SASSY Magazine June 2014 by FAMILY Magazines of Michiana

JUNE 2014

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Working in

Male-Dominated

Working Through The

Virtual World

Industries

Soak Up

The Sun: Five Best Beaches

It’s Time for

June Parties Let’s Get Creative with

Flowers, Balloons, Linens & Décor! ► Graduations ► Wedding/Baby Showers ► Backyard Barbecue ► Perfect Patio/Garden Party ► Hawaiian Luau ► French Country Dinner ► Mexican Fiesta ► Wine at Nine

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Invite your ﬂorist to see the home/facility to get his or her input and creative ideas.

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Explain in detail the mood you want to create and ask about rentals, props or other ideas to enhance the event.

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Sometimes special ﬂowers require some extra time to order so be sure to give your ﬂorist plenty of advance notice.

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Ask if your ﬂorist will deliver and decorate for you.

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ON THE

COVER

MODEL: Maria Gonzalez Photography: CLASSIC IMAGE Photography Stylist: Maria Gonzalez

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EVERY MONTH 4 7 Things We Learned While Making The May Issue 5 Contributors & Testimonials SASS FACTORY: STUFF WE LOVE 6 Sassy Time 8 Product Spotlights SASS 10

5 Hot Summer Trends

By: Kathy Friend

The History Behind The Bottle

By: Elizabeth Carris

RECIPE 35

Raspberry Icebox Cake

LIFE 14

Let Your Inner Beauty Shine

By: Jessica Haviland

Creating Your Ideal Backyard Wedding

By: Scott Tingwald

Spreading The Arts Throughout The Community

By: Jessica Haviland

HEALTH 20

More Than Just Running

By: Meagan Church

The Summer Sculpt

By: Abbi Pollyea

BALANCE 24

The Thrill Of The Hunt

By: Andrew Skipper

Change Your Life By Implementing The 80/20 Rule

By: Jillian Koeneman

Soak Up The Sun: Five Best Beaches

By: Kristine Smith

WORK 32

Mentors-Everyone Needs One, Everyone Should Be One

By: Cyndy Searfoss

Working In Male-Dominated Industries

By: Cyndy Searfoss

Working Through The Virtual World

By: Charrise McCrorey

ADVICE FROM A BUSINESS COACH 30 Dear Charrise THE SASSY EXECUTIVE FORUM 38 Local Executives Answer The Tough Questions SASSY BOOK REVIEW 31 Small Move, Big Change: Using Microresolutions To Transform your Life Permanently

“Working from home provides a desirable lifestyle for many, as the world becomes more connected.”

By Caroline L. Arnold

Reviewed By: Pam Sailor

THE DATEBOOK 40 Sassy Events To Put In Your Calendar SCENE AND BE SEEN 42 5th Annual Women Of Home Luncheon 43 7th Annual Homeward Bound 5K Run/Walk

LETTER FROM THE

7 Things

publisher

Photography: Classic image photography Makeup: Camellia Maalouf, Camellia Cosmetics Granger

We Learned Making The June Issue

President & Publisher: Betsy Tavernier

Betsy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

MANAGING Editor: Jessica Haviland

Jessy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

Creative Marketing Director: Jena Bontrager

Betsy Tavernier

You can have your ideal outdoor wedding on a budget. Get the tips and tricks to have your dream outdoor wedding on page 16.

Publisher & Editor-in-Chief

Jena@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

GRAPHIC DESIGN Manager: Zuzanna Zmud

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Marketing coordinator: Jill Ludwick

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MEDICAL EDITOR: Dr. Jesse Hsieh

Getting into shape this summer is easier than you think. Visit page 22 to try out a new routine today!

True beauty comes from within. Get to know a local model who won an e.l.f. modeling contest on page 14.

Distribution Manager: Mike Trentacosti Distribution Manager: Kevin Reynolds

SASSY Magazine is a division of Michiana Family Magazines, LLC established in 2006. All rights reserved. We would love to hear from you! Please submit press releases, event information and inquiries to: Jessy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com The FAMILY Magazines PO BOX 577 Granger, IN 46530 PH: 574.387.5420 • FX: 574.217.4700 www.MichianaSassy.com

Let go of what you don’t like in life. Apply the 80/20 Rule to your life to live happier. Find out how on page 26,

Permission from the publisher is required for any reproduction or reprint of this publication. Read SASSY Magazine online each month! Go to www.MichianaSassy.com and flip the pages, cover-to-cover the organic and green way! JUNE 2014 Volume 4: Number 6

Michiana has several beaches to visit this summer. We listed five local beaches that is a must see on page 28.

Give back to the community and become a mentor. Not sure if you want to be a mentor yet, visit page 32 to see how you can find a mentor of your own.

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LOOK WHO’s TALKING

Virtual work has become the new job. Learn more on page 36 to see if it’s the right fit for you.

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/ contributors Kathy Friend is an Image Consultant, speaker and expert stylist. Her StyleU workshops have become a ‘must-attend’ for ladies across the country. She is a contributor to the Fox59 Morning Show out of Indianapolis and the fashion guru for Goodwill of Michiana. She is a busy Mom-on-the go trying to keep up with her daughter Anya.

Jillian Koeneman (@jillianmk) founded Freshlime: Digital Marketing (www.freshlimemarketing. com) in 2010 in order to lead businesses to increased sales and greater brand awareness through social media marketing and other online vehicles. Koeneman is a Board Member of the Women Business Owners of Michiana and volunteers on the Marketing Committee for the Humane Society of Elkhart County. She also heads up all marketing for her husband’s new business, Anytime Fitness in Goshen. Koeneman earned a degree in advertising and public relations from Michigan State University in 2004 and was a member of two National Championship Water Polo Teams.

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“SASSY Magazine keeps me up-to-date on fashion, health and new business techniques each month.” – Liz M.

“The first page that I turn to in SASSY Magazine is the timeline because it’s always full of fun tidbits that are helpful, funny and informative.” – Ilene R.

“I always grab a few extra copies of this magazine and pass it around during my morning meetings at work to my employees. We all love to read SASSY.” – Roxanne L.

Charrise McCrorey is certified as a Business & Transformative Coach, working with businesses and individuals around the world. Her local office is in Elkhart, where she resides with her family.

We'd LOVE to hear from you! Email your testimonials to Jessy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

VIP JUNE Advertisers Michelle Shirk is a proud graduate of the University of Notre Dame Law School and longtime resident of Northwest Indiana. Michelle writes for a number of publications across the United States and also serves as Assistant Director for READ La Porte County, Inc., a non-profit organization that provides free tutoring to students of all ages.

Special THANKS to the following VIP June advertisers that help us provide Sassy Magazine to the Michiana community for FREE:

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THE SA S SY FACTORY

JUNE 2014

stuff we love

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Bazaar Sunday At The State, 10:00 A.M., The State Theatre

Friday’s By The Fountain, 11:45 A.M., Downtown South Bend

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Wedding Decor

Father’s Day R&B Comedy Explosion, 7:30 P.M., Morris Performing Arts Center

Wednesday Wine Walks, 5:00 P.M., Downtown South Bend

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Summer Solstice

Father’s Day

Hannah & Friends 5K Run & Fun Mile Walk, 9:00 A.M., Hannah & Friends Neighborhood

Beautician’s Day

Elkhart Jazz Festival Begins

Flag Day

Monthly Meditation Yoga, 5:30 P.M., Elkhart Environmental Center

4th Annual Huntington’s Disease Team Hope Walk/Silent Auction, 9:00 A.M., Discovery Middle School

To Kill A Mocking Bird, 7:30 P.M., South Bend Civic Theatre

Brit Floyd Discovery World Tour, 8:00 P.M., Morris Performing Arts Center

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Perfect Gift For Father’s Day

Not sure what to get dad for Father’s Day this year? Well, you’re in luck! Here are five great ideas to give to that special man on his special day: For The Grill Master: Get the grill that he has been eyeing over for the past year but refuses to spend the extra money for. You know he deserves it! For The Techie: Does your dad always have the latest technology? Give him the newest smartphone or overload him with accessories to match his favorite device. For The Music Lover: Talk to your mom to find out who his favorite band was when he was a teen and visit a local music store to see if you can order the record. It will bring him back to the good years of his life.

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For The Tool Man: Does your dad have every tool ever made? Visit your local hardware store and get a toolbox to help your dad find his handy dandy tools easier. For The Craft Beer Drinker: Stop by your local beverage store and ask about their “Beer of the Month Club.” You can sign your dad up for one month, a few months and even a year’s worth of craft beer delivered directly to his door. The gift that just keeps on coming!

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Facebook Poll:

What summer color will you be wearing this year? “Sunshine yellow! We need lots of sunshine to make up for our winter.” – Laurie Balla

“Peach and aqua, lots of aqua!” – Jessica Garretson

“Mint and coral! So simple, fresh and fun!” – Jena Bontrager

Introducing SASSY Magazine's NEW Blog

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Not sure if you should get the new hot product on the shelf or try a new service that you have been hearing about? Miss Sassy Pants has you covered!

Each week Miss Sassy Pants will be testing products and services from local business and giving YOU the 411! Visit Miss Sassy Pants Blog on our website,

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Ingredients

½ Cup Cubed Watermelon, Seeds Removed 3 Tablespoons Light Rum 2 Tablespoons St. Germaine Liqueur 1 Tablespoon Lime Juice 1 Tablespoon Sugar Ice For Serving

Directions

Put watermelon, rum, St. Germaine liqueur, lime juice and sugar into a blender and blend. Pour into your favorite glass and garnish with a lime wedge.

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“Be like the flower, turn your face to the sun.” – Kahlil Gibran

What’s In Your

Beach Bag?

Five items that every SASSY woman should carry to the beach! • Sunscreen: Take a few different SPF’s with you to help achieve that natural glow. • Reading Material: Grab a book that you have been dying to read or, better yet, grab a SASSY Magazine. • Sunglasses: An obvious “must bring” but always seems to be forgotten. • Brush: It’s always best to bring a brush along after a full day of wind tasseled hair. • Cooler: Always bring more than enough water with you to the beach but add some fun and bring along some mixed drinks as well!

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By: Kathy Friend

What are some of the most wearable trends of the season? Here are the top Five Hot Summer Fashion Trends and how to wear them.

Trend 2: Chambray Madness

Trend 1: White Wash The Key Piece: Wearing all white is a crisp and clean summer look. The white pant is an essential piece this season. Invest in a perfectly fitting white ankle pant or linen trouser. How To Wear It: Pair those perfect pants with a bold graphic print top. Or, try an ensemble of all white with one pop of color in your accessories. Worried: If you have been told white is not the best color for you then try cream.

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The Key Piece: Chambray blue is a timeless hue that is HOT this summer. The key piece is a menswear-look shirt in this fabric. This tried and true wardrobe staple comes into the fashion scene this season in bold ways. The blue button-up will replace the white button-up blouse in wardrobes in 2014. A little color and structure to balance the seasons other bold, unstructured pieces is perfection. How To Wear It: The question should really be “How DON’T you wear it?” Pair with those perfect white pants, maybe add a Chambray shirt dress to your wardrobe. Doll up your look with artful feminine accessories. Worried: If the button up isn’t a style that suits you, try a ½ button blouse. For those whose style personality is not as tailored, this essential wardrobe piece can bring a new chic option to unstructured bohemian looks.

Trend 3: Fringe Details The Key Piece: If your style tends to be edgy and inspired by street fashion, then you will love this detail. Fashionistas are in love with the fringy details this season, maybe it is because the other pieces that are key this season are so structured (and dare I say, even manly). The safe key pieces are fringe sandals or a fringed handbag. How To Wear It: If your style story calls for more fringe than just in your accessories, pay attention where the fringe lies on your silhouette. This is a detail that will demand attention. Make sure the fringe is bringing attention to something you want to highlight on your shape. Worried: If you are thinking “that seems a little too hippie for the styles I like to wear,” then skip it. This detail trend isn’t for those who prefer a structured simplistic feel to their wardrobe.

Trend 4: Beach Babe The Key Piece: Nautical influence is always

seen in summer trends and this summer we are seeing it in motif and print. Simply said – stripes and anchors. A smart key piece to add into your summer closet is an anchored shirt. How To Wear It: The anchored shirt can be anything from a whimsically embroidered button up blouse to a sequined t-shirt. This motif can be paired with a suit for the office or walking shorts for a night out. Worried: Don’t want to invest in something that seems to be so memorable and trendy? I agree. There are a lot of cute shirting options for under $20. Another consideration would be a darling anchor pendant necklace to wear all summer long.

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Trend 5: The Midi of the Road The Key Piece: The midi-length skirt is one that hits below the knee. For those who have been searching for a longer skirt, this season you will be thrilled with the choices. The look can have a 50’s housewife feel if combined with the full-skirt trend. How To Wear It: The key to this look is balance. The longer full skirt has a voluminous look. Be sure to balance the volume with a slim fitting top. Additionally, wearing as high of a heel as you can will not only make you look thinner but the additional inches on your height will help keep balance to your silhouette. Also be conscious where the hem is on your skirt. The most flattering length will be at the bottom of your calf muscle. Worried: If you just said to yourself, “buy my legs are my best feature, I don’t want to cover them up.” Then don’t. Embrace the feel of this trend with a skirt that hits above the knee.

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By: Elizabeth Carris

hat does wine mean? Where does wine come from? How long has wine been around and why is wine such a staple in the human culture? There are many theories about wine and its origin and I believe its meaning to everyone is different. To some it’s a passion unlike any other they possess except maybe love. Others may look at it as a social bond with family and friends and use it as a relaxation tool. Some people are in it for the money and make wine to sell it but that in itself draws from another realm of the human spirit. The highest and best qualities that wine itself carries can vary from person to person and throughout civilization, the one thing that stands alone is its ability to comfort, relax and calm the senses and the mind. Wine has been in our civilization for as long as it could be recorded. Fossil vines, 60-million-years-old, are the earliest scientific evidence of grapes. The earliest written account of viniculture is in the Old Testament of the Bible which tells us that Noah planted a vineyard and made wine. As far as fermentable crops go, honey and grain are older than that of the grape but neither have had the social impact that wine has had on our culture in recorded time. Monks, poets, actors and your average everyday John and Mary have memories of wine. Whether it is a social event, a religious event or even that drunken moment that floods the brain like bits of a movie the next day when you awaken with a headache and your make-up still on. Wine has always been there. Fran Lebowitz was quoted as saying “Great people talk about ideas, average people talk about things and small people talk about wine.”

“Wine has been in our civilization for as long as it could be recorded. Fossil vines, 60 million years old, are the earliest scientific evidence of grapes.” There is an ancient Persian fable that says a Princess that had lost favor of her King became so upset and distraught over the issue tried to poison herself by eating spoiled table grapes in a jar. She became intoxicated and giddy and went to sleep. When she woke up, she realized that the issue she was so stressed about had been relieved by the spoiled grapes. Her father, the King, then told his court of her discovery and began to use the “spoiled” grapes for that accidental stress relief that his daughter found in them. 12

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Thomas Aquanis once said “Sorrow can be alleviated by good sleep, a bath and a glass of wine.” (Even if it was found out on accident.) Wine drinking ages as far back as 4000-6000BC. It was found in the Middle East by the Caspian Sea to be very fertile and the first signs of grape cultivation were believe to be found here. Ancient Egyptian tombs provided evidence of royalty drinking wine where the workers drank beer. They are also believed to be the first to discover wine storage and pruning methods as well. Wine came to Europe in 1600BC with the spread of Greek civilization. Homer described wine very well in his works: The Odyssey and The Iliad. They also were the first to add herbs to mask spoilage and they were the first doctors including Hippocrates that prescribed wine. By the first century AD, wine was being exported in barrels from the Empire (Italy) to Spain, Germany and Gaul (France). The Roman Empire forbid the import of French wines to eliminate competition. So France has been a front runner in wine since the beginning of wine’s time. Then through exploration and conquest, wine was introduced to Mexico, Argentina and South Africa.

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Ever since wine has been from the vine to the table of Old World and New World or wines that were consumed by the royals to the commoners, wine is for one and all to be enjoyed and savored by a civilization looking for a way to slow down time and partake in something wonderful one sip at a time. Whether it is wine that is drunk for celebration, paired with food by a chef and his staff for a glorious dinner or just a cork popped on the front porch while you read your favorite book and take a minute to relax, wine from beginning to end is a joy and a delight to have for your mouth, your mind, body and soul. It can be average or great, strong or calm and the best part about wine is the journey in finding the one that suites you the best. As Emily Bronte once said “I have dreamed in my life, dreams that have stayed with me ever after and changed my ideas; they have gone through me and though me like wine through water and altered the color of my mind.”

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By: Jessica Haviland

Local woman wins e.l.f. “Beauty of All Ages” Contest

hile in the past, popular media portrayed that younger and thinner is “more desirable.” Today, that image is finally changing. Beauty is now celebrated in all shapes, sizes and ages. On magazine covers, billboards, TV and other various media outlets, consumers are noticing models, actors and even singers becoming more realistic. One local Granger resident, Christine Rutherford, proves that you don’t need to be 18 years old and pin thin to make it into the entertainment industry. At 45, Christine won the e.l.f. Cosmetic, “Beauty At All Ages,” contest for the over 40 age group. “I honestly didn’t think there was a way that I could win because when I signed up, there were already 5,800 entries,” she recalls. “When I got a call saying I was on the short list, I still didn’t take it seriously because I thought there was no way that I would be considered.” Days later, while on vacation, Christine got a call that completely changed her doubts of winning. “When I received the call from e.l.f. stating that I won the contest, I was completely thrilled,” she said. Christine isn’t new in the modeling world. Born and raised in Cincinnati, Ohio, she started modeling throughout high school and college to help make a few extra dollars. Her father loved photography and even taught photography classes. “If you told me that I would be doing this in my 40’s, I wouldn’t have believed you,” Christine said with a laugh. “I work more now at 45 than when I was in my 20’s.”

“I think beauty is best judged by what we can do for the world.” E.l.f. Cosmetics flew Christine and the other three “Beauty of All Ages” winners to New York City where they were photographed by celebrity photographer, Tim Colburn. “Throughout my experience, I ultimately learned that I paid way too much for my makeup,” she said. “I thought I should only wear Chanel® foundation but the e.l.f. makeup is amazing and I’m truly surprised.” Even though this once in a lifetime experience happened to Christine, she strongly believes that true beauty comes from within. “I think beauty is best judged by what we can do for the world,” she said. Christine is involved in the Boys and Girls Clubs of St. Joseph County and is also the President of the Penn Harris Madison School Corporation Forum. She is also a board member on the PHM Education Foundation which provides teacher grants. 14

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Photo: Tim Coburn

5 Tips for Rockin’ It Over 40 Christine’s tips on how to look your best!

- Bags under the eyes? Makeup artists use Preparation H to make us cameraready. Be sure to test in an inconspicuous location before applying near your eyes. - Color those brows! As we age, our eyebrows both thin & fade. Add a little youthful vitality to your face by either filling in or dying your brows. Most makeup artists use an appropriate shade of brown or sable eyeshadow for fill. - Got a cold but need to protect your makeup? Backstage at awards shows, the stars use q-tips to “wipe” their noses. Now, there’s a photo for the paparazzi! - Looking run down? After the Visine dries, open those eyes & lose the pink rims by applying white liner to your inner eye. - Problems with crow’s feet? Skip your bottom eyeliner & lower lash mascara. If needed, only use mascara on the far edge of the lower lashes for a little added drama.

Outside of being an active community member, Christine celebrated the 20th year of her personal yoga and meditation practice. “I like to teach meditation,” she said. “I want to help those who have a difficult time coping and show them how meditation can help recenter their lives and allow them to look at things from a different perspective.”

Modeling isn’t the only aspect of the entertainment industry that holds Christine’s interest. Her next big step is to get involved in acting. “I have been shooting local commercials and just did a short film,” she said. “This summer I will be taking acting classes in Chicago at Second City. I am really excited about this new adventure.”

Health is a big part of Christine’s life. “Since I’m a vegetarian, I strongly feel that making conscious choices on what you put in and on your body is very important,” she said. “That is another reason why I am proud to endorse e.l.f. Cosmetics-they are cruelty free.”

As her list of dreams slowly become a reality, don’t expect Christine to slow down her aging process. “I don’t do any plastic surgery or Botox,” she said proudly. “I want to age gracefully.” And grace is what shines in Christine’s inner and outer beauty.

Begin Modeling at Any Age

The modeling industry is riddled with scams and pitfalls. Christine gives a few pointers to help get you started: - Never pay to join an agency. It’s a scam. A solid way to identify the best agencies is to consult the Screen Actors Guild website. These agencies will provide work for both union and non-union actors as well as models.

- A good photographer is a must. Not all photographers are created equal, and statistically, there’s a rare few that understand beautiful lighting.

- Narrow your list of agencies to a handful and then study whether you “fit” their agency.

- Being thin is still an industry problem. The good thing is, there’s more and more “real people” ads every day. A poor diet will show in the skin, hair and nails.

- Check the agency’s website to see if they offer open calls. That’s your best bet for showing your dazzling personality and poised professionalism. Bring along digitals which meet their specifications, though likely they will shoot their own.

- Modeling is a sole proprietorship. Even when you’re represented by an agency. It requires constant self-marketing, networking, expense, organization, professionalism and discipline.

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By: Scott Tingwald

While seemingly unrealistic on the big screen, it is possible for brides to plan an unforgettable outdoor wedding on a small budget. It’s easy to see how a bride-to-be falls in love with the thought of having her wedding or reception outside – in a picturesque backyard or lakeside setting. Any number of fairly recent films such as 27 Dresses, Sweet Home Alabama and Meet the Parents, feature striking scenes of the perfect day in a gorgeous outdoor venue with, of course, ideal weather conditions.

Create An Idealistic Budget While reality can quickly bite into the fantasy portrayed on film, it is possible to pull off elements of such extravagant affairs outside if approached with a pragmatic mindset. Mike Sharpe, president of AAY’s Rental in Mishawaka, whose company has helped plan and facilitate outdoor weddings for over 40 years, says a major key to outdoor planning is having a realistic idea of budget from the start. “Sometimes a bride will see what would be maybe a half-million dollar wedding in the news or a movie and will want to do the same thing,” says Sharpe. “In those cases, it’s important for us to back up and identify a few specific elements of what they saw that truly inspired them, then establish a realistic budget range so we have a baseline from which to move forward.” Rental companies are a great place to start when planning an outdoor wedding or reception because most can – along with making suggestions on event set up, tents, tables, chairs and flatware – also make recommendations on caterers, florists and photographers based on their list of preferred providers. Once a budget has been established, the rental company should also be able to provide insights on how to creatively save money in the process in order to focus on aspects of the wedding that are truly important. For instance, Sharpe notes that a request should always be made to have the reception tent set up and tables and chairs delivered by the middle of the week prior to a Saturday wedding.

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the tent (i.e. wrapping tent poles), themselves – without the assistance of the rental company. According to Sharpe, an added benefit is that the time together among family and friends can be a great bonding experience for all involved.

“I’ve seen wedding parties having a great time on a Friday afternoon just getting a cooler of drinks and spending a few hours working together setting up tables and chairs in a laid back and casual atmosphere. It can really bring a wedding party together, especially for those who may be meeting others in the party for the first time.”

Compromise With Your Family While the time spent planning a wedding can also be a bonding experience for brides and their mothers, Sharpe also knows that it can sometimes bring to light a generation gap. He has, shall we say, moderated countless planning sessions where the vision of the bride has proved contradictory with the expectations of her mother. “I know that mothers can often view the wedding as an opportunity to show off a little in front of their friends in a very formal setting. I get that and understand the mindset,” says Sharpe. “However, weddings are a reflection of society in general and I think the less formal settings we see today within the workplace and the more frequent casual attire are being transferred into the wedding scene. These days, the bride and groom are sometimes more concerned with their friends simply having a good time in a more informal setting than what their parents envision.”

Both parties need to be open to compromise.

His advice is that both parties need to be open to compromise. For example, formal head tables are becoming less popular among young brides who just want to be seated among their friends in regular round tables. This mentality is often in contrast with parents who prefer that the bride and groom are the visual focal point of the wedding reception.

“One compromise we suggest in this situation is using a pin spotlight to draw attention to the wedding party if they just want to be seated in regular round tables,” said Sharpe. “This approach still calls attention to wedding party in a classy way but also in a slightly less formal manner.”

Consider The Weather Also, Sharpe has witnessed a broadening in the window of opportunity that exists for outdoor weddings and receptions in recent years. For instance, he sees September dates becoming more and more popular as such late summer/ early fall dates can provide more mild weather patterns knowing that simple patio heaters provide insurance in the event of an early cold spell. “If weather is a little cooler, it is much easier – and less expensive – to heat with portable patio heaters than it is to cool a tent – which can be upwards of $3,000 to run temporary duct work.” Sharpe claims that July, especially the third week of the month, has proven to a perfect time for outdoor receptions as the mild evenings tend to require little need for any type of temperature control. August is typically a different story, however, as the hot and muggy conditions of the summer tend to peak – leading to an uncomfortable experience for all without the aid of air conditioning. A believer in the Farmer’s Almanac, Sharpe says it is not a bad idea to consult with the venerable publication before committing to an outdoor wedding or reception. While a high end wedding in the Michiana area can run upwards of $50,000 for just the set-up, Sharpe confidently notes that a “really nice wedding and reception can be done for $4,500 - $5,000” if properly planned. So even if budget precludes your reception from inspiring images from the latest romantic comedy out of Hollywood, that doesn’t mean a modest outdoor wedding can’t be planned that will nevertheless create everlasting memories for the bride and groom, their parents, and all in attendance.

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Giving back to the community

By: Jessica Haviland

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may not be on your daily agenda but when you talk to Craig Gibson, Executive Art Director for Premiere Arts, that is always on the forefront of his mind. “There is a commitment on giving back to our community,” he said. “There are so many art organizations that tend to be isolated and focused only on what is happening in their world.” One thing that Craig and his colleagues understand is without the community support, Premiere Arts would not be where they are today. “This gives us the opportunity to try different things,” Craig said. One of the most recent community involvement programs that Premiere Arts has successfully done was partner up with the Elkhart Community School Corporation. “We decided to take on all the third graders, which was about 1,200 of them, where they attended our Y.E.S. ( Youth Educational Series) Shows.” The Y.E.S. Shows is for children of all ages to experience live theatre and have a discussion after the production has ended inside the classroom. “I don’t care if the kids every show up on my stage but I want to encourage each and every one of them to learn about the arts,” Craig said.

After the program ended, all the third graders spent the day with Premiere Arts where they attended a workshop in acting, dancing, visual art, singing, creative writing and so much more. “One part of the creative writing workshop was to take a white piece of paper and a blue ball and then write about it,” Craig said. “It was great to see what their imaginations came up with.” With the Y.E.S. Show’s coming to an end for this school year, Craig isn’t slowing down. Recently, Premiere Arts purchased a vacant piece of property nearby. “At first we didn’t know what we wanted to do with it so we did rehearsals outside for a while,” he said. “Then the Visitors Bureau contacted me and asked if I would be interested in wanting to take part in the Quilt Garden this year.” For their first year taking part in this tour, their theme will be Beauty and the Beast. “On certain days we will have costume characters out greeting people,” Craig said. “The garden will focus on the rose in Beauty and the Beast.” Even with all the community involvement that Premiere Arts takes part in, they still put on phenomenal theatrical productions. “When you audition for a play with us, it’s your own responsibility to know your lines and songs and you are also required to participate in other aspects of Premiere Arts,” Craig said. “It shows that we are all equal in this group.” With over 3,000 volunteers per year, it shows within each person that the community is where the heart is. “We are not here to make a star out of someone,” he said. “It’s not about being in the spotlight. It’s how we can serve the community. We are very family oriented and wholesome here.”

History of Premiere Arts...

Premier Arts was founded in 1993 as a non-profit entity to help the City of Elkhart manage The Elco Theatre. In 2007, a new Board of Directors was put into place to refocus the namesake and create a community theatre with a family focus. This endeavor brought a new energy to The Elco and would very soon be breathing life into the newly renovated Lerner Theatre. With over 3000 volunteers a year, unparalleled community support and record breaking attendance, the awardwinning Premier Arts is the regional leader in bringing quality arts education and programming to the people of Michiana.

Always wanted to take the plunge and get into acting, singing or dancing? Premiere Arts is always looking for new people. “For our Les Mis production, 20 percent of the people involved were new to theatre,” Craig said. “We are designed to make people feel comfortable so they can perform their best during the audition.” But don’t worry if you don’t get the part because there will be another production happening soon after. “There is not always a place for somebody and you can’t take it personally,” he said. “You must try again.” Working towards success either through community involvement or simply a seasonal production, Premiere Arts always looks forward. “The thing that makes us better after each production is that we never look back,” Craig said. “We take the circumstances of that particular day, turn them around and move forward. If we looked back after each event, we would be exhausted.” But from the community’s point of view, all their planning and preparations look effortless to us.

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What have you learned from Girls on the Run?

How Girls on the Run is Empowering a Diverse Group of Girls

hen Girls on the Run came to Michiana four years ago, there were 12 girls in the program the first season. Now it has grown to 269 girls. Geared towards girls in third through fifth grades, the participants spend 10 weeks learning and running. At the end of the season, the girls, coaches, sponsors and people from within the community gather to run a 5K. But don’t let the name fool you; the program is about so much more than just running. “We try to relay this all the time; we are not just a running program. We are a unique confidence-building program that incorporates running to help girls realize their limitless potential,” said Jenny Deranek, program coordinator. “For 10 weeks the girls work side by side with other girls and talk about some of the ‘hard stuff,’ such as the media's portrayal of beauty, bullying, gossiping and how to choose positive friends—things that girls and women face almost every single day.” Since the program first came to the Michiana area, the demand has grown and new sites have been added each season. There are currently 21 teams at 19 different sites throughout St. Joseph and Elkhart counties, and this season includes the most diverse group of girls the program has seen so far. “Girls on the Run is for every girl,” said Amy Cooper Collier, executive director. “We serve girls from all socio-economic levels and backgrounds, from Title 1 schools where almost every girl receives a full scholarship, to private schools where families pay the registration fee and also sponsor another girl.” This year has seen the greatest diversity of any, as the program added a developmental differences team that consists of six girls with Down syndrome. The group took shape just last fall after a man with Down syndrome ran the entire New York marathon. “I saw that and thought, wouldn’t it be cool for our girls to run a 5K?” said Shelley Tucker. Inspired by what she saw and thinking of her daughter Lexi who has Down syndrome, Shelley contacted Girls on the Run. Soon the wheels were in motion. The group now has six girls and four coaches, including a special education teacher, an occupational therapist and Shelley herself. 20

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"To always have your positive cord and stay away from the negative." – Emily, 4th Grade "That I am amazing! I learned how to react and be kind to others." – Gabby, 4th Grade "To make healthy choices and make good choices of the friends you pick." – Leah, 4th Grade "That wearing make-up doesn’t make you popular." – Chylee, 4th Grade "To be confident, caring, to pace myself and to BE ME!" – Sofia, 4th Grade "How to appreciate myself and others and to love myself." – Siarra, 4th Grade "To be yourself and let the right people accept you for who you are." – Shelby, 5th Grade "What to do when somebody is bullying you." – Madelyn, 3rd Grade "That we can work together and keep each other moving." – Amelia, 3rd Grade "To work together and cooperate to get stuff done." – Julianna, 5th Grade "That running can be a difference in me." – Abigail, 3rd Grade "To just be yourself and everything will be alright." – Abigail, 3rd Grad "That I can be myself." – Lillian, 3rd Grade

“We are a unique confidence-building program that incorporates running to help girls realize their limitless potential.” “Just because our girls have Down syndrome, doesn’t mean they don’t face the same things that other girls do.” Shelley went on to say that it has been a learning process for everyone involved, but the team is really beginning to click. “The other day we had the girls out doing laps and one fell down. Another girl came over and asked if she was okay. Before this, the girls typically ran with a coach and did not interact a lot with each other. That day everything just kind of gelled.” Shelley went on to say that the girls have begun high-fiving and encouraging one another, and one girl who rarely spoke began talking in complete sentences after a lesson inspired her. “Her mom happened to be sitting there and she was in awe. They are getting it! It is really exciting to see.” Shelley is grateful for this program and for all it is doing for her daughter and the rest of the girls. “Unfortunately there aren’t a lot of places where our kids get to do things like this. I personally am very thankful to Girls on the Run for letting us have this opportunity.” But the girls aren’t the only ones who are learning along the way. “I’ve got to be honest, I’m learning right along with her. I’m realizing some of the habits I’ve developed over the years. The program is good for me as well.” She went on to say, “I think every girl should have access to this. If every girl was exposed to this, I don’t think we would have the bullying problems we have.” “Countless people have said to me, ‘I wish this program was around when I was young,’” Amy said. “It resonates with so many of us because we know that girls today are still dealing with tough issues like body image, gossip, friendship dynamics and peer pressure. These are the same issues that many of us dealt with as pre-teens and teenagers, but often without any roadmap.”

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The Summer Sculpt Summer is finally here! While the weather is cooperating, take advantage and move your workout outdoors. The sunshine and fresh air will help enhance the workout I created, called “The Summer Sculpt.” The equipment needed to perform this workout is a playground ball and a yoga mat (a beach towel will work too). By: Abbi Pollyea

“The Summer Sculpt” Playlist 1. Summertime by Will Smith 4:29 2. Made by Jamie Scott 2:15 3. Eye of the Tiger by Survivor 4:04 4. Right Where You Want Me by Jesse McCartney 3:34 5. Genie In A Bottle by Christina Aguilera 3:38 6. If You Had My Love by Jennifer Lopez 4:27 7. If by Janet Jackson 4:31 8. Oops!...I Did It Again by Britney Spears 3:33 9. Man In the Mirror by Adam Levine & Javier Colon 3:22

Cardio Granger now has a fantastic path that is broken up into three phases. The entire length of these combined phases is 14.4 miles. Park at either Mary Frank or Northpoint Elementary school and hit the path for the first three songs or more on the playlist. Try speedwalking, jogging or biking.

1. Pilates Ab Series with a Ball For this series, make sure your lower back is anchored to the ground. Beginners, keep your legs high off of the ground. For a more advanced work, keep your legs closer to the ground. Take a rest between the different movements.

“Single Straight-Leg Stretch” Single Bent-Leg Stretch Place the ball behind your head, in the middle, away from the neck. Lift head and shoulders off the ground. Legs are off of the ground. One leg is bent, while other is straight. While continuing to hold up your head and shoulders, switch legs 8 to 12 times.

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The set up is the same as the above, Single Bent-Leg Stretch, however the legs are both straight throughout. The legs will switch mid-air, much like scissors for 8 to 12 repetitions. Make sure your back is still on the ground and that there is an apple size space between your chin and chest.

Double-Leg Stretch Your head and shoulders remain lifted throughout. Pass the ball from between your ankles to your hands 8 to 12 times. Look forward throughout exercise.

2. Backside Toner with a Ball Sculpts the “seat” and back of thighs. Begin on all fours, make sure you do not arch your low back. Place the playground ball securely behind the right knee. Lower and lift the leg with the ball 20 times, squeezing the ball throughout. Switch to the left leg and complete 20 repetitions. For a bigger challenge, do more repetitions or begin work in a plank (top of a push-up).

3. Side-Lying Leg Lifts

4. Tricep Push-Up

Slims and tones outer thighs and hips. Begin laying on your side, head supported by the ball. Legs are reaching away from your center and are as long as possible. There should be no bend in the knee and the “seat” muscles should be engaged. Legs should be separated and should never touch throughout the duration of the exercise. Lift and lower the top leg for 20 repetitions. To advance, add on leg circles. 10 circles to the front followed by 10 circles to the back. Repeat on the other side.

Defines the upper-back part of our arms Begin in a push up position, knees down. Make sure wrists are directly under shoulders. Secure the ball between the hands with your thumbs. Bend the elbows until your chest taps the ball and then rise back up. Your upper arms should touch your sides as you move down, otherwise, it will not target the triceps. For more advanced work, try keeping your knees off the ground.

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The Thrill Of

The Hunt By: Andrew Skipper

I have always been a “hunter and gatherer.”

At ten years old, I would walk to tag sales in my neighborhood and use my allowance money to buy Duncan Phyfe Chairs and old marble lamps. To this day I am constantly intrigued by “the story” of each antique piece that I find. In a world where we are obsessed with the latest technology, I find antiques that may be a bit worn or banged-up to be quite satisfying to the soul; a foil to the need for “bigger, better, newer.” It’s no wonder that I ended up getting into the Antiques Trade as a dealer at 14 years old. I’d beg my parent’s to drive me to auctions and estate sales on the weekends, using my lawn mowing money to bid on Louis IV chairs, Limoges china sets and antique silver. I would often get good prices because no one wanted to bid against the “cute kid” who was interested in antiques. A few years later, as a young man, I was no longer viewed the same way. At that point, I had become the competition. As I result, I had to learn how to bargain with dealers to get the best prices possible. Today, I shop internationally, looking for one-of-a-kind antiques and unique décor pieces. One week I may be shopping the Paris Flea Market and the next week I might be climbing a ladder in a barn in The Netherlands to find the perfect country table. Navigating the various vendors can be tricky, but by remembering a few key things, you can happily source antiques in any area of the world.

Here are five tips when shopping for antiques:

2.Trust your instincts.

If something seems to be a reproduction, chances are it is. There is nothing wrong with reproductions, as they are often beautiful, but sometimes dealers mislabel pieces and that is a big problem. If a piece of furniture is labeled as "original," it can command a higher price. It's always good to educate yourself about the styles you prefer before you go shopping. I've often seen furniture that is rebuilt from old parts, so in fact it is old, but it's not "original." There's a big difference. When the provenance is taken into account, the price should be too

3.Buy more, save more.

1.Don't dawdle!

It's a classic story; you see something that attracts your eye but you wait to buy it because surely it will be there in a couple of days. Inevitably the piece has always sold when you go back to buy it. The world of antiques is not like shopping at a big box store where the same inventory is constantly replenished. Many items are rare or one of a kind, giving a sense of urgency to the shopping experience. If you see it today, chances are it will be gone tomorrow. So if you want it, don't take too long to think about it.

Before you start the bargaining process, take a good look around the booth that you're in. If you can find other pieces from the same vendor that you want to purchase, chances are they'll give you a deeper discount. I was recently in Belgium and wanted to purchase a set of knife rests from a dealer at a flea market. As I was looking at them, she offered to take 10% off the price. I scanned the rest of her stall and found three other things I wanted and asked her what the best price was for all of it. She ended up giving me 30% off the entire lot. This is a prime example of a win-win situation. The dealer sells more inventory, and the buyer gets a better price.

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4.Be in tune.

It's so important to read each individual dealer. I always try to compliment a dealer if I like their stall and inventory. Flattery is never a bad thing. However, some dealers aren't interested in conversation so you have to be aware of their personalities. Starting off the conversation with "What's your best price," may not always be the smartest thing to do. I often admire the piece I'm interested in and then ask questions about it. I try to never make an offer first because you just don't know what the dealer is going to come back with. I like to let them to set the tone for the negotiation. If something's $100 and I immediately offer $90, how do I know that they wouldn't have started at $70? When it comes to negotiating, let them talk first, that way you won't offend them by offering too little, but you also may get a better deal than you thought.

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20 percent of the activities in your life result in 80 percent of your happiness and income.

Striving.

By: Jillian Koeneman

Striving for more. Striving for more customers, clients, responsibility, income, vacations, material goods, stability, accomplishments, recognition, appreciation, affection, health, success, etc. As career-focused, driven women, we are always striving. Striving to better ourselves, our businesses and our families is a wonderful thing. It not only improves our life but the lives of those in our community and it allows us to paint a brighter picture for future generations. But, being in a constant state of striving is downright exhausting and unhealthy. Our lives have become increasingly complex and chaotic. We are constantly being asked to do more with less, to continually strive to be the best at every journey we embark upon. We are asked by others, and by ourselves, to be Super Woman. So how do we slow down to a reasonable pace which allows us to appreciate all of the blessings this life has to offer, while still accomplishing our goals? The answer may surprise you. The answer is not “more,” it’s “less.” It’s a fundamental shift in priorities.

Introducing The Magic Formula

What if I were to tell you that there was one guiding principle, a magic formula if you may, that when implemented correctly, would help you improve the quality of your life and help you achieve your financial goals? The 80/20 rule or Pareto’s Principle may be the secret formula that all of us strivers and overachievers are looking for. The Pareto Principle (also known as the 80/20 Rule, the Law of the Vital Few and the Principle of Factor Sparsity) states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. Businessmanagement consultant Joseph M. Juran suggested the principle and named it after Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, who observed in 1906 that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population; Pareto developed the principle by observing that 20% of the pea pods in his garden contained 80% of the peas. The 80/20 Rule states that 80 percent of your outcomes come from 20 percent of your inputs. The numbers can vary (90/10, 85/15, 99/1) but the important part to remember is that roughly 20 percent of the activities in your life result in 80 percent of your happiness and income. The activities (the 20 percent) that lead to 80 percent of your happiness and income are where you need to focus. Most often that 20 percent relates directly to your passions in life and things that you naturally excel at. Spend time honing in on those skills that you are naturally the best at and those activities that make you the happiest. When you are really enjoying what you are doing work no longer seems like work and your output will soar. 26

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However, you may not be at a point in your life where you can rely solely on activities you are passionate about and that’s okay. The goal is to identify what that 20 percent is and to keep your eye on the prize while shifting things in your life so that eventually you can solely focus on the activities that bring you the most joy and income.

Identify Your Tasks

One way to begin to shift things in the direction you want to go is to identify tasks that you aren’t good at, and don’t enjoy, and begin to find ways to shift those tasks or outsource them to other people. For example, in my own life. I am not a great numbers person so I outsource my taxes to an accountant. I also don’t particularly love cleaning so I have a cleaning company come help me a few days a week. This allows me to focus my time and energy on my business, which is the core of my 20 percent.

In order to live your life to the fullest, to be truly happy and have the financial freedom you desire, you are going to have to take risks. If you start to analyze your life through the 80/20 lens you will see the 80/20 ratios pop up all over. You will start to see which 20 percent of your customers bring you 80 percent of your revenue. You can identify what 20 percent of your products bring you 80 percent of your customers. Even though the 20 percent of your workforce brings you 80 percent of the results.

Reserve Your 20 Percent

No matter what area of your life you are looking at applying the 80/20 rule to, the trick is that once your key happiness and income determinants have been identified, is to make everything work in harmony and avoid wasting time on those 80 percent activities that produce little satisfaction or income for you. If you are in a job that you dislike, but you aren’t ready to walk away from, use your free time to hone in on your 20 percent. Make your part-time job your 20 percent. Stop investing all of your mental energy and passion in a job that isn’t going to make you happy or wealthy. I’m not saying perform poorly at your job but reserve your passion and mental energy towards your 20 percent part-time job. In order to live your life to the fullest, to be truly happy and have the financial freedom you desire, you are going to have to take risks. This also means you are going to have to push through your fears and get out of your comfort zone. Put the 80/20 Rule to work for you so that you can maximize what you are good at and invest your energy and passion in the places that will bring you the greatest rewards.

We are asked by others, and by ourselves, to be Super Woman.

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The Sun: Five Best Beaches

By: Kristine Smith

n these hot and humid summer months, many of us head to the nearest beach to cool off. Living in this area, there are numerous beaches to choose from. Whether it is a small beach on a local lake or a huge state park in nearby Michigan, our options are endless. But, which of these beaches can be considered the best? It probably depends on what is important to you. Do you want privacy or do you want to feel like you are at a party? Do you prefer dog friendly beaches for you and your canine companion? Would you prefer a beach with a life guard or without? Here is a list of what may be considered the best beaches in the area:

West Beach is one of the best beaches around, right outside of Portage, Indiana. The sandy Lake Michigan shoreline varies from dunes over 125 feet high to short grass topped dunes. Fifteen miles of national lakeshore shoreline may be accessed from parking lots that are open from 7:00 a.m. to 30 minutes past sunset. All beach parking is free of charge with the exception of a user fee at West Beach from Memorial Day weekend through Labor Day weekend in which a fee of $ 6.00 per vehicle is accessed. The largest parking lot is West Beach and it rarely fills. Lifeguards are only offered at West Beach and the state park from 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. Memorial Day through Labor Day weekends. Waves, rip currents and water quality are always changing in this fifth largest lake in the world. This beach can get crowded so be sure to get there early.

Also on Lake Michigan shores, you can find the popular Warren Dunes State Park which is ranked number one in the State of Michigan, and offers 1,950 acres of recreation area. Dune formations rise 240 feet above the lake and expand over three miles of beautiful beach, part of which is dog friendly. Just pay attention to the signs to see where they are allowed. The park is open year-round. Walking pedestrian paths are available. The park has 221 modern dune camp sites and rentable mini-cabins on the campgrounds. There are several picnic areas, a picnic shelter for rent and a great beach. A concession stand is open from Memorial Day thru Labor Day, with food, beverages and a gift shop.

Scales Lake lies near the small town of Boonville, a few miles east of Evansville. The small lake boasts a large, sandy beach with lifeguards. Adjacent to the beach, a small pool sits below a winding waterslide. Lewis and Clark traveled along the Ohio River on their epic westward trek in what today is called the Cannelton Pool. The wide area along the river sits between two dams in far south Indiana. Popular with boaters, islands dot the landscape and feature quiet, sandy beaches. Beaches also line the river banks interspersed with rock bluffs where views are much like they were in the early 1800s. This is a wonderful quiet family beach spot. 28

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Monroe Lake, Indiana's largest, sits near Bloomington. The 10,750-acre reservoir features two beaches. Besides swimming and sunbathing, visitors enjoy water skiing and boating. Recreational areas surround the lake and boast campgrounds, sports fields, hiking trails and a nature center. The Brookville Lake-Whitewater Memorial State Park Complex lies near the Ohio border. Beach activities include swimming and shoreline hiking. Visitors may rent canoes, paddleboats and rowboats or navigate a horse on a bridle trail. The park also serves as a memorial for those who served in World War II.

Four miles south of Walkerton, one will find Koontz Lake which has been a much-loved destination for generations of visitors. Koontz Lake has been delighting residents and visitors alike since the mid1800s. Originally a smaller lake scraped into the earth by retreating glaciers, the small outlet stream was dammed in 1848; a local settler, Samuel Koontz constructed the dam to power a sawmill. The rising water connected the two lakes into one. What used to be called Woodworth's Lake became 346-acre Koontz Lake. The northern Indiana area was originally about 25% wetlands, but extensive ditching to reclaim farmland has severely reduced these wetlands. Koontz Lake offers a generous sized public beach and is an all-sports lake; residents and visitors engage in boating, waterskiing, jet-skiing, tubing, canoeing, kayaking and wakeboarding. This lake is dog friendly but not in the beach area. They also do not have lifeguards at this beach normally, so swim carefully.

These five ideas are only the tip of the iceberg. There are multiple lakes with informal beaches surrounding Northern Indiana and Southern Michigan. The possibilities are endless depending on what a person is looking for during their beach experience.

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Dear Charrise: Charrise McCrorey is a global coach/consultant, writer, speaker and founder of Arms Wide Open Corporation, supporting the empowerment of people and businesses to live and work in their highest purpose. She has offices in Elkhart and Chicago.

Email your questions to: Jessy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com to have them answered by Coach Charrise!

Have a co-worker who’s driving you batty? A boss who just won’t listen to reason? Or maybe you’re wondering if this is your time to break out and show the business world what you’re really made of – but you don’t know exactly how to go about it. Sounds like you need some sound business advice! Send your questions to Charrise, our SASSY Business Coach, and have them answered here. It’s time to get a fresh perspective!

We have a small but kick butt team, whom I love and am excited to be growing with. We've all committed to developing personally, and together, and I can really feel a flow starting to gain momentum within us as the changes internalize. Except for one person who doesn't want to change anything at all, despite being on a bit of a downer apparent to everyone but him. It would be a loss if he left, because he’s an amazing person but we just don't feel he’s happy where he is. We've tried to bring it up gently but it's reaching a breakpoint now. How would you approach this?

I'm working on growing my business and creating new services that will really serve my clients in a new way. The thing is, there are obviously costs associated with all of this and I'm really worried about running out of money. I appreciate that everything I'm doing with the team is working towards a higher goal and I'm reducing spending where I can until things get going but I'm so used to just getting something when we need it. Do you have any tips to keep our budget in check?

Charrise Says:

There is always risk in growth. Once the risks are calculated, you must weigh the upside. If the upside outweighs the risks, then move forward. And don’t move forward without a three month plan, including a budget. It used to be prudent to make long range plans but in today’s information age, three months can be an eternity. At the end of three months, review your plan and make necessary changes.

First, I’d ask him if he wants to work there. I’d have a real conversation with him about whether he feels fully engaged. I’d seek to understand his perceptions as far as the team goes. I love Covey’s 5th Habit; “Seek first to understand, then be understood.” I would not do this as a group, because he may feel attacked. If he’s a good person, perhaps he’s simply in the wrong role. If he doesn’t want to be there, nothing you do will change that. He must want to change and grow himself, or he’ll self-select off the team. It’s difficult for everyone, both the person that is growing and the person who is resistant to growing, when there is a difference in commitment. It will most definitely slow the team growth down and potentially cause animosity. If he’s not willing to change, and his behavior is not acceptable, he will need to move on. You won’t know this without exploring through conversation. Good luck! 30

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Charrise Says:

Create metrics so that you can continuously monitor whether the idea still has legs, and don’t be afraid to ditch the plan if it’s not working. This, of course, includes the financial piece. That way you’re never too far down the road to make the proper adjustments and your long term results will be stronger and more sustainable. Wouldn’t it be great if you always had a certain amount of funds set aside specifically for innovation so that your financial situation would never stop you from launching a growth plan? Perhaps that is where you should begin. 

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SMALL MOVE, BIG CHANGE: Using Microresolutions to Transform Your Life Permanently By Caroline L. Arnold Reviewed By: Pam Sailor, Reference Librarian, Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Public Library

re you tired of making resolutions that fail? Caroline Arnold, a wife, mother and Wall Street technology leader, has written a practical guide to help people achieve self-improvement in any/every area of life with immediate results. Readers will learn how to translate broad personal goals into microresolutions that can be managed, measured and mastered. Small Move, Big Change provides an alternative to other self-improvement books in its focus on action (doing) instead of “being.” Arnold’s method teaches readers how to prioritize desired changes, make targeted commitments and translate broad goals into specific microresolutions. For example, resolving to “eliminate all white flour from meals” might be translated into “eating whole grains for breakfast on weekdays.” Working within your own personal mindset (values, preferences and attitudes) is a critical key to the method’s framework. Citing behavioral and psychological research in each chapter, Arnold presents her method in an easy to follow format. Part one covers the rules of the method and practical steps to success. In this section, Arnold provides guidance in

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choosing a microresolution that is measurable and specific to your schedule and personal needs, identifying a personalized cue or trigger and framing the resolution for optimal engagement. Arnold’s claim that desired behaviors will become habits within four to six weeks demonstrates her confidence in this method. Further evidence is provided in examples from those who have successfully used the method for personal and professional self-improvement. Part two presents application of the rules to commonly targeted areas of self-improvement including sleep, fitness, diet and nutrition, clutter, relationships, spending, punctuality and organization. As exciting as these success stories may seem, Arnold cautions her audience to work on only one or two resolutions at a time with consistent repetition and effort to achieve the desired shift in behavior. This book is highly recommended for those who want to succeed in any self-improvement category. Tap into your unlimited potential to change your behavior. It’s easy when you have the right tools.

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The Best Of Me

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The One & Only

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By: Cyndy Searfoss

Mentors – Everyone Needs One,

Everyone Should Be One

arma has often been described as “give good, get good.” Mentorship is an example of this principal, although one that usually reverses the order. For the protégé, it’s a good way to jump start his or her career and learn how to become a good mentor; for the mentor, it’s a chance to pass along the favor.

Mentoring is more than showing a new hire or recent graduate around the office and giving a few tips on office politics. A good mentor fills in all the gaps left by even the best college education. He or she offers practical advice and guidance in job skills, industry standards, business practices, client/customer expectations and more. And while his or her protégé’s professional development is the primary focus, most mentors also take an interest in the whole person, offering life lessons as well. While some large corporations such as IBM offer formalized mentorship programs as part of their employee development or leadership initiatives, in many organizations mentoring relationships are informal. Some organizations encourage mentoring relationships informally as part of the new employee orientation process or through its corporate culture. In fact, it’s a good area to explore while going through the hiring process, particularly for any one entering the job market or entering a new field.

How To Find A Good Mentor Without a formal program in place, what’s the best way to find a good mentor? In one single word: network. It’s easiest to start in your organization by identifying people in leadership roles who you respect or admire. The next step is to figure out particular areas in your job that your need for growth or help overlap with their area of expertise or experience. Then ask to introduce yourself if you don’t have an established professional relationship within the organization and ask for help with a specific task or duty – politely and professionally. You want to establish yourself as someone worth the investment of his or her time. If there’s a lack of good candidates at your organization, remember that mentoring can exist outside formal corporate boundaries as part of an industry network, alumni connections or friendships. Join industry organizations or local business groups. It’s a good way to build your professional network as well as scope out people who may be able to help you develop skill sets or experience. Many organizations have community service projects or other opportunities to work together outside the typical business framework. 32

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“I feel that we are all obligated to help people with potential move to the next level of their careers. As a mentor, you show the roadmap to them and give them pointers on how to navigate through it. There’s a lot of joy in that,” she said.

Return The Favor In addition to the intrinsic benefits of being a mentor (not to mention that it’s just good karma), it can be a smart professional move as well. Leadership qualities are highly valued in the best organizations and mentoring – whether formally or informally – is an excellent way to exhibit good leadership skills. It also can be valuable as a way to identify good project team members and bring new skills to teams or departments. Don’t forget that your protégé may be able to return the favor by helping you develop or enhance your skills as well, particularly in emerging technologies and social media marketing and promotion. In addition, it’s a chance for him or her to practice mentoring skills, skills that hopefully will be passed along to another generation down the line. SASSY | JUNE 2014

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Working in

Male-Dominated Industries Joining the Boy’s Club? Set Yourself Up for Success

here may not be a sign on the door that says, “Men Only” but in some industries, particularly those in the sciences, technology, engineering and math (STEM) women are still a definite minority. Schools are taking the lead in encouraging female students to explore their interests in these areas. LEGO now offers Pink Brick Buckets and pages of “exciting creations” geared to helping young girls create and build while they gain “dexterity and problem-solving skills.” But what about those women who are a generation (or two) ahead of today’s girls, those who have made engineering, science research, manufacturing, nanotechnology or math their career? There is still a gaping chasm dividing the genders in many of these fields as well as in top executive positions in Fortune 500 companies according to leading industry sources. In 2013, only 20 of Fortune 500’s CEOs were women. Working smart is even more critical in these fields than it is in gender neutral or female-oriented industries. Here are a few key tips for getting ahead in maledominated fields:

Strategies for Success • Stay Professional – especially for recent graduates or new hires; minimize the amount of time you discuss anything personal. Fair or not, women tend to be stereotyped as being less serious about their careers than men. Don’t give anyone ammunition to make this claim about you. This includes taking part in office gossip.

By: Cyndy Searfoss if you’re seen throughout the company as someone who dresses inappropriately for her position.

• Let Your Intelligence and Productivity Speak for Themselves – It can be tempting to pick up on the men’s alpha-assertive mentality – don’t. It often comes across as abrasive and pushy. Quietly confident is the best approach to take. • Bring Your “A” Game Every Day – As unsavory as the practice may seem, it’s not uncommon for larger companies in particular to hire women to fill corporate quotas rather than looking for the best fit for the job. If you prove your ability to do the job early and often you can affirm that you’re the best person for the job, regardless of gender. • Expect to Experience Discrimination – Whether it’s overt or subtle,

it will happen. It may be as serious as getting passed over for a promotion or it may be a minor irritation such as being talked down to. How you handle it is the most important thing. Keep your emotions out of any conversations you have to address the issue. Stick to the facts and state the case without apologies. You deserve to be treated as a professional. The more professional you act in claiming that right, the better your chances are of making it happen. Ultimately, a successful career is defined by finding your professional passion and pursuing it to your satisfaction. Whether it’s in engineering or teaching, developing the skills and building a toolkit for navigating the ins and outs of the field is important.

• Keep the Focus on Your Strengths and Your Skills – you were hired

for these. A corollary to this is don’t become the executive assistant. Unless you were specifically hired to book meetings, take minutes or provide refreshments, don’t offer to do these. Chances are very good they’ll become part of what you’re expected to do in addition to your actual job and even take away valuable time from higher-level tasks.

• Dress the Part – Cute clothes are fine. Clothes that express your personality and creative flair are good. Just make sure you have all the bases covered, literally and figuratively. The man staring at your cleavage isn’t listening to what you have to say about the status of your project. Yes, it’s his issue, but it will become yours 34 JUNE 2014 | SASSY

“Ultimately, a successful career is defined by finding your professional passion and pursuing it to your satisfaction.”

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Ingredients • 24 Graham Crackers, Crushed • ¹⁄³ Cup Butter • ¼ Cup Brown Sugar • 1 (6 ounce) Package Raspberry Gelatin Mix • 1 Cup Boiling Water • 15 Ounces Frozen Raspberries • 20 Large Marshmallows • ¹⁄³ Cup Milk • 1 Cup Whipping Cream Directions Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.

1. Mix graham cracker crumbs, butter and brown sugar until combined. Set aside 1/4 cup of this 2. mixture for a topping and press the remainder into one 9x13 inch pan.

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Melt marshmallows with the milk. When cool, fold in whipped cream and spread on top of raspberry mixture. Sprinkle with remaining crumbs. Chill for three to four hours before serving.

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By: Charrise McCrorey

Virtual World Making Your Home Office Work For You ne of the fastest growing trends regarding the way business is conducted today is that companies are providing the option to work from home. From startups to large corporations, remote workspaces are popping up everywhere. Even The Michiana Family Magazines are joining this trend. Clearly, technology makes it more possible. Video and conference call technology has made working from remote locations possible for many years and as the technology industry began to focus on even more effective connectivity solutions, those possibilities have grown exponentially. I myself work with clients all over the world, where our connection for the session is just a Skype call away. It makes no difference where either of us are, as long as there is a great internet connection. That simple fact has no doubt contributed to my success as an entrepreneur.

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As an entrepreneur, working from home has many advantages. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s definitely a decision that keeps most things simple. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s easy on the budget, convenient, efficient and comfortable. You get to control the temperature, the condition of the bathroom and your coffee is much less expensive when using the home brewer. Remote offices are not just for entrepreneurs. Companies with progressive management practices and an eye for reducing overhead also allow people to work from home. On the companyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s part, it requires flexibility, trust and a greater commitment to communicating.

There are advantages for both employee and employer in the work from home proposition.

Here are my top 5:

Money saving:

No transportation to the office for the employee, saving gas. Less overhead for the employer.

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Time saving:

No time spent commuting for the employee. Generally the employer gets a greater level of work output because it’s more convenient to plug back in. (Shocking, I know!)

Happy at work:

The employee doesn’t get as involved in gossip or office politics. Everyone wins!

Convenience:

The employee can throw a load of laundry in at break-time and stay in their PJs until then. The employer gets employee engagement at all hours of the day and night.

Work/Home balance:

The employee has greater odds of keeping all the plates spinning because of the time savings, thus creating more family time. The employer benefits by creating an increase in the retention of their most valued workers.

There is a misnomer that lives in the world of “working from home” in the area of productivity. The false assumption is that if an employee is not within the manager’s presence, there is no way to be sure they are being productive. This is not a problem for great managers who communicate clearly the metrics and expectations for performance. Management by metrics makes location and hours worked irrelevant. That’s why bigger thinking managers see the advantages of it, creating a net positive outcome. Smart business owners consider market trends, especially if they want to keep key talent. Working from home provides a desirable lifestyle for many, as the world becomes more connected. It works so well for so many. As technology emerges, seeking to make every aspect of our life better and more efficient, the ways in which work gets done will also evolve. Everyone benefits by having more viable choices.

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I find it difficult to stop thinking about work after my day has ended. When I go home in the evening, I can’t stop thinking about what I need to do the next day. During the weekends I try and stay active to keep my mind off of work but ultimately I keep thinking about it. How can I keep my work thoughts from 9am to 5pm and get back to my personal time?

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o maintain my quality of life, I cannot think about work when I am at home. If left unchecked, work could overwhelm every waking hour. To prevent that, I visualize my work responsibilities as an overcoat I put on in the morning when I leave for work and take off when I arrive home at the end of the day. Once I take off that overcoat, the problems from work are put into the closet until tomorrow, or Monday, where they will be waiting for me. It took some time and practice to remember that once my overcoat was off, so was the weight of my responsibilities. Now that I don’t spend my free hours thinking about work, I find that I have a clearer focus on my tasks when I am there. Just as important, when I am at home, my thoughts are centered on my family and myself.

My suggestion for you is to practice being more mindful. Our current society is so fast paced and we are always ON. The smart phone is a great invention. We can check e-mail, text messages, Facebook, weather, Twitter, news, and etc all from the palm of our hands. This is making us the complete opposite of mindful. Yes, our mind is always on, but we are not “aware” of what is going on around us. But what is mindfulness? Simply put, mindfulness is the practice of paying steady and full attention, without judgment or criticism, to our moment-to-moment experience. Being present. Being aware.

Bridgette VanSchoyck-Clark Licensed Massage Therapist Bridgette has long held a passion for movement, health & fitness. At Purdue University she earned a BS in Movement in Sport Science. Her education includes Power House Pilates and a full comprehensive training through Pilates Chicago. She has been teaching Pilates for 15 years and has consistently observed the power of Pilates to heal, re-balance & revitalize one’s body and spirit and is committed to bringing her clients positive results. As a licensed Massage Therapist, she strives to integrate her knowledge of anatomy and pain management in to her Pilates and Yoga classes.

Mindfulness involves bringing an individual’s awareness back to present time. The more people learn to “live in the moment,” the more tuned in they become to their inner and outer workings of everyday reality. This idea of letting the mind settle is in every religion and every spiritual teaching. Everyone needs to look inside for reflection in order to work outside. Operating from a calm space is a wonderful technique to achieve. One of the most appealing parts of mindfulness is that it doesn’t involve a lot of knowledge of Eastern religion, nor does it require you to commit to a certain faith or set of rules. Mindfulness is for everyone and it’s transforming both individuals and communities across lines of gender, race, socioeconomic status and cultural backgrounds. My suggestion for you is to start with baby steps in weaning yourself from your digital media. After 5pm, switch your phone to silent so you do not have the constant bells and whistles alerting you of new messages or emails. Try to limit the number of times you feel compelled to check its status. Mindfulness meditation does not mean checking out from reality, but quite the opposite. It helps you embrace reality and re-evaluate your life with a more rational and healthy perspective. Meditation exercises do not require a complete clearing of the mind. In fact, many thoughts will come to the surface when you finally take time to be still and process. The technique comes in when you can acknowledge the thoughts and release them without dwelling on them. Yoga & Pilates are types of mindful training. As we try to balance in our yoga poses, we have to quiet the chatter in our mind: the negative self talk, the to-dolist and the useless observations. Of all the benefits of Yoga and Pilates, I think this is my favorite; being able to just turn off the chatter and just be present. Bridgette VanSchoyck-Clark Beyond Zen Studio Located in Toscana Park. Offering Pilates Reformer, Trapeze Table, EXO Chair, Wall Tower & Mat, Yoga, Hot Yoga, Couples Yoga, Couples Thai Massage, Family Yoga, Kid’s Yoga, TRX, Babysitting, Massage as well as high-performance athletic & yoga wear. www.beyondzenstudio.com SASSY | JUNE 2014

June 2014 Events This listing includes events around town. Always call ahead for updates.

June 4th

Meet Me on the Island

7:30 P.M.

South Bend Museum of Art

To Kill a Mockingbird

5:30 P.M.

South Bend Civic Theatre

The South Bend Museum of Art, 88.1 WVPE and the Century Center is kicking off the summer with live music, local art work and festivities. Admission is $5 per person, children under the age of 12 are free.

One of the best-loved novels throughout generations will be performed at the South Bend Civic Theatre. Admission is $18 per person.

Mary Poppins 8:00 P.M.

Wagon Wheel Theatre

Based on the books by P.L. Travers and the Disney movie Mary Poppins, this all-time classic will be performed on stage at Wagon Wheel Theatre. Admission is $15 to $33, depending on placement of seating. For more information, please visit their website at www.wagonwheeltheatre.org.

Latin Wednesdays 7:30 P.M.

Langlab, South Bend

Every Wednesday, Michiana’s most popular Latin dance social will be teaching lessons. All ages are welcome. Admission is $5 per person. For more information please visit their Facebook page at www.facebook.com/youcandance4life or call 574-993-1190.

June 6th

Fridays by the Fountain 11:45 A.M.

Jon. R. Hunt Plaza, South Bend

The Morris Performing Arts Center is pleased to present the outdoor lunch-time concert series, Fridays by the Fountain on the Jon R. Hunt Plaza, in front of the Morris Theater, each summer between the months of June and August. The concert series traditionally runs every other Friday and features live entertainment from local Blues, Jazz, Rock, Folk, and Country bands. The concerts are FREE and open to the public and run from 11:45 AM 1:15 PM.

June 7th

4th Annual Huntington’s Disease Team Hope Walk/Silent Auction 9:00 A.M.

Discovery Middle School, Granger

The 4th Annual Huntington's Disease Team Hope one mile fun Walk and Silent Auction will happen at Discovery Middle School. This event is free, is family friendly and all are welcome! They will walk rain or shine. There is an indoor track in case of rain. HD is a rare neuro-degenerative brain disorder that steals a person's ability to walk, talk, think, swallow and control movement. HD symptoms are similar to other neurological diseases such as Alzheimer's, Parkinson's and ALS and a cure for one is likely to benefit all. All funds raised from the HD Walk will be donated to HDSA and the HD Center of Excellence in Indianapolis which supports HD research and all HD families. Funds raised from the Silent Auction will be donated to the Trey Gray Fund at Vanderbilt University Medical Center, which supports HD research and all HD families.

This event occurs monthly, on the second Monday of each month. Do you enjoy yoga? Are you interested in yoga and looking for an opportunity to try it? The Elkhart Environmental Center and Kristen SmithMyers RYT 500 certified yoga instructor from Tree of Life Yoga are teaming up to offer free Monthly Meditation Yoga Classes in 2014. Class is held on the second Monday of each month at 5:30 p.m. at the Elkhart Environmental Center. Participants will learn basic relaxation techniques to help stretch the body and clear the mind. All levels are welcome. 2014. Registration is required. Please call 574-2935080 for more information.

June 14th Super Hero 5K 8:00 A.M.

Niles High School

Be a hero! Walk or run the Super Hero 5K and help the Pregnancy Care Center of Niles to continue to provide resources for relationships, pregnancy and parenting. Race begins at Niles high School promptly at 8 a.m. and will end at Riverfront Park just in time to take part in the free life walk festivities. Sign up for the race at www.signmeup.com/98879 or for more information go to www.partners.pccniles.com.

5:00 P.M.

State Theatre, South Bend

St Andrew Greek Fest

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Elkhart Environmental Center

10:00 A.M.

Downtown South Bend

5:30 P.M.

June 11th

Bazzar Sunday At The State

DTSB First Fridays: Dog Days of Summer It’s Downtown South Bend’s First Fridays wrapped around your little pooch. Live musical performances, activities, food, drinks and so much more will be happening throughout the evening. For more information, please visit their website at www.dtsbfirstfridays.com.

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June 8th

Every second Sunday of the month, local vendors gather at The State Theater for our Bazzar Sunday at The State. Local vendors consist of handmade, repurposed, upcycled items as well as antique and vintage items. We consider ourselves an upscale flea market in that our vendors are artists in the area of one-of-a-kind creations. For more information, please call 574-855-4274 or visit their website at www.bazaarsunday.com.

5:00 P.M.

June 9th

11:00 A.M.

Saint Andrew Greek Orthodox Church, South Bend

Enjoy great Greek food and deserts along with a church tour and Ethnic Greek Dances. There will be carnival games for the kids, gift shops and much more. Admission is $3 per person. For more information please visit their website at www. saintandrewgoc.org.

Wednesday Wine Walks Downtown South Bend

Enjoy a beautiful stroll through Downtown South Bend while sipping on a glass of wine. During every wine walk you will get three wine tastings and three complimentary appetizers at each participating restaurant. Free carriage rides are provided by Dream Coach Carriages. Admission is $40 per person. For more information on restaurants taking part in the wine walk, please visit www.eatdrinkdtsb.com.

June 12th

Footloose The Musical 8:00 P.M.

The Round Barn Theatre at Amish Acres

Kick up your Sunday shoes with this musical adaptation of Footloose. Admission is $7 to $48 depending on the seating. For more information on show times and ticket purchasing, please visit their wesite at www.amishacres.com.

June 13th

The 27th Annual Elkhart Jazz Festival

Fireworks

3:00 P.M.

The Lerner Theatre

St. Joseph County 4H Fair Grounds

Wakarusa Bluegrass Festival

5:00 P.M.

Wakarusa

The Elkhart Jazz Festival will be celebrating their 27th year. This three-day weekend will feature more than 100 world-class performers. Admission is anywhere between $35 to $280, depending on the type of pass you purchase. For more information about the festival, please visit their website at www. elkhartjazzfestival.com.

Enjoy the summer air while listening to the relaxing music of bluegrass. This weekend long festival has a full line up of bluegrass music and activities. Admission is free. For more information about the festival, please visit their website at www. wakarsabluegrassfestival.com.

June 17th

June 22nd

Wedding Belles

2nd Annual Birthday Party

Essenhaus Heritage Hall, Middlebury

The Music Village-Downtown South Bend

7:00 P.M.

This funny, lighthearted drama will keep you laughing as you watch a young girl who has come to a little Texas town to marry an infantryman before he is shipped off to World War II. Admission is $14 to $30 depending on seating. For more information, please visit their website at www.essenhaus.com.

June 20th

Brit Floyd Discovery World Tour 8:00 P.M.

Morris Performing Arts Center

Having performed to over one million fans around the world since its first show in Liverpool, England, in January 2011, BRIT FLOYD, "The World's Greatest Pink Floyd Show" returns to North America to perform a stunning new three tour chronological musical journey spanning the entire recording career of Pink Floyd from 1967-1994. For more information on how to purchase tickets, please visit their website at- www.MorrisCenter.org or call 574-235-9190.

2nd Annual Bob Newton Memorial Race 9:00 A.M.

Newton Park, Lakeville

This free admission race is perfect for families and kids of all ages. Bicycle races, auto show and a model car show are just some of the events taking place. For more information, please visit their website at ww.newtonpark.org.

June 21st

Lake Michigan Shore Wine Festival 1:00 P.M.

Weko Beach, Bridgeman, MI

Toast to the coast with some great local wines of the Lake Michigan Shore Wine Country. Enjoy music and food along the shore of Lake Michigan. Admission is $15 per person. For more information, please visit their website at www.lakemichiganwinefest.com.

June 22nd

South Pacific: In Concert 2:00 P.M.

Century Center

This special presentation of Richard Rodgers and Oscar Hammerstein’s classic musical will be at the Century Center. Admission is $25 per person. For more information about the show and ticket purchasing, please call 574-234-1112 or visit their website at www.sbct.org.

12:00 P.M.

It’s TMV’s second birthday and they are ready to celebrate. Music, crafts and fun for the whole family! Admission is determined on how much you would like to donate. Kids under 10 get in for free with an adult. For more information about their birthday bash, please visit their website at www. musicvillage.org.

June 27th

St. Joseph County 4H Fair 8:00 A.M.

St. Joseph County 4H Fair Grounds

It’s that time of year again where the county fairs are starting back up. Free admission before 9 A.M. For more information about events and concerts, please visit their website at www.4hfair.com.

June 28th

Hannah & Friends 5K Run & Fun Mile Walk 9:00 A.M.

Hannah & Friends Neighborhood, South Bend

Help us take the "DIS" out of disabilities!! The Hannah & Friends 5K Run & Fun Walk will be held on Saturday, June 28 at Hannah & Friends Neighborhood. This run/walk is not only a chance for the community to participate in a fitness activity and support a local cause, but it is also a unique opportunity to bring together individuals of all abilities. Through the event we hope to further our mission of awareness and compassion by asking the community to help us take the ‘dis’ out of disabilities. For more information, please call 574217-7860.

Mishawaka Summerfest 8:00 A.M.

Merrifield North Park

The 31st Annual Mishawaka Summerfest will start at 8 A.M. and run until 1:00 P.M. Admission is free. For more information regarding events happening at the summerfest, please visit their website at www. mishawaka.in.gov/summerfest.

10:00 P.M.

The St. Joseph County 4H Fair is having their annual fireworks display. This event is free after admission to the fairgrounds. For more information, please visit their website at www.4hfair.com.

July 2nd

Comedy Uprising 8:00 P.M.

Smith’s Downtown Tap and Grill, Mishawaka

Enjoy a night full of laughter for free at Smith’s Downtown Tap and Grill in Mishawaka. For more information, please visit their website at www. smithsdowntown.com.

July 4th

DTSB First Fridays 5:00 P.M.

Downtown South Bend

Enjoy this 4th of July in Downtown South Bend with their First Friday’s celebration. Live musical performances, kid activities, food, drink specials and so much more. Visit www.dtsbfirstfridays.com for more information.

Goshen First Friday’s: Goshen Cruisin’ Reunion 5:00 P.M.

Downtown Goshen

Celebrate this 4th of July at Goshen’s First Friday event this year. They will be bringing back their hometown cruisin’ reunion. There will also be music, food and a ton of classic old cars driving down Main Street. For more information, please visit their website at www.cityonthego.org/firstfridays.

July 5th

Summer Stroll With A Master Gardener 11:00 A.M.

Wellfield Botanic Gardens, Elkhart

Looking for something fun and relaxing to do this 4th of July weekend? Visit Wellfield Botanic Gardens and take a Summer Stroll with a Master Gardener. WBG Volunteer and Master Gardener Emma Wynn will be leading a guided tour of the Gardens on Saturday July 5th. Emma will be discussing the garden’s history, plants and upcoming summer highlights as you leisurely stroll through the different gardens, enjoying the beautiful artwork and scenery. Participants should meet at the education tent. Program will take place rain or shine. It is free with admission. No registration necessary. Call 574-266-2006 for more information.

June 29th

Blammo in Concert 9:00 P.M.

St. Joseph County 4H Fair Grounds

Local band, BLAMMO, will be at the St. Joseph County 4H Fair grounds. This concert is free after admission to the fair. For more information about the concert and other events happening at the St. Joseph County 4H Fair, please visit their website at www.4hfair.com. SASSY | JUNE 2014

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YWCA North Central Indiana: Tribute Awards and Auction

Food, fellowship and an opportunity to help women and children; that’s what Tribute is all about. The YWCA North Central Indiana hosted their 33rd annual Tribute Awards program on May 1st at the Hilton Garden Inn. Over 300 people arrived to honor three special community leaders, bid on exciting items in the silent and live auction and learn more about the work the YWCA is doing in St. Joseph and Elkhart Counties.

The Tribute crowd bidding on live auction items as Y WCA board member Judy Jankowski describes a British Columbia townhouse from the stage.

The YWCA has been a voice for women and their families in our community since 1903. Serving over 1,500 women and children a year, the YWCA is the leading community provider of domestic violence services and also provides sexual assault programs, chemical dependency programs and classes on economic empowerment and self-sufficiency. Tribute consisted of a cocktail hour and sit down dinner with opportunities for participates to bid on unique silent auction items, services and experiences throughout the night. There was also a competitive live auction as bidders fought for luxurious vacations.

2014 Women of the Year Candy Yoder, Nancy King and Jacqueline Barton.

Tribute recognizes community leaders who help create positive change in the lives of women and their children. Three honorees were named the YWCA Women of Year: Candy Yoder, CEO of Child and Parent Services (CAPS) in Elkhart; Nancy King, former YWCA board president and longtime supporter, and Jacqueline Barton, president and CEO of Specialized Staffing Solutions. The Donna R. Pfeil Volunteer of the Year Award was also presented to Jan Hofferth for her work organizing food drives and parties for the YWCA women and children. Pictures Courtesy to Y WCA

Volunteer of the Year Janet Hofferth acknowledging her award from Donna Pfeil.

Honoree Candy Yoder accepting award from Y WCA board chair Patricia Primmer, Y WCA president & CEO Linda Baechle and WSBT anchor & Tribute emcee Jennifer Copeland.

Center For Hospice Care’s

Helping Hands Award Dinner

Honorary Chair Art Decio and Helping Hands Award recipient Bob Deputy following this year’s event.

Elkhart civic leader Bob Deputy was honored at Center for Hospice Care’s 30th Annual Helping Hands Award Dinner on May 7th. The dinner, held at Hilton Garden Inn, was attended by 470 people and raised $223,845. Since its inception in 1985, the annual event has raised more than $3.2 million. The proceeds from this year’s event will be used to help CHC keep its 34-year-old promise that no one eligible for hospice care will ever be turned away, regardless of their ability to pay. Bob Deputy’s community spirit is legendary. He has been part of numerous initiatives to make Northern Indiana, particularly Elkhart County, a better place to live and work. During 40-year tenure at Godfrey Marine, a business owned by his family, Bob served as CEO. He continued to apply his expertise in business and fundraising to benefit good causes throughout the community after his retirement. Art Decio, who generously supported the event at the Dinner Champion level, also served as honorary dinner chair. The dinner chairs were Becky and Corey Cressy. Corey, in his role as chairman of the Center for Hospice Care board of directors, was joined by Hospice Foundation board chair Terry Rodino to present the award to Deputy. The Helping Hands Award honors an individual, couple or family who demonstrates civic and charitable stewardship to improve the quality of living in the communities served by Center for Hospice Care. The award recognizes the recipients for exhibiting exceptional generosity, outstanding community achievements, direct financial support, or by motivating others to give. Center for Hospice Care is a premier not-for-profit, community-based agency improving the quality of living through hospice, home health, grief counseling and community education. With offices in South Bend, Mishawaka, Plymouth and Elkhart, Center for Hospice Care serves St. Joseph, Marshall, Elkhart, Fulton, Kosciusko, LaGrange, La Porte and Starke Counties.

Photos Courtesy to LollyMarie Photography

The Helping Hands Award honors those who demonstrate civic and charitable stewardship to improve the quality of living in the communities served by Center for Hospice Care. SASSY | JUNE 2014

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