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Broadway’s If/Then and Disney’s Frozen songstress Idina Menzel dishes about her career, beautiful boy and life in Brooklyn. Jessica Alba tackles social business responsibility, motherhood and ‘make believe’ in a fearless manner and always with a smile.

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News from around the world

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A cultural roundup of new releases


Baby’s got dreamy gear

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Florida women to watch

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Family roots with genealogist Elizabeth S. Mills


The modern marvel of 3-D printing


Alicia Vela-Bailey leaps for a living


Camping? Yes. Roughing it? No.

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Tracy Mourning teaches girls to shine

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Summer projects for tiny hands


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CONTRIBUTORS ANDREA DUCLOS is the creator and full-time blogger of, a South Florida lifestyle blog with a focus on natural and simple living, home and garden, vegan recipes, and all things creative and aesthetically pleasing. OhDearDrea has been featured on Apartment Therapy, NPR, and named one of Babble’s top 100 mom blogs. Duclos is working on a plant-based family cookbook to be published early next year. For more projects, visit and follow her on Instagram @ohdeardrea.

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DR. RAMANI DURVASULA is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica, Calif., and professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles. She is the author of You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life and the accompanying iPhone app. Durvasula was the co-host of Oxygen’s series My Shopping Addiction and has been featured widely on nearly every major television network, radio, print and Internet media. As a professor, clinician, researcher, author, media commentator and mother, Durvasula brings an authentic, honest and informed opinion to the issues, big and small, that affect us all.

JESSICA DENAY is regarded as a leading mom lifestyle expert. She is the founder of the Hot Moms Club and author of the Hot Moms Handbook series. Based in Los Angeles, she is a celebrity ‘wingmom,’ helping prepare the Hollywood elite for motherhood. She has worked with countless Hollywood parents throwing their baby showers and events. Denay has appeared on more than 100 television shows, and has been featured in dozens of top magazines. She is a former XM radio host and magazine editor. She loves traveling, the beach and hiking with her 14-year-old son.

Letter from the Editor

Family. There truly is not another word that means more to me. As I have more years to look back on, I see with more clarity the people who mean the most. It’s my family, which grows with every year. Those who are not bound to us by blood become a part of us through love, marriage and even circumstance. I’m blessed to witness the word family come to represent any household of people who love each other and protect one another for life. In this issue we meet determined women with incredible and diverse accomplishments, impacting their families and the world. Their stories are a reminder that women who dedicate themselves to their families and goals can be the most resourceful and powerful people you will ever meet. There is a common denominator among these women: passion. Gina Fazio and her family’s decision to adopt a young boy meant stretching themselves financially to provide for someone in greater need. Tracy Mourning creates paths for misguided girls in Miami. Latham Thomas helps mothers—all women in fact—accept their purpose in life. After realizing the average family couldn’t easily buy natural, eco-friendly essentials, Jessica Alba launched The Honest Company so that all moms and children have access to healthier products. Last but not least is Idina Menzel. As the voice of Elsa in the Oscar winning song “Let it Go” from Disney’s family blockbuster Frozen, Menzel has unwittingly launched millions of 5-year-old budding YouTube stars. She is also a doyenne of stage, screen and a Tony Award winning actress for her role as Elphaba in Wicked. She is determined to juggle it all to pick up and drop off her number one fan, her son, to and from school. If you learn anything from the women in this issue of Muses & Visionaries, it’s this: Find your passion, and make it work. You’ll hear naysayers. Consider their input. You’ll run into obstacles. Delve deeper for the solutions. When you hear no, use it as fuel and motivation. When you encounter skepticism, gain a better understanding of what your plan is missing. And when you need a little confidence boost, turn to those you consider family.

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It's a blooming good time at botanical gardens around the country.


airchild Tropical Botanic Garden celebrates the mango at the 22nd Annual International Mango Festival—Mangos of Colombia. Inspired by David Fairchild’s love for mangos (The Coral Gables, Fl., garden was named after the botanist.), the festival hosts mango culinary demonstrations, a brunch, lectures and an auction July 12-13.

he New York Botanical Garden pays tribute to the American women who emerged as influential professionals in the fields of landscape architecture and design, garden photography and garden writing in the early 20th century. Groundbreakers: Great American Gardens & The Women Who Designed Them is continues through September 7. Weird, Wild & Wonderful (below) showcases contemporary drawn and painted works of flora, until September 21.


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allivanting gorillas, frolicking frogs and ogling orangutans abound at the Atlanta Botanical Garden through October 31. Imaginary Worlds: A New Kingdom of Plant Giants showcases 28 giant topiary-like sculptures created by International Mosaicultures of Montreal. These sculptures are up to 25 feet tall and contain nearly 200,000 plants.

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Begin Again


A Most Wanted Man

Get on up

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eira Knightley reclaims her spot as movie darling in the rom-dramedy Begin Again (July 4) when a chance meeting between Knightley’s and Mark Ruffalo’s characters leads to a creative spark in their singer-songwriting careers. Boyhood (July 11, limited release), impressively filmed over a 12-year period—2002 to 2013—captures Mason’s (Ellar Coltrane) transformation from boyhood to adolescence. The crew, including Ethan Hawke and Patricia Arquette, filmed for a few days over each of the 12 years. Michel Gondry’s French film Mood Indigo (July 18) is a manic, visionary love story based on the novel Foam of the Daze, featuring Audrey Tautou and Romain Duris. An American couple (James Franco and Kate Hudson) living in London thinks their luck has changed when they discover cash in a deceased neighbor’s apartment in Good People (July 25). In one of his final films, late actor Philip Seymour Hoffman plays a German intelligence expert in A Most Wanted Man (July 25), adapted from John le Carré’s psychological novel. Hoffman’s character uncovers a connection between a world-renowned Muslim philanthropist and a terrorist group. Director Tate Taylor chronicles the moods and music of godfather of soul James Brown (Chadwick Boseman) in Get On Up (August 1), costarring Viola Davis, Octavia Spencer and Jill Scott. On the brink of separation, a couple (Elisabeth Moss and Mark Duplass) escapes to a vacation home to salvage their relationship in The One I Love (August 15), but surreal twists and fantasy elements reveal the complexities of their troubled partnership. Elmore Leonard’s novel The Switch is brought to the life in the indie film Life of Crime (August 29). Co-starring Jennifer Aniston, Tim Robbins, Will Forte, Mos Def and Isla Fisher, the movie features a sequence of double crosses, plot twists and violence when a kidnapping goes awry.

In her sophomore novel The Hundred-Year House, author Rebecca Makkai delivers a cleverly constructed narrative that moves back in time, always swirling around a central character—a historic home in a wealthy suburb of Chicago once known as the Laurelfield Arts Colony. Marxist scholar Zee and her writer husband Doug are in residence at the carriage house of her family’s estate. In theory, Doug should be finishing a biography of a poet who once lived at the estate but is utterly distracted by other pursuits, including obsessing over files from the arts colony that Zee’s mother keeps locked in the attic. As the intricate story unfolds, family truths and mysteries surrounding the house come to light. (Viking, July 10, 2014)


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One Plus One, from best-selling author Jojo Moyes, is a light-hearted novel that mingles a memorable cast of characters with a road trip that is anything but routine. Protagonist Jess Thomas has an untidy life managing a math genius daughter, a bullied teenage stepson and a job as a house cleaner. Her husband has taken off, and getting her daughter to the faraway Math Olympiads proves to be a challenge for Jess until the tech millionaire (with problems of his own), whose house she cleans, steps in to assist. Who would guess love might follow? (Pamela Dorman Books/Viking, July 1, 2014)


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he average 17 year old is likely to be in high school grinding through pop quizzes, but at 17, Alex Kandel was more than a student; she was the frontwoman for Sleeper Agent, a Bowling Green, Ky., band. Sleeper Agent became an instant hit with its debut album Celabrasion in 2011. Their second album, About Last Night, debuted in March and served as inspiration for Kandel to reinvent her image while playing big with the boys on the road. Kandel chats with Muses & Visionaries about finding herself and growing on stage and being a woman in the music industry.


M&V: How did the recording process for About Last Night differ from Celabrasion? KANDEL: The first time we didn’t have a label, management or a booking agent. There was only a producer who wanted to make a record with us, and he gave us a week to do it. It was very ‘from the gut.’ On the new record we wanted to push ourselves to write in a different way. We spent a year on it. There were moments of uncertainty, but then there were moments where you could see the kind of record we were making and that kept us going.

How about the transition of your own image from the first record to the second? I was 17 on the first record and about to turn 21 on the new record. I have grown up a lot. At the beginning I felt like I had to be one of the guys to be respected. It’s difficult being a female on the road, especially when you start out. I act[ed] more aggressive and masculine. I’ve learned it’s ok to be feminine. You can still be strong because of that, not in spite of it.

What is your message to girls who want to be in a band? People probably don’t realize this, but you get yelled at while on stage. I’ve [heard] obscene, horrible comments shouted my way. Some people still don’t know how to accept a woman being a leader of a band. I studied comedians and how they handle hecklers and learned how to keep an audience on our side while still putting someone in their place. My advice is to be yourself on stage. You don’t have to be overly sexual or masculine. —Interview by Dana Krangel

Shadows in the Vineyard: The True Story of a Plot to Poison the World’s Greatest Wine is a thrilling look into a crime that stunned France and those who recognized the importance of the Domaine de la Romanée-Conti name to the world of fine wine. Writer Maximillian Potter covered the story for Vanity Fair in 2010: Aubert de Villaine, proprietor of the acclaimed vineyard, received an anonymous threat to destroy his vineyard if a one million euro ransom was not paid. Perceiving it to be a hoax was a tragic misstep for de Villaine. Potter’s investigation into the crime led to a fascinating series of twists and turns that included a sting operation, the suspect’s suicide and a gripping trial. (Twelve, July 29, 2014)

Award-winning writer Helen Thorpe follows three military women in Soldier Girls: The Battles of Three Women at Home and at War, revealing the true complexities experienced by female soldiers in active service. Thorpe’s novel offers a careful reflection on all aspects of the women’s lives over a period of 12 years: their friendship with each other, tours in Afghanistan and Iraq, discrimination by male colleagues, life-changing events, economic struggles and challenges with family back at home. Amid the bigger politics surrounding women in the military that are churning on the home front, Soldier Girls is an intimate and powerful account of modern military life. (Scribner, August 5, 2014)

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Indulge OR NOT


uying for baby can be both incredibly fun and astonishingly complicated. From first walking shoes to strollers, the choices for wee ones these days range from chic and simple to high-tech and challenging. Muses & Visionaries recently surveyed happy new parents and came up with a few choices for bébé that are stylish, eco- and user-friendly.







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Making WAVES

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Alexandra Villoch

The Leading Miamian

By Jodi Belden South Florida hit a monumental landmark in gender equality this past April when the Miami Herald Media Company announced Alexandra Villoch as its new president and publisher, and the first woman to hold that position in the paper’s 110-year history. Villoch, who has worked for the company for 14 years, is quick to say that the move isn’t surprising for the media company. “I have been surrounded by powerful, intelligent women at the top level of this company for a while. It isn’t about gender here; it is about the best person for the job.” The significance of the announcement isn’t lost on Villoch, who has been “humbled and inspired” by the letters and notes sent to her by people in the community thanking her for being a beacon of strength and hope. Villoch isn’t the stereotypical overachiever. She admits she didn’t always have her life figured out. Rather than having a clear career path, she chose to seize every opportunity that challenged her and never felt the need to stay comfortable for too long. She graduated from the University of Miami earning a bachelor’s degree in political science and a Master of Business Administration.


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One of her first major roles was general manager for United Airlines at the Miami International Airport. It was there that she got her first taste of being a part of the boys’ club. “I was the first woman to be hired into that group in 13 years,” she points out. “I have always been a team player, no matter what.” It is this attitude that keeps propelling her to greater heights. She started at the Miami Herald in 2000 as the national advertising director and moved into the role of senior vice president for advertising and marketing by 2005. Miami is a unique market and Villoch is proud of the personal touch she brings to her community. Born in Cuba, she moved with her family to the U.S. at age 2 for her father’s construction job. They settled in Miami when she was a teenager. Villoch’s father taught her at an early age that education is the one tool that can never be taken away from you; she has invested in that advice. She adores her community and feels it is her responsibility to deliver information that people can connect with and trust. Villoch has served on the Big Brothers Big Sisters board for ten years and co-chaired the One

Community, One Goal economic development initiative for Miami-Dade County. “There is so much need,” she explains, and feels honored to be able to help. So how does this successful career woman make time for herself? “Exercise,” she says. “I know for me it’s not just the physical part but the mental clarity I get from working out.” Villoch tries to run three miles every day and is on board with the new green smoothie craze. While Villoch is old school at heart, she believes there is a place for hardcopy and digital devices in the publishing world. She thinks readers retain more by reading a hardcopy newspaper, but the stats are strong for both media outlets: 1.1 million Sunday papers go out every week to subscribers. The website had 8.8 million unique hits for the website in June. The average Miami Herald reader starts off the day with the print version then moves onto digital devices for ease and timeliness, according to Villoch. She knows the digital aspect of reporting news isn’t going anywhere, and she’s fine with that because she isn’t either. ■

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Rachel Charlupski

Mary Poppins at Your Service By Jodi Belden


ou’re finally on your dream vacation with your kids, unwinding from the stresses of work, and you wish you had that one thing you had to leave at home: the babysitter. Many parents hesitate to use childcare services while on vacation because they’re unsure whether the service is reputable or has the proper credentials to operate. Enter Rachel Charlupski to swoop in and save the day. Charlupski is the founder of The Babysitting Company, a one-stop full service childcare operation that offers solutions to problems that traveling parents didn’t even know they had. With 14 years of industry experience under her belt, Charlupski manages 1,500 independent childcare contractors who are available 24-hours a day in 14 cities, including London, New York City, Sydney and even Jerusalem. Her employees range in age from 19 to 70, speak numerous languages and must be American citizens. Charlupski knows that each family has its preferences for caregivers, so her contractors represent an array of personalities. Parents have a choice of a male or female, who must provide references, complete strict training and demonstrate five years of experience. The business idea started when Charlupski was at Arizona State University and needed to supplement her student salary. She would pop into the local hotels to see if anyone needed a babysitter for the evening. Over time she started to have more requests than nights in the week and asked friends to help her cover the workload. Local clients became national clients when they traveled back home, and


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soon her services were in demand all over the country. After six years of growing the business in Phoenix, she moved to Miami in 2009 to be closer to her family and set up headquarters on Collins Avenue. “I didn’t realize it at the time, but South Florida became my best move. The business exploded here,” says Charlupski. Charlupski doesn’t do outreach to find sitters; hopefuls come to her through word-of-mouth referrals and go through a tough screening process, followed by a mandatory 10 hours of training that includes first aid and CPR certification. Veteran sitters accompany trainees on their first assignment. The company is very sensitive to the needs of its high-profile clients and requires its babysitters to sign confidentiality agreements and use the utmost discretion. “Families fall in love with our sitters and request the same girl or guy over and over, every time they come to a particular city,” boasts Charlupski. She even talks about a time a sitter was hired for one night and ended up staying for two weeks because she was the perfect fit for the family. Charlupski loves what she does. She still answers most incoming calls and has worked very hard to make The Babysitting Company a welcome luxury for parents. They don’t have to second-guess the safety or quality of her services. Charlupski hopes to be able to use her sitters for a family of her own one day. Although not yet married or a mother, Charlupski says, “My work has been my main focus up until now, but a husband and kids have always been on the agenda.” ■



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Beth Dowdle

By Jodi Belden


ost people, if they are lucky, experience at least one pivotal event in their lifetime that shapes their outlook forever. According to Beth Dowdle, Mother Nature has given her that chance multiple times. “The opportunity to be outdoors and observe nature in Florida has provided inspiration and so many life lessons,” says Dowdle. One of those moments was watching a sea turtle hatchling. “They all had to work together for any of them to dig out of the nest and despite the many obstacles on their race to the ocean, they never gave up. The cooperation and fortitude of those little turtles can serve as inspiration for our lives too.” Dowdle, a land conservationist who has worked in Florida for more than two decades, has a very strong attachment to the state’s natural landscape and protection. She was working for The Conservation Fund in Boston when the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation asked the nonprofit to advise them on a land conservation strate-

gy for its 50,000 vacant acres of land in Palm Beach and Martin counties, at which time Dowdle relocated from North Carolina to the Sunshine State in 1992. Dowdle attended East Carolina University and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill before getting her Master of Public Administration from Harvard University. “I believe the connection with nature is critically important to the human experience,” she states. This belief has driven her to spend a good portion of her life focusing on beautifying urban and civic spaces. Her latest endeavor includes a partnership with the Norton Museum of Art in West Palm Beach, Fla., serving as a community planning consultant for the museum’s master plan to create a more hospitable environment. “Museums are idea generators and [this plan] will help improve the neighborhood and build on a budding cultural reputation,” says Dowdle. The museum is configuring how to best incorporate nature, art

and historic preservation with a new garden, expanded gallery spaces and the restoration of its historic neighborhood. Dowdle lends her time and talents to a long list of projects and organizations. Some of her greatest accomplishments include launching the Florida Greenways Program and serving as director of the Loxahatchee Greenways Program and as an officer of The Conservation Fund. She is on the board of many nonprofit groups aimed at preserving Florida’s natural habitats. As conservation chairman of the Garden Club of Palm Beach, Dowdle has initiated conservation education programs for the community as well as an environmental education program for children. She also authored Coontie and Atala, a children’s book about native plants, as part of an award-winning exhibit at the Garden Club’s biennial flower show held at The Society of the Four Arts. Dowdle encourages all generations to get outdoors and fall in love with the beauty that surrounds us, even if it’s just a short stop to smell the roses. ■

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Let’s Go


Sleeping on rocks and catching dinner in a nearby lake is not everyone’s idea of fun, but glamping might be more enticing to the camping cynics. It’s the 21st century version of camping with a glamorous twist. This is wanderlust at its best, where roomy canvas tents, soft lighting and comfy beds are situated in the most picturesque settings.


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ongitude 131째 brings guests and nature face to face with its unending expanse of sky and secluded sand dune location. Its 15 white canvas tents are perched on stilts overlooking the Uluru-Kata Tjuta National Park, a UNESCO World Heritage site also known as Ayers Rock. Each canopy tent has floor-toceiling windows facing the massive red stone. Other luxury perks include oversized rain showers and king-size beds.

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ndÊmico is for wine lovers or maybe just lovers. Staggered on a secluded hill among giant boulders in the wine-growing region of Valle de Guadalupe, 20 eco-friendly cabins let the area’s natural landscape do most of the talking. In the evenings the hill is dotted with lit clay kivas housed on private terraces.


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Chiang Rai, Thailand Four Seasons Tented Camp Golden Triangle


eep in the bamboo jungles of the Golden Triangle is the Four Seasons Tented Camp and the land’s most gentle giants. Take a bareback elephant trek to watch the sunrise over the Laos mountains and the Mekong River. Then head back to one of the property’s 15 luxurious open-air tents, outfitted with custom-made wooden hot tubs and two-person, hand-hammered copper bathtubs. For an added bonus, book through Jacada Travel to experience a paddle through the Golden Triangle, between Thailand, Laos and Myanmar, on a sea kayak.

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Un plugGed Isle of Wight, United Kingdom Priory Bay Hotel


he Isle of Wight flourished as a resort in the Victorian period, and Priory Bay Hotel is ideal for the astute traveler. Its five yurts, all uniquely designed, are perfectly British, complete with en suite bathrooms, expansive windows and cotton-linen sheets. Begin and end each day on the secluded terraces with candlelit lanterns overlooking the ocean.

Greenough, Montana The Resort at Paws Up


ho knew camping and butlers went hand in hand? This ranch resort, staffed with attentive butlers and a skilled chef, is home to five luxury-tented camping areas complete with electricity, heat and rain showers. The tents are nestled on a 37,000-acre working Montana ranch. Tents in the Cliffside and Pinnacle areas overlook the union of the Blackfoot River and Elk Creek. Whichever camp you choose, there are plenty of s’mores to go around.


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INSPIRE Tanzania, East Africa Nomad Tanzania


everal have tried but few have done as well as the 20-year-old safari company Nomad Tanzania. If you have a love for the African bush, then this authentic glamping safari will take you deep into the grass plains and river crossings where wildebeests and elephants roam and predators lurk. Its nine camps—located in three of the most remote corners of the country—feature raised open-front cottages and tents whose exterior and interior designs play with natural elements and luxury comforts.

Les Giettes, Switzerland Whitepod


n top of the Swiss Alps lie 15 dome-shaped tents. Each pod has a king-size bed, large bay windows and a deck that may or may not be covered in snow during the winter. Did we mention the private skiing, snowshoe trails, dog sledding and paragliding? The environmentally conscious property is now keeping its doors open through the summer.

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Harads, Sweden Treehotel


nly in Sweden would an elite group of architects design and build contemporary custom tree houses in the middle of unspoiled nature. Our favorite is the Mirrorcube, suspended approximately 14 feet above ground with walls covered in reflective glass, clad with infrared film visible only to the birds. Each room at Treehotel, including the Bird’s Nest and the UFO, has unparalleled views of the Lule River and is surrounded by miles of forest.


Moab, Utah Moab Under Canvas


leep in a tepee under the stars or in a deluxe cabin. The Moab Under Canvas camp is equipped with running water and deck lounge chairs perfect for watching an uninterrupted sunset view of the Arches National Park. The days call for picnic lunches and hiking, biking and climbing excursions.

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Cool Calm & Collected On the heels of Frozen’s success, IDINA MENZEL’s professional life is in the fast lane. At home, life with her son takes another pace.

By Nila Do Simon

Robin Wong


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Idina on family, fame, Frozen and the future


t’s the morning of Idina Menzel’s 43rd birthday, and she’s prepping for an interview with Muses & Visionaries.

It’s not how most people would imagine Menzel—the supremely talented Broadway performer, Tony Award winner, and powerful voice behind mega-hit song “Let It Go” from Disney’s Frozen—spending her birthday. For a performer who recently hit the fame jackpot, it’s only apropos. Between being a mother to 4-year-old son Walker, her intense eight-shows-a-week Broadway schedule, and the natural demands of her newfound stardom, pinning down this generation’s Barbra Streisand for an interview hasn’t been without compromise. Menzel has carved an elite spot on the theater stage. Frozen, the highest grossing animated movie of all time, and John Travolta’s slip up at this year’s Academy Awards, pronouncing Menzel’s name as Adele Dazeem, only propelled her career further and into an audience of millions. “Let It Go” won Best Original Song Menzel as a child at the Oscars, awarded to songwriters Bobby Lopez and Kristen Anderson-Lopez. To equate it simply, Menzel is Broadway royalty. She joins the ranks of Andrew Lloyd Webber, Marvin Hamlisch and Stephen Sondheim as Broadway’s best and most indelible contributors. With her performances as Maureen in Broadway’s Rent (later reprising that role in the 2005 film version), a Tony Award-winning role as Elphaba in Wicked, as well as


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prominent roles in Hair and Aida, Menzel is one of theater’s most sought-after performers. She is currently the lead in the musical If/ Then, a coming-of-age show about a woman on the verge of 40 who embarks on a new life in New York City. Menzel was nominated this year for a Tony Award for best leading actress in a musical for her role in If/Then. But it wasn’t until she was cast as the voice of Elsa, the complicated but likable antagonist in Frozen, that she became a household voice—and every child’s singing hero—at the age of 42. “When I signed on for the role, I was just really stoked to be in a Disneyanimated film with music,” Menzel says. “I had no idea it would be the juggernaut that it is now. I love the fact that [the movie] is breaking rules and is unconventional in the Disney sense. It’s not about a prince but about sisters, and the villain is not really a villain.” Menzel’s parents named their eldest daughter Idina after the Hebrew word meaning “gentle,” a word her mother loved. As if a precursor to Travolta’s pronunciation snafu heard around the world, Menzel remembers her first and last name (originally Mentzel) mispronounced as a child. Her mother, Helene, would constantly correct others: “It’s ‘Idina’ with a short ‘i.’” Eventually, after countless mispronunciations, Menzel dropped the “t” in her family name. “My dad [recently] asked me where my talent came from? Sometimes there’s untapped talent in your parents, so they had the foresight to get me involved in [music],” says Menzel, who was born in Queens, New Jersey, and grew up in Long Island. 


“My dad recently asked me where my talent came from. Sometimes there’s untapped talent in your parents. They had the foresight to get me involved in music.”

Robin Wong

—Idina Menzel


Her parents, who were a therapist and a pajama salesman, kept her and sister Cara busy with summer camps, voice lessons and the occasional trek into the city to see a Broadway show. Though a regular in her school’s choir, it was a third grade performance that laid the path to her successful future. “I was auditioning for a solo in the choir. I was so nervous, but after my performance, I remember seeing the people’s reaction and also how the power of my voice affected them. I began to see that I could connect to people with my voice,” says Menzel.

porting roles, Menzel attributes her meteoric rise in recent years to Walker.

never been on before and further inspired the name. Walker was born on Sept. 2, 2009.

“I’ve learned not to take things seriously, to not sweat the small stuff and to realize there is someone else out there who needs to be put in front of myself [no matter how] I’m feeling about the industry,” she says. “I’ve been kicking around and trying to cross over for years and years. It wasn’t until I stopped chasing a dream and when I put myself in a room with people who were more talented than me that all this started happening.”

When Walker was a baby, she and Diggs would craft their own “silly, silly” lullabies for their boy. “Sweet Walker” remains her favorite, a tune that Walker still resonates with today. “You’re going to fall into your dreams,” Menzel still sings to him.

As a teenager, she performed at weddings and bar mitzvahs. She went on to graduate from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts in 1993, and shortly after graduation she won the role of Maureen in Rent, a show that revived and reinvigorated Broadway in the 1990s.

In 2010 Menzel along with husband and fellow actor Taye Diggs (they met on the stage production of Rent and are now separated) started A BroaderWay Foundation, which allows girls from underserved communities a chance to express themselves through arts-centered programs.

In her 20s and 30s, she admits professional success and stability were forefront in her mind. In the past 18 years, she performed in 13 stage productions and 18 film and television roles, including appearances on the TV show Glee and the film Enchanted. She was rejected to play the lead role in Disney’s Tangled and then got the call for Frozen. All that seems light years away from the artist Menzel is today. Today, her priorities have shifted to her son Walker. “People give you so much advice when you become a mother,” she says. “But what they don’t tell you is that from the day you have the child, you’re going to constantly worry about him. You are always thinking about him. They don’t tell you how much love you can have for him either. Knowing your capacities of love for someone can only happen once you become a mother.” Menzel says much of her success today is owed to becoming a mother. After years of toiling on the stage and in film and TV sup-


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Every year a group of girls attend Camp BroaderWay in Great Barrington, Massachusetts, where they have the chance to bond and empower each other. They are encouraged to write songs, perform them, and use their imagination to create new avenues for themselves. A BroaderWay Foundation is an organization that Menzel holds close to her heart and speaks about with much affection. “Camp was sort of a salvation for me,” Menzel says about her childhood. “I was lucky to go as a kid, and it was an escape from school. I had a hard time finding my inner voice, despite having such a big voice. If I had that problem, then other teenage girls must have that, too.” With a shared love of author Alice Walker’s works, Menzel and Diggs always had an affinity for the name Walker. After learning their baby’s gender, the couple wandered about New York City and found themselves lost and on Walker Street, which they had

Walker remains the couple’s prime focus. Returning to Broadway after a 10-year hiatus (there was a reading of Nero in 2008) and ow performing eight shows a week in the production of If/Then, Menzel refuses to let her work’s demands interfere with motherhood. Her Twitter page is peppered with her own apologies for not signing autographs after a performance because the babysitter’s time is up and Menzel needs to get back to her son. “There’s that constant guilt I have when I can’t be with him every moment, like when I need to have the babysitter pick him up from school,” Menzel admits. “I’m trying to navigate through it for Walker, and somehow I just need to figure out how not to be hard on myself when times like that do happen. It’s not just the showy Broadway profession. I hang out with the moms at school and they are also juggling so much. It makes me feel much stronger.” So what does Walker think of his mommy’s fame? Honestly, he’s too young to understand it, but the other day, while at a crafts class, Walker heard the song “Let It Go.” “My mommy sings that song,” he proudly announced to his classmates. And their reaction? “My mommy sings that song, too!” “I’m excited about my future [and] the experiences that I have in forming who I am and who I will become. There’s something about the unknown that is not terrifying these days, just exciting.” ■

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Big picture NEWS AND REPORTS FROM AROUND THE WORLD Women at the helm, a growing list of female leaders

Presidents of Argentina, Brazil and Chile, then and now.


he Spice Girls had it right: Girl power rules. There are now more female world leaders than ever before—19 women are holding the office of president or prime minister. The countries include Argentina, Bangladesh, Brazil, Central African Republic, Chile, Denmark, Germany, Jamaica, Kosovo, Latvia, Liberia, Lithuania, Malta, Malawi, Norway, Senegal, South Korea, Slovenia, and Trinidad and Tobago. Historically, 58 countries have had female presidents or prime ministers. United States, take notice!

Tides are Turning for Marriage Equality in the U.S.


ias be gone! A Gallup poll reveals that support for same-sex marriage is at an all-time high. Fifty-five percent of Americans polled agree that marriage between same-sex couples should be recognized by law with the same rights granted to traditional marriages. Also significant, eight of 10 young adults polled are in favor of gay marriage. Gallup first asked this question in 1996, and at that time only 27 percent of Americans were supportive. The recent findings are not surprising given the legal successes garnered by marriage equality advocates during the past year. Pennsylvania and Oregon are the most recent states to strike down bans on gay marriage. A total of 19 states, covering 44 percent of the American population, now have marriage equality laws. With more than 70 court cases challenging gay marriage bans across the country, more states are expected to follow.

Trade ban forces women to say goodbye to lacy lingerie


ho knew women’s underwear could pose such conflict? Russia, Belarus and Kazakhstan, which make up a customs union, introduced a regulation a few months ago requiring clothing that comes in contact with skin to contain at least 6 percent of cotton for safety reasons. As of this July 1 underwear that does not meet this requirement will no longer be produced and imported into these three post-Soviet countries.


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Health News  Migraine sufferers who

experienced reduced stress from one day to the next are at significantly increased risk of migraine onset on the subsequent day, according to a study conducted by researchers at the Montefiore Headache Center and Albert Einstein College of Medicine at Yeshiva University. The research, published in Neurology, found that there is a striking association between reduction in perceived stress and the occurrence of migraine headaches.

 Women’s sexual satisfaction in long-term heterosexual re-

lationships may be influenced by changes in hormonal contraceptive use, says a study published in Psychological Science. Researchers at the University of Stirling, Scotland, found women who had met their partner while taking the pill and were still taking it, as well as those who had never used the pill at any point, reported greater sexual satisfaction than those women who had begun or stopped using the pill during the course of the relationship. Findings support earlier research that showed hormonal contraceptives, such as the pill, subtly alter women’s ideal partner preferences so that women who are using the pill when they meet their partner find the same partner less desirable when they stop using the pill.

 The United Kingdom’s Department of Health is launch-

ing the largest study in the world to investigate whether the use of mobile phones affects children’s brain development. The Study of Cognition, Adolescents and Mobile Phones will examine 2,500 children, ages 11 and 12, and will collect data on how they use their wireless devices and follow their cognitive development over the next two years. To date there is no convincing evidence that links mobile devices’ radio waves to health issues. Most of the research has focused on adults; there is concern that children’s developing brains may be more vulnerable because their nervous systems are still developing.


✈ An upgrade for cervical cancer screenings is on the horizon





Standard Colposcopy

Red, yellow and white colors indicate more acetowhitening

White areas indicate more acetowhitening

ervical cancer is the fourth most common cancer affecting women worldwide. More than 12,000 U.S. women are diagnosed each year, and more than 4,000 women die yearly from the disease. Despite such high numbers, doctors are using the same diagnostic procedure that was developed in the 1920s. This current colposcopic procedure is extremely subjective and can cause a missed diagnosis that could progress to invasive cervical cancer, according to Kim Stebbings, U.S. president for DySIS Medical, a medical device company. The need for change has propelled Stebbings’ company to create the next-generation colposcopy, the DySIS™Advanced Cervical Imaging System.

M&V: How does the DySIS™colposcopy work? STEBBINGS: A colposcopy is typically done by a doctor using only a pair of binoculars and the naked eye. The DySIS Advanced Cervical Imaging System uses a patented digital technology called Dynamic Spectral Imaging to objectively measure and record the procedure and identify small suspicious areas. This helps doctors select areas to biopsy and to objectively compare changes over time. This is kind of like a digital mammogram for the cervix. You can even get a copy of your “map.” Exactly what does the map show? The map is color-coded and acts like a weather map to inform the doctor where the “hot spots” are. In scientific terms, it is a quantified measure of a procedure done during colposcopy that measures changes in the cervix caused by pre-cancerous cells. Selecting the right areas the first time around can allow less invasive preventive treatments to be done earlier to help prevent cervical cancer, and that’s what it is all about. Tell me about the data behind the technology and its success rates? DySIS is approved by the FDA, and a major U.S. study starts in July. Studies already have been published in multiple, peer-reviewed journals based on data from two large multi-center trials in Europe. It received a positive recommendation from the U.K. government-based National Institute of Health and Care Excellence. Is this test available in the U.S. now? Yes, DySIS is already available in multiple OB/GYN offices on the East Coast, and the procedure is reimbursed by insurance like a standard colposcopy. CAN ANY woman request this test? It’s done only after a woman has had an abnormal Pap test, an abnormal high risk HPV (human papillomavirus) test or if she has certain symptoms. Will the DySIS imaging system eventually replace the current colposcopy? We believe it’s critical this technology replace standard colposcopies, which is why we are launching a 50-site clinical trial in July involving hundreds of physicians. Cervical cancer rates have remained stable and new technology is desperately needed to help eradicate the disease. Considering colposcopy is one of the few medical procedures that has not changed in more than 90 years, it’s about time.

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he 1976 publication of Alex Haley’s novel Roots conveyed a powerful message: “Every family has stories worth telling and pasts that can be uncovered,” says Elizabeth Shown Mills, a historical researcher and genealogist. “This was a radical thought to generations bored by classroom history that seemed so unconnected to modern lives.” Mills is a past president of the American Society of Genealogists and the Board for Certification of Genealogists, who developed and headed the advanced methodology track at the Institute of Genealogy and Historical Research at Samford University in Birmingham, Alabama. She has penned 13 books, including Isle of Canes, the 2004 historical novel, and Evidence Explained: Citing History Sources from Artifacts to Cyberspace. “Genealogy is history, up close and personal,” explains Mills, who specializes in Southern frontier families and has investigated thousands of family trees that have taken her into far diverse places. “No matter who we are, our own families helped create this world we live in. Knowing their lives and their stories can help us better understand society and the complex relationships that now exist between people rooted in different cultures.” With technology in everyone’s grasp, the art of genealogy has advanced by leaps and bounds. Billions of original documents from archives around the world are available. The price tag for research depends on many variables. For example, the choices each ancestor made on a daily basis will affect the amount and kind of records that he or she created. The place and time in which the ancestor lived as well as the history and climate of each locale also influence the availability and quality of records.


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Let the search for your roots begin. START WITH YOURSELF. Interview your parents and all family elders. Ask for permission to copy family papers and mementos. Get their stories but also get specific names, dates and places. You’ll need those to pursue research. GET A GOOD HOW-TO BOOK. Take some time to learn about genealogy and the records that exist before entering the Google abyss to start your search. It will help you avoid making naïve mistakes about identity and kinship. EXPLORE THE INTERNET WISELY. It is tempting to use information from online family trees, but many trees lack historical documentation and are ripe with fantasy and false assumptions made by beginners who just “collected names” that appear to match. When you find a “ready-made” tree online, never ever merge it with your own. Doing that is genealogy’s equivalent of unsafe sex! It’s ok to consider someone else’s tree for clues, but be sure that each identity, each kinship decision, and each fact you assert in your own family history is supported by a reliable document. SEEK OUT ORIGINAL RECORDS. Censuses, military files, immigration and naturalization records, deeds and tax rolls, city directories and newspapers are available online at free sites such as, and, as well as paid sites such as, and If the records you need are not online, you may find that county recorders, local clerks and other government agencies can provide assistance with genealogical research and copies of records in their custody. CONSIDER DNA TESTING. Mitochondrial and Y-line DNA tests can help solve research stalemates. ‘Family finder’ tests will identify kin who also are working on your family lines and can share their knowledge. Remember that DNA tests alone don’t tell us who we are. That knowledge comes from paper-trail evidence that we use to reconstruct ancestral lives and prove identities. WORK TO STANDARDS. Like most worthwhile pursuits, genealogy has standards and best practices that help us succeed. If we start out thinking, “I’m just doing this for my own family; I can do whatever I want to do,” the result will always be roadblocks and expensive errors.

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The modern-day printing REVOLUTION Forget printing essays or travel itineraries. 3-D printing is drawing the future closer and putting more power in the hands of businesses and consumers by allowing for greater control, customization and creativity of products. By Styliana Resvanis


Also known as additive manufacturing, 3-D printing uses digital models and computer software to create three-dimensional objects by adding layer upon layer of material, similar to arranging building blocks.


Charles Hull invented stereolithography—or solid imaging, said to be the precursor of today’s 3-D printing technology—in the mid-1980s. Early applications of 3-D printing included prototyping and research and development in industries such as automobile production and engineering.



3-D printer prices vary based on size, capability and material. Cheaper models can run under $500, while more expensive ones can cost upward of $2,000. Retailers such as Staples offer 3-D printing at limited locations with pricing determined on a case-by-case basis.

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Businesses can customize products and create prototypes in-house, allowing them to continually tweak and test samples, which would take longer and cost more through traditional manufacturers. When Ford Motor Company implemented 3-D printing it cut production time of certain parts by 25 to 30 percent. 3-D printers can use materials such as plastic, metal and sand; apply to virtually any industry, including medicine, engineering and education; and print anything from artificial organs to cellphone cases. Students in France turned a 3-D printer into a tattoo machine.


Concerns include copyright infringement, ease of use, weapon production (3-D-printed guns) and possible health hazards (aerosol emissions). MakerBot’s Thingiverse website offers an open-platform community for discovering, making and sharing printable designs, and Shapeways, Inc. provides an online forum for making, buying and selling 3-D printed products.



ART - Bathsheba Grossman’s mathematics-based sculptures include intricate details—knots, interconnections and crossings—that might have been impossible without 3-D printing. “It allows you to make complex objects without having a mold,” she says. “It’s a freedom of geometry that just wasn’t available.” The Boston-based sculptor has used the technique since the late 1990s and specializes in direct-metal printing. Ceramics and precious metals are recent additions to 3-D printing’s arsenal. Grossman hopes fine porcelain and art glass will come next and says she doesn’t view 3-D printing as a replacement of previous art forms but as another tool in an artist’s toolbox.

FASHION - This technology could cut the devil out of the details in fashion. “3-D printing allows for the creation of forms, which cannot be realized by the human hand alone,” says designer Michael Schmidt. Last year, Schmidt—who created the Lady Gaga bubble dress for a Rolling Stone cover—collaborated with Francis Bitonti to create the first fully articulated 3-D printed gown, a nylon number molded for burlesque dancer Dita Von Teese (right). Until printable materials can become breathable and washable like fabric, the technology remains limited, but Schmidt believes it will eventually have wide-ranging implications. “This ability to innovate entirely new structures is extremely exciting for a designer,” he says.

FOOD - Machines like the ChefJet™ produce chocolate and candy, and Cornell University’s Creative Machines Lab concocts corn chips and hamburgers. “It’s like having a mini-manufacturing plant in your house,” says Lynette Kucsma, chief marketing officer and co-founder of Spain’s Natural Machines, which manufactures Foodini (left), a 3-D food printer that is slated for mass production in January. The machine allows kitchen users, both home and professional, more creativity in the design and presentation of food. Aside from granting greater control over a meal’s shape, flavor and texture, it can also produce foods without preservatives found in store-bought items. According to Kucsma, 3-D food printers have the potential to gain popularity like the microwave. ■

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Alicia Vela-Bailey Stuntwoman

“The craziest stunt I’ve done was for Divergent. I stood on the ledge of a 70-foot high building and jumped off with no wires into an airbag. I did the jump five times so they could film the different camera angles. I had never done a jump from that high before. The film was shot in Chicago. The day of the shoot was very windy, so finding my balance before I jumped was difficult. Each time I looked down at my landing spot, I concentrated on my breathing and focused myself. When you’re about to jump off a building nothing else matters at that moment; my mind goes clear and that’s when I know I’m in the zone and ready to leap off the ledge.”


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“On a typical set day, I show up at base camp, grab a bite to eat and go through the works, which includes hair and makeup. I make sure I have stunt equipment, like pads and harnesses, for me and the actors I double. On set, we rehearse the action that is being filmed that day. We go over it with the actors and then line up shots for the camera so the director can see the action. The shooting takes a while because we film the action from a variety of angles.”

“Few people fully understand how much hard work goes into being a stunt person. You find yourself in dangerous situations all the time. As much as you prepare for stunts, something can go wrong. People have died doing crazy stunts, and it’s a risk we take every day. I’m not going to lie and say I’m fearless, but I am brave. A little fear helps me stay focused.”

“Stunt preparation depends on the film. For Divergent we had about five to seven weeks of training and rehearsals. While we were shooting, we continued to train and rehearse during our free time. This film had a large variety of stunts. Rehearsing a stunt is one thing, but on the day of filming you have props, wardrobe and set pieces that might make the action more difficult to do.”

Career: Stuntwoman Hometown: Kailua, Island of Oahu, Hawaii Currently living in: Los Angeles Years in this career: 10 Personality traits: Passionate, brave and humble Union: SAG-AFTRA

Alicia Vela-Bailey (L) and Kate Beckinsale (R)

Requirements: Every stunt job requires different skill sets. My gymnastics and dance background have helped me

out tremendously in this industry. Dancing makes me graceful. I also train in different forms of fighting and martial arts, and practice parkour and free running. And you must have guts! Accomplishments: I won Action Icon’s Stuntwoman of the Year for 2012 and was nominated three times by the

Taurus World Stunt Awards. I worked on the biggest movie of all time, Avatar.

Current projects: I most recently doubled Shailene Woodley, the lead in the movie Divergent. Now I am doubling a

few actresses in Budapest for a new action comedy called Spy about the misadventures of a secret agent. Soon I will be starting to work on the new Avatar sequel (2016 release). Resume: Stunt doubled for actors Kate Beckinsale in Total Recall; Tracy Spiridakos on NBC’s Revolution; Rosie

Huntington-Whiteley in Transformers: Dark of the Moon; Jennifer Lawrence in X-Men: First Class; Anne Hathaway in Interstellar (2014 release), Leslie Bibb for 7500 (2014 release)

Colleagues: I’ve been fortunate to work for many great directors like James Cameron, Tim Burton, Christopher

Nolan, Michael Bay and Len Wiseman. I would love to work for Steven Spielberg.

Favorite quote: “If you want something you have never had, then you have got to do something you have never

done.” —Unknown

Work philosophy: Expect the unexpected all the time. I prepare and rehearse for a stunt, but when the day arrives,

things always seem to change. You have to adapt.

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“I really encourage my children to make mistakes. Make them as quickly and thoroughly as you can and then keep going because that’s what life is all about. What propels you to the next place are your mistakes, not your successes.”

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Fourth of July Picnic By Annette Joseph Photography by Deborah Whitlaw Llewellyn

The town I grew up in held an impressive fireworks display every Fourth of July. My parents’ best friends would drive us in our old Woodie station wagon to sit by Lake Michigan. We would eat cheeseburgers grilled by friends. This was the only day of the year, I was allowed to eat a cheeseburger because my parents didn’t understand that sort of American food. Eating it was heaven, of course! When we got home, we would have apple pie and ice cream, an American treat my parents did understand. The pie was always from the market, which is the reason I have a storebought apple pie in this menu. It’s convenient, but it’s also a memory that I preserved in my own special way. If you have a great apple pie recipe that you prefer to use, by all means, do so. This menu has evolved over the years since I’ve moved to the South. Ribs and coleslaw are southern picnic staples, and there’s nothing as good as southern barbecue. These party ideas are meant to help you get started creating—as well as continuing—your own traditions with your unique stamp on them. Summer is in full swing in early July, so there’s more sun each day. That means you’ll have more prep time in the morning if the party is planned for late afternoon or early evening. Use the early afternoon to hang the lights and prepare one to two of your final tasks before the party. I love to hang lights above the picnic table. It is a sweet surprise to see them twinkle once the sun sets. Like cheeseburgers, Woodie station wagons and apple pies, this patriotic celebration is as all-American as it gets, so decorate with vintage finds that have that original Americana feel. Use vintage flags, soda pop and galvanized tubs, and red metal lanterns. If you have them, this is the time to pull out the red and white checkered metal tray, old picnic baskets and enamelware.


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This brightly colored salad goes great with any barbecue menu. I serve the leftovers on pasta. Simply heat the salad, toss with hot pasta, and pass the Parmesan cheese.

Any fruit on the grill is a terrific side dish. You can substitute plums or figs if you like. For a nice crunch, I recommend adding slivers of red onions.

This is such a visually beautiful salad. Consider placing the bowl filled with salad into a larger bowl filled with ice and place on the table to assure the salad remains chilled.




Serves 6

Serves 6

3 cups frozen corn thawed, or fresh off the cob (about six corncobs) 2 cups baby tomatoes sliced in half ½ chopped red onion 2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar 1 teaspoon salt ½ teaspoon pepper ½ cup chiffonade of fresh basil leaves

6 large ripe peaches 3 tablespoons olive oil ½ small red onion sliced 6 tablespoons fine quality balsamic vinegar 1 teaspoon flake salt 1 teaspoon fresh cracked pepper

In a large bowl place corn, tomatoes, red onion and basil. Add vinegar, oil, salt and pepper. Gently fold all the ingredients together; place in a pretty bowl. This can be prepared ahead. Cover the bowl in plastic wrap overnight and refrigerate.

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Wash and cut peaches into quarters, place in a large bowl and toss with olive oil. Prepare the grill and set on medium heat. Grill peaches cut side down, about 5 minutes on each side until caramelized. Then place grilled peaches cut side up on a large platter. Sprinkle with chopped onion, balsamic, flake salt and cracked pepper. Serve warm.

Serves 6

1 pound purple potatoes 1 large red pepper cut into small cubes 1 cup artichoke hearts cut into bite-size pieces Dressing ¼ cup prepared mayonnaise 1 tablespoon fresh thyme leaves 1 tablespoon chopped fresh chives 1 rib celery finely chopped 1 tablespoon lemon juice 1 tablespoon rice vinegar 1 teaspoon salt 1 tablespoon pepper Peel and cut potatoes into bite-size pieces. Boil them in salted water until soft, yet firm for about 15 minutes. Drain, cool and prepare the dressing. Combine mayo, thyme, chives, celery, lemon juice, vinegar, salt and pepper. In a large bowl, place cooled potatoes, red pepper and artichoke hearts. Add the dressing and toss. Chill until ready to serve.


½ cup brown sugar ½ cup blueberry jam 1 tablespoon smoked paprika 2 teaspoons salt 1 teaspoon white pepper 1 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes 2 cloves minced garlic 2 cups barbecue sauce 4 pounds pork ribs On the cooktop bring all ingredients, except the ribs, to a simmer for 10 minutes. Cut off the heat and let sit while you prepare the pork ribs. Peel the membranes off the ribs. You can have your butcher do this or do it yourself. This is how I do it: Slide a butter knife under the silver skin or membrane, moving it sideways along the length of the ribs, then grab the skin with a paper towel and pull it off. Using half of the sauce, place the ribs in a large Ziploc bag to marinate. You may need several bags. Marinate for at least three hours. Reserve the other half of the sauce for basting on the grill. Start grill on low heat, wrap the marinated ribs in aluminum foil forming several sealed packages. Place on the grill for 45 minutes turning the rib packages every 10-15 minutes. Be careful not to burn them. Turn up the grill to medium heat and carefully remove and place the ribs directly on the grill. Cook and baste with sauce for another 15-20 minutes until evenly browned and caramelized. Serve warm.


his is a great opportunity to buy a ready-made dessert from a local bakery and pair it with cleverly presented vanilla ice cream served in glass jars. I like to make special take-away containers for individual slices (see DIY on page 78) and put lidded jars of ice cream on ice for guests to enjoy at the party or take to the fireworks display that evening.


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Gatherings HOW TO MAKE NAPKIN WRAPS 6 white napkins 6 red envelopes (4⅛ x 9½ in) 1 sheet navy 2½ inch round labels 1 strand vintage Christmas tinsel Pinking shears Scissors Using pinking shears, cut off the top and bottom 2 inches of each envelope to form a sleeve to place the folded napkin into. Fold each napkin to fit into a sleeve; there should be 1½ inches of the napkin sticking out on either end. Cut a ½ inch piece of tinsel and tie around the middle of the sleeve into a knot. Place a navy label onto the knot.

HOW TO STRING SILVER LIGHTS 1 (15-foot) strand of patio lights with clear removable bulbs 15 silver cupcake liners Unscrew the lightbulbs and set aside. Using scissors, cut a slit in the middle of each cupcake liner to form a ½-inch X big enough to fit the stem of the bulb. Slip the cupcake liner far enough over the stem of each bulb, so that it doesn’t cover the screw threads. Screw the bulbs with the liner covers back into their sockets.

HOW TO MAKE TAKE-AWAY PIE BOXES 8 pieces Kraft card stock (8½ x 11-inch) 1 roll parchment paper Red and white baker’s twine 1 store-bought apple pie (Tip: It is easier to slice pie if you place it in the freezer for an hour.) 6 disposable wooden forks Scissors Tape Pencil Ruler First, download the template at Trace the pie container template onto the card stock with a pencil. Trace as many pie containers as you will need. Cut out the pie container. Fold and tape the container into a triangle with a lid, following the template. Cut a 6 x 6-inch square of parchment paper for each container. Cut the apple pie into pieces that fit into the containers. (Measure the slice of pie to fit the container. Keep in mind that you will need extra room for the pie slice to be wrapped with paper.) Fold a crease into the center of each piece of parchment. Unfold and lay the parchment flat, and place a piece of pie on the center crease you have created. Fold the long ends around the slice, then tuck the short ends underneath to form a wedge-shaped package. Place the packaged pie into the brown craft cardboard container. Secure each container with baker’s twine and tie a wooden fork into the bow on top of the container. Stack in a basket for guests.


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Pry the iPads and video games out of your children’s grip and hand them glue, tape and felt instead. It’s time to spur imagination. Creative mom Andrea Duclos launched as a platform for all things bright, playful and kid-friendly to help engage children’s minds and avoid boredom. Duclos offers three do-it-yourself projects— a pom pom box, felt jellyfish and flower crown—that will keep children’s hands busy and their minds bursting with creativity. This is called good, old-fashioned fun.

Pom Pom Box ages 2+ Materials • • • •

a small wooden box an obscene amount of pom poms pencil wood glue

Directions With your pencil, draw a design on and around the box. Section by section, spread glue on top of box and place each pom pom on top; make sure to hold down each pom pom for at least 20 to 30 seconds. Wait for the glue to dry and repeat on side of box. Fill the box with gems and goodies.


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Felt Jellyfish ages 5+ Materials


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Cut felt to shape your jellyfish. Tie a knot at one end of threaded needle and pull through the corner of one side. Match the other piece of felt to the back, hiding the knot in between. Stitch up and around jellyfish, and once at the bottom of other end; do not pull thread all the way through. Take two pieces of embroidery thread (whatever length and colors you prefer) and tie a knot in loop. Pull the needle and thread bringing the knot tight to the bottom of the jellyfish body; repeat along bottom. Be careful not to tangle strings. When you are about 75 percent along the bottom, fill jellyfish body with stuffing. Continue stitching and adding ‘tentacles.’ Once at the end, tie a knot leaving the thread to dangle and cut off excess.

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felt embroidery thread for stitching cut pieces of embroidery thread in different colors and lengths scissors embroidery needle stuffing

Flower Crown ages 7+ Materials


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Use your wire to tie bunches of flower stems together; four bunches or so should fit around a child’s head. With the wire, start tying bunches together, end to end; if any bunches feel flimsy, add extra wire to secure pieces together. Tie enough to fit around child’s head. Secure ends with wire and florist tape. Begin placing decorative flowers around crown and secure with more wire. Use scissors to trim off all extra stems and wire.

fresh flowers pruning sheers or scissors thin brown or green (florist) wire florist tape

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On the CoucH

Q& A


Dr. Ramani


y 10-year-old son doesn’t like my ex-husband’s new girlfriend. He says she’s mean to him. What are some red flags to determine if it’s just him adjusting to a new woman in his dad’s life or if she truly is unkind to him? If there is truth to his claims, how do I approach my ex about it?

There are few things more challenging for a child than weathering a divorce and then having to watch their parents make new partnerships. Lots of kids buy into the “evil stepmother” myth and often feel protective of the other parent or fearful that they may lose time with the newly partnered parent. They may feel disloyal if they like the new partner and then resist him or her and find things to dislike. Assuming that you and your ex do have open lines of communication, earlier is better in terms of talking about this. Avoid an accusatory tone, and gently ask how it is going between your son and the new girlfriend. If he agrees that there is tension, work with him to solve the problem. Red flags may include changes in your son’s behavior: withdrawal, major protests about seeing his father, changes in sleep or appetite, and other behavioral changes such as tears or emotions not typically observed. These signs are a bit more concerning than vocal protests since they may imply that he is unable to cope with his father’s new partner. If your son is accustomed to having dad to himself, then this can be a very jarring transition. Ensure that your ex-husband is making time to be alone with your son. Many times a child may feel replaced by a new partner. Your ex-husband may need to be reminded of how the new relationship is impacting your son. Depending on the nature of your relationship with your ex-husband, you might consider lingering a while during a drop off or pickup to observe how the girlfriend relates with your son. Since this is new, growing pains are to be expected. At times like this, open communication with an ex-spouse is critical.


am recently divorced after a prolonged affair, and I am now in a committed, monogamous relationship with this man. We recently ran into a mutual friend from my marriage, and she chastised us for being out in public together as a couple. We were speechless and did not know how to react. I assume we will run into this kind of situation again, given the nature of my split. How do we handle this type of negativity? The older we get, the more complex the beginnings of our relationships become, and the way the two of you began was a complicated and thorny start. First, take a careful look at the person passing judgment. Don’t make their feelings yours. Some people are driven by their anger and fear and cannot contain these feelings, so they project them onto you. You have likely already been juggling the guilt and other emotions that such a situation can bring forth. Don’t let it devolve into a shouting match. With your head held high, quietly exit stage left. Second, be mindful. This is a recent transition for all parties involved. If respective ex-partners were hurt and seeing you together is painful for the stakeholders, it may behoove you to switch up your game socially. Try new places and initially avoid settings where it is very likely you may run into anyone who cares. All hurts tend to fade with time and people will care less, but since this is still new, think about how best to weather this initial storm. Finally, life happens. You and your partner had to go through some sticky stuff to get here. When uncomfortable interactions like this take place, the tension can make it easy to feel angry and go on the attack. The key is to not take it out on each other, and instead draw closer at such times. You are a couple and will be in public together. Even if everyone is not a fan, life does move on.


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ur 7-year-old daughter has fully embraced the role of only child, and truthfully, my husband and I have spoiled her. Now we find ourselves with a surprise pregnancy, and our daughter is not happy. She is acting out and refuses to acknowledge the news. We still have a few months to go. How do we get her to connect, and even warm up, to the idea of being a big sister?

Spoiled or not, children don’t always welcome the idea of a new sibling coming into the home. The older the child, the more cognizant they may be of the effect a new baby will have on their life. This makes the transition more challenging, especially if they revel in their role as an only child. Acting out is to be expected when any big transition is looming, e.g. moving, new school and obviously, new sibling (even for a child who is happy about a new baby in the family). Children don’t want to feel left out. Welcome your daughter into the process in an age-appropriate way to get her excited about your new arrival. You can involve her in picking out clothes and toys for the new baby; help her make a scrapbook of drawings and photos or videos about her own life to give/show to the baby; let her listen to the baby’s heartbeat and feel the baby moving about. You may also want to consider a trip or other fun activity while you are still mobile enough to walk around and enjoy it, just the three of you. You may find that becoming a sister will help your daughter learn about the benefits of giving and sharing, making her not only less spoiled but also a better sister, friend and, ultimately, adult woman.


y three girlfriends and I have a regular game of doubles tennis every week. I have come to dread this game. We are all great friends, but on the court one of them becomes an aggressive, mean-spirited player. She yells at her partner for failed points and heckles my partner and me during the match. We have already asked her to tone it down but to no avail. If we keep her in the foursome, I’m afraid our feelings toward her will harden. If we replace her, this also has the potential to ruin the friendship. What can we do or say?t Sounds like there is little ‘love’ lost in these tennis games. Not all friendships translate well to every setting or situation. People will sometimes say they absolutely adore a friend but would never take a trip with her or talk about certain issues. We all compartmentalize to sustain certain relationships. In any relationship conflict, communication has to be the first stop on the train, and it appears you have already attempted this. At this point it sounds like a catch-22. If you talk about it in a more pointed way, you may lose her friendship. If she stays in the foursome, you are likely to grow more resentful, and you may wish to end the friendship. And if you replace her, you are likely to lose her as a friend. The outcome appears to be the same. So you may need to make a compromise or try a higher risk intervention. Talking about it in a much more pointed way is what is needed now. Take ownership of feelings: “I feel frustrated playing with you....” or “I am not comfortable with how you are treating (partner) or us....” These kinds of statements are not accusatory but rather state how you feel. That’s not to say she will adjust or change her behavior, and if she views it as an attack and is either (a) unwilling to change her behavior or (b) steps away from the friendship, then perhaps you need to reflect on exactly why you are fighting for this friendship. Bottom line is that it’s time to choose between the tennis game and the friendship. If the friendship works in every other place and it is truly important to you, it’s best to scrap the tennis game, or switch to playing singles.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica, Calif., and professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named outstanding professor in 2012. She is the author of You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life.

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Growing pains

Can’t My Kids Just Get Along? Sibling rivalry is nothing new, but how does parenting fit into the equation? By Sara Shaw


ven from the start children are acutely aware of a sibling’s potential threat to their survival—or so a new study out of Harvard University suggests. Evolutionary biologist David Haig, in an effort to understand night waking in seemingly content babies, recently proposed that babies cry out in the night to be nursed by their mothers in a hardwired effort to keep mothers from ovulating (as continued breastfeeding will do), thereby preventing the making of a new sibling. But what about the kind of sibling rivalry that turns living rooms into battlegrounds and bathroom doors into blockades? Any parent with more than one child has felt the heat from the antagonism that burns between two or more of their kids. Whether it’s as simple as arguing over a shared toy or a fiery competition for Mom’s attention, sibling rivalry is very real, and the effects of it can stay with children into adulthood. Candy Woodall, who has four children ranging in age from 11 months to 10 years


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old, notices the rivalry most between her two sons who are closest in age. “I think we screwed up royally when we treated the situation in a nonchalant way,” Woodall remarks. “Sometimes everyone supports each other, but other times there’s jealousy. We try to remind them that they don’t fit in one niche. Anyone can be anything. It’s a delicate balance, managing all these personalities.” Candy’s husband, Larry, agrees. “We tell them we love and are proud of all of them. We say brothers and sisters fight sometimes, and that’s ok, but just make sure you make up quickly.” “It’s important to us that they’re close,” Woodall says. “They’re probably going to have each other a lot longer than they have us.” Their family’s situation is far from unique, according to research. Siblings are very likely to spend much of their free time together—33 percent overall, according to a Penn State University study—and very likely to get frustrated with each other as a result.

Sibling behavior expert Dr. Laurie Kramer’s research shows that siblings between 3 and 7 years old have some kind of conflict 3.5 times an hour; if they are ages 2 to 4, it’s as much as one clash every 10 minutes. And while most sibling rivalry is normal, a study published in Pediatrics last year found that a line is crossed when one child is consistently the victim of another and the aggression is intended to cause harm and humiliation. The study also showed that the bullied sibling has increased levels of depression, anger and anxiety. There is also research out of the University of California, Davis that reveals a majority of parents show a preference for one child over another. It’s a recipe for anxiety and upset in kids. “Parents can unintentionally create rivalry by feeling like they have to treat their kids equally, and they go to the extreme to do that,” says Pamela Moran, MSW, LSW. Moran is a family-centered therapist, specializing in attachment and trauma, in Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania.

NURTURE Moran offers advice for peace-seeking parents. Help!


Parents can unintentionally create rivalry by feeling like they have to treat their kids equally, and they go to the extreme to do that.

—Pamela Moran

If parents demonstrate that everything has to be equal all the time, it sets up unrealistic expectations. “Instead, let each child know that you are meeting or taking into consideration their individual needs and wants. Always making things fair and equal can cause tension because again every situation and child is different. The most important thing is making your children feel heard and understood.” Sibling rivalry also relates to sharing, a complicated concept that even adults have trouble with. “I say, throw the sharing out. Maybe there are some things that the whole family uses, communal space like the bathroom or refrigerator, but there are also things that are only ours, and that’s ok. It’s not bad to have things that only belong to you,” says Moran. This is especially important with the arrival of a new baby. Moran stresses the importance of standing up for the older child in this scenario, protecting his or her space and belongings. It’s easy to set up resentment during this time, but it’s also easy to prevent that resentment from building. “Maybe if there’s a toy that both children come to love, just buy two,” she recommends. Sometimes shelling out the extra few dollars is worth the cost of solidifying the sibling relationship. ■

Try to meet each child’s individual needs rather than comparing one child to another. Make older children feel like they are part of welcoming a new child into the world. Remember that all people, especially children, want to be heard, felt and understood. Help and encourage children to express their negative feelings, privately and individually, before those feelings escalate into actions. Let them tell you what they don’t like about their siblings, without fear of being punished, and use that information to reflect their feelings back to them. DON'T Set up the idea that everything always needs to be equal. Put yourself in the middle or choose sides even if you feel one side is right. Use punishment. If they’re not feeling heard and understood, many times children will feel like they have to move up the ladder and act out their feelings, possibly leading to violence. Invalidate negative feelings. Your kids don’t really hate their brother or sister, but they do need to feel as though they can express their negative feelings.

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“Don’t ever forget that you’re a citizen of this world, and there are things you can do to lift the human spirit, things that are easy, things that are free, things that you can do every day. Civility, respect, kindness, character.”

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Jessica Alba

has been given many titles: America’s sweetheart, Golden Globenominee and green-minded entrepreneur. At heart, she’s a mom who cares. Interview by Lola Thélin Photography by Justin Coit


emember Dark Angel? The 2000 television series introduced viewers to a petite and prolific actor who kicked ass, seemingly always with a smile. It was Jessica Alba, then about 19 years old. Growing up in the limelight isn’t easy, but Alba accepted the bumps along the road, remembering her parents’ life lessons and finding a supportive partner, Cash Warren. Perhaps every new year is Alba’s year, which is a testament to her positive attitude and hard work ethic. Alba reprises her role as Nancy Callahan in Frank Miller’s Sin City: A Dame to Kill For, which hits theaters on August 22. Barely Lethal, How to Make Love Like an Englishman, Dear Eleanor, The Veil and The Wright Girls are all movies on the 2014-2015 horizon featuring the actress. But movies are not Alba’s only full-time job. The 33-year-old is the mother of two daughters, Honor, 6, and Haven, 3, and the president and co-founder of The Honest Company. These are also her full-time jobs, and she takes them very seriously. She also authored The Honest Life: Living Naturally and True to You last year. Many actors start young, and it is always inspiring to see a public figure discover new passions. Turns out, Alba is a social entrepreneur. After a long search for financial backers—yes, even Alba heard “no” but kept moving forward with her business plan—she launched The Honest Company with co-founders Christopher Gavigan, Brian Lee and Sean Kane in 2012. The Honest Company is a Los Angeles-based business that develops and sells eco-friendly, non-toxic, affordable products for babies and their families. From baby products, cleaning supplies, body lotions and bath potions, the company believes in convenience for parents, sustainability for the planet and giving back to the community.

M&V: A few months ago The Honest Company raised $25 million in financing for a fundraising total of $52 million. It’s proof that ‘green’ is mainstream, but most people still expect to pay extra for eco-friendly products. How is Honest able to produce and sell products at affordable prices? ALBA: Having a healthy home for children shouldn’t be a privilege just for those who can afford it. We’re willing to take lower margins because we’re committed to providing non-toxic family goods that are safe, effective, stylish and affordable. Through our website,, parents can bundle the products they need for even more savings to be delivered directly to their home. With no middleman or retail partners to raise the cost, Honest parents benefit with better pricing.  J U LY / A U G U S T 2 0 1 4 M&V


Feature Jessica Alba M&V: You are very involved with the day-to-day decisions at Honest. What is an average Honest day for you? ALBA: I’m at the office five days a week unless I’m shooting a film. The hours vary and I’ll work weekends, even when I’m not at my desk. I’m passionate about every aspect of the business because families trust us with something precious. It’s a way of life for my family every day, too. I’m involved with everything from creative decisions like palettes, prints and packaging to the digital experience—down to nitty-gritty stuff like wire framing—to the forward-facing consumer experience, whether that’s our blog content, merchandising the endcaps for retail presence [starting June 15 an assortment of products will be available at Target] or training our amazing customer call center with talking points. M&V:How does The Honest Company stay competitive in this growing market? ALBA: Our core values give us the framework for a truly sustainable and competitive presence in the marketplace. Innovation is necessary because there are so few products with plant-based, effective and affordable formulas that are truly non-toxic. It’s at the heart of what we do, and it keeps us ahead. We’re also a design-oriented company. Our style sets us apart and is meant to delight the parents that buy the products as well as their children. Our diaper designs, for example, reference fashion and pop culture. Honest parents love that their point of view can be a part of a healthy, happy lifestyle for their kids. We’re surprised at how quickly The Honest Company has grown. We’ve really made a connection with millennials and multicultural families, who are the next generation of consumers. They’re committed to supporting brands that are cause-oriented and making a positive contribution to their communities. It’s been amazing to see how Honest consumers feel a strong sense of ownership, like they’re part of our Honest family as much as we are a part of theirs.

“The Honest Company is willing to take lower margins. We’re committed to providing non-toxic family goods that are safe, effective, stylish and affordable.‟ M&V: Tell me about your business background. Do you have any, or was Honest truly a hands-on learning experience? ALBA: I’ve been working since I was a kid, but I have no business background. I like to say that I went to the school of Honest Co-Founder and CEO Brian Lee! I’m a true believer in hard work and figuring things out for myself, but there was a lot I didn’t know. It is important to find the right people to work with in any business. Your weaknesses should be their strengths and having the humility to learn from others, as well as the everyday challenges, is an important part of the learning experience. M&V: In a recent Forbes study, of the 1,645 individuals named as world billionaires, 172 are women, only 10 percent. What is your advice to young women in the business world? ALBA: Facing challenges is as valuable as finding inspiration, so if you really believe in something, make sure you’re willing to do the work to make it happen even if it seems impossible. Anyone can have a job, but you need to be passionate about what you do because the time commitment matters so much as your responsibilities change. I’ve been to business conferences nationwide and have been so inspired to see women committed to supporting each other across generations and businesses. M&V: Are there lessons from your childhood that you have carried through into your style of parenting? ALBA: I was taught the value of work from a young age and to finish what I started, even if I wasn’t the best at it. My daughters are the inspiration for my business, and I hope they see the rewards of hard work in what I do. My parents integrated their children into every aspect of their lives, but certain rules were very clear. Respect was incredibly important. Manners are not just a formality; they’re also a sign of respect, and I make sure that our children understand that. 


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IMPACT M&V: What are your priorities in how you raise your two young girls? Do you ever have doubts about your role as a mom? ALBA: My mom had limited resources when she was raising us, but I think my brother and I turned out ok. It showed me that giving my love and committing to doing my best for my kids was more important than anything else. My kids are growing up with same values that I grew up with, respect and hard work, and education is a priority. As long as they have that foundation I think they will be ok, too. Of course, every mother has doubts and I’m a worrier by nature, so I’m overly paranoid about every situation. No matter how good your kids are, you always worry that you’re screwing it up! M&V: In the upcoming months, Sin City: A Dame to Kill For, How to Make Love Like an Englishman and The Veil hit theaters. How do you choose movie roles? ALBA: The inspiration behind my choices is different every time. Sometimes, I’m curious about working with a particular actor or I’m really passionate about the director and want to be a part of their vision. Other times, it’s the story I really think needs to be told, or it’s taking a journey into the mind of someone that’s not like me or going through an extreme experience that I haven’t. It depends on where I am in my life—sometimes I just want to make a comedy, so I can laugh every day. M&V: Who are your greatest mentors? ALBA: I admire [Sin City director] Robert Rodriguez because he’s such a dreamer and has a strong vision that he believes in. He has shown that you can create films in this industry and retain a sense of wonder, playfulness and passion. My mom and my grandma have always been an inspiration for everything I do. Taking care of family requires a lot of heart, strength and resourcefulness. They showed me the importance of bringing the best of yourself to every situation.

“My daughters are the inspiration for my business. I hope they see the rewards of hard work in what I do. ‟ M&V:What attracted you to the Nancy Callahan role in Sin City, and where does the inclination to play characters with superhuman strength come from? ALBA: Nancy Callahan’s transformation through the story is an interesting arc for an actor. She goes from being an innocent [character]—this light in a dark world that threatens to extinguish it—to being in control of her story and a powerful force. Of course, I’m also fascinated to play someone so different from me because she’s so unhinged and raw. As for superhuman strength, who doesn’t imagine what they can do with great powers? I was a sick kid and constantly in the hospital, so I fantasized a lot about being someone with extraordinary abilities. It’s about strength on the inside as well as the outside. I think it’s pretty cool that I get to be a warrior for work now. M&V: You’re very active on Instagram and Twitter @JessicaAlba. How does it help better represent who you are to your fans and Honest families? ALBA: Social media is a way for me to tell my story as authentically as possible. Journalists have a job to write what their readers want and I understand that. Often, we’re edited to fit that narrative, but it isn’t true to who I really am. The social media platform allows me to represent all of the aspects of my life that are a part of me: family, friends, food, fashion, films and everything else. Social media also allows me to connect with families, to see firsthand the importance of what we do and how they really feel like a part of our Honest family. Transparency and authenticity matters because families have a stake in this process and the brand. Every day, we see stories of how Honest products have changed lives by making children healthier and parents more informed. It’s ultimately an educational platform and being a part of that conversation empowers people to make better choices. ■ J U LY / A U G U S T 2 0 1 4 M&V


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Growing Brood Gina Fazio shines a light on the world of adopting children and offers her intimate story of how one young man joined her family and forever changed their lives.


f someone had told me five years ago that that there would be a 6’4” black child in my family, I wouldn’t have believed them. That tall boy is my son Rob. I am not quite sure when we made the decision to bring other people’s children into our home, but my career certainly had something to do with it. I am a licensed therapist at Place of Hope, an agency that takes care of hundreds of children in the foster care system, many of whom are up for adoption. We also train foster and adoptive parents to prepare them for this major life event.

enting a child who has had tragic life experiences, from abuse to neglect, which alter how a child feels and responds to others. Some children may not have developed age-appropriate coping skills due to their upbringing. A disruption is heartbreaking for all parties. These children already feel rejected by their own biological parents and then have to deal with a second rejection. Preparing pre-adoptive parents and providing support as they move along in the process is vital to a successful transition, for the child and the adults.

I have spent most of my 18 years as a therapist working with kids in the foster care system, but it was actually my biological children’s idea to adopt Rob. My husband Jacob Webb was mentoring him at the Place of Hope campus, picking him up every Tuesday usually to play basketball with a group of Rob’s friends.

They emptied their piggy banks on the table. They wanted to help pay for the new bedroom. We were in shock. Their piggy banks were not filled with pennies. They suckered their grandparents out of tens and twenties every time they visited. Then another great moment occurred. My boss, who knew about our goal to adopt Rob, sent out an e-mail to Place of Hope supporters about our financial situation. Within two weeks we received enough money and support to build the room. A family who owns a painting company painted the room, and another family with a carpeting company put in carpet. Imagine being on the receiving end of a community coming together to build a home for a child who was once homeless. The support was monumental and surreal.

Weeks went by, and Rob spent more and more time with us. My biological children fell in love with Rob. We’re lucky. In this country there are more than 100,000 children waiting to be adopted, according to the U.S. Department of Health Children’s Bureau. And even though every child wants someone to love them, not every child connects with every family. We have seen many older kids over the years returned to the system because of a failed adoption, most often referred to as disruptions. Statistics on disruptions vary, but one study found that between 6 and 11 percent of all adoptions are disrupted before they are legally finalized. For children older than 3, disruption rates range between 10 and 16 percent; for teens it may be as high as 24 percent, or one in four adoptions. Disruptions are significantly higher with older children because of the complexities of par-


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We knew we wanted Rob to join our family, but the simple truth was that we had no room for him. We plotted, planned and tried to figure out how to make this happen. My husband had the idea to turn our garage into a bedroom, but financially it was a struggle. I sat down with our kids (at that time they were 7, 6 and 4) and told them our plan. I spoke to them about the struggle and sacrifices we would need to make as a family. They agreed, but I was skeptical. This would mean canceling our trip to Disney World. Their response: “We don’t care. We want Rob.” Then the most amazing thing happened.

Even with our knowledge on adoption, when we first began discussing it with Rob, it was crucial for us to prepare, particularly because of Rob’s age. My oldest son, Jacob, even wrote a “top ten reasons to adopt Rob” list. The discussion of whether or not to adopt Rob became a daily conversation. We mentally prepared ourselves for any situation, but luckily, Rob fit in with our family.

This was four years ago. As with any teenager, sometimes I would like to ring his neck. But more than anything, Rob is a blessing to our family. I cannot imagine our family without him. Gina Fazio, MSW, LCSW, lives in South Florida with her family. She has been the director of clinical services at Place of Hope, a foster care organization in Palm Beach Gardens, Fla., for more than eight years. ■


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Family Tales of Simplicity & Adventure Traveling the world with their kids while making environmentally conscious lifestyle decisions, five innovative women inspire us to reconsider how we can leave a legacy of simplicity for our children. By Robin Bradley Hansel

Recently a Canadian couple and their two young boys resurfaced from a technology-free year of living like it was 1986, complete with mullet hairdos, acid-washed jeans, VHS tapes and rotary phones. The parents launched the experiment to teach their kids that there are other ways to interact with the world than through the use of smart phones, social media and tech savvy tools. It turns out that more and more families are embarking on radical journeys around the world in their quest for family togetherness and a less complicated lifestyle.

Lainie Liberti of Raising Miro on the road of life

Almost 30 years ago Lainie Liberti traveled solo for a year not realizing how pivotal that year would later be. Today Liberti, 47, is a single mother and blogger, but not long ago, she was the owner of a Los Angeles boutique design agency and the collector of so many things that her 2,000-square-foot loft was bursting at the seams. “The acquisition of possessions defined our lives, and like any good American, I worked hard to create more. But even with an abundance of possessions, I realized how empty our lives felt. We didn’t have time or energy to enjoy the world around us, nor did I have time to spend with my young son,” recalls Liberti. When the economy crashed in 2008, they consciously replaced their rushed California lifestyle with more meaningful travel. After one year of traveling, the mother and son decided to adopt an indefinite long-term travel lifestyle. They are now completing their fifth year of consecutive travel and continue to learn from the world. Miro, who was 10 years old when he started traveling abroad, is now 15 and has traveled to 14 countries. A bright “unschooled” aspiring writer, he founded Project World School, a successful 22-day intensive learning workshop taking place this July and August in Cuzco, Peru, the family’s current home base. Liberti feels the rewards Miro has gained from their lifestyle choices are immeasurable. She has seen him step outside of his comfort zone, from learning and participating in a “real world” education to volunteering and connecting with people young and old. In contrast to most Americans, Liberti believes Miro is learning that consumerism and ownership are not the keys to life. Through their travels, he has seen the human and economic impact of each phase of the global supply chain through sweatshops, cheap labor and small local farm workers to large city markets. “Our blog is about our life and all that it encompasses. We have a loyal readership now and an active Facebook page,” says Liberti. “We get e-mails almost every day from around the globe, mostly from women who are single parents. They are connecting with our story and finding the courage within themselves to reach for their inspiration. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d touch other people’s lives in such a way.” ■


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he average person generates 4.3 pounds of waste per day, according to the Center for Sustainability & Commerce at Duke University. Astonishingly, Bea Johnson, husband Scott and two sons generate no more than a one quart of garbage per year. Their lifestyle, documented on their blog Zero Waste, is the result of downsizing from their large California home, which triggered a gradual transformation over the course of two years and led to choosing a more environmentally friendly way of life. Six years ago the couple placed most of their belongings into storage and moved into an apartment with their sons Max and Leo, who were then 8 and 4. They realized that living with less allowed them to live more. The following year, they bought a 1,400-square-foot house, half the size of their previous one, and let go of 80 percent of their belongings, including items they had stored. “It was then that our voluntary simplicity [provided] time to educate ourselves on environmental issues. We decided to change our ways for the sake of our kids’ future,” says Johnson. Her husband quit his job to start a sustainability consulting company while she tackled the home. She started blogging and now has a successful book entitled Zero Waste Home. In comparison to their pre-Zero Waste spending days, the family’s financial savings is up more than 40 percent a year. Johnson advises that the most important thing one can do to stop waste and clutter from entering their home is to simply say no. Turn down flyers, freebies, party favors, business cards, single-use plastics and junk mail. Voluntary simplicity has changed their daily routine in several ways. Picking up the house takes only a few minutes, making their daily school and professional work time much more efficient. Simple living has even allowed them to travel more by making it easy to rent their house to others, thereby creating a valuable, extra travel fund for exciting family getaways. “Our minimalist wardrobes fit easily in carry-ons,” says Johnson. “In the end, it’s all good. I wish everyone realized and enjoyed the great hidden benefits of this lifestyle.” ■

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Feature Family Bloggers Margalit Sturm Francus of Autistic Globetrotting


n 2002 Margalit Sturm Francus noticed her 8-year-old autistic son Jeffrey struggle with his homework on the Aztec civilization. That’s when it hit Francus: She needed to provide Jeffrey with new venues for hands-on learning. “Unfortunately, our public school system doesn’t teach in a multi-sensory way,” says Francus. A California resident at the time, she decided to bring the world and its languages, food, art and music into Jeffrey’s life through travel. Before the age of 30, Francus had lived on four continents. She believes that the opportunity to hear foreign languages, taste foods and explore the art and music of international cultures is invaluable to the creation of global citizens. Her husband Ken, a physician, has a lifelong love of travel as well. Francus learned that many families with special needs kids tend to not travel because they worry about the logistics and details of planning a big trip. She established a nonprofit website called Autistic Globetrotting in 2010 to provide practical, insider travel tips for special needs families based on her personal experiences. “The more you travel, the easier it gets. You’ll make mistakes. Embrace them, learn from them, reassess and continue traveling. Many autistic families make one or two mistakes and then stop traveling completely,” she says. Francus advises families to start small. Create a global experience with day trips from home to local art museums, encourage sampling of ethnic foods, observe the architecture of historic neighborhoods and explore exotic animals at zoos. Supplement your child’s in-school learning experience in a more multi-sensory way by taking short weekend trips to explore. Gradually build your travel adventures beyond your state and country based on your child’s level of interest.

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The couple’s younger son Steven, who does not have special needs, started his world travels at the age of 6 and has benefited from the traveling just as much as his brother. He’s now 18 and thriving at a highly competitive university. Jeffrey, who is now 20, has traveled to 70 countries and 30 states with his family in the past 12 years. If there are any insecurities about traveling with a special needs child, Francus says not to worry. “Always remember, the most terrible travel experiences make for the most wonderful family stories to share together later around the dinner table!” Next up on the agenda: NYC, Puerto Rico, Greece, France, Israel and maybe even Iceland. ■

Behan Gifford of Sailing with Totem


ornings for the Gifford family of five begin with tea in the cockpit and yoga on the bow of the family sailboat, Totem. As permanent travelers, Behan and Jamie Gifford have educated their children Niall (age 15), Mairen (12) and Siobhan (10) to connect with their changing environment. After a day spent exploring a coral reef, the children will receive follow-up lessons centered on understanding the reef ’s biology and ecology by identifying the plants and animals they’ve seen, talking about human impacts and writing about their personal impressions. “They’ll come out of the water in the afternoon, physically drained but so energized by what they’ve experienced that channeling the underwater world into their education is nearly frictionless,” says Gifford. They started the year in Thailand and will head down the Malay Peninsula toward Singapore before crossing the South China Sea to Malaysian Borneo, and then sail north to the Philippines. “I’m honestly the most surprised that we’re here and doing this. Many factors could have derailed us along the way,” says Gifford. She admits there have been some challenges since leaving their homeport of Bainbridge Island, Washington, in 2008. She and her husband worry about their lack of financial security. But the joys of honing their skills as voyagers and sailors, planning their routes, working with their children on their education interests and enjoying special time together as a couple instead of merely passing between work, school, and the scheduled activities of the artificially busy have far outweighed the negatives. “Although we love to sail and we love to travel, these are not our primary motivations. Instead, it is the mish-mash of our desires to live a simpler life, to focus on family time, to experience other cultures, to avoid consumerism, and to raise our children with respect for our fragile planet by living with a light footprint,” Gifford explains. ■


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IMPACT Rachel Denning of Discover Share Inspire


t all started with a humanitarian trip: Greg Denning traveled to Peru, while Rachel stayed home with their three young kids, and soon the travel bug hit Rachel. Three months after their fourth child was born, the couple loaded the car and left Utah for Mexico, Guatemala, Honduras, Nicaragua and finally Costa Rica. Seven years later, the Dennings are still living a nomadic lifestyle. They’ve even welcomed their sixth child, Saige, born in February 2014, in Costa Rica. With so many kids—Kyah, 12; Parker, 10; Kimball, 9; Aaliyah, 7 and Atlas, 4—it’s crucial to keep everyone occupied. A typical school day for the kids includes personal study, meditating and praying in the morning followed by a breakfast devotional time with memorization, Spanish practice, cultural literacy and any other topics of interest. During study time, the kids utilize websites like, and to study math, spelling, reading, science and history. When the family is on the road or actively traveling, they have a pared down version of a typical “school day,” and the rest of their time is spent exploring the beaches, bungee jumping and swimming. Denning realizes traveling with a large family seems financially unrealistic, but it’s quite obtainable. “Learn to simplify, minimize consumerism and invest more money into experiences that will create lasting memories. You’ll be amazed to discover that you can live or travel abroad with your family for less than it costs to maintain your current lifestyle,” says Denning. The family of eight lives very comfortably on most continents for less than $2,500 a month, which was the amount of their previous mortgage. Denning adds that for now the family will stay in Costa Rica but South America is on the horizon. “Because our baby was born here, it makes it easy for our entire family to get residency,” explains Denning. “We would like to do that because it will give us a place outside of our home country where we could set up a home base and be able to stay without the need to do regular visa runs, one of the nuisances of long-term travel.” ■

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Hannah “Nana” Wilson. Mourning, who was born in Cincinnati and raised in Las Vegas, lived in Miami until she was 6 years old. When she returned to Miami in 1995 for her husband Alonzo’s NBA career, Mourning would swing by her old neighborhood in Goulds and visit with Miss Annie Lou. From her porch they’d watch young girls walk by on the streets, seemingly with no direction in life. “I knew these girls would be my purpose in life,” says Mourning.


ost would agree with the adage that it takes a village to raise a child, but the people who make up that village are open for discussion. They could be parents, grandparents, neighbors or friends, or they could be the Honey Shine volunteers and staff. “Certainly someone can raise a child by himself or herself,” says Tracy Mourning, founder of Miami’s Honey Shine Mentoring Program, an initiative that empowers girls— mind, body and soul—through nurturing and support. “My mom provided a wonderful life for us, but she worked seven days a week to provide that life. She wouldn’t have been able to do that if she didn’t have the support.” Miss Annie Lou, a babysitter, was the beacon of light and relief for Mourning and her mom


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When Miss Annie Lou “passed away without knowing how awesome she was,” inspiration struck Mourning, and she founded Honey Shine. Throughout the year the program hosts bimonthly workshops, field trips and a six-week summer camp for girls. Since its inception 14 years ago, approximately 1,500 girls, ages 8 and up, have benefited. Volunteers spend time with the girls, teach them how to interact in social situations, and help with college admission and financial aid processes. Relationships with positive role models help build the girls’ self-esteem and confidence. This summer Honey Shine hosts its 9th annual summer camp where more than 150 girls will learn how to develop their voice and sense of direction in life by bringing them in contact with life-changing people, resources, and messages. They’ll also participate in dance, arts and crafts, swimming, reading, yoga and meditation, and educational field trips. When she is not working on her philanthropic endeavors, which also include supporting the Alonzo and Tracy Mourning Senior High Biscayne Bay Campus, Mourning operates a line of all-natural beauty products called Honey Child and runs a household: Trey

(17), who will follow in his father’s footsteps and play basketball at Georgetown University this fall, Myka (13), and Alijah (4). “We always tell them the truth. Life is about serving others and knowing how to achieve that through education; that’s the key.” A self-described hugger, Mourning is as beautiful as her character: She’s kind, hardworking and faithful, all traits instilled by another hardworking woman, her mother Hannah Wilson. Wilson’s life is historic. Wilson, who is white, had three children from a previous marriage. She moved to Ohio, married Mourning’s father, a black man, and became pregnant with Mourning’s older sister Lisa. Her exhusband, a white Kentucky resident, sued for custody of their three kids as soon as he found out about Wilson’s new life. Biracial marriages were illegal in Kentucky at that time. Both the judge and her parents advised Wilson to terminate the pregnancy. She refused their counsel and lost custody of her first three children who went to live with her parents. In the end, the ex didn’t even want the children; he only acted out of spite. “One of the greatest life lessons from my mother is that in the tough times you keep going,” says Mourning. “My mom is my heart and soul. She sacrificed her life for us.” Mourning is following suit and dedicating her life to all children. “God made this purpose very clear to me. It’s more than giving money. It’s my purpose and there’s no separating me from it. It’s been challenging in so many ways, but with all of the individuals involved including myself, we’re succeeding.” ■

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IMPACT KRAVIS CENTER ROLLS THE DICE WITH REACH FOR THE STARS Kravis Center for the Performing Arts’ Reach for the Stars benefit celebrated 21 years with a new theme, Kravis Royale: Cha Cha Ching, an evening of cocktails, dancing and gaming tables, hosted at the center in West Palm Beach, FLA., on April 26, 2014. 1. Marcie and Stan Gorman Althof 2. Michelle and Zachary Berg 3. Cory and Diana Valentine 4. Christine DiRocco, Kristin Demeritt 5. Eric Roby, Liz Quirantes, Tim Byrd 6. Christine Ciolacu, Vio Neagu 7. Joe Gillie, Debra Elmore, Suellen Mann, Jo Anne Moeller 8. Jeffery Bland, Jane Mitchell 9. Lee Wolf, Cesare Barro 10. George Elmore, Marti LaTour











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R.S.V.P. INTERNATIONAL POLO CLUB HOSTS HIGH-GOAL CHAMPIONSHIP MATCH The Maserati U.S. Open Polo Championship, held at the International Polo Club, in Wellington, Fla., came to a roaring end with Alegria defeating Valiente, 11-10, on April 20, 2014. 1. Wendy Justo, Sara Katisch, Shareese Logan, Kim Pham, Vanessa Clermont, Rochelle Holmess, Christine Pham 2. Joey Mooney with Chukker and the Easter Bunny 3. Joe and Ashley Maguire with their children Bryson, Kathryn, Madison 4. Matt Harrington, Ashley Van Metre 5. Veuve Clicquot/Gardens Mall Fashion on the Field Winner Amy Cunningham 6. Chuck and Laurie Weaver, Susan and Joe Meyer 7. Analise and Kirsten Franklin



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IMPACT TRACY MOURNING HOSTS HONEY SHINE CHARITY EVENT In support of the Honey Shine Mentoring Program, more than 600 attendees gathered at Jungle Island, Miami, to attend the 12th annual Hats Off Luncheon, on May 6, 2014. 1. Kelly Gallagher, Heather Davis 2. Lola ThĂŠlin, Tracy Mourning, Sasha Jozefczyk 3. Giselle Scheuermann, Bill Diggs, Meagan Jackson 4. Heather Bailey, Michelle Surtain 5. Nadine Valme (left) and friends 6. Linda Harris, Sharonda Stewart 7. Alina Villasante, Alonzo Mourning



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R.S.V.P. CHAPMAN PARTNERSHIP RECOGNIZES FEMALE PHILANTHROPISTS Chapman Partnership Womenade, along with Madeleine Kirsh of C. Madeleine’s, Danny Santiago and Raquel Watters of Rik Rak Salon, hosted the 5th Annual Take a Walk in Her Shoes Fashion Show and Luncheon at The Ritz-Carlton Key Biscayne on May 17, 2014. 1. Fashion model 2. Honorary chairs Dan and Trish Bell 3. Irene Korge, Trish Bell, Migna Sanchez-Llorens 4. Mrs. and Mr. Kahn, Laurie Jennings, Dan Vincent 5. Lily Watters, Danny Santiago, Madeleine Kirsh 6. Laurie Jennings, Cynthia Demos






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hen I was little I thought the twinkle in my eye was a star gazing at another star up high in wonder and admiration of its own reflection. I thought that I was made of stardust, that the moon followed my every move at dusk, and that the sun rose for my benefit. Flowers stood tall in my presence. I chased butterflies and rainbows and jumped rope lightly barefoot so as to not disturb the earthworms. The landscape was my playground, and it was expansive with possibilities. When I grew up I learned that nebulas are nurseries for baby stars, galaxies, planets and star systems. Their gigantic spinning collection of space particles and chemical gases combine with creation vibration, or what I call Glow Power, to give shape to the expanding universe. Scientists say about a teaspoon of the gas and cosmic matter that made up the first stars in the galaxy lives within each of us today. We really are made of stardust after all. My work is to help women step into the fullness of their womanhood. I am a maternity lifestyle maven, wellness and birth coach, and yogi on the vanguard


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of transforming the maternal wellness movement. I love to help women deliver babies and discover their personal power. Mama Glow is not only an online holistic lifestyle hub for women to explore their creative edge through well-being, it’s also a movement—inspiring women to honor the grace, beauty and wisdom of their bodies. We arew taught to fear our power, to be ashamed of the very things that make us uniquely ourselves. I invite you to Own Your Glow—to celebrate those dark places and bring them into the light so you can become your most powerful self and lure anything you want into your path. Owning your glow isn’t just a lifestyle for expectant and new moms. It’s about birthing the best iteration of yourself first, on your path to becoming a mother. How can we raise the next generation of leaders if we are not upholding a quality standard of living for ourselves as women? I’ve learned firsthand that darkness is critical for personal growth. Like stars, light is spawned from darkness, and creative energy is born from the womb of the

damp, dark and divine. Darkness is good because it allows cultivation to take place. A baby is developed in the darkness of the womb and is born in the glow. The sun animates the plants but the night, the deep soil and the underground movement in the darkness holds space for the growth. That’s where the glow comes from. Glow, to me, is more than something you carry within you; it is an actual vibration that you emanate. It’s about finding your own creative edge, blossoming into leadership, and moving from that place of darkness into your explosive Glow Power that will light up the world. If we can connect, listen and nurture that creative center, then we can grow in ourselves something much bigger than ourselves and offer it up to the world. What is it that makes you want to get up every day? Do more of that. The Glow Power inside of you is relentless and wants to shine, and everything in its path is graced. Here’s to the twinkle in your eye my dear Glow Gazer.





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