The perfect wife is resolute and follows the path that Islaam has chalked for her. She refrains from adopting the practices and modes of dressing of the Kuffaar. In fact, she even abstains from buying perfumes and other articles that the Kuffaar manufacture so that her wealth is rather spent on articles that Muslims manufacture. This she does so that her money can benefit the Muslims instead of their enemies.
her husband to abstain from earning money via Haraam means, assuring him that the family are prepared to tolerate hunger rather than the fire of Jahannam. She constantly reminds him that he should not usurp the rights of others, he should not lie or cheat in business, he should not infringe on the rights of his employees, he should not miss his salaah with Jamaa’ah and should do nothing else by which his earnings become tainted, thereby exposing the entire family to fire of Jahannam.
She neither apes the West in their fashion, their domestic lifestyles or in their ways of living. She realises that the blessings of life and the blessings of the home are derived from the love and understanding that a couple develops between themselves. She knows that these blessings are neither acquired by wearing expensive clothing nor by decorating the house with exclusive furniture, appliances and curtains. These things are after all merely for show.
The perfect wife is she who encourages her husband to carry out good deeds. Addressing all men, a woman once said, “The true hero among you is the one whom us women cannot entice towards sin.” In fact, it was because of a woman that the son of Hadhrat Aadam υ committed the first murder on earth when he killed his brother. The perfect wife has the deep-rooted fervour within her to assist her husband and to cooperate with him. In fact, the husband and wife should both share this commitment and should be prepared to make sacrifices for each other. They should both have the inclination to give rather than to take. The perfect wife is prepared to dedicate her life to her husband. She has made up her mind to live for her husband’s pleasure instead of for her own pleasure. Whatever she does should be according to her husband’s liking. When she does this, the time will not be long before her husband will do the same for her. However, she will have to make many sacrifices during the early years of marriage. The perfect wife is one who detests pandering to the desires of her Nafs (carnal self). She does not allow her Nafs to beguile her, thereby causing her to either barter her family’s honour, to compromise on the children’s proper upbringing or to neglect her husband’s rights. This quality of a woman is sufficient to win her husband’s heart and to give him peace of mind. Such a wife advises 327
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