Gratitude

6Six tips for growing in gratitude by Br. Emmanuel Orrino

The self-made man is an illusion. Try as one might, no one can make himself happy, or cause another to love him. Neither can anyone experiencing success say that it is entirely his own, and not somehow the fruit of those who came before. Self-sufficiency may sound nice, but this illusion places an unfair burden on the one who has it and denies him a remarkable opportunity for a life filled with the beauty of gratitude!

When we are grateful, we do acknowledge the goodness of what we receive. But that’s not the most important part! Real gratitude is about acknowledging the giver! So the most important part of “thank you” is “you.” Realize that you’re talking to a real person (a “you”) when you give gratitude to God.

Be generous with others. “It takes one to know one.”

As you grow in generosity, you will become more attuned to the generosity of God and of others. And as you understand for yourself that receiving gratitude is an important affirmation, you’ll want to give gratitude in response to the generosity you see elsewhere.

When something good leaves you speechless, try saying “thank you”

Have you ever been speechless at the sight of a beautiful sunset? Or perhaps by hearing that a sick friend recovered? When you have nothing else to say, try saying “thank you.” Gratitude may not be your initial reaction, but choosing to give it might surprise you!

Examine yourself and your life.

Honest examination reveals at least two things: First, that we are broken and helpless to give ourselves everything we need. Second, that we are nonetheless given many wonderful things. Acknowledging our shortcomings helps us realize the wonder of what we are given. This is ripe ground for gratitude!

Make small sacrifices.

From time to time, say “no” to more than one chocolate chip cookie, to extra salt, or adjusting the heat two degrees. Allowing ourselves to feel even a little discomfort helps us receive our blessings with gratitude rather than take them for granted.

Pray for the gift of gratitude.

Of course it would be silly if we could give ourselves gratitude! We can choose to foster it in our lives, but ultimately God gives us the grace to recognize him and what he chooses to give us. Ask him for the grace to live gratefully! You won’t regret it! Just be sure to thank him afterwards.