"Anything but an Asian man, right?"

perceived femininity and infantility. The resulting “undesirability” of Asian men often puts them at a disadvantage, from academics to work to dating life.

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-personal relationships and stand in solidarity on Asian/American issues without implying ownership of Asian women by Asian men or that Asian women are incapable of thoughtfully engaging with these topics themselves. We should explore AFVM as a way to think more critically of the power and racial dynamics inherent in these relationships not to shame Asian women for having a diminished ability to make decisions about their romantic relationships. Besides, when we police who Asian women should/should not date or engage in “racialized slut shaming,” we uphold