The first person I consulted was Intuitive Medium, Metaphysical Radio Show Host, Metaphysical Editor for OMTIMES Magazine, and Spiritual Teacher, Shelly Wilson, who shared the following wisdom: “I believe that living authentically involves being genuine with all people you come into contact with. This means not being afraid to be yourself or to feel the need to hide certain aspects of yourself due to fear of what others may think. It’s necessary to allow the “real deal” to shine through always. In other words, you are aligning your thoughts, words, and actions with your beliefs. You are walking your talk and talking your walk. I feel that it is important to always be conscious of the energy you are putting out in the Universe. Being mindful of the words you choose to express is being considerate of others’ feelings yet still being authentic. It’s important to honor and respect everyone’s beliefs yet not always energetically appropriate to share your own. In no way do I feel that if you choose to remain silent are you being less than authentic. Rather, I feel that you are simply being compassionate. There is a difference.”
require tons of paperwork and would end up in some big huge expensive ordeal that I would have to hire an attorney to deal with. So, I put it off. Still, every time I had to speak or use my ex-husband’s name, it made more and more uncomfortable—it wasn’t me. I hadn’t taken my maiden name when we divorced because, as an adoptee, that name hadn’t really been me either. Actually, no name ever had until I began using Paula Renaye, which is a variation of my middle name, professionally several years ago. That name made me feel more like the real me inside than I ever had in my life. I loved it! The problem was that it wasn’t technically “real”—I’d made it up—it wasn’t legal and it kept me stuck explaining who I was or wasn’t on any given day. I didn’t feel congruent or authentic. It was mentally confusing, and it was energetically holding me back from taking action in important areas of my life.
Finally, I sucked it up and went to the courthouse to find out what I had to do to make myself official. I miraculously found the correct office on the first try. I found the sample forms that seemed most appropriate, filled them out and then took what I hoped was the correct paperwork to the clerk the next Next I called on Author, Certified Pro- day. fessional Coach, Reiki Master Teacher, QHHT regression hypnosis practitioner That was on Friday. I had serious doubts and EFT facilitator, Paula Renaye, who about the paperwork being correct or happened to be working on creating a “enough,” but the clerk assured me that if more authentic life for herself by over- there were problem, someone would call and coming fear and limiting beliefs. Paula let me know what else was needed. Monshared the following about her personal day morning, bright and early, they called. I journey: could come by the courthouse and pick up my signed name change order! The judge I have had plenty of limiting beliefs, most had signed the paperwork Friday afternoon recently around having my name changed, and they had filed it officially My “big huge which I felt needed to be done for me to truly expensive ordeal” had taken less than two be me. I was certain it would take forever, hundred dollars and one business day!
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