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HOW TO CREATE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS

by ANNE JONES, author of ‘How to Heal’

Your thoughts are energy streams and constant thoughts create links to the people you spend time with. If your relationship is loving, then the cord that connects you will be vibrant and strong. However, if a friend or family member is too demanding, needy or overwhelming they will be stealing your energy and the cord between you will be heavy and toxic.

What can you do? If you want to change the status of your relationship you need to start with an intention to transform the energy that flows between you.

Clearing the toxic energies

Here are simple steps that can help clear the toxic energy that flows between you and someone close and can also release you from their attitudes and behaviour: 1. Write down the name of the person. 2. Hold the intention to clear the air between you, let bygones be bygones and forgive. 3. Cut a length of thread to represent the cord that connects you. 4. Release the negative energy in the cord by saying,

“I send love and forgiveness to clear the cord between (name) and myself. I set myself free, now right now, right now” and break or cut the cord. 5. Complete by sending healing into the cord. You can use Reiki or this symbol (below) which will invoke light and healing energy streams that flow through your hands. Draw the symbol, with your hands, three times in the air then place your hands on the name of the person.

New relationships

There can be several reasons why you’re struggling to find a loving partner. If you’ve been hurt and abused in a previous relationship you’ll need to heal the wounds and imprints to your heart. You also need to bring down any barriers you have put up yourself. Here are some basic steps you can take that will help you free yourself and clear barriers to new love:

• Clear any old cords that may still be attaching you to past love.

• Release any redundant vows by saying “I clear and release myself from all vows and contracts I wish to dissolve, now, right now, right now.”

• Set your intention to be open to love by placing your hands together in front of your heart centre (in the middle of your chest). Open them slowly and deliberately three times and say, “I open my heart to receive love, now, right now, right now.”

You can find more healing symbols and exercises in Anne’s book and on her website at annejones.org

11 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOUR PARENTS

According to a survey by StoryTerrace, 45% of people say they’ve learned more about their parents’ lives from external sources and physical items, rather than from speaking to them. So to encourage conversations to flow, the company’s CEO and Founder, Rutger Bruining, has compiled a list of questions to help us understand the people who raised us on a deeper level… 1. What did you want to be when you were growing up? 2. Who was your best friend? Where are they now? 3. What was the most rebellious thing you ever did as a teenager or young adult? 4. Do you think you chose the right career path? Do you have any regrets? 5. How did you meet the love of your life, and when did you know they were the one for you? 6. What kind of parent did you think you would be, and how does that compare to the kind of parent you actually were? 7. What did you find was the most difficult aspect of raising children? Is there anything you would have done differently? 8. What advice would you give me now? 9. Do you see any of yourself in me? 10. Do you think we could be closer? What would you change about our relationship now? 11. Is there anything you want to ask me?