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INSIDE THE ISSUE MAY 2021

FEATURES 10 A Visionary for Care

The longtime head of Tulsa’s

Family & Children’s Services shares her story, work and advice

16 Striving for Equity Ashley Philippsen shares her passion-driven path

20 Lending Hope Saving lives and serving the community as an extended family in times of trauma and crisis

24 A Passionate Advocate Meet Terri White, the CEO

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A Visionary fo r C a r e

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IT TOOK GAIL LAPIDUS EIGHT MONTHS TO AGREE TO TAKE ON THE ROLE OF CEO OF TULSA’S FAMILY & CHILDREN’S SERVICES. She’s now led the organization for 35 years, creating new programs designed to address Oklahoma’s high rates of women’s incarceration, connecting the 911 dispatch with mental health professionals and expanding to serve more than 120,000 Tulsa-area residents each year. But at first, she didn’t want the job. Lapidus was happy as a family therapist

how, in his view, men always take promotions whether they feel qualified or not.

at Family & Children’s Services and enjoying

“I’ve been teaching on female leadership for a

building her skills when the organization’s exec-

while, and it’s amazing to me how many women

utive director resigned. She agreed to serve as

feel today exactly like I did back in 1986,” Lapidus

interim, but when asked to step into the role

says. “We have a different set of rules that we

permanently, she refused.

think we have to go by and hold ourselves back.”

The rationale behind her initial decision high-

Lapidus says she ended up in her field almost by

lights a mindset she cautions women against.

accident. She had never heard of social work when

“Most women didn’t have big role models. We

she started college at the University of Oklahoma.

hadn’t been in the workforce that long at the

Her future career sprouted from an interest in

time. I didn’t think it was right for me to take

social justice issues. “There was great attention

this job as executive director because I wasn’t

on the idea that our generation could change the

trained as an executive director.”

world. That was really the theme of my life when I

She describes accepting the position after

was at OU,” Lapidus says. She was a college stu-

hearing from a male colleague who told her about

dent just as the women’s and civil rights movements were growing, and quickly got involved.

“I had stud ied the forces i n societ y that lead to pover t y, but what I d id n’t lea rn wa s how stron g, resi l ient a nd creative th is popu lation is.”

“Someone said to me ‘you are so good at this, and there’s a department on campus called social work you should check into. They focus not only on helping people individually, they also really work toward social justice issues and changes at public policy level,’” Lapidus says. After meeting faculty and taking a few classes, Lapidus knew it was a perfect fit. She reflects that timing played an important role in determining the course of her studies and her life.

LAPIDUS

THE LONGTIME HEAD OF TULSA’S FAMILY & CHILDREN’S SERVICES SHARES HER STORY, WORK AND ADVICE

“A lot of times when you come of age, what’s going on in the world at that time can literally affect your career choices,” Lapidus says. “I’m one of those examples.”

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After completing graduate studies, she centered her career around helping vulnerable people, those who need a second chance or even a first. She says experiences with those facing poverty early in her career inspired her and taught her that those of us who don’t face serious day-to-day difficulties have a lot to learn from people who are over-burdened with challenges. “I saw with my own eyes two things: how poverty and lack of opportunity really pushed people down, but also how strong these individuals were,” Lapidus says. “I had studied the forces in society that lead to poverty, but what I didn’t learn was how strong, resilient and creative this population is.” It’s clear in talking to Lapidus that she’s the epitome of a lifelong learner. She says that quality has been vital in her role as a visionary for Family & Children’s Services. It was also one of the reasons they were able to pivot their hundreds of therapists

“Our job was to help them heal from their trauma

and psychiatrists to serve clients through tele-

and help them begin to re-architect their brains

health care within two weeks.

through different therapies so that they might have

During her tenure as CEO, Lapidus has seen shifts in the ways Family & Children’s Services helps

this opportunity to heal and have buffers against all the forces that are out there,” Lapidus says.

people and the lenses with which they view those

She says Family & Children’s Services fills

seeking help. She says one of the most important

important needs for many people living below the

things the field has recognized over the past several

poverty line who face severe mental illness. In the

decades is the role that trauma plays in family func-

organization, people facing these challenges can

tioning and individual mental health.

find support like therapy, psychiatry, case manage-

“We now understand that if you’ve suffered a

ment, job training and even a pharmacy.

tremendous amount of adverse childhood experi-

Family and Children’s Services addresses a

ences, that you are likely to encounter very com-

broad spectrum of needs, but employees across

plicated health problems throughout your lifetime.

their many locations are united in their goals. “The

We know that certain toxic experiences can literally

one thing that I think ties our work together is a

change the brain,” Lapidus says.

commitment to making sure that the poor, under-re-

Lapidus is particularly proud of their dedication to supporting women in the community. She says

sourced, uninsured populations have the best care available at our organization,” Lapidus says.

one of Family & Children’s Services most prominent programs, Women In Recovery, is aimed at reducing women’s incarceration rates. Once they started the program, Lapidus’s team realized that women’s pasts, riddled with adverse childhood experiences, played a massive role in the issue.

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S T R I V I N G

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WITH JUST A GLANCE AT HER RESUME, YOU’D BE ABLE TO TELL THAT ASHLEY PHILIPPSEN WAS PASSIONATE. Currently the Senior Director of Engagement & Advocacy at Impact Tulsa, she’s worked with the Met Cares Foundation, Mayor Bynum’s administration and served on so many local boards and committees that you’d wonder how she ever sleeps. She describes all of the roles she’s filled with a strong spirit of communityinvested purpose, particularly regarding education. “You see this through-line of educational equity,” Philippsen says.

After working with Leadership Tulsa, LEAD North and Met Cares on initiatives centered around North Tulsa’s vitality, Mayor Bynum approached Philippsen about taking her work in North Tulsa to a larger scale. She agreed, and as part of

Philippsen, a Texarkana native, set out on her career

his administration, she focused on community development

path with civil rights law in mind as a destination. While at

and policy in North Tulsa. She also served on the Tulsa Race

the University of Oklahoma, though, she found out about

Massacre Centennial Commission as the mayor’s proxy, and

Teach for America, where she found her calling helping stu-

designed a community-driven grant program through WPX

dents reach their personal and academic goals. When she

Energy funding commemorations of the massacre.

started teaching middle school English she thought she’d

Then, an opportunity through the Bill and Melinda

be a “lifer,” but a visit to Tulsa to see her would-be husband

Gates Foundation and Strive Together Network caught

altered that plan, and she moved to Tulsa in 2012 to lead

Philippsen’s attention. It charged ImpactTulsa with finding

Teach for America’s teacher leadership development team.

strategies to support students as the pandemic worsened

“Supporting over 200 teachers across Tulsa Public

what were already glaring issues of inequity in education.

Schools and some of our charter and rural networks really

“The big call that attracted me to the role was this idea of

gave me a glimpse at what wraparound coaching can do to

co-developing solutions with students and families to ensure

support teachers as they undertake one of the most chal-

that folks most proximate to challenges stemming from

lenging and rewarding jobs there is,” Philippsen says.

COVID have a hand in targeting inequities,” Philippsen says. CONTINUED >

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She’s especially driven by her collab-

with one another. I used to like to imitate

orative work with school districts and

Sherlock Holmes when I was in elemen-

other institutions to ensure that students

tary school and I loved the emphasis on

see a future for themselves in Tulsa as

observation and analysis,” Philippsen says.

they graduate with the skills they need

Aside from her work, Philippsen enjoys

to thrive in college and careers. Her

spending time with her husband, assis-

position at ImpactTulsa also enables her

tant principal at Carver Middle School,

to do the work she relishes: strategic

and two children, taking advantage of her

engagement and systems-level strat-

public library and spending time at local

egy. And it’s not a newly-acquired skill.

establishments in Tulsa.

She traces her knack for organizational leadership back to her childhood. “I love looking at organizations and teams and studying how people interact

A S H L E Y P H I L I P P S E N Senior Director of Engagement & Advocacy at Impact Tulsa WORDS OF ADVICE: If you’re looking to do something, are you doing it with, to or for the community? ImpactTulsa.org

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Lending Hope SAVING LIVES AND SERVING THE COMMUNITY AS AN EXTENDED FAMILY IN TIMES OF TRAUMA AND CRISIS

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T he field of ment al heal t h h as never been more needed t h an it is now. W e will be helping people t hrough t he st rug gles of t he past year for many years t o come." MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL AMANDA

people through the struggles of the past year for

BRADLEY WAS WORKING IN CORPORATE

many years to come. The need for community

ACCOUNTING WHEN TRAGEDY CHANGED HER

and connection has never been greater.”

FAMILY FOREVER. Bradley’s cousin was killed in

From the beginning, COVID presented chal-

a car accident, leaving behind a nine-month-old

lenges. Bradley made a rapid assessment of the

daughter. Two months later, to the day, the father of

new risks and took steps to address the safety of

Bradley’s deceased cousin died from a massive heart

all staff members and those who needed assis-

attack. His wife then became the sole caretaker of a

tance, along with her own safety and that of her

young granddaughter while grieving the unexpected,

family. Anxiety about the unknown, the tragedy

devastating losses of her own child and husband.

of losing loved ones, lost jobs, school closings

“I experienced first-hand the impact tragedy can

and isolation have been overwhelming for many.

have on a family,” recounts Bradley. “This led me to

Mental health workers had to quickly adjust to

the realization of how fragile life is, and wondering

an evolving crisis as it affected their clients while

with the time I have been given, ‘Am I doing some-

dealing with the same struggles themselves.

thing to make the world a better place?’”

“Crisis work doesn’t lend itself to free space

In addition to overseeing the COPES clinicians

on a calendar. It is important to remember that

embedded in the 911 Center and the Community

the work being done is important and meaning-

Response Team (CRT), Bradley facilitates suicide

ful,” she says of her day-to-day challenges. As

prevention training and strategies. The CRT and 911

for the continuing pandemic, she offers, “Hang

Center initiatives, she explains, help those suffering

on. Just stay. This pandemic has been hard on

from a mental illness who seek law enforcement

so many, but what we have learned is that we

response by calling 911. “Having an individual who

need each other. We are resilient and adaptable.

is trained in mental health connect with these indi-

We can take the lessons learned from this time

viduals allows for navigation of a complex mental

and create a new normal that is better than

health system, diverts individuals from jail and

where we came from.”

emergency departments and frees law enforcement to help with crimes,” she explains.

People often marvel at those in helper professions and ask, “Who cares for the caretaker?” For

The work of healthcare institutions everywhere

Bradley, life in the country with her supportive

has been heavily impacted by COVID-19. Care

family and pets is restorative. She grew up in

providers like Bradley, who offer help and hope, are

rural areas around Oklahoma such as Nuyaka,

undisputed heroes of the crisis. Their hours are long.

Mounds and Welty. Her family settled in Sapulpa,

Their work is unpredictable and often immersed in

where she graduated from high school. She cur-

tragedy. Suicide prevention and caring for those

rently lives in Coweta. “I enjoy living in the country

affected by suicide is focal to Bradley’s work. She

where we have amazing sunsets and clear night

says, “The field of mental health has never been

skies with brightly lit stars that seem to dance

more needed than it is now. We will be helping

when they twinkle,” she says.

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LENDING HOPE (CONTINUED) “My perfect day would start by drinking coffee outside on the porch as the sun comes up, overlooking the pasture where horses are grazing and knowing that anyone in a mental health crisis would know who to call for help, and trust us to lend them our hope until theirs is restored.” Bradley’s husband shares her love of quiet and open spaces. He is a retired officer from the Broken Arrow Police Department, who served that community for 34 years. Her 21-year-old son is completing his EMT training to become a firefighter. “We are a family that values being able to help others,” says Bradley. “I am also the proud parent to three energetic dogs,” she adds. Her Labrador Retriever, Sadie, a Pit bull named Roxie, and Thor, a Cane Corso, are loving companions. “There is no greater joy than coming home from a day at work and being greeted by my family and our dogs. We gather in the kitchen to talk about our days before going outside to let the puppies run off some energy.” Bradley describes herself as a cautious optimist who chooses to give more attention to the good things than to obstacles that draw down one’s strength or happiness. She points out that while we cannot control everything around us, we can choose how we view it and how we respond. “I enjoy truly listening to people share their story, exploring perspectives and working with them to find hope in building the life they want to live.”

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A Passionate Advocate MEET TERRI WHITE, THE CEO OF THE MENTAL HEALTH ASSOCIATION OF OKLAHOMA

TERRI WHITE BECAME CEO OF THE MENTAL HEALTH ASSOCIATION OF OKLAHOMA LAST AUGUST. Originally from Michigan, Terri grew up in Edmond. She spent some undergraduate time at the University of Tulsa, ultimately graduating from OU with bachelor’s and master’s degrees in social work. Before becoming CEO, Terri served as commissioner for the Oklahoma Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse Services from 2007 to 2020. She was also the first woman to serve as Oklahoma’s Secretary of Health, holding that post under then-Governor Brad Henry from 2009 to 2011. When asked about her motivation to pursue a career in mental health Terri replied, “I’m an interesting combination of my parents. Dad was a CPA and very analytical. Mom was a social worker. I got both of their loves of data and social work. I enjoy working with data and numbers and love using that skill set for my passion — promoting brain health.” Oklahoma needs a passionate advocate for brain health, one of the biggest public health crises facing our state. One out of every four Oklahomans is affected by mental illness and addiction. Yet, only 1 in 3 of these Oklahomans are accessing the services they need to treat these diseases. Left untreated, this

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Terri White

disease is deadly. That’s when we see people ending

policymakers have regarding mental health that create

up in the criminal justice system, more children in

barriers to serving our fellow citizens’ needs? “Some

the foster care system, and increases in suicides. But

people still hold the belief that there are two kinds of

when people have access to treatment, they can be

mental health and addiction issues. Those that affect

full and productive, healthy citizens.

the people we know and love, and then there’s the kind

When asked about the transition from leading

that “those other people” struggle with - those who are

a state agency with a budget of $430 million with

on the streets struggling with homelessness or those

a workforce of 1,800 to CEO of the Mental Health

who have ended up in the criminal justice system. In

Association of Oklahoma with a $20 million budget to

reality, that bright-line demarcation doesn’t really exist

serve 30,000 Oklahomans affected by mental illness

- what exists is that some people have access to treat-

Terri stated, “I was blown away by the dedication and

ment and support and some don’t.”

agility of my new organization. I marveled at how our

She continued, “Mental illness and brain health is

staff dove feet-first into a partnership with the City of

a continuum - and this is a disease just like any other

Tulsa and the Tulsa Day Center.”

disease. When a person doesn’t get treatment for their

“Together, we opened a new emergency overflow shel-

disease — evidence-based treatment — the disease

ter in early September. The opening didn’t take months

progresses and people get sicker. But the good news

or weeks. Instead, we rallied supporters and volunteers

is just like other diseases, mental illness is treatable.

and launched it in eight days. Success of the emergency

And every Tulsan in need deserves access to evi-

overflow shelter in Tulsa led to the Association partnering

dence-based treatment.”

to open a similar shelter in Oklahoma City in early 2021.

What can citizens do to help? “Educate ourselves

This is what we do. We do the job many others don’t,

about these issues and continue to push this dialogue

even when quite challenging, in order to help those who

forward, whether it’s in our family or among our friends,

need it most. I am so honored to be a part of the amazing

whether it’s in our community of faith or our workplace,

Mental Health Association Oklahoma team.”

and definitely with our policy makers and elected offi-

I asked Terri to discuss what, if any, stereotypes,

cials. We provide life-saving services to approximately

stigmas, or misconceptions Oklahoman citizens and

30,000 Oklahomans each year when they need it CONTINUED >

“ T h e r e a r e m a n y w ay s w o m e n c a n u s e t h e i r ta l e n t s a n d s k i l l s t o b e n e f i t a m e n ta l h e a lt h agency from physicians, social workers, peer outreach and professionals such as a c c o u n ta n t s , l aw y e r s a n d I T s p e c i a l i s t s .”

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GIVING BACK (CONTINUED) Terri White

SAVE THE DATE for Carnivale! Saturday, September 18, 2021 Cox Business Center | Tulsa, Oklahoma | 6:30 PM Event Chairs: Tina Parkhill & Frauke Petersen 1920s Flapper Black Tie Attire Be part of the Mental Health Association of Oklahoma 2021 fundraiser, Carnivale Rising. For sponsorships and information visit BestPartyInTown.org.

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Terri White

the most. Our programs include Housing (committed

physicians, social workers, CEOs, peer outreach and

to a Housing First model), suicide prevention, mental

support workers, researchers, professionals such as

health education, support groups, pro bono counsel-

accountants, lawyers, IT specialists, administrative

ing, mental health and substance abuse screening and

professionals, and more who choose to work and

referral, peer-to-peer recovery services, employment

use their talents and skills to benefit a mental health

placement and support, mobile medical intervention,

agency. They can volunteer with mental health organi-

and criminal justice diversion and advocacy.”

zations or become philanthropists who give to mental

Additionally, the Association leads statewide and

health causes. Choosing any of these options will be

grassroots advocacy work on behalf of the most vul-

a rewarding way to help their community and have a

nerable individuals affected by mental illness, home-

positive impact on the biggest public health issue fac-

lessness, substance use, and/or justice involvement.

ing our state. As they get involved with mental health,

We work to impact local and state policy, stop stigma

my best piece of advice is to never let anyone convince

and discrimination, and create solutions to the most

them that expecting excellence of themselves and oth-

pressing problems to help better the lives of countless

ers when it comes to mental health (or anything else)

thousands of Oklahomans and their families.

is expecting or demanding too much or that it can wait

“When Oklahomans experience mental illness, addic-

or come slowly...and if they are successful, if they are

tion, homelessness, or thoughts of suicide, your readers

dedicated and passionate...maybe they can proudly be

can become most helpful to Mental Health Association

called “relentless,” too.”

Oklahoma’s mission by donating at MHAOK.org or by volunteering with the Association. Our donors generous

The Mental Health Association of Oklahoma is located

gifts help guide people to essential treatment services,

at 5330 East 31st Street in Tulsa, Oklahoma 74135. For

virtual support groups, shelter, housing, employment

information visit MHAOK.org or call 918.585.1213.

services, and more. We simply can’t do any of that without our unique donors and volunteers. I am so proud and grateful to let them know how valuable they are to us and their impact on the community.” We asked Terri to discuss opportunities or challenges encountered as a female head of a state agency or the Mental Health Association? “There have been a couple of times in my career when terms like “relentless” were used to try to dissuade me from being vocal and to try to convey a negative connotation to how I stay centered and strong on standing up for, and remaining focused on what is right and solutions now. But those comments didn’t stop me because I understand that my actions are part of something bigger than just me; and, that the greatest personal reward — second only to being a mother — comes from passionately serving others, modeling compassion and standing up for those who struggle to be seen, to be heard or who have been disadvantaged.” How would you advise women considering a career in mental health? “There are so many ways women can be involved in mental health. They can be

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TRAVEL DESTINATION

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MOUNTAIN SHADOWS SET THE BENCHMARK FOR DESERT LUXURY AND DISTINCTIVE DESIGN WHEN IT FIRST OPENED IN 1959. Reopened in 2017, this boutique retreat has been completely re-envisioned from the ground up. Set in the shadow of Camelback Mountain in the town of Paradise Valley, the resort sits just ten minutes from Old Town Scottsdale’s renowned dining, shopping, nightlife, and art galleries. Contemporary design is infused with a dash of 1950s modernism and abundant natural light. Choose from chic resort guestrooms and twostory lofts in the luxurious wing of residences.

Photography Mountain Shadows Resort Scottsdale Dave Sansom Photography

When it comes to planning your Paradise Valley escape, keep an eye out for the resort’s annual summer sale, taking place May 14 to 20 and offering the best rates of summer. Celebrating something special? Make it memorable by reserving the Sip, Saber & Savor Experience, an immersive culinary experience for two with private events including a Champagne sabering, Spirited Sipping Seminar, and Food for Thought class. Treat yourself to a true boutique experience at Mountain Shadows that’s relaxing yet invigorating. The resort’s iconic views and Paradise Valley location create a true sense of retreat, while the best of the Valley is still easily accessible, from horseback riding to local dining. This sleek getaway is an ideal resting stop for the design-forward, modern traveler. MountainShadows.com 28

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Small class sizes.

162-acre campus.

SPACE to EXPLORE. Private tours offered by appointment Monday-Friday from 3:30-4:30 p.m. For virtual campus tours and more information about admission or financial aid, call 918-879-4755. Or visit hollandhall.org/admission.

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LOCAL LIMELIGHT ARTICLE TULSA TOWN HALL

town ha a s s ll a e l nnounc s tu 202 1 -2 2 sp e e i e r a ker se th

Tulsa Town Hall Board members Bernie Dornblaser and Pam Hillis

TULSA TOWN HALL IS A NON-PROFIT ORGANIZATION ESTABLISHED IN 1935 THAT BRINGS OUTSTANDING SPEAKERS IN THEIR FIELD OF EXPERTISE. Speakers inspire, entertain and engage audiences with presentations that open minds and stir curiosities. The new season begins October 8, 2021. Subscriptions are now available online at TulsaTownHall.com or by calling the Tulsa Town Hall office at 918.749.5965. The subscription for all five speakers is $100. Lectures are on Friday mornings from 10:30-11:30 a.m. at the Tulsa PAC.

The 2021 -2 2 Speaker Series includes OCTOBER 8, 2021: KEVIN KALLAUGHER “KAL” “DAGGERS DRAWN” • First resident cartoonist for The Economist • Portfolio includes over 8,000 cartoons and 145 magazine covers • Lecturer for TED, Harvard, Pixar, Google 30

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NOVEMBER 12, 2021: DAVID BROOKS “WHAT MATTERS MOST“ • Canadian-born op-ed columnist • Political and cultural analyst • Best-selling author JANUARY 14, 2022: KARL ROVE “AMERICA’S CHALLENGES” • Former Deputy Chief of Staff to President George W. Bush

Nick Buettner

• Fox News contributor and Wall Street Journal columnist • New York Times best-selling author MARCH 4, 2022: NICK BUETTNER “BLUE ZONES: THE MAKING OF A HEALTHY CITY” • Explores Blue Zones, where people live longer, better • Lifestyle lessons from around the world • Collaborates with Good Morning America, CNN, and TED APRIL 1, 2022: HENRY LOUIS GATES, JR. “FINDING YOUR ROOTS” • Founder of PBS genealogy series Finding Your Roots • Award-winning filmmaker • Chaired professor at Harvard University Tulsa Town Hall is sponsored by The Bob West Family, The Helmerich Trust, The Atkins-Pritchard Foundation, The H.A. & Mary K. Chapman Charitable Trust, The Ralph & Frances McGill Foundation, Trust Company of Oklahoma, The Mervin Bovaird Foundation, INSURICA Tulsa, Riverview Property Co, LLC, Cathryn Mayo

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LOCALLY OWNED GET TO KNOW THE OWNERS AND OPERATORS OF THE CASTLE OF MUSKOGEE

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actual historical figures. You may ask extensive details about their backstory and they are happy to share. They are also funny and love to entertain.

WHY DID YOU OPEN THE CASTLE FOR VARIOUS FESTIVITIES?

WHAT ARE YOUR HOBBIES?

I visited a Renaissance Faire ten years before with my

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family. We had such a great time that I decided to try a

For some true downtime, however, we go somewhere tropical with the

Renaissance Faire in Oklahoma. When the Renaissance

family or head to the slopes to ski.

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WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE AND LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT THE CASTLE?

WHICH FESTIVITIES ARE THE MOST ENJOYABLE? WHICH INVOLVES THE MOST WORK? All of the festivals are great fun but they also require

Favorite: The Castle truly has something for everyone. Least favorite: When an event comes to an end, we have to say goodbye to our amazing cast and crew.

a tremendous amount of work in preparation. It’s a good thing we have a dedicated staff and cast to assist with put-

WHAT ARE YOUR HOPES FOR THE FUTURE AND FOR THE CASTLE?

ting it together! The most enjoyable, besides opening the

We hope to keep the castle open and operating for future generations.

gates for excited visitors, is when the merchants and acts arrive in the spring. They bring so much joy and ideas from all over the country—and sometimes from Europe.

The Castle invites you to join the festivities of the 25th Annual Oklahoma Renaissance Festival held Saturdays, Sundays and

WHAT WOULD SURPRISE READERS ABOUT YOU? Having been a Montessori teacher, I am a lover of history. During the Renaissance Festival, most of the characters are

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