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have a rather pathetic garden. In fact, it consists primarily of a fountain (non-working), an 18inch-high retaining wall about 8 feet in diameter surrounding it, and the mound of weeds growing between the two. Ma Nature I ain’t. But I love to admire gardens and to marvel at the effort gardeners put into them. So for our August/ September issue we went searching for exquisite ones, and I think we dug up three masterpieces. The gardens and their owners who welcomed us so graciously are featured on Pages 25-29. Enjoy. Should you have an exceptional garden and would like us to consider spotlighting it in next year’s August/September issue, please e-mail me at she@kenoshanews. com. Describe your garden and make sure to include your name, address and phone number. Our garden feature is light and lovely, but this month’s issue also includes a far more serious subject, and one no less dear to my heart. It’s Making the Most of Your Doctor Visit (Page 15). The story concept emerged after yet another friend of mine said she heard a certain directive from her physician. As my friend attempted to explain her medical concerns, he cut her off and said, “Let me be the doctor.” Those five words make my blood boil. The sentiment is so condescending. If your doctor says them to you, here’s my advice: Run far, run fast. Keeping you healthy needs to be a team effort — doctor and patient together. With that in mind, we pulled together recommendations to help improve communication between the two of you. We hope you find them useful. Please share them with friends and especially with your mothers and grandmothers, who often are less likely to question their docs. Remember, an empowered you is a healthier you. Kathleen Troher She editor

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LETTERS A community resource I received a complimentary premiere issue of “She,” and my first thought was I didn’t need another magazine, but my second thought was, at least I should review it. I’m glad I went with my second thought. It’s really great, and I especially liked reading the ads. There are things in Kenosha that I didn’t know existed that I might want to see, do, or buy. Congratulations on a really good and interesting magazine. Best wishes on this endeavor. Karen Knurr Kenosha

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Magazine is long overdue I loved the premiere issue of “She.” I happened to be sitting in Dr. Kim Kind’s dentist office when I gazed upon it. Yesterday I went to the Kenosha Visiting Nurse’s Association and half expected to see a bunch of copies there. I was disappointed. I understand that they have just celebrated 80 years of nonprofit service in Kenosha. They have a beautiful office and do a service for the community that is forgotten by so many. I am wondering if (and no I am not an employee there) the women who serve the community as nurses could be featured in an upcoming edition. Just my thoughts ... and I think I will send other ideas along as I find them. The idea of the magazine representing just our counties and our lives is so long overdue! ElLois Betts Racine Write to She magazine by e-mailing she@kenoshanews.com, or send mail to Kathy Troher, 5800 Seventh Ave., Kenosha, WI 53140

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Mary Pirrello moves into the dorms at the University of WisconsinParkside.

Returning to school

What you can do to help

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Dimple Navratil glows in her downtown Racine import store, Dimple’s.

Three women, three challenging routes in pursuing higher education goals

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Three gardens that will take your breath away

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One to Watch: Who’s climbing the career ladder?

35 Fashion: Beyond jeans and T-shirts, women’s back-to-school style

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48 Getaway: Take a trip to Cedarburg

52 Events Calendar: What’s happening, when and where

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SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT 60 Liz Out Loud: B&Bs 62 In Her Day: A tribute to Mom

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Three for Me is a regular feature highlighting ways for women to improve their lives physically, emotionally and intellectually. Inner awakening Painting feeds Anne Connors. For her, the act is akin to meditation. So when she can, she puts on classical music, makes sure her children are supervised, and slips into the art of painting. “It takes me to different places,” said Connors, a Lake Geneva resident. “I make space for myself. I put that time on my calendar and say, ‘This is time for painting.’” A preschool teacher of children ages 3 to 6, Connors finds joy in painting in part because it awakens a childlike enthusiasm in her. That’s why she encourages others to take up the hobby, even adults who might think they are not artistic enough to be any good. “As adults we need to rediscover that call to play,” she said. “It might be painting, sewing, scrapbooking, shaping clay. Life goes too fast, and art is a way to hold onto something you’ve created, even if only for a short time. It’s a sense of accomplishment. “What you create doesn’t have Anne Conners’ most recent to be perfect. Painting is about subjects? Mostly dogs. playing and being surprised by what happens and finding joy in that.” Connors is a member of Geneva Lake Art Association, which sponsors Art in the Park in Lake Geneva’s Library Park. This juried fine art show is from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Aug. 9 and from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Aug 10. The association arranges art shows, monthly programs, lectures, demonstrations and workshops. Membership is open to anyone interested in the arts. The gallery, located in the Northshore Pavilion at 647 Main St. in Lake Geneva, features a member gallery and weekly classes. The gallery is open to the public from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday and from 1 to 4 p.m. Sunday. For more information, call (262) 249-7988.

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Lake Geneva resident Anne Connors says the joy she gets from painting is very relaxing for her.

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“THE ART OF BELLY DANCING BY NATURE IS VERY FRIENDLY TO WOMEN. IT CELEBRATES FEMININITY.” > Three For Me, from 13

Dance fever Ready for a creative form of recreation? Belly dancing is a great way to have fun while burning a few calories. Instructor Lori Dale of Bristol, who operates Amarain Bellydance, 5126 Sixth Ave., Kenosha, said some people join her classes for fitness, while others like it “just to get away from the kids awhile,” she said. Dale always has enjoyed different forms of dance including salsa and hip-hop. Five years ago she began taking belly dance classes and was immediately hooked. “I lost about 45 pounds through dance,” she said. Belly dancing is a great activity for beginners, and women of all shapes and sizes take her classes, she said. “The art of belly dancing by nature is very friendly to women,” she said. “It celebrates femininity.” Dale offers several evening classes during the week and plans to add a Saturday morning class soon. For more information, contact Dale at (206) 226-9486 or visit her Web site at www.twomoonsdance.com. — Kris Kochman

PHOTOGRAPH BY KEVIN POIRIER

Debbie Yale, from the Racine Public Library, offers up these books.

Relaxing reads

PHOTOGRAPHS BY BRIAN PASSINO

Belly-dancing teacher Lori Dale says she lost 45 pounds through dancing.

Women take part in a recent class at Amarain Bellydance in Kenosha.

Steal some hammock time this summer with one of these books, suggested by Debbie Yale and her colleagues at the Racine Public Library: “The Plague of Doves,” by Louise Erdrich, is about an unsolved murder in North Dakota, intertwined with the history between a white farming community and the Native American Indians in a nearby reservation. “Careless in Red,” by Elizabeth George, continues the storyline of London Yard inspector Thomas Lynley following a personal tragedy. While trying to cope privately with his grief, Lynley stumbles upon a murder scene. “Winter Study” is the latest from mystery writer Nevada Barr. Her stories are all set in national parks — this one on Isle Royale on Lake Superior in Michigan. Jacquelyn Mitchard’s latest effort, “The Midnight Twins,” revolves around twin sisters, whose close relationship is jeopardized after they nearly die in a fire as teenagers. Yale said she also has been enjoying a new cookbook, “WomenHeart’s All Heart Family Cookbook.” WomenHeart is the National Coalition for Women with Heart Disease and is dedicated to preventing the disease. She said she liked the cookbook so much she purchased several extra copies to give as gifts. The Racine Public Library is at 75 Seventh St. Hours are 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Monday through Wednesday; 9 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. Thursday; 1 to 5:30 p.m. Friday; and 1 to 5 p.m. Saturday. From October through April the library also is open 2 to 5 p.m. Sunday. For more information call (262) 636-9217. — Kris Kochman

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How do you make the most of a doctor visit? Here are several tips: > Make a list. Before you even step foot in your doctor’s office, take time to write down the questions you want to ask. “If you have several issues or concerns, write them down so you won’t forget them,” said Dr. Nina Kayeum, an internal medicine physician at Aurora Medical Center in Kenosha who has a special interest in women’s health. “And recognize that you and your doctor might not be able to get to all of them, so choose your top three.” > Do your homework. If you have been diagnosed and are returning for follow-up care, research your illness so you can better discuss it with your doctor. > Keep a journal. If you’re experiencing recurring symptoms, keep track of what’s happening and when so you can explain it to your doctor. Are you feeling dizzy? Tired? Is your pain sharp or dull? Do symptoms occur after you eat? After exercising? Being specific about what’s happening and when could help

in diagnosing the problem. > Take inventory. Make a list of medications you are taking and bring that list with you for the appointment. Include any over-the-counter drugs, herbs or vitamins you take regularly. Kayeum said some women are reluctant to take anti-depressants but they take overthe-counter medication not knowing the side effects can be similar. “Even if you’re taking Advil or aspirin tell your doctor,” Kayeum said. “These drugs people think are benign could be a problem for some patients.” > Document what’s said. Bring paper and a pen with you into the office and write down what your doctor is saying. If you don’t understand a word, ask him or her to spell it. > Bring a friend or relative. Due to health privacy laws, a doctor is not permitted to discuss a patient’s health unless that patient > Page 16

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has given permission. So if you want a friend or family member there to listen, ask if you need to sign a consent form. > Don’t ignore pain. If you have a problem — chest pains, shortness of breath, chronic abdominal pain — you shouldn’t ignore it. Describe it as best you can to your doctor. “Pain is an indication something isn’t right.,” Kayeum said. “It might not be anything serious, but you never know.” > Know your family’s medical history. Based on your family history, your doctor might recommend certain screenings, or she might suggest you get screenings earlier than women with no history of certain diseases or problems, such as breast cancer, colon cancer, heart disease or high blood pressure. > Know your medical history. Especially when visiting a doctor for the first time, you will be asked about past surgeries, allergic reactions, problems related to anesthesia. Have those answers at your fingertips by writing down your medical history before you’re in the waiting room with the clip board struggling to remember when you had your gallbladder removed. > Be honest. Give truthful answers when your doctor asks questions — even sensitive ones about topics such as exercise, drug, alcohol and

“Don’t shortchange yourself. Even if it’s not something you’re proud of, talk it over with your doctor.” Dr. Nina Kayeum tobacco use, depression, sexual issues and incontinence. Kayeum acknowledged these issues might not be easy to discuss, but establishing a good doctor-patient relationship is key to good health. “Don’t shortchange yourself,” she said. “Even if it’s not something you’re proud of, talk it over with your doctor.” > Don’t be intimidated, but be considerate. Remember your doctor is there to help you, so if you feel rushed, don’t hesitate to ask him or her to slow down, give an explanation or repeat an instruction. But at the same time, know that your doctor doesn’t have an unlimited amount of time for you. Stay focused. During the conversation, don’t stray from your primary topic: your health. > Be clear. Don’t leave until you understand all instructions given to you, especially those about medication.

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The Rev. Joanne Skidmore, left, the pastor at St. John the Divine Episcopal Church in Burlington, and Sherry Hartog, director of the Women’s Resource Center of Western Racine County, teach Cultivating Compassion, a program aimed at eliminating domestic violence.

Preaching prevention Cultivating Compassion program educates community about reality of domestic violence By Kris Kochman

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omestic violence usually takes place behind closed doors, out of the public eye. People have a hard time believing that their colleagues and neighbors are capable of hurting family members. St. John the Divine Episcopal Church in Burlington was faced with the reality of domestic violence last year, when members of a family that belong to the church were involved in a wellpublicized attempted murder case. Following the attack, the church’s pastor, the Rev. Joanne Skidmore, and other parish

members decided to take an active role in trying to prevent domestic violence, partnering with local social service agencies. Throughout this past spring, St. John the Divine — and other members of the Burlington Area Association of Churches and Ministers — worked with the Western Racine County’s Women’s Resource Center to organize several workshops and programs on domestic violence prevention. Among them was a five-week series, Cultivating Compassion, to help people become better informed about domestic abuse, with a goal of prevention. Skidmore and Sherry Hartog, director of the Women’s Resource Center of Western

Racine County, presented the program. Small groups met weekly to read Scripture, pray and ponder facts about domestic violence in a format called the Bejing Circle. The programs have helped people understand that domestic violence isn’t about an aggressor losing control and striking out; rather, it’s about an aggressor trying to control a victim. “The shame of it is huge,” Skidmore said. “We still tend to believe as a culture and as a Christian community that somehow the victim is choosing to be there. Instead of realizing it doesn’t begin with the punch. It begins with controlling behavior verbally.”

The program also addressed specific ways people of faith could attempt to make a positive difference. Skidmore said it’s important to acknowledge domestic violence “in our midst, in our community, in our churches.” Often, that is the first step toward addressing the problem. “Traditionally, churches have a difficult time acknowledging domestic violence in their midst,” Skidmore said. “It cuts across every strata. The incidence of domestic violence is no less in people of faith … because we’re human.” Skidmore said she feels called to preach against domestic violence, even though the topic might make church members uncomfortable. She noted that in their baptismal vows, her church members vow to “respect the dignity of all human beings.” That includes taking a stand against domestic violence, she said. In November, Skidmore and Hartog will present a program on faith and family violence during the state conference of the Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Skidmore said she believes people can make a big difference by sending a positive message to teens and providing a safe place of refuge. People also can help by not blaming the victim. Hartog suggested it could be helpful to ask a possible victim whether she feels safe or ask what you can do to help her feel safe. Hartog said the affiliation with the churches has helped dispel the myth that domestic violence only happens to poor people or minorities. “It happens in all sorts of places we’d expect it not to happen,” she said of domestic violence. The programs have encouraged people to talk about domestic violence, including their own experiences with abuse. “I think we do have a powerful voice,” Skidmore said. “This is how things start.” For more information, call Skidmore at (262) 763-7482. SHE l Aug/Sept 2008 l 17

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VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES Thinking about donating some of your time or talents to those in need? Consider the following volunteer opportunities: KENOSHA Kenosha Public Museums Greeters and volunteers for the Civil War Museum resource center, the Dinosaur Discovery Museum’s dinosaur dig, and people to lead school group tours and classes. — Call volunteer coordinator Mari at (262) 653-4139. Women and Children’s Horizons This group helps provide support, education, training, and healing for victims of sexual and domestic violence. On Call Advocates — Volunteers work directly with victims and families, providing information, support and referral for follow-up to victims, family members and friends. Shelter Advocates — Assist staff in support services to shelter residents. Responsibili-

Name: Kate Watling of Pleasant Prairie Age: 38 Organizations for which I volunteer: Kenosha Public Museums (Civil War Museum); Pollard Gallery Why I volunteer: Basically I volunteer because it’s a lot of fun and a great opportunity to meet people from all over. It is an opportunity to learn and experience new things. I asked to volunteer at the Civil War Museum for the opportunity to get real-life experience/application in archiving and library science with (the museum’s) resource center. (I am working on my master’s in library and information science.) I also volunteer at the Pollard Gallery (514 56th St., PHOTOGRAPH BY DREW THOMPSON Kenosha). This is a great place to be a volunteer. You In her free time, Kate Watling volunteers at the Kenosha meet the local artists, see the new art and meet fun Public Museums and Pollard Gallery. people with great stories. ties include teaching nutrition, child care, answering telephone, gathering and giving information, giving referrals. Special Event Help — Throughout the year Women and Children’s Horizons participates in outreach events. Information is shared at churches, health fairs, parades, the county fair, vigils, sexual assault awareness month (April), and domestic violence awareness month (October). For more information about Women and Children’s Horizons, call Linda Baumeister at (262) 656-3500 x102.

Kenosha Area Family and Aging Services Inc. Volunteer Escort Driver Program — Volunteer drivers provide rides for elderly and disabled people who need to get to medical appointments, shopping and other essential destinations. Friendly Visitor Program — Volunteers make weekly visits to frail elderly people in their homes to provide companionship and to reduce isolation. For more information about Kenosha Area Family and Aging Services Inc., call Dana at (262) 658-3508, ext. 120 or e-mail

volunteer@kafasi.org or visit www.kafasi.org RSVP RSVP offers adults 55 and older an abundance of opportunities for volunteer service. RSVP places volunteers at dozens of not-for-profit organizations and public agencies throughout Kenosha County, offering both on-going and periodic, one-time assignments. Volunteer opportunities include: Activity assistants in nursing homes, assisted living

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BACK TO SCHOOL By Jill Tatge-Rozell Life happens before higher education for many women. Problem is, if you’re postponing a return to school until the timing is right, you’re going to wait a lifetime. Family members, finances, work — all can create roadblocks between you and your post-secondary school degree. But these obstacles are surmountable for anyone who can overcome the hardest part: taking that first step. We found three women who, when it came to their education, refused to let their circumstances define them. They stood up to the challenge, took those first steps and began earning their college diplomas not immediately after high school but many years later. Amid mountains of adversity — and laundry — they embarked on new life courses and emerged with higher-education degrees. Their stories serve as a testament to the power of perseverance.

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Marriage and babies When her friends were heading off to college in August 1991, Becky Wenberg was heading down the aisle. Finding out she was pregnant the end of her senior year at Bradford High School put her on a different path than her peers. Instead of accepting the scholarship offered to her at Northwestern University, she married the father of her daughter, Rachael, born in January 1992. “I planned on attending college,” Wenberg said. “But I knew I couldn’t do both — especially out of state (in Illinois).” Being a mother took precedence. Even more so when her second daughter, Jessica, was born. After years not knowing what was wrong, Jessica was

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To help determine which college or university is right for you, check with counselors to see if the institution: > Gives credit for experiential learning, employment, and/or workshops and seminars attended. > Offers credit by examination or departmental examinations instead of having to enroll for a class. > Offers credit for military coursework. >Accepts transfer credits. Also ask: > How many credits can be earned in the above ways? > What are the admission requirements for adult learners? Some do not require the ACT test but do require placement tests. > What academic programs and distance learning opportunities are available? > What assistance is available for “displaced homemakers,” defined as an individual who has worked in the home for a substantial number of years providing unpaid household services; is not gainfully employed; or has been dependent on the income of another household member or public assistance but is no longer supported this way? >What financial aid, grants and scholarships are offered specifically for women, single parents or adult learners as well as what other funding options are available? >Does the institution have an adult learner social group or organization? > What children and family programming is offered, and is there a child-care center? > What career services or placement services are available?

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forward to going to parties and dating, while all I could think about was cooking supper, helping the kids with homework and doing 10 loads of laundry.” The harder part of returning to school, she said, was the math homework. “I went to the resource center a lot, and my father did the grocery shopping for me,” Wenberg said, adding she couldn’t have made it without the help of her parents. “Third semester was really hard. I called up one of my teachers, crying. They were always supportive and as-

sured me I would make it.” It took five years, but last spring Wenberg, now 35, became a registered nurse. Jessica gave her mother the recognition pin at the graduation ceremony. Wenberg lives in Somers and started work full time in June at St. Luke’s Health Care Center in Milwaukee.

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Things got worse before they got better. Pirrello was sexually molested at age 6, reported the abuse at 11, and tried to commit suicide at 13. Depression led to years of overeating. “When I turned 16 and was still alive I decided there must be some purpose for me,” Pirrello said. She took advanced classes in high school and earned 15 college credits before graduating. When told further education wouldn’t be paid for and she found no financial help from the local college in New York due to her parents’ income level, she gave in. “When you are young, you don’t know how to work around those stumbling blocks,” she said. She married, had four children and committed herself fully to the roles of wife and mother. But her dream wouldn’t die. At age 40, she decided it was time to make good on the promises she made to herself so many years earlier. Last spring she graduated from Parkside with a double bachelor’s degree in philosophy and in sociology with an anthropology concentration. Three years ago she had bariatric surgery and dropped from 300 pounds to about 170. Plastic surgery to lift and tuck earlier this year helped make her feel complete. She entered the master’s of business administration program this June, moving into the dorms for summer classes. She plans on taking full advantage of on-campus amenities and is working to open a non-traditional student center at Parkside. “Going back to school is the best thing I ever did,” Pirrello said.

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>33 percent of Carthage students are non-traditional students. >Seven undergraduate degrees can be earned entirely in the evening, in seven-week accelerated terms — accounting, business administration, criminal justice, elementary education, marketing, information systems and social work. Seven terms are offered each year. >Master’s degree, enrichment and continuing education courses and certificates also are offered. >For more information about enrolling as an adult learner call (262) 551-6300 or (800) 551-5343 or visit www.carthage.edu.

>The average age of a Gateway student is 31. >More than 65 associate’s degree, certificate and diploma programs, as well as professional development workshops, are offered at campuses in Kenosha, Racine, Burlington, and Elkhorn, and at discipline specific technology centers. >For more information call the Kenosha campus at (262) 564-2300, the Racine campus at (262) 619-6300, the Elkhorn campus at (262) 741-8300, the Burlington campus at (262) 767-5300, or visit www.gtc.edu.

>100 percent of students are non-traditional students. >Six undergraduate degrees can be earned entirely in the evening — business management, human resource management, management of criminal justice, health care management, theology and liberal arts. Courses are one night a week from 6-10 p.m. in either a four-week, five-week or sixweek accelerated term. >A master’s degree in business association, with several different concentrations, is also offered. >For more information about enrolling as an adult learner call (262) 697-8260 or visit www.cuw.edu.

University of Wisconsin-Parkside >25 percent of Parkside students are non-traditional students. >Seven undergraduate majors can be earned entirely in the evening — business, criminal justice, computer science, English, humanities, psychology and sociology. >Master’s degree, enrichment and continuing education courses and certificates also are offered. >For more information about enrolling as an adult learner call (262) 595-2355 or visit www.uwp.edu.

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Cardinal Stritch University >100 percent of students are non-traditional students. >An associate of science degree with a business concentration, a bachelor of science degree in management, a master’s in business association and a master’s of science degree in management can all be earned at the Kenosha campus during the evening. >Courses are one night a week and terms range in length from five to eight weeks. >For more information call (262) 697-0251 or visit cbm.stritch.edu.

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Followed her heart Jean Preston just finished her first year of college on scholarship when her high school sweetheart, a Naval officer, asked her to marry him. His proposal changed the direction of her life. “I dropped out of school and followed my heart,” said Preston of Kenosha. “I had three children in under four years.” The military family lived in several places before coming to this area. This chapter of Preston’s life ended in divorce. “Always, in the back of my mind, I wanted to go back to school,” she said. School would have to wait, but not long. Preston remarried, instantly bringing the total number of children to six. When she started classes at Carthage College — 25 years after taking her first college course — the couple had a son in high school, a

teenage mother with child, and his parents, both in their late 80s, living with them. “It was a crazy time,” Preston admitted, adding she was working full time at Carthage and taking classes two nights a week. Her husband’s support was key. The teens helped after “a major family meeting.” “I remember standing one Saturday amid mountains of laundry thinking, ‘What’s wrong with this picture?’” she said of the incident that led to that meeting. Preston studied early in the morning and before class at night. She was never the oldest in class. “I was so happy to be back in a classroom, it wouldn’t have mattered if everyone was green and I was purple,” she said. Preston earned a bachelor’s degree in seven years, graduating with honors at age 50. She went on to earn a master’s degree and is now director of the writing center at Carthage.

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Linda Learn stands on the stone stairs that lead to her secret garden.

What advice would you have for someone considering such an undertaking? Hire professional companies to help you put your ideas into a design — a design can be for many future years and can stay within your budget. Just keep adding perennials each year and adding annuals for new, exciting looks. It is like being an artist! What garden tool do you find indispensable? My kneeling pad. I couldn’t live without it. How does your garden make you feel? Relaxed and happy. What three words best describe your emotions when you’re in your garden? Happy, relaxed, secluded.

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These are a few of ... In “The Sound of Music” Julie Andrews enchants viewers with her litany of favorite things. Remember? Raindrops on roses. Whiskers on kittens. Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens. Ah, so angelic, so pure. And she snags that hunky Christopher Plummer, too. Here at She we are fascinated by the things that interest our readers: the indulgences they crave, books that transform them, music that brings them to tears (the good crying). So we created My Favorite Things, an opportunity for our readers to tell us what they love and why. Interested in sharing? Send us an e-mail (she@kenoshanews.com) answering each of the questions below. You might be selected to appear on our pages. Who knows, your favorite things could rival Julie’s. Name: Jamie Jacobs of Kenosha A little about me: I have been an active Kenosha resident for nearly 20 years. I am the proud mother of four children ranging in age from 19 to 28. My special gift and mission statement is connecting people with people, businesses and resources through networking. I have a passion for the arts and non-profit organizations and have extensively volunteered over the years. I love to travel and am currently writing a book. The music on my iPod is: Very eclectic, having grown up in a house where the stereo was always playing. I raised my children with the music of Joni Mitchell, Moody Blues, Carly Simon and Broadway show tunes. I love songs with many levels that get inside you and touch your emotions. The movie I love to watch over and over again is: As a movie buff I can narrow it down to “A League of Their Own,” “Field of Dreams,” “Peaceful Warrior,” “The Horse Whisperer,” “American President,” “Dave” and “As Good as it Gets.” I love stories where dreams are realized and challenges are overcome. The book on my bedside table is ... Each week it is different. Among my favorites are “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron; Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now”; Tom Brokaw’s “Boom”; Paulo Coelho’s “The Alchemist”; and Sonia Choquette’s “True Balance.” My favorite fiction book is “Devil in the White City” by Erik Larson. The piece of clothing and pair of shoes I’ll never part with are: A pair of vintage denim patchwork bellbottom, hip-hugger pants. If only they would come back in style — and, if only when they do, they will fit and not look ridiculous on me! I have a pair of turquoise-blue sequined pumps that I wore with a matching gown and have worn only once. I love the color. When I go to a store with bath, body and beauty items I always buy: Body lotions and bath oils. I love to experience new fragrances when I go into these stores and have a hard time walking out empty handed. When I’m trying to impress my significant other I make sure to: Stop at a grocery store for mint chocolate chip ice cream and any form of chocolate — two things I try to always have on hand. He’s really very easy to please. If I had a day with no responsibilities I would

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spend it: Stretched out on a three-person swing in a garden with a good book and my iPod — enjoying the sun, flowers, birds and butterflies. The room in my house that makes me feel most centered: With four children, their many friends, my parents, a congenial ex-husband and a significant other, we have spent many hours in the great room discussing the world’s problems. We have shared many viewpoints on countless issues. When I have visitors from out of town I like taking them to: The downtown restaurants/bistros in Kenosha such as Wine Knot, Pazzo, Lazybird, Cooler Near the Lake, Chops, especially when great bands and artists are performing. The Kenosha Symphony Orchestra concerts

are a great place to take guests. The most important item in my purse is: My cell phone. I can’t imagine life without one. I’d be lost without: My spiritual faith, boyfriend, great family and strong network of friends. Nothing matters more than people and having a proper perspective on what’s truly important. I try to always be conscious of the people around me, paying attention to how I can learn from each interaction I have. I also try to make a positive difference in other people’s lives as I go through my day. The best advice I ever received is: Live, enjoy and do the best you can in the present moment. Be grateful for all the good (and bad) in your life, and focus on ways to help others.

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One of Marie Boyum’s favorite things? Nature. Name: Marie Boyum of Racine A little about me: I am married to my best friend, have two wonderful grown children, am an animal communicator, love to read, bake and cook, to be in nature and take care of my gardens, orchards, vineyards, chickens and 120-pound puppy who is a year old. The music on my iPod is: All over the place (for each of my moods). I listen to U-2, John Mellencamp, classical, jazz, country and others. The movie I love to watch over and over again is: “What Dreams May Come.” The book on my bedside table is: Only one? There’s a stack! The books are mostly non-fiction. The piece of clothing and pair of shoes I’ll never part with are: Jeans and my Redwing boots. When I go to a store with bath, body and beauty items I always buy: I don’t. My daughter is a professional make-up artist in Chicago so I get all the samples I can use for free. When I’m trying to impress my significant other I make sure to: I have never tried to impress him — what he sees is what he gets. He does like a Papa Murphy’s pizza and a movie sometimes, though. If I had a day with no responsibilities I would spend it: In nature, walking or just hanging out reading and then come in (much later) and cook. The room in my house that makes me feel most centered is: My bedroom. When I have visitors from out of town I like to take them to: Jose’s Blue Sombrero. The most important item in my purse is: That’s kind of tough; either my glasses (out of necessity) or my iPhone. I’d be lost without: Me. The best advice I ever received is: Follow your heart more than your head.

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Name: Dawn Marie Jacobs of Lake Geneva A little about me: Our family is a blended family of four with two sons and two daughters. I am a co-owner of Clear Waters Salon and Day Spa, which is nearly four years old. I am very busy working as support staff to our team of service providers. I feel extremely fortunate to have developed this business with my partner, Jennifer Veith, as it is the most rewarding experience of my professional career thus far. I love watching our service providers become successful professionals, but most importantly I love watching their personal growth. The things I love to do most when not working are spending time with family and friends. I enjoy preparing a delicious dinner, drinking great wine and sharing stories, usually including lots of laughter. I never tire of travel, I find gardening very relaxing and love to finish my day curled up in bed with my current read. The music on my iPod is: A variety of alternative rock and classic rock. The only time I use my iPod is for running, which I really don’t like to do, so I like to be distracted as much as possible. So I listen to everything from Madonna and Head East to The Corrs and John Mayer. The movie I love to watch over and over again is: “Out of Africa.” The book on my bedside table is: I am usually reading several books at one time, and the book I keep on my bedside table all the time and refer to often is the Dali Lama’s “The Art of Happiness.” My current reads are “The House of Mondavi” and “A New Earth.” The piece of clothing I’ll never part with is: A fur jacket I inherited from my husband’s grandmother. It is in need of much repair, and I hope to have it reconstructed using much of the original coat. When I go into a store with bath, body and beauty items I almost always: Leave with a bubble bath for my daily indulgence in the winter. When trying to impress my significant other: I always offer to bring him a “cold one” while he is working in the garden. If I had a day with no responsibilities I would spend: The morning reading the Sunday Trib, a few hours in the garden, the afternoon on the lake and the evening with my family having a casual barbecue. The room in my house that makes me feel most centered is: Our frontroom with a roaring fire in the fireplace and our screened porched in the summer. When we have visitors from out of town I like to take them: Out on the lake for a sunset cocktail cruise. The most important item in my purse is: My cell phone. I’d be lost without: My friends and family. The best advice I ever received is: Some of the most memorable advice I’ve ever received was given to me on my wedding day. A family friend said: “You may not always like everything your husband says or does, and there will be times of difficulty; so try to remember this happy day and why you fell in love with each other.”

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Dressed for school — with class By Kris Kochman Camisole tops and flipflop sandals might be fine for the typical college girl’s wardrobe. But when adult women return to school — sometimes after a decade or more away — backto-school fashion calls for pieces that are contemporary, yet age-appropriate. Barbara Micheln, an interior design and marketing instructor at Gateway Technical College in Kenosha, said she sees adult students wearing a wide variety of styles on campus. Because many of the Gateway students work at least part time, they tend to dress up a little better than full-time students who live on a college campus, Micheln said. “So many of my students work. Many times they are coming here directly from their job,” she said. The majority of students in the interior design program are women age 30 and older. “The biggest difference I find is when we make presentations,” she said. “Adult women dress more professionally: heels, skirts, blazers. Younger girls wear more sweater sets, or a camisole with lace and a short, matador jacket.” She said the older women add punch to their more conservative style by choosing tops in bold colors and unique accessories. Micheln said that women younger than 45 prefer to wear sandals and no pantyhose as much as weather permits — usually well into the fall semester. What should Mom wear if she’s heading back to > Page 36

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Lynn Jurvis of Kenosha wears an apple green shirt with a shot of gold with dark blue jeans from Milaeger’s for a contemporary take on classic wardrobe pieces.

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school this fall? We checked in with fashion advisers at the Boston Store and Milaeger’s in Racine. Milaeger’s owner Kristine Reisdorf said she’d suggest beginning with a few pair of comfortable shoes, such as active wear shoes offered by the Keen and Merrill lines. Materials include canvas and nylon, and they come in both neutral colors and bright hues. Blue jeans are a campus essential, but mature women likely will prefer fabric that includes a bit of stretch. Fashion jeans in dark colors would be a good basic wardrobe piece, Reisdorf suggested. The denim company Not Your Daughter’s Jeans has created Tummy Tuck Jeans, which have proven popular. They lift and flatten in all the right places, Reisdorf said. Heidi Frank, publicity manager for Boston Store’s corporate offices in Milwaukee, also suggested a dark color blue jean for women heading back to campus. She said a straight or wide-legged pant is most flattering, while the tighter “skinny jean” is a more youthful look. “Steer away from denim with a really distressed look with holes,” she added. “It’s a little too youthful.” Frank said women older than 35 also

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short, scrunched suede style, would be popular for woman of all ages this fall. They can be worn with boot cut jeans, or with a slim jean tucked into the boot. Topping it off, both Reisdorf and Frank said button-down shirts and unstructured blazers are wardrobe staples and look great with jeans. Frank said jackets with a trench coat influence look fresh for fall. Alternatively, Frank suggested women opt for a cardigan over an untucked blouse. Frank said women can try different silhouettes by layering long “boyfriend” cardigans or cropped, fitted cardigans over T-shirts and blouses. Milaeger’s likes to offer a good variety of sweaters with unusual textures and buttons. At Boston Store, animal prints will be popular this fall, and they offer a contemporary style for adult women. But Frank cautioned against overdoing it — no head-to-toe leopard prints. Jewelry can be oversized, but it shouldn’t compete with the animal print. Patent leather is another hot look for accessories, including belts and oversized handbags. Sterling silver Brighton jewelry and belts are popular accessory items at Milaeger’s, according to clothing manager Mona Lewis. Reisdorf said Vera Bradley handbags and totes have been a hit with women of all ages. Instead of a basic, black computer bag, take your PC to school in one of the Vera Bradley bags, in a patterned, quilted-fabric style, she suggested.

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Frustration with old knitting needles inspires former Republican Party chairwoman to start her own business By Jessica Hansen Cathryn Bothe was knitting in her big, blue leather chair when life changed. “Old crappy needle,” she said and struggled with her stitch. “Oh, these are so horrible. I wish I could have a better point.” From that muttered wish — and her husband’s suggestion to sharpen her needle at the family’s machine shop — a dream was fulfilled, a new business born and a detour made into the “wild world of knitting.” Bothe, better known as Cathy, started her working life as a potato sorter at a Cudahy fruit stand in Milwaukee County. That sometimes rotten beginning — she tossed spoiled spuds away as she sorted 100-pound bags of potatoes into 10-pound bags — led Bothe to the Lakeside Players, where she worked as the Kenosha theater group’s executive director, and to the Republican Party of Kenosha County, where she served as chairwoman.

Today, the Kenosha wife and mother is president of Bothe Associates and the knitting needle upstart Signature. If he knew, her “great, stubborn old German” immigrant father-in-law, Werner Bothe, now gone, might have dropped from shock. It’s not an issue of sexism or women’s work, said Bothe, 60. It just wasn’t the way things were done in 1950, when Werner Bothe left his job as a vice president for American Motors and started his custom machine shop (which today makes everything from hooked-shaped spinal supports used in back surgeries to kitchen cupboard handles). Bothe’s leadership might have thrown Werner for a loop, but he probably would have been tickled that his son’s wife fulfilled his dream of creating a perennial product. The commodity was born that frustrating night Bothe sat knit-

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In her own words What would you tell someone you might mentor about your profession? “You don’t know what the future could be. You could start out as a brain surgeon and end up growing African violets. So, try as many things as possible. All that experience helps. Don’t stay so focused. There’s a whole world of hobbies and being involved in the community that helps you see a wider world.” What advice do you have for living life to the fullest? “Get out beyond your work and family. Get out into the world. Expose yourself. Don’t ever be bored. Find out what’s going on. I feel like you need to be part of something beyond yourself, otherwise you go crazy because your husband didn’t take out the trash or the kids are making you crazy. There’s a big world out there. And try to get good medical care.” What gadget could you not live without? Why? “My Cuisinart, because I use it all the time. I have two in Florida. I have one, two, three — three — of different sizes at home. And I have a double of one of those at home in case it breaks.” What do you do when no one is looking? “Oh, I knit, of course. I do! If people would leave me alone, I would knit all the time. And I now can say it’s business!” What are your favorite words? “‘Big picture.’ I always tell people, ‘You’ve got to look at the big picture.’” If given the chance, what would you do differently in your life? “Honestly, I don’t think I would. I’ve been very lucky with working and husband and children. Now, to have this opportunity to start this new thing — really I feel like I’ve had a good guardian angel.”

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ting in her chair. With some engineering in the family machine shop, Bothe’s inferior needle became a sharp implement of slip stitch and a prototype Bothe used to develop jeweltoned needles in 10 sizes in three lengths with three point profiles and a trio of decorative caps. “I started looking and I found there was nothing for these knitters who used metal needles,” Bothe said. “Just, I won’t say crummy from WalMart, but that’s what they are. Crummy from Wal-Mart.” In designing the needles, Bothe said, she became a customer of her own company. And she was one exacting customer. All the needles, from the 2.35 millimeters of the size 1 to the slim, ballpoint-pen-like profile of the 6.0mm size 10, are measured to a deviation within 1/4 of a millimeter, in other words, about the width of a human hair. But Bothe’s persistence has

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other booths were mad at us because people couldn’t get to them.” The fledgling needle maker scored when the company got an ad in the 25th anniversary issue of Vogue Knitting, the stitcher’s version of the elite fashion magazine. And the needles have sold around the world from the United Kingdom and Canada to Sweden and New Zealand. “And every state except South Dakota,” Bothe said. “I

don’t know what those people in South Dakota are doing. They should learn to knit.” The effort has been companywide, from the business staff doing sales and developing ads to the engineers who have designed and refined the needles. “Nobody does something like this alone,” Bothe said. “And, I tell you, if our family business had been a bakery, this wouldn’t have been done. Honest to God, I’d still be grumbling in my blue chair without all these people.”

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Importing some foreign flavor Treasures from around the world can be found at Dimple’s in Racine By Karen Mahoney

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Dimple Navratil glows in her downtown Racine import store, Dimple’s.

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Cedarburg’s Cedar Creek Winery and Cedar Creek Pottery are among the establishments of Cedar Creek Settlement, which is on the National Register of Historic Places.

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Owner-operated shops and studios have come and gone over the last few decades, but among the veterans is the 30-year-old Cedar Creek Pottery, where visitors are likely to find owner and local ceramic sculptor Andee Warren creating one of her works of usable art. Also in the building are more than two dozen specialty shops with antiques, jewelry, unique accessories and quality clothing not found in most department stores. Among my favorites are Bierma Gallery, which has a stunning collection of Willow Tree figurines along with hip, funky, feminine clothing; A Little Pizzazz, which has a terrific collection of jewelry; and La Diva The Beautiful Woman, where you’ll find a dazzling selection of purses and

Upcoming Cedarburg festival What: 36th Annual Wine and Harvest Festival When: 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Sept 20; 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sept. 21 Attractions: Farmer’s market, live music, scarecrow contest, grape-stomp contest, apple-bobbing contest, grape-spitting contest, grilled foods, hayrides, art fair. For more information: Cedarburg Chamber of Commerce and Visitor Center, 800-237-2874 or (262) 3779620, or www.cedarburg.org. hand-beaded blouses. If you’re hungry you won’t have to go far. The Settlement also includes Cream & Crepe Café and a new restaurant, Anvil Pub & Grill, which has > Page 50

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moved into what previously had been a restored 19th century blacksmith shop. If you travel to Cedarburg for the afternoon, resist the temptation to spend all your time at Cedar Creek Settlement. Stretch those legs by walking up and down Washington Avenue, which is a shopper’s delight. You will find es-

Built in 1876 and retired in 1962, Ozaukee County’s covered bridge is believed to be the last original covered bridge in Wisconsin. Visitors take Washington Avenue three miles north of Cedarburg to the junction of Highway 60 and Highway 143 to Covered Bridge Road. tablishments specializing in fabric and quilting supplies, garden accessories, antique lighting, cardmaking and scrapbooking supplies, home décor, fine soaps and candles, beads, gems, minerals, fossils,

coffee, baking, chocolate, ice cream and candy. The town itself is very pretty, with many beautiful, old churches, welllandscaped B&Bs, and quaint secret gardens you can spy from the side-

remember seeing last time I visited several years ago. In Cedarburg you’ll find a wide variety of brewpubs, cafés, taverns and restaurants from cozy, creek side establishments with outdoor decks to upscale dining locales. Cedarburg also is home to more than half a dozen spas and salons, so pampering yourself is another option to explore. If time permits, be sure to head north on Washington Avenue to visit Covered Bridge Park. There you can walk through the last remaining original covered bridge in the state and picnic along Cedar Creek. If you want to visit the Cedarburg Cultural Center (W62 N546 Washington Ave.), General walk. Whereas so many Store Museum (W61 of Wisconsin’s once-thrivN480 Washington Ave.) ing towns are in decline, Performing Arts Center Cedarburg appears to be undergoing a Renaissance, (W68 N611 Evergreen Boulevard) or Woolen with more new shops and restaurants than I > Page 51

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MULTIPLE DAYS Aug. 3, 9, 16 — Music by the Lake concerts (4 p.m. Aug. 3; 7:30 p.m. Aug. 9 and 16) at the Ferro Pavilion at George Williams College of Aurora University, (262) 245-8501; www.aurora.edu/mbtl. Aug. 7, 14, 21, 28 — Concerts at the Lakefront, free outdoor concerts every Thursday in Flat Iron Park, Lake Geneva, (262) 248-4416. Aug. 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 — Music on the Monument, free outdoor concert from 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. at Monument Square in downtown Racine, (262) 634-6002 Aug. 1 and 29 — Racine Symphony Orchestra Summer Pops Concerts

at 7 p.m. the Racine lakefront, Festival Hall, 5 Fifth St. Call (262) 636-9285.

ONGOING First Fridays — More than 50 downtown Racine shops, galleries and restaurants are open late on the first Friday of the month. Enjoy music both in the stores and on the sidewalks, horsedrawn carriage rides, outdoor dining and more. Main Street and Sixth Street from 6 to 9 p.m., (262) 634-6002. “Tales and Legends: Oriental Ivory Sculpture” — Through December at Kenosha Public Museum, (262) 6534140; www.kenoshapublicmuseum.org. “Grandma’s Attic” — Through Aug. 31 at Kenosha History Center, (262) 6545770; www.kenoshahistorycenter.org. Wisconsin Pottery — Through Aug. 31 at Kenosha Public Museum, (262) 6534140; www.kenoshapublicmuseum.org. “Voices of World War II 1941 - 1945: Kenosha County Remembers the War” — Through Sept. 28 at Kenosha History Center, (262) 654-5770; www.kenoshahistorycenter.org. Aquanut Water Shows — Lance Park, Twin Lakes, most Wednesdays and Saturdays Memorial Day weekend through Labor Day weekend, (262) 8772348; www.aquanutwatershows.com. Kenosha HarborMarket — On Second Avenue between 54th Street and 56th Street, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m., Saturdays

through Oct. 25, (262) 914-1252; www. kenoshaharbormarket.com. Bristol Renaissance Faire — Just west of I-94 at the IL/WI border, Saturdays and Sundays, plus Labor Day, July 5 to Sept. 1, (847) 395-7773; www. renfair.com/bristol. Kenosha Pops Concert — Sesquicentennial Bandshell, Wednesday evenings through Aug. 6, (262) 653-4005; www.KenoshaEvents.com. Peanut Butter & Jam Noontime and After Hours Concert Series — Veterans Memorial Park, Kenosha, 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. and 6 to 8 p.m. Aug. 7, Aug. 14, Aug. 21, Aug. 28 (262) 6534005; www.kenoshaevents.com. Wilmot Flea Market — Wilmot Mountain Ski Hills parking lot, Sundays, (815) 679-8054; www.wilmotmarket.com.

AUGUST 1 — Folk Music Hootenanny, Anderson Arts Center, Kenosha, (262) 654-6840 or (262) 658-1478. 1 — Friday Night Improv Actor’s Craft at Rhode Center for the Arts, Kenosha, (262) 705-0194; www. actorscraftwisconsin.com. 1 — World of Outlaws Wilmot Speedway, (262) 279-3892 or (262) 862-2446; www.wilmotspeedway.com. 2 — Chair-i-ties Monument Square, Racine, (262) 635-0261

1-2 — American Cancer Society’s Relay for Life - Kenosha Bullen Middle School Track, (262) 842-1075 or (262) 842-1042. 1-3 — Pike River Rendezvous Simmons Island Park, Kenosha, (262) 653-4140; www.kenoshaevents.com. 2 — Kenosha History Center Car Show Next to the Southport Light Station, (262) 654-5770; www.kenoshahistorycenter.org. 2-3 — Open Tower at Southport Lighthouse Southport Light Station, (262) 6545770; www.kenoshahistorycenter.org. 3 — Starving Artist Fair Gateway Technical College, Racine, (262) 639-3340. 3 — Job’s Daughters Bethel No. 22 Craft Fair Masonic Center, Racine, (262) 634-6562. 3 — Armenian Fest Festival Park, Racine, (262) 639-6076. 3 — Pleasant Prairie Children’s Film Festival Tinseltown Theater, (262) 925-6771; www.PleasantPrairieEvents.com/filmfest. 6-10 — Air Nautique WWA Wakeboard National Championships Prairie Springs Park and Lake Andrea, Pleasant Prairie, (407) 628-4802 Ext. 1307; www.kingofwake.com.. 7 — Music & More First Presbyterian Church, Racine, final 2008 series concert, (262) 632-1686.

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Kenosha County Fairgrounds, Wilmot, (262) 862-6121, www. kenoshacofair.com. 13-17 — Venetian Festival Flat Iron Park, Lake Geneva; www. lakegenevaJaycees.org. 16 — Pleasant Prairie Junior Triathlon Prairie Springs Park and Lake Andrea, (262) 947-0437; www.PleasantPrairieTriathlon.com. 16-17 — Pleasant Prairie Triathlon EXPO LakeView RecPlex, (262) 925-6735; www.PleasantPrairieTriathlon.com. 17 — Pleasant Prairie Triathlon Prairie Springs Park and Lake Andrea, (262) 947-0437; www.PleasantPrairieTriathlon.com. 17 — Southeastern Wisconsin Corvette Club 35th Annual Car Show Kenosha County Center, (262) 877-9569 or (262) 637-1457; www. sewcc.com. 17 — Family Stunt Day Stunts Are Us, (262) 859-2379; www.stuntsareus.org. 18 — 31st Annual Crop Walk Recruiter’s Rally St. Mary’s Lutheran Church, (262) 6945287; e-mail:grthnsn@sbcglobal.net. 22-23 — Family Overnight “Wake Up With Woolly” Kenosha Public Museum, (262) 653-4140; www.kenoshapublicmuseum.org.

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SEPTEMBER 4-7 — 2nd Annual Lake Geneva Wine Festival Various venues, (262) 245-8635; www.lakegenevawinefestival.com 5 — Fall Exhibit Geneva Lakes Art Association gallery, through Nov. 9, (262) 249-7988; www.genevalakeart.org. 5 — Folk Music Hootenanny Anderson Arts Center, Kenosha, (262) 654-6840 or (262) 658-1478. 5 — Friday Night Improv Actor’s Craft at Rhode Center for the Arts, Kenosha, (262) 705-0194; www.actorscraftwisconsin.com. 6 — “Sphere Madness” Public Art Auction Memorial Hall, Racine, public art to be auctioned, (262) 634-6002. 6 — 16th Annual “Walk In The Woods” Art Fair Hawthorn Hollow Nature Sanctuary, (262) 552-8196; www.hawthornhollow.org.

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OCTOBER 3-5 — Friends of the Library Book Sale Racine Public Library, (262) 636-9170. 4 — The Fat Tire Memorial Tour of Lake Geneva Bicycle tour through Lake Geneva, Fontana and Williams Bay, (262) 2481196; www.fattirememorialtour.com. 4 — Party on the Pavement Downtown Racine street festival, (262) 634-6002. 4 — Alzheimer’s Association Memory Walk University of Wisconsin-Parkside, (414) 479-8800; www.alz.org. 11 — Pringle Nature Center 5K Run/Hike and Fall Fun Fest Pringle Nature Center, Bristol, (262) 857-8008; e-mail:pnc@clsurf.com. 11 — Kenosha History Center Chili Cook Off Kenosha History Center, (262) 6545770; www.kenoshahistorycenter.org. 11-12 — 17th Annual Oktoberfest Lake Geneva, (262) 248-4416.

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softness of the mattress or the colorful history of the hotel. You gobble up all the bacon at the buffet and go on your way. My husband and I stayed in a few bed and breakfasts in Canada about a dozen years ago. I made all the arrangements ahead of time, and these two places cloaked themselves as “inns,” a common B&B ploy. Our first stay was in a gorgeous Victorian home. The host was friendly and the room was nice, though I tripped over the antiques that filled the room. Everything was fine until the breakfast portion of “bed and breakfast.” We were the only two guests, and our host felt compelled to take us on a tour — a very detailed tour — of his historic home. The blueberry pancakes were wonderful, but the three-hour home inspection set us back

“It’s not that men hate a free morning meal, but in the B&B universe, that meal comes with conversation, freshly squeezed orange juice and knick-knacks. It’s the knickknacks that seal the deal.” half a day. The second B&B was a

split-level ranch from the 1970s. Our room belonged to the owners’ son and was filled with his high school trophies and posters. We laughed so hard, we couldn’t sleep, which was a good thing since the man of the house kept his television turned up all night long. Breakfast was a hurried, uncomfortable affair, with the two of us and another couple crowded around a cramped kitchen table while the owner fried eggs and yelled at her kids to get out of bed. How quaint. I never saw my husband tear through an omelette with such speed. I don’t believe he swallowed until we were in the car. That said, neither of our B&B stays was as unsettling as that of two friends, who booked a night at a B&B near Madison. It was an old home, completely packed with junk, and the elderly woman who lived there made

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IN HER DAY

A lesson in hard work Growing family looks to mom for strength, inspiration By Jan Guzman; As told to Kathleen Troher

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hen I was younger, I remember, if I’d see my mom’s purse in the kitchen it just made me feel so good, because I knew she was home. And if I ever got to missing her, if she was sleeping or something, I’d open her purse and just breathe in. It smelled like her. That smell — the smell of Wrigley’s gum, the one in the white wrapper that she chewed all the time, that and just the smell in her purse — it was her. It just made me feel good. You see, my mom raised eight of us, pretty much all on her own. There’s Eddie, Jerdon, Ricky, Sandy, Gary, Alvin, me and Trish. The oldest now is 57, and the youngest is 44. And my mom, Murline Squire, she’s 76. And while raising all of us she worked, often second shift. At least twice when she couldn’t get a ride to work she walked, all the way from Kenosha to the nursing home in Racine, where she was an aide. A strong work ethic was important to her, and it’s PHOTOGRAPH BY SEAN KRAJACIC something she tried to instill in all of us. Murline Squire, left, served as an example to her daughter, Jan Guzman, and her seven other children. She That’s one of the greatest things she taught tried to instill in them her strong work ethic. us: If you work hard, you pay your bills, you pay your rent, then you’ll always have Once, mom went out and bought about care of us, and she took care of her mom a place to lay your head, and you’ll always 50 mouse traps and set them all up in the right to the end. have food on the table. house. Then we all gathered around the Twelve years ago she survived a triple And being that she worked so hard, it kitchen and mom said, “OK, listen.” Sudbypass, and this past year she was almost was always very special when denly we started hearing killed in a car accident. So we’re so blessed we went out on picnics. We’d “pop, pop, pop, pop” from all that she’s still with us. She has the eight of “With so many go to the Fox River, and we’d those traps. We were squealus and 21 grandchildren and 21 great-grandalways get to the park early ing and giggling. It was like children and more on the way. She’s the core brothers and to get the best spot, the one the Fourth of July. of this family, and I don’t know what we’d do near the baseball diamond When we came back to without her. She’s a gift from God. sisters, we can and then a little farther away Kenosha in 1974, mom got She taught us the importance of working the slides and playground a job on an assembly line hard. And she taught us about forgivefight like cats and bathrooms. We always at American Motors. She ness, because nobody has a perfect life. So had the best spot. worked there for about 14 sometimes you do or say something you and dogs, but And I know it wasn’t easy years. That was after workshouldn’t, or someone does or says someto get us all out there, to do ing as a nursing home aide thing to you that they shouldn’t. You forwe don’t hold something like that for us for about 30 years. give. With so many brothers and sisters, we when she worked so hard. So I think she worked so hard can fight like cats and dogs, but we don’t grudges. We when we got to do things like to keep us together and show hold grudges. We learned that from mom. that it was very special. us how much she loved us, And she taught us that no matter what, learned that In 1971 we moved to because she had such a horfamily is most important. You can have Mississippi, where things rible childhood. And by the wonderful friends. But family, that’s who from mom.” were very different. At first time she was 11 or 12 she will be there for you in the end. we lived in a place with no decided she didn’t want what electricity, no bathroom, no septic tank, not she had for her children someday. And she even an outhouse. We made our own. We stuck to that dedication in her heart. She had to walk half a mile just to get water. kept us together, and believe you me there My brother, Ricky, made our first bathtub. were times they wanted to separate us. But We were really living in the backwoods. she would never let that happen. She took

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