advice Hijab is an attitude. Just covering yourself won’t do. You have to be careful while looking, talking, laughing, eating etc. in front of boys. Girls are generally soft spoken, and when you talk sweetly to a boy he might think you are an easy person and might try being mischievous with you. All mannerism of yours is watched by males surrounding you since it’s their nature especially at the age of adolescence. So it is our duty to be modest in all ways possible and save them and us from doing haraam acts. “And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons or their sisters' sons, or their women or the servants whom their right hands possess, or male servants free “there is no harm in talking of physical needs, or small children to a non-mahram as long who have no sense of the shame of sex, and that they should not strike as you are in your limits and their feet in order to draw attention preserving your modesty” to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers, turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss.” (Quran 24:31). Men are also asked to lower their gaze and protect themselves from the attack of satan. Islam is a complete religion and forbids anything and everything that may lead to evil acts and eventually disgrace in dunya and akirah. There is no harm in talking to a non mahram as long as you are in your limits and preserving your modesty but to be with a non mahram inside a closed place is forbidden because satan takes the third place in there. Once we girls start caring for our modesty then for sure boys will understand the matter and stay away from thinking or acting in an indecent manner. Some girls feel boys respect girls who talk and mingle with them freely and they think only then they are considered as new generation girls. That thought is a completely wrong one. A boy respects a girl who is modest in her dressing, who maintains the limits while
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