S OUTHV ALLEY JOURNAL.COM She said he struggles when little things go wrong, like if he drops a cup of water then his world revolves around how he “spoiled his water” or if the battery on his tablet dies. He’ll throw the electronic device, scream, bite himself or hit others. Aggressive behaviors she tries to redirect with a high-five. His inability to respond to instances of misfortune in a manner that is socially acceptable is what stresses out Sara. “Those things really scare me like what’s going to happen in the future when he’s out there and can’t get his seat belt on correctly and he freaks out and people don’t understand,” she said. At 3, he still wasn’t speaking. Sara came across a behavioral program that suggested taking dairy and gluten out of DJ’s diet. Her research said milk contains casein and gluten contains a wheat protein. Both of which may cause swelling in the brain and stomach. In his first week without dairy, he said 50 words. “Finally, we were hearing his voice and it was just amazing,” Sara said. He now drinks almond milk and is completely gluten-free. His School With DJ’s advanced knowledge, school has been tricky. At 2-years-old, the family got him involved with DDI Vantage, an early intervention non-profit that helps create goals and guidelines for children with autism. From there he moved into the Autism Support Services: Education, Research and Training (ASSERT) program throughout preschool. But when came the second day of first grade at a new school, things changed. Placed in a second and third grade class with other children with special needs, he wandered off. He left the lunch room and headed toward a busy road. “It was pretty scary,” Sara recalled. Though nothing bad happened, DJ’s parents decided to take their son out of school.
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That was last fall. DJ is now being homeschooled by his mom every afternoon since October. Though he’s demonstrated a desire to go back to school, Sara said it works for now, until they can accommodate sending him to a school for children with autism. The home school program they’re following allows DJ to test out of certain units making the process quicker. He finished the first grade in four months and is now in second grade. “I think at this point if I can do two grades a year, I’ll be able to catch up to where he’s really at,” said Sara, a former preschool teacher. She said she has a great daily curriculum to follow. He spends two hours in the morning every weekday working with Applied Behavior Analysis therapists who work with his behavior, they’re currently developing a program to help with aggressive behavior. “I just kind of let them do their thing which is hard for a mom but they’re doing great,” Sara said. His Moments Through the difficult moments over the years, the family— consisting of Sara, Dustin, teenage Sydnie and 5-year-old Anna— has enjoyed flashes of happiness. Whether it was DJ warmly embracing the return of his older sister—one of the few people Sara can trust him with—using the bathroom properly or him uttering three simple words, I love you. “We are just so thankful there are those moments…these little tiny things, when they happen, are like the biggest gifts ever. It’s overwhelming, emotional,” Sara said and choked back her tears. One such instance happened at Christmas, when DJ opened a present, looked up and said ‘thank you.’ “He had never shown us that he was thankful,” Sara said. “We didn’t even know he understood that so it was kind of neat to see like, wow, he’s more normal than not sometimes and I forget that cause he’s so unique. Going to the bathroom and the toilet, who would celebrate that? We do because it never happens.”
Dustin and Sara Bradford take a photo with a laughing DJ. (Bradford family)
His Future Like any parent, Sara worries about what the future holds for DJ. If he can have an independent life and not have to live with a family member to care for him. She wants him to have friends. Sara said he had a friend in preschool, but he doesn’t have any friends right now, adding that he’s demonstrated no desire to have friends. He loves his sisters, Sara said, and the family enjoys a good relationship with another family of similarly aged children. “I want him to be healthy and have what he needs… I want him to make a friend. I would love to see him have a conversation with someone someday,” Sara said of her hopes for her intelligent boy who just five years ago was writing “purple turtle” on a sidewalk. “I would say we just want him to be happy,” she said.
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