to begin to appreciate life as it really is. Many people manufacture problems that do not exist. Many people create upset and worry in their minds that have no place in your experience. You cannot get to where you think you want to be when you create within
you the things that you do not want. You cannot create peace when there is judgment within you. You cannot create joy when you are willing to hold resentment inside. You cannot get to where you want to go unless you learn one simple truth. To have peace, be at peace. To have joy, be joyful. To accomplish all you wish to do, be willing to relinquish thoughts that have limited your understanding of the purpose of living.
Happiness + Love = Action It is time for you to begin to recognize that each and every person in your life, those you have allowed yourself to enjoy and those you have allowed yourself to judge, are never, ever in your life by accident. Each and every encounter in life, each and every activity in life, each and every relationship in your life, is in your life to call you to action. You are here to be happy. You are here to be love. You are here to take action. In both big and small ways, either silently or openly, you can begin to share the abundance of happiness, love, and action with all people. No one is here to make you happy. That is your job. No one is here to make you feel loved. That is your job. No one is here to do for you what you are meant to do for yourself. That is your job.
You are here in this life, on this magnificent planet, to BE happy. You are here in this life, in the experiences and relationships you are in, to BE the love that you are. You are here in this life, to take the necessary action to BE happy and to BE the love that you are. Without these three components you will find your life unfulfilling, you will find yourself judging yourself or others, and you will be immobilized by the lack of these two preceding imperatives.
So, each day, each hour, each minute of this precious journey called life, sit back and breathe. Sit back and be still. And from that place of peace, you will be the light you have always been meant to be. Be happy now. Be love now. Take action now. If you have harbored unkind thoughts towards another, you can be happy in the moment you recognize that you have limited yourself from your dreams. This acknowledgment can be wrapped with the love of forgiveness that can bring you to the needed action of asking for forgivenessâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; releasing all from that which holds you back from experiencing
happiness, love and action. If you need forgiveness, ask for it. If someone offers forgiveness, accept it. If you have judged yourself, forgive yourself. This is action, motivated by love, which will bring happiness to this moment. Do this unceasingly throughout your day and you will find no limitations to the good you can do. Start within. See through the eyes of love. Take action. And you will have lived the greatest life you can imagine. Live life now. There is no other time. Forgive the past. Be joyfully expectant of the good things that life provides, and take the action needed to be there. Now. Sit back and breathe. Sit back and be still. Happiness, love, and action are the reasons for life. There is nothing else. Feel it. Be It. Do It! Be at peace so that you can go in peace. Elaine Grohman is a speaker, author, energy healer and angel reader. She has a private practice in Farmington, MI. For appointments please contact Lainie Rubio at 248.320.6532 or visit her website at www.elainegrohman.com
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Appetizers
Perfect for Munching and Mingling by Chef Dawn Bause
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satisfying and festive spread of appetizers and hors d’oeuvres is essential to any holiday open house, cocktail party, or family get-together. They help tide over your guests until the main event, plus, they give you a chance to introduce fun new finger goods before the traditional Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Holiday dinner line-up. A table full of appetizers is bound to make your guests thirsty, so don’t forget to offer a festive holiday cocktail for sipping. Happy Holidays from my kitchen to yours!
Fig and Blue Cheese Squares Ingredients One 14-ounce package all-butter puff pastry, thawed if frozen but still cold ½ cup fig preserves 3/4 cup crumbled Stilton cheese (4 ounces) On a lightly floured work surface, roll out the puff pastry to an 11 X 16, 1/2-inch thick rectangle. Trim to form a 10 ½ X 15 inch rectangle. Transfer the pastry to a large rimmed baking sheet and cut into 1 3/4 inch squares; you should have about 48. Freeze the squares until firm; this takes about 30 minutes.
Crab and Avocado Bruschetta Ingredients 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil, plus more for brushing 8 slices packaged thin white bread 2 Hass avocados Salt Cayenne pepper 4 ounces lump crabmeat, picked over 1 tablespoon chopped, fresh mint
Preheat the oven to 375°. Line a large rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper. Arrange 12 squares on the sheet and cover with more parchment paper. Top the squares with another baking sheet, bottom side down. If you have another pair of baking sheets, repeat with 12 more squares. Bake the squares for about 35 minutes, until the pastry is golden. Transfer the squares to a rack to cool. Repeat to bake the remaining squares. Return as many cooled squares as will fit to a baking sheet. Top each square with 1/2 teaspoon of the fig preserves. Sprinkle with the Stilton and bake for about 5 minutes, until the Stilton is melted. Serve warm or at room temperature. Make ahead: The unbaked frozen pastry squares can be frozen in an airtight container for up to 1 month.
2 teaspoons fresh lime juice Preheat the oven to 350° and lightly brush a large baking sheet with olive oil. Using a 2-inch round biscuit cutter, stamp 4 rounds out of each slice of bread and transfer to the baking sheet. Lightly brush the rounds with olive oil and toast for about 15 minutes until they are lightly golden and slightly crisp. In a small bowl, mash the avocados with a pinch each of salt and cayenne pepper. In another small bowl, gently stir the crabmeat with the mint and lime juice and then season with salt. Spread the mashed avocado on the toasts, top with the crab mixture, and serve right away.
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Parmesan Crisps with Heirloom Tomato Salad Chopped red, green, and orange tomatoes are tossed with olive oil and herbs, then served on Parmesan Tuiles, a thin, crisp, wafer made of dough or cheese from France. The result: a supremely colorful, incredibly easy hors d’oeuvre.
Ingredients 6 tablespoons freshly grated Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese 1 ½ tablespoons unsalted butter, softened 1 tablespoon plus 2 teaspoons all-purpose flour, plus more for pressing Freshly ground pepper 1 ½ cups finely diced heirloom tomatoes 1 tablespoon snipped chives 1 teaspoon coarsely chopped tarragon 2 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil Salt Preheat the oven to 400°. Line a large baking sheet with parchment paper. In a medium bowl, combine the Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese with the butter, flour, and a generous pinch of pepper. Mix the ingredients together until a dough forms. Form the dough into a 4-inch log. Cut the log into 12 equal slices and arrange the slices on the baking sheet. Using your fingers, press the slices into 1 1/2-inch rounds. Bake the tuiles on the lowest rack in the oven for about 7 minutes, rotating the pan halfway through baking, until the tuiles are golden brown and sizzling. Let the tuiles cool completely, then transfer them to a paper towel–lined plate and blot the excess fat.
Smoked Salmon Bruschetta with Mustard Butter Sour cream or cream cheese may be the usual spread with salty smoked salmon, but this recipe using softened butter makes a tasty alternative (think of ham-and-butter sandwiches). To give the butter a zippy bite, stir in lemon zest and both Dijon and grainy mustards.
Ingredients 1 stick unsalted butter, softened 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 1 tablespoon grainy mustard ½ teaspoon finely grated lemon zest 2 tablespoons chopped dill Salt Freshly ground pepper 1 baguette, sliced ¼ inch thick 1 pound thinly sliced smoked salmon
In a small bowl, toss the tomatoes with the chives, tarragon and olive oil, and season with salt and pepper. Spoon the salad over the tuiles and serve.
Preheat the oven on the broiler setting and position a rack 6 inches from the heat/flame. In a bowl, beat the butter with the Dijon and grainy mustards, lemon zest,1 tablespoon of the dill, and season with salt and pepper. Spread the baguette slices on a large rimmed baking sheet and broil until golden and crisp, 1 1/2 minutes per side. Let cool.
Make ahead: The parmesan crisps can be stored in an airtight container for up to 1 week. Re-crisp in a warm oven before topping with the tomato salad.
Spread the toasts with the mustard butter, top with the smoked salmon and arrange on a platter. Sprinkle with the remaining 1 tablespoon of dill and serve. Make ahead: The mustard butter can be refrigerated overnight. Let it soften before using. That’s it for this month. If you’d like to contact me, my email is AskDawnNow@AOL.com. “Like me” on Facebook at Cooking with Dawn Tours. You can also visit my website, CookingwithDawn.com, for more info about me, my trips, and my classes. Buon Appetito, as they say in Italy!
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