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25A S IN GL ES CULTURE \ By Professor JM Love
Why Do FOOLS
Fall In Love? “
Why do birds sing so gay And lovers await the break of day… Why do they fall in love?
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Frankie Lymon and the Teenagers 25A READERS 50 and older will certainly recognize the lyrics of the 1956 doo-wop classic by Frankie Lymon and The Teenagers. Young readers will perhaps recall the 1998 Warner Brothers movie (of the same name) starring Halle Berry. INDEED, THIS COLUMN IS BEING WRITTEN TO ACKNOWLEDGE: 1) THOSE OF US WHO WERE ONCE IN LOVE;
Does age play a role in turning some of us into fools who confuse lust with love? And as we get older does loneliness play a factor? Your call. Just remember that songs have lyrics written so listeners can identify their own personal experiences with them. I am certain that all of us – myself, included – have played a fool in love at some point in our lives. But so what if you were shot down once, twice, even more? You took a chance and you ran with it. No apologies need to be made to anyone – especially yourself! In life’s journey, each of us needs someone to care for, to cherish, to adore, to share – the key is to find the right individual. And a bond that lasts a lifetime. Now that is a daunting task. But don’t be afraid. Trust me. You’re nobody’s fool!
2) THOSE OF US WHO STILL ARE IN LOVE; AND 3) THOSE OF US SEEKING LOVE. Of course, the question I am alluding to is a complex one: “Can emotional love and intelligent love be one and the same?”
I DON’T KNOW. DO YOU? But I am confident that those of us who married at 21 or 22 and have/had marriages last 20, 30, even 40 years may have had to compromise SOMEWHERE along this relationship. If it works, stay with it. If it doesn’t, one of you decides to walk…out! The magical powers of being young brings a love that combines ‘hormones gone wild’ and naive with unrealistic dreams that often do not hold true. But wearing rose-colored glasses on your wedding day is to be expected as two people become united.
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(Editor’s Note: Professor JM Love, resident Dating Guru at 25A, welcomes your comments and suggestions. Email him at jkmjjjjj@yahoo.com)
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Love is a losing game, Love can be a shame I know of a fool you see, For that fool is me Tell me why, tell me why?
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