woman is one who is in grief and sorrow; she should avoid dressing neatly and beautifying herself. A woman, who received talâq-e-rajie, should beautify herself and try to attract her husband towards her in iddat.
Iddat after Husband’s Death A woman whose husband has died should observe iddat for four months and ten days and should remain in the same house in which she lived at the time of the husband’s death. In the case of a pregnant woman, iddat is over as soon as the child is born and the number of months are not taken into consideration.
A few Wazifâs and Advice In one Hadîth it has been narrated that Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam said that he saw many women in Jahannam. When the women asked the reason for this, he said that firstly they have a habit of abusing and taunting and secondly, they are very ungrateful to their husbands. When it has been found that the tongue can lead her to Jahannam, then she should make all effort to control it and should not abuse and taunt; she should not be ungrateful to the husband. ONE HABIT WHICH WOMEN COMMONLY HAVE IS TO CURSE THEIR CHILDREN, LITTLE REALISING THAT, IT MAY BE THE EXACT MOMENT WHEN ALLÂH ACCEPTS HER DU’ÂS AND THUS HER CURSE WILL, BE ACCEPTED; THIS WILL CAUSE HARM IN BOTH THE WORLDS. SHE MUST TRY TO AVOID DOING THIS. Another habit which women also have when they meet is backbiting. This does many harms to the Dîn and she should, therefore, try to safeguard herself from this. It is very important for a woman to dress at home according to her normal way and standards. IF SHE HAS TO GO OUT OF THE HOUSE FOR SOME REASON THEN SHE SHOULD BE SIMPLY DRESSED, EVEN UNTIDILY, IF POSSIBLE, THOUGH OTHER WOMEN MAY LOOK DOWN UPON HER. If she stays untidy in the house, then she will lose the love and respect of her husband. If she beautifies herself and goes out of the house, then outsiders will cast their gaze on her. It is totally wrong for her to go out in this manner and it should, therefore, be avoided. Women easily become possessed by the Shaytân and evil spirits: firstly, due to their natural beauty and secondly due to their remaining in a state of impurity for a long period. She should read ‘Âyatul Kursi’, "Qul aûzu birabbil falaq" and "Qul aûzu birabbin nâs" after every fardh salâh and before going to sleep; she should read Âyatul Kursi and the four surahs beginning with ‘Qul’ i.e. ‘Qul yâ ayyuhalkâfirûn’, ‘Qul huwallahu ahad’, ‘Qul aûzu birabbil falaq’ and ‘Qul aûzu birabbin nâs’ then she should blow on her palms and pass them over the whole body. IF SHE IS IN A STATE OF IMPURITY, SHE SHOULD READ THE ABOVE BY HEART WITHOUT MOVING HER LIPS OR TONGUE AND THIS WILL ALSO BE BENEFICIAL FOR HER, INSHA-ALLÂH.
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