MARvelous Living Magazine - The Bloom Issue - Summer 2024

South Charlotte Chapter Mom Naomi Oglesby with husband Derek and sons Ashton and Derek.

Mid-Atlantic Regional Chair Tracey Hawkins ensures inclusivity for children with autism and other special needs.

Bonika Wilson shares insights on strengthening marriages by applying Fortune 500 principles.

A curated selection of must-read books chosen by some of our Editors.

Attorney Robyn Hicks-Guinn shares essential estate planning tips to secure your family's future and protect your assets.

Discover how interior designer Kim McMillian creates her serene and stylish home.

Read the first letter from MARvelous Living’s Regional Editor - in - Chief

McGill McFarland, businesswoman and South Charlotte mom, models fashion looks that perfectly embody our motto.

Beauty Editor, Dwella Moton Nelson, shows you how to age gracefully.

Dr. Kalifa Oliver shares how mothers can prioritize self-care and embrace their personal narratives.

Discover the journey of Nichelle Levy, our National Corresponding Secretary, as she shares insights on leadership and inspiring others.

We check in with Past Regional

Tarcia Flemming about her life after the Director’s Chair.

Editor Ebony - Carolina Franklin shares her best suggestions for enjoying nature during the warm months.

Summer 2024

Welcome to the first issue of MARvelous Living! I am over the moon about about her debut! I have learned so much about the families in our Region, and I’m thrilled to finally share these stories with you

A little over a year ago, I was appointed Regional Editor by Regional Director Tiffany Spann-Wilder, with a recommendation from Immediate Past Regional Director Tarcia Flemming As RE, I had a vision for this publication and knew what it would take to create something our Marvelous Mid-Atlantic Region would be proud of As a former magazine editor, I have the experience of building a publication from the ground up. It takes dedication, creativity, and a lot of hard work

So this time around, I once again leaned on my work ethic, a great editorial team, and the grace of God to guide us on this journey

I’m grateful for my team of Editors who raised their hands and joined me on this journey Everyone in this organization is busy, but these Moms made the time to do the work. And this first issue is a result of everyone coming together to make it happen!

As you turn these pages and read the stories, I hope you feel as inspired as I do by the incredible talent, dedication, and spirit of our members Our Moms and Dads are truly making an impact in their communities. Whether they are leading innovative businesses, advocating for social change, or nurturing the next generation of leaders, they are all making their mark in some way. And I’m thankful they agreed to tell their stories here.

MARvelous Living is truly more than a magazine. And I think as you read this issue, you’ll see why

Thank you for being a part of this journey. Here’s to celebrating our shared achievements and looking forward to many more to come

I love to travel! Here are a few snaps from my recent trip to Paris

A few photos of my fam ly My husband Eric, and my twins Evynne and Eric (13) and Bellamy and Bostyn (7)

Bridgette West

Cheers, Bridgette West Regional Editor (in - Chief)

The reason I have the courage to

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Bridgette West EDITORIAL TEAM

REGIONAL EDITOR - IN - CHIEF & Travel Editor

Dr. Dwella Moton Nelson

MANAGING EDITOR AND BEAUTY EDITOR

Rachell Green

HOME & FAMILY EDITOR

Elyce Middlebrooks

NEWS & CULTURE EDITOR

Ebony Carolina-Franklin

WELLNESS & EMPOWERMENT

Tamara McGill McFarland COPY EDITOR

FASHION EDITOR

Gretchen Nelli

MARvelous Living Magazine is a lifestyle publication dedicated to enriching the lives of mothers within the Marvelous Mid-Atlantic Region of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Our mission is to be an empowering source of inspiration, knowledge, and camaraderie, fostering an unwavering sense of belonging while celebrating the journey of motherhood.

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MEET THE MARVELOUS EDITORS

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Meet Rachell Green, the Home Editor of the MARvelous Living Magazine. Rachell brings her writing skills and emerging knowledge of home- and family-centered content to the magazine. Rachell is the Chapter Editor for the Jazzy James River Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. She lends her wealth of experience in athletics and education to the magazine with a 'splash' of her quirky sense of humor. Rachell earned her B.A. in English and her Master's Degree in Educational Leadership from The University of South Carolina. Rachell has embraced the opportunity to be a dedicated stayat-home wife to Cedric and mother to Madeline (11), Cedric, Jr. (8), and Jonah (5). She serves as a volunteer on the PTA at Kaechele Elementary. She is the Chair of the Henrico County School Division’s Equity and Diversity Advisory Committee. Rachell loves to read and watch movies when she gets a moment to devote to herself.

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Meet Elyce Middlebrooks, the News and Events Editor of the MARvelous Living Magazine. Elyce is known for her vibrant blend of strategic insights and creative flair, elevating the magazine's content to new heights. Her extensive marketing acumen and rich experiences across corporate and nonprofit spheres allow her to bring unique perspectives to every story. As a proud member of the High Flying Hampton Chapter of Jack and Jill, Elyce weaves her community involvement into the magazine's narrative, enriching our connection with readers. Elyce holds an MBA from Florida A&M University, known for transforming business insights into captivating stories. When she's not orchestrating the latest features, she's the creative force behind Inspired Ink Co., a boutique stationery brand that revives the cherished art of handwritten communication. At home, Elyce is the heart of her family, sharing life's adventures with her husband, Reggie, and their two energetic boys, Maxwell and Weston. Whether fine-tuning a headline or sketching out new stationery, Elyce is driven by a mission to create meaningful connections through one story or one heartfelt note at a time.

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Meet Ebony Carolina-Franklin, the Wellness and Empowerment Editor of the MARvelous Living Magazine. Ebony is a lifelong lover of literature, wellness, and natural living. She has been a member of the Charming Charleston Chapter for 8 years. Ebony is passionately dedicated to the mission of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Bringing a curious nature, creativity, and an adventurous spirit to the magazine, she is excited about creating connections via our family’s stories throughout the Mid-Atlantic Region. Ebony holds a B.A. in Government from Wofford College, operates a homeschool co-op for Black families, and is a partner in her family’s handmade soap business, Fireflies Still Glow. Ebony and her husband, Otis, have spent 24 years navigating life together and raising their three spirited children: Otis (18) Olivia (15) and Miles (12). Whether camping in July in Florida, mountain hiking, or organizing an event– Ebony brings her naturally inquisitive nature and enthusiasm for new experiences to MARvelousLiving.

MEET THE MARVELOUS EDITORS

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Meet Dwella Moton Nelson (PhD), the Beauty Editor of the MARvelous Living Magazine. Dwella brings her undeniable warmth, creative spirit, writing expertise and laser-focused multi-tasking skills to support the MARvelous Living Visionaries as we build this incredible publication. Dwella is a Founding Member of the Graceful Greater Chapel Hill Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. If you have met Dwella, then you know that she adores all things “beauty”…both physical and spiritual beauty. After all, she owns a Natural Beauty Care Brand, Dr. TopicOils. Dwella carries a light that she loves to share with others including her husband of 23 years, Robert J. Nelson, IV and her sweet daughters, Gabriella (Age 14) and McKayla (Age 11). As an Assistant Professor at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, Dwella learned the delicate dance of teamwork and “taking up space” while holding strong to her faith. Dwella is a serial-entrepreneur who shares her knowledge and expertise on speaker platforms and in workshops that focus on using real estate as a Wealth Building Strategy. Favorites: Travel, Broadway, Music Concerts and Comedy Shows.

Meet Tamara McGill McFarland, the Fashion Editor of Marvelous Living Magazine. With nearly two decades of experience as a model, Tamara brings a unique perspective to the fashion industry. Having attended NC A&T State University and earned her marketing degree from UNCC, alongside being a proud member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., she effortlessly fuses her academic prowess with her innate creativity. Tamara is not just a fashionista; she's a thriving entrepreneur, podcast host, and acclaimed stylist. Her passion for fashion and innate sense of style have propelled her to success, including co-building a prosperous family business from the ground up. But Tamara's life extends far beyond the professional realm. She finds joy in family gatherings, meeting up with her Sensational South Charlotte Chapter Sister Moms, exploring the globe, and indulging in all things fabulous. Tune in to her podcast, "The Tamara's Taste," available on YouTube and Apple Podcasts, for a dose of style tips, laughter, and empowerment. For fashion inspiration, join her Instagram community @TheTamarasTaste.

Meet Gretchen Nelli, the Copy Editor of the MARvelous Living Magazine. Gretchen is a member and Chapter Editor of the Glorious Gastonia-Piedmont Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. She has been a member of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. for approximately 20 years. She was originally a member of the Charlotte Chapter with her two older children, Stephanie and Michael. Gretchen brings her excitement to assisting with the MARvelous Living Magazine. Gretchen earned her undergraduate degree from Harvard University. She obtained her Law Degree from Duke University. Outside of Jack and Jill, Gretchen is a member of the Zeta Mu Omega Chapter of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. and a sustainer in the Junior League of Charlotte.

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Ronette Anderson Richmond Chapter

Ronnette Anderson is the chapter Editor for the Remarkable Richmond Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. As a member for over 18 years, she brings passion, enthusiasm, and dedication to the roles she’s served in which have included Vice President, Financial Secretary, various committee chairs, and Grade Group Leader. In her professional career, she is the Supplier Diversity Program Manager for Cisco where she owns the US Sponsorship Program in which AA/Black owned businesses are afforded access to Cisco mentorship and coaching. She also works closely with executive leaders and colleagues throughout the company to double the diverse spend percentage with suppliers as part of Cisco’s Social Justice Beliefs and Actions Initiative. Personally, Ronnette enjoys spending time with family, entertaining, photography, and searching the web for new and creative ideas to make special occasions unique, memorable, and fun.

Sherelle Foust Wilmington Chapter

Editor Sherelle Foust is a member of the port city Wilmington, NC Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. As Chapter Editor, Sherelle also serves as Assistant to the Lead Teen Advisor. She enjoys working with chapter leadership to create strategic and innovative ways to evaluate programming needs and success to best meet the needs of the overall chapter. Her professional skills, as a Senior Study Director, at a research firm transfer easily into her Chapter leadership roles. She leads federally funded projects and serves state education agency clients to meet critical needs with long term outcomes. When Sherelle isn’t working, she cherishes quality time with her husband and two daughters, a sophomore at Howard University and sophomore in high school. She also deeply values her church family and sorority, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. with lifetime ties to her alma mater, North Carolina A&T State University.

I am a mom from the Sassy and Classy South Charlotte Chapter of Jack & Jill of America, Inc. I am a wife (Lambert Guinn) and a mother (Robert (8) and Henry (3)). We also share a fur baby, Rajah. I enjoy hiking, training for triathlons and curling up in my hammock to read a good book. When I take my 'Super Mom’ cape off, I enjoy giving estate planning, estate administration and guardianships counsel my clients at my law firm, Hicks Guinn Law, PLLC. We serve clients across the state of NC. I decided to practice estate planning after my father passed away from lung cancer when I was 19. My mom managed a mountain of medical bills, provided finances for our childhood home, supported me in college and cared for my younger sister. She carried on the dreams that she shared with my father. Drafting documents is not enough to guide family members after a loss. Leave advice, momentos/trinkets and a well-planned estate for your loved ones.

Robyn Guinn

South Charlotte Chapter

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Meet Fern Kelly, an unassuming contributing editor for MARvelous Living and proud member of the Captivating Columbia, SC Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Currently serving as Chapter President, Fern is focused on inclusion under her administration…everyone being “All-In” for Jack and Jill! Professionally, Fern is a Senior Account Executive for BlueCross BlueShield, directly responsible for managing over fifty accounts and millions of dollars in annual premium. Her faith and family (husband Melron, children Myles and Morgan) remind her about the importance of honoring your commitments and being grateful everyday. One of Fern’s favorite scriptures is “To whom much is given much is required.” Luke 12:48. Fern is giving of her time, talents, and treasure all for the benefit of others, and is committed to the mission and purpose of our beloved Jack and Jill!

Contributing photographer, Mom Nakia Newman is a native of Chicago. She has been a member of the South Charlotte Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. since 2012. Nakia and her husband, Michael, reside in Weddington, NC with their two boys, Jalen, a rising Senior at Princeton University, and Jackson, an 8th grader at Weddington Middle School. She has been blessed to shoot beautiful photographs of celebrities and famous public figures including Jada Pinkett Smith, Gabrielle Union, and Gayle King. While photography is her passion, she has enjoyed a successful 20 year career in Marketing in Financial Services and Banking. Nakia has spent the last six years in Marketing at Wells Fargo. She is a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. and The Girl Friends, Inc. Most weekends she can be found on a field watching one of her boys playing football or lacrosse. Family and photography bring her joy and fulfillment.

Kalifa Oliver, Ph.D. is an international experience coach, executive advisor, keynote speaker, author, and expert on building brilliant experiences using people-centered design and analytics. Dr. Oliver, A native from Trinidad, has her Ph.D. in Industrial- Organizational Psychology from Clemson University, Certification in People Analytics from Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), and is a proud graduate of Benedict College, an HBCU in Columbia, South Carolina. She is a dynamic speaker who coaches leaders to walk into their Main Character Season by reaching their leadership goals, taking control of their voice, space, and energy, She is an active member or Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc and Jack & Jill of America, Inc. She has consulted for several companies and industries including tech start-ups, non-profits, and Fortune 500 companies to help them reposition their culture and employer value proposition. She is focused on employee experience and people analytics.

Fern Kelly Columbia Chapter

Nakia Newman South Charlotte Chapter

Kalifa Oliver Spartanburg Chapter

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Kim Soden

Raleigh-Wake

Chapter

Kim Townes Soden hails from the Raleigh- Wake Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Currently, Kim serves as the chapter editor and prioritized publicizing the positive impact RWJJ has in the community.

Professionally, Kim owns Soden Anesthesia, LLC, and practices as a Certified registered Nurse Anesthetist. She has made it her mission to increase diversity within the profession and serves as the HBCU Co-Chair of the Diversity in Nurse Anesthesia Mentorship program. Outside the operating room Kim enjoys traveling, the arts, and she is a food enthusiast. She is the co-Founder of the Wake Forest Film Festival and the Executive director of the NC Indian and South Asian Film Festival committee. Her greatest joy is being a mom to her three sons Nigel, Harrison, and Blake and a wife to her loving husband Michael.

Tiffany

Tate

Winston-Salem Chapter

Meet Tiffany Tate, Contributing Editor for MARvelous Living and an inimitable member of the Winston-Salem Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Currently serving as the chapter's Editor, Tiffany blends her leadership and creativity with her commitment to community engagement. Professionally, she is the Founder and CEO of Career Maven Consulting, where she helps ambitious professionals find and do good work on purpose through career & leadership coaching, leadership development, and talent advisory support for companies. Outside of her entrepreneurial ventures, Tiffany enjoys exploring art, food, and fashion, and can often be found sipping a chai tea latte or cooking for her family and friends. Her deep commitment to seeing a better world for her daughter’s future serves as a catalyst for her professional and personal endeavors.

Tiffany Victor-Castleberry Charlotte Chapter

Meet Dr. Tiffany Victor-Castleberry, the proactive “Stay Ready So You Don’t Have To Get Ready” Chapter Editor for the Charismatic Charlotte Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. A transplant from Chicago, Tiffany brought her dynamic personality and sharp leadership to the forefront upon arrival. At Atrium Health, she excels as the Vice President of Population Health and Care Management for the Greater Charlotte Market, where she spearheads value-based care initiatives across a team of over 400. She serves on two Alma Mater Alumni Boards as well as the Charlotte Family Housing Board. Tiffany cherishes family time, so she is often found boating on Lake Norman or mentoring future leaders. Her commitment to philanthropy and mentorship is driven by her desire to give back. Her presence resonates with warmth and laughter making every encounter memorable.

'EGG-ucation' Celebration at the White House

On a brisk April 1st, the White House South Lawn became a vibrant stage for the annual Easter Egg Roll, where Jack and Jill families joined a joyful crowd of over 40,000. This year, under a theme of “EGG-ucation” championed by First Lady Jill Biden, the lawn was transformed into an expansive classroom. Children from various backgrounds reveled in activities designed to spark their interest in science, technology, engineering, and math, turning the iconic setting into a playground of learning and discovery.

Despite intermittent rain, the event attracted a record attendance, echoing a tradition that dates back to 1878. First Lady Jill Biden’s initiative to blend educational pursuits with traditional festivities highlighted the day, featuring a reading nook, science projects, and insights into astronomical phenomena like the solar eclipse. Additionally, the festive atmosphere was punctuated by appearances from the Easter Bunny and themed stations that provided both fun and knowledge.

President Biden expressed his delight about hosting the event, noting on NBC’s Today show, "This is the people’s house. It always makes me feel good to look out there and see average Americans just walking around, looking at what’s going on. Because they own it." He joined the first lady in engaging with the children during egg hunting and rolling activities, emphasizing Easter’s themes of hope, renewal, and community. Over 64,000 eggs were used for the event, highlighting the extensive preparation and community effort involved in bringing this festive occasion to life.

Children's Cluster

By Dr. Sukeena Whiteman Stephens

On March 2, 2024, the Greater Fredericksburg Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc., held its 2024 MidAtlantic Children's Cluster in Alexandria, Virginia. The event gathered 350 mothers and children from 31 chapters across Virginia, North Carolina, and South Carolina. Themed "Taking Flight: Traveling Our History & Future," the event emphasized STE[A]M (Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, and Mathematics) education, particularly in aviation and space.

The event began with an opening speech by Dr. Shenell Tolson, "The Public Health Scientist," who inspired attendees with her enthusiasm for science and provided educational book giveaways. Various workshops throughout the day offered hands-on learning experiences. In the "Science of Drumming" workshop, children explored the science behind percussion. The "Hidden Figures" workshop highlighted the contributions of African American women to STEM fields, inspired by the popular film.

Interactive stations at the "Up! Up! Up! and Away!" workshop demonstrated five key STEAM initiatives, while the "Sky Explorers: Young Aviators in the World of STEM Aviation Expo" provided insights into aviation history, flight principles, and future aerospace technologies. Mothers also benefited from specialized workshops, including sessions on achieving success with expert Kellie King and understanding neurodivergence from leading pediatricians and psychologists. The event also featured community-building activities, such as line dancing lessons led by KP Line Dance King of Richmond, enhancing the fun and camaraderie among participants.

Generous sponsorship support enabled the event to contribute to the community, including donations of duffle bags and hygiene kits to TAGGED, a nonprofit supporting children in foster care. The 2024 Mid-Atlantic Children's Cluster successfully fostered a day of education, empowerment, and community engagement, leaving participants inspired and ready to explore their own futures in STEAM.

Lights, Camera, Action!

Burlington-Graham Chapter

On February 17, 2024, our Guys and Dolls (firstfourth grades) embarked upon exciting career exploration in the world of broadcast media and journalism at Elon University’s School of Communication. The goal was to inspire our Jacks and Jills to consider a career in broadcast journalism and black-focused media by gaining hands-on experience.

Research shows that 13% of local TV newsroom employees are African American, however, only 6% of Production Directors are Black. Since local news media is a primary source of information for many people, it plays a vital role in the public's general knowledge of minority communities, policy debates, as well as broader and more comprehensive worldview matters.

During the activity, each child not only recorded a live news segment, but they also gained practical experience operating the teleprompter, sound, graphics, and lighting equipment. The activity prioritized “We Are One” for differently-abled children by catering to various learning styles including visual through use of a teleprompter and pictures, auditory through transcript reading, and kinesthetic through role-

The activity held particular significance for our chapter, as Elon University dedicated a building on its campus to Burlington-Graham Associate Jewel, Janice Ratliff, who served Elon for more than three decades and was a consistent mentor to students.

This was the first time Elon University partnered with BGJJ, which will open a pipeline of opportunities for other minority focused organizations. Elon faculty remarked that “this will be the first of many partnerships with the Burlington-Graham Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc.”

Annual Fundraiser a “Shoe-In”!

The Capital City Chapter

TThe Capital City Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. held its annual fundraiser, Giving from the Sole: A Black Tie Sneaker Affair. The impact of our endeavors has been far-reaching, supporting initiatives such as the Boys and Girls Club of Wake County, The Green Chair Project, March of Dimes, Toys for Tots, Wake Up and Read, Garner Road Community Center, and Interact.

The funds we raised have translated into significant, tangible achievements. For instance, a notable $10,000 STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) grant was awarded to the Imhotep Academy at NC State in 2019. This grant infused STEM education with vitality for local elementary and middle school students, shaping their futures. Our philanthropic scope extends to the GAP Fund, a lifeline for college students on the brink of degree completion, alongside substantial grants of $100,000 to the Children's Defense Fund and the March of Dimes, making a real difference in the lives of those we support.

The ball was held on Friday, February 9, 2024, from 7:00 to 11:00 p.m. The exquisite ambiance of The Fairview, nestled at 1125 Capital Blvd., Raleigh, NC, provided the perfect backdrop. Through hard work, dedication, and the efforts of our Fundraising Committee, led by Fundraising Chair Dr. Netasha McLawhorn, our chapter raised over $12,000 to benefit our community and the Jack and Jill Foundation.

Reality Store & Market Place Charming

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d children were deeply engaged in pporting Norfolk Public School’s Family University ommunity Event. They passionately volunteered for and cilitated The Reality Store and Market Place activities. The eality Store provided an immersive simulation, focusing on ousehold money management and planning, with the aim imparting crucial financial skills like goal setting, decision aking, and career planning Assigned with careers, laries, and diverse family scenarios, middle and high hool students navigated their finances within the Reality ore, learning to manage budgets effectively

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The middle and high school students embarked on a journey of financial discovery, where each was entrusted with unique career paths, corresponding salaries, and diverse familial circumstances. Participants learned budgeting skills while navigating through the complexities of real-world financial scenarios

Our Chapter Mothers, who come from a diverse rang professions and areas of expertise, were incredibly h guiding and mentoring us They advised us on budge allocation and financial priorities, helping us envision work toward our desired lifestyle. In addition, the Ma Place program offered an engaging and interactive l environment for students in 3rd to 5th grade. Through program, students learned about personal economics paths, and decision-making skills

Our active participation in these initiatives shows our commitment to empowering youth with the knowledg skills they need for successful financial management a informed career decision-making

A Night of Opulence

Florence Chapter

Pure Elegance is what the Fantastic Florence Chapter of Jack and Jill exemplified with their second annual fundraising Gala, “A Night of Opulence.” This year’s purpose was to raise money for a local Boys and Girls Club. The Boys and Girls Club of Hemingway was chosen. They serve 50 to 55 children in this rural town under the direction of Marc Mitchell.

Over 100 guests were greeted with the theme of African Elegance by Chic Events. The stunning entrance and tables were adorned with lush greenery and beautiful cream hydrangeas. The signature cocktails and spirits were provided by PharmD. Dinner, which was very appeasing to the palate, included a choice of pot roast or salmon with seasoned vegetables over a rice pilaf. It was catered by Dap’s Kitchen and Catering, LLC . The live band, Level 10 Band and Show, kept the guests on their feet and entertained.

This event was a huge success from the beginning to end. Under the direction of Foundation Chair Melissa Hamer, CVP Dr. Donya Wallace and CP Kenyetta Kennedy-Sanders the Boys and Girls Club of Hemingway received a total donation of $8000. A sizable donation was also contributed to the Jack and Jill Foundation.

The success of this event was thanks to our: Platinum Sponsor, City of Lake City; Diamond Sponsors, Greyfeather Group Exp. Realty and OneSource Integrative Medicine. As well as the numerous Gold, Silver, Bronze, and Friends of Jack and Jill sponsors.

Hats off to the Moms of the Fantastic Florence Chapter for their hard work and dedication in ensuring that this event was outstanding and memorable.

Annual Black Family Day

The Greater Chapel Hill Chapter

The Greater Chapel Hill Chapter (GCHC) held our Annual Black Family Day at the glorious and Blackowned, Allied Organic Farm. We were excited to celebrate the achievements of our two graduating seniors, Amaya Barnes and Zuri Aissa Olivia Trice. Our GCHC families heard from the farm owners, Mr and Mrs. Savage, as they shared their passions for land ownership and farming. They gave us insight into their day-to-day responsibilities on the farm and explained why it is important to have African Americans in

In addition, NC State Legislator, Representative Ray Jeffers, spoke about his career journey in local and state government as a young African American male. Rep. Jeffers shared his personal experiences as an owner of a 100+ acre farm that once belonged to his greatgrandfather. He also discussed the importance of land ownership and the intentional maintenance of generational wealth in families.

Our very own Greater Chapel Hill Chartering Moms and elected officials, Mom Paris Miller-Foushee (Chapel Hill Town Councilwoman) and Mom Rani Dasi (Chapel Hill Carrboro School Board Member), showed their support to our families and enjoyed their time connecting with our chapter and community advocates.

Our GCHC families were thrilled to have a hands-on opportunity to learn how to fish from several of our Father’s Auxiliary members! Our Dads also joined in to coach our Jacks and Jills through field day-inspired activities and competitions that were fun for the entire GCHC Chapter. Events included sack racing, a twolegged race and a water balloon toss. Our GCHC Black Family Day was an exceptional expression of community connection and family memories.

Where Elegance Meets Giving Back: Brunch On The Bay

The Hampton Chapter

More than 150 guests, including our esteemed Associate Jewels, gathered at the scenic waterfront for the 'Brunch on the Bay for a Cure,' an event hosted by the Hampton Chapter. The event was filled with hope and a shared commitment to making a difference in the fight against childhood illnesses

The brunch was a sophisticated oasis on the water, with stunning hues of pink and blue transforming the Mt Vernon cruise ship Guests indulged in delectable dishes while enjoying breathtaking views The inaugural event was led by a dynamic team consisting of Chair Alicia Durrah, Princess Walls, Samantha Snead, Leah Richardson, Natoya Haskins, Jade Ranger, Ellen Chever, and Fundraising Chair Denise Peterson It was a huge success that redefined the concept of fundraising elegance.

Each ticket sold at the brunch played a pivotal role in combating childhood illnesses, with proceeds benefiting esteemed organizations such as St. Jude, the Sickle Cell Association, and the Jack and Jill of America Foundation The funds raised will help finance new research initiatives at St Jude, provide support services through the Sickle Cell Association, and fund educational programs at the Jack and Jill of America Foundation

The event's real beauty went beyond the exquisite setting, demonstrating the power of the community One of the mothers, reflecting on the event, shared, “Seeing all the Jack and Jill families gathered for such a worthy cause truly warmed my heart.” The silent auction, upbeat music, and clinking of glasses created a vibrant atmosphere of fellowship and shared purpose, showcasing the power of our Jack and Jill community

We extend our heartfelt gratitude to the dedicated mothers whose tireless efforts made this event not only possible but a resounding success Their commitment inspires us all

Black Wax Mueseum

The Queen City Chapter

Queen City's Black Wax Museum exploded with history this year, welcoming over 200 attendees! Attendees were provided passports as they traveled through time to meet some of the most influential African Americans. These passports allowed the time travelers to write encouraging words of praise for our participants to read after their presentations.

The highlight for many was the unveiling of brandnew figures and props. Guests were impressed and enjoyed learning about the new additions to the Black wax line up. The teen groups energized the event with their HBCU activation which showcased the rich legacies of Historical Black Colleges and Universities, including Howard, North Carolina A&T State, and North Carolina Central, just to name a few.

The teens were able to work with many of their parents to research, listen to stories and recount memories of family members who proudly attended. Many participants expressed the importance of creating the space for the legacy to continue. Teens were also dressed to impress in their HBCU paraphernalia to illustrate their knowledge of the school’s history.

The preparation for the museum was a testament to Jack’s and Jill’s dedication to education and being proud of our rich past. Participants spent weeks researching their figures, crafting detailed costumes, and preparing informative presentations. One young Jill's portrayal of Congresswoman Dr. Alma Adams afforded that Jill to meet her in person!

The museum wasn't just static wax figures—it was a vibrant learning experience for everyone to enjoy. This annual event is a vital reminder of African Americans' rich history and enduring contributions, leaving a lasting impression on all who attend.

Got Soul: Savor the Culture Festival

SOUTH CHARLOTTE CHAPTER

photos by: GAVIN LINDSAY OF GLINDZ VISUALS

The Got Soul: Savor the Culture Festival presented by Lowe’s, was a vibrant celebration that drew over 700 attendees from across the region and beyond to The Amp Ballantyne on April 27. Against a backdrop of lively music and delicious food, attendees danced, laughed, and forged enduring memories. The event featured a standout performance by the legendary DJ Kool and a variety of culinary delights from local food trucks, ensuring an engaging experience for all.

Beyond the festivities, the Got Soul Festival served as a platform for meaningful change. Thanks to generous contributions from sponsors, vendors, and guests, the South Charlotte Chapter raised over $50,000 to support the initiatives of partner organizations like Do Greater, Families Forward Charlotte, Freedom Within Walls, and the Jack and the Jill of America Foundation.

This inaugural event, spearheaded by Foundation Chair Bonika Wilson and Event Co-Chair Tiffani Jones under the leadership of President Dr. Kimberly Odom, showcased the power of community and the impact of collective action. Their leadership and the chapter's commitment to philanthropy were instrumental in creating an event that not only entertained but also made a significant difference in the community. The Got Soul Festival sets a high standard for integrating enjoyment with altruism, reinforcing our dedication to uplifting and supporting those around us.

Entertainment for your future kings (and queens).

From Hampton to Harlem

Mya Walls' Dance Dreams Take Flight

WRITTEN BY ELYCE MIDDLEBROOKS

Let me introduce Mya Walls, a shining star from the Hampton Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Her dedication to mastering various dance styles has taken her from local stages in Hampton to performing in New York City. This remarkable young lady is a captivating dancer, a dedicated student, and a pillar of her community.

Mya's journey with dance began 13 years ago. Her passion for dance has led her to master various techniques, including ballet, tap, jazz, contemporary, hip-hop, and character. Mya’s dedication extends beyond the stage. She has actively participated in iDance, a student teaching program. Since 2019, Mya has been sharing her love for dance with others. Her commitment to excellence in dancing has also been evident in her membership in The Movement Ballet and The Movement Dance Company.

Mya's talents extend far beyond the dance floor. She maintains an impressive 4.4 GPA as an International Baccalaureate student, exemplifying her intellectual aptitude and wellroundedness. Her enthusiasm for learning and determination to achieve success are truly admirable. Mya's dance skills have taken her to the heart of dance in New York City. During the summers of 2022 and 2023, she spent her time honing her craft at the prestigious Dance Theatre of Harlem. Her dedication earned her a full merit scholarship to train at The Ailey School in the summer of 2024.

Mya's story is more than just personal glory. It's a powerful testament to the potential that blossoms with dedication and the right support system. She serves as a beacon of hope, particularly for young girls of color who may not always see themselves represented in the dance world. Mya's journey exemplifies the power of perseverance fueled by a community like the Hampton Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. The cornerstone of this support system is Mya's mother, Princess Walls; unwavering encouragement exemplifies the spirit of Jack and Jill. Princess Walls reminds her children to "always make it a great day," and it is the motto that fuels Mya's drive no matter the challenge.

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On the Rise

A CELEBRATION OF OUR YOUTH AND THE DIVERSITY OF THEIR ACCOMPLISHMENTS!

BY RACHELL GREEN

An important goal for us, as members of Jack and Jill of America, Inc., is to expand educational and cultural opportunities for all children. Any great movement begins at home and our children are a testament to our dedication to this endeavor.

Welcome to our first installment of “On the Rise,” a section dedicated to the accomplishments of our Pre-K-Middle School children. It is exiting to see such a vast and diverse set of skills that our children possess. We get a chance applaud all of our children as we expand our village.

Aeress Graves, daughter of Bobbi Graves from the James River, VA chapter, has been recognized for Excellence in Academics. Jill Aeress was selected as Student of the Year at Bailey Bridge Middle School in Chesterfield County, VA. Out of 1,500 students, she was chosen as one of two students to receive this honor.

Angelina Coq, daughter of Chimma Coq from the GastoniaPiedmont, NC chapter, is a Volleyball Champion! Jill Angelina’s volleyball club won their second championship in Cherokee, NC. At school, Gaston Day School, she excels as a 7th grade representative, JV volleyball player, and middle school soccer player, all while maintaining over 90% grades in all her classes, including honors Math (pre-Algebra).

Jill Aeress Graves

Jill Angelina Coq

Jack Joshua Jones

Jill Kai McAdory

Jill Madeline Green

Jill Madison Grace Ervin

Joshua Jones, son of RS Dorrette Grant from the Fayetteville, NC chapter, was inducted into the Junior National Honor Society on February 26, 2024, after two years of making straight "A"s. Not only is Jack Joshua a scholar, but he is also a member of the basketball team.

Kai McAdory, daughter of Kendra McAdory from the RaleighWake, NC chapter, received her first-degree black belt in Karate in November 2023. At nine years old, she trained for four months to achieve this goal. Training included running three miles, learning karate forms, and demonstrating perseverance!

Madeline D. Green, daughter of Chapter Editor Rachell D. Green from the James River, VA chapter, competed in her first Jiu Jitsu tournament on February 17, 2024, and earned a gold medal for her efforts. Jill Madeline continues to train in excellence as she progresses through the ranks.

Madison Grace Ervin, daughter of RNC Chair LaShondra Jones Ervin from the James River, VA chapter, premiered with Greater Richmond Children's Choir at age nine. She performed a powerful piece as Virginia O'Hanlon during the November 25, 2023, performance of "Let It Snow" by the Richmond Symphony, under the direction of Conductor Chia-Hsuan Lin.

Maliah Noel, daughter of Deborah Noel from the Raleigh-Wake, NC chapter, has earned straight “A”s at Franklin Academy in Wake Forest, NC through unwavering self-discipline, high expectations, and hard work. Beyond academics, she is a kindhearted friend, loves to read, and is developing a talent for culinary arts and presentation.

Ofejiro Sido, son of PD Annette Sido from the Gastonia-Piedmont, NC chapter, excelled in robotics. Jack Ofejiro competed on his middle school robotics team, winning 1st Prize for Robotic Performance. His love for coding and robotics began with a Jack & Jill grade group activity that introduced him to coding, which he continued to pursue and excel in. This accomplishment demonstrates a direct correlation between outstanding programming and educational development.

Ryleigh Johnson, daughter of Delisa Johnson from the South Charlotte, NC chapter, has achieved excellence in education. Jill Ryleigh earned a place on the A/B Honor Roll for the first semester. Ryleigh’s dedication to her studies this semester continues to pay off. Hard work will lead to greater accomplishments in the future.

Tate Carswell, son of Nadine Lettman-Carswell, 2nd/3rd Age Group Co-Chair from the South Charlotte, NC chapter, has achieved excellence in the Chinese language. Jack Tate is a 3rd grader at the South Academy of International Languages in Charlotte, NC. He was recognized as a 2nd place winner in the Chinese Language Picture Book Reading Contest on March 9, 2024. He also competed as a finalist in the National Chinese Speech competition on March 16, 2024, where he earned honorable distinction for his speech and interview.

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WRITTEN BY: RONETTE ANDERSON, SHERELLE FOUST, EBONY CAROLINA - FRANKLIN, FERN KELLY, KIM SODEN, TIFFANY TATE, TIFFANY VICTOR-CASTLEBERRY

OUR FOUNDER, MARION TURNER STUBBS THOMAS

AIn the heart of winter, the MidAtlantic Region of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. blossomed with celebrations of our annual Founders' Day. Marking 86 years since Marion Stubbs Thomas sowed the seeds of this formidable organization, our

chapters from the Virginias to the Carolinas each painted their corner of the region with festivities that embodied the spirit of our organization.

Jack and Jill of America, Inc. was founded in 1938 by a group of twenty African-American women in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. These mothers created a beautiful opportunity for their children to serve the community while fulfilling educational, cultural, and social initiatives.

Our inspirational guiding principles of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. continue to provide vision to our mother members as we encourage each other to provide community service and philanthropic opportunities for our children as they grow in leadership.

We celebrated 86 years of service in Jack and Jill of America, Inc. this year by gathering together across the Mid-Atlantic Region to encourage, uplift, celebrate, and honor everything that this illustrious organization has provided for our families. Long live Jack and Jill.

Charleston: Cultivating Sisterhood and Wellness

By: Ebony Carolina-Franklin | Photos: Otis Franklin III

The Charming Charleston Chapter celebrated our Founders with an afternoon filled with food, fellowship, and fun! Mothers, Fathers, and Associates gathered for a delightful lunch where the spirit of sisterhood was palpable. The event was planned by Mothers Tamekia Weaver, Jenna Richardson, and Editor Ebony Carolina-Franklin, who crafted an experience that paid homage to the creativity and ingenuity of our Founders, the pillars of our illustrious organization.

The festivities featured a "Fab Swag" contest that encouraged everyone to showcase their style and Jack and Jill spirit. Mom Shani Chapman won the contest, charming the crowd with her warm smile and classic style. Further enhancing the atmosphere, Mom Jamilah Frazier captivated attendees with a

wellness chat. Participants received stress balls and bubbles, gentle reminders to add fun to their daily routines. This session not only focused on personal wellbeing but also the importance of mental health resources in strengthening family bonds and enriching the lives of mothers.

Mothers also expressed their creativity in a painting of a tree with many branches and strong roots. Our Founders represent the strong root system that has flourished into our dynamic, thriving, and beautifully rich Jack and Jill culture. Teen Chaplain Otis Franklin was the photographer for the day.

Charlotte: Nurturing Elegance and History

By: Editor Tiffany Victor-Castleberry, Charlotte |

South Charlotte

Under the majestic skyline of Charlotte, the Charlotte, Queen City, South Charlotte, Gastonia-Piedment and Upper Palmetto Chapters enjoyed a Founders' Day luncheon that was nothing short of a masterpiece. Held at the luxurious Kimpton Tryon Park Hotel, sensational sister Moms, Steffani McLean and Tiffany McGee of South Charlotte, Nakisha Davis of Charlotte, and Karin Dancy of Queen City were charged with planning this year’s festivities and they showed up and showed out.

Upon entrance, each mom received a personalized pink shawl with the phrase “We are all essential pieces,” serving as a heartfelt appreciation gift. The tables were adorned with pictures of our Founder, Marion Stubbs, and Charter members, enhanced by beautiful pink and blue floral arrangements. Thanks to Chapter Historians, the ambiance was enriched with a slideshow playing in the background that highlighted the rich histories of our area Chapters.

Photos: Mom Tiffany McGee,

Now, if you have not seen Associate Mom Laura Bynum from Queen City MC before, you missed one of the best to ever do it! Laura welcomed special guests Regional Director Tiffany Spann-Wilder, Esq., and National Corresponding Secretary Nichelle Levy, Esq., who both reminded us, “We Are All Essential Pieces.” The proceedings were blessed with an invocation led by South Charlotte Chapter Chaplain Tierra Ford.

Each Chapter President reflected on the term "Essential Piece" and its significance to the Jack and Jill organization. The Presidents included Kimberly Odom (South Charlotte), Rhonda McNutt (Queen City), Krista Marshall (Charlotte), Chelsea Padgette (Upper Palmetto), and Konika Bell (Gastonia).

The activities proceeded with an engaging "Essential Piece" panel moderated by Program Director Julie Omole from Charlotte. The panel featured diverse perspectives, including a teen officer, a current mom, a legacy mom, and an associate mom, each sharing their unique insights.

The event concluded with a profound oratorical presentation by Charlotte Teen President Sidney Collins and insightful remarks from guest speaker Rev. Dr. Lester A. McCorn, President of Clinton College, leaving us with several golden nuggets

Columbia, SC: Honoring Beginnings and Endings

Sunday, January 21, 2024, was a memorable day! The Captivating Columbia Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. honored two very special groups that are vital to our organization: the Founders and the Associates.

Families and Associates braved the cold to gather for a 10:00 AM worship service at Saint John Baptist Church, located in the heart of the city and known for its welcoming spirit. Attendees included Chapter President Fern Kelly, Pastor Jamey Graham and First Lady Yvette Graham, and mother members DeAndrea Benjamin and Audra Kimpson, along with their families.

The sermon encouraged attendees to be “planted to produce… planted to serve in a season and for a reason,” echoing the historical overview provided by CP Fern during the service. She highlighted the vision our Founding Mothers had for Jack and Jill, creating opportunities for children to grow, thrive, and become

CP Fern concluded her presentation by acknowledging the 65 tenured mothers, Associates, Life Members, children, fathers, regional and teen officers, regional

After the benediction, Associate Father Maxie Joye captured the event with photographs. The congregation then moved to the fellowship hall, which was beautifully decorated with pink and blue tablecloths, balloons, a Jack and Jill step and repeat, and fresh flowers. Chapter Historian Yvette Sands had prepared a delightful spread of individual charcuterie cups, fresh fruit, pink lemonade, and cupcakes with pink and blue icing. The atmosphere was joyful, and families were eager to fellowship. CP Fern offered brief remarks, and Deacon Father Milton Kimpson blessed the food. Vice President Joi Gilliam spoke about our Associates and their community work, including the Mothers Away from Home program. The Associates present were gifted with a beautiful scarf and pin, a token of our appreciation for their invaluable support to the Columbia Chapter.

Triad Area: Celebrating Heritage and Leadership

By: Editor Tiffany Tate, Winston Salem Chapter

In a splendid celebration of Black heritage, leadership, and community service, the Burlington-Graham, Greensboro, and Winston-Salem Chapters came together to co-host the memorable Founders Day 2024 event in the Triad. This year marked the 86th anniversary of the organization's founding and the 7th annual Tri-Chapter Founders Day, fittingly commemorated at the picturesque Botanical Gardens in Kernersville, NC.

The mission of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. is deeply rooted in nurturing future African American leaders by strengthening children through leadership development, volunteer service, philanthropic giving, and civic duty. Our mission has guided the organization's activities and programs, which provide social, cultural, and educational opportunities for youth between the ages of 2 and 19. The organization remains steadfast in its commitment to improving the quality of life for all children, particularly African American children.

Mother Saranah Walden shared, “As a new mom experiencing my first Founders Day, I was very impressed with the thought and effort that went into this wonderful event. Being able to socialize with local chapters as well as our own and see our seniors and Associates recognized was very heartwarming.”

During the event, we enjoyed a delicious meal and honored graduating seniors and associate mother members for their service. The wide representation of mothers in the room was a testament to the organization's enduring legacy and its impact on our community.

Many other attendees shared their heartfelt experiences, highlighting the event's significance. Mother Dionne Stanley expressed gratitude toward the planning committee, emphasizing the joy of seeing graduating seniors recognized for their achievements.

One of the graduating senior moms shared, “I didn’t think I would shed tears during the graduating seniors portion of the program, but reading an inspirational quote to my child touched my heart.”

Mother Kim Blackwell remarked on “the wonderful memories created, the new friendships formed, and the pride in watching the children prepare to make their mark on the world.”

Mother Latoia Valentine also shared her appreciation, noting how “the event honored the organization's legacies and associates, blessing both the past and the future.”

The Botanical Gardens in Kernersville provided a serene backdrop for the brunchstyle event, designed to honor the organization's founders and reflect on the unique Triad area chapter histories as well.

Triangle Area: Reflecting on Visionary Leadership

By: Editor Kim Soden, Raleigh-Wake

On January 28th, 2024, Chapters from the Triangle Area came together to celebrate the 86th Founders’ Day of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. The RaleighWake, Durham, Capital City, and Greater Chapel Hill chapters gathered at the beautiful State View Hotel in Raleigh, NC. The event was well attended by mother members, associates, and invited guests from the Provisional East-Wake Johnston County chapter.

Raleigh-Wake Chapter President Tamika Henderson opened the program with a warm welcome and recognition of Associates, followed by regional greetings from Member at Large Jasmine Smith. Cheryl Giscombe, Chapter President of Greater Chapel Hill, introduced Ruthie D. Lyle, Chaplain of the Greater Chapel Hill chapter, to offer words of inspiration and a prayer over the delicious plated lunch.

Our distinguished guest speaker, MAR Past Regional Director Chanda DouglasWard, was introduced by Durham Chapter President Dr. Chandra Hollier. Our theme, "Beyond Horizons: A Celebration of Visionary Leadership," invites us to contemplate our direction and our next level. It requires deep introspection because at times we will feel uncertainty and confusion. PRD Chanda DouglasWard encouraged us to remember an idea or dream, unearth inhibitions, and lean into change. She challenged us to stop placing limits on what we can do and

ook beyond what we will do. “Just keep moving forward. Write your vision down, implement your ideas and make it plain so that those who you are leading can follow and continue to build on what you started,” she said. “Great leaders can lead from the back of the room to the front of the room. Let us celebrate the ability to be visionary leaders. Let us recommit to being examples for our children, our families, and our communities,” Chanda Douglas-Ward emphasized in closing, urging us to lead with purpose, passion, and power.

Nikale Cooper, Chapter president from the Capital City chapter, closed out our program, expressing gratitude to all attendees and the planning committee.

Mom Lisa Boone-Wood (Raleigh-Wake) Chair of the planning committee said, “It was such a pleasure to chair the planning committee for Jack and Jill Triangle Area Founders’ Day with the Capital City, Durham, Greater Chapel Hill, and Raleigh-Wake Chapters. Reflecting on the history of the phenomenal mothers of Jack and Jill was particularly special for me as a newer mother member.”

Richmond, Midlothian, and Fredericksburg Unity in Tradition

By: Editor Ronnette Anderson, Richmond

Photos: Octavia J. Photography

On Sunday, January 21, 2024, the Generous Greater Fredericksburg, Mighty Midlothian, and Remarkable Richmond Chapters hosted a Joint Founders’ Day event titled "Bringing the Essential Pieces Together." This event was held at The Dominion Club in Glen Allen, Virginia, a luxury golf and tennis venue. The celebration included displays set up by our chapter historians that walked us through our chapter history. The welcome by the host chapter presidents, Dr. Tarah Goggins (Greater Fredericksburg), Kimberly Baine (Midlothian), and Nikki Powell (Richmond), paid homage to our founders and the mothers who paved the way for our future.

The celebration began with a Friendship Activity coordinated by the Sisterly Relations committees of each chapter. Titled "Would You Rather," this activity posed two questions to the mothers, who were asked to stand in support of their chosen question and elaborate on their selection. This activity produced many laughs and nods of agreement.

Following the activity, we moved into our luncheon and a "Timeline Through History," starting with the oldest chartered chapter, Richmond. Tenured mothers/Associate Jewels shared what Jack and Jill means to them and their experiences as Associate Jewels. Each chapter president then spoke about the current status of their chapter, including the number of mothers and children involved, and highlighted a special event. The timeline concluded with newer moms sharing why they joined Jack and Jill and their experiences thus far. The Richmond Chapter was followed by Midlothian and Greater Fredericksburg.

We were honored to host 15th Mid-Atlantic Regional Director, Kyle Grinnage, and current Regional Secretary, Tamara Charity-Brown. Our afternoon concluded with social time, chapter pictures, a 360 photo booth, and music. Mothers were reminded that “We are all essential pieces” in our own way, and each piece fits together to complete the puzzle. It was a pleasure to host 88 mothers and Associate Jewels from chapters for a wonderful 86th Joint Founders’ Day celebration.

Wilmington: Embracing Talent and Tradition

By: Editor Sherelle Foust

Photos: Chapter Chaplin Aviqon Graham, Editor Sherelle Foust

A time was had at the Wilmington Chapter's 2024 Founders Day Program on Saturday, January 20th, a celebration of 86 years of legacy. Associate Moms, Moms, Dads, Jacks, Jills, and Prospective New Moms (PNM) with their children created a warm and welcoming atmosphere A table beautifully showcased pieces of local and national history, enriching attendees' understanding of our organization's journey and the significance of the event

The program commenced with a chapter teen offering a heartfelt welcome, followed by the Chapter President who engaged everyone with a historical overview and a meaningful slide montage The ambiance was enriched by the impressive talents of siblings a sub-teen and an element who performed Suzuki solos on the violin and cello

The brunch session provided nourishment and laughter, facilitating opportunities for mingling and introductions to PNMs This interactive time allowed members to take celebratory photos and reminisce with Associate Moms, highlighting the deep-rooted relationships that have shaped the Wilmington Chapter

The event escalated as a lively sub-teen introduced a guest musician who captivated the audience with original and familiar saxophone selections

The Chapter Vice President concluded the program, expressing gratitude to the Required Events Chair, the organizing committee, and all attendees. Families stayed to mingle until departure, appreciative of the chance to celebrate the founders of Jack and Jill of America, Inc

"I really enjoyed this year's Founders Day program, especially the inclusion of our children showcasing their public speaking skills and musical talents It’s always enriching to fellowship and reflect on the origins of our illustrious organization," stated Program Director, Danielle Applin.

“It was an honor to coordinate the 69th Jack and Jill Founder’s Day Jazz Brunch in Wilmington, NC. The event was a celebration of education, love, grace, and the vibrant spirit of the Wilmington chapter’s children,” remarked Required Events Chair, Shameka Kemp

"I cherished the Founders Day Brunch and Program The entertainment was excellent, the food delightful, and participating in the program was inspiring It's uplifting to be part of an organization with such a rich history," shared Teen, Johnna Robinson

“Our Founders Day Program was exceptional Including our Jacks and Jills to display their talents was truly special. I thoroughly enjoyed the festivities," reflected Vice President, Kitza Washington

Jack and Jill of America Foundation is set to host its inaugural spring soirée and awards dinner, "Legacy In Bloom," on Thursday, June 27. This celebration marks over 55 years of dedicated advocacy and philanthropy

aimed at transforming African American families. Mid-Atlantic Regional Editor Bridgette West speaks with Pier Blake, the Executive Director of the Jack and Jill of America Foundation, about the significance of this event

Bridgette West: Could you start by telling us about the significance of the Legacy In Bloom event?

Pier Blake: Absolutely, Bridgette. Legacy In Bloom is our inaugural spring soirée and awards dinner where we celebrate over 55 years of advocacy and honor those committed to transforming African American families. This event is a moment to acknowledge the hard work and dedication of individuals and partners who align with our mission. This year, we are particularly excited to honor Fredericka Hill, one of our first Jills and the daughter of Marion Stubbs Thomas, with the Jack and Jill Legacy Award among other distinguished awardees.

BW: Wow, Marion Stubbs Thomas’ daughter? That’s exciting! Can you tell us about any other special guests or honorees of the evening?

PB: Our special guests are awardees in our mission-focused areas from all over the country. Another honoree is our Nonprofit Visionary – Kelli Richardson Lawson. Driven by her deep compassion for addressing mental health and addiction issues, Kelli established the SonRise Project, a non-profit organization that supports Black parents facing these challenges with their children. Anchored in her family values, Kelli hosts weekly calls, providing a nurturing and inspiring space for parents to connect, share experiences, and offer support.

BW: What inspired you to create this event?

PB: The inspiration for the event came from the Board of Trustees to reflect the values and mission of the organization. Jack and Jill of America Foundation believes that focusing on key areas such as education, health and wellness, and the African American family as a whole can bring about positive outcomes. We cannot do this work alone, and Legacy In Bloom will recognize trailblazers who also believe in our mission. Together we can make a difference and create a brighter future for all. It is time for the Foundation to celebrate the work it has done since 1968.

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Celebrating Over Half a Century of Impact

WRITTEN BY BRIDGETTE WEST

BW: That’s awesome. Any other key highlights of this event?

PB: Some of the key highlights are the newly renovated National Museum of Women in the Arts as our venue to honor and celebrate these national honorees in such a magnificent and historic place. The evening will include a sponsor reception for our VIPs and sponsors, a full-course dinner by our catering sponsor - GetPlated, locally owned by husband and wife team: Keyon & Alexandria Hammond! There will also be a special partnership announcement that will be seen here at the Legacy In Bloom event. You do not want to miss it! Legacy In Bloom will have special guests, and an announcement of a partnership that will enhance and elevate the Foundation like never before. This event will showcase Jack and Jill across the country. We want the world to know how Jack and Jill is dedicated to positive change for the African American community, passionate about ensuring that every child, regardless of background, has access to quality learning.

BW: The Jack and Jill of America Foundation has a rich history of support through grants and the Jack and Jill College GAP Fund. Can you elaborate on the impact of these initiatives?

PB: One of the achievements the Foundation is proud of is our Jack and Jill College GAP Fund! Since its inception in 2019, the Foundation has helped over 1,200 students matriculate with an investment of over $830,000! This has led to increased graduation rates at participating HBCUs and the removal of financial barriers enabling students to graduate. This also means we have enhanced economic stability and growth through increased access to education. Our impact continues with our grants in each of our philanthropic categories. In 2023-2024, the Foundation supports 63 grantees with an investment of $448,000. Grantees and college graduates will be invited to the event to share how the Foundation has impacted their lives and organizations.

BW: Tell us how we can support the event.

PB: You can sponsor the event, place an advertisement in our digital program or send an ad of congratulations to the Foundation for its 55+ year history. You can purchase a ticket by going to our website at www.jackandjillfoundation.org/legacyinbloom, tickets are selling fast! If you want to donate a silent auction item, we are looking for high-end experiences, one-of-a-kind tickets, and donated airline points. Please send an email to administration@jackandjillfoundation.org to let us know the type of silent auction item you would like to donate. Jack and Jill of America Foundation is a 501(c)(3) organization and part of the ticket sales are tax-deductible and donated items are considered taxexempt.

BW: Any final thoughts you’d like to share with our readers?

PB: Join us in our efforts to transform communities one child at a time. Donate. No amount is too small because together, we can make a difference for generations to come by planting seeds now!

Pier Blake, the Executive Director of the Jack and Jill of America Foundation

TIFFANY Regional Director

SPANN -WILDER

CHARLESTON CHAPTER

SServing as the Regional Director is no small feat. In the Mid-Atlantic Region, this role encompasses responsibility for over 3,500 individuals spread across 32 chapters in four states At the 2023 Mother’s Conference, Tiffany

Spann-Wilder was elected as the Mid-Atlantic Regional Director for the 2023-2025 term Her guiding principle, "We Are ALL Essential Pieces," resonates throughout the region as a call for inclusivity and collaboration, ensuring that each member’s contribution is recognized in the collective mission to nurture and educate African American children

Spann - Wilder’s leadership extends to stimulating regional growth by nurturing existing chapters and spearheading the development of new ones, thereby expanding the organization's reach and influence.

“The opportunity to be a liaison for our region is special,” she says “I enjoy meeting and working with people of different backgrounds and experiences, I learn something new every day ”

Moreover, Spann-Wilder oversees the annual teen conference, aligning with the organization’s commitment to fostering leadership and community service among youth. This program is a dynamic platform for young members to engage in workshops, community projects, and leadership training, reflecting the organization’s core values and preparing the next generation for future challenges

“Witnessing Jack and Jill on a large scale filled my heart with the promise of our children's future,” said Spann-Wilder “I simply wanted to be a conduit for these ideals So becoming the Regional Director has allowed me to share my love for the organization at all levels ”

Spann-Wilder offers insightful advice for those aspiring to the role of Regional Director "Until you sit in the seat, it is hard to describe it all," she emphasizes The diversity of experiences that can lead to this position is significant, as she notes, "There is no one role or one path to this space as RD Being engaged in Jack and Jill at the chapter, regional, and national levels provides a great vantage point for the duties of the Regional Director "

Moreover, Spann-Wilder stresses the importance of maintaining a sense of self beyond the title "Also, you can't take yourself too seriously at the end of the day, I am Tiffany, and I happen to be the Regional Director I make the role; the role does not make or define me " This perspective helps her manage the pressures of leadership while staying true to her identity. "I am just the mother member who raised her hand to lead and was granted the honor by other mother members," she concludes, highlighting the democratic and communal spirit that guides her leadership approach

Outside of Jack and Jill of America, Inc, Spann-Wilder’s influence extends deeply into her home community in North Charleston Recently elected to the South Carolina House District 109, she brings her leadership skills to a broader political stage, advocating for the needs and concerns of her constituents Her legal background and community engagement through her law practice provide her with a unique perspective on the challenges and opportunities within her community, enhancing her effectiveness as a legislator

Spann-Wilder's leadership is also marked by her dedication to volunteerism and community service She is actively involved in local non-profits and serves on several boards, further amplifying her impact in the region

Nichelle Nicholes Levy

National Corresponding Secretary

South Charlotte Chapter

Nichelle Nicholes Levy has actively contributed to the leadership of Jack and Jill of America, Inc., notably serving as a Mid-Atlantic Region Foundation Member-at-Large and a member of the Mid-Atlantic Regional Executive Board from 2019 to 2021.

As a dedicated member of the South Charlotte Chapter, Levy has served in several capacities including charter member and Chapter President. Under her leadership, the South Charlotte Chapter earned recognition as a Five Star Chapter and co-hosted significant events such as the National Convention in 2014 and the Mid-Atlantic Regional Teen Leadership Conference in 2017. Levy’s contributions extended to regional roles, including Chair of the Regional Competition Committee and Regional Sponsorship Committee Chair, enhancing the organizational standards and competition experiences.

Professionally, Levy boasts over 30 years in the fields of advertising, marketing, privacy, entertainment, and sports industries. She currently acts as Senior Assistant General Counsel – Digital & Privacy Data for the National Association for Stock Car Auto Racing, LLC (NASCAR) and NASCAR Digital Media, LLC. She is also a certified Privacy Law Specialist by the American Bar Association and the International Association of Privacy Professionals.

Levy and her husband, Sid Levy, Jr., celebrate 25 years of marriage and are proud parents of two sons, Sidney and Nicholes.

Toria Jones-Miles

Regional Treasurer

Queen City Chapter

Toria Jones - Miles exemplifies dedication and expertise in her role within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Since joining the Queen City Chapter in 2014, Jones - Miles has been an active participant and leader, holding positions such as Audit Committee Chair, Black Family Day Chair, Grade Group Advisor, Treasurer, and Financial Secretary. Her commitment extended to the Regional Budget & Finance Committee before her election as Regional Treasurer in 2023.

With a B.S. in Accounting, Jones - Miles brings over two decades of professional experience in corporate finance, particularly in auditing. Her current position as an Internal Control Manager focuses on compliance with the Sarbanes-Oxley Act, ensuring strict adherence to financial regulations and upholding the integrity of financial practices. In her role within Jack and Jill, Jones - Miles underscores the importance of maintaining precise records, ensuring financial transparency, and offering vital guidance to chapter financial officers. Her background in finance significantly enhances her ability to instill a culture of trust, collaboration, and fiscal responsibility within the organization.

Jones - Miles’ dedication to her duties is profound, as she is committed to serving the families of her region and chapter with humility and precision. Her meticulous approach to financial management and her ability to foster collaboration make her an indispensable asset to the region. Jones - Miles’ leadership not only strengthens the financial foundations of the organization but also supports its mission to nurture future African-American leaders through educational programs, community service, and civic involvement.

Tamara Charity - Brown

Regional Secretary

James River Chapter

Dr Tamara Charity-Brown has been a dedicated member of the James River Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Incorporated for ten years, serving in roles such as President, Vice President, Foundation Chair, and age group leader She has also contributed on National and Regional levels, including the National Policies and Procedures Committee and the National Historical Task Force In 2023, she was elected Mid-Atlantic Regional Secretary under the leadership of Regional Director Tiffany Spann-Wilder

Dr. Charity-Brown is married to Carlos M. Brown, and they have four children: Carlos Jr , a former Mid-Atlantic Regional Teen President and Yale graduate; Charity, a former chapter Teen President and University of Virginia student; Chelsea, a 10th grader and chapter Teen historian; and Cari Elizabeth, an 8th grader They also have a Shih-Tzu named Casper.

Professionally, Dr Charity-Brown is a pediatrician, owning and managing Associates in Pediatrics in Glen Allen, Virginia. She has over twenty years of medical practice and is actively involved with Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated, the Richmond VA Chapter of The Links, Incorporated, and serves on several Richmond area nonprofit boards She enjoys family time, travel, and crafting

Jasmine Smith Member - at - Large Durham Chapter

Jasmine C Smith has been a dedicated member of the Durham Chapter for over 12 years, serving in numerous roles, including Corresponding Secretary, Foundation Chair, VP, and President She has been honored twice with the Distinguished Mothers Award Smith also held the position of National Strategic Partnership Chair for two terms, from 2018 to 2022 In this capacity, she led her team to raise over $1 million for the 2022 National Convention the first time the organization achieved this milestone! Additionally, she initiated several key national partnerships, including collaborations with the American Camping Association, Boys and Girls Clubs, Spelman College, and Morehouse College

She serves as the Regional Foundation Member-at-Large and sits on the boards of the Jack and Jill of America Foundation, Johnson C Smith University, Girl Scouts Coastal Pines, and the Durham CARES Advisory Board She is also a member of the Durham Chapter of the Links, Incorporated, and Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc

Her significant impact has earned her numerous accolades, including being named one of the Southeast's up-and-coming philanthropic leaders by the Southeastern Council of Foundations, a Business Leader “Mover and Shaker,” one of Diversity MBA Magazine’s Top 100 Under 50 Diverse Emerging Leaders, and a 40 under 40 awardee by TBJ

She has been married to Queron for over 20 years and together they are raising their daughter, Zoria, 15

THE ESSENTIAL

PIECES

Meet the appointed visionary leaders of the Mid-Atlantic region of Jack and Jill of America, Inc., whose collective expertise and dedication are shaping the future of our organization. Under the strategic guidance of RD Tiffany SpannWilder, these regional appointees exemplify leadership, service, and advocacy, driving initiatives that empower our communities and enrich our children's lives.

By: Bridgette West

In the heart of the Mid-Atlantic region, a select group of visionary leaders is setting the standard for excellence and innovation within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. This esteemed cohort, some handpicked by our Regional

Director, Tiffany Spann - Wilder, forms a powerhouse team dedicated to enhancing the vibrant cloth of our community through leadership, service, and advocacy. Each member brings a unique blend of expertise and passion to their role, embodying the commitment required to uplift and empower our families and children.

These profiles showcase not only the professional credentials and achievements of our regional appointees but also their deep personal commitment to the values that Jack and Jill of America, Inc. holds dear.

As architects of change and champions for our youth, their work is integral to the fabric of our organization, driving us forward with initiatives that bridge gaps, foster inclusion, and create opportunities across our diverse chapters.

As you turn these pages, bear witness to the collective prowess and singular dedication of a team united by a common goal: to ensure that every child and family in our region can access the tools and support needed to thrive in today’s world. This is more than a showcase of leaders; it's a blueprint for our future, meticulously crafted under the guidance of the strategic and visionary leadership of RD SpannWilder.

Tiffany Fox

Title: Regional Bylaws Chair

Chapter: South Charlotte

Mrs. Tiffany McNeal Fox serves as the 2022 – 2024 Mid-Atlantic Regional Bylaws Chair for Jack and Jill of America, Incorporated, and represents the region on the National Bylaws Committee. She is married to Dr. Moses Fox III and is a mother to Yahzmin and Moses IV. Under her leadership, the committee has reviewed regional bylaws and conducted workshops, preparing for the Blue Ribbon Bylaw Review. Her governance expertise stems from sorority leadership and a role as Parliamentarian of the South Charlotte Chapter. Tiffany is passionate about mental well-being, neurodiversity, and embracing imperfection. She is also a member of the National Association of Parliamentarians.

Tracey Hawkins

Title: Regional Chair - We Are One Committee

Chapter: Durham Chapter

Tracey Hawkins, a native of North Carolina, proudly holds degrees from both UNC-Chapel Hill and North Carolina Central University. She values service, community connection, and advocacy. Her advocacy for the needs of the autistic and neurodivergent community is a core value and the driving force behind her role as the Regional Chair of the We Are One Committee. Tracey also serves as the founder and creator of the Thrive App, a visual planning tool tailored to support the organizing needs of the autistic and neurodivergent community. Tracey lives in Durham, NC, with her husband, Zack, and their sons, James Preston and Adam.

Felecia Hughey

Title: Regional Technology Chair

Chapter: Raleigh-Wake

Felecia Hughey is a Senior Project Manager with fourteen years of experience at a Fortune 500 company, specializing in maintaining digital platforms and executing global conferences. Her roles include organizing presenters and overseeing AV/media vendors. Dedicated to Jack and Jill of America, Felecia has served her local chapter as a past Program Director, current Chapter Treasurer, and Provisional Chapter Sponsor Committee Chair. Additionally, she has contributed at the regional level as a member of the Regional Program Committee. Felecia's commitment showcases her passion for the organization's mission.

Anissa Milbourne

Title: Regional Protocol Chair

Chapter: Spartanburg Chapter

Anissa L. Milbourne hails from the Spartanburg, SC Chapter and has 13 years of experience. She also brings 25 years of experience in Supply Chain Quality & Manufacturing. Her expertise includes supplier quality onboarding, development, oversight, and defects resolution. Anissa is an active member of the Society of Women Engineers, Black Women in STE(A)M, Society of Aerospace and Automotive Engineers, Rainbow Coalition, NAACP, and the American Society of Quality. RPC Anissa also holds leadership positions with the Spartanburg Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated, United Way of Greenville, and the North Carolina A&T State University Alumni Association. Her goal is to continue the work of protocol while building the Mid-Atlantic Region’s Protocol Committee and pipeline for future leaders.

Christopher Oliver

Title: Regional Fathers' Auxiliary Chair

Chapter: Capital City

Rev. Dr. Christopher Oliver attended the U.S. Military Academy at West Point, earning a B.S. in Electrical Engineering, and is a nine-year Army veteran with three combat tours. He currently works as a Senior IT Project Manager at Bank of America and as an adjunct professor at Hood Theological Seminary. Active in various leadership roles in civic organizations, he is a member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc., and co-chair of the A.M.E. Zion Church Youth Ministry Commission. Chris is married to Stephanie and they have a son, Joshua.

Patricia Sasser

Title: Regional Parliamentarian

Chapter: Raleigh-Wake

Patricia Sasser is a member of the Raleigh-Wake Chapter. As a seasoned high school administrator with over 18 years of experience, Patricia currently serves as the Assistant Head of School at a boarding and day high school. Before her career in education, she worked in sports TV production at ESPN. She holds a B.A. in English Literature and African American Studies from the University of Virginia and an M.Ed. in Educational Leadership from George Washington University. An active member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. and the Junior League of Raleigh, Patricia is a native of Washington, D.C., and grew up overseas in Nigeria, Haiti, and Niger. She and her husband, Wyatt, are proud parents to their son, Pierce (15).

Aimy Steele

Title: National Legislative Chair/Regional Teen Advisory Council

Chapter: Queen City

Aimy Steele, a member of the Queen City Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. since 2016, currently serves as Chapter Treasurer. Her involvement began as a Teen Advisor and Chapter Legislative Chair, leading to three years as Lead Teen Advisor. Aimy’s background in education as a Spanish teacher and K-12 principal informs her commitment to expanding opportunities for children. Her political engagement deepened with a 2018 candidacy for the North Carolina House of Representatives, leading to her current role as National Legislative Chair (2022-2024). Aimy and her team recently spearheaded the On The Hill Summit in Washington DC, focusing on advocacy for the Black community. Married to Pastor Michael J. Steele Sr. for 25 years, they have five children, three of whom are Jack and Jill of America, Inc. alumni.

Courtney Telfaire

Title: Regional Membership Chair

Chapter: Raleigh-Wake

Courtney M. Telfaire, along with her husband, are parents to four children, including triplets. She serves on the National Membership Committee and is the Regional Membership Chair, where she conducts monthly meetings with Vice-Presidents to oversee membership matters across chapters and presents regional membership workshops. A member for twelve years, Courtney has held various chapter and regional roles. Professionally, she works as a Learning Consultant. In her leisure time, Courtney enjoys desktop publishing, scrapbooking, movie nights, and event planning.

Ashlye V. Wilkerson, Ph.D.

Title: Regional Program Chair

Chapter: Columbia, SC

Dr. Ashlye V. Wilkerson, a dynamic speaker, leadership expert, and motivator, has been an active member for eight years. She has served her chapter in various capacities, including editor, grade group leader, social media manager, five-star chair, legislative co-chair, and threetime program director. She has been a featured children’s author at the 2016 National Convention Author's Pavilion, the 2019 National Bedtime Stories, and was also included in the 2019 National Summer Reading List. Ashlye, married to L. Kobie Wilkerson, III, is a mother to Alana (10) and Ariah (7). As a fun fact, she's a Family Feud champion. Her dedication exemplifies her commitment to the organization’s vision and mission.

Sharlonda Tullock

Title: Sergeant at Arms

Chapter: Charleston

Sergeant at Arms Sharlonda Tullock, a member since 2013, has held numerous roles within her chapter including Corresponding Secretary, Financial Secretary, Program Director, Vice President, and Chapter President. She also served as the Mothers Conference 2023 Sergeant at Arms. A fun fact about Sharlonda is her love for travel and her enjoyment of binge-watching crime shows at home.

Jocelyn Young

Title: Regional Teen Advisor

Chapter: Upper Palmetto

RTA Jocelyn Young is an accomplished educator with extensive experience, previously holding roles as a teacher, Assistant Principal, and Principal, and currently serving as the Executive Director of Student Services for the Fort Mill School District. Driven by a passion for equipping children with the necessary academic, social, emotional, and behavioral tools, she excels in her role as Regional Teen Advisor. Married to Mandrile Young, she is a mother to Reynolds, a biochemistry and genetics freshman at Clemson University, and Carson, a ninth grader at Nation Ford High School. She enjoys family time, shopping, reading, and indulging in self-care.

A Legacy of HOPE and Transformation

Dontá L. Wilson's enduring legacy at UNC Charlotte champions education, nurtures potential, and exemplifies the life-changing power of giving back.

WRITTEN BY BRIDGETTE WEST

If you struck up a conversation with Dontá L. Wilson, you’d quickly learn that his life’s work is dedicated to building— building legacies for his family and facilitating opportunities or first-year college students. As a distinguished alumnus of the

University of North Carolina at Charlotte and a luminary in the banking sector, Wilson intertwines ambition with altruism, propelled by his guiding mantra: H.O.P.E.—Helping Other People Excel. This dedication not only shapes his professional landscape but also deeply influences his personal commitment to uplifting others.

UNC Charlotte recently paid homage to Wilson’s lasting influence by dedicating a new residence hall in his honor. The Dontá L. Wilson Residence Hall, an impressive edifice sprawling over 147,000 square feet, now serves as a nurturing domicile for nearly 700 first-year students. Notably, it is the first building on campus named after an African American alumnus, a landmark event in the university's history that speaks volumes about Wilson's indelible mark.

Wilson's relationship with his alma mater has been a symbiotic one, marked by mutual growth and gratitude. From his proactive undergraduate days of leading his Kappa Alpha Psi chapter with a focus on tutoring elementary students to his judicious involvement on the University's Board of Trustees, Wilson has been unwavering in his commitment to create avenues for others. This commitment is further punctuated through his Wilson Believe Fund, aimed at bolstering first-generation college students—a testament to his insight into the unique challenges they face.

In reflective moments, Wilson shared his journey and the motivations behind his philanthropic ventures. His tenure at UNC Charlotte not only sculpted his professional path in finance but also enriched his broader life’s work. “From a very young age, I knew I wanted to work in finance," Wilson shared in an interview, reflecting on the university days that provided him leadership skills and community engagement opportunities foundational for his future endeavors.

His doctrine of empowerment has only deepened with time, centering on the conviction that helping others excel involves providing them with the means to advance more rapidly and effectively. This philosophy has compelled Wilson to be what he

describes as a 'net giver' in life, continually seeking to unlock potential and open opportunities for others, a mission he shares with one of his role models, Jackie Robinson.

The most resonant piece of advice shaping Wilson’s approach to leadership and change came from his grandfather, who urged him to be 'the one'—the one who makes a difference, the one who inspires change, and the one who acts as a catalyst for transformation.

Addressing the socioeconomic barriers that often hinder the youth from less privileged backgrounds, Wilson stressed the essential role of accessible opportunities in achieving success. He advocates for a community approach that not only extends support but also builds foundations that enable young individuals to surmount obstacles and realize their potential.

Wilson’s story is one of influence and dedication, leaving a legacy at UNC Charlotte and beyond that is marked by fostering hope, enabling education, and empowering future generations. His life’s work epitomizes the power of giving back and the significant impact of nurturing the potential of those who only need an opportunity to succeed.

Dontá L. Wilson pictured with the Chancellor of University of North Carolina at Charlotte Sharon Gaber along with his wife, Bonika, and sons Dylan (16) and Baylor (5). Photo Credit: Amy Hart, UNC Charlotte Office of University Communications

Pioneering Leadership at Benedict College

Dr. Roslyn Clark Artis becomes the first woman to have a building named after her at Benedict College

WRITTEN

BY

BRIDGETTE WEST PHOTOS

Dr. Roslyn Clark Artis has etched her name in history as the first woman to hold the presidency at Benedict College and now, uniquely, as the first to have a building named in her honor on the South Carolina campus. Some may think the Dr. Roslyn Clark Artis Administration Building stands as the culmination of her transformative leadership and profound impact on the institution; however, this is only the beginning.

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AJ SHORTER II |

On March 22, 2024, the Benedict College Trustees hosted a Rededication and Naming Ceremony, honoring Dr. Artis, the 14th and current president of the institution. This historic event

marked the first time a building on the college campus was named after a woman, reflecting the profound impact of Dr. Artis' leadership. The Chairman of the Benedict College Board of Trustees, Dr. Charlie W. Johnson, recalled, "Seven years ago, Dr. Artis was not supposed to start until September 2017, but she voluntarily arrived a month early in August, rolled up her sleeves, and started her journey of creating what she coined 'The BEST of BC.'"

Dr. Artis expressed her gratitude during the ceremony, stating, “I am very grateful for the opportunity to lead Benedict College into the next chapter of her storied history. Thank you for your decision to memorialize my work in such a profound, powerful, and lasting way.”

Under Dr. Artis’ leadership, Benedict College has seen significant advancements. An investment of nearly $15 million has revolutionized the campus's technology infrastructure, from updated computers for all staff to the integration of Smartboard technology in every classroom, greatly enhancing the educational environment. Her administration has notably increased the quality of education by strengthening the curriculum, instituting best practice policies, and enhancing academic standards, which collectively raised student profiles and graduation rates by an impressive 233%.

The tenure of Dr. Artis also included critical financial management that saw the retirement of nearly $6 million in aged payables and a

transition to virtual teaching and earning her national recognition as President of the Year by Higher Ed Dive.

Reflecting on her impact, Dr. Artis shared heartfelt metaphors about her connection with the students of Benedict College, describing them as her "windows" to a bright future. “My students, the beautiful young people that I have the opportunity to work for, you are my windows. You allow me to see outside into a bright future. Your beauty, your brilliance, and yes, your bravery inspire me every single day. You give me purpose and I thank you,” she remarked. Benedict College, founded in 1870 by Bathsheba A. Benedict, is a private liberal arts institution that has been consistently recognized for its academic excellence and transformative impact on students from diverse backgrounds. The college remains committed to fostering a nurturing and innovative educational environment under the guidance of visionary leaders like Dr. Artis.

As the sun sets on this historic day, it rises on a new era for Benedict College, illuminated by the enduring legacy of Dr. Roslyn Clark Artis. Her legacy is not only reflected in the infrastructure and policies she has helped shape but also in the lives of the countless students she has inspired and empowered.

Champion The Mom

A dedicated advocate for inclusivity, Tracey Hawkins transforms challenges into opportunities, ensuring all children receive equal benefits within the organization.

BY: BRIDGETTE WEST

Tracey Hawkins serves as the Mid-Atlantic Regional Chair for the "We Are One" committee within Jack and Jill of America, Inc., representing the Durham Chapter in North Carolina. With a deeply personal connection to the cause—being a parent to two sons with autism—Hawkins is dedicated to the committee’s mission. “It is imperative for me to ensure that my children, and others like them, receive everything from Jack and Jill that their peers do," Hawkins explains. This commitment stems from a desire to transform what was once a task force into a fully-fledged committee that guarantees inclusivity across all Chapter activities.

Hawkins shares her profound connection to the role which began during a challenging time. "I joined the Durham Chapter in the spring of 2020, amidst the pandemic," Hawkins recalls. Initially hesitant about joining due to her children's autism, her perspective shifted when introduced to the "We Are One" initiative, then a task force. Encouraged by friends, she embraced the opportunity, quickly evolving from a Chapter Champion Mom to leading the region-wide committee.

Under her leadership, the Mid-Atlantic Region has achieved a remarkable milestone: 100% of its Chapters have appointed a "We Are One" champion mom, a significant accomplishment that sets the region apart. "We are leading the way with the 'We Are One' work, much like we do in many areas within the Mid-Atlantic region," Hawkins proudly states.

The Mission and Impact

The "We Are One" committee's primary goal is to ensure that all programming within Jack and Jill is inclusive, catering to the needs of all children, regardless of their abilities. This initiative goes beyond traditional disability support; it encompasses a broad spectrum of needs, including dietary restrictions and allergies. “Our mission is to ensure that the programming we create meets the needs of all children,” Hawkins emphasizes.

This broad approach to inclusivity means not only accommodating children with specific conditions but also educating

all members about diverse needs. Hawkins highlights a creative example of this inclusive approach: a cooking class focused on glutenfree recipes, which educates all children about dietary differences, not just those who require gluten-free options. "This is 'We Are One' at its best," she asserts, showcasing how inclusivity can be seamlessly integrated into regular chapter activities to educate and enrich the experiences of all members. "It's not about segregating needs but integrating them into our children's collective experiences," says Hawkins. This approach educates not only the children but also the parents, fostering a community understanding of various needs.

Teen Ambassador Program

Looking forward, Hawkins is enthusiastic about the potential expansion

These sessions will encourage teens to understand what it means to have a disability, the difference between visible and hidden disabilities, and the appropriate language endorsed by the community. "This education is vital for ensuring all our children feel seen, heard, and validated, contributing to their mental health and sense of belonging,"

Impact of Champion Moms

Hawkins provides a detailed explanation of the critical role of "champion moms" within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. "A champion mom leads the effort to ensure inclusive programming within their Chapter," she explains. Working alongside Chapter leadership and Program Directors, these dedicated mothers ensure that all activities are accessible and considerate of the diverse needs of all children in the Chapter. They have a direct influence on planning by ensuring that the programming is sensitive to various disabilities or conditions that may affect participation.

Champion moms also serve as a liaison to identify and address specific needs, such as wheelchair accessibility or dietary restrictions, making sure every event is inclusive. "For example, if a venue isn't wheelchair accessible, or if a child needs frequent breaks, the champion mom will ensure these considerations are part of the event planning," says Hawkins.

Resources and Support for Champion Moms

Discussing the resources available to champion moms, Hawkins highlights the "We Are One" toolkit, a comprehensive resource developed under her leadership. "We've compiled all sorts of resources into a Google Drive accessible to all champion moms," she notes. This toolkit includes presentations from regional meetings, expert discussions on topics like Individual Education Plans (IEPs) and 504 plans, and guidelines on setting up inclusive environments, such as quiet rooms for events.

Hawkins is proud of the toolkit's role in facilitating inclusive programming across the Mid-Atlantic region. "This toolkit is a vital resource that helps champion moms understand and implement

inclusive practices effectively," she adds, emphasizing the importance of education and preparation in fostering an inclusive atmosphere at Jack and Jill events.

T. his structured support system not only empowers champion moms but also enriches the Jack and Jill experience for all children, ensuring they feel valued and included, regardless of their needs.

The Special Needs Stigma and Community Support

During Fall Area Workday in 2023, Hawkins led a poignant and emotional session that resonated deeply with Moms in attendance. The workshop highlighted the challenges some mothers face in sharing about their children's special needs within the organization due to fears of stigma and non-acceptance.

Recalling the session, Hawkins pauses to gather herself as she is visibly emotional. She addresses mothers who might feel hesitant about their place in Jack and Jill of America, Inc. due to their children's needs. "Jack and Jill is for you and your family," she states emphatically. Sharing her personal experience with her sons' diagnoses, Hawkins emphasizes how the organization provided a supportive community that she initially feared wouldn't accept her situation. "It's been one heck of a ride," Hawkins reflects on her journey from isolation to becoming an outspoken advocate for her children and others like them.

She stresses the importance of community support within Jack and Jill of America, Inc., noting how her initial fears were unfounded as she discovered many other mothers with similar experiences. This revelation fostered a supportive network that was crucial not only for her but for other families navigating similar paths.

The fall workshop demonstrated the safe and supportive environment the We Are One committee aims to cultivate. Hawkins recalls how the workshop turned into a spontaneous sharing session, where mothers felt comfortable enough to open up about their children's diagnoses for the first time. "This is why it's important for all of our Chapters, not just within our Region but across the entire organization, to have 'We Are One' committees," Hawkins explains, highlighting the necessity of inclusivity to ensure that every potential member feels welcomed and valued, regardless of their child's needs.

Hawkins showed how her brand of leadership goes beyond prepared presentations and well-meaning strategies. She adapted to the needs of the mothers present, creating a safe space for them to genuinely share their stories and bond over their challenges.

Innovating Beyond Inclusion

Hawkins is an entrepreneur whose venture extends her advocacy beyond the Jack and Jill of America, Inc. framework. She developed the Thrive app, an innovative solution designed to aid neurodiverse individuals in managing their daily challenges discreetly.

"This education is vital for ensuring all our children feel seen, heard, and validated, contributing to their mental health and sense of belonging."

Tracey Hawkins Mid-Atlantic Regional We Are One Chair

Inspired by the needs of her middle son, James Preston, Hawkins created Thrive to help him effectively manage his school day. The app was conceived out of a need for discrete support systems that respect the user's privacy. "He needed those supports, but he did not want those supports on display for other kids to see," Hawkins explains, addressing a common concern among neurodiverse children who strive for normalcy in their social interactions. Determined to provide her son with tools for independence and reduce reliance on teacher interventions, Hawkins discovered that no existing app met her specific needs. This realization spurred her to develop Thrive, which integrates visual schedules, reminders, and coping strategies accessible with a single tap.

Hawkins elaborates on the app's capabilities, noting its unique messaging platform that enhances communication between parents, teachers, and caregivers, ensuring everyone involved in a child’s care is informed and coordinated. Surprised by the lack of such a comprehensive tool in the market, she made Thrive available on both Android and iOS platforms, with compatibility with the Apple Watch for even easier access to support.

Reflecting on the impact of Thrive, Hawkins is proud of how the app has boosted her children’s confidence and ability to manage their daily routines. "It's all within their phone or on their Apple Watch, whatever they want to sync it to, to help with those transitions that were really hard for Adam as well as James Preston," she shares.

The Thrive app is not limited to children with neurodivergent needs but is a versatile tool that any child—or indeed, any individual—might find beneficial for organizing their daily routines. For her son Adam, the app schedules necessary movement breaks which are crucial after stationary periods, such as post-lunch. These are discreetly signaled through a vibration on his device, alerting him without drawing undue attention in classroom settings.

For James Preston, Hawkins has customized the app to support his need for structured downtime after school, ensuring he has a clear transition from school activities to home relaxation and later, homework. "The app provides that structure, letting him know when it's his free time and when to start homework," she explains. This helps him understand and manage his own needs throughout the day, promoting independence and self-awareness. Hawkins passionately speaks about how Thrive empowers children to recognize and respond to their own bodily cues. Whether it's needing a movement break or recognizing hunger, the app helps children interpret these signals and take proactive steps to address them, fostering a sense of

Looking Forward: 2024 and Beyond

Hawkins emphasizes the critical role of Chapter leadership in supporting Champion Moms, ensuring they have the necessary backing to implement inclusive programs effectively. She advocates for an open-minded approach and urges Chapters to foster an environment that encourages active participation and support from all members.

Another area of development in the future is the Teen Champion component, a program which kicked off earlier this spring. This initiative, developed in collaboration with advocacy agencies in North Carolina, will offer high school students the opportunity to earn the service hours required for graduation through participation in these workshops

For those interested in learning more about the THRIVE app or getting involved in the "We Are One" committee, Hawkins encourages reaching out via email or exploring the app on digital platforms at www.ThrivingOnTheSpectrum.com.

Gretchen Nelli: How did you come up with the idea to write a book about marriage and building prosperity?

Bonika Wilson: You know, my journey to writing this book started in a pretty unexpected place—right at home, in the heart of my own marriage. I’ve spent years in consulting, working everywhere from the bustling offices in Atlanta to the strategic corners of banking, and a big part of my job has always been about solving problems. So, when my marriage faced its own set of challenges, it was like a lightbulb went off. I realized that the same principles I apply in the boardroom—like having a clear mission and sticking to core values—could work wonders at home too.

Building a Legacy of Love and Prosperity

Bonika Wilson merges family values with business strategies to create a lasting dynasty of success and unity.

WRITTEN BY GRETCHEN NELLI

It was this blend of personal discovery and professional experience that inspired me to write a book. I wanted to share how powerful it can be when you bring the discipline and clarity of business strategies into a marriage. It’s all about building lasting relationships and creating a thriving partnership that can lead to prosperity in all areas of life.

GN: What specific principles does the book address?

BW: In the book, I break down what I like to call the 'five pillars of partnership,' which are really about the core values that any successful business—and any strong marriage—needs to thrive. First, we talk about the art of effective communication, because whether it’s in a boardroom or at your dining room table, understanding each other is key.

Then we move into setting clear core values and missions, just like any successful company would. Knowing what you stand for together can really guide you through anything. We also explore setting goals and objectives, because having shared targets keeps you both aligned on what you’re building towards.

I cover performance measurement and accountability too, because it’s important to know how you’re doing and hold each other accountable in a supportive way. And lastly, there’s the intentional investment of time, making sure you’re both investing in your relationship just like you would in a business. We even look at how a SWOT analysis— something businesses often use to identify strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats—can help couples understand where they are and where they want to go. It’s all about using strategic tools to not just maintain but really evolve both personally and together.

GN: Do you think communication in marriage is difficult?

BW: Absolutely, communication in marriage isn’t always easy, but it’s crucial. In my family, we don’t leave communication to chance. We treat it like a strategic part of our lives, scheduling regular family meetings every week. We start off our meeting with a check-in and then we move to a structured moment where each of us can be open about our challenges. It’s our safe space for vulnerability, where we lay everything on the table and work together to find solutions.

In addition to connecting, we have these meetings to help each other build critical thinking skills and proactively address issues before they become problems. It’s helped us to really strengthen our bonds. So yes, communication can be tough, but with the right approach, it becomes a powerful tool to deepen relationships.

GN: How did you develop this model? Did you have a model to emulate?

BW: No, I didn't have a model to emulate. Growing up, my family life was pretty rocky, and I knew I wanted something different for my own kids and husband. I saw the impact of those fractures early on and made a promise to myself to change the script for the next generation. It became my mission to build a home filled with love, open communication, and resilience—not just to shield my children from my past experiences but to show them a healthier way to live.

Absolutely, it’s been a total game changer for us. By setting clear goals and aligning our values, we’ve deepened our connection way beyond the usual. We’re stronger, growing, and thriving.

So, I crafted our family meetings from the ground up, pulling from what I learned professionally about effective communication and strategic planning. I wanted to proactively create a new legacy of health and stability that I hope my kids will carry forward into their own families.

GN: What are some of the strategies that you discuss at your family meetings?

BW: At the start of each year, my husband and I sit down to map out our goals—three professional and three personal ones for each of us. We’re committed to not just setting these goals but actively pursuing them, so we hold what we call ‘accountability sessions’ every month. During these sessions, we check in on each other's progress, tweaking and encouraging as needed. It's about being each other’s biggest supporter and critic, all in one. This approach helps us both stay on track and really support each other’s growth, both as a couple and individually. It’s like having a personal coach who really knows all your ins and outs.

GN: Do you believe this is important especially for African American families?

BW: Absolutely, and here's why: African American families often start without the cushion of generational wealth, which puts us at a unique disadvantage compared to others who have legacies of prosperity. Despite these hurdles, we rise, crafting our own methods to build financial stability and empower future generations. My book tackles how we can make thoughtful decisions together, blending our rich cultural heritage with the principles of legacy and dynasty.

Personally, our family has a crest that symbolizes unity, ambition, and resilience. It's our guiding light, reminding us of who we are and what we strive to build. We want to create wealth and foster a legacy of purpose and pride that will endure. This crest reinforces our commitment with every decision we make, driving us towards a future rich in prosperity and significance.

Editors’ Picks

USE THESE RECOMMENDATIONS TO FIND BOOKS THAT PROVIDE INSIGHTS ON FAMILY LIFE OR TO FIND A FUN BEACH READ!

Ebony Carolina - Franklin

The Secrets of Happy Families

By: Bruce Feiler

by Bruce Feiler provides an approachable and actionable framework for modern families to engage more deeply and enjoyably by drawing upon practices from agile business theory, the military, successful sports teams, and science to help families create an environment where they work as a team to increase their success.

He encourages us to tell multigenerational family stories where we learn about a specific challenge overcome by Aunt Marie or an imperfect path to success by Grandpa John. This helps young people see themselves reflected in the fabric of people they look up to and respect. It also enables them to identify with their loved one’s resilience and humanity.

Feiler highlights the importance of creating family traditions such as weekly game nights, an annual return to a favorite place, and special cousins only activities. Another key recommendation is the creation of a family mission statement, as a guiding light to keep the family on course towards its goals and provide a gentle boundary line identifying when course correction is in order. I keep this book as a resource and highly recommend it to our families.

Rachell Green

When No One is Watching

By: Alyssa Cole

This novel, a New York Times Bestseller, reads like a dream for someone like me who grew up wanting to save a city characterized by urban blight. This thriller brings you to a neighborhood in Brooklyn plagued by gentrification as the long-standing residents are leaving. The result is a total nightmare.

The protagonist, Sydney Green puts on her “Precious Ramotswe” hat (Precious is from the No.1 Ladies’ Detective Agency series---an amazing read) and gets to the bottom of it. The story is told through the eyes of each character. This is both a gift and a curse.

Because the truth is based on the narrator, there is a wealth of “alternative facts.” You are left to determine the what is real. You will delight in experiencing the characters’ relationships new and old flourishing and disintegrating as you race to the captivating conclusion.

Elyce Middlebrooks

Set Boundaries, Find Peace

By: Nedra Glover Tawwab

"Set Boundaries, Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab is a comprehensive guide to establishing healthy boundaries for a more fulfilling life. The book explains the importance of boundaries across personal and professional relationships, from dealing with family to managing workplace interactions. It offers practical advice on how to set boundaries effectively, communicate needs without guilt, and handle resistance from others. Nedra provides insights on maintaining composure when others challenge your limits, making this book a valuable resource for anyone looking to enhance their interpersonal dynamics and find peace in their daily lives.

Dr. Dwella Moton Nelson How To Raise An Adult

By: Julie Lythcott-Haims

This book has been on my favorite reading list for some time now. I was introduced to Mrs. Lythcott-Haims at a school function where she was sharing her insights and experiences working with college aged students who were incapable of making decisions for themselves. I was drawn to this book because I want to give my kids all of the tools that they need to help them to become the best versions of themselves. As Moms, we all want the same for our kids.

This book has given me tagible insights and tips that I can implement in our household immediately. Simple changes in our day-to-day experiences are helping them to be able to make well-thought-out decisions, advocate for themselves and take up space by sharing their personal perspectives freely. I highly recommend this book.

Living in Style

Kim McMillian, an acclaimed interior designer, invites us into her tranquil, creatively curated home, showcasing her unique design philosophy and personal style.

WRITTEN BY RACHELL GREEN

WEST |

PHOTOS BY BRIDGETTE

Interior Designer and South Charlotte Chapter Mom, Kim McMillian is photographed in the foyer of her beautiful home in Waxhaw, NC.

The family commissioned Blayne Art in Atlanta to create a piece that represents their three children.

“OUR

home—in its entirety—is my retreat. As soon as I step through the doors, I can exhale,” says Mother Kim McMillian of

the South Charlotte Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. She pauses reflectively, “Find what makes your heart smile, rinse and repeat. Layered neutrals is my sweet spot; perusing my home you’ll notice l don’t deviate too far from center but each space reads like the old adage ‘same, but different.’”

In an age of design where the stars have the ability to establish investment portfolios with homes they then renovate and flip, Kim McMillian is a warm glow that guides you to perfection. She has really committed to using everything she’s learned in the designing of her own home. A retreat-like atmosphere welcomes you as you walk through the main entrance. You’re drawn into the experience with a layered neutral-toned collection of stone, petrified wood, candles, art, and a myriad of lamps. A unique steel interior window gives you a glimpse of the soul of the home while serving as a pass-through to the kitchen. Kim knew she wanted this element but did not plan on this particular execution. “A fellow [South Charlotte Chapter] mom and dear friend walked my home with me while it was still under construction,” Kim reminisces, “and suggested an area that was framed as a walkway into the kitchen was ‘entirely unnecessary’…As a result, I gained more cabinetry in my kitchen, additional counter space, and the interior window I desired. We went antiquing that same day and found the perfect vintage window that greets you.”

Kim spent her formative years as a creative, a trait she attributes to her being an only child. While many children look forward to playdates to have a great time, she was giddy over the opportunity

“just to take a peek and see how [friends and acquaintances] decorated and set the dinner table.” She started off being influenced by the beauty that surrounded her, especially the beauty created by a beloved Aunt whose “love for decor and entertaining was beautifully intriguing.” Kim finds beauty in other designers’ work as well. She can appreciate a unique application of a detail and know she would like to incorporate it and make it her own. Kim's approachable and down-to-earth personality shines through in the serene and welcoming spaces she creates.

The aesthetic Kim has created is calm and soothing. As you step out of the foyer and into the living room/dining room combination, you’re enveloped by the warmth. The year-round use of the stone fireplace contributes to the level of comfort, but it’s also the intentional use of non-traditional seating arrangements that invite you to sit a spell to talk and laugh and reminisce.

It’s a place where dreams are shared and memories are made over wine or juice or water—all available on a beautiful, well-appointed cart. Beside that cart is a notable piece in an extensive collection from various artists who speak to Kim’s vibe. The family commissioned Blayne Art in Atlanta to create a piece that represents their three children, featuring a crown motif.

Kim’s personal style and approach to design are congruent—she is “drawn to muted, yet nuanced interiors and [is] fortunate enough to work with clients who appreciate that sentiment as well.” She prides herself on her ability to listen to her clients as they share the dreams and desires about their personal spaces. And like designers of all levels, she “of course screenshots the heck out of interiors that I’m drawn to!”

A unique steel interior window gives you a glimpse of the soul of the home while serving as a passthrough to the kitchen.

The congruency is felt as you move into her “non-kitchen” kitchen. All appliances, large and small, are hidden and/or seamlessly incorporated into cabinetry. Kim loves lamps and maintains their glow at all times. She continues the use of lamps in this space on the center island. The space functions as a continuation of the seating arrangements in the adjoining living room. The breakfast table has a banquette on one side and is flanked by chairs on the opposite side. In addition to the layered textures found throughout the home, it has rings from glasses as proof that the home is truly used and loved by all of its inhabitants, some of whom have not perfected the use of coasters.

According to Kim, “Your confidence is boosted when you look good. And when you feel good, you perform better.” She added that this insight, inspired by a Deion Sanders quote, is also true in the home. Her children must feel good and give top-tier performances 99% of the time. A peek into her youngest child’s room is the basis for my hypothesis. She designed his room using the same palette and incorporating his personality. The walls are decorated playfully—she does maintain the discipline with earth tones and textures. To my surprise, her son chose the charming daybed anchoring the space. The other elements rich in form and function include an elegant desk area and equally stylish receptacles for toys.

Kim gave us more key truths on which we can rely as we tackle design projects large and small. The one that is exemplified by her design choices in the primary suite is to “balance functionality and aesthetics in shared or multifunctional spaces by creating continuity and by being open to atypical layouts to create definition, not separation.” The mini foyer leading to the bedroom continues the theme of layered textures and the soft lighting lamps, candles, and sconces provide—highlighted by a painting of their wedding photo. In the bedroom itself, you find several seating areas, one she uses as a mini-getaway for a bit of silence as self-care. The bedside tables have the same elements, but they’re tailored to the needs of the spouse on either side of the bed. The primary bathroom continues the idea of balancing functionality and aesthetics in the his and hers sinks, the water closet with the 24-hour lamp as a guidepost, and the area above the tub where she displays important artifacts of their lives together including an engagement photo and the tiara she wore in her wedding.

Kim asserts, “‘Buy the best and you’ll only cry once’ [is] true in most cases. I also firmly believe in a high-low approach—everything doesn’t need to be top shelf.” She has flawlessly executed this perspective. Her family’s home has the elegance of a house of haute couture.

Mom Kim’s “non-kitchen” kitchen.

The breakfast table has a banquette on one side and is flanked by chairs on the opposite side.

"Your confidence is boosted when you look good. And when you feel good, you perform better. The same is true in your home."

No expense seems to have been spared. However, a stunning collection that anchors the space in a sitting room is curated from items gathered at no cost. It’s no surprise that she sticks to her muted tones and varied textures as she gathers shells, petrified wood, and feathers from trips to the beach. The low price tag does not take away from the beauty of the organic testament to their family travels.

Tackling a design project of any size can seem daunting. A first step is to use sites like Pinterest and Instagram, where people constantly upload design ideas and save your favorites. Sometimes help is needed beyond screenshots—the help of an interior designer is necessary. It’s Kim for me. You can find her work in Charlotte, NC, and beyond as she has built a clientele who gets her, and she gets them—the essence of creating personalized, heartfelt spaces.

“Our home— in its entirety —is my retreat. As soon as I throughstep the doors, I can exhale,”

Estate planning is crucial for safeguarding your family's future and ensuring your wishes are honored. Proper estate lanning helps prevent familial disputes and legal battles over inheritance, ensuring that your legacy is

passed on as intended. How do you set up your estate correctly to avoid these pitfalls? Robyn Hicks - Guinn shares her insights.

What is estate planning?

Estate planning is about managing assets during your lifetime and passing on your wealth, including personal items, real estate, and digital assets, through careful preparation of legal documents. These documents make sure your wishes are clear and followed in the event of incapacity and also after you pass away. What should be included in my estate plan?

Every estate plan is unique, but generally, setting up a trust can protect your assets from misuse, legal claims, or other losses, and helps your beneficiaries receive their inheritance quickly by avoiding the lengthy probate process. Other important documents include a will, healthcare power of attorney, durable power of attorney, and HIPAA waivers. If you have minor children, plans for their care should be continued. Business owners should consider a continuation of the business or strategic winding down of the business following incapacity of death. ts.

When is the right time to start estate planning?

You should start estate planning at 18 years old. I encourage parents to consider it as a valuable graduation gift for their high school seniors. For adults, it’s crucial to begin as soon as possible since the future is unpredictable.

What information do I need to start with estate planning, and what does the process look like?

Your lawyer needs to know everything about your finances, including your assets and who will inherit them. We use a detailed questionnaire at Hicks Guinn Law to gather this information. I then discuss all possible estate planning options with my clients, making sure they understand each choice. After the consultation and legacy design meeting, I draft the necessary documents. My clients and I then review the final documents together prior to the signing of the documents. My office then records many of the estate planning documents with the requisite government entities.

Life and Legacy Planning

We caught up with Robyn Hicks-Guinn, estate planning attorney at Hicks Guinn Law, PLLC, to discuss some of the most frequently asked questions her clients have about securing their legacy.

Is a will enough?

A simple will might be sufficient if you have few assets and no minor children. However, if you have children, setting up a trust is better than a will. A trust provides more control over your assets even after your death. Trusts also specify how and when your children will inherit your assets.

Are there considerations for separated, divorced, or blended families?

Yes. In each of these cases your estate plans should be updated to ensure your assets will be given to your intended beneficiaries. The unwinding and subsequent dissolution of a marriage often requires the division of marital property. It is important to remember to review beneficiary designations and name a guardian for your minor children following a separation or divorce. For blended families, it is important to determine how biological and step-children will inherit from each new spouse as well as how property agreements from previous marriages may affect the ability of your current or future spouse to receive assets that you currently own. Separation, divorce and blended families can create complex inheritance scenarios that are easily navigated by an experienced estate planning attorney. It's essential to work with a lawyer barred in your state who understands the complexities of your family's unique dynamics and can tailor your estate plan to protect your assets.

I have a child with disabilities. How do I protect him or her as I get older?

The strategy depends on the nature of the disability. It may involve setting up a special needs trust to provide financial support without jeopardizing government benefits or choosing a guardian to take over care responsibilities. It's also important to apply for guardianship when your child nears adulthood and to stay informed about available government support.

I am caring for my aging parents. What can I do to help with estate planning?

Start by discussing estate planning openly. This can be an uncomfortable but necessary conversation. Discuss who will manage their affairs if they become incapacitated, their end-of-life wishes, and how their assets should be handled. Gathering information about their doctors, medications, and financial advisors will help ensure that you or someone else can manage their affairs effectively when needed. What issues are unique to estate planning for the Jack and Jill audience?

Many of us are pioneers, often the first in our families to attend college or achieve a certain economic status, without a guide on how to manage, invest and protect our assets. This can lead to complex situations, such as dealing with property inherited without a clear legal title or making tough healthcare decisions. My role is to educate my clients about protecting their assets and creating plans that help build generational wealth ensuring our children have a working and sustainable framework to continue your legacy.

FOOD THEN AND NOW: THE SWEET POTATO EDITION

NOTHING PAIRS BETTER WITH A GREAT DISH THAN A GREAT STORY. HERE’S TO HISTORY, A FEW GREAT DISHES, AND MORE!

WRITTEN BY RACHELL GREEN

We all know Dr. George Washington Carver as the king of the peanut. But his genius didn’t begin or end there.

According to the Chesapeake Bay Foundation, he’s single-handedly responsible for saving Southern agriculture by introducing the process of crop rotation. Cotton farming had depleted the soil, so Dr. Carver discovered by growing legumes, nitrogen-fixing plants like peanuts, soy beans, and sweet potatoes, the soil could be restored.

Dr. Carver’s work with these rotational crops yielded new culinary as well as practical discoveries such as sustainable energy resources. Dr. Carver published a document entitled: “How to Grow the Peanut and 105 Ways of Preparing it for Human Consumption.” He literally wrote the book on the subject.

Many of us know him for his extensive work with peanuts, but his work with sweet potatoes is just as legendary. The USDA National Agricultural Library includes, in its Dr. George Washington Carver exhibit, some delicious recipes to enjoy sweet potatoes simply and deliciously.

As Bubba Blue in “Forrest Gump” would say, there are baked sweet potatoes, hash browned sweet potatoes, sweet potato cakes, and sweet potato & apple scallop. Here is his recipe for a basic baked sweet potato that requires little to no prep time. I love using his “suggestions” for nuanced flavor experiences.

DR. CARVER’S BAKED SWEET POTATOES

Wash and dry sweet potatoes of uniform size. Bake in a hot oven 1. (425 F.) 40 to 60 minutes or until tender. 2.

3.

If you want the skin to be soft, rub a little fat on the sweet potatoes before baking.

EDNA & SCOTT’S SWEET

POTATO CASSEROLE

SWEET POTATOES

5 pounds sweet potatoes (about 10)

1 stick (4 ounces) unsalted butter, cut into pieces, plus more for the pan

2/3 cup granulated sugar

1/2 cup light brown sugar

1/2 cup honey

2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract

1 3/4 teaspoons kosher salt

3/4 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg

3 large eggs, lightly beaten

2 1/2 cups hot milk

TOPPING

1 cup all-purpose flour

1 cup light brown sugar

4. Drop in meat drippings, bits of crisp cooked salt pork, or table fat.

Cut criss-cross gashes in the skin of the sweet potatoes on one side, then pinch the sweet potatoes so that some of the soft inside pops through the opening.

5. Save fuel by baking sweet potatoes when you oven-cook other food. 6. If a moderate oven is called for, allow a little extra time for the sweet 7. potatoes to bake. 8.

Sweet potatoes are often stars of fall/winter holidays. If you want to impress your holiday guests with a “new” signature dish, rely on our First Lady of Southern Cooking, Edna Lewis, for a great dish. She coauthored “The Gift of Southern Cooking” with Scott Peacock which brought us a divine sweet potato casserole. This recipe is another option with a minimum prep time and a substantial hands-off cook time that allows you to do other things while accomplishing greatness. Instead of slices or chunks in the casserole, your palate is blessed with a melt-in-your-mouth whipped ethereal delight. Move over marshmallow topping--it’s time for something elevated!

1/2 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg

1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1/4 teaspoon kosher salt

1 stick (4 ounces) unsalted butter, cut into ½-inch pieces and chilled

1 cup (4 ounces) coarsely chopped pecans

INSTRUCTIONS

1. In a large bowl, beat the hot potatoes on low speed. Beat in the butter, granulated sugar, brown sugar, honey, vanilla, salt and nutmeg until blended. Add the eggs -beat on medium speed for 2 minutes. *Reduce the speed to low and gradually add the hot milk.

Preheat to 350°F. Bake potatoes for about 1½ hours, until tender. Let cool for about 10 minutes, then peel.

2. Heat the oven to 375°F. Pour the mixture into a buttered 13-by-9-by-2-inch baking dish.

3. In a large bowl, mix the flour, brown sugar, nutmeg, cinnamon, and salt. Add the butter and rub or cut it in until the mixture resembles coarse meal. Stir in the pecans.

5.

4. Sprinkle the topping over the potatoes and bake for 1 to 1¼ hours, until brown. Serve hot.

This foodie sweet potato journey concludes with a treat that beckons our childhoods. Chenee’s sweet potato pop tarts are so good they were part of 2021's Black History Month’s Virtual Potluck presented by Eat the Culture. With only slightly more prep time and less than half the cook time (if you use packaged ingredients), you can bless everyone with a decadent treat that can pair well with coffee in the morning, ginger chai tea in the afternoon, or champagne after dinner. Get the whole family involved to help prepare this new classic.

FILLING

CHENEE’S SWEET POTATO POP TART RECIPE

1 10-oz package frozen sweet potato chunks - or two medium sweet potatoes, baked skin on (see note)

¼ cup light brown sugar - packed

¾ teaspoon pure vanilla extract

¼ teaspoon ground cinnamon

pinch ground nutmeg

pinch ground ginger

2 pie crusts - store-bought or homemade (see note)

1 tablespoon all-purpose flour - for dusting

1 large egg - beaten with 1 teaspoon water

CINNAMON BROWN BUTTER ICING

3 tablespoon brown butter - (see note)

1¼ cup powdered sugar - sifted (180g)

¼ teaspoon ground cinnamon

2 tablespoon whole milk - plus more if needed

1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract

DIRECTIONS

1.

Preheat the oven to 350°F and line a large baking sheet with parchment paper or a silicone baking liner.

2.

3.

Microwave frozen sweet potatoes (in steamable bag) according to package directions, or until very soft.

Transfer cooked sweet potatoes to a large bowl and purée with an immersion blender or mash with a potato masher.

4.

5.

Add brown sugar, vanilla, and spices and whisk until smooth. Set aside.

On a lightly-floured work surface, roll out pie crust to ⅛thinch thick. Using a pizza cutter or sharp knife, cut edges to form a rectangle.

6.

7.

Cut dough in half end-to-end, then into fourths across to make 8 rectangles.

Repeat with second pie crust, using previously formed rectangles as a guide, to form 16 rectangles of the same size and shape. Set 8 of the rectangles aside.

8.

Spread filling in center of remaining pastry rectangles by heaping tablespoons, leaving ½-inch of pastry exposed all around.

9.

Brush exposed pastry with egg wash. Top with reserved pastry rectangles and crimp edges with a fork. Brush tops of pastry with more egg wash and poke with a toothpick to create vent holes.

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11.

Bake 25 minutes or until golden. Cool before icing.

ICING: whisk together all icing ingredients until smooth. Add more milk if needed to achieve thinner consistency.

NOTE:

Sweet Potato:You can also use 1 cup of your favorite prepared sweet potato pie filling -- just be sure to omit the remaining filling ingredients and follow the assembly instructions from there.

Pie Crust: Use store-bought or your favorite homemade pie crust for an even more delicious, flaky pastry!

Sweet Potato Casserole Photo Courtesy of Food52

Sweet Potato Pop Tarts Photo Courtesy of Chenee Today

Dr. Carver appears to have been on a mission to ensure that African Americans could be self-sufficient with the ability to grow just about everything we need to survive. This knowledge was lost to the industrial revolution and the subsequent Great Migration, however this mindset is timeless and timely. We can cultivate it by learning to grow a container garden--instilling important historical and practical knowledge in our children. An easy way to get started is to grow your own sweet potatoes.

Step 1: Grow Sweet Potato Slips

To start your slips, you need a healthy, clean sweet potato. Each sweet potato can produce up to 50 slip sprouts. To create sprouts, carefully wash your potato and cut it either in half or in large sections. Place each section in a jar or glass of water with half of the potato below the water and half above. Use toothpicks to hold the potato in place. You may also choose to bury half a sweet potato in soil to start your slips. Once the slips start to grow, you will root them and plant them in the ground or in a container.

Step 2: Root the Slips

For more details, find this recipe on HGTV.com Let’s

Once your sweet potatoes have sprouted, you have to separate them into plantable slips. To do this, you take each sprout and carefully twist it off of the sweet potato. Lay each sprout in a shallow bowl with the bottom half of the stem submerged in water and the leaves hanging out over the rim of the bowl.

Step 3: Prepare the Soil for the Slips

Before you plant sweet potato slips, you have a little extra work to do. Sweet potatoes need loose, well-drained soil to form large tubers. You don't want the roots to face resistance when they try to expand within the soil. Loose soil is more critical than almost any other factor when it comes to growing sweet potatoes successfully.

Step

4: Plant the Slips

Plant slips in prepared soil with the roots pointing down. Position the slip so that the bottom half will be covered with dirt while the top half with all of the new leaves is above ground.

Step 5: Water, Water, Water

Water the slips once all of the slips are in place. You'll need to give them a thorough soaking until all of the surrounding dirt is wet. New plants, like slips, need to be watered every day for the first week and every other day the second week.

Step 6: Harvest

When to harvest sweet potatoes will depend on the your slips and the varietal you chose. Typically, most varieties will take about three to four months to mature – about 90 to 120 days, but there are some newer varieties that take less time and are bred specifically for short-season northern climates (such as Georgia Jet, Vardaman, Centennial).

Sprouting Sweet Potato Courtesy of hgtv.com

LIVE|WORK|PLAY

Hitting the town in a Veronica Beard blazer dress that seamlessly transitions from day to night. With Lily Pulitzer earrings, a chic CHANEL pearl necklace and belt to cinch her waist and elevate the ensemble, and a pair of Jeffery Campbell boots adding a touch of edge, Tamara’s ready to own the night.

Businesswoman and South Charlotte Mom Tamara McGill McFarland has seen success in both family and business. She and her husband, Tino, co-founded McFarland Construction, which has grown from a small business to a mid-sized company. Now, she's set to conquer the fashion world as she models looks that perfectly embody our Jack and Jill of America, Inc. motto: work, play, and live.

STYLIST TAMARA MCGILL MCFARLAND

PHOTOS BY NAKIA NEWMAN

Stylish Mom Alert

Meet the epitome of chic and confident - Tamara is slaying her work day in style! Sporting a stunning ensemble featuring a cozy Pop St. Barths sweater, sleek Essentials top, trendy Versona pants, and luxe Bottega Veneta shoes, topped off with playful Sock Candy socks. With Alexis Bittar and Louis Vuitton accessories adding the perfect finishing touches, she's ready to conquer the business world in fashion-forward flair!

A sleek JLUXLABEL denim dress paired with a spacious Louis Vuitton handbag, which is perfect to hold a shoe change for Mom Tamara’s busy day ahead. From lunch with sister moms to hanging with her son Beau, this look transitions seamlessly, perfect for a mom on the move!

Girls Night Out

GNO glam with a twist! Tamara fashionably rocks a chic Camilla Kaftan paired with a Charo Ibiza two-piece outfit, topped off with faux fur sandals by Jennifer Le

SHOP THE LOOKS

Elevate occasionanywith effortless sophistication in this monochromatic nude ensemble featuring CHANEL shoes, a Naked Wardrobe skirt, and a sleek Skims top. Daytime chic meetselegance.evening

In the beautiful chaos of motherhood, it's easy to lose sight of the most important protagonist in the story of our lives: ourselves. As mothers, we dedicate every ounce of our being to nurturing, guiding, and loving our children,

often forgetting to nurture ourselves in the process. But today, let's begin a path of self-discovery and self-care, reclaiming our roles as the leading ladies of our own narratives.

Self-care isn't selfish; it's a statement of self-worth. The most selfish thing we can do as we continue to pour into our work, our families, and our friends is to have the audacity to think that we can still keep pouring from an empty cup. It’s so easy to lose ourselves. It’s easy to put ourselves last all of the time until we fade into the backgrounds of our own lives. Listen to me sis – we did not sign up to be avengers. Taking the time to lean into our own main character roles in our own lives is not about indulgence or extravagance; it's about recognizing our worth and giving ourselves the love and attention we so freely give to others. My fellow moms, it’s time to close your eyes, take that deep breath, and take that first step into your main character season.

What do I mean by main character season? It means taking control of your voice, your space, and your energy. It’s about finding your light and stepping into it. It’s about shining your light into any room you walk into and leaving your light shining in that room long after you walk out of it. Main character season is a journey of celebrating you. You might have 100 roles and wear 100 hats – mom, wife, partner, friend, daughter, manager, employee, neighbor, teacher, preacher etc., etc., etc., – but at the end of the day it’s about making sure that you do not get lost in the shuffle of your own lives.

It’s about being patient with yourself, it’s about taking time to collect your own thoughts and to clear your mind. It’s about indulging in the rich beauty that you bring. It’s about taking the journey, trying new things, falling down, crying the tears, finding your joy, going to therapy, doing the work, taking the risk, and forgiving yourself. It’s about going through it but not staying in it. It’s. About. You. You are a brilliant main character, and this is your season.

Main Character Season

Are you ready for your main character season? Dr. Kalifa Oliver of the Spartanburg, SC Chapter shares how mothers can prioritize self-care and embrace their personal narratives.

PHOTO: ANNA KATHERINE CREATIVE

So, dear mothers, I urge you to carve out moments in your busy days for self-reflection and self-care. Whether it's a quiet cup of tea or coffee before the chaos of the day begins or stealing away for a bubble bath after the children are asleep, find what brings you joy and replenishes your spirit. Remember, pouring from an empty cup does nothing for anyone but ensure that your cup remains frustratingly dry.

Let me be clear - self-care goes beyond pampering; it's also about tending to our mental and emotional well-being. Take the time to check in with yourself regularly. Acknowledge your feelings, both the joys and the challenges, without judgment. Allow yourself to experience the full spectrum of emotions that come with motherhood, knowing that it's okay not to be okay all the time.

In our journey to self-care, let's also remember the importance of finding our main character and stepping into our main character season. As mothers, we often define ourselves solely by our roles in our children's lives, forgetting the multifaceted individuals we are, and have always been, outside of motherhood. Take the time to reconnect with your passions, hobbies, and interests that make you who you are. Whether it's painting, writing, dancing, baking, or hiking, allow yourself the freedom to pursue what sets your soul on fire.

You are more than just a mother; you are a complex, dynamic, and extraordinary woman with dreams, aspirations, and talents waiting to be unleashed. Embrace the opportunity to rediscover yourself and reclaim your identity outside of motherhood.

As we prioritize our own well-being and embrace our individuality, we become not only better mothers but also shining examples for our children. By showing them the importance of self-care, self-love, and authenticity, we empower them to do the same as they navigate their own paths in life. The world deserves to see us shine.

I invite you to bloom into your own main character season. This is your own amazing journey. Sister moms, let us reclaim our roles as the leading ladies of our own stories, embracing every twist, turn, triumph, and challenge with grace, resilience, peace, joy, and unwavering love. After all, the most beautiful stories are those in which the heroine discovers her strength, finds her voice, and writes her own ending.

Leading with Grace:

Nichelle Levy's Journey Through Governance and Growth

Nichelle Nicholes Levy shines as a dedicated leader in Jack and Jill of America, Inc., driving change and nurturing growth at the national, regional, and chapter levels.

BY: BRIDGETTE WEST

Nichelle Nicholes Levy has distinguished herself as a pivotal figure within Jack and Jill of America, Incorporated, currently serving as the National Corresponding Secretary. Her journey with the organization is marked by profound dedication and influential leadership

roles that have significantly shaped the community and its members. Levy's commitment extends beyond her national role, as she has also made substantial contributions at both the regional and chapter levels. Levy's leadership narrative within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. began in 2005 in South Orange, New Jersey, with the Essex Hudson Provisional Group. Her legal expertise quickly positioned her at the core of chapter governance. “I was drafted to be co-chair of the Bylaws

Committee,” Levy recalls, tracing her initial steps in an organization that would shape both her professional skills and personal growth. “Having friends in other chapters was beneficial —they helped me understand how governance within the organization works.” The Provisional Group officially became a chapter in 2006, but by that time, Levy had relocated to Charlotte, NC.

Her move to Charlotte marked a continuation of her leadership, where she leveraged her experience to guide the South Charlotte interest group. "I used bylaws from all the Northern New Jersey chapters to create ours," she explained, demonstrating her proactive approach to leadership. Her leadership trajectory took a significant turn when she was approached by the 2012-2014 National President Tamara Turnley Robinson to chair the sponsorship committee. "It wasn't inherently something I knew how to do, but I figured, how hard could it be?" This challenge unveiled her knack for sponsorship, culminating in a successful national convention in Charlotte in 2014, which dramatically exceeded fundraising expectations.

style, marked by humility and a drive for excellence, was deeply influenced by the caliber of the women around her. "I am humbled by them... I want to be around people that make me better," she expresses.

Levy is celebrated as the only two-term president of the South Charlotte Chapter, a position demonstrating her exceptional commitment. Her leadership path was significantly shaped by advice from National President Turnley Robinson. Levy reflects, “President Robinson advised me to serve a second term to deepen my understanding of our chapter’s operations, having not previously held other officer roles.” It’s conversations such as this that highlight the thoughtful as this that highlight the thoughtful consideration and mentorship that shape the

Levy's journey is punctuated by moments of intense learning and growth, from understanding the intricacies of governance to embracing the impact of strong sponsorship. Her leadership

leadership journeys within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. illustrating the importance of experience and guidance when considering leadership roles.

Balancing Leadership and Family

In the intricate dance of leadership and family life, the commitment to a role within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. extends far beyond personal schedules— it reshapes the rhythms of family life itself. For those who step into positions such as Chapter President or National Officer, the

demands can be immense. It's not just a personal commitment but a familial one, where every family member inadvertently becomes part of the journey. The balance between leadership responsibilities and family obligations is delicate, often leaving little room for personal downtime.

Levy speaks candidly about the all too common challenges and rewards of her leadership journey, to which other leaders can relate. "It's definitely a balance and a juggle," she admits. Her success, she insists, could not have been possible without the steadfast support of her husband, Sid Levy, Jr., who she lovingly describes as an "incredible partner for her." She shares, "He fills in my gaps. He's nurturing and has no qualms about picking up the slack, and I reciprocate when needed. There are times he tells me, 'I've been holding down the fort, and now we need you,' and I step right back in."

Opposite Page: Levy with her husband, Sid Levy, Jr.

The partnership extends to their children's involvement in the organization. During their younger years, the children actively participated in grade-group activities, which eased some logistical challenges. Levy recounts how her husband played a pivotal role during events, especially when she had to focus on her leadership duties. "He would make sure the boys were dressed, ties done, and everything in order," she recalls. This family approach not only supported Levy's responsibilities but also enriched their family life, providing her husband with opportunities to forge his own connections within the organization..

Levy reflects on how her family’s involvement has deepened their collective appreciation for the organization's impact. This shared journey in leadership within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. has not only allowed her to serve effectively but has also woven her family closer together, showcasing the organization’s profound community and familial ethos.

Advice for Those Pursuing Leadership

Levy elaborated on her decision to pursue a second term, emphasizing the balance required between personal responsibilities and organizational commitments. "With young children at home, the decision to take on another term was significant. It's crucial to understand how long you're willing to commit at each level, especially if you aspire to advance within the organization," she explained.

When asked for the guidance she would offer to moms aiming to ascend to leadership roles within Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Levy emphasized the critical importance of organization and maintaining clear boundaries. "It's really important to be organized. You need to know when to get to work and get the work done, and when it's time to be with your family, be fully present with them," she explained. She shared practical examples from her experiences, such as preparing for executive board meetings, often working late to compile meeting packets.

well-being. She concluded with a reminder for potential leaders: "Understand that people come with different realities and experiences. Being light-hearted, not taking yourself too seriously, and maintaining a sense of humor can be invaluable, especially during challenging times."

Personal Growth and Organizational Impact

"It's never about being the smartest in the room but about appreciating the expertise and dedication others bring."

Reflecting on her journey, Levy highlighted the significance of 'polish'—the subtle yet powerful lessons in professionalism, respect, and self-presentation learned through her roles, especially as a part of the National Executive Board. "Jack and Jill, particularly at the officer level, teaches you about more than just protocol—it's about how you carry yourself, how you dress, and the level of respect we extend to one another," she shared. Her role brought numerous opportunities to feel valued and cared for, which profoundly shaped her understanding of appreciation and contribution within a community. Levy praised the humbling experience of working alongside highly capable and passionate mothers in governance and legislative committees. Rather than feeling intimidated, she embraces the knowledge and power in the room as a part of the collective success of the group. "It's never about being the smartest in the room but about appreciating the expertise and dedication others bring," she stated. This environment taught her valuable lessons in delegation, respect for others' work, and the importance of allowing others to shine—realizing that it in no way diminishes one's own contributions.

Drawing on her experiences, Levy also discussed the mastery of working with volunteers, a critical skill in any nonprofit endeavor. "Learning how to motivate and persuade in a volunteer organization, where no one has to do anything, has been incredibly enriching," she explained. This has taught her to approach leadership with empathy, expertise, and encouragement, essential for fostering a positive, productive environment.

She also touched upon emotional regulation and interpersonal dealings, drawing lessons from the book The Four Agreements. "Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth helps to regulate yourself, especially in tense situations," Levy advised. She stressed the importance of not taking things personally as a vital skill for leaders within and outside of the organization, which helps maintain professionalism and composure. "If someone is being unpleasant, I try to pause and reflect on what might be happening in their life rather than reacting negatively. This space allows me to respond in a way that aligns with my values rather than being provoked."

Levy’s approach to leadership is both pragmatic and empathetic, advocating for a balance between dedication to duties and personal

Levy's journey through the organization has not only allowed her to bloom in numerous ways but has also equipped her with the skills to nurture growth and excellence in others, reflecting the true spirit of the organization's mission to empower African American children and their families.

Legacy and Innovation

As Levy prepares to conclude her tenure as a National officer, her contributions and leadership style leave a lasting imprint on Jack and Jill of America, Inc. Over the years, her transparency, commitment to fostering a supportive environment, and encouragement of innovation have not only strengthened the fabric of the organization but also set a high standard for future leaders.

When asked about the legacy she hopes to establish, Levy expressed a deep commitment to transparency and vulnerability, which she believes fosters a supportive community within the organization. "I've been open about the challenges I face personally, and by sharing these, I've encouraged others to feel comfortable being vulnerable too," she reflected. This openness has led to the creation of supportive networks like a mental health group chat, which continues to provide a crucial support system for mothers within the chapter. Levy's approach has transformed challenges into opportunities for communal support and growth. "It’s like an altar where mothers bring their troubles, seeking guidance from those who have faced similar issues," she explained. This initiative not only helps current members but also retains the invaluable wisdom of seasoned mothers who have since graduated from active roles but continue to contribute their insights.

Further discussing her legacy, Levy highlighted her desire to bring calmness and cool-headedness to potentially heated discussions, promoting positive resolution strategies and compromise. "My aim is to show how you can get what you want without burning bridges, maintaining a positive outlook throughout the process," she stated.

Moreover, Levy emphasized the importance of fostering innovation and openness to new ideas within the organization. "You can't always stick to 'this is how we do it,'" she argued. "Making space for new ways of thinking and being open to innovative approaches are crucial for keeping the organization dynamic and relevant."

Levy's leadership philosophy centers on empowering others, encouraging adaptability, and ensuring that Jack and Jill of America, Inc., remains a nurturing environment that respects and promotes individual contributions while fostering collective growth and support.

As she steps away from her national role, Levy leaves behind a robust legacy of empowerment and positive change. Her work has demonstrated that leadership is not just about guiding others but also about allowing oneself to grow and adapt. Her efforts to make leadership accessible and inclusive have encouraged many mothers to step forward, share their challenges, and seek leadership roles, thereby ensuring the vitality and relevance of Jack and Jill of America, Inc. for future generations.

Photos clockwise from right: 1. NCS with Mid-Atlantic Region invitees at VP Kamala Harris visit to Charlotte 8: Regional Associates Chair Donna Stoeling, Regional Foundation Member-at-Large Jasmine Smith, South Charlotte Teen Chapter President Gavin Lindsay, South Charlotte Chapter President Dr. Kimberly Odom, Queen City Chapter President Rhonda McNutt, Upper Palmetto Chapter President Chelsea Padgett; 2. With family, Sid Levy, Jr. and Nicholes Levy on Senior Trip in Montego Bay, Jamaica; 3.With Midwestern Region Fathers Auxiliary Chair David Wade and National Fathers Auxiliary Chair from Far West Region Randy Jones at National Convention Site Visit in Minneapolis, MN; 4. NC Day at the Capital event in Raleigh, NC

NC Day at the Capital event in Raleigh, NC

Leadership often appears glamorous from the outside—name recognition, an elevated profile, and perhaps certain privileges. Yet, the reality of leadership involves substantial work, sacrifice, and at times, it can be an isolating journey. Immediate Past Mid-Atlantic Regional Director (IPRD) Tarcia N. Flemming knows this balance all too well. Her tenure was not just another title held but a profound commitment to service and community enhancement. Reflecting on her experiences, IPRD Flemming shared, "My journey was one of excitement and joy and my experience was one of love and loneliness. I found it to be lonely—I THINK—because I was so focused and driven to enhance the membership experience and offer

Life After Leadership

Reflections from Immediate Past Regional Director Tarcia N. Flemming

BY BRIDGETTE WEST

opportunities for our children to learn and grow with each other."

This sense of isolation is echoed in sentiments from leaders across various fields. Kobe Bryant once noted in a 2015 interview with Ahmad Rashad,"Leadership is lonely... If you are going to be a leader, you are not going to please everybody. You have to hold people accountable." Bryant’s reflection highlights the universal nature of leadership challenges, emphasizing that leadership is not merely about overseeing tasks but also about making tough decisions that may not always be popular.

For IPRD Flemming, a veteran with over 27 years in business and marketing and distinguished service as the Mid-Atlantic Regional Director, leadership proved to be profoundly transformative. Under her leadership, the region saw significant

advancements in communications and chapter expansion, solidifying her enduring impact. IPRD Flemming reflects on the personal growth she experienced: "In this role, I was able to learn more about myself. I improved my leadership skills to effectively lead and manage myself while leading and managing others. "The RD experience confirmed that I am more than capable and more than enough just as I am, which has helped grow and improve personal relationships." Moreover, she learned the critical skills of trusting and empowering her team, emphasizing the importance of delegation and recognizing the potential in others.

Post-leadership, IPRD Flemming has redirected her energies towards personal growth and new professional ventures. "Navigating the life of an empty nester with my partner, I refocused my attention and

energy on enhancing and elevating our relationship," she explained. This new chapter includes branding her event management business, EPEC Events, and embracing a life phase filled with personal fulfillment and continued service in Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated.

When asked if she would consider the RD role again, her response was reflective: "I would be honored to have the opportunity to do it again and humbly say no. I can share my learnings and experiences to help others in the role, but I believe I led as I should and the experience and the journey happened as were ordained."

For those aspiring to leadership positions within the organization, IPRD Flemming advises starting at the grassroots. "Begin your journey working in your chapter as an officer or committee chair and experience Jack and Jill of America, Incorporated on all levels as the opportunities arise at regional and national conferences and events," she suggests, emphasizing the importance of foundational experiences in shaping effective leaders.

Above: Flemming and her boys at North Carolina A & T’s Homecoming; Jack and Jill Moms support the Durham Chapter of Links. Right from top: Celebrating with 2nd Lt Jordan Flemming after graduating from Infantry Basic Officer Leader Course ; Mr & Mrs Flemming at the Delta Ball

Escape to the Great Outdoors

Spring has Sprung and with that, I am excited about the prospect of long sunny days that stretch into warm evenings.

WRITTEN BY EBONY CAROLINA-FRANKLIN

This transition fills me with excitement for the possibilities that lie in the great outdoors. Here are my best suggestions for enjoying nature during the warm months with your family.

Visit LocalHarvest.org to find farms where you may pick fresh produce. Strawberries are a favorite Upick choice in my family. The bounty of berries can be frozen in small batches and enjoyed all year. Feel the texture of the leaves, and notice the smell of fresh berries and earth.

Lay a blanket on the grass and cloud gaze. Many of us enjoyed this pastime in our childhood. What shapes do you see? Can you create a story describing the action between the tufts? Is there a nice breeze? How does that affect the narrative?

Plant a large pot of basil: Fresh herbs stimulate the senses. Basil is an easy-to-grow herb and to me, it smells like summer. Basil can be snipped and added to many dishes, from scrambled eggs at breakfast, to pasta sauces, and grilled cheese sandwiches.

Have an outdoor movie night around the firepit. Children can gather kindling and dried leaves from your backyard to help build a fire perfect for roasting marshmallows.

Enjoy star gazing. Identifying constellations and celestial bodies in the night sky is a wonderful treat on warm evenings. Most public libraries have telescopes available to borrow. How do your senses respond to the absence of light? What can you hear and smell at night?

Attend a day or weekend camp as a family. In our town, we’ve enjoyed Growing Spirit, a place on rural Johns Island where we play in the woods and swing from a rope swing into the lake. We kayak, and canoe, enjoy archery, make popcorn over a fire, and pick fresh herbs for tea.

Chincoteague Bay Field Station in Virginia and Camp Kanata in North Carolina also provide family camping opportunities.

Explore scenic trails along the East Coast Greenway. Walk along, take photos, draw pictures depicting the sights, and display them at home. Greenway.org

Time in nature is about fun and adventure with our loved ones, creating opportunities to share, moments to draw closer, and stories to remember.

Bird watching is an excellent way to observe the sights and sounds of nature. The more we listen the more attuned our hearing becomes to distinguishing bird song. Merlin.allaboutbirds.org

Make native wildflower balls to create your own meadow. Kids will enjoy tossing them liberally and will be amazed by their ability to help create havens of beauty in support of pollinator habitats. Visit climatekids.nasa.gov/seed-ball

Pack a bag for your car with outdoor staples, so that you are always ready to enjoy impromptu time in nature. Place in a tote or reusable shopper: picnic blanket, refillable water bottle, trail mix or another shelf-stable snack, hat, towel, bubbles, insect repellant, sunscreen, soccer ball, and a deck of Uno cards.

Light up the grill for an easy dinner of summer strawberry salad with fresh basil balsamic vinaigrette, feta, and pecans Or grilled flatbread topped with red onions, gouda, and basil balsamic marinated chicken.

At the end of a long day, pick up dinner and eat it in your backyard or in a nearby park. No frills necessary.

Aboard the resplendent Celebrity Infinity, more than 1,000 Jack and Jill of America, Inc. family members embarked on a voyage not just across the crystalline Mediterranean waters but through the annals of history itself. Dubbed "The Jack and Jilliad Greek

Odyssey," this cultural expedition was crafted to blend enriching educational experiences with the joys of shared travel, all set against the backdrop of the historic and picturesque Greek Isles.

Setting Sail on a Cultural Voyage

The journey began in the ancient city of Athens, where millennia of history echo through streets lined with relics of civilizations past. From there, families aboard the Celebrity Infinity explored iconic destinations including Thessaloniki, Mykonos, Ephesus, Rhodes, Santorini, and Hydra —each location a chapter in a rich narrative of civilization, culture, and the oftenunderrepresented contributions of the African diaspora to these ancient lands.

Photos: Top Right: Gastonia - Piedmont President Konika Vrede Bell with daughter Naomi in Thessaloniki. Above: In Rhodes, Greece at the Palace of the Grand Master of the Knights of Rhodes, South Charlotte Chapter Mom Naomi Oglesby with her husband, Derek and son Ashton. They are pictured with Mom Kristina Avant Mays of the Oakland County Chapter in Michigan (Mid-Western Region) and her daughter, Kamrynne.

"It was a magnificent cultural vacation for my daughter Naomi and me. We were able to see historical artifacts that corroborate the theory that people of color are far too often whitewashed from history," reflected Konika Vrede Bell, President of the Gastonia-Piedmont Chapter, sharing her enlightening experience. "She is at the age where she can retain the rich cultural experience that turns into lifetime memories."

A Classroom Without Walls: Educational Impact

For many participants, the voyage served as a vivid classroom without physical boundaries. Naomi Oglesby from the South Charlotte Chapter emphasized the trip's profound educational impact on her family. "This journey brought biblical, Roman, and Greek history to life. In Ephesus, we saw firsthand how the original depictions of historical figures like the 'Mother of God' were people of color, which was a revelation and challenged many conventional narratives we're taught," Oglesby shared.

During the cruise, passengers enjoyed a series of educational sessions that drew the deep connections between African and Greek civilizations. Engaging lectures and discussions explored topics such as the impact of African mythology on Greek traditions and the visible influences of Africa on ancient Greek art and society, enhancing their appreciation of the cultural interweavings that have shaped these storied regions.

Discovering Our African Connections

The journey also acted as a revelation of cultural connections, unearthing the significant yet often overlooked influences of African heritage in the region. Nichelle Levy, National Corresponding Secretary, discussed the focus on African historical ties during the trip. "Our excursions and lectures shed light on the pervasive presence of Africans in ancient Greece, from pottery depicting African figures to the profound impact of African traditions on Greek mythology," Levy explained.

Photos: (top) GastoniaPiedmont President Konika Vrede Bell with daughter Naomi in Acropolis.

(Left) Set to the backdrop of the Greek monument Acropolis, National Corresponding Secretary Nichelle Levy is having dinner in Athens at their rooftop hotel with her husband Sid, son Nicholes, along with South Charlotte Senior Teen Spencer Makell.

Odeon of Herodes Atticus on Acropolis hill in Athens, Greece

Mom Andrea Donnor from the Hampton Chapter, expressed a strong sense of pride linked to these revelations "The trip to Greece allowed us to meet other families and for my daughter to make new friends from across the country It showed her how big the organization is and it filled us with a sense of pride to be on a boat full of black excellence "

Strengthening Bonds Across Borders

Beyond educational and cultural enrichment, the trip fostered incredible bonds among the families The shared experiences brought members closer, creating a sense of community and extended family that transcended geographic and cultural boundaries

"The sense of unity was palpable. We looked out for one another; it felt as though our chapter had no boundaries on this trip We were one large family, spanning chapters and regions it was beautiful," Bell remarked on the community spirit aboard the ship. She further reflected on her unique experience as a single mother: "Going on this trip with just my tween child was a bit unnerving initially. I didn't know what to expect; however, I never felt alone We cared and looked out for one another I made some wonderful connections with moms across the country I loved it "

Oglesby noted how the journey helped her family connect with others in meaningful ways "This trip significantly helped my youngest son transition to a new chapter by meeting and bonding with other teens before officially starting in the new chapter," she added

A Symphony of Experiences

From serene visits to spiritual sites in Ephesus to lively discussions aboard the ship, each day was packed with moments that enriched the soul and created memories that will last a lifetime

National Editor Amanda McWilliams recalled her most cherished memories, emphasizing the personal growth and connection experienced during the journey "Watching my daughter, who joined Jack and Jill as a toddler, now swimming around with all of these different African American children from all over the nation that she just met - that was a defining memorable experience for me," McWilliams shared She added, “the opening ceremony was phenomenal for me ”

Reflecting on a Journey of Discovery and Unity

As the voyage concluded, the impact was evident in the reflections of the participants. The National Cultural trip to Greece was an affirmation of heritage, a bridge to new friendships, and a reflection of the enduring spirit of community within Jack and Jill of America.

Looking forward, the success of the Jack and Jilliad Greek Odyssey: A Sail Through History sets a high bar for future national cultural trips. It proved how committed Jack and Jill of America, Inc. is to the purpose of the biannual trips: to educating, empowering, and uniting African American families through shared experiences that celebrate their heritage and contribute to their legacy.

As the ship docked back in Athens, the journey may have ended, but the stories, friendships, and revelations fostered during this odyssey will resonate with the families for years to come.

Above Left: At the Cake Cutting Ceremony, Nichelle Nicholes Levy (National Corresponding Secretary), Marvis Donalson (National Program Director), Kornisha McGill Brown (National President), Sativa Leach-Bowen (National Vice President), Ily Houston (National Recording Secretary), Amanda McWilliams (National Editor). Above Right: Ily Houston (National Recording Secretary), Vanessa Caston Lefleur (South Central Region’s Immediate Past Regional Secretary), Amanda McWilliams (National Editor). Right: Naomi and Derek Oglesby (South Charlotte Chapter Mom and Dad)

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