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5 When “Green” is NOT good 6 Tongue Thai’d: Asian cuisine with a twist 8 Lexington Woman presents “On the Couch” at Travinia with Tyler Ryan
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Lexington Medical Center’s new program for urinary incontinence and pelvic pain Little League Shoulder Smile from the beginning
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15 Dress for the job you want 16 Getting a KICK out of life with Jackie Howie 18 Lexington’s own Rebecca West
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hank you for choosing to take the time to read this edition of Lexington Woman. Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts and referrals to the women of Lexington. We believe the businesses in these pages are the best of the best. Each business you will see featured has made a personal commitment to you, the Lexington woman, to provide you with quality products and services, and I invite you to call them or go in and give them your business. Without their support, Lexington Woman could not continue to share such valuable information with you. If you haven’t already made plans to join us in Savannah for the Girlfriends Getaway, call a friend and invite her. See page 13 for details. We are going to Paula Deen’s restaurant and will take a Riverboat Dinner Cruise. Ladies, I would love to see you there. Space is very limited, so call a sitter or let daddy watch the children and join us for two days in beautiful, historic Savannah! Spring is in the air and the weather has us all guessing from one day to the next; do we get out the short sleeves or do we don a jacket? Lately there are more days filled with sunshine than not. South Carolina is especially beautiful this time of year and I love the big cherry blossom tree in my own front yard full of pink blooms. We are doing a lot of exciting things online so don’t forget to check our website frequently and see exactly what is happening in and around Lexington and specifically what upcoming event may be especially for our readers. We have also joined Facebook and at last peek had almost 1,000 fans. If you enjoy the articles we bring you on real women in Lexington, become a fan of Lexington Woman Magazine and find out first about special offers for our fans only, opportunities for give-aways, and of course inspirational quotes to make you smile, laugh or perhaps just provoke a positive attitude for the day. We have also started our “On the Couch” series with some of our featured women. Be sure to check those out online at www.youtube.com/WomanToWomanTV. Look for the icon to the left to denote which women you can view a more detailed interview with. I am proud to be a member of the Lexington community. If you have any thoughts you would like to share with me personally, please feel free to email me. Your feedback is vital to making Lexington Woman everything we have envisioned it to be. To quote one of my favorite lines from the movie Hope Floats, “My cup runneth over.”
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We love our Mothers! We wish all of you moms a Happy Mother’s Day! Be sure to flip the magazine over, and check out our Mother’s Day features. Sexy Girls sushi – a sushi appetizer at Thai Wasabi in Lexington beside Publix on 378. I love the sushi! In my personal opinion, this is the best Sushi in town. The Sexy Girls are a definite must try! Plated beautifully, this dish is appealing to the eye as well as the palate. Take your mom!!! See their ad on page 6. We love Blooming Butterflies at EdVenture starting May 1st running through October. Explore the world of these fascinating insects! Interact with live butterflies and watch chrysalises emerge into beautiful butterflies and moths through the “Bloom Room” viewing window. There are 10-15 different species native to Southeastern U.S. in the garden. Free for members and $3 in addition to museum admission for non-members. We love accessories at Cho’s on Main!!! Buy mom something beautiful for Mother’s Day.
We love KICKS Exceptional Shoes! Check out the article featuring Jackie Howie on page 16, or stop by their Lexington location at The Shoppes at the Flight Deck to find fabulous shoes! Anderson Filet at Travinia Italian Kitchen. What a wonderful dish! Check out their ad on page 8. We love the Colonial Life Center! Check out the upcoming events and family shows at www.coloniallifearena.com. We love Rodan + Fields SOOTHE regimen – a deep, calming breath for your skin… when your face just can’t take it anymore. Rodan + Fields SOOTHE regimen is formulated especially for hyper-sensitive skin, even providing relief for problems associated with rosacea. For more information, visit http://theresaadams.myrandf.biz or http://theresaadams.myrandf.com. Flip the magazine over, and see the ad on page 7. We love TCBY in Lexington! A healthy alternative to ice cream. We love Facebook! Look us up and become our fan! Be the first to find out about special offers for our fans only, opportunities for give-aways, and much more!
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When “Green” is NOT good by Pastor Mark Crumpton
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veryone is talking about “going Green” these days, but I say green is not always good. I believe that part of our current economic situation is because we have been “green” for too long. I know you are thinking by now, “what is this guy talking about”? I am talking about us being discontent and “Green” with Envy for too long. Because of this, Green monster of Envy, we have sought out bigger houses and more expensive cars until we have spent all of our green (money), trying to keep up with the Jones’. When “Green” is not good, it is very bad and destructive. It appears as a subtle discontent; no longer satisfied with what you have. Marriages have ended and families have been torn apart as a result of our “Green with envy” lifestyles. One of the Ten Commandments in the Bible is “Thou shalt not covet”, which is another word for envy. God knows the destructive nature of this “green” monster and desires to protect us from it’s claws. So what can be done about this? Well, the decision to make a difference all starts with you! The choices
you make today will impact others forever, your children and family. Paul said this in Phil 4:11 Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: NKJV.
Matt 6:25-26 “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 25
Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? NKJV
He is saying that I am NOT lacking anything that I NEED; and understanding this I can be content wherever I am with whatever I have.
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If you examine your life today you will see that you truly are blessed. You may not have what the neighbor has but you have what you NEED. If you think back to what most of our grandparents grew up with compared to us, we are far better off materialistically but none the happier. Life is less stressful and debt is less of a threat when we learn to be content in whatever situation we are in.
Thank You Heavenly Father, for supplying my daily bread (my daily needs). I truly am blessed, I have all that I need and more. I may not be rich by the world’s standards but I am rich in life. Help me to be like Paul, content in all things at all times. Thank You Heavenly Father.
Phil 4:19 And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. NKJV God always provides and He always makes a way.
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Tongue Thai’d: Asian cuisine with a twist by Tyler Ryan
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he news of a new Asian Fusion restaurant next to Publix on highway 378 in Lexington was welcome news to me and our Publisher, Lori Duncan. It didn’t take too much arm twisting for me to accept the invitation to join her for lunch at Thai Wasabi. When we arrived, we were made to feel very welcome in the dining room. After a once over look at the full menu, we met Paul, the owner and chef at Thai Was-
Girl,” which is shrimp tempura, jalapeno, with mango. Paul has put together several other sushi offerings such as “Breath of Fire,” “Las Vegas,” “Lady In Red,” “10 SC,” “Fantastic,” and one that makes me want to order it simply because of its name, “911.” We also sampled the Asian staple Edamame. Yummy. We then tried the Tom Yum Tofu, which is Thai herb enhanced soup, with a splash of lime Juice. Again, a delight from
...the right amount of sauces, the tasteful garnish all made each plate pleasing to the eye... abi. Like the staff members that met us at the door, he was very welcoming. Not being a fan of seafood personally, my dining companions thumbed through the full sushi menu, and selected among others, the “Sexy
Paul and the Thai Wasabi. After Tom Yum Tofu, and the Sexy Girl, it was onto lunch. Lori had the Kung Pao Chicken, served with baby corn, bell peppers, carrots, and a special
sauce. The question Lori had to answer was ”How much kick” in the sauce? I selected the Pad Thai chicken, which, in retrospect, was an excellent choice. Also making it to the table, the 3 flavor trout, described as crispy trout in a 3 flavor sauce. Now, before we discuss the food itself, let me take a moment and address the presentation. From the Sexy Girl all the way through the fried ice cream that we will get into in a moment, the food simply looked delicious. Fresh dark green broccoli and cucumbers, the right amount of sauces, the tasteful garnish all made each plate pleasing to the eye...and the nose, for that matter. The freshness of the vegetables was a discussion at our table. Ok, back to the food. As I mentioned, Lori had the Kung Pao chicken. And don’t think for a second that I didn’t reach across the table with my fork extended to do some sampling. A piece of chicken, the pasta, and a baby corn. The flavor was great. The kick was spicy but not over powering. Although, it did sneak up on me a bit, after my comment about it not being hot at all! Like a Seinfeld episode, I can tell the story of my Thai Wasabi lunch backwards. Our friend, Theresa, looked at my empty plate and said “Wow, were you hungry?” Although I was,
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Great food. Great atmosphere. Good presentation. Paul’s cooking certainly made it easy! The chicken and seasoning was delicious. Even the 3 flavor trout looked perfect, and Tracy of Marketing Essentials confirmed that it was an excellent choice for lunch. You might think that our time at the Thai Wasabi would be over. You would be wrong. Paul brought out two of his favorite meal enders. Sweet Sticky Rice, with mango, and fried ice cream, called Tempura Ice Cream. How they manage to deep fry ice cream without melting it defies physics. Both great choices to satisfy even the most discerning sweet tooth. Let’s check the balance sheet so far on our time at the Thai
Wasabi. Great food. Great atmosphere. Good presentation. Ok, time to talk turkey. How much? Appetizers start at $3.99. Paul has daily lunch specials priced at $6.99. Mind you, don’t be fooled by the use of the words “Lunch Special.” At Thai Wasabi, the specials are a special price, not special size. They are all very large portions. Full dinners and entrees also start at $9.99. The Thai Wasabi is opened every day, with lunch starting at 11:00 Monday through Saturday, and Sunday starting at 11:30. You also can check out their website, including a full menu, at www.thaiwasabi. net. Thank you Paul for a great lunch!
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exington Woman Magazine has partnered with Travinia Italian Kitchen and Tyler Ryan to bring you the “On the Couch” series and the “On the Couch Survivor” series.
Office of Richard Breibart. (You can check out their articles on pages 16-19.) We also interviewed Bren Miller, Crystal Poston and the Ta-Tini’s. Those interviews will be being posted throughout the month of April and May. You can learn more about Bren starting on page 22, and flip this issue over to read the article on Crystal. We wanted you, our reader, to experience the wonderful people we have an opportunity to meet in a more personal way. Become a fan of Lexington Woman Magazine on Facebook, and we will send you links and other promos to go along with our “On the Couch” series throughout the summer months.
We are so excited about this opportunity to bring to you not only great articles about local men and women, now you can see them live and in color right from your computer at home or in the office. Our first interviews were with Jackie Howie of Kicks Shoes and Rebecca West of the Law
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re you worried you won’t be able to afford veterinary care for your pet if they need it? You and your family’s emotional connections with your pet are strong, yet today’s economic realities may cause you to postpone necessary treatment or even force you into euthanizing your pet if they become seriously ill or injured. According to the Journal of the American Veterinary Medical Association, expenditures for veterinary care have more than doubled since 1980. If this ‘health care crisis’ has you worried, then you should consider pet health insurance. In many ways, pet health policies are similar to human insurance policies; annual premiums, deductibles, and various coverage plans are based on what the pet owner chooses. They are not, however, health maintenance organizations (HMO’s) or preferred provider organizations (PPO’s), nor is pet health insurance considered ‘managed care’. Pet health insurance policies are fee-for-service indemnity policies similar to your auto or homeowner’s insurance. An owner with a pet insured by these policies has a contract with the insurance provider and submits claims to their them for reimbursement of the pet’s veterinary costs. Since
it is an indemnity policy and not medical insurance, the providers are not concerned with treatment outcomes, length-of-stay, or other issues important to human medical insurers and managed care. Veterinarians are not bound by contractual relationships with insurers nor do they sell policies or receive ‘kick-backs’. Overall, these policies are much less complicated and more affordable than our own health insurance. Pet Health insurance has been in the U.S. market for more than 30 years, however according to Dr. Ernie Ward DVM, a member of the PetPlan Insurance Advisory Board, less than 2% of all U.S. pets are covered by health insurance. Even so, the pet health insurance business is growing drastically. An independent market research firm estimated a total growth of nearly $110 million from 2003 to 2007, and there are several new insurance companies entering the mix, including names well known to pet owners such as Purina and the American Kennel Club. Dr. Craig Pryor of Murphy Road Animal Hospital in Nashville, TN, tells a success story of one of his clients who had two boxers develop cancer. The successful treatment and remission for both dogs cost
$25,000, which included surgery, hospitalization, radiation and chemotherapy, and the client’s pet health insurance paid all but $500.
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t may start during a cough, sneeze or jump. But soon, it can develop into an embarrassing problem that impacts quality of life. National consumer research shows that one-third of men and women ages 30 to 70 have experienced incontinence at some point in their adult lives and may be still living with the symptoms. Now, Lexington Medical Center is pioneering a first-of-itskind hospital program in the Midlands. Lexington Medical Center has a new program for incontinence and pelvic pain for both women and men. To date, it is the only Midlands hospital with such a program. “We use exercises, nutrition, biofeedback and other modalities to treat these patients,”
said Tori Gude, physical therapist and manager at Lexington Medical Center Rehabilitation and Sports Medicine. In women, pregnancy and childbirth are common factors leading to incontinence. After childbirth, the pelvic floor muscles are weakened and the pelvis can be aligned differently. In men, surgeries, nerve damage or benign prostatic hyperplasia can cause incontinence. Habits such as drinking too much caffeine or alcohol can make it worse. Many of the same factors can lead to pelvic pain, along with participation in high impact activities such as cycling, creating problems including pain in the lower abdomen, limited sitting tolerance and reduction in range
of motion. Pelvic pain is considered chronic when symptoms are present for more than six months. The pain is often described as aching or burning. Gude says, for some people, the problems are so bad that they limit activities or traveling they once enjoyed. She adds that the experience of wearing a thick maxi pad or wetting their bed at night becomes extremely embarrassing, especially for younger patients. Patients who take part in the new program come to the Rehabilitation and Sports Medicine office on Lexington Medical Center’s main campus. Tori Gude sees each patient once a week for a 45-minute session. Treatment will last 6 to 12 visits.
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The treatment is always done in conjunction with advice and permission from the patient’s physician. Patients can be referred by their primary care doctor, Ob/Gyn or urologist. Such a referral is necessary. Most insurance providers cover physical therapy for urinary incontinence and pelvic pain, however all patients should verify their individual benefits for specifics on out of pocket maximums and any limits their plan has in place. Good candidates for referral to the program include people who experience trouble leaking urine during normal daily activities, leakage
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Little League Shoulder by Tyler Ryan
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ith almost three million players, little league is a time honored and very popular tradition for young boys who have dreams of becoming A-Rod, Ted Williams, or even Babe Ruth. The largest organization of little league was founded in 1939 by Carl Stotz. Since then, along with the growth of big league ball, little league has become a tradition all over the world. Boys that began as little league players have gone on to win World Series titles and held long careers in “The Show” (the term used to describe the Majors). Unfortunately, there is an increasing number of young players whose dreams end with little league, sidelined by what has become known as “Little League Shoulder.” The average big league pitcher creates seven thousand degrees per second of angular momentum. In layman’s terms, a throw that can travel over one hundred miles per hour. This creates tremendous stress on even the most trained, strongest throwing arm. Although your average twelve year old isn’t quite at that level, as the young human body is forming, it is susceptible to injury from use. According to Dr. Frank Noojin from the Moore Orthopedic Clinic, the dynamic of
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‘Little League Shoulder’ has become all too common among the future Roger Clemens of the twelve year old set. how kids play sports has changed. In past generations, kids played several sports. Baseball in the spring, football in the fall, basketball in the winter. This provided rest to various parts of the body. With the increased competitive nature of sports, kids are much more specialized and focused on one sport. With the climate of the south east, it is possible to play baseball nine to eleven months of the year, rather than three or four. The addition of different types levels leagues, school games, summer leagues,
travel ball, among others, kids can get a lot of practice, but also expose themselves to potential injury. Humeral Epiphysiolysis, commonly known as “Little League Shoulder” has become all too common among the future Roger Clemens of the twelve year old set. The injury occurs from the repetitive throwing, which causes stress on the growth plate. According to Dr. Wendell Holmes of the Moore Orthopedic Clinic, this stress can cause a weak
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It’s a lot of responsibility for a young player to recognize what his body is trying to say. Although soreness can be expected with any level of intensive activity, ‘listen to your body. Pain is not normal.’ There are systems in place to protect the players, but it is vital for parents and players to play by the rules. “Live by the pitch count rules.” Dr. Holmes warns. He goes on to say that ball should only be played a maximum of 8 months a year. He also says “Don’t cheat the system” by playing in several leagues at once. This can quickly create the fatigue and stress on the young body that can lead to Little League Shoulder.
We are partnering with Faith Based Vacations & Group Travel for a fabulous Savannah weekend trip May 20-22, 2010. For three days and two nights, the total cost of the trip is $299. Activities for the group will include the following and much more: • Two Nights at the Country Inn & Suites • Lunch at Paula Deen’s - Lady and Sons • Historic Savannah Trolley Tour Riverboat Dinner Cruise - Feast on a delicious buffet while you enjoy cruising along the scenic Savannah River • Show Tickets at The Savannah Theatre - “Southern Nights” A Musical Variety • Hop On/Hop Off Shopping at the Savannah Historic District and along the Waterfront • Motorcoach Service from Columbia If you’re interested in joining us, or for more information, contact Teilah Shirley at (803) 414-6029 or tshirley@faithbasedvacations.org.
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If coaches and parents observe the signs, and the players listen to their bodies, Little League Shoulder is not a career ender. Most players can return to the mound, and with technique corrections, can find themselves stronger pitchers in the end. Dr. Noojin tells us this issue can be avoided all together, with these simple steps. Plan, condition in the off season, learn proper technique, watch the pitch count, and take 3 months a year off to let the arm rest. You never know, we might have a World Series winner from Lexington! You can learn more about The Moore Orthopaedic Clinic, and it’s outreach program, and treatment by contacting them at (803) 2278000 or at www.mooreclinic.com.
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Smile from the beginning by Jennifer Hutchinson, RDH
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irst impressions seem to be what most people remember about a person. It is the beginning of the relationship, a time when you want to look great and feel confident. Whether it is a job interview, business client or a first date, you should try to make the best impression possible. Your smile is the first thing people notice when they meet you. You don’t have to be a Dentist to notice cigarette and coffee stain or to smell the bad breath from Gum Disease. We use our mouth so much in our professional life through communicating (talking), smiling and eating with our colleagues. It would be mighty hard to smile at your boss or potential client when you have a toothache because you put off that filling from last year.
Whether it is a job interview, business client or a first date, you should try to make the best impression possible. Jennifer Hutchinson with her daughter Elizabeth
Now let’s get real here, especially women, if we are going to an important function we want to wear a great outfit (probably one we have tried on 3 times!). So why would you not want a great smile? Everyone can see it and you have to wear it every day! WOW
in-home bleaching to crowns and veneers and orthodontics. Even regular 6 month Dental Hygiene visits are great because we polish off a great deal of stain from coffee and tea and remove tarter which contributes to Gum Disease and unsightly “red” bleeding gums!
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Dress for the job you want by Ruth Chapman
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nce I was tasked with building an entire department from the ground floor. What I learned is that the interviewer’s perception whether real or imagined is everything. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. From an advertisement I put in the local newspaper, I received 21 resumes to review. I pulled out any resume in which it appeared the applicant had relevant work experience; much to my chagrin, there were only one or two. Then I looked for customer service experience. I believe that customer service is innate. You can learn the facets of the business, but it’s difficult to teach people how to be nice. A few of the applicants did not respond to my voice mails. I didn’t make a second attempt at contact. One or two simply failed to show up for the interview – no call, no show; no job. I usually drive to the location the night before, making sure I know exactly where to go and determining how long it might take me to get there, so I that will not be late. This just seems like common sense to me, but apparently, not everyone uses this approach as several were 10 minutes or more late; a big no-no on a job interview. I believe that just by talking to someone, you can get a feel for their personality. I begin telling the applicant about the job. Next I ask them to tell me about themselves. I don’t ask if they are married, have children, go to church, etc. but usually they feel compelled to tell me all these things. Sometimes they tell me way more than I need to know. I always ask them why they are leaving their current position. This is not the time to reveal some transgres-
sion, either real or perceived that is unforgiveable in your mind. Interviews should always be positive. All the while, I am looking at this person and asking myself, “Do they fit in with other members of the department? Are they pleasant? Are they appropriately dressed?”
It is imperative to wear your best outfit to the interview. I was once hired for a position in a law firm when I was in college, simply because I wore a navy blue suit with a silk scarf in the pocket. It is imperative to wear your best outfit to the interview. I was once hired for a position in a law firm when I was in college, simply because I wore a navy blue suit with a silk scarf in the pocket. My wise and wonderful aunt once told me to always “dress for the job you want, not the one you have.” I believe that even if you don’t own a suit, you know someone who does. And if you don’t, go to Goodwill if you can’t afford one. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Visit The Chapman Company Fine Jewelers at 903 North Lake Drive in Lexington for the latest trends in jewelry.
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Getting a KICK out of life with Jackie Howie by Tyler Ryan
Jackie fancies working at the store as acting almost like ‘a bartender for females.’ The friends come in, sit on the couch, and the friends ‘work it all out...if we sell some shoes in the process, all the better.’ photo by Clark Berry Photography
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ven if you have never shopped at either KICKS stores, on Devine Street or at The Shoppes at Flight Deck, even if you have never thought about shopping at a shoe boutique, even if you are a guy, you have heard of either Jackie Howie, or KICKS. As a professional emcee of sorts, I can’t tell you the many times I have mentioned the words “footwear available at KICKS” while hosting a charity event. This tells me that Jackie Howie not only runs a successful business, she is also a very active member of the community. Over the last 12 years, Jackie has built a reputation for style and price, but she didn’t start out with deep pockets to become successful. When Jackie came back to Columbia, she “didn’t have two dimes to rub together,” but had the entrepreneurial spirit of her father. Drawing from her love for the shoe stores in Atlanta, Jackie, with no business background, asked a lot of questions, and jumped in with both feet … pun intended. Kicks did not always occupy the grand space it does in Lexington and downtown that you
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see today. Initially, she had an agreement to sell shoes in an existing ladies boutique on Devine Street. The next step…(like the metaphor?) was a “teeny little house,” also on Devine. Her next big move was to the current location on Devine Street. In Lexington, Jackie went back to the basics. She started inside of Lola on 378. With her recent move to the Shops At Flight Deck, she has really found a home. Jackie has also continued the small town feel and philosophy that has made the stores a success. In Lexington, she simply props the door open and people can just pop in. Jackie fancies working at the store as acting almost as a “bartender for females.” The friends come in, sit on the couch, and the friends “work it all out…if we sell some shoes in the process, all the better.” Jackie also strives to break the impression that a store like Kicks is full of only high end shoes for select people. She actively fights that stigma. She works to make sure that no one thinks they can’t afford things in her stores. Although she had no formal business training, she recognized an opportu-
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nity to provide shoes at lower price points, so that even moms with daughters who outgrow their shoes can find the “adorable” shoes that have made the stores famous. With prices ranging from twenty dollars to several hundred, Jackie’s pledge is to find a fabulous shoe at the price you need. The other recipe for success is Jackie’s involvement in the community. She recognizes the difference between simply running a store in a community, and being part of it. Among the many events you see Kicks involved with, Jackie is very dedicated to helping others find the strength to fight their battle with breast cancer. Her next event is the “Get in The Pink” event on May 8. This event was started last year, marking her tenth anniversary in business. She felt like there was diagnosis after diagnosis of breast cancer among her friends and clientele. With all that in mind, she coupled her love for running with an event to raise money and awareness. The success of the first run brought the attention of the Susan G Komen Foundation, who wants to be a part of the event this year. There is more information on the race at www.GetInThePink.org.
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Jackie Howie Even with the stores, and community involvement, there is one thing that she holds dear, and that is her quality of life. The life outside the store. The life with the family. Although there are times that she feels like no matter what, she is going to disappoint someone, she has the support of a very “patient, wonderful husband” who isn’t afraid to lend a hand. Successful business owner. Wife. Mom. It’s very easy to see that the magic of Kicks comes from the genuine nature of its proprietor, Jackie Howie. “It’s not rocket science,” says Jackie, “buy pretty things, and treat people well.” Good advice. It’s working very well at KICKS. You can browse, get directions, and even shop at www.ShopAtKicks.com.
“Give a girl the correct footwear and she can conquer the world. – Bette Midler
Among the many events you see Kicks involved with, Jackie is very dedicated to helping others find the strength to fight their battle with breast cancer. If you’d like to see more of the time we spent with Jackie please log onto Woman to Woman TV, at www.youtube.com/WomanToWomanTV, and watch the entire “On The Couch” interview.
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Lexington’s own Rebecca West by Tyler Ryan
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erry Mason. Ben Matlock. Jack McCoy. Rebecca West. Ok, well the last one isn’t as much a character on TV, but a real, practicing, successful attorney with the Law Office of Richard J. Breibart in Lexington. If you’ve lived in the Lexington area you have, more than likely, heard of The Law Office of Richard Breibart. Breibart has made a name for himself as a criminal defense attorney. He also has a very talented team of attorneys who practice civil litigation, and the firm has been involved in several high profile cases which have yielded millions for clients. The Law Office of Richard J. Breibart is a general practice firm. The firm is giving special focus to alternative dispute resolution, which is used to avoid what could be a costly legal battle. The firm facilitates structured
If you’ve lived in the Lexington area you have, more than likely, heard of The Law Office of Richard Breibart. negotiations and uses the skills of the attorneys to reach a resolution prior to entering a courtroom. The office is also adding a division of probate and estate work, making the firm a truly full service general practice. Rebecca West grew up in West Columbia
and attended public schools, before attending Ole Miss for law school. After coming home and earning visiting student status at the USC School of Law, she found herself focusing on family court cases. She now heads the family court division at the Law Office of Richard Breibart. The practice unique among firms in Lexington because it has attorneys who are dedicated to work specifically in the family court. In the family division, she sees a lot of divorce cases, and the inevitable custody battles that ensue. She also handles social services cases, often in the defense role, where someone is accused of wrong doing when it comes to a family member. Some times family law has a criminal component, and she pointed out that at Breibart, they can handle both the
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In a world of civility, she learned early on that regardless of gender, ‘playing nice with others’ will always serve you better.
“Other things may change us, but we start and end with family” – Anthony Brandt
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nearly a third women, compared to the pictures of classes in years past, which had only one or two.
We asked Rebecca about the difficulties or differences for a female to practice law in what some might consider the “Good Ole Boy” world of the southeast. “It’s a learned skill,” she replied. In a world of civility, she learned early on that regardless of gender, “playing nice with others” will always serve you better. The balance between the family and career, however, tends to require a bit more finesse. Mom is still mom, and when the kids are sick, she is the one who is called. Rebecca said that she relies on an extended network of people including a very supportive husband. She also commented that when you leave work, you need to “leave work and be a mom.” Rebecca did make the point that sometimes when you put on the mom hat, and leave work behind, it can be a disadvantage because often the male attorneys can continue working. “You work around it.”
You know that the question of shows like Law and Order, The Practice, and Matlock came up. According to Rebecca, there are in fact, some similar aspects to what we see on TV and reality, which is more than can be said for a lot of reality shows. According to Rebecca, the relationship that is often found between courtroom adversaries can ultimately help create a positive court outcome. Even some of the procedures we see on the tube are “absolutely accurate.” She’s even had someone confess on the stand!
Rebecca has found that the number of female law students has increased tremendously, over the years, pointing out that her class at Ole Miss was
The Law Office of Richard Breibart is clearly well suited to a vast array of services for clients, from criminal and civil defense to injury cases, and family matters. You can learn more about the firm online at www.breibartlaw.com and www.palmettofamilylaw.com. You can also logon to www. LexingtonWoman.sc to watch the “On The Couch” interview with Rebecca West, where we learned about how she puts her negotiation skills to work with her precocious three year old red-headed son.
Here are two images from a session we did with my grandmother and mother months before my grandmother passed away. I sort of knew this was probably our last chance to do these pictures with my Nana and I’m so grateful we took advantage of the time we had. Too often people put off doing important things like this and then they realize one day that its too late. Even if people don’t choose us to photograph their families I hope they get some professional images made of their loved ones to have to remind their children and grandchildren of their loved ones who are no longer with them. – Becki Berry (Clark Berry Photography)
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Terry Vann-Schon, Tyler Ryan, and Paulette Criscione
A journey that was meant to happen…. Take a woman with a great sense of style facing a difficult situation with her head held high and quiet fashionably decorated (I might add) and woman with the heart to help others and the opportunity to do so and Chemo with Style was inevitable. Paulette Criscione and Terry Vann Schon formed a partnership and a friendship that has made Chemo with Style such an important part of many survivors journey. With the donation of 75 wigs and the desire to pay it forward Paulette and Terry have worked since November of 2005 to help patients who lose their hair while under going chemo therapy, look and feel better as they fight for their lives. “Chemo with Style” classes are held every other month, and are open to all cancer patients who are losing or have lost their hair. Hospice Care of Tri-County, SCOA, local merchants, and volunteers support the classes, where they teach and fit each individual with a wig and turban, showing creative ways to wear different head gear, and offering other personal appearance tips. Scarf tying and other tricks are shared along with fun and fellowship. Classes are offered at no cost to the patient.This loosely knit support group supplies each cancer patient an oasis from the sterile medical. Through the hearts of those who are like-minded, Paulette and Terry strive to add sunshine to the day of each cancer survivor.
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nyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.” —Author unknown When I think of the survivors in the following pages the above quote is a perfect example of their courage. The survivor series is about celebrating the life, the gifts, and the joy it is to simply exist. The women in these pages have chosen to do more than exist.
They have decided to live every day to the fullest and make the most of every moment. I like to call this section of Lexington Woman Magazine, “The Survivor Pages”. What I want you to understand is that these pages aren’t about cancer, they are about strength and courage. They are about second chances in life! The women in these pages open up about intimate details of their lives, for one reason and one reason only. There is healing in these pages. Nothing inspires me more than an actual first hand account of any dif-
ficult situation. When someone has walked the path before you, someone who didn’t know how things would turn out, doesn’t it make you feel like you can do it too? Why do reality shows inspire people to change their lives? Because they watched a real person accomplish what they set out to do, and now they believe they can do it as well. When you read this section of Lexington Woman, do it with purpose. Take something away from what you read. Be inspired. www.lexingtonwoman.sc
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Bren Miller
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n March 2007, my husband and I were ready to move to Columbia, South Carolina from Cincinnati, Ohio. Minutes before the moving truck arrived, I received a phone call from my doctor informing me that I had been diagnosed with breast cancer. Breast Cancer??? For over 30 years, I had worked out faithfully and ran several marathons so, “ME”???... with breast cancer??? How did I get breast cancer? Am I going to die? What about my
I am HER2 positive so I had to have weekly chemo for a year finishing in June 2008. I now understand that it’s possible for anyone – any healthy woman with no risk factors, to turn up with breast cancer. I was proof that cancer can hit no matter how good you take care of yourself! I found a tiny lump several months BEFORE but, for some reason, didn’t worry about it…mainly because I had no idea what a lump was supposed to feel like! Also, my lump did NOT show up on the
I now understand that it’s possible for anyone – any healthy woman with no risk factors, to turn up with breast cancer. I was proof that cancer can hit no matter how good you take care of yourself! photo by Clark Berry Photography
Bren at the Pink Posse photo shoot
THEN, it was time to wash my hair. I pulled the rubber bands out of the pigtails and my hair fell out in HUGE chunks! OH MY GOODNESS…..I had a mess….My hair was totally “LETTING GO”!!!!!! I yelled for my husband to bring the scissors. I hung my head over the sink and begin chopping it off at the scalp! NOW, it was time for my personal barber (my husband Greg) to take over. Greg did a great job shaving my head and enjoyed every minute of it! But, here’s the unbelievable part of the story: I did not shed ONE single tear!!! NOT ONE!!! I actually liked the new “DO”. I never wore a wig…I learned that a bandana can be a very important accessory when moving to a new city! So many people in Columbia reached out to me when I wore my CROWN! Yes, people came up to me and introduced themselves…..I felt I had moved to the friendliest city in the country! My “Bandana Crown” brought so many new friends into my life….people I would not have met if I had blended into a crowd wearing a wig.
hair? Honestly, I am embarrassed to admit that for a moment, I was more worried about losing my hair than having cancer!
mammogram (only on ultrasound) which is even more reason to do monthly self-exams and know your body!
In shock, I handed the phone to my husband and fell to the floor crying in the midst of packed boxes. My husband spoke to the doctor, picked me up off the floor and put his arms around me. “Moving” was the last thing on our minds! We intended to leave for Columbia after the furniture was loaded, but obviously, had to change our plans. At that time, I began visiting doctors, hospitals, experiencing all kinds of tests and procedures, and dealing with the emotions that come with this kind of news. It is amazing how such a tiny lump can change your life!
I approached this nightmare as a “breast cancer training program.” I prayed that God would eventually use me to help others through all the challenges I would experience on this journey.
Since my last treatment in June 2008, my life has been filled with tons of changes. New city, new home, new friends, and NEW hair? Before cancer, my hair was long, straight, and blonde…My new hair is curly, and very dark brown! It is still pretty weird for me to look in the mirror and see the dark hair! For a long time, I barely recognized myself and sometimes I even miss my bald head on hot, humid South Carolina days!
The biggest surprise was my ability to deal with NO hair. I had been in denial from the “get go” about losing my hair and freaked out every time I thought about it. I know…..it was only hair….but I am a girlie girl and my hair has always been very important to me. Shortly after the first chemo treatment, my hair began to “let go”. Picking hairs off my clothes drove me crazy so I ended up styling my hair in pigtail braids. The braids were
Throughout my year of chemotherapy and multiple surgeries; I found it very hard to look in a mirror. My body had changed so much and I really didn’t like the reflection of myself. At times, I would stand in front of the mirror and say, “Who Are YOU?” See, before cancer I was “Brenda” and my way of dealing with the physical changes was to change my name to “Bren.” As Bren, I started my life over with more wisdom, more compassion,
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successful because the hairs stopped dropping all over me! My only fear was that the pigtails might fall off!
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The biggest surprise was my ability to deal with NO hair...I did not shed ONE single tear!!! I actually liked the new “DO”. Bren after losing her hair more love and more life than ever before…thankful for every single day God gives me…appreciating every moment and never taking anything for granted…especially giving encouragement and hope to others dealing with breast cancer. All through my life, smiling and having a positive attitude has always been very easy for me. Therefore, with cancer, I have only concentrated on the good in everything I have experienced while singing my favorite hymn “Leaning on the Everlasting Arms.” The Bible says, “The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms.” If life’s storms are overwhelming you, climb up into your Heavenly Father’s arms, feel the beat of His heart, and rest assured He’s bigger than the storm you’re facing. Part of my healing has been the creation of “BLING 4 Breast Cancer.” This is a way for everyone to join together and raise money to help find a cure because we all know someone with breast cancer and we all have unwanted fashion jewelry! The 2009 “Mirror of Hope” was made from jewelry donations from
approximately 100 people. I pray that anyone fighting breast cancer will be able to one day look in a mirror with a smile on their face and thank God for their blessings as I have been able to do. In this season of my life, I am grateful for a new purpose and meaning. God continues to bless my life in so many ways. He didn’t give me cancer, but He is watching what I do with it…I want to give Him the glory and please Him in all that I do. A few years ago my cancer would have been a death sentence and I am committed to doing my part to help find a cure.
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Bren Miller is the founder of The Pink Posse and The Pink Posse Phile Support Group. The Pink Posse has been the number one fundraising team for the last two years in the Palmetto Health Foundation’s Walk for Life raising over $20,000 for breast cancer. The Pink Posse and The Pink Posse Philes are a group of loving friends roped together with the common bond of giving encouragement and support to others with breast cancer. We are a powerful Posse with a purpose and a passion to remain positive and please God as we raise awareness, and do our part in the fight for a cure.Yee Haw! www.lexingtonwoman.sc
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Brittany Barfield by Tyler Ryan
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hhh I screamed as I bent over in pain. My neighbors, my husband, and my daughter all stopped what they were doing…My daughter had squirmed out of my lap and elbowed me in the side of my left breast…I felt like I was on fire.” The words of Brittany Barfield. A wife, mother, and friend…also a breast cancer survivor. It was January, 2007. 2006 had been a tough year for Brittany, at the time 28 years old, as she had lost her grandmother, stood by her year old daughter in the hospital for 11 days,
With the next set of tests came word from the radiologist that everything was still ok, and the two tumors and cyst were all benign. The decision was made to remove the mass, which was described as the “head of Mickey Mouse.” It was early, the morning she got the telephone call, as she was on her way to drop her daughter off before heading to work. Could she come to the office at three thirty that afternoon? “Yes.” Three thirty seemed a lifetime away. After she got to work, she called her doctor back and simply asked. “Do I have breast cancer?” “Yes.”
In fact, it was the compassion of the nurses that have given Brittany her true calling. Nursing. photo by Clark Berry Photography
Brittany at the 2009 Surviving the Holidays Fashion Show lost her job due to downsizing, followed by her husband losing his, and her brother was killed in a car accident. The lump she found shortly after the day her daughter elbowed her added to a time what some might find completely insurmountable. After her discovery of the lump, Brittany called her OBGYN, who said, “You’ve definitely got something here.” There wasn’t initial alarm, as her mother had dealt with cysts throughout her life, dealing with Fibrocystic Disease. Brittany assumed she was simply the next in the family line to have cysts; which are simply drained and go away. Even her radiologist initially thought everything looked ok. As expected, this lump began to shrink, giving the indication that the diagnosis was right, until one night, while reading, she discovered three more. 24
After calls to her Mom and husband, Brittany decided to stay at work, even with the clock ticking to three thirty, already accepting her fate, and what steps she had to take at this point.
Brittany wasn’t alone in the news, or her fight. Her mom, who she calls her “Rock,” was planning to retire and take care of her mother. This day changed that plan, as she immediately told Brittany she was going home, packing a bag, and moving in. Brittany kept her job as a Title Curator for Roger Townsend, and Thomas, until her Surgery in June, at which point, she took a leave of absence. The following nine rounds of chemo, which lasted a year or so, left her unable to work for most of it.
showed every day that has fueled her passion to be there for someone else. The year had passed, chemo, radiation, the Red Devils, the buttons, the faith, the support, finally the day that scans showed no cancer…”Praise Jesus!” Through the process, Brittany didn’t talk much with those outside her support network, but when her aunt mentioned that she had a friend named Mandy Bowden who was also fighting breast cancer, she agreed to call her. They just “clicked.” They decided to meet at Travinia Italian Kitchen for a cocktail. The drink of choice is now Buddies famous “Tatini” martini. Amy Kinard joined them for that initial meeting, together they all found a deep connection. It was this meeting, and the addition of Kim Hamrick and Jessica McCain that founded the Ta-tini’s. Brittany is still cancer free, and still on followup medication including Tamoxifen. She has hot flashes, and is still building her strength back from the battle with breast cancer. Her hair has grown back, although she says she would shave it again in a “skinny minute.” It could even be a challenge at the upcoming Fight Like A Girl fund raising event that we see GI Jane. If the right donation came in at the party, it could be a quick trip to CVS for some razors. Her lessons? She found her calling as a nurse, and is applying and hopeful she will find a nursing program. She also passes along the advice to awaken. Search for what your calling is. Live life…for good. “Go for it.”
Brittany, who had faced breast cancer head on, took her hair loss in much the same fashion. “Instead of letting the cancer control that part, I shaved my head.” During her battle, it was her family, friends, and the nurses that gave her the strength to fight. In fact, it was the compassion of the nurses that have given Brittany her true calling. Nursing. It was that strength that they
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Dems.................................................................................23 www.demsjewelers.com
Animal Hospital
The Chapman Company.................................................15 www.thechapmancompany.com
Grace Pets Animal Hospital.............................................9 www.gracepets.com
Arts & Entertainment
Art Imitating Life...............................................................7 www.art-imitating-life.com
Attorney
The Law Office of Richard Breibart, LLC.....................18 www.palmettofamilylaw.com
Dentist
Marketing Services
The Tyler Ryan Group.......................................................4 www.tylerryangroup.com
Realtor
Debbie Chesney, Coldwell Banker................................25 www.debbiechesney.com Melissa Kyzer, Russell & Jeffcoat....................................19
Restaurant
Palmetto Comprehensive Dentistry..............................14
Thai Wasabi........................................................................6 www.thaiwasabi.net
Gymnastics
Travinia Italian Kitchen....................................................8 www.traviniaitaliankitchen.com
Renegade Gymnastics & Cheer Academy......................7 www.renegadegymnastics.com
Health Services
Chemo with Style.............................................................20 www.chemowithstyle.com Moore Orthopaedics.......................................................12 www.mooreclinic.com SC Ovarian Cancer Foundation....................................11 www.scOvarianCancer.org
Hospital
Salon
Palmetto Styles...................................................................5
Social Networking
SocialColumbia.com.......................................................25 www.socialcolumbia.com
Therapy
Creative Therapy..............................................................11 www.mytherapycentercolumbia.com
Lexington Medical Center..........................................2, 10 www.lexmed.com
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