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OCTAVIA SPENCER who plays Minny Jackson in

DreamWorks Pictures’ The Help

LOVE BY Activation

Local families who have adopted share their personal experiences with us!

One Voice IS ALL IT TAKES Meet Brandi Cummings of WIS-TV

We’ve long been the area’s leader in providing cutting-edge evaluation including digital mammography, breast cancer treatment and follow-up care. By being the state’s first facility to achieve accreditation from the American College of Surgeons’ National Accreditation Program for Breast Centers, as well as accreditation from the Commission on Cancer, you’re provided every significant advantage in your battle against breast disease on both our Baptist and Richland campuses. This includes access to comprehensive breast care, a multidisciplinary team approach to treatment options and information about ongoing clinical trials. This commitment ensures that you receive the highest level of quality breast care – right here at home.

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In this Issue

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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Lori Samples Duncan loriduncan86@gmail.com

MEDIA REPRESENTATIVES Theresa Adams Cathy Williams info@midlandswoman.com

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Janna Abbott Brooks Barton Sandy Boone Ruth Chapman Pastor Mark Crumpton Jewitte Dooley Lori Samples Duncan Tammy Ferris Ashley Ford Coleman D. Fowble, MD AnnMargaret McCraw Mandy Rivers Tyler Ryan Elaine Samples Dr. Michelle Welch Megan A.H. Willner Leslie Wilson

COVER PHOTO Patrick Mooney Photography

From the Editor

14 Freedom Isn’t Free 16 State House Butterfly Release

Events

Love by Activation

2 Summer’s Coming to an End 3 What’s Happening in the Midlands?

Let’s Talk

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Meet one of the Midlands Newest Business Owners: Patti Mack Better Than Betty’s Chocolate Cake One on One with Octavia Spencer

One Voice

Celebrating the Survivor in You! 12 Love Me Tender

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Innovative Online High School The Benefits of Music or Dance for Children Making a World of Difference

Health & Wellness

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The Gissendanner’s Adoption Story Foster to Adopt: Meet the Pelleys Starting a Family Our Chosen Child Love Rescued Me

Back to School

10 One Voice Is All It Takes

Melissa W. Morris

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InShape Recovery is Possible True or False? The “New” Total Hip Skin Talk with Dr. Michelle Welch Women Take a Stand Against Heart Disease

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40 Are You Even Tempered? 42 Nothing to Slow Us Down

Business & Web Directory 43 Contact our advertisers

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From the Editor

his summer has been eventful and exciting for us at Midlands Woman Magazine. We moved our office into the Executive Center at the Old Mill and met a lot of great men and women while putting together this Fall issue for you. Thank you so much for the great feedback on our last issue with Mrs. Jerri Spurrier on the cover. Your comments are important for us to continue to bring you the types of stories that you enjoy. We had an opportunity to meet so many interesting women while putting together this issue, for example, Brandi Cummings of WIS. She is not only a local celebrity but like so many other men and women who are dedicated to this community, she is giving back. We thoroughly enjoyed each photo shoot and meeting, and most of our articles came from readers like you. Those readers submitted an email or made a phone call and we were fortunate enough to get to speak with a family or an individual who shared a little piece of their lives with us and with you. We want you to keep them coming! So we are inviting you to participate in our Holiday Makeover Giveaway. We are taking submissions for a lady or man in our community who deserves a pat on the back for a job well done. Someone who goes above and beyond the call of duty is the person deserving of this makeover. This might be a cashier at your favorite grocery or the owner of a business. You get to decide. All submissions must be received by September 16th in order to be featured in our Holiday issue.

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When I first told you about our Survivor series it was to encourage women and men who were fighting cancer to fight harder keep pushing toward the cure. We have focused primarily on cancer survivors up until this point, because I don’t know a person in my life or by extension anyone else whose life has not been touched by this disease. In this issue we have featured another type of survivor. A local family who has survived the harsh reality of war shares some of the details of that experience with you. I continue to hope that the Survivor series will touch a cord within everyone who opens the pages. To understand that no matter what you face, you are stronger than you think you are. These stories show the courage of the human spirit. We have an opportunity to open our lives and minds to other’s struggles and not be so critical and condemning, especially when we haven’t walked a mile in their shoes. We had a chance to interview Mrs. Octavia Spencer from the Disney/DreamWorks collaboration of the popular book The Help. I recommend both the film and the book. Share your thoughts about The Help on our facebook page during the week of August 16-21 for a chance to win dinner out on us! We never take for granted the fact you let us in your homes and your hearts each and every issue. Thank you again for that. Until next time, Your friend,

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Joshua 1:9 This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

What’s Happening in the Midlands? Art with a Heart August 18, 5:30 – 8:30 p.m. 701 Whaley

Wind down your Thursday evening with tremendous artwork as well as dessert from The Melting Pot, drinks and live entertainment by Day Clean, as well as an acrobatic performance. 701 Whaley will host this annual benefit art show which features the work of 25 well-known local artists. All art will be offered for sale and a portion of all proceeds benefit Ronald McDonald House Charities of Columbia’s cornerstone programs – the Ronald McDonald House and the Ronald McDonald Family Room. Tickets are $15 each or $25 per couple. Tickets can be purchased in advance by calling (803) 254-0118, on their website or at the door the night of the performance. See their website for a list of participating artists. www.rmhcofcolumbia.org

17th Annual Home Improvement Show August 19 – 21 Columbia Metropolitan Convention Center

The 17th annual show features exhibitors in home improvement, remodeling, construction and related industries. Whether you’re just thinking about remodeling your home, or if you’re in the middle of a project and looking for the latest in home improvement technology,

you’ll enjoy a one-stop shopping and learning experience with this show. Exhibitors will present in-depth seminars about remodeling your kitchen and bath and on a variety of home improvement products and services throughout the weekend. Admission is $5 per person at the gate. Kids 14 and under enter free. Visit the website below for show hours and more information. www.columbiabuilders.com

Lexington Medical Center Foundation Speaker Series Featuring Ray Tanner August 23, 6 p.m.

Lexington Medical Center Foundation welcomes Ray Tanner. Although he has been inundated with requests from around the state and nation, Ray Tanner has agreed to come back to Lexington Medical Center Foundation for one of his first speaking events in the Midlands since securing the back-to-back National Championship. Reserve your tickets early by calling (803) 791-2540. There will be a silent auction, and limited seats are available! Dinner tickets are $75, and table sponsorships are $1,000. We look forward to seeing you there! For more information, visit their website or call (803) 791-2540. www.lexmed.com

The Southern Patriot Cruise for Lexington Medical Center Foundation August 29, 5:30 p.m. (tentative)

This is a fundraising event for the Lexington Medical Center Foundation that is dedicated to the Breast Cancer programs at Lexington Medical Center. For more information call (803) 791-2540. www.lexmed.com

Black & White Gala 2011 Annual Gala September 22, 6 p.m. Columbia Metropolitan Convention Center

Presented by BB&T, the 2011 Annual Gala will honor Ambassador of the Year, Coach Ray Tanner. This event is sponsored by Nexsen Pruet. Sponsorships are still available, and individual tickets are $100 or $150 per couple. If you have any questions regarding this event, please contact Kendall Davis at (803) 733-1138 or kdavis@columbiachamber.com www.columbiachamber.com

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Boo at the Zoo October 14 – 16 / 21-30 Riverbanks Zoo & Garden

Hey, kids! Put on your cutest costume and head over to Riverbanks Zoo and Garden for this popular Halloween spooktacular. Children 12 and under are invited to wear costumes for a spookfest complete with Frankenstein’s Foam Zone, an eeky freaky DJ dance party and a trick-or-treat trail with candy and more. Visit their website or call (803) 779-8717 for more information. www.riverbanks.org

Oktoberfest 2011 October 22, Lexington

The parade starts at 11 a.m on Main Street. Family fun will be held from 12 p.m. until 5 p.m., and Rocktoberfest begins at 5 and lasts until 10 p.m.

Columbia Walk to Cure Diabetes October 30, Registration at 12:30 p.m., Walk at 1:30 p.m. Colonial Life Arena

Join the Palmetto Chapter Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF) and the 2011-12 Walk Corporate Chair, Pella Corporation, as they fundraise $470,000 for type 1 diabetes research. Register at the website below. www.jdrfpalmetto.org

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MEET ONE OF THE MIDLANDS NEWEST BUSINESS OWNERS:

Patti Mack

by Ruth Chapman

few years ago Patti Mack was faced with a situation that is becoming increasingly more common: her mother went missing for 5 hours in another state. She had a health issue and became dehydrated after she locked her keys in her house while she was in the yard in June. She wandered away and ended up at a car dealership three miles away with no identification on her and no idea who or where she was. She was taken to a hospital and eventually her family was tracked down. Patti found out after that harrowing experience that her life was about to change for the better. Upon her mother’s discharge from the hospital it became apparent that she could no longer live alone and so Patti began calling assisted living facilities. An assisted living facility is one in which a resident lives on the assisted living site and is cared for, only when necessary. Help is always nearby, on campus. When Patti left messages for the facilities she did not receive a return phone call. In fact, one person did return her call after receiving 4 messages and finally confided that she did not return the call because they were at capacity and knew she could not help.

going on, the company she worked for merged with another and her position, that of a certified public accountant, was eliminated. She and her husband thought about purchasing a franchise of some sort and they worked with a franchise broker. The broker brought the

Then a social worker recommended that she call an in home caregiver. In this situation, the patient is able to remain in their own home, with a live-in or occasional caregiver who checks in frequently with the patient. Patti realized what a tremendous need there was for this service, when her calls went unanswered or unreturned. About the same time all of this was

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Bright Star opportunity, as well as others, to the table. But Patti says that “Bright Star kept coming to the surface.” So, on June 20, 2011 she opened the Bright Star franchise. Bright Star offers companion care, personal care, medication reminders, transportation

Bright Star offers companion care, personal care, medication reminders, transportation to doctor appointments, light housekeeping and cooking meals for their clients.

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Let’s Talk to doctor appointments, light housekeeping and cooking meals for their clients. They also offer nanny care and respite care. Nanny care would typically be for a family of 3 or 4 children. Respite care is for caregivers who need some time off, i.e. live in family members who want to take a short vacation or parents of special needs children who need some time away, perhaps for dinner, etc. They can also provide hospice care or assistance with women who are on bedrest for at risk pregnancies. What sets them apart is that there is no minimum time limit. They offer services from 1 hour up to 24 hours/day. They are also not limited to seniors, although for now that is the bulk of their business. They currently have a staff of 2 office personnel and 15 caregivers. And what really sets them apart is a 24/7 local, live voice when you call the number, (803) 358-8315. All of their caregivers and staff are drug screened, background and federal sex offender searches are conducted as well as being licensed, insured

and bonded. They also guarantee compatibility and will continue working with the client until they are satisfied. In addition to the credentialing process for the caseworkers, there is a Director of Nursing who makes the initial assessment and provides oversight for the sitters. She is there for the peace of mind for the clients and caseworkers, in case something doesn’t seem quite right; for example, if Mrs. Smith is slurring her speech or refusing to take her medications, etc. the DON is there to provide assistance to the caseworker should a situation arise that is unfamiliar to them. Hopefully, a scenario like Patti’s will not arise in your future, but should you need some assistance for your elder parent, special needs child or any other situation, please give Patti Mack at Bright Star a call. Welcome to Lexington, Patti!

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Friday, September 23, 2011 7:30 p.m. to 11:30 p.m. The Hall • 320 Senate Street, Columbia Breast Cancer Survivors Celebration @ 6:30 p.m.

BBQ Dinner by Dupre Catering & Events Line Dancing • Live Music by Jumpstart Live Auction • Beverages Tickets: $50 per person

Available at: South Carolina Oncology Associates (Columbia) Tera’s Merle Norman (Lexington) Bren at (803) 708-0104 • Sherry at (803) 231-6136 Please make checks payable to “SCOA Cares Foundation”

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Better than Betty’s

CHOCOLATE CAKE by Mandy Rivers

have maintained for quite some time that one could not duplicate the moist, light consistency of a boxed chocolate cake mix in a homemade recipe. I would see a beautiful recipe in a magazine or cookbook, try it and always be disappointed with the results (too dry, too dense, etc.). So I gave up and resigned myself to the Betty Crocker box mixes, figuring I was willing to sacrifice flavor for great texture. I’m not a fan of traditional buttercream (you know, the sugary birthday cake variety that gets a crunchy crusting after a day or so and is so sugary sweet it literally gives you a toothache?). I experimented with a few chocolate buttercreams but wasn’t wowed. I then tried my hand at a whipped ganache but was perplexed with the issue of refrigeration – it being made from cream. Refrigerating (which I thought was necessary, though maybe I’m wrong) resulted in a stiff truffle-like layer sitting atop the cake. I experimented with recipes using cocoa and some using melted chocolate but found flaws (tiny as they may have been) with each.

Mandy Rivers Then I saw a recipe online that looked right. I tried it. The texture was exactly what I had been looking for. With a few tweaks for flavor’s sake, I eventually landed on a version of the recipe that I thought was The One. I celebrated and bragged and happy-danced and boasted for several weeks. This resulted in a whole lot of eye rolling from my friends (whatever, girls, this is my equivalent of running the Boston Marathon) and a whole lot of “buy one more pound of cocoa and I’ll strangle you in your sleep” from my husband. Then I was faced with another issue: frosting. I couldn’t release My Precious without an equally delightful frosting. Though I know I may not have many followers in this camp,

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I’d seen a few recipes that included corn syrup and thought perhaps it may be the key to achieving the sheen and spreadablility I was after. I was planning to spend the weekend experimenting with recipes that included a combination of all the varieties I’d tried but did one last search online to see if one already existed. I stumbled across Bobby Flay’s Creamy Chocolate Frosting recipe and became very hopeful (actually I squealed like a poked piglet). It contained the combination of ingredients that I had been contemplating: cocoa and melted chocolate plus a generous amount of corn syrup. I tweaked it a bit (pink sea salt... really Bobby?) but eventually arrived at something I was excited about! Introducing Better Than Betty’s Chocolate Cake with Creamy Chocolate Frosting!

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Better Than Betty’s Chocolate Cake with Creamy Chocolate Frosting • 1 ¾ cups all-purpose flour • ¾ cup cocoa powder • 2 teaspoons baking soda • 1 teaspoon baking powder • ¾ teaspoon salt • ½ cup oil • 2 cups sugar • 2 large eggs • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract • 1 cup buttermilk • 1 cup strongly brewed coffee Grease and flour baking pan(s) and set aside. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In a medium-sized bowl sift together flour, cocoa, baking soda, baking powder and salt; set aside. In a large bowl, using an electric mixer on medium speed, beat together oil and sugar until fluffy, about 1 minute. Beat in eggs and vanilla until combined, about 2 minutes. Beat in buttermilk and coffee until combined. Reduce mixer speed to low and gradually beat in flour mixture until just combined. Batter will be very thin. Pour batter into prepared pan(s)* and bake per the following or until the cake no longer jiggles in the pan and a toothpick

Cupcakes: Fill paper lined cupcake tins half full. Bake 12-15 minutes. Makes approximately 36 cupcakes. 8-9” Round: Fills three pans. Do not try to fit all of the batter into two. Bake 20-25 minutes. Bundt or 13×9 Pans: Fill pan 2/3 full. Use excess batter to make cupcakes (I usually make 1 – 13×9 cake and 12 cupcakes with one batch of batter). Bake 35-45 minutes. Cool in pan for 10 minutes then remove from pan – do not allow the cakes to cool completely in the pans or they will be difficult to remove. If you need to handle the cakes beyond turning them out, use waxed paper as the cake will stick to your hands. *Sorry about the extra batter issue. My math skills are not good enough to reduce the recipe.

Creamy Chocolate Frosting • 1 ¼ cups (2 ½ sticks) salted butter, at room temperature

• 1 cup powdered sugar • ¾ cup cocoa powder • ¾ cup light corn syrup • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract • 8 ounces semisweet chocolate, melted and slightly cooled

In a food processor, process the butter, sugar and cocoa until smooth, about 30 seconds, scraping the sides of the bowl

as needed. Add the corn syrup and vanilla and process until just combined, 5 to 10 seconds. Scrape the sides of the bowl, and then add the melted chocolate and pulse until smooth and creamy, 10 to 15 seconds. This recipe makes enough frosting for cupcakes, a two-layer cake, a sheet cake or a bundt cake. If making a three-layer cake, you may want to double the recipe or try the Milk Chocolate Buttercream Frosting recipe below for the middle layers to ensure you have enough frosting for the entire cake (the milk chocolate buttercream makes for a nice contrast in color, texture and flavor).

Milk Chocolate Buttercream Frosting • 1 cup (2 sticks) salted butter, at room temperature • 2 ½ cups powdered sugar • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract • 4 ounces milk chocolate, melted and cooled to room temperature

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Whip the butter on medium-high speed for 5 minutes, stopping to scrape the bowl once or twice. Reduce the speed to low and gradually add the powdered sugar. Once all of the powdered sugar is incorporated, add the vanilla and increase the speed to mediumhigh, mixing until incorporated. Slowly add the melted chocolate and whip at medium-high speed until light and fluffy, about 2 minutes, scraping the bowl as needed to incorporate all of the chocolate.

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Octavia Spencer “Minny” of the DreamWorks Movie The Help

by Lori Samples Duncan

he Help by Kathryn Stockett was not my typical read. I like a feel good story from beginning to end. Books are my escape and, therefore, if I am going to give you ten hours or ten minutes of my life, “that I can never get back,” as my eight year old says, I want to smile. I want to laugh. There is little about 1962 Mississippi that creates that feeling in me. I have always struggled with injustice, especially that of slavery and segregation.

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(top) Octavia Spencer stars as a loyal, outspoken Minny Jackson, who is the perfect blend of pathos and humor. (bottom) Best friends Aibileen Clark (Academy Award® nominee Viola Davis, center) and Minny Jackson (Octavia Spencer, right) share a special moment in DreamWorks Pictures’ inspiring drama, “The Help,” based on the New York Times best-selling novel by Kathryn Stockett. “The Help” is written for the screen and directed by Tate Taylor, with Brunson Green, Chris Columbus and Michael Barnathan producing. Ph: Dale Robinette ©DreamWorks II Distribution Co., LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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I agreed to read the book, see the movie, and to be frank with my readers about what I discovered. I read the book. I cried, laughed, and became angry within the first few chapters. Perhaps it isn’t politically correct to say, but I enjoyed it. For a generation of women who didn’t necessarily “have help,” it will open your mind to the complexity of relationships that you had never considered. The movie was thought provoking, honest and an emotional rollercoaster, much like the book. There is no big finale…it is a work of fiction, based on real life experiences, so it doesn’t end with an earth shattering change or a big “we win,” nor does it offer acknowledgement from ignorant characters about their ridiculous behavior. What did the movie do? It opened my eyes to fact that, in many ways, women haven’t changed much in the last fifty years. We do what we have to do to get through the day. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad, and sometimes it’s just plain ugly. I sat in the theatre

for a pre-screening with men and women, both African American and Caucasian. I smiled because at least now we can all watch together without fear or condemnation. At the end of the day, we are just people. Sometimes we get it right, and sometimes we get it very wrong. I enjoyed the interesting, complex relationships and was inspired by the wonderfully heroic roles of the African American women and a couple of courageous Caucasian women as well. I was given the opportunity to speak with Octavia Spencer regarding The Help and here is what she had to say. MW: How did you come by the part of Minny? Octavia: I have a personal relationship with Tate Taylor, the director/writer, and Brunson Green the producer. Kathryn Stockett is a childhood friend of Tate’s and they have known each other for thirty years. Kathryn and I were introduced while she was formulating the character of Minny. Since she drew inspira-

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tion for the voice of Aibileen from Demetri, her childhood caregiver, I think we met at a strange time in that my physicality and certain aspects of my personality influenced what she thought Minny should be. MW: Growing up in a different era than the woman you portrayed in the movie, how did you prepare for this role? Octavia: I am fortunate that I was born in a more tolerant time in our nation’s history and I am fortunate the struggles of the true life women and men that Minny, Aibileen, and Constantine represent forged the path for me, so I didn’t have to have those experiences. I did do a lot of research. MW: Being known as one of the funniest women in Hollywood, was it a stretch for you to play such a serious role? Octavia: I have never seen African American characters from this era actually written by a white author painted in such a multifaceted way. I wanted to be a part of it from that regard. I also thought, “How often do character actors like me get this opportunity to play such a multifaceted character?” Being able to play alongside such wonderful actors is also a once in a lifetime opportunity. I was thrilled. When you add my personal relationships with many people associated with the film … it’s just one of those things that really seldom happen.

film for you? Octavia: It is a socially relevant movie. We have never seen African Americans from this prospective. It has always been as facilitators of the plot point, never really as the heroines or the protagonist. I was happy to be such an integral part of this project and prospective, because I really don’t like a lot of literature from this era, as we have been relegated to “Mammies.” We are so much more multifaceted than that. MW: I found it interesting how the characters were able to separate themselves from their “job” and be so loving to those white children, whose mother’s were so wicked to them. Octavia: Isn’t that the way of women anyway? Regardless of race, we take our lumps and we do it graciously, gratefully and quietly. MW: One of our Facebook fans submitted a question for Minny/Octavia “How did it feel to know you had the opportunity to change so many lives for the better by telling ‘your’ story?” (Hope Halfacre Bryant) Octavia: It is awe inspiring … indefinable, really. Again, I don’t know what it is like to suffer spousal abuse or any type of abuse like that. But what I hope it is that Minny is a beacon of hope, because sometimes women do what they think is best for their family and stay in an abusive environment. It takes a lot of courage to stay and it takes a lot of courage to leave. What I hope is that they realize starting over, being safe and having healthy relationships that aren’t abusive… there is victory in that and a sense of strength in that. I hope that comes across. (It’s) one of those things I really haven’t come to terms with yet.

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IS ALL IT TAKES by Tyler Ryan

photography by Patrick Mooney

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know WIS doesn’t want you.” The words that would motivate Brandi Cummings to become not only a reporter and anchor at WIS-TV in Columbia, but successful author

and role model for young women. Brandi had spent the three years leading up to her 2007 arrival in Columbia as a producer at Augusta’s WRDW. It was her dream to become a reporter in her hometown of Augusta, motivated by the “idea of making my parents proud,” she said, “and I never dreamed bigger than that.”

After months of working seven days a week, perfecting her on air delivery, writing skills, and developing a solid resume, the answer from her WRDW News Director was a disappointing “You’re not ready.” “I was devastated,” said Brandi. It was the motivation that she needed to look beyond reporting in her hometown. Brandi does point out that in retrospect, the less than enthusiastic response motivated her to realize her talent as a reporter rather than a producer. “Sometimes someone’s dream for you isn’t yours,” she said. Brandi began to send out her polished work examples, and after several stations showed interest in her producing skills, the call came from Tina Luque-Blacklocke, the former WIS News Director. The disappointment in her boss’ less than enthusiastic vote of confidence didn’t stop her from making the drive to Columbia and meeting with Blacklocke. Brandi’s interview consisted of covering a story…the very opportunity that she had been preparing for. The story didn’t go quite as planned, so she called Blacklocke with her idea of a new direction. “I like the fact that you have ideas,” was the reply, and the rest is television history. Since that faithful news story, Brandi has become much more than just a reporter for WIS. She anchors WIS News 10 Saturday Morning and hosts the Sunday morning program, ‘Awareness’. Brandi’s drive to reach her dream may seem as simple as a motivated young reporter, but as you learn more about her, you realize there was a lot more for her to overcome than a less than supportive supervisor. Brandi’s journey of self-

enlightenment would be the motivation for her to write a book and become a positive example for young women. Like many young women, Brandi struggled with low self-esteem and self-acceptance. She let others define what she should do, accept, and like. Taking the advice of a friend, she sought counseling, and began to embrace her

well beyond her expectations. “I never dreamed I would be a person of influence,” she said with absolute humility, of the role she has come to play in our community. Over the last three years, this former producer has seen success “bigger than I ever dreamed,” and it’s safe to say she is not content to simply rest on her laurels. Brandi continues to report on stories that impact lives. She strives to be a positive role model for teenage girls as a motivational speaker and mentor. She recently hosted the 2nd Annual Loving Me Seminar. A program she created to teach girls to love themselves. 65 girls attended this year, nearly doubling last year’s attendance. She also has recently been elected to the board of the South Carolina Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.

Over the last three years, this former producer has seen success ‘bigger than I ever dreamed,’ and it’s safe to say she is not content to simply rest on her laurels. needs, rather than letting them be dictated. It is from that self awareness and self acceptance that she realized she could be a positive influence for teenage girls to believe in themselves, and to embrace who they are, not who their friends tell them they should be. “I have always written poetry,” she said, calling it her outlet. Although, according to her, there wasn’t anything profound about her writings. She was inspired to put her poetry into book form, in hopes that other young women would be empowered as well. In 2010, her book of poetry and motivation, “Straight to the Heart: Life & Love” was released and has seen sales

Brandi also practices what she preaches when it comes to decisions. Brandi shared that she recently turned down a job that many might jump at purely for the opportunity. She elected to pass because “it didn’t feel right.” As for what is next for Brandi Cummings, her answer is something you might expect to see when you tune in to watch: “You’ll just have to watch and see.”

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MOTHER & DAUGHTER: A JOURNEY TOGETHER

amilies share many of life’s special moments. We all count on our families to be there during the most significant life events. This is the case for mother Ann and daughter Joanie. Both were diagnosed with breast cancer, and they fought it together. Here is what they had to say, in their own words. My Journey with Cancer (by Ann Shetterly) I learned that doctors and mammograms can be fallible and that you need to follow your gut. If you feel something is wrong, do not hesitate to find answers. I learned to accept help. That all did NOT have to get done today, and “things” could wait until tomorrow. I learned that when I was tired, I needed to be good to myself and rest.

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Both Ann and Joanie were diagnosed with breast cancer, and they fought it together.

I learned that life is fragile and unpredictable. It is a “journey, not a guided tour.”

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Perhaps the most important thing I learned is that I was loved by many, especially my wonderful husband and children. And that I had touched so many lives. I learned that I had an inner strength, patience, an unbelievable pain tolerance, and an unwavering faith in my God.

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(by Joanie Loquist) I had my youngest child, Griff, in August 2008. My body was trying to adjust from the pregnancy. I felt a lump and dismissed it thinking that this was apart of that transition, although

Celebrating the I kept going back to it. After a follow up, mammograms, ultrasounds, and a biopsy, the call came at 10:30 am Wednesday morning April 22, 2009. That moment is forever burned in my memory “You have CANCER”. When I first learned of my diagnosis, my mother, a survivor herself, cried “Oh my gosh, I did this to you!”

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My only response was the truth. “Mom you did not give this to me! You saved my life. Had it not been for your diagnosis, I would not have been performing self-breast exams. I wouldn’t have taken the time and patience to know my body and therefore trust that something wasn’t right. YOU SAVED MY LIFE!” We both tested negative for BRCA gene known to be a hereditary link. My cancer, although Stage 1, was aggressive and multi foci. It’s a strange feeling to share this with your mother. We understand something out of the ordinary causes us to fear – “it’s back.” We are a sounding board for each other and can relate to the uncomfortable dressing of the post-mastectomy body. She had been there/done that. We were close before the diagnosis and this pushed our relationship to newer bounds. Like everything in life, I tend to look to my parents for encouragement and support. Although this is one thing I would not have wished for on anyone, I feel lucky to have my mother, she paved the way and was able to show me the ropes – not just in breast cancer, but in life.

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She is my mother, my friend, and my sister in breast cancer. Ann’s husband and Joanie’s father, Russell Shetterly, had this to say about his wife and daughter as they faced the diagnosis of cancer. “Ann and Joanie, like all survivors, are strong, brave, tough and determined. They are women of faith who are kind, giving and uncomplaining. Neither allows this disease to detract from their love of their families. Both work and radiate such grace and beauty that it is easy for others to forget the fight that they carry daily. They have a unique support relationship shared by a mother and daughter traveling the same path.” What a beautiful tribute by a husband and father to these inspiring and gracious women. Dems Fine Jewelers has designed a bead in their Bead to Beat it Program honoring the mother/daughter, Ann and Joanie, and it reads: Love Me Tender “As a garden grows with tender love, so grows the special relationship between a mother and daughter on a tender journey.” Go by Dems and pick up your bead today.

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FREEDOM Isn’t FREE by Tyler Ryan

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t has been the best and worst time in my life,” says Corporal Hamilton Kinard of his time since being literally blown off his gunner position by an improvised explosive device (I.E.D.), while escorting a convoy outside of Bagdad. Convoy escorts were nothing new to Hamilton, who had served in the National Guard since 1990. In fact, in the two years leading up to the attack that forever changed his life, and that of his family, he had logged over seventy-three thousand miles “in country” escorting convoys safely across hostile territory. On March 15, 2005, approximately twenty miles south of Bagdad, while serving on the lead gun truck, Hamilton and his unit were caught in an ambush cross fire situation while crossing an overpass. Approximately forty feet from his truck, a Vehicle borne I.E.D. (VBED) detonated, which blew him off his position as top gunner, “bouncing” him down the interstate. It was two and a half days later that he woke up at Camp Victory, where he began the “biggest battle in my life.” Engagements with the enemy were nothing

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new for him, as he estimates he had discharged some six thousand rounds in combat situations, and been in the area of over twenty IED attacks, including three in emanate danger. “There was one that got me,” he says. The explosion left Hamilton with a myriad of injuries, including a concussion, traumatic brain injury, cervical strain, degenerative disc disease, and hearing loss in both ears, however, the injuries haven’t necessarily been the hardest things to deal with. “There are only a certain few that you can go into detail with,” he explains about trying to find someone he could talk to about the incident, “if you haven’t been there, there’s no understanding. Anyone can nod their head.” He says it’s frustrating dealing with some of the long term effects of his injuries, which include scar tissue in the brain, confusion, balance is-

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sues, hearing, and the emotional impact of the event. Even trying to explain to people why he reacts to things in a certain way is difficult. “It’s tough day to day,” he says, as he looks at his wife, Britnee, “if it wasn’t for my wife and family…” those challenges would be much more difficult. Even with the permanent injuries he sustained that day and in spite of some limitations placed on him Hamilton continued to serve in the Guard, up until last year. Finally, after receiving his Purple Heart, he took a medical retirement due to the continuing impact of the incident. It was after retirement that Hamilton and his family faced some of the biggest battles, including finding the right place to turn for care and continued support. To look at him he appears no worse for the wear, however, the injuries he carries and internal; both physically and emotionally. “There are a lot of great individuals out

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there that are misunderstood and having the same troubles I am,” he says. The Kinards say that finding the right care, and necessary treatments isn’t as easy as you might think through the channels that have traditionally been laid out for our veterans. Britnee says that because of the sheer numbers of patients, at times, the medical staff, although very well intentioned, cannot give the care, or have the knowledge these heroes need. “It’s easy to medicate,” Britnee says but points out that medication doesn’t address the root of the problem. Much of the Kinard’s time is now spent together, as Britnee takes care of her husband and their kids, while they navigate the never ending paperwork, treatments, and appointments that have become part of their daily life. With all the negativity that one could feel from not only that day in March of 2005, but the day to day struggle with its lasting im-

pact, some might find it hard to continue to be positive, but the Kinard’s have certainly found a way. “I get to spend a lot of time with my kids,” Hamilton says of their children, twelve year old Ellerbe and one year old Blayne. “He’s a great dad,” says Britnee of her husband. The Kinard’s have also made it their mission to help other soldiers that may be walking the same path of not knowing where to turn, and how to deal with the seemingly never ending paperwork and steps needed to get the right treatment. They have created a database of information, phone numbers, and advice, all with the goal to help the other heroes who have served our country. For Cpl. Hamilton Kinard and his family, it wasn’t about being a casualty of war, it was about surviving, and creating a strong family bond that serves as an inspiration. Freedom friends, isn’t free.

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Don’t Miss the State House Butterfly Release in Observance of Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month

eautiful butterflies will fill the air at the SC State House September 27, 2011 at 5:30 p.m. as the SC Ovarian Cancer Foundation Riverbanks Region Chapter holds its annual “Whispers” event to promote awareness of the whispering symptoms of ovarian cancer. September is National Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month. Participants will release hundreds of butterflies in memory or honor of a relative or friend who has been affected by ovarian cancer and other female-related cancers. Each year more than 20,000 women will be diagnosed with ovarian cancer, and of those more than 15,000 will lose their lives. One in 72 women will develop some form of ovarian cancer in their lifetime. Ovarian cancer is called “the disease that whispers”, because women may not recognize the

symptoms that signal the onset. It is one of the deadliest cancers among women, often detected too late to be cured. If detected early, ovarian cancer has a 95% five-year survival rate. The survival rate drops below 25% for five-year survival for those who are in stage 3 and 5% for those diagnosed in stage 4. Ovarian cancer is never detected through pap smear examinations. Columbia businesswoman Cathy Novinger, who chairs the Chapter and is an ovarian cancer survivor said, “It’s important to understand

that all women are at risk for this disease, but it does not have to be fatal. Symptoms are vague, but they do exist. We want to make sure women know what they are and that there are tests available to aid in early detection.” Proceeds from the event help further the Chapter’s mission of educating women in the Midlands about ovarian cancer. For more information on how to participate in the butterfly release, please contact Sandy Boozer or Cathy Novinger at 803-926-3462.

All women are at risk for ovarian cancer. • Ovarian cancer is one of the ﬁve leading causes of cancer death in American women. • Ovarian cancer occurs in approximately one in 72 women. • Each year, over 20,000 women are diagnosed with ovarian cancer and about 15,000 women die. • A Pap smear is not a test for ovarian cancer. It detects cervical cancer.

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Abdominal pressure Bloating and discomfort Unusual fatigue Shortness of breath Unexplained weight ﬂuctuation Constant feeling of fullness

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Become aware of the risk. Ask your doctor about ovarian cancer.

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Patricia Moore-Pastides, First Lady of the University of South Carolina and Spokesperson for South Carolina Ovarian Cancer Foundation, Riverbanks Region

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ive years ago, Lisa Gissendanner and her husband Monty sat anxiously in a room in Hubei, China. It had been a year since they started the adoption process for a new addition to their family. Now, it was finally time to bring their baby girl home.

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Love by Activation “When they placed that baby in my arms, it is just like if you were in a hospital and you just birthed that baby yourself,” Gissendanner said. “It’s just very emotional – you’re ecstatic with joy and love for that child that is now yours.” The couple decided to name their 10-month-old baby, Jaiden, which means “God has heard.” Two years later, they were back in China. But this time, they brought home their two-yearold son from Shaanxi. They named him Caden.

Today, Gissendanner said she feels as if her family is complete. But, she added, she also felt the same way after her biological son Will was born 15 years ago. That is, until she and her husband went on vacation and saw a couple who had two little girls from China. “Then God started stirring in our hearts about adoption, and we started researching agencies that did China adoptions,” she said. “We prayed about it for a year before finally deciding to begin the adoption process.” And while their two youngest children have fit seamlessly into their family, Gissendanner said the adoption process was anything but easy. After deciding on an agency, Gissendanner said she and her husband had to meet a laundry list of requirements.

After submitting their paperwork, the Gissendanners then had to send their dossier to the state government, Washington D.C., the Chinese Embassy in Washington D.C. and back to the adoption agency to be approved.

When they placed that baby in my arms, it is just like if you were in a hospital and you just birthed that baby yourself.

But what was interesting about the process, Gissendanner said, is that they were not allowed to choose their child. Instead, they were only allowed to request a preferred sex and age range of their child, and were asked if they wanted a healthy or special needs child. It wasn’t until the adoption agency sent their “match” information nearly a year later that the Gissendanners found out any information on their daughter -- and even that information was limited to only a picture, her age and the orphanage where she was located. “These children are all abandoned children,” she said. “There is no record of their birth parents or anything about them, except that they are found somewhere on the street.” Two months after receiving their match in the mail, the Gissendanners were finally able to bring their little girl home.

Two years later, the Gissendanners received another phone call – the adoption agency asked if they would like to adopt a 2-year-old special

needs boy. At the time, the only information that Gissendanners were told was that the boy had spina bifida occulta, the mildest form of spina bifida. Caden was misdiagnosed by the way and is a completely healthy little boy. “We got the call late Thursday afternoon and we had to let them know by Monday morning,” Gissendanner said, adding that after consulting with a local physician she and her husband decided to take a step of faith that the little boy did not in fact have spina bifida. “But we felt that this was God knocking on our door and sending us this child.” Today, with the addition of Jaiden and Caden, Gissendanner said she really feels that her family is complete. “(Adoption) is just so rewarding. I know people say all the time that my children are blessed to be here, but really we are the blessed ones,” she said. “Our family has been blessed by these two little children.”

“You could not have been over 49 years old, you have to have been married two years or more, you can’t have more than four children in your home already,” she said. “You can’t have any mental disabilities, you have to have a certain income level… there’s a whole list of these qualifications that you have to meet.” From there, the Gissendanners began to work on their dossier, or what Lisa referred to as a “mountain of paperwork.” “And then you have to write a story on why you want to adopt, why you chose China and what you will do to ensure that your children know some of their culture as they grow up,” she said, adding that they were also required to have a social worker examine their home and family dynamics.

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by Ruth Chapman

S The Pelley Family The Pelleys believe the SC Department of Social Services’ Foster to Adopt program gives people from all walks of life the opportunity to be forever families. According to DSS there are currently 1,336 children in foster care awaiting permanency through a plan of adoption. As of June 2011, 521 children have finalized adoptions for this year. Colleen comes in contact with many people who tell her they have thought about it, but give her reasons why they are not sure it would work. Her advice: “You don’t know until you ask!”

were walking in the house bumping into each other saying ‘We’re so blessed,’ and ‘We have so much to share...,’” David said. “Now there is never a dull moment.” David describes the initial approval process as all encompassing. There are orientation sessions; finger printing and background checks of both parents; a home study to include the prospective family’s background, safety requirements and home inspections.

“I think many people exclude themselves, or count themselves out who might be interested, because they don’t have the traditional family dynamic. They are single, divorced, or their children are older,” Colleen said. “There are so many different children out there from different situations; it could be that a nontraditional family could be a perfect fit for them.”

Once the approval process was behind them, the couple began to work with the Adoption Specialist to find children who would be a good fit for their family. In the meantime, Colleen visited a website called www.adoptuskids. org and found a little boy she was drawn to after seeing his photo and profile online. She spoke with their Adoption Specialist who was originally hesitant – she may have had other children in mind, but in the end she looked into the child’s situation for the Pelleys.

For David and Colleen it was an obvious decision. David is a retired Marine First Sergeant and teacher in the Naval Junior ROTC program at White Knoll High School. Colleen is also a teacher in Lexington School District One. “The two of us

A little over a month later, the Pelleys received a call that they had been selected as a possible placement. After a meeting with DSS, the Pelleys went home to talk and consider making this child a part of their family. At the meeting,

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itting around the dinner table with the Pelleys, you see dad, mom, and two sons – a family. However, this family isn’t what many people might call traditional. David and Colleen began their journey as foster parents, knowing that they wanted to eventually adopt through the state system.

they had learned that the boy had Acondroplasia Dwarfism. They discussed it, prayed about it and believed that even though they didn’t have much personal experience with people who have dwarfism, they would do whatever it took to help prepare him for life. Next a meeting was set up to introduce Shawn to the Pelleys. The prospective parents were more nervous than Shawn. They had a play date with him and his Adoption Specialist at a local park. Over the next six weeks David and Colleen took turns visiting Shawn during the week, attending school functions, going to the library, museums, and even dinner at a Mexican restaurant. On the weekends, they visited with him together. During the transition he was able to visit them at their house and even stay a weekend. After everyone, including Shawn, agreed that this would be a good home for him, he came to live with them as a foster child until his adoption was finalized about a year later in 2008. A new chapter in his life had begun. After giving Shawn time to settle in to his forever family, the Pelleys (including Shawn) decided that they were ready to ask for another child to make a part of their family.

The family agreed that another elementary school aged boy would be a good fit. But just because a family is ready, doesn’t mean that a child who is a good fit for the family is ready to walk through the door (even if he or she is out there). This is where patience, communication, and more patience comes in. This time proved to be more difficult than the first. David says he grew frustrated and began calling the Adoption Specialist regularly. But just when he was about say “done”, Colleen calmly suggested that he let God handle it. That night David resolved to do just that. Amazingly they received a call from adoption social worker the very next day, asking them to take a child for an emergency placement. They are currently in the midst of adopting that child, another boy. Though the process has been an emotional one, it has been worth it. Colleen says through tears, “I just feel like before them, something was missing. And now it feels more complete.” For more information about fostering or adopting through DSS, visit https:// dss.sc.gov or call 1-888-711-7095. To see pictures of SC children in foster care awaiting a forever family, visit www. scheartgallery.org.

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Starting a Family by Jewitte Dooley and Lori Samples Duncan

e had the chance to talk with Jewitte Dooley, an attorney who helps other families adopt, about starting the process herself. photo by Clark Berry Photography

MW: Tell us if you will a little about why you and your husband made the decision to adopt? Jewitte: We have discussed adoption for years, even when we were dating. For years, adoption has been an abstract desire that we considered when discussing our future. Within the past year, that abstract idea has become a reality. Our original plan was to have a biological child and then consider adopting, but God had other plans and after much prayer we took the leap of faith. We researched our options for domestic infant adoption in South Carolina and chose to proceed with Bethany Christian Services. They have an experienced staff and wonderful training and support for adoptive families. We felt like this agency was the best fit for our family and where God was leading us.

home study, must be completed. We have completed this step of the legal process; therefore, we are officially waiting and approved for placement of a child. As an attorney practicing family and adoption

MW: Share with us as an attorney who deals with adoption what you know to expect in this process. Jewitte: Adoption law in South Carolina is focused on the best interest of the child, as almost all agree it should be. Before a child is placed with prospective adoptive parents, a preplacement investigation, more commonly called a

law, I understand there are legal risks associated with adoption; however I strongly believe that the joy of adoption outweighs any risk involved. We will use my experience and knowledge of the South Carolina Adoption Act to weigh each situation that is presented to us and determine what is right for our family.

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MW: What are your hopes as far as a date by which you think you will have a baby? Jewitte: The average wait with Bethany Christian Services is one year. If it was up to us we would be placed tomorrow; however, we are realistic and know that it could take a while. We are excited about the journey we are on and find much peace in knowing that God already has a plan in place for our family. In the interim we are enjoying preparing our home and sharing the good news with friends and family.

As an attorney practicing family and adoption law, I understand there are legal risks associated with adoption; however I strongly believe that the joy of adoption outweighs any risk involved.

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MW: I know a lot of this process is emotional – can you tell us about that aspect of things. Jewitte: The adoption process is emotional for all the parties involved. Initially, there is the anxiety behind getting approved and completing all the necessary items to be considered as an adoptive parent. After that, the waiting game begins. Waves of anticipa-

tion, frustration and impatience clash making it one heck of a ride. We are fortunate to know many people who have adopted recently and many years ago who we can call on for encouragement and support. We are only a couple of months into the process and have only officially been waiting for a few weeks, so I can’t say that we fully understand how hard this next year could be while we wait. As mentioned earlier, we have found that by focusing on the fact that there already is a plan for our family, it helps to calm these emotions and really brings peace to the situation. MW: I was moved when we spoke about your plans to adopt and you explained to me that it was something you had always wanted to do, can you elaborate a little on why you feel your heart is so open to the adoption process. Jewitte: To some people, adoption is plan B, but to me it was not. I have always wanted to adopt a child. I can’t remember when I actually verbalized my desire to anyone, but I know it has always been there. Although, I would be fibbing if I told you I didn’t also have the same desire to have bio-

Love by Activation logical children. To me it wasn’t a choice between adoption or pregnancy, I wanted both. I truly believe they are each individually unique and special. Despite the fact these options are very different, the end result is the same – the building of a family.

the birth family and the adoptive family. This can range from pictures, to letters, to emails, phone calls, and even visits. Some of the communication is directly between the families, and sometimes the adoption agency is used as a facilitator.

MW: What do you feel is different today in adoption than ten years ago? Jewitte: Confidentially in adoption has evolved allowing more openness in adoption. Years ago, birth parents had little to no contact with the adoptive family or the child once the child was placed in the home, and even more rarely did the birth parents have visits with the child. Today there is much more communication and Bethany Christian Services calls this “openness.” Openness is the scale of contact and communication between

MW: Is there anything else you would like to add or share with us or our readers about this process. Jewitte: There is a tremendous need for adoptions in our state, whether its through adoption agencies or through the Department of Social Services or otherwise. As a result, there are considerable federal and state tax incentives which can be coupled with employer adoption benefits and grants to make adoption more affordable than often rumored.

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Congratulations! The Hamricks Congratuations to Kimberly Hamrick who wed Timothy Robert Watson at 5 p.m. on July 30, 2011 at First Baptist Church of Columbia, SC. Reverend Steve Phillips officiated.

Kimberly, the daughter of William and Susan Hamrick of Irmo, SC, is the granddaughter of the late Mr. and Mrs. William Hamrick Sr. of Augusta Georgia and Mr. Theodore Weaver and the late Mrs. Theodore Weaver of Grand Rapids, MI. Kimberly was given in marriage by her father. She wore a floor length ball gown of ivory taffeta featuring an embroidered crystal lace at the hem. The bride wore a Tacori headpiece which was a wedding gift from the groom and carried a bouquet of lime hydrangeas, peonies, and gardenias, a favorite flower of her late grandmother Georgette Hamrick. Timothy, the son of Marion “Buddy” and Vicki Watson of Lexington, SC, is the grandson of the late Mr. and Mrs. Lex Watson of Columbia and Mr. Robert Hinton and the late Mrs. Doris Hinton of Charleston.

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After the ceremony, guests enjoyed a southern style reception at Ellis Hall. Congratulations to this sweet couple. We wish them a lifetime of love and happiness together.

The Brazells Congratulations to Kayla Smith and Andrew Brazell who wed on July 8, 2011 at 403 in Lexington. We would like to wish this young couple many years of happiness and laughter.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

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The Legacy of the Adopted Child Once there were two women who never knew each other. One you do not remember, the other you call Mother.

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ne of my favorite poems is “The Legacy of the Adopted Child”. It hangs in my daughter’s bedroom in honor of who she is….the product of two families. In so many ways, Savannah is like many seven year olds. She is smart, determined and full of energy. But unlike many children, her arrival to our family was anything but ordinary. Her journey to our family began long before she was ever born.

Our oldest child was the product of a very difficult pregnancy. I truly believe that the reason both of us are alive today is because of the care that we received from the physicians at Columbia Women’s Healthcare. After our son was born, we didn’t think we could ever want for anything more. However after four years, it became obvious to my husband and me that God had other plans. At a synod-wide church meeting, Lutheran Family Services was encouraging people

to consider international adoption. I knew as soon as I heard the message, that adoption from South Korea was exactly what we were being called to do.

prayed for guidance and for God to provide what we needed, when we needed it. Somehow, the money that we needed for the next step was always there.

Our journey was not easy. My husband and I are not “rich” people. However, we did have determination and the courage to ask for help. We did fundraisers and yard sales. We sold items that were given to us by our families, our friends and our church family. We

In May, we received disappointing news that the number of children being referred from South Korea was dramatically down. The bad news was that wait would be longer. The good news was that

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Two different lives shaped to make you one. One became your guiding star, the other became your sun. The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it. The first gave you a need for love. The second was there to give it. One gave you a nationality. The other gave you a name. One gave you a talent. The other gave you aim. One gave you emotions. The other calmed your fears. One saw your first sweet smile. The other dried your tears. One sought for you a home that she could not provide. The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied. And now you ask me, through your tears, the age-old question unanswered through the years. Heredity or environment, which are you a product of? Neither, my Darling, neither – just two different kinds of love.

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Love by Activation we were higher on “the list”. Disappointed, I thanked our social worker for calling. She said that she would call me each time there was a referral from South Korea so that we would know how often they were coming in. I asked if it was reasonable to expect arrival by Christmas and she said that it “probably was”. The next week we received a phone call from our agency. Imagine my surprise and delight when I heard, “Sandy, this is Holt International Children’s Services. We have your

baby. She’s beautiful and perfect and I am so sorry that I disappointed you just last week. If I would have had any idea that I would be calling this soon, I would have never made that call.” We were ecstatic – tears of joy erupted everywhere! We then began the arduous task of completing immigration paperwork, choosing airports and preparing for the arrival of our daughter. Immigration took much longer than it should have but we also knew that it was all in God’s time. She would arrive exactly when she was supposed to arrive.

On August 20, 2004, our family drove to Hartsfield-Jackson International Airport in Atlanta and we met our daughter at the Delta customer service desk. She was tired from the 25 hour flight and she had a head cold. She was the most beautiful little girl that I had ever seen….and she was ours. Having the opportunity to give birth and the opportunity to adopt a child is a privilege that not many people get to experience. I have heard so many people say,

“She is such a lucky little girl to have a family that loves her.” But we know the truth – we are all lucky.

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ll around us are children, young and old alike, who are starving for a hug, starving to be loved. And on the other side are so many people who have so much love to give. What would happen if we would let our guard down and risk loving someone that we don’t “Have to” love? My whole life, my mother has chosen to love, her heart and home were always open. My parents never were foster parents nor were they ever compensated in any way; but while growing up my brothers and I each had friends who came to live with us for periods of time because of their difficult home situations. The moment they arrived they were treated just as if they had always been a part of the family. This never seem odd at the time, I was used to it. Now that I am older I see that this was very special gift that I was blessed to grow up with.

I knew from a very early age that I was adopted, and I am glad they were honest with me. But as I grew older particularly in my adolescent and pre teen years I struggled with the thoughts of abandonment. I often questioned that someone out there didn’t want me. At times I even felt unloved and unlovable; but the older I grew the more obvious it became that I was chosen and I was loved. I soon realized that birth has nothing to do with being a parent, it is a choice you make.

I am the man I am today because my parents chose to love me. I was chosen. I was adopted.

Love rescued me. Love Saved my life.

While I can’t speak for the many who have lived with us over the years I will tell you I am the man I am today because my parents chose to love me. I was chosen. I was adopted. When I was only a few months old, my mother received a phone call. The person on the other end asked “Do you want a little boy?” My mother dropped everything to pick me up and bring me home. My dad came home from work saw me and said “who is that?” to which my mother replied “our son”. I want you to know I had the BEST parents, who loved me with a love only to be compared to the love of God.

I am the man I am today because my parents chose to love me. I was chosen. I was adopted.

I want every person reading this to know that you don’t have to give birth to be a loving parent. I am not exclusively implying parental adoption either; consider this: you can adopt in love, your neighbors, your niece / nephew, children from your church, etc. Just look around you. I know that if you will choose to love those around you, you can have a profound impact on so many lives. I am telling you that there are people all around you who are starving for a hug, who are starving to be loved and you have so much love to give, please consider sharing it with others.

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INNOVATIVE ONLINE HIGH SCHOOL: Whitmore School a positive answer to South Carolina’s dropout rate

outh Carolina students now have an alternative to traditional high school. Whitmore School, a free public charter high school, is now accepting students for ninth through twelfth grade. This fully accredited, online school provides an individualized learning environment that helps students gain self-confidence and succeed in academics. Often, students need an academic option that provides flexibility in their schedules. Students working professionally, such as athletes, actors and musicians have long found online high school a perfect fit for their lifestyles. Children recovering from an illness and young parents who need to fit school around their family life also find computer-based academic programs beneficial. Whitmore School takes the benefits of online high school a step further with CompuHigh, the pioneering online curriculum. Using a yearround schedule (optional for students needing more time to complete course), this curriculum puts no time constraints on finishing a particular class. Students who excel can complete course work quickly, accelerating their graduation. However, if certain classes pose a particular challenge, SC Whitmore students have the option to continue year-round and take as long as they need to complete a class.

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‘SC Whitmore School provides an emotionally and physically safe learning environment with caring, qualified teachers. We focus on individualized instruction and student accomplishment.’ No semesters mean students no longer suffer the pressure of deadlines or missed homework assignments. Since SC Whitmore School is based on subject mastery, each student studies and revises work until they achieve an A or B on each lesson. No more failing grades! Students work one-on-one with certified and highly qualified teachers who give individualized feedback

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and support. Eliminating time constraints and focusing on individual students means more flexibility, but not less structure. Being responsible for their own education teaches students independence, time management skills and self-motivation.

“We call it ‘School Your Way’,” said Principal, Ellen Ray. “SC Whitmore School provides an emotionally and physically safe learning environment with caring, qualified teachers. We focus on individualized instruction and student accomplishment.” South Carolina suffers one of the highest dropout rates in the country (thousands each year). For these at-risk students, SC Whitmore School is a viable alternative. SC Whitmore School was approved by the South Carolina Department of

Education At-Risk Student Committee as a “propitious new at-risk student model” in January of 2010. Students who perform poorly on tests, or who are frustrated with traditional high school, often find they do much better in a guided, yet personally motivating learning environment. SC Whitmore School academic requirements are just as rigorous as any high school curriculum, but with one-to-one feedback on every lesson from teachers, parents are not required to be a learning coach. Parents receive weekly reports from their student’s Guidance Counselor and have access to their student’s File Cabinet and course work at any time. Parents of students who are failing or who are demoralized by traditional high school are encouraged to visit www. sc.whitmoreschool.org and learn about the fully accredited classes offered. All colleges and universities accept SC Whitmore School graduates on par with all high school students within the state. SC Whitmore School will begin offering classes in August of this year, but since there are no semesters, students can enroll and begin classes at any time. Students can transfer mid-semester from a traditional high school and finish credits to avoid losing a year of academic progress. Students who complete course work online learn responsibility and gain the satisfaction that comes from accomplishment on their own terms. Many at-risks students find online learning to be the perfect solution to the sometimes difficult problems presented by the traditional classroom setting. Across the nation, the number of students earning high school diplomas online grows each year. SC Whitmore School recognizes this trend and offers South Carolina students the first online, year-round, mastery-based high school option.

For more information contact Ellen Ray, Principal at 866-476-6416 or Ellen.sc.whitmore@ gmail.com.

The Benefits of

MUSIC or

DANCE FOR CHILDREN by Janna Abbott

ave you ever seen your baby stop what he was doing in order to bounce to music? Have you been amazed by the creative and dramatic movements of your child? You know your child loves music! Did you know music and movement is inherent in each of us? Music stimulates every area of the brain. When movement is added to music, the brain receives even more stimuli, encouraging the growth of vital neurotransmitters. Through music and movement we find a way to express ourselves and soothe ourselves. We develop a sense of grace – and motor, language, cognitive, emotional and social skills. Much research has been done on the connection between music and academic excellence. All studies show that children who are involved in consistent music or dance practice score higher than their peers on standardized tests, and are less likely to be involved in antisocial, addictive or criminal behavior. When young children are enrolled in dance or Kindermusik classes, they receive the opportunity to have fun with peers while developing their intellectual, social and physical skills – plus coordination and discipline. They gain self confidence with their emerging abilities. Kindermusik begins classes with babies, stimulating the child while giving bonding time with the parent. It also provides the parent with the opportunity to network with other adults. As the child progresses through Kindermusik classes, he/she learns better self expression, is guided through imaginative musical activities, and finally, begins to read music through musical games.

Dance begins with Creative Movement dance classes begin at age 3 and continue through life. In an age appropriate environment, children learn the importance of being a team player, and have opportunities to perform on stage and to appreciate the beauty of the performing arts: all this while discovering their own unique talents. Music Makers studio has Creative Movement, Ballet, Tap, Jazz & Contemporary, and Praise Dance classes – providing a way for everyone to express themselves. Learning to sing or to play a musical instrument is a lifelong pleasure. While we may not be able to participate in athletics or other physical activities as we get older, we will be able to play our instrument or sing through life and after retirement. Music Makers offers private lessons in piano, voice, violin, viola, cello, percussion, guitar, bass guitar, saxophone, clarinet, trombone, trumpet, baritone, French horn, tuba, harmonica and recorder. Half-hour lessons are offered in a friendly, supportive atmosphere. Give someone the gift of music!

Janna Abbott is the owner of Music Makers of the Midlands, LLC located at 10071 Broad River Road, Suite H, in Irmo. Visit their website at www.MusicAndDanceIrmo.com or call (803) 781-3344 for more information.

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Making a World of Difference

lenforest School is committed to exclusively educating students who learn differently. Although a learning disability is a challenge, Glenforest celebrates differences and embraces non-traditional learning. We adapt the class to the child, not the child to the program.

What makes Glenforest School different from other schools? When it comes to working with non-traditional learners in the classroom, Glenforest teachers just “get it,” plain and simple. Students experience a different instruction level and class sizes are much smaller (an average of just seven students in each class). Faculty and staff are informed of students’ unique learning needs and various classroom accommodations and a child is never labeled for their differences. All Glenforest students are “mainstreamed,” spending each day moving from classroom to classroom alongside their peers. Since special education is integrated and woven throughout the regular school curriculum, there are no self-contained classrooms and individual students are not pulled out of class for special instruction or resource. Although Glenforest’s approach to education is clearly non-traditional, we do not claim our methods are any better or any worse than those employed by other schools. Glenforest aims to function as a supplement to the public school system, not a replacement for it; and intends to prepare students to return back to public education after rebuilding confidence, developing coping skills, increasing self-esteem and acquiring successful learning tools during their stay. The school’s main goal is to reach students who are “falling through the cracks” in education and keep them in school before they become disenchanted with learning altogether. What are the basics I need to know? Glenforest School is a K – 12, SACS Accredited, independent nonprofit day school that exclusively works with children who learn differently. Catering to the needs of educationally underserved children in the Midlands is the very foundation of our school, central to our mission, the basis of our curriculum, and daily concern. Glenforest has spent three decades

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cultivating a comprehensive curriculum and school setting that accommodates a full-spectrum of unique learning styles and needs. The program is specifically designed to work with each student’s specific challenges- targeting specific areas of weakness or struggle while zeroing in on individual gifts and talents; always remaining focused on accomplishments and strengths. We currently work with students who have a full-spectrum of learning differences including Attention Deficit Disorder/Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD), Asperger’s Syndrome, Autism Spectrum Disorders, Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, Dyscalculia, Central Auditory Processing Disorder, and several others. What will you do academically, socially and physically to meet my child’s needs? Our team of experienced, State-Certified teachers is nurturing, creative, friendly, helpful, enthusiastic and impeccably trained to ensure that all students receive the optimal educational environment and experience for supporting their individual academic, social, and emotional needs. Our rich curriculum tailored to the unique needs of each child and the highly personalized attention each student receives allows them to thrive, sustain growth, build character and independently develop as a learner.

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INSHAPE

by Elaine Samples

Shelley Burgess InShape owner, Shelley Burgess has a Masters in Physical Therapy and is a certified instructor in Pilates and Ai Chi (water Tai Chi). Burgess is supported by a top-notch team that includes physical therapist/athletic trainer Paul Padgett, physical therapist Sonya Lane and PT assistant Laura Amick. Burgess states “We are a faith-based team and welcome each client into our family, providing services with love to achieve goals quickly and effectively using hands-on techniques and state-of-the-art equipment such as the underwater treadmill, anti-gravity treadmill, ultrasound, electrical stimulation, and lasers.” After the initial evaluation measuring strength, posture and joint motion, personalized routines are established to educate clients how to improve their posture, flexibility, strength, and balance. “As a faith-based team, we also

nShape Physical Therapy & Wellness Center in Lexington strives to help individuals of any fitness level improve their quality of life physically, mentally and spiritually. The team of licensed physical therapists and assistants offers a unique faith-based approach to treatment, with one-on-one sessions and personalized comprehensive care to help individuals become flexible, strong and pain-free. openly pray with patients who consent, and everyone has responded favorably. Our ‘Nail It to the Cross’ theory allows patients to write down concerns or problem areas and put them on a cork cross in our hallway to symbolize letting go of negativity so they can focus on the positive during and after treatment,” says Burgess. After establishing medical necessity, we can file insurance claims with various insurance companies, which require a doctor’s referral. Prices for insurance range depending on the specific services rendered and our private pay costs are lower, averaging $100 per hour for one-onone land or aquatic services. Aquatic physical therapy in the tridepth performance pool utilizes the properties of water buoyancy to reduce joint or nerve compression; hydrostatic pressure to decrease swelling; water turbulence

for core strengthening and balance; and an underwater treadmill with video monitoring to evaluate walking and jogging. Patients report increased ability to exercise pain-free in water and increased speed of healing. The newest addition to the facility is the Alter G anti-gravity treadmill with video monitoring and precise unweighting options ranging from 100% (full body weight) to 20% (virtually weightless), accommodating any fitness level. Wheelchair-bound clients gain the ability to walk utilizing higher air pressure for support, and high-level athletes can run long distances up to 12 miles per hour at slightly reduced weight to protect joints from damage in the future. Clients can safely learn how to walk properly with a new prosthetic limb or following a total joint replacement. Burgess recalls the testimony of Carole My-

ers, who had a total knee replacement five weeks ago and is already walking independently with full range of motion and nearly full strength. Burgess states, “After a total joint replacement, Carole is able to walk pain-free earlier at a reduced body weight, and gradually increasing weight bearing as tolerated until normal walking at full body weight is achieved.” Myers states, “Using the Alter G anti-gravity treadmill has contributed to my speedy recovery… you feel as if you are walking on air! On a personal note, the patients are treated with love and laughter; a guarantee that you will feel better inside and out.” Perhaps the personal attention, leaving the patient feeling like they are more than just a procedure, is as important to recovery as the physical therapy itself.

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Recovery is Possible

by Leslie Wilson

ach year, LRADAC helps thousands of Midlands’s residents begin a journey to recovery and healthy living free of substances. Statistics show that one in five families is affected by substance use. Consider five families in your neighborhood block – it is likely that one of those families has been impacted in some way by substance abuse and addiction. Not only does substance abuse and addiction impact the individual, but their family and the community as a whole. Chances are, you may know someone who needs help… One simple screening tool, the CAGE, can assist an individual in determining whether they are at risk. It consists of four simple questions: 1. Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking? 2. Have people Annoyed or angered you by criticizing your drinking? 3. Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking? 4. Have you ever had an “eye opener” or drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or get rid of a hangover? “If the answer is yes to any of these questions and the person thinks they might have a problem, it is important to seek professional help,” says LRADAC’s President and CEO Debbie Francis. When someone calls for an appointment or enters the doors of LRADAC, the individual is assessed by a certified, professional counselor. Once this information is gathered, an individualized plan of care is designed to meet the unique needs of each person. Treat-

ment may include a range of services including medical detoxification, individual or group outpatient counseling, relapse prevention and peer support services. LRADAC offers behavioral health services for adults, adolescents and their families, as well as a gender-specific track.

resources to support the long-term recovery of individuals and families. LRADAC works with community coalitions and a host of community partners throughout Lexington and Richland counties to prevent, educate and advocate for safer communities.

Because addiction and substance abuse impacts many aspects of a person’s life, as well as that of their family, related support services may be an integral part of their care. For instance, individuals may participate in parenting classes or attend recovery support groups. Family members will be encouraged to attend education classes around substance abuse and addiction or attend family counseling sessions.

Even with a supportive family, many are resistant to admit they have a problem or worry about the experience of treatment. For individuals interested in treatment, LRADAC does not turn anyone away. “There are many different roads to recovery, treatment being one of them,” stated Ms. Francis. “Taking that first, bold step towards recovery may be one of the most important steps that a person may take – LRADAC is here to help them begin that journey”.

In addition, the community has an important role in creating an atmosphere that is supportive of recovery. Every business, house of worship, school, law enforcement and social service agency can make a difference through prevention, education, and awareness to guide the development and mobilization of community

Hope is right around the corner. Call or visit one of LRADAC’s two locations: Richland County – 2711 Colonial Drive in downtown Columbia, call 726-9300 or Lexington County – 1068 South Lake Drive in Red Bank, call 726-9400. You can also visit their website: www.lradac.org

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True or False?

by Brooks Barton

fter twenty plus years in the senior housing business, I’m still amazed at how much misinformation is out there about senior communities.

“I Wanted an Affordable Retirement Lifestyle... Where I wouldn’t be bothered with responsibilities of home maintenance. I wanted a spacious apartment where I could relax in solitude. I wanted a community where I could invite my family to join me for meals and outings.”

“I found everything I wanted at The Waterford at Columbia. My family even celebrated my birthday in the private dining room. Best of all, my pet is welcome here.”

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This article is meant to challenge several common myths that I have heard over the years about senior communities. Here’s a good one: “It’s too expensive.” If you own your home, there are real estate taxes and homeowner’s insurance policies to be paid, neither of which is inexpensive. Then there’s the general upkeep of the home and yard. Don’t forget appliance repair or replacement including the HVAC system! What about that big tree in the back yard with the big dead limb hanging over the porch and the roots that are tearing up the drive? I almost forgot painting, a new roof and rotten wood replacement.

around the driver’s schedule, now they have a driver whose job is to transport the residents to and from their appointments. What about all the time and energy spent on daily meal preparation. You shop for it, you cook it and you clean it up. At The Waterford, you simply show up, order from the menu, and enjoy the meal and the socializing that comes with it. After your choice of a dessert and a nice cup of coffee, you just get up, say thank you and walk away. Did you lose or gain independence? The best part about the dining experience, if you live alone now, is that you get a healthy meal and some good conversation with your peers at The Waterford. Doctors will tell you that lack of good, consistent socialization causes major depression problems among seniors. At The Waterford new friendships are made, great activities are always available and really good trips are a part of the monthly calendar.

Another common myth is “I’ll lose my independence.” In fact, just the opposite takes place. When you move to The Waterford, all of the above cost and added aggravation go away. And don’t forget about the financial benefits of fixed prices on utilities and food. No surprises – ever! After a careful analysis of their current expenses versus the monthly fee at The Waterford, most find that it’s either about the same or less at The Waterford. And by the way, what price do you put on peace of mind, which is really what it’s all about. Another common myth is “I’ll lose my independence.” In fact, just the opposite takes place. Many of our residents are not driving when they move to The Waterford. One of our services is transportation to doctor’s appointments, grocery stores and other shopping. Where is the loss of independence? Before the move they were dependant on family and friends and had to schedule everything

To sum it up, all of us resist change of any kind and the older we get the more we resist. But all of us have had to make “trade offs” in our lives. We’ve had to give up something in order to get something else that we need in the present. Our residents at The Waterford are treated like kings and queens. Not a bad “trade off.” The Waterford is committed to providing quality housing and services. Our goal is to enrich the daily lives of our residents by creating an environment that stimulates them physically, mentally and emotionally. If you or a loved one is starting a search for a quality senior community at affordable prices you need to visit The Waterford. Call (803) 699–1121 to set an appointment for lunch and a tour. You will readily see why many of our residents say that living at The Waterford is like being on a luxury cruise ship that never leaves the dock!

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THE “New” TOTAL HIP by AnnMargaret McCraw and Coleman D. Fowble, MD

s Midlands Orthopaedics celebrates its 30th anniversary, we have been reflecting on advances in orthopaedics during that time. Hip replacement surgery is one of the most significant surgical innovations of the last century. Improvements in technology and technique continue to improve the effectiveness of this life-changing procedure. As the very active, but aging Baby Boomers approach a stage of life necessitating joint replacement to maintain their activity and independence, studies predict a 40% rise in the number of total hips to be performed over the next thirty years. Additionally, the number of total hips in patients over 85 is predicted to double. Midlands Orthopaedics is proud to offer South Carolina the joint replacement expertise of several fellowship trained surgeons. Dr. Coleman Fowble is one of those surgeons who joined Midlands Orthopaedics ten years ago after completing a Trauma Fellowship at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle, Washington. As a Level-1 trauma center, Harborview maintained 6 helicopters and two leer jet ambulances to transport critically injured patients. This specialized training equipped Dr. Fowble to treat extremely complex fractures involving joints. Dr. Fowble explains that despite heroic efforts to preserve the joint, fractures into the joint often lead to posttraumatic arthritis. Much of the damage to the cartilage happens at the time of injury. Dr. Fowble’s training in the reconstruction of the posttraumatic joint laid the foundation for his current practice of total joint reconstruction secondary to osteoarthritis, which is more common in the ageing population. Since the first total hip replacements in the 1960’s, vast changes have occurred in all facets of total hip arthroplasty (replacement). Today, advances in materials and techniques have led to total hip replacements that foster very good function and joint longevity, which are important to allow patients to return to active lifestyles

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As the very active, but aging Baby Boomers approach a stage of life necessitating joint replacment...studies predict a 40% rise in the number of total hips to be performed over the next thirty years. Dr. Coleman Fowble and reduce revisions of the original surgery. Total hip arthroplasty has evolved significantly over the past 50 years and includes multiple options. In the younger population, a hip repair may be available to remove spurs that cause a cam impingement, or altered hip mechanics; thereby eliminating or delaying the need for a hip replacement. These repairs are done both arthroscopically and through traditional surgical approaches. If the hip is beyond repair, then hip resurfacing may be an option. This innovative procedure replaces the hip without cutting the femoral head and is appropriate only for younger patients with significant hip disease.

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The final option is the traditional total hip replacement. This procedure is performed using either a posterior approach through the back of the hip capsule, or an anterior approach through the front of the hip capsule. Historically, the posterior approach has been utilized 70-90% of the time because it can be performed more quickly and easily by the surgeon. However, the extra time and effort required by the surgeon to perform an anterior total hip replacement offer many advantages for the patient. The muscle undergoes less injury through the anterior surgical approach, which leads to faster mobilization, less pain, and a shorter hospital stay. Also, the stability of the hip is improved as compared to the posterior approach.

Midlands Orthopaedics is pleased to offer the most comprehensive treatment regimen for hip pathology in central South Carolina. Dr. Fred Piehl performs hip arthroscopy; Dr. Tom Gross performs hip resurfacing, hip replacement, and open cam impingement repair; and Dr. Coleman Fowble performs hip resurfacing as well as anterior and posterior total hip replacements. As the only practice in the Midlands region offering both hip resurfacing and anterior total hip replacements, we invite you to explore all options before deciding on a treatment plan for your hip pain. As technology advances, so does Midlands Orthopaedics. Come see us for your “new” total hip.

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often receive kind compliments about my skin with such comments as: “smooth”, “radiant”, “glowing” skin. Many people think because I am in the skin care industry that I must do multiple procedures to obtain this radiant skin. In reality, my skin care regimen is quite simple due to my sensitive skin and time constraints. Dr. Michelle Welch Many people think you must have Botox cosmetic and fillers to achieve a healthy radiant glow to the skin, but it is the actual skin care that improves the tone and texture. I truly believe the radiant glow to the skin is more important than a wrinkle-free face. It is possible to achieve wonderful results with just the following five simple skin care steps. Step 1: At bedtime apply a topical retinoic acid, retinoid or retinol. I suggest a skin care consultation with a dermatologist to customize your skin care regimen by adding this vitamin-A derivative to rejuvenate skin, reduce fine lines and wrinkles and help prevent pre-cancers. Simply apply a pea-sized amount to a clean dry face at bedtime (avoid eyelids; and more is NOT better, use only a pea sized amount!). Initially use it every other night to start and work up to tolerating nightly. We carry various strengths in our exclusive Dermatology of Lexington Skin Care Line to accommodate different skin types and needs or I may recommend an over the counter product such as the ROC brand of a retinol or one of the bedtime anti-aging products from the Oil of Olay line. Step 2: Cleanse your face every morning and night with a mild, moisturizing cleanser with the Clarisonic Skin Care Brush. The goal is to remove oil, dirt and bacteria with-

out over drying the skin. The Clarisonic cleansing brush moves 300 times per second for an ultra sonic, pore cleansing treatment. This will remove 6 times more makeup than regular cleansing. Products I recommend from our exclusive skin care line: Ultra Gentle Calming Wash for sensitive skin, Green Tea Antioxidant Foaming Cleanser for normal skin or Clear Skin Cleanser for acne prone skin or an over the counter soap substitute such as cetaphil or the generic equivalent. I also recommend the Clarisonic Skin Care Brush “Oprah’s Favorite”.

30 that protects against UVA and UVB rays. Sunscreens with zinc oxide are the only sunscreens that uniformly block UVA and UVB rays. I recommend you choose a sunscreen that feels good on your face as you will not want to use it if it stings or burns or is too greasy. We have a variety of sunscreens for your face and body at the Elante Day Spa and Salon boutique and we can help educate you on the differences among those we carry or recommend a product such as cetaphil for faces, or Aveeno and Oil of Olay have lovely facial sunscreens too.

Step 3: Each morning apply a Vitamin C Serum to help improve the glow of the skin and brighten the tone of your skin. This is a powerful antioxidant that can counter the signs of aging and help improve the skins natural defenses. It helps to firm and brighten the skin while evening the skin tone which are two very important features of healthier more radiant appearing skin. I often recommend adding a Vitamin C serum to enhance other skin care procedures such as microdermabrasions and chemical peels.

Step 5: Now the final simple step to obtain healthy, radiant, glowing skin is to add the “GLOW” by applying a “mineral” make-up. Now that you are caring for your skin by adding the appropriate skin care products to improve the tone and texture, it’s time to add the GLOW with a mineral make-up! Authentic minerals makeup creates a beautiful, natural glow to the skin without clogging the pores or caking. A clinical mineral makeup line, such as Glo Minerals, is preferred by dermatologists and leading skin care specialists worldwide. It is perfect for redness, rosacea, acne prone skin and everyday makeup for all skin tones as it can cover, protect and correct but yet feel and look so light. Product we carry at the spa: GloMinerals Make-up as the stunning combinations of Glo Minerals for the face, eyes, lips and

Step 4: Apply sunscreen every day; even in the winter and reapply often if outdoors to guard against brown spots, wrinkles and skin cancer. I recommend everyone use a sunscreen every day with an SPF of at least

I truly believe the radiant glow to the skin is more important than a wrinkle-free face. cheeks make flawless makeup application easy. Over the counter lines are numerous and can be found at your local supermarket or drug store or more expensive lines at department stores. I hope these five simple steps will help you to achieve the healthy, radiant and glowing skin that you desire. You can schedule your skin care consultation with your dermatologist and start working towards that healthier skin. I recommend you bring all of your skin care products to your consultation as you may be able to use your products and ensure proper sequence of use. I also recommend you do not wear any makeup to your appointment as your dermatologist will need to examine your skin for your customized skin care product regimen and check your face for any possible precancerous lesions. Visit Dr. Welch at Dermatology of Lexington or Elante Day Spa & Salon, which are both located at 200 Caughman Farm Road in Lexington.

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Health & Wellness

Women take a stand against

HEART DISEASE

ach year, millions of women across the U.S. don red dresses to spread awareness of heart disease. What’s powerful enough to drive so many women to join a chorus of advocates? Often it’s the experience and survival of something that kills more women than men each year: heart disease. Subtle Symptoms While women and men experience common symptoms, heart attack signs in women are often more subtle. Pain, pressure and chest discomfort may be more irritating than crushing. Rather than having one major symptom, women often experience a range symptoms including

Smoking — A cause of coronary heart disease, smoking also increases your risk for stroke, lung and other cancers, lung disease and can diminish bone density. Metabolic syndrome — This major risk factor is a combination of abdominal fat, high blood pressure, high blood sugar and high triglycerides. Women with metabolic syndrome tend to have lover activity levels and lower cardiovascular fitness levels. Mental stress and depression — More and more studies link depression and heart disease. It often makes maintaining a healthy lifestyle difficult and sidelines treatment.

More and more women now plan for a heart-friendly life... discomfort in the jaw, neck or shoulder, nausea, cold sweats, fatigue and dizziness. The symptoms can be so subtle; women may not even know they’ve had a heart attack until days or even weeks later. In fact, by the time many women come to the emergency room, their heart is already damaged. Her vs. Him Another difference in heart disease for men and women is where and how plaque blockages form. Women tend to have blockages in main arteries and in the smaller arteries that supply the heart with blood. Blockages in men are usually bulky and respond well to interventional treatment such as angioplasty. In some women, plaque builds up evenly across artery walls making drug treatment a better option. Women have additional risk factors that appear to increase their likelihood of developing heart disease, including:

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The Benefits of Change With so much danger, plus the inescapable risk of a family history of heart disease, many women are taking a stand against heart disease to protect their health. More and more women now plan for a heartfriendly life that includes: • 30 to 60 minutes of daily exercise. • a diet low in saturated fat, cholesterol and salt. • weight loss with the added benefits of lowering blood pressure and reducing diabetes risk. • better management of diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol that contribute to heart disease. Take Action Now Providence Hospitals knows what you learn about heart disease may one day save your life. That’s why we offer many opportunities to learn about your heart, heart disease, treatment and therapeutic advances, and prevention and wellness. The best time to learn is now — before

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those crucial moments when your life or the life of a loved one is in jeopardy. Visit decisionheart.org to learn about the different levels of heart care that are available at local hospitals. You can research surgical team experience, compare outcomes and other vital information. Log on to providencehospitals.com to learn about upcoming Speaking of Your Health discussions and classes. Get tools to live better such as grocery store tours, healthy cooking demonstrations, educational classes and access to heart screenings. Visit the site regularly to stay informed about health care options, upcoming events and to access online health tools. Or track your health using MyProvidence, our free online personal health record. Establish a healthy relationship with a regular physician. If you don’t have one, call Health Connect at 877.256.5382. This service is available 24 hours a day and seven days a week and can help you find a physician. Take a step toward better health by participating in our annual Heart & Sole Women’s FiveMiler. Each year this spirited five-mile run and walk draws thousands of women to downtown Columbia while spreading awareness of healthy hearts and healthier living. Start planning and recruiting a team for next year’s event. There’s plenty of time to train. Take Risk to Heart Whatever you do, don’t ignore your risk. Every woman is at risk for developing heart disease. The actions you take today can help you live a longer, happier, healthier life. So why not make your move toward better heart health today? Visit decisionheart.org or providencehospitals. com to get started.

IS THIS A HEART ATTACK? These are women’s signs to

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Just like men, women may experience:

• Sudden chest pain or pressure that worsens. • Pain in the back, neck, jaw or stomach. Women are more likely to have:

• Unusual fatigue. • Cold sweat and dizziness. • Lightheadedness and faint feeling. • Feelings of nausea and vomiting.

If you experience any of these symptoms, call 911 immediately.

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Are You Even Tempered?

by Tammy Ferris

ost people spend 60% to 90% of their time indoors, especially when the winter chill comes to town. So, it’s important that your indoor air temperature is even and the air you’re breathing is free from contaminants. COMFORT

Technology Beyond the Basics

For more than 30 years, Gene Love has kept people comfortable in their homes during South Carolina winters. We know from experience that a furnace performs better and lasts longer if it’s tuned up and maintained. More importantly, you will perform better if you’re comfortable and breathing air that is free from contaminants.

Innovative technology can bring you function, efficiency and cost savings: Energy smart thermostats automatically monitor and adjust your home’s temperature by following your programmed instructions. Set your programmable thermostat to lower your home’s temperature when you are at work, and to raise the temperature to a comfortable level just before you arrive home. Programmable home thermostats can save utility costs. Seven day programmable thermostats let you program your heating temperatures for the entire week and some allow you to program over the telephone or via the web. Geothermal heat pumps (GHPs) use the constant temperature of the earth as the exchange medium instead of the outside air temperature. This allows the system to reach high efficiencies (300%-600%) on the coldest of winter nights, compared to 175%-250% for air-source heat pumps on cool days.

Fall Furnace Check Making your furnace work harder makes your utility bill higher. Whether you do it yourself or call a professional, there are four things you should do to make sure your furnace is ready for dropping temperatures:

• Make sure your furnace is getting sufficient air for proper operation.

• Make sure the flame in your gas-burning

furnace is blue and not yellow. A yellow flame means the burner is dirty and not getting enough air. • Change your furnace filter and tune up your system. • Inspect your fuel-burning appliances for carbon monoxide leaks and make sure you have a carbon monoxide detector and that it’s placed in the best location for alerting you to danger.

Inspect and Repair your Ductwork and Venting • Leaky ductwork can waste 10-30% of your home’s heating costs

• If your ducts lose 20% of their airflow, efficiency decreases by half

• Inefficient ductwork reduces heating system efficiency due to the system running longer and more often • Fresh air intakes create healthier indoor air • Mold and mildew can accumulate if vent piping succumbs to corrosion • Ductwork separations and small cracks leak heat and allow moisture to corrode ducts

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What are the benefits of geothermal heat pumps? • The most efficient way to heat and cool your home • Quieter, last longer, need little maintenance • The installation price is offset by energy savings in 5-10 years • Uses 25-50% less electricity than conventional heating and cooling systems • Improve humidity control by maintaining about 50% relative indoor humidity • Can be installed in both new and retrofit situations • Tax credits!

AIR QUALITY Does anyone in your family have allergies? Do you have pets? Does someone in your home use tobacco? Do you commonly see small particles of dust floating in the air when the afternoon sun shines in through a window? Has it been more than a month since you changed your air

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filter? Has it been longer than five years since you had your ductwork cleaned? EPA studies show the air inside homes is often two to five times more polluted than the air outside. Pollutants include skin, hair, dust, fish tanks, smoke, pet dander and more. More than 50% of all colds and illnesses are either caused or aggravated by polluted indoor air. More than 50 million Americans suffer from allergies, while up to 12 million have asthma. The fungi and bacteria found in duct systems are leading allergy causes.

The fungi and bacteria found in duct systems are leading allergy causes. There is a new electronic filter on the market that has shown to capture 99% of the airborne dust, pollen, smoke, mold spores, bacteria and pet dander that passes through the average home, The filter can be installed on any system and it mounts in the ductwork so the entire house is treated. Take the steps necessary to assure that your home is even tempered this winter and breathe easy knowing that your family will be warm and safe. Tammy Ferris is the owner of Gene Love Plumbing, Air and Electric, serving the greater Columbia, South Carolina area for more than 30 years. Gene Love has a solid reputation for keeping people comfortable in their homes and offering upfront pricing as well as prompt and respectful service. For more information on indoor heating and air quality and to take Fall Tune Up and Air Quality Quiz, go to www.genelove.com or call (803) 719-5331.

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Nothing to Slow Us Down by Megan A.H. Willner

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ack then, a top of the line bed would cost sixty-nine dollars,” says Harry Wills, as we walk through nearly sixty years of custom furniture and bed-making machines. Harry Wills and his daughter, Karen Lanier operates Southern Bedding, a mattress manufacturing plant off Huger Street in downtown Columbia. For nearly six decades, the business has endured and succeeded with the help and dedication of the whole Wills family. In 1951, Harry Wills opened Southern Table and Bedding Corporation with the dream of becoming a successful businessman. After only three years, he built a thirty-two thousand square foot facility and hasn’t moved since. Today, Karen Lanier manages the business with everything from finances to the cloth used to make the bedding. In high school and college, she ran various errands and helped with paperwork in the time she didn’t spend socializing with friends. She graduated from the University of South Carolina in 1989, with a degree in business. Though she didn’t go directly to the family business, she still felt the pull and obligations of doing what she could for her father in his work. After working for a few years with other organizations, she joined her father in the factory. From that point forward, she dedicated her professional life to the sales and manufacturing of bedding and furniture. At first, Harry’s help was priceless, but with time, he took on lesser roles, and Karen began handling the daily operations. “It doesn’t get any better than working with your father. He was there for me, and I was there for him. The sense of working with family is one of the most rewarding experiences,” Karen says. The business world changes, and the same applies to Southern Bedding. Evolving from 1951 caused a few changes in both the market and the consumer. The company shifted from supplying goods to furniture stores to direct sales to the everyday soccer mom. Eventually, the furniture sales stopped, and Karen began to focus her attention on making quality mattresses with the utmost care. Her brother Howard played a role in the transitions that came along with the passage of time. Today,

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Harry and Karen Karen and Harry sell mattresses and accessories while enjoying each other’s company. Though the company’s, mattresses receive raving praise, Harry and Karen look to their employees as their source of praise. Two particular employees stand out in the company’s history, Eugene “Gene” Blume and his brother, Jerry Blume. Gene began working for Southern Bedding immediately after graduating high school, and Jerry’s employment at the factory lasted fifty-three years. This is proof that dedication and hard work go hand in hand. Perhaps it was the loyalty of its employees or its owner’s and operator’s determination for the company to succeed, but today, Southern Bedding remains at the same original location with a desire to produce the best quality mattresses. At the age of ninety-one, Harry Wills continues to come to work everyday, and Karen furthers her father’s original dream of a trustworthy company.

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A Personal Note

chool is starting back in a few weeks. Where did the Summer go? It feels like New Year’s all over again as I make a mental list of what I will do differently this year than I did last year. Being the mother of four very active children can fill a twenty four hour day like nothing else I have experienced. It is a sad time and a happy time. Each of our children has passed into another stage of their development. Our oldest son got a restricted driver’s license. He can officially take himself to football practice and school. I know what my mom meant now when she said, “you worry about your children no matter what age they are, Lori. That is simply part of being a Mother.” I fought back tears as he drove away from our home on his first trip for milk. All these things are a part of the natural progression of growing up.

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Our thirteen year old daughter is becoming a little less of a cut-up and a lot more of a young lady. Worrying about the things that growing girls worry about is a part of the rite of passage for young women. She is spending more time on her hair than she used too. She suddenly thinks mascara and lip gloss are as essential as a shirt and a pair of shoes. I am sometimes afraid to go to sleep at night wondering what in those seven or on some very rare occasions eight hours of night time I might miss as she grows up before my very eyes. She changes subtly from day to day. I remember when all she needed was a ring pop and soft baby doll to be happy. Colton showed us he has a heart for the trials of others with his “Going Bald for Bella” event and started wearing glasses this summer. I was so happy to have that teachable moment with my son. To have him come down the stairs of our home and say, “Mom, I want to shave my head for childhood cancer.” I have to say I was very proud that day. At eight years old he was inspired by a baseball coach to make a difference in someone else’s life by shaving his Justin Beiberish locks to raise money for a little girl’s medical bills. Big thanks to everyone who supported that event (we will share the details in the next issue.)

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My baby, Ryan, learned to swim on his own. Ryan loves the water like some children love candy. It is something special to find those things that light them up. When someone says, “Do you want to go swimming?” his big blue eyes widen and his smile stretches from one ear to the other with innocent happiness. The expression that comes on his face when someone is playing the piano or offering him a dinosaur shaped peanut butter and jelly sandwich. As a four year old, he has become easy going which is a sharp contrast to the demanding ways of a two year old. It isn’t that I mind Trey being able to save me a trip to the store, or Abby looking a little more like a young woman, or Colton trusting himself enough to make a decision on his own, or even the little ease of worry because Ryan can make it from one end of the pool to the other by himself. I am proud of each one of them for taking the next steps in their lives. It’s that each trip to the grocery story is one trip farther way from needing me to take care of him. It’s that one day a young man will become Abby’s best friend, and mama will be a weekend or a once a day call. It’s that my advice won’t always be regarded as sacred, just another opinion. It’s that one day I will be watching from the patio chairs instead of welcomed to join him to splash around in the pool. Because if I do my “job” right and I “mother” them the way they need, doesn’t that mean I am simply a teacher guiding them toward their own independence?

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So forgive me if I still insist on goodnight hugs, and “I love you’s”, even if it isn’t “cool.” Mamas aren’t supposed to be “cool” they are supposed to be safe. A safe place to go home too, always waiting with a smile and a whole lot of love, with open arms and an open heart. No matter how “grown” her children are. So mama kiss your babies, hug them tight, always smile when you see them and always, always love them. God Bless you,

Psalm 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

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