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NOVEMBER 7, 2019 | The Jewish Home OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I’ve been in the parsha for several years, and from the beginning there’s been a girl in my neighborhood that I’ve been suggested to many times. My friend even went out with her and told me he thinks it’s a great idea. So do I, from everything I’ve heard. The problem is that she has always said no. On the most recent occasion that yet another person has thought of the idea, the shadchan actually asked the girl specifically what the issue was and she said that it has nothing to do with me personally and that she actually also thinks it’s a good idea too but that her parents really don’t like my parents. She said to the shadchan that she’s not the type that just submits automatically to whatever her parents say, but it’s just that since in this case they were so adamant about it she wasn’t going to push it. For the same reason, she also didn’t want to ask for details since she didn’t think it would make a difference, so I don’t know what, specifically, they have against my parents, but there is no shortage of issues that they can be referring to. My parents haven’t always had the best shalom bayis and my father is very outspoken on many issues and has a reputation as such, but they are both good people at the end of the day.
I’m wondering what to do. Like I said, I think she’s one of the best ideas I’ve ever gotten and she herself has been dating for many years, but even if somehow we ended up going out, would it even be a good idea if her parents so strongly dislike mine?
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