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Connect in Conversation
With time, we discover how bringing mindfulness out into the world and to our interactions with others can help us all thrive.
BY DIANA WINSTON
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Mindful speech can be defined as speaking authentically from our heart. Usually, we just open our mouths and let whatever comes out come out. Often we speak when we want to fill the space, when we’re uncomfortable, when we don’t know what else to do. When speaking mindfully, however, we choose our words with a bit more care and intention. Invite a family member, friend, or partner to explore this practice with you. Communicating this way may feel clunky at first, but over time, listening and speaking mindfully will start to be second nature, and the sense of understanding, acceptance, and happiness in your relationships will deepen.
When you’re listening: Give your full attention to the other person. Become aware of your body (breath, feet, hands, etc.) from time to time to help you stay present. When your attention wanders, bring it back to being present with the person.
When you’re speaking: Speak authentically about what is true for you. Become aware of your body (breath, feet, hands, etc.) from time to time to help stay present. Occasionally you can verbalize what you are aware of as you are talking.
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Find a willing partner. One person will speak first, and the other will listen—start by deciding who.
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The first speaker will speak for 90 seconds on a topic you both choose. For example, your topic might be something like, “What brings me joy?” The listener can nod and smile and show that they are interested, but not interrupt.
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After 90 seconds, ring a bell and take a silent pause to feel the impact of listening or speaking in that way. Then reverse roles and let the other person speak on the same topic for 90 seconds.
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After the other person speaks, ring a bell, and take a pause. Then reconnect for a few minutes (with no rules!) to share what it was like doing the exercise and to follow up on anything you want to ask or say, based on what your partner shared. ●
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