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Fifty Years After Dallas

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The Most Famous Speech in U.S. History

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Naomi Nachman, the Aussie Gourmet and TJH Columnist, Brings Her Radio Show to Central Avenue

150 Years Since the Gettysburg Address

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A Feast of Thanks

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Recipes to Savor this Thanksgiving Page 72

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For weeks my children have been looking forward to this weekend. Tomorrow will be their first time on an airplane and they can’t wait. It’s hard to envision something before you do it; my daughter thinks that we’ll just tell the “driver” that we’re going to a bar mitzvah and he’ll know where to go. I’m looking forward to seeing their delight as we lift off and gain altitude. Seeing their amazement at all those tiny houses below and telling them that one of them could be ours will be memorable. This Shabbos will be busy for my family. My oldest nephew, Shimmy, is becoming bar mitzvah and since my sister lives in Florida, it’s going to be a “destination” event. Some of my aunts, uncles and cousins are joining, my grandmother is heading down, and close friends are coming as well. My parents rented a large house for me and my siblings and our families to share. The children are going to have a blast swimming in the pool, playing with their cousins, and eating lots of sweets. I know that we all won’t be getting too much sleep. Fifty years ago, the nation was plunged into mourning when their beloved and vibrant leader was coldly assassinated in Dallas. Much of the nation was enamored with President Kennedy—he had a 70 percent approval rate—and his death stripped the nation of its innocence. The murder of John F. Kennedy is still disputed; most Americans today still believe that the killing was not orchestrated by just one deranged individual. This week, Susan Schwamm takes readers back the Kennedy administration and gives us some insight into his life and into the life of his killer. When President Abraham Lincoln stood at Gettysburg 150 years ago, he was ill and was asked to only give cursory remarks. His speech was brief but poignant and carried an impact way beyond the nineteenth century. Indeed, his address, which consisted of just 272 words, is probably the most famous speech in U.S. history and is long remembered by the nation that he vowed will “not perish from the earth.” As November comes to a close, we take time to reflect on the good we have in our lives. Thanksgiving gives us the opportunity to spend time with our close family and friends, to share in memories and appreciation for all that we have. Whether you are preparing your own feast or are invited out to join another, take time to peruse the delicious recipes we share with you this week. Each of these dishes is delectable any day of the year, especially when shared with loved ones.

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Letters to Dear Editor, My children loved Naomi Nachman’s marshmallow streusel topping for challah this week! I only tried it on two loaves this past Shabbos, but based on their fighting over the last remaining pieces, I guess I’ll be using it to grace the tops of all my challah loaves this Shabbos. Delicious! Thanks, Rachel Z. Dear Editor, Please support small retailers by joining your neighbors on Third Annual National Small Business Saturday, this coming November 30 and on the following Sunday. Do the same as often as possible during the other 364 days a year. Skip the national chain stores’ annual Black Friday madness, which now starts early Thursday at most large retail stores. Only PC Richards is closed. They allow their employees to stay home with family. Enjoy your Thanksgiving meal. Get a good night’s sleep and come out and support Small Business by shopping local. In these difficult economic times, it is especially important to patronize your neighborhood businesses. There are so

many great options. These people are our neighbors. They work long hours, pay taxes and provide local employment. If we don’t patronize our local community stores and restaurants to shop and eat, they don’t eat, either. Please join me and your neighbors in continuing to support our Jewish Home publication. Patronize their advertisers; they provide the necessary revenues to help keep them in business. Let them know you saw their ad. This helps keep our neighbors employed and the local economy growing. Sincerely, Larry Penner Dear Editor, When I read about Iran I can’t help but think about the 1980s and the terror that Communism wreaked upon the free world. It was a true fear in American’s hearts that one day the crazed leaders of Russia would pick up the phone to send a missile over the ocean to America’s heartland. We knew that it could happen and that our lives could be shattered in an instant. And yet, that instant never came. G-d in His infinite wisdom orchestrated events and the strong Soviet Union im-

the Editor ploded in a plume of dust. Nowadays it’s hard to envision the strength Communism had over the American people. It’s hard to see that the country held such power. But remember that just as G-d dismantled the Soviet Union in one blow, Iran’s power is only here by the whim of the One of Above. If G-d wishes Rouhani, Khamenei and their people to disappear off the face of the earth along with all their nuclear devices, it will be so. Just look at the Chanukah story to see how strong nations can be decimated in an instant. Chaim R. Werner Dear Editor, Every year I face a certain topic that I find to be an interesting issue regarding school programs and parenting. We all know how important the mitzvah of tzedakah is. It is something that is not only a mitzvah but a general concept that we want to give over to our children, to teach them the value in seeing the needs of others and helping in whatever way we can. We want to teach them how beautiful giving is, and how special it is to help a fellow Yid. In every school, they have different

tzedakah programs and contests happening throughout the year. Along with a beautiful pushka comes a high-gloss colorful pamphlet filled with prizes galore. In many cases the front cover is of a boy or girl with a huge grin and bulging eyes. Before or after receiving this temping booklet of toys galore, there is usually an “inspirational” assembly to promote devotion, encouragement, and intense importance to this cause. As a parent I have many issues that come up during this time. To start off, many times whoever is giving over the motivation gives the kids a false sense of reality. I understand they want the kids to believe that they can collect more than just one or two dollars, but to tell them that they have the opportunity to get some of the very big prizes as a motivational tool to help give them the drive to keep collecting more and more is wrong. My second issue I have is the high gloss booklets with the boy’s eyes coming out of his head. It hurts me tremendously that we have brought ourselves to a point where it is accepted to go to such lengths to justify the mitzvah. It goes against everything that we are taught as Yidden. The cover of these booklets picture a child who is overwhelmed by the


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amount of “stuff” he has…This is a grin of how happy you will be if you had everything! What Jewish concept is that? What message are we trying to give over to our children? And last but definitely not least, why do we need to put this actual dollar amount on what the kids are collecting? Why do we need to have this set up in such a way that the more money you collect, the greater the prize? I know in today’s day and age, we feel we need to give children equal everything. All kids on a league or a competition get rewards. Everyone gets a trophy for their efforts. Tzedaka is about helping others and giving of ourselves, recognizing other people’s needs. So in this case I would say that yes, we are all winners for whatever you bring in—for your efforts and for participating. These booklets are teaching kids that even if they brought in a significant amount of money, they still won’t be satisfied with themselves because there’s something bigger and better that they could’ve gotten! This American culture of more, more, more is written all over these projects and have seeped into our culture as being accepted! Shouldn’t there be another prize or reward system

for tzedakah projects? Some have argued my point with the idea of mitoch shelo l’shma ba l’shma, that we need to start somewhere to make this a part of our everyday living and being. But we see that even adults haven’t grown out of their need for bigger and bigger things. Flipping through Chinese auction booklets makes me just as sad because we give over this unspoken idea that there’s always something better that we can get. With children we are creating and actually encouraging this concept of more is better. We are taking these innocent and eager hearts and teaching them one of the basics of our religion in such a warped and wrong way. So as a parent who believes in almost never contradicting the school, I find it harder each year to bite my lip and go along with something I so very clearly feel at war with. Shaindel Richter

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The Week UTURN, a Saudi-based channel on YouTube, had 286 million views and 8 million followers on social media as of mid-September. Programs range from comedic political shows to weekly reviews of Arab online videos. They are mostly entertaining, useful and geared towards the younger generation. With a population of 28.3 million, Saudi Arabia is now the biggest user of YouTube per capita in the world and was the eighth most active country on Twitter as of April. “Because of the way of life over there, the main entertainment is based online,” said Salam Saadeh, managing partner of Y+ Venture Partners, a Dubai venture capital firm that specializes in digital, mobile and new media, referring to the strict policing of TV and newspapers. The Saudi government owns about nine free-to-air television stations through the Broadcasting Services of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia (BSKSA), plus there are some privately-held local broadcasters such as Al-Majd, which is religiously-focused, and Rotana, owned by billionaire Prince Alwaleed bin Talal. No foreign stations can broadcast within Saudi Arabia – although multiple channels reach the

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kingdom from other countries, capturing about 45 percent of market share – and cinemas are banned. The Saudi government has taken steps to monitor or block some webbased communications and content with an eye on the role social media played in the protests that unseated rulers in Tunisia, Egypt, Libya and Yemen. But the authorities have so far given YouTube free rein.

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was kidnapped by 30 armed men who attacked the residence of his French firm in Katsina on the border of Niger. The kidnapping left two bodyguards and a bystander dead and was claimed by Islamist group Ansaru, which has links to extremist group Boko Haram. With a stroke of luck, sheer determination and the will to survive, Collomp escaped his captives this week and arrived home on Monday to his family. The 63-year-old man lost 40 kilos (90 pounds) during his capture and looked tired, drawn, but happy. The exact circumstances of his escape remain unclear but Collomp said he escaped on Saturday when his captors were performing their evening prayers. He had prepared for the escape by walking up to 15 kilometers (nine miles) in his cell every day. After his escape, Collomp walked four to five km until he found a motorcycle taxi, which he took to a police station. A few weeks ago, the French nation rejoiced when four ex-hostages flew home from Niger after three years in captivity. France now has seven hostages officially being held abroad, includ-

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Iran Reveals Drone with Range of 2K Km On Monday, Iran unveiled a missile-equipped drone with a range of 2,000 kilometers. “The Fotros drone has an operational range of 2,000 kilometers

and can fly at an altitude of 25,000 feet, with a flight time of 16 to 30 hours,” Defense Minister Mohammad Dehgan was quoted as saying. Dehgan said the new drone could carry out reconnaissance missions or launch air-to-surface missile strikes. The aircraft was tested “successfully” and “shows that sanctions imposed by the enemies are not an obstacle to the progress of the defense industry,” the minister said at the unveiling ceremony.

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In recent years, Iran has been pushing its drone program, causing anxiety to the West, the United States and Israel.

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In late September, the elite Revolutionary Guards announced the mass production of the “Shahed 129” drone, which it said has a range of 1,700 kilometers, is capable of carrying eight missiles and can fly for 24 hours. In the same month, Iran unveiled a reconnaissance drone named “Yasseer,” which was said to be capable of flying for eight hours with a range of 200 kilometers and at an altitude of 4,500 meters. The Iranian army also recently boasted that it was producing a series of drones called Rad-85.

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On Sunday, a Russian plane originating from Moscow crashed at the airport in Kazan. All 50 people onboard—44 passengers and six crew members— were killed instantly. After attempting its second landing, the Tatarstan Airlines flight crashed and caught on fire in a huge fireball when the plane’s nose hit the runway while attempting to land once again. Witnesses report that the flight seemed to go down at a nearly vertical angle. It is unclear why the flight crew had trouble making the first landing in good weather on that day. Less than a year ago, in December, a Russian-made Tupolev plane veered off the runway in Moscow; five people were killed in that crash. In 2011, a plane crashed in Yaroslavl killing 44 people, including an entire professional hockey team. Additionally, Russian investigators have found that pilots who were involved in two recent airplane crashes that killed 10 and 47 people were intoxicated during the flight.

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sibility in this.” At $160 to $200 for one kilogram of dry opium compared to 41 cents for one kilogram of wheat, farmers are making a strictly economic decision when they decide to go into the trade, said Shafeek Seddiq, president of the Afghanistan Justice Organization. “If farmers are being offered no other financial alternatives, no services, no way out of poverty, they’re going to continue to go back to planting poppy every time,” Seddiq said.

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to reclaim lost ground in poppy-producing areas and have used opium production to help finance terrorism, security analysts say. “The drug economy plays a direct role in severely destabilizing the region,” said Wadir Safi, a political science professor at the University of Kabul. “Poppy crop sales make it increasingly difficult for the Afghan government to establish control in an ever-increasing part of the country and opium continues to make its way to neighboring countries and Europe.”

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A garbage collectors strike over wages and layoffs has entered its second week, and trash is piling up along the streets of Madrid. The effects can both be felt (and smelled) in Spain’s capital city. Many of the city’s most popular tourist draws, such as the Prado Museum and the Royal Palace, are in the heart of the city, as are many of its most desirable restaurants. Business owners are using brooms and plastic bags in a never-ending attempt to keep trash at bay. After the private contractors that handle the city’s trash pickup and street sweeping announced potential cuts in pay and staffing — laying off more than 1,000 out of the city’s 6,000 trash-collector workers and cutting pay for those remaining — the employees went on strike, joining their supporters in protest marches. These marches have boiled over into occasional vandalism and scuffles that have led to many arrests. Ana Botella, Madrid’s mayor, and other officials pledged an increased police presence to deter violence and vandalism. Negotiations between the contractors and employees continue, with the sanitation workers’ union vowing to continue the strike “indefinitely” if the employers don’t revamp their plans. City officials, meanwhile, are irritated that trash collection has stopped completely while the strike goes on, despite an agreement with the contractors that says at least 40 percent of trash pickup will continue even during a strike.

After talks in Geneva failed to close a deal to curb Iran’s nuclear program, President Hassan Rouhani said that Tehran would not give up what it sees as its right to enrich uranium. He emphasized that he would not “bow to anyone.” He did not elaborate on his reference to threats against Iran, but as Israel has spoken out very aggressively against a proposed deal, it is easy to imagine who he is referencing. “The Islamic Republic has not and will not bow its head to threats from any authority,” he said in a speech at the National Assembly. Rouhani called sanctions “an illegal and ineffective solution.” Rouhani, who was elected in June, is the chief architect of Iran’s diplomatic drive for a nuclear deal to alleviate harsh economic sanctions on its oil and banking industries. His negotiating team is pushing to reach a framework for steps to resolve U.S. suspicions that Tehran wants nuclear weapons capability. Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu denounced the outlines of an agreement, saying Tehran would be getting “the deal of the century” if world powers carried out proposals to grant Iran temporary respite from sanctions. Israel, which regards Iran as a mortal threat, has repeatedly suggested it may take military action against Tehran if it does not dismantle its entire nuclear program. European Union foreign policy chief Catherine Ashton said senior political officials from Iran and the five permanent UN Security Council members plus Germany would meet again to work on a deal. But clear divisions emerged among the U.S. and European allies on the final day of the Geneva talks as France hinted that the proposal under discussion did not sufficiently neutralize the threat of an Iranian nuclear bomb. U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry told reporters that an agreement could be within reach, but warned Tehran that Washington’s desire for a diplomatic solution was not infinite, saying the window for diplomacy “does not stay open indefinitely.”

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erning style of Chavez. Like Chavez, Maduro says he is defending the poor.

Venezuela’s socialist government has arrested more than 100 “bourgeois” businessmen in a crackdown on alleged price gouging at hundreds of shops and companies. “They are barbaric, these capitalist parasites!” President Nicholas Maduro yelled in the latest of his lengthy daily speeches. “We have more than 100 of the bourgeoisie behind bars at the moment.” The successor to the late Hugo Chavez also said his government was preparing a law to limit Venezuelan businesses’ profits to between 15 percent and 30 percent. Officials say unscrupulous companies have been hiking prices of electronics and other goods more than 1,000 percent. Critics say failed socialist economic policies and restricted access to foreign currency are behind Venezuela’s runaway inflation. Since the weekend, soldiers and inspectors have gone into 1,400 shops, taken over operations at an electronics firm and a battery-making company, and rounded up a handful of looters. The move is reminiscent of the dramatic gov-

Only a few of the hundreds of shops targeted with surprise inspections had been found to be offering “fair prices,” officials say. Some businesses are voluntarily lowering prices or even staying closed in case the inspectors come. “We’ve reduced everything by 10 to 15 percent, but it’s not fair. I can’t make a profit now,” said the owner of one small electronics store. Venezuela’s official inflation, 54 percent annually, is the highest in the Americas. Around Caracas and other major cities, crowds of shoppers are flooding electronics, clothing and other outlets where price cuts are anticipated.

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Toronto Mayor Grabs Headlines But Refuses to Quit Toronto Mayor Rob Ford has had some of his powers stripped from him after the city council voted on the issue this week. The mayor stepped into the international spotlight when he recently admitted to buying and doing illegal drugs and to drunk driving. He has refused to step down despite the enormous pressure he is facing to do so. The lawmakers have no authority to remove Ford from office, but they drafted a series of motions to transfer some of his authority to the deputy mayor. “Obviously I can’t support this, and I have no other options but to challenge this in court,” Ford responded. He’s vowed to run for re-election and has just signed a deal to host a talk show with his brother Doug — a member of the city council himself — but Ford said he understands why the legislators want him to just go away. “I completely understand where they’re coming from,” he said, later adding, “If I would have had a mayor acting the way I’ve conducted myself, I would have done the same thing.”

The council passed two measures. The first, which bars Ford from appointing or removing committee chairs or the deputy mayor, passed 39-3. A second, which curbs his authority during states of emergency, passed 41-2, with only the mayor and his brother voting against it. “We have been fortunate no emergencies have landed on the same dates when we know the mayor’s judgment may have been impaired,” council member John Filion said before the vote. A day earlier, the city council voted to ask him to take a leave of absence. “This is beyond a leave of absence. He needs to resign,” council member Denzil Minnan-Wong said. “This mayor thinks he is above the law. He is not.” After the council punished him, Ford didn’t slink off. Instead, he played an

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Israel Palestinians Celebrate Cold-Blooded Murder The family of a 16-year-old Palestinian who stabbed a sleeping Israeli soldier to death has been openly celebrating the murder on the Internet. Hours after Pvt. Eden Atias was killed on a public bus in northern Israel, family members of the terrorist posted his photo along with words of praise for “killing the Zionist soldier” on Facebook. It was later revealed that the young terrorist has two uncles in Israeli prisons and that the attack was likely an act of revenge. One of the uncles is serving a life sentence for killing two Israelis, and the other is in the middle of a 12-year sentence for attempting to do the same. According to the Palestinian Authority, killing Jews in Israel is not a punishable action, and all who have done so must be released from jail if there is ever to be what it calls “peace.” Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu countered that it is this kind of ongoing incitement that would cause a 16-year-old child to commit murder that is preventing genuine peace in the region. “There is continuous incitement around [youngsters] in the Palestinian Authority,” Netanyahu said at the Knesset, noting that the killer was only “16 – the incitement is in the schools, in the official press controlled by the authorities and in the mosques. If we hope to achieve a true settlement, the incitement must stop.”

Abbas Gives Released Prisoners $50K It’s not good enough that the convicted terrorists were given a free pass by Israel. Recently, it’s been learned that Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas has given each Palestinian prisoner released in recent months by Israel as a goodwill gesture the lump sum of


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The salaries given were not equal and were dependent on the length of the prisoner’s incarceration. For those held over 25 years, $50,000 was given along with a position as a deputy minister or a rank of major-general in the security forces. Both positions earn monthly wages of nearly $4,000.

Soccer Teams in West Bank Named After Suicide Bombers


In News who has planned and carried out numerous attacks against civilians on Israel since 1967. The Dalal Mughrabi team is named after a female suicide bomber revered for leading a 1978 attack in Israel in which a public bus was hijacked and 37 civilians were killed, including 12 children. Ziyad Da’as team is named after a commander of Tanzim, a Fatah terror faction, who planned a terror attack at a bat mitzvah celebration in Hadera in 2002. Da’as also participated in the kidnapping and murder of Etgar Zeituni and Motti Dayan in Tulkarem in January 2001. The PA daily wrote an entry after watching the tournament that included the Ziyad Da’as team: “At the end of the special tournament, the heroic Martyrs who fulfilled their duty to the homeland were honored...Muhammad Tamouni, the Martyr’s brother, dedicated the big win and the tournament’s success to the souls of his brother and all of Palestine’s Martyrs, who are more honorable than all of us. Tamouni said that this tournament will continue to take place annually in order to remember the heroes whom we will never forget.” Clearly the killers of men, women and children are held in the highest esteem, as heroes and martyrs for Palestinians to emulate.

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Generally, sports are about sportsmanship—learning to play well with others. But, in the Palestinian territories, sports may just be about promoting their anti-Israel agenda. The Palestinian Media Watch group has reported that soccer teams within the Palestinian Territories Authority are named after infamous suicide bombers. Teams in the tournament at Al-Quds University in the Abu Dis section of the West Bank included those with the following names: Yaha Ayyash is named after someone referred to as the Engineer and is widely credited as being the father of Palestinian suicide terror attacks. The team Ghassan Kanafani is named after a former leader of terror group, The Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine (PFLP),

Hamas officials have announced that fellow extremists must prepare for war with Israel, and threatened to declare war if Jews are allowed to pray at the Temple Mount. Raeed Sa’ad, a high-ranking commander of Al-Qassam, added that “jihad and struggle” were the only way to confront Israel, saying, “Don’t be mistaken by the peace talks that won’t bring anything but additional concessions.” The call comes right after Palestinian Authority negotiators quit recent peace Continued on page 26


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to pray at the holiest site in Judaism in a rotating timetable between Jews and Muslims is carried out. Meanwhile, Yehudah Glick, Chairman of the Temple Mount Heritage Fund, ended a 12-day hunger strike on Thursday after Jerusalem District Police Chief Yossi Pariente gave him permission to return to the Temple Mount. Glick began the hunger strike after po-

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Children’s Book Erases Israel Everyone expects Arab textbooks to erase Israel from the map but we

don’t expect celebrated children’s publisher Scholastic to do the same. “Thea Stilton and the Blue Scarab Hunt” is part of the popular Geronimo Stilton children’s series that was translated from Italian. Published in 2012, the book tells the story of a group of investigative journalists involved in a treasure hunt in Egypt. The story centers around a map of modern Egypt and its neighboring countries. While Sudan, Libya and Saudi Arabia appear clearly on the map, the territory of Israel is completely covered by Jordan, painted red. A line indicating the Israeli border with the Sinai Peninsula does appear in the book.

Adina Golombek, a Jerusalem resident who immigrated to Israel from Canada last year, said she was shocked to discover Israel’s absence while reading the book with her 7-year-old son. “I wanted to show my son where we lived in the Middle East, but it didn’t say Israel on the map; instead it said Jordan,” Golombek said. “I showed him the problem and drew in the border of where Israel is today.” Founded in Pennsylvania in 1920, Scholastic has grown to become the world’s largest publisher and distributor of children’s books through its book clubs, teaching resources and popular book fairs held inside many North American schools. The company has exclusive publishing rights for the Harry Potter series in the United States. Kyle Good, a senior vice president for corporate communications at Scholastic, said in an email that her company would stop selling the book until the error was amended in the book’s next edition. “The President of Trade Publishing who was on a plane yesterday returning from Europe has confirmed for me this morning that we are stopping shipments on this title, making the correction and going to reprint. We regret the error,” Good wrote. A recent study carried out by Israeli and Palestinian researchers found that 96 percent of Palestinian school textbooks did not mention Israel by name in their maps.






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In News The new addition to the world follows the Philippines’ massive loss of life. A statement by the UN has placed the typhoon’s death toll at 4,460, with 920,000 people displaced by the storm. The IDF delegation’s field hospital delivered its first baby the same day it opened. “Israel,” the male baby, was born in his eighth month, weighing 4.7 pounds. Five members of the delegate’s staff, including 3 doctors and 2 midwives, helped deliver him.

Baby Born in IDF Field Hospital Named Israel Israel has sent enough resources and doctors to the Philippines to serve 500 patients a day in their makeshift field hospital. The first baby has officially been born in the IDF facility this week. The mayor of Bogo City where the hospital was established announced the baby would be named “Israel.”

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This guy just can’t stay out of the news. Just four months after George Zimmerman was acquitted in the killing of Trayvon Martin in a case that made national news, Zimmerman was arrested once again. This time, police were called during a domestic dispute and were told he broke a table and pointed a gun at his friend. Summarily, Zimmerman, 30, was booked and held without bail on aggravated assault and criminal mischief charges. When he was arrested, he was not armed and officers pushed away furniture in order to open the door to the home. This is not the first time that Zimmerman grabbed the spotlight after receiving an acquittal in the Martin case. In September, he was handcuffed by police after his estranged wife accused him of threatening her with a gun. At the time, he was questioned and then released and no charges were filed. That same month, Zimmerman was stopped for speeding and received a $256 ticket. In July, he was once again pulled over for speeding in Forney, Texas, and given a verbal warning. In August, he was pulled over in Florida for having an improper tag displayed on his truck. The police officer also informed Zimmerman that his vehicle’s excessive tint needed to be corrected. Zimmerman told the officer that he had installed the tint because he was receiving death threats. Word to the wise: when you are receiving death threats, it’s best to lay low. And I mean really low.

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helicopters for $7 million-plus. A car for those who have everything will cost $2.4 million—that’s the Bugatti Veyron Super Sport Car. And when you’re that rich, owning an island or two is not out of the question. Some billionaires seem to spend with abandon; others haggle over just a few cents. Compared to what their worth, spending thousands of dollars on a designer bag is just a drop in the bucket for those who have billions in their bank account. Another snippet about the verywealthy? It’s mainly a boys’ club. There are 138 females on the Forbes Billionaires List this year—and that’s less than 10 percent. Some of those on the list include CEOs or high-ranking members of companies. Others inherited their wealth or were self-made, hard-working individuals. For males and females, most of the billionaires in the world are well-educated and were born into upper middle-class homes. Some analysts have joked, “The first trick to becoming a billionaire is being born a millionaire.” Others have made it on their own, including Sheldon Adelson who was born in a working class neighborhood in Boston; his father was cab driver.

It’s interesting to note that divorce is rare among the super-wealthy. Perhaps it’s because a divorce can cause these couples to lose hundreds of millions of dollars and give the media a peek into their private lives. Speaking of family, most billionaires have left most of their fortune to their family and brought their children into the family business. Nowadays, many have chosen to join the “Giving Pledge” to give away half their wealth to the less fortunate. It’s their legacy that’s more important to them than all the money in the world.

The decision settles a flurry of debate over whether the spire was integral to the structure’s design. The organization does not count “antennae, signage, (or) flag poles” toward buildings’ official heights. Without the needle, the building stands at 1,368 feet — rivaling but not eclipsing Willis Tower’s 1,451 feet.

1 WTC Towers Over the Nation One World Trade Center has claimed the mantle of tallest building in the country, staving off a challenge from Chicago’s Willis (formerly Sears) Tower, an expert panel of architects has announced. The Council on Tall Buildings and Urban Habitat, the official arbiters of all things architectural, said that the 408-foot antenna atop 1 WTC counts toward the building’s full height.

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at the National Wildlife Property Repository just north of Denver. The U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service will donate the particles to a yet-to-be-determined museum for display. “These stockpiles of ivory fuel the demand. We need to crush the stores of ivory worldwide,” said agency director Dan Ashe. He said keeping stockpiles intact could feed consumer demand for illegal souvenirs and trinkets taken from slain elephants. Before the crush, Fish and Wildlife officials showed off thousands of confiscated ivory tusks, statues, ceremonial bowls, masks and ornaments — a collection they said represented the killing of more than 2,000 adult elephants. The items were seized from smugglers, traders and tourists at U.S. ports of entry after a global ban on the ivory trade took effect in 1989. U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry announced a $1 million reward on Wednesday for information leading to the dismantling of a Laos-based criminal syndicate, the Xaysavang Network, that Kerry said poaches elephants for ivory. That group and others poach to fund narcotics, arms and human trafficking. Most elephants are killed in Africa, where there are about 300,000 African elephants left. There are an estimated 50,000 Asian elephants found from India to Vietnam. The British-based Born Free Foundation estimates poachers killed 32,000 elephants last year. It says black market ivory sells for around $1,300 per pound.

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Last week, U.S. officials destroyed more than 6 tons of confiscated ivory tusks, carvings and jewelry. National representatives also urged other nations to follow suit to fight a $10 billion global trade that slaughters tens of thousands of elephants each year. Thousands of ivory items accumulated over the past 25 years were piled into a large pyramid-shaped mound then dumped into a steel rock crusher that pulverized it all into dust and tiny chips

The effects of the recession were felt across the country. The real estate market was particularly affected; some homeowners lost more than $100,000 in wealth. New data released on Thursday by the U.S. Census Bureau revealed that homes lost 9% of their median values since 2010 across the nation. The five states where homeowners lost the most wealth include: 1) California—Median property values fell $102,600; 2) Nevada—Median property values fell $99,400; 3) Arizona— Median property values fell $63,800; 4) Florida—Median property values fell $55,900; and 5) Maryland—Median property values fell $45,800.

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The good news is that housing sales and prices are starting to rise as the public begins to recover from the recession. The median sales price of single-family homes increased 12.5% in the third quarter compared with last year, according to the National Association of Realtors.

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The smiling woman who was once the face of the Affordable Care Act’s website has come out of the shadows to stand up to the “cyberbullying” she says she suffered after the law’s flawed kickoff. “They have nothing else to do but hide behind the computer. They’re cyberbullying,” Adriana said in an interview. She only released her first name for anonymity. “I’m here to stand up for myself and defend myself and let people know the truth,” she said. On October 1, when the ACA’s website launched to enroll Americans in health insurance through federally run exchanges, it was Adriana’s face that greeted them. Dubbed the “enigmatic Mona Lisa of healthcare,” her face was soon mocked, photoshopped, and altered. She became the subject of latenight jokes, partisan hatred, and intense speculation. The saga of the photo started innocuously enough. Adriana responded to an email from someone at the Center for Medicare and Medicaid Services, the agency responsible for the Affordable Care Act’s rollout, about having photos of her and her family taken for free in

exchange for allowing the photos to be used to market the new healthcare law. She was never paid. She learned over the summer that her photo would be on healthcare. gov’s main page, but she didn’t realize it would become so closely associated with the problems of the flawed website. “I mean, I don’t know why people should hate me because it’s just a photo. I didn’t design the website. I didn’t make it fail, so I don’t think they should have any reasons to hate me,” Adriana said. Speculation swirled that Adriana might not be a legal resident of the United States and therefore not even eligible for the healthcare exchanges. Adriana said she is a wife and mother who lives in Maryland with her 21-month-old son and husband of six and a half years. Her husband is a U.S. citizen, as is his her son. Adriana, who is Colombian, said she has lived legally in the U.S. for more than six years, is currently a permanent resident, and is applying for citizenship. Though she is eligible for healthcare through the ACA, Adriana says she hasn’t signed up for it, and is neither in favor nor against it. About two weeks ago, her photo was removed from the site and replaced by several icons. “That was a relief,” she said. “They took the picture down. I wanted the picture down, and they wanted the picture down. I don’t think anybody wanted to focus on the picture.”

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The federal government may have wasted $1 billion on a TSA program called “SPOT” that profiles people who may be “bad guys” at airports by talking to them, the Government Accountability Office reported. There is no evidence that it works, the department admitted. The Transportation Security Administration’s Screening of Passengers by Observation Techniques (SPOT) program relies on training personnel to



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“I think that it is an extremely important layer because otherwise we will go back to the so-called dark ages of believing that ... this is all about detecting weapons or items,” he told a reporter. “What we are doing is not enough. ... If we are facing somebody who presents a high level of risk, then we need to search him beyond what we are doing at the airport level, the checkpoint level.” Rep. Mike McCaul, R-Texas, the chairman of House Homeland Security Committee, said in a statement to NBC News that the GAO report is “concerning, particularly in light of the fact that TSA has spent almost $1 billion on the program.” Rep. Bennie Thompson of Mississippi, the ranking Democrat on the committee, said he intended to question TSA Administrator John S. Pistole about the GAO report at a hearing on Thursday. In its response within the report, DHS faulted both the GAO’s findings related to the 2011 SPOT validation study, saying its use of different statistical techniques resulted in “misleading” conclusions, and that its review of the research literature omitted some studies that supported the use of behavior de-

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Janet Hamlin: Guantanamo Sketch Artist For years Janet Hamlin has been the only sketch artist allowed to cover the secretive U.S. military tribunals at Guantanamo Bay. Her drawings of self-confessed 9/11 plotter Khalid Sheikh Mohammed and his four co-defendants are the only images the public has seen of the men accused of orchestrating the 2001 attacks. Hamlin has had a coveted front-row seat for the proceedings, sitting alongside journalists and victims’ relatives behind a thick glass partition separating her from Mohammed and his alleged co-conspirators, attorneys for both sides and a military judge.

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Using magnifying eyeglasses, she works rapidly to capture the key moments of the special military tribunals, having been the only sketch artist to cover them since 2006. No photographers are allowed. During her 25 trips to Guantanamo, Hamlin has never been allowed inside the courtroom with the men she has sketched so many times. Yet she has reproduced the likenesses of dozens of “war on terror” suspects in some 185 sketches. After reaching a compromise with her military bosses, she now also sketches from a live-broadcast screen in a former courtroom located several hundred yards from the new maximum-security tribunal. In the morning she works behind the glass partition in the courtroom, but prefers in the afternoon to draw from the screen, which helps her see finer details. “That’s how I get the faces,” said the New Yorker, who has just published a collection of her work,

“Sketching Guantanamo.” In 2008, the infamous detainee Mohammed snubbed one of Hamlin’s portraits, saying she had misrepresented his nose. “I saw him turning, facing me, holding it, shaking his head,” Hamlin recalled. During a break, his lawyers asked that she redo the drawing based on an old FBI photo. The past seven years of sketching has led her on a roller coaster ride of emotion. “It has been challenging sometimes,” Hamlin said. But the drawer has no regrets and is happy to have been able to contribute to history in her own unique way.

Cursive Comeback

Penmanship has for a long time been a core part of elementary school educations in this country. The ability to read and write in cursive was recognized as an important skill. However, over 45 states have removed “script” from their curriculum in our new digital age and now seven of those states are having second thoughts. The arguments for and against cursive both have their merits. Linden Bateman, a 72-year-old state representative from Idaho, says cursive conveys intelligence and grace, engages creativity and builds brain cells. “Modern research indicates that more areas of the human brain are engaged when children use cursive handwriting than when they keyboard,” said Bateman, who handwrites 125 ornate letters each year. “We’re not thinking this through. It’s beyond belief to me that states have allowed cursive to slip from the standards.” State leaders who developed the Common Core — a set of preferred K-12 course offerings for public schools — omitted cursive for many reasons, including an increasing need for children in a digital-heavy age to master computer keyboarding and evidence that even most adults use some hybrid of classic cursive and print in everyday life. “If you just stop and think for a secContinued on page 38

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At least seven states — California, Idaho, Indiana, Kansas, Massachusetts, North Carolina and Utah — have moved to keep the cursive requirement. Legislation passed in North Carolina and elsewhere couples cursive with memorization of multiplication tables as twin “back to basics” mandates. I typed this article on my computer so you know where I stand…

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As the general public scrambles to find accurate information on President Barack Obama’s Affordable Care Act, a new study suggests more Americans trust Fox News than any other news outlet. According to a YouGov survey, 19 percent of those polled said Fox News was the most trusted source of information on Obamacare. The top-rated cable network beat out “Friends and Family” (17 percent), Obama (11 percent) and National Public Radio (10 percent). Although CNN brags to be “the most trusted name in news,” only 3 percent said they trust CNN for information on the new healthcare law. The irony is that the public trusts that the media has more accurate information than Obama himself on his own policies. Mr. President needs a crash course!

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The 48-year-old had previously made multiple visits to Dunkin’ Donuts, flashed his deceased father’s New Jersey police badge and claimed to be a U.S. Marshal in order to receive discounts on doughnuts, police said. But cops were ready on Tuesday afternoon after a suspicious store clerk tipped them off. “Yesterday, we had an undercover deputy in the store,” Pasco County Sheriff’s Office spokesman Douglas Tobin said. “He usually comes in at the same time. This time, he didn’t show his badge, but we had enough reason to arrest him.” Police said they found a .38-caliber revolver in his pocket during the arrest, as well as ammunition in the vehicle.


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A Florida principal agreed with a mother who was angry that her son made the honor roll despite having a C and a D on his report card. Principal Kim Anderson of Pasco Middle School in Dade City, Florida, was siding with Beth Tillack who was upset that her seventh grade son Douglas was on the honor roll and his report card came with a teacher’s comment, “good job” and a smiley face. The principal said that 45 percent to 50 percent of the school’s students are

Anderson said she’ll be asking teachers to review report cards more closely from now on to ensure progress is measured as accurately as possible. “The buzz about this has caused us to look at it. I’m not sure if we’ll change it, but we’re looking at it,” the principal said. Seems that these students are getting too much credit for not doing enough work…maybe they have room for another student there?

pictures of all the food. Suspicious, the restaurant’s manager, Katelyn Hubick, made note of the car’s license plate. A short time later, a guest at a nearby hotel discovered that her car had been broken into and her credit card was missing. She learned of the Carl’s Jr. charge and alerted police, who contacted the restaurant.

InstaSLAMMER Three men and one juvenile suspected of auto burglary were arrested by police in Rocklin, California, after authorities discovered an online photograph of the foursome posing with $120 worth of Carl’s Jr. fast food. According to local news sources, the group purchased a mountain of food, including burgers, fries and shakes at the restaurant’s drive-through window. After one of the employees began taking all the bags of food out to the car, the group asked that the employee take

The manager reported the unusually large order and the key fact that the hungry crew had posted a photo of their food to Instagram. After the group left, a restaurant employee took a photo of the receipt and posted it to Instagram. A friend of the food service worker saw the photo and told her, “I know the per-

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on the honor roll. She said it was a “difficult situation” and that Beth Tillack was justified in questioning policies surrounding the school’s standards and system of assessment. “I do agree with her,” said Anderson. “I feel it’s important for students to progress by meeting standards. We measure them by standards, they know if they’ve met them or not. Sometimes grades don’t always indicate that.” The Pasco Middle School honor roll system is based on weighted grade point averages, meaning that the 3.16 average Douglas Tillack achieved overall for his four A’s, a C and a D, just pushed him over the honors requirement line, which is set at 3.15. Theoretically, children could get an F and still qualify for the honor roll, said Anderson, which is problematic when children might not be motivated to perform like they should. Tillack said that after her complaint the school reissued the card, replacing “good job” with “Work on civics. Ask for help.” “The bottom line is there’s nothing honorable about making a D,” said Tillack. “I was not happy, because how can I get my child to study for a test when he thinks he’s done enough?”

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Record-Setting Auction

The world record for the most expensive piece of art auctioned has been smashed this week. A three-piece collection by British painter Francis Bacon titled, “Three Studies of Lucian Freud,” sold for $142.4 million at Christie’s auction house in NYC. A New York gallery bought the trio. “What’s amazing for us to see is obviously the highest price ever paid at auction for a work of art, the Francis Bacon,” said Brett Gorvy, head of postwar and contemporary art at Christie’s.

The most expensive artwork ever was a Cezanne that sold for $259 million in 2011. But that was a private sale, not an auction. Gorvy named Acquavella Galleries, which is based in New York, as the buyer at a spectacular auction that broke a string of records and totaled sales of $691.6 million, the highest in auction history. Hammered to an outburst of applause, the Bacon surpassed the previous record of $119.9 million fetched by Edvard Munch’s iconic “The Scream” by rival house Sotheby’s in New York in May 2012. Bidding lasted six minutes and was split by would-be buyers on three continents, opening at $80 million and escalating in seconds. “An historic moment,” said auctioneer Jussi Pylkkanen at $126 million as he drove the price yet higher. In total, Christie’s broke a 10 world records.

Another RecordSetting Auction

Seems to have been a week of record auctions. The “Pink Star,” a huge flawless pink diamond, sold for a world record $83 million at auction in Geneva, Switzerland, the auction house Sotheby’s said. “Ladies and gentlemen, 68

In News million Swiss francs is the world record bid for a diamond ever bid and it’s right here,” Sotheby’s David Bennett said to applause as he brought down the hammer in the salesroom. The final bid for the oval-shaped diamond, mounted on a ring and weighing 59.60 carats, was for 68 million Swiss francs or $73.99 million. Sotheby’s said the final sale price, including the “buyer’s premium,” or commission fees, was 76.3 million Swiss francs, or $83.02 million. The winner was a man bidding in the room, who told reporters that he was buying it on behalf of an anonymous person whom he represented, and would not give his own name. The auctioneer, Bennett, noting that its pre-sale estimate was $61 million, told reporters: “It surpassed our estimate. It’s a large amount of money in itself but I don’t think this stone has a price.” The price tag exceeded the previous record by the “Graff Pink,” a 24.78 carat fancy intense pink diamond bought by Laurence Graff, the London-based jeweler known as “The King of Diamonds,” at a 2010 auction for 45.44 million Swiss francs ($45.75 million then). The “Pink Star” was cut and polished from a 132.5-carat rough diamond mined by De Beers somewhere in Africa in 1999, according to Sotheby’s, which said it had no information on the exact geographic origin.

Livin’ Old School

Some people live in the past but this is taking a few steps further. Sarah Chrisman, 33, was inspired at age 29 to delve deeper into women’s fashions from the Victorian age, and began to dress that way exclusively. These days, she and her husband, Gabriel, are committed to living as Victorian a life as possible, within modern-day constraints. “We’re as immersed as we can be,” Chrisman said. That means she washes herself “with a pitcher and basin every day,” hand-sews all of her own clothes (from natural fibers), doesn’t drive a car, and uses oil lamps for most of the lighting in their Victorian home in Port Townsend, Wash. When it comes to cooking, Chrisman uses a book of 19th century recipes and said translating the centuries-old descriptions into modern-day measurements has proved the biggest challenge. “It’s involved a lot of experimentation to see what works and what doesn’t,” she said. Her husband, Gabriel, joins in as often as he can, wearing Victorian clothes to his job at a library and on his days off, but abstaining on the days he works in a bicycle shop across town. They currently use a refrigerator to store their food, but are hoping to switch to an icebox for even more authenticity down the line. Chrisman says they channel the Victorian era as a way of better understanding history. “The clothing is a really interesting window into everyday people’s lives,” she said. “It’s a different way of looking at the world, and that was their world.” Ironically, she sometimes has to turn to modern technology to be transported to the past. Finding historically accurate light bulb replicas of what people would have used at that time, for example, entails shopping online. “In the 19th century, it would have been very easy — we

Selfie: Word of the Year

on September 13, 2002. Its official definition now? “A photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically one taken with a smartphone or webcam and uploaded to a social media website.” This year Oxford noted that the use of the word increased by 17,000% since this time last year. The word beat out other popular words including “schmeat” (synthetically produced meat) and “bitcoin.” Selfie seems to have also spawned other related words. “Helfie” refers to a photo of one’s own hair; “welfie” refers to taking a photo of oneself while working out; and “drelfie” is a photo of yourself when you’re drunk. Didn’t know that so many people would be interested in seeing all those of pictures of me – but wait, are they really?!

Inspiring Bike Ride

It seems that people around the world are obsessed with themselves. They can’t stop taking self-pictures and sharing them with friends and acquaintances. This year, Oxford Dictionary announced that this year’s word of the year celebrates this self-absorbed phenomenon. Its word of the year for 2013 is the word “selfie.” The word actually popped up in an Australian chat room eleven years ago—

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A quadriplegic finds even the most mundane tasks very difficult. But a 10,000-mile bike ride is not even in the realm of possibilities. Or so it would seem. Seth McBride, 30, is a former Paralympic gold medalist who with his partner, Kelly Schwan, has embarked on a yearlong, 10,000-mile cycling trip from Portland, Oregon, to Patagonia, Argentina. He wants to be the first person with quadriplegia to complete a trans-continental cycle tour without a support crew.

Their inspiring journey landed the couple on National Geographic Traveler magazine’s Travelers of the Year list, which celebrates 18 “individuals who travel with passion and purpose, have an exceptional story to tell and ... can inspire us all,” according to the magazine. McBride, who was paralyzed in a skiing accident at age 17, travels on a handcycle, wheelchair in tow. He describes himself as someone who has “lived with quadriplegia for 12 years.” While he relies solely on arm strength to pedal, Schwan has use of her legs, so she is towing their gear for the entire trip – more than 100 pounds’ worth. “Lots of times people can be unsure if they see someone in a wheelchair what to say, or they feel a little awkward. The handcycle doesn’t elicit the same response, because maybe they don’t know what it is or they don’t know I use a wheelchair … we’ve had great conversations because people are curious.” McBride and Schwan met at the 2008 Paralympic Games in Beijing, where Schwan, an occupational therapist, volunteered for TEAM USA and McBride’s wheelchair rugby team brought home the gold. Since then, they’ve traveled throughout Asia and Europe. “Kelly and I have done enough travel together, we knew we’re good travel partners,” McBride said. “That’s one of the things that brought us closer together. Knowing that in weird and stressful situations we’re

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could have ordered it all from Sears and Roebuck,” she laughs. “The 21st century Sears and Roebuck is the Internet.” Chrisman says the experience has been incredibly positive, and she hopes other people who hear her story can apply some of the lessons she’s learned to their own lives: “It’s important to follow one’s own interests and one’s own dreams, and one should never let strangers dictate one’s life,” she says. And for those who think it’s just a gimmick, Chrisman says living this way is no experiment: “It’s just our life.”

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compatible and work together was a pretty great thing to know. We get a lot of strength being around each other.” “It’s amazing what you can do once you start pushing yourself,” McBride said. “Go out and try to be active – you’ll probably be surprised at what your body can do. When you get into a habit, it becomes easier when you face the hard bits, having the confidence that you can get through this.” Schwan hopes their adventure encourages people to “get out and move and see how it changes their perspective.”

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State Senator Joseph Addabbo Visits Bnos Malka Bnos Malka Academy had the privilege of hosting their State Senator, Mr. Joseph Addabbo. Mr. Addabbo is serving in his 5th year representing the 15th District in Queens. Greeted by a small group of parents, the state senator was led on a brief tour of the building. Rabbi Weichselbaum, the school’s principal, explained that the building has a rich history of serving the community for over 60 years. The highlight of the afternoon was watching Mr. Addabbo interact with Mrs. Fruchter’s 4th grade class. He carefully explained his job and how the local government plays a role in their lives. Questions ranged from Sandy relief to how laws get passed. The girls were clearly interested in his example of a “No Homework Friday” Bill, although he made no promises of it passing in Albany. He was noticeably moved when Mrs. Fruchter proudly shared the letters and the Chanukah artwork the students have been preparing to send to Jewish American soldiers stationed abroad. He took a few minutes to compliment the

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girls on their work and how important it was to show gratitude to the soldiers. The visit concluded with Mr. Addabbo speaking with the parents and staff and explaining how important the relationship is between the local government and the school. Rabbi Weichselbaum was impressed with his esteemed visitor, “Mr. Addabbo, as a politician and more importantly as a parent with school-age children, is very receptive to the needs of schools and pledged to have an attentive ear. He explained if we have a need, chances are others schools have a similar need and it behooves him to explore what can be done.”

Dr. Andrew Bostom, a noted New England physician and a noted published historian of Islam and its violent attitudes towards all non-Muslim groups, especially Jews, presented a spellbinding multi-media presentation, entitled, “Islam and the Jews,” to a near-capacity audience at the Great Neck Library. The event was sponsored by The Jewish Political Education Foundation (JPEF) based in Great Neck, the publisher of the Jewish Political Chronicle (JPC). Pictured are organizers of the event (R-L, back row), Milt Mitzner, President of JPEF, and David Schimel, Editor of the JPC. Dr. Bostom (center) is flanked by (R-L) Michael Stern and Dr. Paul Brody, Vice Presidents, JPEF, and Ruth Mitzner, Sec.-Treasurer, and Ruth Schnall, Founding President of JPEF.

Nassau County Legislature Judy Jacobs Gives HANC Plainview Students an Election Day Lesson Election Day comes to HANC Plainview! On Tuesday, November 5th, eleven 5th and 6th grade HANC students presented their ideas on how elementary school students can initiate positive change within their school and community. Legislator Judy Jacobs shared her perspective on leadership and how good ideas can truly make a difference. Stu-

dents ran for ambassadorship positions and pledged to work all year to implement ideas. Principal Rabbi Fogel stated, “These students possess the many qualities of leadership, and through their ideas and actions will serve as role models to all of our students at HANC Plainview.”


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Around the Community Investing Time into our Most Important Relationship Time is one of today’s most precious commodities. No one, regardless of position or gender, seems to have enough time to fit it all into the twenty four hours that make up our day. The technology and products of today are designed to save a few precious minutes. We constantly work on perfecting the art of multitasking, talking on the cell phone while running our errands, texting while in the elevator, listening to a shiur while driving, tending to the kids while cooking … and with all that we still are always pressed for time and find it hard to fit in extras into our day. Most worthwhile undertakings require investments of time. A doctor must go through four years of medical school and at least two years of residency before he is able to open his own practice. Similarly, a lawyer must work many overtime hours every day for years in order to “make partner” in the firm. Likewise, there are store owners who will keep their stores open from early morning until late at night in order to attract customers. Marriage as well requires a time investment. Few marriages will thrive without continued time and attention. Marriage is a relationship between two people. As people grow and change over the years, if the relationship is not invested in and it stays at the same level it was when the couple was first married, it is lacking. Howeve,r the time investment marriage requires in order to flourish is very different than that of a profession or business. Marriage does not

necessarily require long blocks of time, it just requires consistency. A marriage that gets attention only on its anniversary, even if the attention is on a grand scale, is likely not a thriving one. A marriage which gets daily positive attention is one that is likely a successful one. There are many short positive activities we can utilize as a way of giving attention to our marriage. Attention can be in the form of a phone call, a conversation, learning something together, playing a game, or taking a walk together. No matter how busy, most couples can still find the 5-7 minutes to learn a few minutes of a sefer together or play a quick game of Boggle. (Obviously it is imperative that during the interaction one be focused on their spouse and enjoying their time together and try to avoid interruptions, phone calls, IM, texts …). Let us try this week to make a commitment to “invest” time in our marriage each day for a few minutes. Like a flower that is being watered and cared for may we be zocheh to see our relationship grow and flourish as a result of the continued positive time and attention we are giving it. Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings, 10:00-11:00 p.m. For the hotline or more information, call 516-430-5280 or email

Chanukah Comes Early to Gourmet Glatt With the recent unveiling of its beautiful Yom Tov window display, Gourmet Glatt has officially ushered in two weeks of in-store festivities marking the 57742013 Chanukah season. “Bringing the kids to see our windows is becoming something of a tradition in the neighborhood,” says store manager Yoeli Steinberg. “So we’re really invested in keeping them fresh and exciting.” The fun gets stepped up on Sunday, November 24 with a pre-Chanukah extravaganza featuring a concert by the inimitable Lipa and a variety of gifts and attractions for kids, including face painting and a juggling act. The cele-

bration continues throughout Chanukah with lots of special giveaways and other surprises for children and adults alike. On the seventh night of Chanukah, the store will take the party outside as it once again teams with Chabad of The Five Towns for a community-wide menorah lighting at Cedarhurst’s Andrew J. Parise Park. Last year’s event drew participants from throughout the Five Towns, Far Rockaway and beyond, observes Yoeli. “We urge everyone to join us again for a beautiful night of inspiration – and, of course, incredibly delicious doughnuts.”


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HAFTR Hosts Jewish Education Project’s Professional Development Day

HAFTR was pleased to host the annual Jewish Education Project’s Professional Development Day on Veterans Day, Monday, November 11th. Over twelve hundred educators from yeshivot from Long Island, as well as the five boroughs of New York City, participated in workshops on a variety of topics ranging including the Common Core Curriculum in literacy and math, science, Differentiated Instruction, technology, Chumash and Lashon. Members of our very own staff facilitated sessions which were well attended by participants who walked out with enthusiasm and a host of new ideas. Educators could be seen

walking around taking pictures of bulletin boards and classrooms. Student volunteers displayed exceptional manners and middot tovot in helping visitors navigate the buildings. It was a terrific sight to see educators from different backgrounds and schools eat lunch together in the cafeteria and gym. A packed minyan for Mincha took place in our Beit Midrash. It was a great day for Jewish education and a great opportunity for HAFTR to shine. Bella Shema, Gabriella Shilian, Julius Balbus, Joshua Goldstein, Caleb Goldstein, Haley Rubenstein, Binyamin Gettenberg, Yosef Gettenberg,

Matthew Mizrahi, Emma Gilbert, Eden Barzvi, Moshe Livshitz, Harvey Weiner, and Justin Rapp chose to volunteer their time helping 1,200 people find their workshops at the Jewish Education Project’s Professional Development Day at HAFTR. Students were gracious, welcoming, and made everyone feel at home. Our guests could not get over that our children ran to open doors and that they actually knew how to give directions. These students

were so reliable and accountable that one of the first things they did when arriving at school was to daven. After all the sessions and a very long day, a presenter from Virginia and a principal from a local yeshiva commented on how

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Bnos Bais Yaakov: In Service For Our Veteran Teachers On Veteran’s Day, there were no classes for BBY students. Instead, the teachers went to classes to review triedand-true teaching techniques and to learn new ones.

Sifriyat Pijama B’America Comes to HALB On Sunday, November 10, HALB held its first ever Sifriyat Pijama B’America event. As one of many Ivrit initiatives introduced this year, HALB has partnered with Sifriyat Pijama B’America. As a result of this partner-

ship, HALB families with children in preschool through the 3rd grade will receive Hebrew children’s books by mail each month starting in December. SPBA at HALB programs will run several times throughout the school year, after school hours, in order to provide families with the opportunity to engage b’Ivrit with their children in a fun, interactive, and meaningful way. Over 60 families attended Sunday’s SPBA at HALB event, with remarkable intergenerational participation. The program began with a Hebrew story reading of the book Anashim Tovim, based upon Naomi Shemer’s well-known song. Children found the “anashim tovim” (good people) in the story while peering through their very own “mishkafaim,”

(glasses) and identified characters including “sharat” (janitor), “Saba and Savta” (grandfather and grandmother), and “rofeh chayot” (veterinarian). The book reading was followed by an interactive and engaging music lesson with performer Sandy Shmuely, so that the children left Sunday’s program with the lyrics of Naomi Shemer’s song lingering in their hearts and minds. Finally, the children and parents engaged in several book-related center-based activities and games that reinforced the concepts of “anashim tovim” in the Sifriyat Pijama book and in their own lives.

SPBA tote bags, mishkafaim, and activities in-hand, children and parents who participated in Sunday’s event felt enriched and enlivened, glad to have spent the morning speaking and learning b’Ivrit. Students, parents and faculty look forward to the next SPBA at HALB event!

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educational game in which all the teachers participated. The point of the game was to demonstrate how important it is for a morah to speak to the class’s level because it is so easy for a student to misunderstand what her morah is saying. With that in mind, a morah can nuance her approach to a student who appears to be incorrectly following morah’s instructions. The teachers were also shown a short video entitled “Animal School,” which clearly depicted a teacher’s responsibility to discover each student’s strengths and to teach to those strengths. Round-table discussions were held following the video presentation so that BBY’s extraordinarily talented pre-school teachers could share the best and brightest of their educational ideas with their friends and colleagues. The day ended with all the moros reciting Tehillim together for continued hatzlacha with their talmidos. ELEMENTARY SCHOOL The principals of grades 1-4, Mrs. Penina Neuberg and Miss Devorah Kurland, and of grades 5-8, Mrs. Esther Kuessous and Mrs. Sarala Koenig, were interested in eliciting ideas from within the ranks of their own remarkable staff members. Thus was “The Teachers’ Showcase” born. The teachers were asked a series of questions regarding situations that occur in every classroom – questions about how to maximize each child’s experience in the classroom,

how to most effectively monitor homework assignments, etc. The teachers dropped their written responses in to the color-coded bags arranged near the matching gift-wrapped boxes. The answers would be shared at the end of the program. Next on the agenda was Rabbi Hiller, who expressed his appreciation for the teachers. Rabbi Hiller’s words of hakaras hatov have been heard often and yet they never lose their luster. The sentiments are real and heartfelt and every teacher feels that sincerity. Mr. Avi Schulman, a successful mechanech for many years, is also an author, Yated columnist, life coach and long-time emissary of Torah U’mesorah to build Torah institutions across America. Mr. Schulman spoke to the teachers about how to reach the neshama of every child. The avid interest of the teachers was marked by the scratching of many pens as the teachers raced to take notes on every single precious word uttered by Mr. Schulman. Through numerous stories and anecdotes, Mr. Schulman very successfully got his important message across. The teachers walked away from Mr. Schulman’s presentation empowered to utilize his ideas in their classrooms the very next day. The day ended with a light lunch sponsored by BBY’s inimitable P.T.A., at the end of which the “Teachers’ Showcase” responses were read aloud. Our teachers’ responses were written with wisdom, tact, and sensitivity and the level of caring that is poured into every BBY student was abundantly clear. One teacher expressed her feelings in a note of appreciation to one of the principals. She remarked that “hearing the suggestions of my colleagues was very humbling. I am working among a group of people who all do tremendous things to reach their students every day.”

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PRE-SCHOOL The pre-school’s in-service workshops were all related to a diamond motif. To establish the “radiant” ambiance, the pre-school Director, Morah Yehudis Oppen, gave out faux diamond rings and other diamond-themed paraphernalia at the lovely breakfast sponsored by the P.T.A. Behind the cuteness of it lay the real message of the workshops: “Our students are diamonds, and our job as teachers is to polish the surfaces so the diamond can shine forth in all its splendor.” Rabbi Shmuel Hiller, BBY’s es-

teemed dean, began the day with warm words of hakaras hatov for the teachers’ dedication. Mrs. Henny Bender then presented some very well-received practical tips for enabling students to shine. In addition to being a respected mechaneches, Mrs. Bender is also a grateful Sherry Garber Pre-school parent. She shared real-life scenarios of how her own children were given multiple opportunities to shine in BBY’s pre-school. Next, Morah Chana Ritholtz, Morah Devora Brazil, and Morah Shaina Hirschhorn, all of whom had attended various teacher development workshops held in Manhattan and given by professionals in the field of early childhood education, gave their colleagues the benefit of their expanded knowledge. Morah Shulamis Bloom moderated an

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Chai Lifeline Marks “The Roads to Healing” at Annual Gala December 18th

Brenda Kohn, MD, and Walter Molofsky, MD,Medical Achievement Award

Richard J. O’Reilly, MD, Maimonides Legacy Award

Chai Lifeline, the international organization dedicated to caring for sick children, will celebrate 28 years of bringing joy and hope to families fighting pediatric illness at its 2013 Annual Gala, Wednesday evening, December 18 at the Marriott Marquis. This year’s Gala focuses on “The Roads to Healing,” an acknowledgement that while every journey is unique, Chai Lifeline is part of every family’s story. Renowned speaker Charlie Harary is serving as master of ceremonies. “Chai Lifeline has cared for more

Benji and Raissa Samet, Camp Simcha Appreciation Award

than 4,300 children and families in the past year,” said Rabbi Simcha Scholar, the organization’s executive vice president. “We feel privileged that we have built partnerships with extraordinary medical professionals and generous community leaders that enable us give families the intensive, personalized set of programs and support they need.” Chai Heritage Award Given to Mike and Karen Oz Mike and Karen Oz, recipients of the 2013 Chai Heritage Award, inter-

HaRav Zev Leff, Shlita Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Gedolah Matisyahu In Eretz Yisroel Will be in the New York Area Until Nov. 25th For More Information or To Schedule an Interview Contact the Yeshiva 718-839-5698

Mike and Karen Oz, Chai Heritage Award

rupted their lives and moved to Philadelphia for a year when their daughter needed a bone marrow transplant. Chai Lifeline’s support helped them through the traumatic experience. Today, Leya is doing well, and her parents have dedicated themselves to assuring that Chai Lifeline will have the resources to assist other families who need the combination of concrete service and emotional support that made such a difference in their lives. “Chai Lifeline understood what we were going through and they were there at every juncture. Very honestly, we don’t know how we would have gotten through without them,” they stated. Friends ‘n Fun Dedicated to Sari Ort, a’h Friends ‘n Fun, Chai Lifeline’s weekend adventures for children in communities across the country, will be dedicated in memory of Sari Ort, a”h, a veteran Camp Simcha camper who enjoyed getting together with her many camp friends at recreational and social events throughout the year. “Friends ‘n Fun weekends extend the benefits of Camp Simcha throughout the year,” stated Rabbi Scholar. “Bringing our children together with beloved camp staff gives them a boost of the confidence and courage they build at camp during the summer.” The weekends take place in communities across North America. Many include siblings, giving brothers and sisters the opportunity to make friends with others living with similar challenges. Contributions of Three Physicians to Children’s Health Celebrated Dr. Richard O’Reilly, chair of the Department of Pediatrics and chief of Pediatric Bone Marrow Transplantation Service at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, will be recognized for his pioneering work in pediatric oncolo-

Sari Ort, a”h, for whom Chai Lifeline’s Friends ‘n Fun weekend program will be dedicated

gy research and bone marrow transplantation. He will receive the Maimonides Legacy Award for his unceasing dedication to children’s health over a long and illustrious career. Medical Achievement Award honorees Brenda Kohn, MD, director of Pediatric Endocrinology at NYU Langone Medical Center, and Walter Molofsky, MD, medical director, pediatric neurology for the Mt. Sinai Healthcare system and chief, pediatric neurology, Beth Israel Medical Center, have been professionally involved with Chai Lifeline almost since its inception. The couple, who have treated many Chai Lifeline patients as part of their respective practices, are also ardent supporters and friends of the organization. “We have seen the real difference this organization makes for medically compromised children and their families. We’re delighted when our young patients tell us they can’t wait until Camp Simcha starts again and when they recount camp stories for months afterwards. We are real fans.” Benji Samet Thanked for Service to Camp Simcha Benji Samet, a counselor at Camp Simcha for four years, and his wife Raissa, will receive the Camp Simcha Appreciation Award in recognition of Benji’s years of service to the camp and Chai Lifeline. “The mitzvah of chesed doesn’t end because we are no longer at camp or volunteering during the year,” Samet proclaimed. “Chai Lifeline provides us with opportunities for making a difference in the lives of children throughout our lives.”

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Rabbi Eytan Feiner presented the second chapter of the Book of Yoel at this week’s Tanach shiur. The Tanach shiur began its 18th year with Rabbi Moshe Teitelbaum of the Young Israel of Lawrence-Cedarhurst presenting the first chapter.

Photo credit: Ivan H Norman Up at TAG The weather had just turned cold, but the atmosphere was warm and inviting at Torah Academy for Girls’ first T.E.A.M Up event of the year on Wednesday, November 13, hosted graciously by Mrs. Evy Guttman. The brainchild of our Women’s League President, Mrs. Naomi Newman, the Tag Educators And Mothers events were implemented to facilitate communication between parents and teachers and foster “teamwork.” TAG mothers certainly appreciated the opportunity to interact with many of our excellent teachers and faculty members, including Mrs. Sarah Drillman, our Limudei Kodesh principal. Enjoying the delicious and beautifully prepared soups and desserts, TAG mothers participated

in an interactive round table discussion that was moderated by Mrs. Aliza Gold and featured some of TAG’s dynamic teachers, including Mrs. Cheryl Brecher, Mrs. Batya Krasnow, Mrs. Maya Kuritsky, and Mrs. Ronit Thumim. Our first T.E.A.M. Up event certainly resulted in solidifying our “winning team.”



Naomi Nachman, the Aussie Gourmet and TJH Columnist, Brings Her Radio Show to Central Avenue On Friday, Naomi Nachman hosted her radio show, “Table For Two on the Nachum Segal Network,” at AHC Appliance store in Cedarhurst. Over 100 people packed into the store to watch Naomi live, while thousands of others watched and listened across the world over the Nachum Segal Network stream. Naomi interviewed Sandy Tau, owner and operator of AHC Appliance, about various features that are now available on new ovens, including the use of cooking probes. Other guests included Shlomo Blashka, representing Royal Wines, along with a wine tasting segment, and Shifra Klein from Joy of Kosher Magazine who gave a rundown on making latkes and the best pots for frying. During the show, Naomi gave a cooking demonstration with a turkey breast roast donated by Empire Foods

and a silver tip roast donated by Kol Foods. Other co-sponsors of the show included Wolf & Subzero Appliances, The Jewish Home, Gourmet Glatt, Jerusalem Forest, Studio Inna, Fruit Platter & More, and Breezy’s.

600 People Attend HALB’s Annual Melava Malka This year’s Melava Malka, held in the Long Beach facility, had special significance since last year’s event was canceled due to the storm and was not able to be rescheduled. The Melava

Malka is one of the main events of the lower school year, and students and parents enjoyed the wonderful food, music, dancing and games.

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Community Ezra Mechina Class Celebrates with Their New Siddurim

Rav Elimelech Resnick R”M in Mir Yerushalayim speaking at Mesivta Chaim Shlomo

tivated that they have already completed the whole alef-bais in both block and script letters. This has earned the students a brand new “Chinuch Siddur” that they are now using to grow in their understanding and development of tefilah. The whole school, administration, faculty and fellow students join in wishing them hatzlacha as they continue to expand their knowledge and love of Torah.

From left, Rav Binyomin Carlebach and Rav Eliezer Yehuda Finkel of Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim with Rav Yaakov Bender, Rosh Hayeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah

Incredible Kiruv in Flatbush On Friday night, close to 100 Jews of all backgrounds gathered together in Brooklyn Jewish Xperience (BJX) Kiruv and Chizuk Center for an exhilarating Carlebach davening led by their Rav, Rabbi Fingerer. The usual practice at BJX is to dance during Kabbalas Shabbos but since there was simply no room, everyone swayed together as powerful spiritual reverberations cascaded through BJX. It was beautiful to see diverse types of Jews united in song and prayer. Rabbi Fingerer inspired the packed shul sharing Torah from Rav Shimon Shkop and the Chasam Sofer. As he spoke, it felt like everyone was melting into one harmonious whole. BJX was full to capacity for tefillos on Shabbos morning. The kedushah and incredible energy continued when a talmid of Rab-

bi Fingerer made both a kiddush for the birth of his daughter and a siyum upon completing Mesechta Brachos. The baal simcha told everyone how appreciative he is to Rabbi Fingerer and his family for being so instrumental in his growth in Yiddishkeit and how much BJX contributes to his family’s ruchniyus. It was awe-inspiring for everyone to witness the baal simcha choked up with emotion, slowly and deliberately reciting the hadran. Motzai Shabbos, BJX again filled to capacity with frum people from the community who attended the third week in a series of seminars on emunah and hashkafah. While most of the people were from Flatbush, others came from Boro Park. There were also participants from as far as Lakewood and Woodmere. It was a huge kiddush

Hashem seeing Chasto Konstantin (now sidish, Yeshivish and Yaakov) and Stephanie Modern Orthodox (now Sara), his fiancé, people gathered with a who also received her singular goal in mind: Hebrew name. BJX to strengthen their emumentors/communinah and learn how to ty leaders Ralph and address serious quesDovid Herzka, Shitions. mon Lefkowitz, Yanky Sunday was the Koschitzky, Ephraim climax at BJX. A BJX Nierenberg, Dr. Avi Yonoson student, a young man Rav Fingerer and Konstantin (now Yaakov) Waldman, Schenker and many in his 20’s, had his bris. Rabbi Yehoshua Krohn, joined by stu- others participated in this tremendous dents, family and friends, marched this celebration. young man into the precious mitzvah BJX is located at 2915 Avenue K. For with song and cheer. Reb Moshe Caller, BJX Chairman, was honored to recite more information or to have the zechus the bracha and Rabbi Fingerer gave the of sponsoring a program, please visit name. The BJX family presented gifts

Bnos Malka Staff Works Overtime at the BJE Conference Each year, the BJE hosts the Jewish Education Project’s day of learning for teachers. Bnos Malka Academy’s teachers take full advantage of the excellent presentations. The JEP program provided opportunities for teachers to choose from among many topics, and attend workshops that highlight specific areas of education such as Common Core, how to motivate students, and how to help students retain information. All the teachers were energized to take part

in these valuable sessions with fellow educators from all over the tri-state area. Seasoned teacher Mrs. Chana Bregman found the workshops to be very interesting and well-presented. In particular, she remarked about Dr. Pelcovitzs’ discussion on spirituality including prayer in the classroom and the importance of parent involvement in a child’s education and the effects of technology on our children. “There were definitely many practical techniques and general approaches I

plan to implement right away.” After the morning session, Rabbi Weichselbaum, BMA principal, along with assistant principals, Mrs. Rivky Babad and Mrs. Shuly Zuckerman, conducted a Bnos Malka private session with their staff. Rabbi Weicshelbaum explained the importance of ongoing teacher development, “It is very important for all schools to encourage their teachers to further hone their skills. At Bnos Malka, with our educational philosophy based

on ‘Understanding by Design,’ these sessions are critically important.” Mrs. Babad went further to say, “Over the past few years, we have worked diligently to master and apply the first two stages of UbD and are currently working on implementing stage three. I am very proud of the high level of dedication the teachers have, and their commitment to bringing the best methodologies available, to our students.”

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Five Towns Kids Celebrate Bnei Mitzvah with Israeli Kids at Kfar Yeladim David Good news! These days, bnei mitzvah are looking to place emphasis on the mitzvah aspect of their celebration. To that end, more and more Five Towns children are doing creative bnei mitzvah projects to benefit disadvantaged children at Kfar Yeladim, Ramat Shlomo, Yerushalayim, funneling their energy, time and hard-earned bnei mitzvah money, back into what really counts. Those traveling to Israel with their families get the added bonus of directly experiencing the joy of giving to Israel’s most vulnerable kids at their home in Kfar Yeladim. This Motzei Shabbos, November 23, a Five Towns gathering will be held for Kfar Yeladim at the home of Tamara and Meyer Steinman, 257 Washington Avenue, Cedarhurst 7:30 PM with light refreshments and a kumzits lead by Eli Beer. Kfar Yeladim is a home-away-fromhome for Israel’s disadvantaged children—orphans, victims of abuse and neglect. With its unique blend of loving family environment coupled with the

latest in professional therapeutic treatments, these kids are given a warm home with a bright future. Kfar Yeladim services 250 children in and around Jerusalem through 3 programs: a residential facility, second home program, and day care centers.

was deeply moved by the kids’ plight, and so touched by how happy they were to see him. As he left, he promised his mom, Yehoshua Weingar“Mom, you’re ten: Man on a Mission gonna see, I’m Yehoshua Weingarten, digoing to do rector of KYD, is a 4th genersomething for Shana Naumberg celebrated her bat mitzvah at KYD with her parents, Avi and Rebecca of Lawrence ation Jerusalemite caring for these kids!” children in need. During the extends to its management as well. In To his mind, typhus plague at the turn of the century, Yehoshua’s words, “Kfar Yeladim func- what the kids really needed were comYehoshua’s great-grandfather gathered tions with integrity and transparency puters. Friends, relatives, teachers—no children who were orphaned of their and respects each and every person who one escaped Adam’s determined camparents, took them off the streets of the comes through its paign “to do someOld City, taking them under his wing doors.” thing for those kids.” and into his family. Thus, the tradition S i n g l e - h a n d e d l y, began…and continues. Today, Kfar Adopt a KYD Adam raised funds Yeladim prides itself on its unique comFamilies who get for seven computbination of warm home and its profes- involved with KYD ers—for seven KYD sional, therapeutic approach to rehabil- are so moved by what centers across Jeruitating children. That professionalism they see that they salem! But the story continue to care for does not end there. Kfar Yeladim’s kids While campaignthrough other proing, Adam had apgrams such as Adoptproached a neighbor a-KYD (Acronym for of his relatives in the Kfar Yeladim David), Five Towns. Curious Shoshana Reichman, daughter of Rabbi a monthly sponsorabout the place that Dr. Eddie and Sarah of Woodmere, ship where families set a seven-year-old initiated a Bat Mitzvah project for KYD can choose to correfrom Manhattan on spond, visit and send presents to their fire, this neighbor came knocking on adopted KYD in Israel. Kfar Yeladim’s door in Jerusalem the next Sukkot while visiting with his own KID Power: Adam, 7-year-old family. Deeply moved, he also vowed social entrepreneur to do something for those kids…and Children relate in a deep way to he donated and continues to donate helping other children. There is no bet- amounts that exceed Adam’s beautiful ter way to demonstrate this than through 7-year-old imagination. a story. Take note of the Five Towns One good deed leads to another. twist at the very end! 7-year-old Adam* from Manhattan To find out how you can help, contact was going through a tough time in his Yehoshua life. His wise mom had a wonderful Weingarten, director of KYD, will be in idea. “Let’s get on the internet and find NY between Nov. 18th and Nov. 26th. a home in Israel that helps kids in diffi- Please email to speak to him personally cult situations. When we go to Israel for or come on Saturday night, November Sukkot, we will go and visit them and 23 to the home of Tamara and Meyer cheer them up. We will bring them spe- Steinman at 7:30 PM. cial gifts and we’ll make them so happy!” Adam thought it was a wonderful Looking for a memorable and meanidea and off they went to the computer. ingful event? Celebrate on our rooftop. After typing in “disadvantaged chil- At KYD, the magic is on us. dren in Jerusalem,” Google sent them straight to Kfar Yeladim David. On Chol Hamoed Sukkot, Adam and his mom entered Kfar Yeladim and they were amazed by what they found. Adam

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Annual Yad Eliezer Auction, Gift and Bake Sale this Weekend The days may be getting shorter and the weather colder but our “to do” lists always seem to be getting longer. Just when all the carpools are organized, homework systems developed, and winter clothes purchased…here comes Chanukah. That means presents for the

spouse, kids, grandchildren, aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, teachers, friends: just to name a few. You begin to dream about one exclusive place that can provide you with the perfect gift for everyone, imagining them beautifully wrapped and ready to go. Since you’re

dreaming you add the idea of somehow giving some of this money to tzedakah to alleviate all this shopping guilt. Well we’re here to announce that your dreams have come true; this one stop fantasy is a reality. Back by popular demand is the Annual Yad Eliezer Auc-

tion, Gift and Bake sale. Anyone who has ever attended this event can attest to the fact of the assortment of beautiful cakes and elegant auction. This year there will be gifts for purchasing made to match every budget. Taking place in the home of David and Rachel Lyons at 405 Barrett Road in Lawrence, you will find a room filled with gifts specially selected for any individual, male or female, through any age. Ranging from toys, household items, jewelry, accessories, and gadgets, all are conveniently and neatly displayed by category; this shopping experience can’t get any easier. The excitement permeates the atmosphere, with knowledgeable salespeople always available to assist, volunteers that have expertly wrapped, and buyers who have spent months getting you the best deal. This is not an opportunity to turn down. This year the event will be taking place over two days, Sunday, November 24th, from 12:00 to 6:00 pm, and Monday, November 25th from 11:00-7:00 pm to accommodate any busy schedule. No one leaves empty-handed or disappointed. The best part of this extravaganza is that all proceeds from the event go directly to Yad Eliezer for Babies. While you will be delighting your family members and friends, you are also bringing untold happiness to poor families in Israel who cannot afford to feed their babies. Any present you give is a gift that you will also be giving thousands of miles away. Feel good that you are bringing in Chanukah by participating in a great mitzvah. Why not skip the lines, the endless search for parking, the sales hunting, and the mounting frustration and treat yourself to an amazing, easy and enjoyable shopping experience?

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Around the Community Bnot Yaakov of Great Neck “Experiences” Parshat Hashavuah Bnot Yaakov of Great Neck pursues experiential learning – even in Parshat HaShavuah! When Parshat Chaya Sarah came along, the talmidot didn’t just “learn” about Sarah Imenu’s challah with a special bracha, they all made challah themselves with their morot and “experienced” the bracha of challah in at least some of the same way that Sarah Imenu might have! Each morah made dough for her class and spoke about the chashivut of this special mitzvah that belongs especially to women. Girls said Tehillim as they kneaded their dough and learned that it was a special time to say tefillot for those in need of a refuah shelema and anything else that one needed. Bnot Yaakov students learned that challah making wasn’t simply about bread baking, but rather something far more spiritual and important. When Parshat Vayetze came along a few weeks later, Bnot Yaakov seized

the opportunity to create a school-wide “mock chatuna” where all students were assigned parts for our “wedding” of Yaakov, Leah and Rachel. We had a staff of waiters and caterers, some photographers, many musicians and a host of kallot and even a chattan or two! All students arrived at the “wedding hall” and

found a sparkly white aisle for our wedding procession, a grand faux-chicken platter supreme created from pineapple and other assorted fruits, and many other

“treats” to enjoy in the wedding seuda to follow. The “ceremony” entailed all kallot and chattanim standing under our chuppa and being quizzed on the twelve shvatim, which shevet came from which “Imma” and other pivotal Parshat Vayetze questions. Everyone enjoyed music and dancing following the chuppa “quiz” time and the waiters served their classes an assortment of “goodies” including the cut of fruit “chicken” that magically “transformed” into a creamy ambrosia! Aside from academic theme oriented activities, Bnot Yaakov also focuses on health and well-being and always attempts to have fruit and vegetable dishes as their preferred “treat.” In conjunction with our regular Parshat Hashavuah Parsha Pro Quizzes that all students take weekly, Bnot Yaakov also stresses real-time “experiences” with Parshat Hashavuah. Our girls don’t just memorize their Parsha points, they “experience” them as well!


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Bungy Bouncer, playing basketball and archery and having a blast at an outdoor playground in the Fun Barn which hosted a Moon Bounce, ping pong and a two floor play zone. In addition to having fun and bonding with old friends and making new friends, the students participated in two amazing, powerful learning sessions on the importance of telling

the truth and the importance of how we use our language. Thank you to Rabbi Sadigh, Rabbi Wexler, Mr. Eisenkraft, Mrs. Harold, Morah Charna, Mrs. Weinreb, and Rabbi Morgenstern for all their hard work and preparation for this incredible experience. A special thank you to Rabbi Merrill for coordinating an amaz-

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Sixth graders at HANC’s Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School had an amazing time on the annual sixth grade retreat! The students spent two wonderful days of bonding, relaxing, learning and fun at Rocking Horse Ranch. The students spent the days swimming, boating, jumping on a Euro

ing retreat and to the PTA for their financial support and assistance which help make this event possible.

Rabbi Ephraim Buchwald to be Scholar in Residence in Young Israel of Kew Garden Hills The Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills is pleased to announce that Rabbi Ephraim Buchwald, will be Scholar-in-Residence at the shul on Friday, November 29 and Shabbos Chanukah-Mevorchim, November 30, 2012. Rabbi Buchwald will speak at the Friday night oneg about “Remaining Moral in an Increasingly Immoral Environment,” deliver the Shabbos sermon and at Seudah Shelishis on “Living Like a Hellenist, etc. The Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills was founded in 1951 by a group of 15 young families. Led by Rabbi Fabian Schonfeld from its inception until 2011, its Morah d’Asra is Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld, who served as assistant rabbi for many years. Rabbi Ephraim Buchwald is one of the leaders in the movement of Jewish return in America today. He has pioneered and developed many of the most dramatic and effective outreach programs in this country. Ordained at Yeshiva University, where he was a student of Rabbi Dr. J. B. Soloveitchik, Rabbi Buchwald served from 1973 for 15 years as the Director of Education at Lincoln Square Synagogue in New York, which, during his tenure, became one of the largest and most successful centers for adult Jew-

ish education programs in America. He also established and coordinated Lincoln Square’s celebrated outreach program. Since 1975, Rabbi Buchwald has led the now-renowned “Beginners Service,” a special Shabbat service for people with little or no synagogue experience. In July of 1987, Rabbi Buchwald founded the National Jewish Outreach Program that was renamed NJOP in October of 2012. NJOP sponsors the acclaimed Shabbat Across America/Canada and Read Hebrew America/Canada campaigns, establishes Beginners Services and offers the Turn Friday Night Into Shabbat, Passover Across America and Sukkot Across America programs, as well as free “Crash Courses” in Hebrew reading, basic Judaism and Jewish history. These programs are now hosted by more than 4,821* locations across North America, and in 40* countries worldwide. NJOP also has an extensive presence on the web. NJOP’s “Jewish Tweets” was the first Jewish presence on Twitter, and has become Twitter’s most highly-followed Jewish newswire, generating more than 200,000 impressions daily. “Jewish Treats,” NJOP’s enormously popular email, offers “Juicy bits of Judaism, daily,” on diverse Jewish topics. Through these much admired programs and the innovative Jewish conscious-

ness-raising advertising campaigns, NJOP has successfully reached more than 1,381,500 (as of 1/20/13) North American Jews and engaged them in Jewish life. In May 2001, Rabbi Buchwald was awarded an Honorary Doctorate of Humane Letters by Yeshiva University in recognition of his pioneering outreach work. He has been included, on numerous occasions, in the Forward 50, a list of America’s 50 most influential Jews and Newsweek’s list of the top 50 Rabbis in America. Rabbi Buchwald was Founding President of the Association for Jewish Outreach Professionals (AJOP). He lectures

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across the country and overseas, and leads experiential programs in cities throughout the world. He and his wife, Aidel, reside in New York City, and are the proud parents of four children and a growing number of grandchildren. We gratefully appreciate and acknowledge the anonymous sponsors who made this event possible. The Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills is located at 150-07 70 Road in Kew Gardens Hills. The Oneg will take place Friday night at 7:30PM. Shacharis on Shabbos morning will be at 9:00AM and Mincha Shabbos afternoon will be at 4:00PM. All members of the community are invited to participate in this program.

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Rambam Honors A Decorated American Hero

In Kabul, Afghanistan, he exhibited courage under fire. When he came to Lawrence, NY, he was teary eyed. Maj. David Chartier, the commanding officer of the combat outpost Bala Hissar in Afghanistan, was the keynote speaker at Rambam Mesivta’s Annual Veter-

ans Day Assembly. Since its inception in 1992, Rambam has paid tribute to American forces fighting abroad. In some cases the servicemen were those who liberated concentration camps, and at other times, those that served in Korea and Vietnam. More recently, Ram-

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bam paid recognition to our fighting forces in Afghanistan. According to Rosh Mesivta Rabbi Zev Friedman, “It is our responsibility to express our hakarat hatov—gratitude and deep appreciation—to the brave men and women who risk their lives in order to ensure our safety and our ability to live freely as Torah Jews in the United States.” As a concrete expression of appreciation, the students at Rambam sent packages containing hundreds of pounds of necessities to those fighting overseas. Packages include items that are specially requested by the battalion in addition to standard items such as snacks and toiletries. Rabbi Yotav Eliach, Rambam’s principal, said, “These packages contain more than the necessities that the soldiers asked for; it contains the intangible and extremely important message that we back at home appreciate the sacrifices they are making and stand behind them.” Major Chartier’s unit in Afghanistan was the beneficiary of these items last year. After finishing his tour of duty in Afghanistan, he moved back to the States and works in the Pentagon. He came to Rambam to share his experiences and speak about the challenges that face our soldiers every day. He also conducted a fascinating question-and-answer period with the entire school. Soon thereafter, students Porat Becker and Sam Cohen recited the Hebrew and English version of the prayer composed by the Orthodox Union for American soldiers. Mr. Hillel Goldman, Rambam’s assistant principal, commented, “The sincere appreciation and respect that the

boys exhibited speaks volumes about their middos and sensitivity towards all people. It reflects the values that they learn at home which are also being reinforced here at Rambam.” Rabbi Friedman then presented the major with a beautiful plaque expressing the appreciation of the Rambam community for all that he has done. Senior soloist Tani Martin sang a rousing National Anthem in a tribute to the major and his wife who joined the ceremony. At the conclusion of the assembly, Major Chartier presented Rambam Meisvta with an American flag and a plaque that reads as follows: “So that all shall know, this flag was flown in the face of the enemy, illuminating the dark by the light of justice. It bears witness to the counterinsurgency operations conducted by the United States Army soldiers, commanded by your friend, Major David Chartier, against terrorist forces threatening the freedom of the United States of America and the world… Flown in honor of my friends at Rambam Mesivta High school on September 11, 2012 at combat outpost Bala Hissar, Kabul, Afghanistan Your support meant the world to my men and me: thank you so very much Dave David Chartier Maj., infantry, United States Army Cmdr., Combat Outpost Bala Hissar, Kabul, Afghanistan



Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv: Championing the Uniqueness of Every Individual for Almost Five Decades By Leah Goldman the watchful and nurturing attention of their rebbeim, students undergo remarkable transformations. With a finger on the pulse of the Jewish community and forever striving to meet the changing needs of young men today, the Tal Techiya program was established a few years ago specifically tailored to young men enrolled in full time university programs or working full time as well as those seeking a small personal beis medrash atmosphere. Under the direction of the hanhalah and Rabbi Donnie Drandoff, the Tal Techiya program is modeled upon the many other successful Sh’or Yoshuv programs. The atmosphere is extremely welcoming, inviting, warm, and joyous— built on the formation of a personal rebbi-talmid relationship. Customized to the individual schedule of every student, the length of learning time can range from half an hour, two hours, or to whatever the student desires. Along with individual attention by the ten mentors and tutors involved in the program, breakfast and refreshments are offered. Students spend Shabbosos together, have retreats, go on trips, have kumsitzes, and receive visits from leading Torah personalities. “The program is immensely successful and continues to grow all the time,” says Rabbi Avrohom Halpern. “We are seeing that when a young man feels attached to a rebbi and part of a yeshiva, he wants to make limud haTorah a part of his day and of his life.” Addressing yet another community need, Sh’or Yoshuv continues to lead many outreach initiatives. Within the Yeshiva, the Introductory program, under Rabbi Eli Kutner, currently has more than 25 students who are getting their first taste of studying in a yeshiva setting and their first exposure to living authentic Torah Judaism. The program aims to take participants with no formal Jewish education and assist them in their quest to connect with their heritage on a deep and meaningful level. A number of the participants from last year have already “graduated” into other Beis Medrash programs in Sh’or Yoshuv. Outside of the Yeshiva, many kollel members and students are heavily involved in kiruv projects throughout the tri-state area as well as other kiruv organizations. Sh’or Yoshuv hosts between 15-20 shabbatonim for college students, many of whom either decide to join the Introductory program or pursue Jewish studies in Israel.

In addition, a plethora of programs are offered to the community through the Community Learning Center, including Yomei Iyun, N’shei shiurim, etc. More than 150 classes are offered throughout the week and on Shabbos for members of the community from early morning until late at night. For example, in the predawn hours of the morning, the sounds of Torah learning resonate loud and strong throughout the beis medrash as the members of the kollel boker come to Sh’or Yoshuv to enjoy the early morning learning programs and to infuse their day with Torah. In the evenings, the alumni chaburah offers past students an opportunity to continue their learning and keep in touch with each other. However, the community programs don’t end there. In our fast-paced world where parents spend long and demanding hours out of the house making a living, psychologists decry the breakdown in family relationships. Sh’or Yoshuv offers a salve for this modern malady. Every Motzaei Shabbos the beis medrash comes alive with the rich sounds of fathers and sons engaged in Torah learning. Under the guidance of Rabbi Azi Bodner, the hugely successful Avos U’Bonim program caters to an astounding 200 participants. Following the father-son learning time, the fathers enjoy a stimulating shiur by the rosh yeshiva while the sons enjoy pizza and some ball playing time in the gym. Beyond the walls of the Yeshiva, some of the rebbeim and students bring Sh’or Yoshuv’s warmth and unbridled enthusiasm for Torah learning to Camp Magen Avrohom each summer. That tiny taste of recognizing each individual’s potential travels with the campers back to their homes and energizes them 

to grow more and achieve more as they return to school. Throughout the year, Sh’or Yoshuv stands as a Torah center and beacon of inspiration to the surrounding Five Towns/Far Rockaway community. Now is the time for the community to show its support to Sh’or Yoshuv. Sh’or Yoshuv invites the community to celebrate almost five decades of Torah education and community service at the 47th Annual Dinner, to be held on Saturday evening, December 14, at the Sands of Atlantic Beach. The encouragement and support of the community enables Sh’or Yoshuv to continue its vital work within the community. It will enable the staff to touch the lives of many more young people and families. This year, Sh’or Yoshuv is paying tribute to three alumni who exemplify the values of commitment to Torah learning and community involvement that Sh’or Yoshuv strives to inculcate within its students. Rabbi and Mrs. Zev Freundlich will receive the Rabbi Shlomo Freifeld Memorial Award. Rabbi Freundlich has adopted Sh’or Yoshuv’s distinct educational philosophy in his own Yeshiva, Mesivta Shaarei Arazim, in Monsey, NY; Marc and Sharon Friedman will receive the Kesser Shem Tov Award; and Pesach and Matty Sod will receive the Community Service Award. Sh’or Yoshuv looks forward to an outpouring of support from the community. The deadline for ads is December 5, 2013. For more information, please call Sh’or Yoshuv at 516- 239-9002. Responses can be made by visiting www., e-mailed to admin@ or faxed to 516-2399003.



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For almost five decades, Yeshivas Sh’or Yoshuv has remained true to its founding mission – to champion the uniqueness of every individual with warmth and genuine care as well as serve as a springboard for personal growth and scholarship. Offering a wide range of classes, programs and services to every segment of the Jewish community and for every age group, it has literally shaped entire communities and transformed the demographic landscape of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns. With over 250 students, 70 kollel members, and 250 chavrusa partners, the hallways, batei medrash, and classrooms pulsate with activity on any given day in Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv. Students from across the spectrum of Jewish life and from communities around the globe find a commonality in Sh’or Yoshuv as they learn to see the radiance and grandeur of their own potential. In an environment that encourages each student to grow at his own pace and embrace his uniqueness, the differences between the students are not only respected but celebrated. A number of students arrived from Belarus this year without family, barely able to speak English, and completely unfamiliar with the culture. Warmly welcomed into the Yeshiva, they quickly integrated and are growing beautifully both scholastically and spiritually. With a vision to truly champion the uniqueness of each and every individual and employ that uniqueness in the service of Hashem, Rabbi Shlomo Freifeld, zt’l, opened the doors of Sh’or Yoshuv nearly five decades ago. The Yeshiva began with a handful of students and Reb Shlomo’s revolutionary educational philosophy. Now more than 45 years later, Sh’or Yoshuv has literally transformed the demographic landscape of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns. Under the helm of the rosh hayeshiva, Rabbi Naftali Jaeger, and the menahel, Rabbi Avrohom Halpern, Sh’or Yoshuv has become a springboard for personal growth, scholarship, and Jewish commitment for thousands of Jews. The dedicated staff, many of whom were students of Reb Shlomo, continues his legacy of cultivating a deep and meaningful relationship with each and every student. The rebbeim have mastered the skill of discovering the exact key needed to unlock souls in order to recognize the joy and fulfillment in a lifelong commitment to Judaism. Under

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Yeshiva Darchei Torah preschool boys are getting ready for Chanuka

Kulanu Academy Students Assist Local Families in Need This Thanksgiving Kulanu Academy students have organized a holiday food drive to help families in need. Our students are collecting canned or non-perishable kosher food items and will distribute collected items to local food pantries. The students developed a marketing strategy, created a poster and a slogan: “We feed people in need.”

The collection bin was handmade by the students with a Thanksgiving motif. The bin is located in the main lobby of the Kulanu Center for Special Services, 620 Central Avenue in Cedarhurst. The Holiday Food Drive continues until Monday, November 25th. For more information, contact Janis Wolfson at 516569-3083 Ext. 330.

Mrs. Blimie Berkowitz to Head Camp Keshet this Summer Bnos Malka Academy and Camp Keshet announce that Mrs. Blimie Berkowitz will be joining their staff as camp director for summer 2014. The camp in its second year offers a quality camping experience to the girls of Queens at an affordable price. Mrs. Berkowitz, a former teacher at Bnos Malka Academy, has many years of camping experience and is currently serving the children of Queens as a school psychologist. David Berger, the president of BMA, was understandably excited, “Mrs. Berkowitz is extremely talented and has a passion to work with children. She is hand-picking her staff and has already developed a dynamic summer program.” Mrs. Berkowitz explained that her goal will be to maintain the warm, nurturing at-

mosphere that is the hallmark of Bnos Malka – giving each girl the opportunity to shine. “Most camps have similar programing. First and foremost, though, is the need to have a superior learn to swim program with qualified, certified lifeguards. I have also planned a vast array of unique and innovative events, such as the first ever, Camp Keshet Production.” The camp, in addition to exciting workshops in drama, music, dance, art, and much more, will implement a well-developed sports program with exciting leagues. “We will emphasize the idea of empowering each girl, to build her confidence with Torah values and good middos all while developing friendships and having a great summer.”

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YHT Students Adopt an IDF Soldier The children at Yeshiva Har Torah not only learn about chesed, they put their learning into practice! Throughout the year there are many opportunities for the children to experience “giving to others.” Last week, a young soldier who made aliyah visited our kindergarten class. The children have “adopted” him and will be in touch during this school year. He is the brother of one of our first grade teachers, Mrs. Lowy. David was in America on leave and took time to come to visit the children. They proudly stood when he arrived and sang Hatikvah. He was welcomed warmly and offered food and drinks, just as Avraham Aveinu did when he greeted

the malachim. The children baked and decorated a special cake in David’s honor. Our children had the opportunity to learn about what David does in the army, how he protects the people of Israel, where he sleeps, what he eats and what his training is like. They asked excellent questions and listened intently to David’s answers. The children promised to write to David this year and will use some of their tzedakah money to send all the soldiers in David’s unit toothbrushes, soap, socks ... We are always happy to learn and always happy to fulfill the mitzvot of hachnasat orchim and tzedakah. We are always learning and growing!!



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This past Sunday, the Mesivta Football League (MFL) kicked off the season opener of their second season. This year, in addition to the four pioneering yeshivos from last year’s season (Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, Yeshiva Sha’arei Torah, DRS High School and Yeshiva Darchei Eretz) the League has added two more local yeshivas to their roster of participating schools, Rambam and HANC, bringing the number of participating schools to six. The MFL is the brainchild of Mr. Richard Altabe, General Studies Principal at Yeshivat Sha’arei Torah, and Rabbi Yossi Bennett, Assistant Menahel/ Assistant Principal at MAY, who serve as administrators of the League.

“The fact that all schools are returning for another season bears testimony to the professional and efficient manner in which the League was managed last year,” commented Rabbi Bennett, “The addition of the two new schools demonstrates that the League has already gained popularity in the high school athletic arena.” Flag football has become an increasingly popular sport, specifically among yeshivos. In Eretz Yisrael, the AFI Football League played at Kraft Stadium is widely popular, and draws out over 60 teams from a wide variety of yeshivos and other post-high school institutions in two separate divisions. The majority of post-high school yeshivos, which many

local graduates attend, field teams in the Kraft League. The goal of this groundbreaking program is to provide a healthy, kosher outlet for high school boys, while maintaining the competitiveness, intensity and professionalism of an official league. The League is being established with a Torah hashkafa about sports. With that being the case, it goes without saying that proper sportsmanship and menchlechkeit is a top priority. Head coverings must be worn during games and no female fans are permitted at the games to ensure the focus on a healthy athletic outlet. The League has brought back Eliezer “Zezy” Fuld, Youth Director of the White Shul and Senior Division Head at Sim-

cha Day Camp, to serve once again as the League’s commissioner. Fields have been leased for the length of the season at the Aviator Sports and Events Center at Floyd Bennett Field in Brooklyn and at the Lawrence High School. “I am looking forward to an exciting, competitive and enjoyable season,” commented Mr. Fuld. “We’ve rented out excellent fields, hired professional referees, purchased new equipment and, with the addition of the two new schools, expect a tremendous season up ahead.” For more information about the MFL, contact the League at or via their website,

Margaret Tietz Hosts Community Event with Congresswoman Grace Meng On November 6, 2013, residents Rabbi Schonfeld shared the history of from throughout Queens and the Five the Tietz Department Store in Berlin Towns flocked to Margaret Tietz Nursing and Rehabilitation Center to hear Congresswoman Grace Meng share her impressions from her recent congressional trip to Israel. The congressYoel Lichstein, Margaret Tietz Executive Director, addressing the crowd woman serves New York’s 6th District, one of the most and reflected on the significance of the diverse in the U.S. In attendance were distinguished Tietz name, the recent many prominent rabbis, board mem- marking of Kristallnacht, and our victory bers, community leaders and partners. over the Nazis. Congresswoman Grace Margaret Tietz Executive Director Yoel Meng was then introduced by Michael Lichstein opened the program with a S. Fassler, President and CEO of Cenwarm welcome and was followed by terLight Health System. The congressRabbi Fabian Schonfeld, Rabbi Emer- woman mesmerized the crowd with her itus of Young Israel Kew Gardens Hill. vivid personal reflections and accounts

of visiting Yad Vashem, meeting the Israeli prime minister, and meeting President Shimon Peres. She portrayed her strong emotions upon seeing Israel’s close proximity to Syria and watching young Israeli children learn to hide in a fortified playground in Congresswoman Grace Meng delivering her remarks Sderot as they live with the ongoing terror of misSubacute and Long-Term Care in an upsile attacks. She left Israel with scale and luxurious ambiance. The Tietz a renewed appreciated for this Center, a member of CenterLight Health tiny beleaguered country and a fortified System, offers the ideal environment for resolve to strengthen the U.S./Israel re- recovery following surgery or a debilitalationship. Following her speech, she tive illness and specializes in quick reopened the floor to questions and an- covery for Orthopedic conditions such swers from her constituents. as Hip/Knee replacements and fractures. Margaret Tietz Nursing and RehaFor more information, call Stephanie bilitation Center, centrally located in Zim, Director of Admissions, at (718) the heart of Queens, is a 200-bed skilled 298-7800 ext. 2264. nursing facility featuring state-of-the-art

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At MAY, Graduation is Just the Beginning Mesivta Ateres Yaakov held their annual Israel Yeshiva and College Information Night last Tuesday evening. Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, Menahel, introduced the program which included PowerPoint presentations from Rabbi Elysha Sandler, the Mesivta’s senior Israel Guidance Advisor ,and Rabbi Yossi Bennett, Assistant Menahel/Assistant Principal and College Advisor, as well as presentations from Brooklyn College, Queens College, Lander College and Yeshiva College.

Rabbi Sandler described how the yeshiva helps each talmid to choose the yeshiva in Eretz Yisrael that best suits his particular needs, abilities and goals. Rabbi Sandler explained that the process builds on the close relationships forged between each rebbe and his talmid and is further refined by multiple meetings with each talmid and his parents. He described the diversity of the various yeshivos in Eretz Yisrael, from the level of learning and warmth of the rabbeim,

down to the dorm life and facilities. He mentioned that, currently, the Mesivta has talmidim learning in more than 30 shiurim in over 20 different yeshivos in Eretz Yisrael, an extension of MAY’s continual efforts to be mechanech each talmid k’darko. Rabbi Bennett concisely presented the college application process, including preparing for the SAT/ACT exam, filling out applications, essay writing and obtaining letters of recommendation. He noted the care, concern and extensive, expert guidance that MAY provides at this pivotal time in a talmid’s life. He reiterated the importance of devoting time to learning before embarking on a college career and the importance of retaining an anchor in a yeshiva throughout college. He closed by addressing a number of frequently asked questions about the process. Rabbi Bennett noted, “The strong

turnout tonight demonstrates that our parent body understands how important their involvement is to the success of their sons’ chinuch, and that mesivta is just the beginning of the path to their sons becoming well-educated, responsible b’nei Torah.” The assembled crowd then viewed presentations from the invited colleges, each one pitching their school and its benefits, and a presentation on financial aid from Ira Rosenfeld, a Mesivta parent who is a financial aid counselor in a local university. Rabbi Sam Rudansky, J.D., General Studies Principal, closed the evening with his “Myths about Twelfth Grade” speech, informing parents of the extensive and rigorous program the yeshiva provides for its seniors and emphasizing the importance of seniors maximizing their time during their last year of high school.


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Around the Community Home Energy Assistance Program (HEAP) Accepting Applications With winter around the corner, Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder announced the application for Home Energy Assistance Program (HEAP), a federally-funded program designed to make heat affordable for all New Yorkers is now available. For homeowners facing a home heating crisis, HEAP also provides emergency benefits. “In these challenging economic times, we need to ensure our families have the essential utility services they need to keep their family warm this winter,” said Assemblyman Goldfeder. “No family should have to choose between heating their home and putting food on the table.” Eligibility for HEAP benefits are based on income, the primary fuel source – such as oil, gas, propane or kerosene – and number of household members who are under the age of 6 or over the age of 60. HEAP benefits also include repairing or replacing furnaces, boilers, and any other heating equipment for primary residences. Additionally, eligible homeowners can apply for emergency benefits if they’re in danger of running

out of heating fuel or at risk of having their utility services turned off. “I strongly encourage eligible residents of southern Queens and Rockaway to apply for HEAP benefits if they are in need or at risk of having their heat shut off completely,” said Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder. “It is absolutely essential that we do everything we can to continue to assist our struggling families.” For information regarding HEAP benefits in New York City, dial the toll-free number at 1-800-692-0557. You can also find more information regarding the benefits by going to To learn more about HEAP, you can contact the New York State Office of Temporary and Disability Assistance by calling the tollfree number at 1-800-342-3009, or you can visit the OTDA website at programs/heap. You can also review your eligibility by visiting In addition to those resources, you can contact Assemblyman Goldfeder’s Office for any assistance by calling 718-945-9550 or emailing

HANC High School Hosts the Long Island Communal Girls’ Israel Night By Bassy Kimelfeld On Wednesday evening, November 6th, the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County High School hosted the Long Island Communal Girls’ Israel Night. After forgoing our hosting duties last year for the convenience of our fellow yeshivot during the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, we opened our doors and warmly welcomed representatives from over twenty seminaries who spoke to students from SKA, HAFTR, HANC, Shalhevet, and NSHA. The seminaries that attended ranged from the more intense level learning that MMY boasts to

the more chesed-oriented involvement that AMIT provides. The presentations helped students and parents learn more about various seminaries, ensuring that each student receives the experience of her lifetime overseas. Thank you to HANC’s Director of Israel Guidance, Rabbi Avraham Ismach, and to Mrs. Linda Nathan, the event turned out to be a huge success. HANC was happy to play a major role in assisting students and parents in making this life altering-decision.


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Rabbi Yosef Mendelevich Inspires Students at Yeshiva Ketana Zichron Chaim Ubinah of Queens Last Thursday, the seventh and eighth graders of Yeshiva Ketana Zichron Chaim Ubinah of Queens were held spellbound by Rabbi Yosef Mendelevich, the refusenik who kept Shabbos and kashrus while he was in the Soviet prisons and gulag from 1970-1981. The audience was especially moved when

Rabbi Mendelevich described how he was zocheh to realize that “Mitzvah Goreret Mitzvah” when his great mesiras nefesh in observing Shabbos led to his ability to learn Torah, to wear tzitzit and to more easily observe Shabbos under the very noses of the Soviet guards. Additionally, the sixth graders of Ye-

shiva Ketana Zichron Chaim Ubinah of Queens displayed their ingenuity at the yeshiva’s Egypt Fair last week. Among other delightful creations was the sistrum, an ancient Egypt musical instrument built out of a sixth grader’s physician assistant father’s cast materials.

Gesher Continues to Impress The Gesher Early Childhood Center has earned its exceptional reputation in many ways. First and foremost, Gesher is known for providing a high quality preschool curriculum. However, there is so much more that Gesher is known for. Parents in the program are constantly awed by how much individual attention their children receive. Educators are impressed by the planning and execution of all aspects of the children’s activities. And related service providers are amazed by how effectively their suggestions are carried over into the classroom. But Gesher is not known just for its educational programming. Gesher’s accomplishments are a result of the staff’s complete dedication to fully develop each child. Parents, and even grandparents, sense the warmth and caring that shower their children. The Gesher staff is proactive and attentive to the changing needs of their students. Mrs. Chava Bodner, the director, is encouraged by the appreciation expressed to her by the parent body specifically, by those parents who have benefited from her experience and understanding while helping them navigate the educational system. A parent recently articulated to Mrs. Bodner, “You are my lifeline.” Mrs. Bodner has a collection of notes from family members of students who have seen the positive impact that Gesher makes. A boy’s grandmother recently wrote, “We are so grateful for all that you do. I cannot say enough about the warmth that emanates from his teacher.” And, “I want to thank you for the guidance that you have provided.” Last week, Mrs. Bodner presented some of her ideas and methods at The Jewish Education Project Yeshiva Day School Professional Day of Learning. Their interest peaked by Gesher’s reputation, an unusually large crowd of teachers and directors attended her presentation. Mrs. Bodner explained her ideology, encouraged sharing of suggestions, and introduced practical examples that are usable in every classroom. The presentation was very well received. One attendee sent a follow-up email, “What a beautiful workshop and what a presentation. You do amazing work, and I wish you much hatzlacha.” Enrollment is under way for the 201415 school year. As part of its educational model, Gesher maintains a limited class size. To apply or to receive more information, Gesher may be reached at 516-7307377 or at

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street. Herein, the alluring creativity and coordination of the interior décor clues you in to the caliber of outfit possibilities available. For most women in today’s world, sporting that perfect-for-you and well put-together ensemble is a source of simultaneous desire and slight terror. How

will it pull through— from where? Most women want to know. Moreover, observant Jewish ladies keenly seek the ideal balance of dressing attractive but not attracting. To the surprise of many, this quagmire is not exclusively local. International clientele of Maya’s Place could attest that the quality of life becomes much sweeter to wake up and get dressed with confidence that the right tops, skirts and accessories eagerly await you in the morning. Maya has successfully found a much-demanded balance between pairing modest cuts and chic, fun, sophisticated and unique tsanuah ensembles. As for those in her shoes—past and present—they will be savoring their heav-

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“This is exactly what we’ve been needing!” Ladies, teens and girls’ moms have been expressing in awe as they walk into the poshly decorated and reasonably-priced first modest wear specialty boutique in Great Neck. The global clientele have made Maya’s Place each her own even before the Grand Opening this past Sunday on 581C Middle Neck Road. A customer walked into the store on the second day, saying to the owner Maya Namdar, “I’m going to be able to go back to being myself and dress stylishly again!” For more observant clientele from locally to London, Manhasset to Milan, Maya’s basement had become a relieving secret revealed. Half-way down the stairs to the then-basement boutique, many would halt and exclaim, “Wow! This is tsniut heaven!”

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The pro-football team had just finished their daily practice session when a large turkey came strutting onto the field. While the players gazed in amazement, the turkey walked up to the head coach and demanded a tryout. Everyone stared in silence as the turkey caught pass after pass and ran right through the defensive line. When the turkey returned to the sidelines, the coach shouted, “You’re terrific! Sign up for the season, and I’ll see to it that you get a huge bonus.” “Forget the bonus,” the turkey said. “All I want to know is, does the season go past Thanksgiving Day?”

A bat and ball cost $1.10. The bat costs one dollar more than the ball. How much does the ball cost?

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Oh, How Strange It is Comparisons between President Abraham Lincoln and President John F. Kennedy ABRAHAM LINCOLN


Lincoln was elected to Congress in 1846

Kennedy was elected to Congress in 1946

He was elected president in 1860

He was elected president in 1960

His wife lost a child while living in the White House

His wife lost a child while living in the White House

He was directly concerned with Civil Rights

He was directly concerned with Civil Rights

Lincoln had a secretary named Kennedy who told him not to go to the theater

Kennedy had a secretary named Lincoln who told him not to go to Dallas

Lincoln was shot in the back of the head in the presence of his wife

Kennedy was shot in the back of the head in the presence of his wife

Lincoln was shot in the Ford Theatre

Kennedy was shot in a Lincoln, made by Ford

He was shot on a Friday

He was shot on a Friday

The assassin, John Wilkes Booth, was known by three names, comprised of fifteen letters

The assassin, Lee Harvey Oswald, was known by three names, comprised of fifteen letters

Booth shot Lincoln in a theater and fled to a warehouse

Oswald shot Kennedy from a warehouse and fled to a theater

Booth was killed before being brought to trial

Oswald was killed before being brought to trial

Lincoln’s successor was Andrew Johnson, born in 1808

Kennedy’s successor was Lyndon Johnson, born in 1908

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2. President Kennedy was the only president who: a. Won a Purple Heart b. Was born in Massachusetts c. Didn’t use the Oval Office d. Was buried in Arlington National Cemetery 3. How old was Kennedy when he was sworn in as president? a. 43 b. 45 c. 46 d. 51 4. What did President Kennedy declare in 1963 when he spoke to a crowd of more than 120,000 gathered outside West Berlin’s city hall, just steps from the Brandenburg Gate? a. “I believe in the German dream.” b. “Less than twenty years after the war, I declare: America and German’s interests are one and the same: peace, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” c. “We bear no grudges against you and know that you bear no grudges against us…Divine conflict has resulted in definitive friendship.” d. “I am a jelly donut.” 5. What were the last words President Kennedy heard before he was shot? a. “This has been quite an exciting

drive so far.” b. “Mr. President, what are you going to do when you retire?” c. “Mr. President, you can’t say Dallas doesn’t love you.” d. “How are you feeling, honey?” 6. What was Kennedy’s failed plan to oust Fidel Castro called? a. Cuban Missile Crisis b. Bay of Pigs Invasion c. Operation Freedom d. Operation Remove the Bearded One

Answers: 1. B 2. A- During World War II, a Motor Torperdo Boat which Kennedy was the captain of was rammed by a Japanese destroyer and caught fire. Several of Kennedy’s shipmates were blown overboard into a sea of burning oil. Kennedy dove in to rescue three of the crew. For 12 hours, Kennedy and his crew clung to the wrecked hull before he ordered them to abandon ship. Kennedy and the other good swimmers placed the injured on a makeshift raft and then took turns pushing and towing the raft four miles to safety on a nearby island. For six days, Kennedy and his crew survived on the island by drinking coconut milk. They were then rescued. When asked how he became a war hero, Kennedy replied, “It was involuntary; they sank my boat.” For his heroic actions, he was awarded a Purple Heart. 3. A- Although Kennedy was 43 when he was sworn in, he was not the nation’s youngest president. That honor goes to Theodore Roosevelt who was 42 when he was sworn in. Bill Clinton and Ulysses S. Grant were both

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1. Who did Kennedy defeat in the 1960 presidential election? a. Lyndon B. Johnson b. Richard Nixon c. Dwight D. Eisenhower d. Harry Truman

46 when sworn in. President Obama was 47. 4. D- When planning his speech, Kennedy was going to say, “I am a Berliner.” He worked with his speechwriters and State Department translators to ensure the correct pronunciation, going so far as to spell the possibly tricky phrases phonetically. But when he delivered the speech he said, “Ich bin ein Berliner.” By adding the word “ein,” the phrase sounded like einberliner, which in German means a jelly donut. 5. C-Nellie Connally, wife of Texas Governor John Connally, turned to JFK as they rode in the motorcade through the massive crowds and said, “Mr. President, you can’t say Dallas doesn’t love you.” Several seconds later, the president was fatally wounded. 6. B

Wisdom Key: 5-6 correct: You know your stuff—did you serve on the Warren Commission? 3-4 correct: You are boring. You need a little bit of passion for your leader. 0-2 correct: “Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country.” I’ll tell you what you can do for your country—get an education!

Answer to riddle: The ball cost 5¢. (I am sure you guessed that the ball cost 10¢. Don’t worry—you’re not alone. In the book, Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman explains why thousands of people, including more than 50% of students at Harvard, MIT, and Princeton got the wrong answer. He posits that the distinctive mark of this easy puzzle is that it evokes an answer that is intuitive, appealing, and wrong. This simple riddle shows that many people are overconfident, prone to place too much faith in their intuitions, and find cognitive effort at least mildly unpleasant and avoid it as much as possible. I agree.)


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I Never Promised You a Rose Garden “And they sat to eat bread, and they lifted their eyes and saw a caravan of Yishmaelim coming from Gilad, and their camels were carrying spices, balsam, and birthwort to bring down to Egypt.” — Bereishis 37:25 Yosef was about to begin the most difficult period of his life. His own brothers left him to die in a pit of scorpions. He would soon be sold numerous times as a slave, then he would spend twelve months being hounded by the wife of his master, followed by imprisonment in a dank, dark dungeon where he would not see the light of day for twelve years. Clearly, Yosef was heading for hard times. Rashi tells us that this posuk shows us the great reward that is given to tzaddikim. When Yosef was bound and sold as a slave, the wagon that took him down to Egypt was carrying spices that emitted a fragrant smell, as opposed to the normal cargo that gives off an obnoxious odor. Clearly, Hashem loved the tzaddik and arranged for something out of the ordinary to protect him. The obvious question on this Rashi

is that if the Torah wants us to show the reward for tzaddikim, it could have done a much more convincing job by saving Yosef from this entire event. If Hashem is watching the tzaddikim, then why couldn’t He just save Yosef from all of the suffering that he was about to endure? This is comparable to a situation in which a man is in a catastrophic car crash that breaks almost every bone in his body. The Hatzalah crew rushes to the scene, puts him on a stretcher, and as they are speeding to the hospital, his friend riding with him says, “Look how Hashem watches over you. They even put a comfortable pillow under your

head.” One would have the right to ask, “If Hashem is concerned with this person’s wellbeing, then why didn’t He arrange for the drunk driver who hit him to crash into a pole instead of his car? Save

administered in exact dosages. The pain is delivered precisely and exactly, not an iota more and not an iota less. We get exactly the measure we need. Many times it is clear to see that

It reminds me that Hashem cares for me and has brought about this event for my good.

him from the ordeal; don’t give his broken neck a comfortable pillow to lie on!” Some Life situations are Inevitable The answer to this question seems to be that there are certain situations in life that are unavoidable, not because Hashem isn’t capable of preventing them, but quite the opposite, because Hashem orchestrated them according to the needs of that person or that generation. Yosef was to be sold as a slave and in that state, brought to Mitzrayim. As the prelude to his future, the future of his family, and the future of the Jewish nation, this was a vital ingredient. Ultimately, for his destiny and for the good of the Jewish nation, this situation needed to happen. It was part of the master plan. However, even within the difficult times, Hashem showed loving kindness to Yosef. He had to be sold as a slave, but why should he suffer unnecessarily? The Arabs normally carried petroleum; why should Yosef have to suffer the offensive odor? For that reason, Hashem arranged something very uncharacteristic: the caravan was carrying perfume and not oil. There is a great lesson for us to take from this. In life, we will suffer through many situations, trials and tribulations. Not only are they are part of life, they are needed – for us, for our growth so that we can reach the purpose for which we were put on this planet. In that sense, they are inevitable, not because Hashem is uncaring, but because we need them. They are for our good. In the scheme of life, they serve us well, but with them comes some suffering. The amount of suffering that a person experiences on this planet is weighed, measured and

Hashem is bringing pain, preplanned and preordained, right to my doorstep. But it is hard to see that it is for my good and that Hashem is doing it out of loving kindness. Seeing the Kindness in the Torture When I discover the kindness within the torture, when I find the “comfortable pillow in the ambulance,” this can change my perspective on the entire

situation. It reminds me that Hashem cares for me and has brought about this event for my good. I may not see it as good, I may not understand how it is for my best, but it is clearly orchestrated by Hashem. I see that Hashem has gone out of His way – if it could be – to make part of my situation more comfortable. This shows me the great love that Hashem has for me. It allows me to know that just as the pillow was planned out of love, so too were the rest of the circumstances. This viewpoint colors the entire situation in a different light, allowing me to understand that it was brought by Hashem, and despite the pain and suffering, it is something that I need for my good.

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andsome, idealistic and youthful, John Fitzgerald Kennedy was America’s presidential sweetheart. His presidency was short and abruptly cut off when an assassin shattered the idyllic picture of strength and heroism seen in the leader of the nation. The young president, who in his short life experienced great tragedy and equally great success, became the symbol of national tragedy. THE EARLY YEARS Joseph Patrick Kennedy, the father of the 35th president of the United States, was a dominant figure who arose from Massachusetts Irish Catholic community to make a fortune. He had investments in real estate and for a time owned a Hollywood movie studio. He was a Wall Street manipulator and—ironically—became the first chairman of the Securities and Exchange Commission. Kennedy was appointed by President Franklin Delano Roosevelt as ambassador to the Court of St. James, the United States’ representative to Great Britain. He was vocal about his political views, and much like his friend FDR, he was a known anti-Semite. Kennedy had nine children, four boys and five girls who were all expected to achieve great things. And he wanted his son to be president. But that son, Joe, who was his eldest son, died in World War II. So, Joe Sr. turned his attention to his second son, John Fitzgerald

President Kennedy speaking in Houston, TX, on November 21, 1963, a day before he was killed

Kennedy, aka “Jack,” who throughout his childhood was frail and weak due to ill health. After attending private boarding school, Jack, who was born in 1917, attended Harvard University. While at Harvard, he played football and injured his back. That injury compounded with injuries sustained in World War II burdened him for the rest of his life. Despite the fact that history judges Joseph Kennedy as a less than an honorable person, he certainly seems to have had strong confidence in his children. When Jack graduated Harvard, his father sent him a cablegram from London stating: “TWO THINGS I ALWAYS KNEW ABOUT YOU ONE THAT YOU ARE SMART TWO THAT YOU ARE A SWELL GUY LOVE DAD.” WORLD WAR II HERO Although he had chronic health problems and a bad back, after graduating from Harvard in 1942, as World War II raged, Jack joined the Navy. He eventually commanded PT Boat 109, which operated in the Pacific Theatre. Lieutenant Kennedy and his crew of 12 men would conduct night time patrols of the straits in order to intercept Japanese warships. On the evening of August 2, 1942, Kennedy’s boat was rammed by a Japanese destroyer, causing most of the men to fall overboard into the shark infested waters. After Kennedy and the other non-injured crew members rescued those who were injured but still alive in the water, the crew hung onto the wreckage to survive, but it quickly began to capsize. Kennedy gathered his surviving crew members together in the water around the wreckage to vote on whether to “fight or surrender.” Kennedy rallied his crew, “There’s nothing in the book about a situation like this. A lot of you men have families and some of you have children. What do you want to do? I have nothing to lose.” Shunning surrender, the crew swam three-and-a-half miles to an inlet, with the non-injured crew members towing the injured to safety. For six days, Kennedy and his crew waited in enemy-controlled waters to be rescued. Each night Kennedy would swim many miles to different islands to find

In the motorcade, smiling to the crowds in Dallas

coconuts and possibly better vantage points to alert Allied boats of his crew’s predicament. For his courage, John F. Kennedy was awarded the Navy and Marine Corps Medal and a Purple Heart. When asked to explain how he had come to be a hero, Kennedy replied laconically, “It was involuntary— they sank my boat.” A METEORIC RISE IN POLITICS Following his father’s dreams for him, after returning from World War II, Kennedy entered politics. In 1946, he won a congressional seat and served three terms before being elected Massachusetts senator in 1952. After a meteoric ascent, Kennedy won the Democratic primaries for president in 1960. In the general election race, he came across as fresh and hopeful, whereas his opponent, Vice President Richard Nixon, came across as smart but shabby. Americans were impressed by the handsome hero, and despite the odds, he ran an effective and well-funded campaign. (His father, Joe, famously quipped, “Don’t buy a single vote more than necessary. I’ll be [darned] if I’m going to pay for a landslide.”) At the age of 43, John Fitzgerald Kennedy became the 35th president of the United States. A CUBA-CENTRIC PRESIDENCY President Kennedy’s record as a president is overshadowed—and probably understudied— due to the sudden and tragic nature of his death. Like all presidencies, his had its ups and downs and he certainly made his share of “rookie mistakes.” Yet, according to Gallup polling, his average approval rating throughout his presidency was an astounding 70.1%. The two main crises of his short presidency both involved America’s Communist neighbor, Cuba, with the Bay of Pigs Invasion and the Cuban Missile Crisis. Kennedy botched the Bay of Pigs incident, but regained his foreign policy footing with the Cuban Missile Crisis, which ironically only came about due to his failings at the Bay of Pigs. In 1961, the CIA hatched a plan to overthrow Fidel Castro, who came to power in Cuba in 1959, via a violent revolution. The plan, later known as the Bay of

RELUCTANT WARRIOR FOR CIVIL RIGHTS If the Civil Rights movement was a marathon and not a sprint, Kennedy played a notable role in the iconic movement. As a young politician, Kennedy did not seem to be onboard with the Civil Rights movement, perhaps due to his core beliefs or to political expediency and the need to win over Southern Democrats. As a senator in 1957, he voted against a Civil Rights bill. Although he promised during his presidential campaign that when he would become president he would immediately end segregation in federally subsidized public housing “with the stroke of a pen,” he only followed through after several months of mounting pressure. Throughout the first years of his presidency, Kennedy tried to steer clear of civil rights issues, and was seen as “timid” on the topic. But, in June of 1963, when Alabama Governor George Wallace famously stood in the doorway to block two black students from enrolling at the University of Alabama, President Kennedy saw that the time had come to get involved in the battle. In a hastily scripted speech to the nation on June 11, 1963, he called on “every American, regardless of where he

lives” to “stop and examine his conscience.” As he promised in his speech, Kennedy submitted a Civil Rights bill to Congress, which after his assassination was passed into law by his successor, President Johnson, on July 2, 1964.

Vice President Johnson being sworn in as America’s 36th president as Jackie mournfully looks on in her bloodstained suit

LEE HARVEY OSWALD AND HIS DESIRE FOR SIGNIFICANCE While Kennedy’s star was rising, a loner named Lee Harvey Oswald was readying himself for prominence. History has now come to know Oswald as a self-aggrandizing outsider who was small in stature but who saw himself as a large player in the global sociopolitical battles of the 50s and 60s. Born in New Orleans two months after his father died of a heart attack, he spent his childhood living in various cities with his mother and three siblings. Young Oswald was a withdrawn child who was smart and as a teenager found comfort in Communist literature and propaganda. After bouncing around from school to school, he dropped out at the age of 17 and joined the military, where he became a marksman. In 1960, after teaching himself Russian, Oswald defected to Russia at the age of 20. He stayed there for three years, married and had a child. At one point Oswald appeared at the U.S. Embassy and sought to give up his U.S. citizenship. He declared to the embassy official, “I have made up my mind; I’m through.” Yet by 1962 he and his wife returned to the United States. Oswald boasted to his wife that reporters would meet them when they arrived in America. Naturally, that fantasy went unsatisfied and he was greeted by his brother instead of the throngs of admirers he envisioned. Clearly, Oswald had one follower and one follower only—himself. Once in America, the Oswald family began their new drifter life in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. Over the next year, Oswald held a number of odd jobs, all of which ended because of his incompetence or insubordination. Throughout that period there were spotty interactions with Communist and antiCommunist organizations. To those who see Oswald as a drifter these interactions are dismissed as insignificant. To those who believe that Oswald was part of a larger plot, these interactions hold the clues to a fifty year unresolved mystery, despite the fact that they have largely been airbrushed out of history. In October 1963, a friend told Oswald about a job opening at the Texas School Book Depository, located in a seven-story building on Dealey Plaza. Oswald got the job on the 16th of October. He would be working there for 37 days before he finally got his chance to make his mark in the world.

Oswald’s first assassination target was anti-Communist Edwin Walker, whom he attempted to kill on April 10, 1963. Walker was staunchly anti-Kennedy and was a popular speaker in Dallas. Oswald shot a bullet into his home and grazed his arm. A detective on the scene later said, “He couldn’t have missed you,” and Walker replied, “He must have been a lousy shot.” Eight months later, Dallas was abuzz. President Kennedy was coming. And his motorcade would ride through Dealey Plaza, passing right in front of Oswald’s newest workplace. A VISIT TO DALLAS By the fall of 1963 it was clear to the young president and his advisers that he would be running for reelection in the upcoming presidential election. Confident in his victory, the president traveled west, speaking in nine states in less than a week in September. In October, he made powerful speeches in Boston and Philadelphia, and on November 12, in an important planning session for the upcoming election, the president stressed the importance of winning the Florida and Texas vote. He planned to visit both those states with Jackie at his side, the first time the nation would see her in an extended public appearance after the loss of their baby, Patrick, in August. On November 21, the president and First Lady departed for Texas. One of Kennedy’s goals for the trip was to bring feuding Democrats together. On the morning of November 22nd a light rain was falling in Fort Worth but that did not deter the crowd that gathered to see and hear their vibrant leader. The president briefly spoke in front of his hotel and joked that Jackie was taking her time getting ready because “of course, she looks better than we do when she does it.” The crowd rushed to shake their beloved president’s hand. Crowds of excited people lined the streets alongside the procession of the president’s motorcade. President Kennedy, Jackie, Texas Governor John Connally and his wife, Nellie, were seated in one car; Vice President Johnson and his wife sat in another car in the motorcade. The cars traveled along a ten-mile route through downtown Dallas on the way to the Trade Mart where Kennedy was scheduled to speak. Seeing the throngs that turned out to greet their president, Nellie turned around to President Kennedy and commented, “Mr. President, you can’t say Dallas doesn’t love you.” But the president never made it to the speech at the Trade Mart. Around 12:30pm, the car turned off Main Street at Dealey Plaza and then the scene turned to horror. THE ZAPRUDER FILM Kennedy’s assassination was captured on film in a 26 second video taken by Abraham Zapruder. Zapruder was a Russian-Jewish immigrant who came to the U.S. from the Soviet Union at the age of 15. He settled in Dallas and eventually opened a women’s clothing store which happened to be located across the street from the Book Depository in Dealey Plaza. He loved President Kennedy and joined the throngs of spectators waiting to catch a glimpse of the president’s motorcade as it was passing through. Zapruder later explained, “I didn’t have my camera [at first] but my secretary asked me why I don’t have it and I told her I wouldn’t have a chance even to see the president and somehow she urged me and I went home and got my camera.” Once he had his camera in hand, Zapruder

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Pigs, would be carried out by Cuban exiles who would get discreet but integral support from the U.S. government. The final plan was for 1,300 Cuban exiles to land at night near the Bay of Pigs, which was a remote swampy area on the southern coast of Cuba. At the same time, the U.S. would conduct two airstrikes against Cuban air bases. Although the planned was hatched while President Eisenhower was still in office, President Kennedy gave final approval to the mission. On April 15, 1961, eight bombers left Nicaragua to bomb Cuban airfields. The CIA used obsolete World War II B-26 bombers and painted them to look like Cuban air force planes. Unfortunately, the bombers missed many of their targets and left most of Castro’s air force intact. As news broke of the attack, photos of the repainted U.S. planes became public and revealed American support for the invasion. Swiftly, President Kennedy cancelled a second air strike. When the 1,300 Cuban exiles began their invasion at the Bay of Pigs, Castro was waiting for them and well-prepared. After less than a day of fighting, 114 fighters were killed and over 1,100 were taken prisoner. The Bay of Pigs emboldened Castro and his Communist mentor, Russian Premier Nikita Khrushchev. Even worse yet, it made President Kennedy look like a weak, inexperienced leader of Western democracy. But a year and a half later, President Kennedy was able to redeem his weak image with the Cuban Missile Crisis. During that time, Kennedy portrayed the resolve and strength that one would expect to see from the leader of the Western world. On October 15, 1962, an American U-2 spy plane secretly photographed nuclear missile sites being built by the Soviet Union in Cuba. After several days of meetings, Kennedy decided to place a naval blockade around Cuba to prevent the Soviets from bringing in more military supplies. On October 22, President Kennedy spoke to the nation about the crisis in a televised address. He demanded the removal of the missiles already there and the destruction of the sites. On October 28th, 13 days after the standoff began, Soviet leader Khrushchev agreed to remove the Cuban missiles. Kennedy in return secretly agreed to remove U.S. missiles from Turkey. Americans once again regained their trust in their president who they saw as a strong leader against their Communist foes.

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climbed atop a concrete abutment and eagerly waited for the motorcade to arrive. Zapruder’s film, which is a total of 26 seconds, captured the entire sequence of the assassination. The film is silent but in color, and shows the black Lincoln Continental with the young president and wife, Jackie, in a pink skirt-and-jacket suit. Both of them are waving to the energized crowd as the motorcade heads for the triple underpass. But suddenly, the bucolic scene turns frenzied. The president clutches his throat and Jackie leans over to attend to him. His head is thrown back and Jackie desperately climbs to the back of the car grasping at something. Later we understand that the First Lady is trying to retrieve a piece of her husband’s shattered skull. Knowing that the film would have historic and forensic value to investigators and to the nation, Zapruder made three copies of the original film for investigators. Eventually, the Warren Commission used the film to determine that Oswald acted alone. Within days, Life magazine purchased all rights to the film for a total of $150,000. Zapruder gave the first $25,000 (about $187,000 in 2013 dollars) to the widow of Dallas policeman J.D. Tippit, who was killed 45 minutes after the assassination when he stopped Lee Harvey Oswald in the Dallas suburb of Oak Cliff. Eventually, Life gave the rights of the film back to Zapruder’s family. In 1999, the U.S. government bought the rights to the film for $16 million. In 1963, the American public did not see the full 26 seconds of the film. When Zapruder sold the film to Life, he said that Frame 313, which shows the peak of the horror of the assassination where the president’s head is literally blown off, gave him nightmares. He didn’t want the American public to see the horrific details of their president’s murder. Ultimately, Life magazine withheld that frame from the American people. In 1975, Geraldo Rivera played the film in its entirety to the nation on his show, “Good Night America.” The American nation was collectively shocked by the graphic, raw details onscreen. OSWALD’S ARREST It only took 70 minutes for Lee Harvey Oswald to be arrested for the assassination of President Kennedy and during that time he took another life, the life of police officer J.D. Tippit who tried to arrest him. Police arrested Oswald in the Texas Theatre. Two days later, while being escorted for transfer from police headquarters to jail, Oswald was killed live on American television by Jack Ruby, a Dallas nightclub owner. Ruby said he killed the president’s assassin so he could spare “Mrs. Kennedy the discomfiture of coming back to trial.” Justice was served. CONSPIRACIES ABOUND Perhaps because President Kennedy’s presidency held so much promise, it was hard for the American people to fathom that it could be cut down so quickly by a lone gunman who by all accounts was a lunatic. But there was more. In Frame 313, Kennedy’s head is seen jerking backward. Many argue that this indicates that Kennedy was shot from in front of him, where the “grassy knoll” was, not from behind him, where the Book Depository is located. Acoustic evidence taken from a cop’s walkie talkie further bolsters the argument that at least one of the shots came from in front of Kennedy. Further adding to conspiracy theories is the fact that within days, when Life magazine

published a series of 31 photographs documenting the quick thinking Secret Service agent—Jackie underentire shooting sequence from the Zapruder film, the stood the historical role that her grieving would play. frame that depicted the rearward motion of Kennedy’s head was transposed to indicate a forward motion. In Within hours of the assassination, when President 1965, FBI director J. Edgar Hoover explained this re- Johnson was sworn in as president, Jackie stood alongversing of the Zapruder frames was a “printing error.” side him, still wearing her pink, bloodstained suit. DeIf conspiracy played a role, the obvious question spite suggestions that she change into a clean pair of is who would be behind the conspiracy. Despite Presi- clothing before the ceremony, she refused and said, dent Kennedy’s charm and aura of freshness, he had “No, let them see what they’ve done.” Until today, one a long list of enemies. From the Bay of Pigs to the of the nation’s most famous images remains the imCuban Missile Crisis, Kennedy’s short presidency was age of a three-year-old John F. Kennedy Jr. saluting sharply focused on the Communist threat located 90 his father’s casket which took place as a military band miles south of Florida in Cuba. Its leader, Fidel Cas- played “Hail to the Chief.” At that point, Jackie whistro, was equally vocal about his disdain of Kennedy pered to her son, “John, you can salute Daddy now.” and even stated two months before the assassination, It was John Jr.’s third birthday. “United States leaders should think that if they are In 1952, Jackie was 23 and was working as a aiding terrorist plans to eliminate Cuban leaders, they Washington newspaper photographer when she met themselves will not be safe.” According to reports, in her future husband who told her that he would one day 1968, President Lyndon B. Johnson told a reporter, be president. She was not just a doting wife but was “Kennedy was trying to get Castro, but Castro got him well-versed in politics as well. Shortly after hearing first.” Castro has always maintained that he had no in- that Oswald, a “Communist sympathizer,” was the volvement in the assassination and in 1977 said, “It suspect in the killing, Jackie wryly stated, “He didn’t would have been absolute insanity by Cuba ... It would even have the satisfaction of being killed for Civil have been a provocation. Rights; it had to be some silly, Needless to say, it would have little Communist.” been to run the risk that our According to the just-recountry would have been deleased book, End of Days: The stroyed by the United States.” Assassination of John F. KenMany believe that the manedy, by James Swanson, one fia ordered Kennedy killed week after Kennedy’s assasbecause Kennedy’s brother, sination, Jackie called famed Attorney General Robert KenLife magazine reporter Theonedy, went after the mafia in dore White to the Kennedy an unprecedented fashion. Becompound in Hyannis Port, lievers of this theory posit that Massachusetts, for an excluJack Ruby, who was known to sive interview. During the have mafia ties, subsequently interview, Jackie repeatedly shot Kennedy’s murderer in spoke about the then-popular order to silence him. Less Broadway musical Camelot plausible conspiracy theories, which depicted the glitz and but each with a healthy folglamour associated with the lowing, are that Vice President legendary King Arthur. She Lyndon B. Johnson or even told White that after the asthe FBI ordered the killing. sassination her husband’s faAt the funeral, JFK Jr salutes his father’s coffin as his mother and family grieve alongside a broken nation Polls show that even today vorite song kept playing in her most Americans believe that head. The song ended with Oswald was not acting alone. the words, “Don’t let it be forgot/that once there was a spot/for one brief shining moment/that was known as THE DEATH OF KENNEDY Camelot.” She then said, “There’ll be great presidents AND THE BIRTH OF CAMELOT again — and the Johnsons are wonderful, they’ve been Although Jackie Kennedy certainly had reason to wonderful to me — but there’ll never be a Camelot feel betrayed by President Kennedy’s loose lifestyle, again.” by all accounts they were at times a loving couple and After the interview, when White dictated the story became even closer when four months before he was by phone to the Life magazine office, the listening assassinated Jackie gave birth to a child who lived for editors wanted to cut out some of the references to only a day and a half. President Kennedy often stoked Camelot. However, Jackie, who was standing alongthe Hollywood-esque appearance of their relationship side White as he dictated, refused to let him take out by making comments such as “I am the man who ac- any of the Camelot material. She wanted the Americompanied Jacqueline Kennedy to Paris – and I have can public to remember the president’s life as a brief enjoyed it,” after returning from a state visit to France. but brilliant moment in America’s history. Much like today where choreography plays an integral role in politics, the Kennedys often released images FIFTY YEARS LATER of the First Family in idyllic scenes, usually involving November 22, 1963 was a day that is imprinted in boats, water, family and togetherness. the memory of every American. It was a day when a Naturally, as soon as word of the assassina- shot in Dallas reverberated across the country, shattertion spread, all eyes turned to the distraught widow, ing American dreams and cutting down a life that was Jackie. Despite being traumatized—immediately full of hope and full of promise. Today, all we have of after one of the shots she jumped onto the trunk of the young president are memories colored in the shimthe car to try to gather pieces of President Kenne- mering hues of Camelot and reflections of what could dy’s skull only to be pushed back into the car by a have been had he lived.

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Presumably to reflect the special somberness of the day, when they believed one should separate from the physical world. Well, the Pilgrims may be long gone, but a certain throwback seems to remain. The idea of dressing like you’re going to a funeral every day has been taken up by those who view themselves as more religious and removed from this physical plane. I asked some yeshiva boys why they dress in black and white. They didn’t have such lofty ideas about the clothing making them feel more spiri-

If the mood people are trying to convey is that Jews should be somber, serious, and morose, then I have an issue with this color scheme. While we definitely should take life seriously and keep in mind that our lives have purpose, that doesn’t mean we are to deny ourselves pleasure and enjoyment. On the contrary, Hashem gives us a world full of enjoyable things and activities as

True Torah luminaries exude joy and happiness, not a dreary grayness just so people will think they are sincere. Yeshiva would have kapotehs (long coats) made in various hand-picked fabrics of blues, browns, and grays. Going further back in time, the gemara in Moed Katan said that Rava had a special red jacket, and that if one feels an overwhelming urge to sin, he should don black clothing and go where he is not known. Presumably, the norm was NOT to wear such clothing, and putting it on was meant to evoke a certain somber feeling, much like that of the Puritans who wore black in pre-United States America. Have no fear; I’m not advocating changing the uniform of yeshiva bochurim and chasidim, though it is nice to see that women and children are starting to have some color in their Shabbos outfits again. A few years back a woman could buy a lovely dress in any color as long as it was black. [Hat-tip to Henry Ford.] Now, though, brighter colors make me happy, seeing that people don’t look at Shabbos as a dreary day of separation from the world, but rather a festive, enjoyable day, where we delve much more deeply into the wonder of the world we have been given. I always found it so depressing seeing people dressed like someone had died. I think what I’d like to point out is that our perception of the Pilgrims is based on an artist’s idea of what the people of a previous era probably looked like, rather than actual facts. By the same token, our perception of what a Jew should look like may also be less based on fact than on the artistic perception of someone trying to evoke a mood.

a means for our receiving pleasure and feeling a greater sense of love for the One who wants us to enjoy ourselves. The Chofetz Chaim was a great conversationalist and R’ Naftoli Ropshitzer was known for his sharp wit and humor. True Torah luminaries exude joy and happiness, not a dreary grayness just so people will think they are sincere. The people who do act that way so people think they should be taken seriously are really just like those artists trying to convey a notion that is not based on fact. Chanuka is a holiday about spiritual salvation yet it has become known as a time for “Chanuka parties” based on the famous Rem”a that when one reflects on the miracles Hashem has performed and praises Him, it becomes a seudas mitzvah. We take the physical and uplift it into a spiritual event. Even our merrymaking has a purpose.

The first Thanksgiving, however, was not a serious affair dedicated to praising G-d. Instead, it was a raucous event with drinking, gluttony, gambling, and even shooting competitions (to make the Native Americans think twice about starting up with the new arrivals). It was depicted the way it was so people wouldn’t know the truth and would think highly of the self-proclaimed “saints.” I’d like to suggest that instead of focusing on black suits and silver buckles, we focus on what lies inside the person no matter what they are wearing. If their thoughts are on Hashem and they are following the Torah, then those are people worthy of being memorialized. On the other hand, if one acts wildly and inappropriately and simply puts on the guise of somberness with his black clothing as if he is actually contemplating the day he meets his Maker, then in my book, he’s just a turkey with so much meaningless stuffing. All I can say is, no thanks! Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. For more information, or to sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English, e-mail and put Publication Sponsorship or Subscribe in the subject. © 2013 by Jonathan Gewirtz. All rights reserved.

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group of somber-looking men in black suits and black hats are seated around a large table. Yeshiva bochurim? Chasidim at the Rebbe’s? Oh, did I mention there were buckles on the hats? Yes, I’m talking about Pilgrims. As Thanksgiving rolls around, with its very Jewish message of appreciation, I’d like to take a trip back in time to those early days in American history when people looking for religious freedom came to these shores. The pictures and notions we have about early Pilgrims are actually incorrect. First of all, they didn’t have buckles on their hats or even on their belts. Buckles were expensive so they opted for cheaper, leather laces to hold up their pants. The ideas of what they looked like came from artists of the 18th and 19th century who depicted American colonists in the clothing that became popular in England during the period. In fact, by that time, these costumes were chosen because they looked “old-fashioned.” In fact, the Pilgrims (who actually called themselves “saints”) wore a variety of colored clothing with bright hues and pigments. They tended to wear black and gray clothing on Sunday, which was their Sabbath. Why?

tual. Rather, they acknowledged that it had become the “uniform,” and they wore it to identify with their yeshiva peers and mentors. This phenomenon isn’t entirely new, yet historically Torah Jews didn’t necessarily dress this way. I had a great-uncle who studied in a Kabbalah yeshiva who never wore black. R’ Mordechai Gifter z”l fondly reminisced of the days when the Roshei

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t last year’s could not venture out exciting Chato shul, but for much nukah extravof the time I was so aganza, we enjoyed feverish that I could a presentation by the hardly get out of bed. Ballooner Rebbe. On some level, I feel (The Ballooner Reblike I was gypped be is the Grand Rabout of the end of bi of “Balloonville”; Chanukah. (I want they say his followmy money back!) ers are all full of hot The truth is that air.) Every child in real inspiration emattendance received anates from within. a balloon shaped in a Most of the time unique manner. It was intriguing to see we are inspired by “external inspirahow the Ballooner adeptly twisted bal- tion,” e.g. an august sunset, a moving loons of all shapes, sizes, and colors into story, an uplifting Shabbos, Yom Tov, hats, watches, animals, characters, and etc. But such inspiration is often tranflowers in mere mosient and fleeting, ments. because “easy come Our children easy go.” Inspiration Our holiday arrived home with only remains with their loot of balloons us when we are able celebrations which they excitedly to internalize it. But are not only played with for some internalizing is ardutime. Two days latous, for it requires momentary er I noticed that the focus and thought balloons which had about the deeper transient looked so perfect meaning, message, experiences, were beginning to and effect of the “exdeflate and shrivel. ternal inspiration.” but ideally they By the time ChanuSo, although kah was over, the I lost some of the should infuse us few balloons which beauty of the final with inspiration had not yet popped days of Chanukah, looked like dishevI can still celebrate long after the eled helium aliens. Chanukah on some holiday has It made me wonlevel, by focusing der if our holiday on the deeper mesconcluded. observance doesn’t sages of the glorious have a similar apholiday and “seeing” pearance. During the the ephemeral glow holiday we are full of passion and excite- of the candles long after the menorah ment, and try to invest ourselves in the has been placed back on the shelf. It’s a beauty, rituals, and customs endemic to long and cold winter and there is nothing the festival. But no sooner does the holi- more invigorating and encouraging than day end that our experience begins to de- recalling the glimmer of the Chanukah flate as well. We are rushed back into the candles and what they represent. mundane of life and the holiday rapidly And maybe when nobody’s looking fades into the limelight. sneaking in one last jelly donut! Our Sages teach that our holiday celebrations are not only momentary transient experiences, but ideally they Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rabbi of should infuse us with inspiration long Kehillat New Hempstead, and Guidance Counselor/Rebbe at Yeshiva Bais Hachinuch after the holiday has concluded. I thought about this idea this year & Ashar in Monsey, NY. He is the author of particularly when I became sick with Stam Torah and can be reached at stamtostrep during the final three days of Cha- His website is www.stam nukah. Not only was I stuck at home and

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Parenting Panel

Moderated by Dr. Dov Finman

Is My Child Too Young for Shul? My 7-year-old son enjoys going to shul to daven. However, whenever his friend is there, it’s impossible to get him to sit down. Even on Simchas Torah, when there’s dancing, he just runs around the building with him. My son’s friend’s parents don’t really care if their child is in shul or not. Should we still bring him to shul every week or only if we know his friend won’t be there?

Rabbi Shmuel Strickman

Elementary School Menahel, Yeshiva Darchei Torah Parenting is a personalized endeavor. The values and personalities of the parents determine the goals, and the child’s strengths and weaknesses shape the implementation. Often, our goals are shaped by our environment as much as by our convictions. Tov LaTzadik ViTov Lishcheino—the neighbor of the family whose priorities are healthy and spiritual will have an easier time imbuing his child with Torah values. The opposite, unfortunately, is also true. We cannot control or change anyone else’s behavior. We cannot compromise our values because of someone else’s neglect. Your responsibility is to your child. As parents, we cannot compromise, nor can we create conflict. An approach needs to be devised to avoid the conflict the other family is creating for you and to maximize your opportunities to teach your values. I would like to take the opportunity to make a suggestion: Assess: Assess your child’s needs and abilities – How long can he realistically sit quietly in shul. Plan: Define the limited area to be implemented – How long should he come for? Setting: Determine the best time and place for implementation – When during davening should he come? Expectation: Create clear realistic expectations – Sit quietly for __ minutes and then you can go play.

Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetsky

Menahel, DRS Yeshiva High School for Boys, HALB One of the most important aspects of being a parent is to know how and when to set limits for kids. It is wonderful that your son wants to come to shul; this is a great thing and should be encouraged. However, the shul experience, obviously, should not consist of running around the shul. You, as his parent, are responsible to set limits for the child. The boy needs to understand the tremendous kavod haShechina that needs to exist in a shul, as the gemara compares a shul to a mikdash me’at, a mini-Bais Hamikdash, where we come to speak to the Ribono Shel Olam. Your son needs to understand that the purpose of going to shul is for tefila, not for a social event. Having said this, it sounds like the entire davening might be too long

for him to sit through. Perhaps some compromise of having him be in shul for parts or most of it, whatever he could handle, and having him play in groups or outside with other boys at other times during davening would be appropriate. It is very difficult for boys to sit and be passive during krias haTorah, so perhaps he can stay for an aliya or two or three, and then allow him to go play if he cannot sit. I don’t accept the notion that when the other boy is there your son is not capable of sitting at all. Your son needs to be told that either he comes to daven for the parts that you decide he can sit through and are age-appropriate or he should not come at all.

Rabbi Dov Silver

Founder and Executive Vice President, Madraigos Your question is very important. Every family needs to do what is right for their own kids. With regard to your 7-year-old going to shul, the answer is not the same for every child. Not all children at the age of seven are capable of being quiet without disturbing the davening for two-and-a-half hours. If this is the case for your child, I would suggest that he not come to shul at all. Explain to him that shul is a place in which we connect with Hashem and we certainly cannot disturb others during davening. If he shows an extreme desire to be in shul, perhaps have someone bring him for the last 15 minute and let him see for himself whether he is able to remain quiet during davening. Then, let him work his way up over time until he is able to remain in shul quietly throughout davening. Make sure to give him appropriate recognition for his accomplishments. Play dates are important and special. Therefore, to avoid conflict, they should be arranged at other times

during the week. I don’t recommend that you make a decision about bringing or not bringing your son to shul based on which of his friends will be in shul on that particular Shabbos. In the merit of maintaining appropriate decorum in shul, may all your tefilos be answered l’tova and may your child grow up with a very strong connection to the Ribono Shel Olam.

Dr. Dov Finman

Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Faculty Fellow, Adelphi University It’s beautiful to see a young boy sitting quietly with his father during davening on Shabbos morning. However, most 7-year-old boys cannot sit quietly through an entire tefila. As a child grows older, his ability to control his impulses increases. Along the way, your role as a parent is to facilitate his impulse control. One way to do this is through behavior modification or behavior management techniques. Behavior modification can be used to eliminate unwanted behaviors and shape desirable behaviors. This is a topic I touch upon in the undergraduate course I teach in child and adolescent development; here are the cliff notes for effective behavior modification: Identify the problem behavior Identify a positive reinforcer Create a plan of action that ties the reinforcer to the problem behavior Step #1: In this situation, we want to eliminate the impulsive behavior (running around shul) and replace it with sitting quietly during davening. Step #2: Find a positive reinforcer that your son would choose over running around with his friend, maybe a peckala of candy or a prize of some sort. If running around shul is more enticing than the reinforcer, this won’t work. Step #3: This is key—for behavior modification to work, the reinforcer must be directly tied to the target behavior. If you’ve prepared a peckala of candy, tell your son that he will get one candy if he is sits quietly through brachos, another if he is stays through yishtabach, etc. If you give him the entire bag of candy at the start of davening, he won’t sit very long. Instead, give it out on a fixed schedule to keep him motivated to sit longer. Personally, I get a lot of nachas when my son sits next to me with his siddur. But of course he wants to run around with his friends as well. The truth is that your question is a good reminder for me and others to make sure all of our children show proper kavod for our mikdash me’at. Have any questions you’d like to address? Feel free to send your parenting questions to the moderator, Dr. Dov Finman, at


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The Most Famous Speech in U.S. History 150 Years Since the Gettysburg Address A painting depicting the famous speech


he Battle of Gettysburg, which took place on July 1-3, 1863, will never be forgotten in the minds of Americans. It was the bloodiest battle of the Civil War and was truly a turning point for the Union army. President Abraham Lincoln’s speech at the site of the recently dedicated cemetery on November 19, 1863 will be forever known as the Gettysburg Address. Even though another two years of bitter fighting remained after the

Union victory, the North knew that the United States and the Union would be preserved. 51,000 men from both sides

Governor Andrew Curtin felt it was a disgrace that these men weren’t given a proper burial and appointed Gettysburg

THE SPEECH WAS SHORT BUT WAS SO POWERFUL IN ITS MEANING. were killed, wounded, or missing during the battle, and the dead were put into makeshift graves. Pennsylvania

lawyer David Wills to make preparation for a proper cemetery on the site of the battlefield. Wills invited President Lincoln for the dedication and to make remarks to the crowd that had gathered. During the trip north, he told his aides that he felt weak and dizzy and the illness continued on the return trip. The president was probably suffering from smallpox (a disease which is almost eradicated today) while giving one of the most famous speeches in history. President Lincoln took the trip up to the small Pennsylvania town by train the day before the speech. He was to give closing remarks and prepared the speech on the way. According to some sources, Lincoln wrote the

speech scrap paper while on the way but historians point to the manuscript of the speech that was written by Lincoln himself on White House stationery. The presidential train pulled into Gettysburg a day before the dedication and Lincoln dined at the Wills home. A crowd had gathered and wanted him to make a speech right there but the president demurred, saying it wasn’t the time for speechmaking. On the morning of November 19, Lincoln took a tour of the battlefield and made his way towards the cemetery. There were still a lot of debris and reminders that

A copy of Lincoln’s address, signed and dated by the president

gave their lives that that nation might live. It is altogether fitting and proper that we should do this. But, in a larger sense, we can not dedicate, we can not consecrate, we can not hallow this ground. The brave men, living and dead, who struggled here, have consecrated it, far above our poor power to add or detract. The world will little note, nor long remember what we say here, but it can never forget what they did here. It is for us the living, rather, to be dedicated here to the unfinished work which they who

After the speech, Lincoln met John Burns, a local shoemaker, who was wounded when he picked up a rifle during the battle to defend his city and nation. After a quick visit with some dignitaries, Lincoln went back to Washington. There are five known copies of the address that were handwritten by Lincoln. Two are in the Library of Congress, one is owned by Cornell University, the one once owned by Edward Everett is displayed at the Abraham Lincoln Library and Museum in


fought here have thus far so nobly advanced. It is rather for us to be here dedicated to the great task remaining before us – that from these honored dead we take increased devotion to that cause for which they gave the last full measure of devotion – that we here highly resolve that these dead shall not have died in vain – that this nation, under G-d, shall have a new birth of freedom – and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth. The speech was so short that war photographer Mathew Brady was only to take a picture of him stepping down from the podium. As the president returned to his seat, he said to an aide, “The speech won’t scour. It is a flat failure.” Soon the speech was rewritten in newspapers and disseminated to the public and became famous for its message. Later, Everett wrote to Lincoln, “I should be glad if I could flatter myself that I came as near to the central idea of the occasion in two hours as you did in two minutes.” Many of the other attendees shared the same sentiments as Everett. A humble and wise leader shared his pain with his nation However, not all newson that day, one hundred fifty years ago papers liked the speech. Southern papers, along with a new nation, conceived in liberty, and some northern ones that didn’t like Lindedicated to the proposition that all coln, denounced it. The Chicago Times men are created equal. wrote, “The cheek of every American Now we are engaged in a great civil must tingle with shame as he reads the war, testing whether that nation, or any silly, flat and dishwatery utterances of nation so conceived and so dedicated, the man who has to be pointed out to can long endure. We are met on a great intelligent foreigners as the President battlefield of that war. We have come of the United States.” However, many to dedicate a portion of that field, as a were complimentary and called it “the final resting place for those who here perfect gem.”

Springfield Illinois. The last one written and the only one signed by Lincoln is displayed in the Lincoln Room in the White House. The words are also carved into the south wall of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington, D.C. After Lincoln left, the cemetery started reburying soldiers that were in temporary graves near the battlefield. The graves are in a sweeping arch and

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The photo captured by Mathew Brady after Lincoln finished the address

a statute called the Soldiers National Monument stands in the middle. A bust of Lincoln with the words of his famous speech also stands near the graves. Today, the cemetery is the resting place for about 6,000 graves. Since it is a national cemetery, soldiers from all conflicts are buried in this historic place. It is a testament to the men who died while preserving the freedom of our country and it gives “honor to those who gave their lives so that their country may live.”

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions.for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@

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the bloodiest battle had taken place there just a few months earlier. Broken wagons, bullet-ridden trees, scraps of torn uniforms and burnt ground from the bombardment lay across the once beautiful tract of land. The dedication of the cemetery attracted over 10,000 people and a program was organized by Wills to formalize the proceedings. Following music from a military band and a prayer, the main speech was to be given by Edward Everett and not Lincoln. The president was to give the dedicatory remarks while Everett, a powerful orator and former governor and senator from Massachusetts, was to give the main speech. Many Civil War-era cemeteries were dedicated with longwinded speeches and this was no different. Lincoln speech was thought by some as just an afterthought. Everett spoke for two hours while the crowd grew fidgety. Finally, Lincoln rose to give his speech. Some of the spectators were disappointed that it was only two minutes in length. Perhaps this is the reason why it so well remembered. Since the speech was so short and was so powerful in its meaning, Americans memorialized it as a foundation of our society. The speech was interrupted a few times because his voice couldn’t be heard over the applause from the crowd. The speech, now known as the Gettysburg Address, follows in its entirety: Four score and seven years ago, our fathers brought forth on this continent

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Devorah Gerber Schmeltz

Mornings with the Sensory Underresponsive Child Part II

Last week a reader wrote in about her daughter, Dassie, who has a hard time “perking up” in the mornings. Her morning teachers say that she does not respond to questions posed to her and she seems to be drifting off in class. In the afternoon, she is completely herself. The mother expressed concern that this is a sensory-based issue since

she gets a full night’s sleep. Some of the therapist’s suggestions are continued below from last week. 4. Sensory supports: Sensory supports are objects the child can use to help provide sensory input (which the environment is not providing for them at the moment). For example, in the

case of Dassie, the purpose of her sensory support would be to increase her arousal level. Providing her with a ball chair or air disc to sit on would do just that. Unconsciously, her body will be constantly making subtle adjustments to maintain an upright position and remain balanced. It forces her to stay alert. 5. Sensory Breaks: Dassie may benefit from sensory breaks during her morning classes, breaks that give her the opportunity to move. Ideas may include assigning her as the eraser monitor, having the teacher ask her to give out stencils or run an errand to the office. The importance of collaborating with her teacher is really critical. In this way you can provide her teacher with clues (e.g. head on desk) and suggestions on how to increase Dassie’s alertness (e.g. sensory break). 6. Environment: The T-zone seating in the classroom (middle row and all front seats) may be best for Dassie. Realistically though, if every parent requested their child be placed in the t-zone it would be an impossibility and, it places each teacher in a very difficult situation having to determine who does sit in the zone. The solution is to make every seat preferred. First, if Dassie is sitting against a wall (and we all know how comfy it is to lean against a wall and slowly drift away to dream land!) each desk against the wall should be pushed 5” away from the wall. Another suggestion for teachers is to frequently walk around the classroom while teaching and possibly hang a dry erase board in the back of the classroom (and of course use that board). This way, all students in the classroom have the opportunity to be in preferred seating. Wishing your daughter much hatzlacha! -Devorah Devorah (Gerber) Schmeltz, MS OTR/L is a 2003 alumnus of Downstate Medical Center’s OT Program. She worked as a senior occupational therapist at United Cerebral Palsy’s Brooklyn Children’s Program for 9 years. Currently, Devorah runs a private practice, Bumble & Tumble Occupational Therapy P.C in Far Rockaway. Your questions and comments are welcome. She can be reached at BumbleTumbleTherapy@gmail. com or 917-971-5327.

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The Kids are Driving Me Crazy!

was nothing. If you ask her later, she will not remember what she said. The boys won’t either. In fact, right now, as she’s ranting at them, they don’t even get it. Efraim has learned an important lesson, though: There is no justice in this world. He feels miserable and angry. He feels mistreated and misunderstood. The boys quiet down for about 30 seconds and then Yoeli comes across the room and gives Efraim a good, hard

punch. In a moment, the two of them are on the floor and there are scratches, blood, and screams. Frummie returns screaming. Let’s leave this unfortunate family for a moment. Nothing is going to improve. Yoeli will not learn sensitivity. Efraim will not come to believe justice does exist. They will not find out how to get along. They may grow up to hate one another, as well. What are some things that Frummie could learn from this experience? Monitor I hate to tell Frummie to slave over a hot stove at 9 or 10 o’clock at night to get dinner ready for the next day, but that might be necessary. In order to help kids with homework or with social skills, you really need to be right there and see what’s happening. Which leads me to the next, and even more important point. When you let kids work it out themselves, you’re asking for trouble. No, I don’t generally believe in micromanaging people. But children fall into a different category. In my work with adults – say, for example, in helping to organize the Five Towns Marriage Initiative, which I am working on now – I enjoy being a team player. I may have a bit of a leadership role (as I do in therapy) but that doesn’t stop me from wanting to draw on the skills and experience of those I’m working with. Not so with children. They don’t have skills and the only experience they are really good at is crying or complaining. OK, wheedling, too. Yes, they have certain talents. But if you are hoping that they will magically figure out how to share, tolerate mistakes, and generally enjoy the company of their sibling without your eye on things, your hopes may not be realized. So the monitoring has a purpose. The purpose is for you to be the umpire and call “foul” when necessary. That’s what kids need. How else would they be able to figure out what really is right and what isn’t? Be prepared to enforce your calls

Does the umpire have the right to bench people who don’t follow the rules? I’m not a big sports person, but I think he does. Frummie had absolutely no leverage here. She disempowered herself. Why would anyone do that to herself? There are many ways to enforce calls of foul: spending a few minutes in the corner, making a kid explain what he did wrong and apologize, going to bed early, or missing an experience that he wanted such as a visit with a friend, a party, or an outing. I think Frummie should select one of the above even if she never uses it. Just knowing that she has this weapon may make her feel a lot more in control of the situation than she was. Which directly leads to the next point. Don’t yell I know that sounds difficult. It is. I know I yelled at my kids from time to time. We all lose it. However, it should be a regrettable exception, not the rule. The rule should be keeping your dignity. How can kids respect a parent that is out of control? Make a point of speaking more softly. Make a point of almost whispering and just take note of the amazing results. Children start to really listen! If you don’t believe me, try it. Once Frummie is no longer yelling, she is now stuck having to say something. And that leads me to the last point. Be educational The Shema says that we are supposed to teach “it” to our children when we walk on the street, when we lie down, and when we get up. What, exactly, are we teaching? The answer, of course, is how to live life according to Torah. It’s that simple and it’s that hard. It’s hard to constantly be thinking in teacher mode. But that is the job we have. That is what the Shema means. We can’t escape from it. With that in mind, let’s suppose that the next day Frummie gathers herself together and goes to sit in the den with the boys who are supposed to be doing their homework. First thing she notices is that Yoeli, who may be bored with the assignment, pokes Efraim. Frummie was reading a book and Yoeli didn’t think she saw. But seeing was her job

and she was doing it. “Yoeli,” Frummie says, “why did you just poke your brother?” Yoeli shrugs his shoulders. He can’t admit that it’s fun to get a reaction. Frummie knows from past history that unchecked, this will escalate. It will end up with a bloody nose, a lost tooth, or worse. She read somewhere about the tipping point and how it was applied in New York City to cut down on crime. It started with going after people who did small criminal mischief, like paint graffiti. She was going to get on top of the small stuff like the pokes. “Come here, Yoeli,” Frummie now says. Yoeli gets up, looking down and smirking. “Look at me,” she continues. She brings him very close to her and looks into his eyes. “When you’re bored, I can see why it would be tempting to bother your brother but that’s wrong. Bothering people is wrong. It’s not nice. And then it can get into a fight and people can get hurt. Do you understand?” His mother’s rather long, sincere speech was new for Yoeli. He started to feel uncomfortable with her looking directly at him for so long. He squirmed. “Yoeli, maybe you don’t understand. Would you like to think about it in a corner?” Frummie suggested, almost casually. “No!” he responded quickly. “Good, then apologize to your brother and make a decision not to do it again,” she concluded. One thing that Frummie realized after this experience was that it took less out of her. She felt calm, in control, relaxed. She went back to looking at her book while keeping the corner of her eye on her sons. She knew – and Yoeli knew, somehow, without a threat – that the next time he would be sent to the corner. He really didn’t want that. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, a Marriage & Family Therapist and best-selling author of The Healing Is Mutual--Marriage Empowerment Tools to Rebuild Trust and Respect--Together, is proud to announce that readers of The Jewish Home will receive a $50 discount on every visit to her Woodmere office. For more information, call 646-54-DRDEB or check out her website at

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rummie is trying her best to make dinner. She had actually taken time to go through a cookbook and select something interesting that she thought most of the family would like. She certainly would. Her husband, Al, probably would too. If the children, Yoeli and Efraim, would like it then she would indeed have accomplished something. Except that right at that moment, as she was trying to cook, she could hear screams from the other room. Those boys were at it again. She took in a deep breath and angrily marched into the den, saying, “You children are driving me crazy! You had better sit down and get to work on your homework and stop this nonsense.” As Frummie left, Yoeli grinned at Efraim, “Ha!” he exclaimed. “You’re driving mommy crazy.” “No, you are!” Efraim whined unconvincingly. He had already lost his belief in justice. He put his thumb in his mouth, a bad habit that was supposed to have been broken. “Baby! Baby!” Yoeli intoned. Now, Efraim became enraged. Insult was added to injury. He ran across the room and smacked his brother, hard. Yoeli started crying. Again, Frummie rushed in. If she was angry before, that

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The Department of Homeland Security revealed that hackers have attempted more than a dozen cyberattacks on the Obamacare website, but couldn’t get in. Then Obama said, “But when you do, let us know how you did it!” - Jimmy Fallon

Exchange between CBS News’ Major Garrett and President Obama at last week’s press conference:

MAJOR GARRETT: You said while the law was being debated, if you like your plan, you can keep it. You said after the law was implemented or signed, if like your plan, you can keep it. Americans believed you, sir, when you said that to them over and over. Do you not believe, sir, the American people deserve a deeper, more transparent accountability from you as to why you said it over and over and when your own statistics, published in the Federal Register, alerted your policy staff, and I presume you, to the fact that millions of Americans would, in fact, probably fall into the very gap you are trying to administratively fix now? That’s one question. Second question. You were informed or – several people in this building were informed two weeks before the launch of the website that it was failing the most basic tests internally. And yet, a decision was made to launch the website on October 1. Did you, sir, make that test and if so, did you regret it? PRES. OBAMA: Okay. On the website, I was not informed directly that the website would not be working the way it was supposed to. Had I been informed I wouldn’t be going out saying, “Boy, this is going to be great.” You know, I’m accused of a lot of things but I don’t think that I’m stupid enough to go around saying this is going to be like shopping on Amazon or Travelocity a week before the website open... MAJOR GARRETT: Did you decide, sir, say that the simple declaration was something the American people could handle but this nuance was something they couldn’t handle and didn’t trust the American people with the fuller truth? PRES. OBAMA: No. I think, as I said earlier, major, my expectation was that for 98 percent of the American people either it genuinely wouldn’t change at all or they would be pleasantly surprised with the options in the marketplace.*

We call on G-d to accept Mohammed Fares into his Kingdom and to forgive his brothers that sought to rid us of the enemies of G-d and our enemies. - Al Qaeda of Syria spokesman after his group mistakenly beheaded the wrong person who was actually a rebel fighting along them

In a dispute with the Kraft Corporation, Starbucks has been ordered to pay $2.7 billion. To put that in Starbucks terms, that is three lattes. - Conan O’Brien

FORNIER: Why not honor Gettysburg with a presidential visit? WH ADVISOR PFEIFFER: It (didn’t) work schedule-wise. FORNIER: Serious question: What is on his schedule that is more important than the Gettysburg anniversary? WH ADVISOR PFEIFFER: Oh, I don’t know, there’s this whole website thing that someone suggested might destroy the Dem Party. It was a complete accident. - Embattled Toronto Mayor Rob Ford after he physically knocked over a Toronto City Council member during a meeting aimed at stripping him of power

That this nation, under G-d, shall have a new birth of freedom... - From the closing line of Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address

That this nation shall have a new birth of freedom... - President Obama, reading the Gettysburg Address in honor of the 150th anniversary of Lincoln’s famous speech

Hillary’s a paper tiger...The idea that she’s a shoo-in for the presidency I think is just ridiculously wrong...The hyperbole about her being secretary of state – name me one thing she achieved in the four years? One? - Charles Krauthammer on the Hugh Hewitt radio show

Today a reporter asked Chris Christie, “What do you think of 2016?” And Christie said, “I think it’s a good weight to get down to.” – Jay Leno This guy has been a human wrecking ball. - Senator John McCain criticizing Secretary of State John Kerry

The corporate entity that owns CBS decided some time ago that they wanted to, in effect, erase me from the coverage––from history. - Former CBS newsman Dan Rather on being excluded from CBS News’ special coverage of the 50th anniversary of the JFK assassination, even though he was a young reporter in Dallas at the time

Toronto’s city council voted 39-3 to strip Mayor Rob Ford of some of his powers. Here’s the amazing part. The mayor and his brother are being given their own reality show. That’s depressing, isn’t it? This maniac will have a TV show and I won’t. - Jay Leno

It was, again, a bad day. Three people died — that’s terrible. More were maimed — that’s horrible, but unfortunately that happens every day in car accidents and everything else. I mean, your city was not leveled by Godzilla. - Bill Maher talking about the Boston bombing during last Friday’s show

Your support and your friendship is real, it’s sincere. - PM Netanyahu to French President Francois Hollande, in a statement which many see as a slight against President Obama who disagrees with Netanyahu and Hollande regarding Iran

If you are looking for, if you want coverage from your doctor, a doctor that you’ve seen in the past, and want that, you can look and see if there’s a plan in which that doctor participates in. - White House Press Secretary Jay Carney in which may be the next “Obamacare shoe” to drop People call me a socialist sometimes. But, no, you gotta meet real socialists. You’ll have a sense of what a socialist is. I’m talking about lowering the corporate tax rate, my healthcare reform is based on the private marketplace; stock market’s looking pretty good last time I checked. - President Obama at the Wall Street Journal’s CEO Summit

On Monday, President Obama paid tribute to America’s oldest living veteran, 107-year-old Richard Overton. Overton credits his longevity to drinking whiskey and smoking 12 cigars every day. Now there’s a health plan we can all get behind. - Jay Leno

President Obama and his top aides met with insurance company CEOs at the White House on Friday. So we’ve got politicians meeting with insurance salesmen. You know, if you throw in a couple of used car dealers, you have the trifecta of professional lying right there. - Jay Leno

According to a new poll, 52 percent of Americans describe President Obama as “not honest.” That makes him by far the most honest politician in American history. – Jay Leno The truth is, we’re going to fix it, G-d willing. – Vice President Joe Biden discussing the broken Obamacare website

The Tampa Bay Buccaneers won their first game of the season the other night. They beat the Miami Dolphins 22-19. This was an important loss for the Dolphins because they proved they can embarrass themselves without Richie Incognito. –Jay Leno

It just came out that President Obama brings a portable security tent with him on overseas trips so that he can read classified documents. He sets up a tent in his hotel room. Obama said it’s a good way to avoid being spied on while he keeps track of who he has spied on. - Jimmy Fallon

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Ask the Attorney

Zehava Schechter, Esq.

Bringing My Home up to Code Before Selling I am the Seller of a house in a Village in Nassau County. Years ago, I installed a bathroom (shower, sink, toilet) in the basement without obtaining permits. It did not seem important at the time and would only have delayed the construction, cost me more money, and opened up my home to the Village’s building department inspectors snooping around my home. Plus, it was in the basement so the Village would not know from looking at the outside of the house. Fast forward a number of years and I “uninstalled” the bathroom right before putting my home on the market for sale. The Purchaser did not object to the condition of the basement, but apparently, the Purchaser’s lender (mortgage bank) does. My attorney notified me that the Purchaser’s lender wants me to apply for a “demolition permit” from the Village and obtain a Certificate of Demolition. If I do not do this, the Purchaser’s lender will not fund the loan and we will not be able to close. What a mess! What do I do now?

The Attorney Responds: I hear (see) your frustration and yet, from your question you appear to understand the dilemma here. On one hand, the Purchaser is willing to take your word that the “uninstallation” was done by competent trades-people according to the local Building Code. The Purchaser’s lender is concerned that work was not done to code and will lead to problems in the house down the road. The lender is looking out for its own interest and is justified in doing so.

was done properly, you would not have had to “uninstall” the bathroom, and closing would not have been delayed. As a result, you probably would have saved money doing the work legally. But, as they say, that is “water under the bridge.” To paraphrase the Pareto Principle, let’s spend 20% of our time on the problem and 80% on the solution. What do you do now? There is no perfect answer to this question – only possible modes of action. Your attorney has likely taken the

The Purchaser’s lender is concerned that work was not done to code and will lead to problems in the house down the road. Would it have been a good idea to get the proper Permit and Certificate at the time of construction of the bathroom? The answer is certainly yes, as you would have been assured the work

following steps; however, in case he/she has not, here is a list of possible actions to take: First, ask your attorney to contact the Village Building Department – without telling your name or house address – to find out what needs to be done, the time frame involved, and how much it will cost. DO NOT open a Pandora’s Box by giving your information to the Building Department. If you successfully resolve this problem without obtaining a permit, the Building Department will be alerted to issues with your house and may investigate on its own. Second, ask your attorney to contact the Purchaser’s lender directly to verify what is being requested. Perhaps, your attorney, purchaser’s attorney, and the lender’s representative could speak in a telephone conference call and arrive at a less costly, alternative resolution of the issue. Third, contact a plumber with connections to your Village Building Department (some plumbers are quite familiar with how Building Department inspectors work) to find out what is involved in obtaining the Demolition Permit and how to proceed. If you have no other choice and must proceed with the permit process, it is very important to find and hire trades-people or expediters (who have connections with the local Building Department and, for a fee, will expedite – or rush – your permit and Certificate process) who have connections in your local area. For example, if you live in Great Neck, a

plumber’s connections with the Town of Hempstead, but not with the Town of North Hempstead or the Village of Great Neck or Great Neck Plaza, would not be helpful. This is an instance where who your plumber knows (and who knows your plumber) makes the difference. As they say, all politics are local. Please do not infer from my answer that I am condoning any illegal building activity or suggesting that you not follow the proper procedures to obtain construction or demolition permits and certificates. Rather, I am suggesting that in these particular circumstances, there are options to consider. Good luck! Post-script: Here is the end of the story. When all of the Seller’s efforts failed to resolve the matter, the homeowner was prepared to pay a well-connected plumber to obtain the Demolition permit and Certificate and arranged with the plumber to start the process. The night

before the plumber took out the permit from the Village, suddenly the purchaser’s lender agreed to waive the Demolition permit requirement for clearance to close on the loan. No reason was given by the lender and no one knows why this condition was dropped. Needless to say, the homeowner was thrilled and saved quite a bit of money and time. The Village was none the wiser and the deal closed within one week. True story. No column is a substitute for competent legal advice. Please consult with the attorney of your choice concerning specific legal questions you may have.

W. Zehava Schechter, Esq. specializes in real estate law, estate planning and administration, and business law. Her private practice is located on Long Island. Please send your comments to

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Sides to Savor

at a Feast of Gratitude

Herb-Stuffed Mushrooms Ingredients 1 ½ lb baby portabella mushrooms, stems and gills removed ½ cup bread crumbs 3 TBS olive oil 1 medium red onion, diced 1 garlic clove, minced ¾ tsp salt 2 TBS fresh parsley, finely chopped ½ tsp fresh basil, finely chopped Preparation Preheat oven to 375° and spray cooking sheet with cooking spray. Add oil to pan and sauté onions and other ingredients until cooked through, 7-10 minutes. Dividing evenly, fill each mushroom cap with mixture. Bake for 30-40 minutes until stuffing turns golden brown. Serve warm or at room temperature.

Four Bean Salad Ingredients 2/3 cup granulated sugar 1 scant teaspoon celery salt ½ cup extra-virgin olive oil

½ cup red wine vinegar ½ cup apple cider vinegar 1 (15 to 16 ounces) can garbanzo beans, drained and rinsed 2 (15 to 16 ounces) cans green beans, drained 1 (15 to 16 ounces) can yellow wax beans, drained 1 (15 to 16 ounces) can red kidney beans or small red beans, drained and rinsed ½ medium red onion, halved and thinly sliced Preparation Combine sugar, celery salt, olive oil and vinegars in a saucepan; bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer for 30 seconds. Combine drained beans in a large bowl; add sliced onion. Toss to blend ingredients. Pour dressing over beans and let marinate in the refrigerator for 2 to 4 hours.

Green Beans with Caramelized Onion and Mushrooms Ingredients 1 lb fresh green beans ¼ c sliced almonds 2 tablespoons margarine 2 tablespoons olive oil 8 oz cremini mushrooms, sliced 1 large yellow onion, thinly sliced 1 teaspoon fresh thyme leaves Salt and pepper Preparation Heat a large pot to medium heat. Add 1 tablespoon olive oil and 1 tablespoon margarine. When melted, add the onions, season with salt and pepper. Cook for 20 to 25 minutes, stirring frequently, until onions are caramelized. Add the thyme and cook for an additional 5 minutes. Fill a large skillet with water, add salt and bring to a boil. Once water has come to a rolling boil, add beans. Cook beans for 3-5 minutes until bright green and still crisp. Drain the beans and run them under cool water to stop them from cooking. Set aside. Bring the same skillet to medium high heat. Add the almonds and toast, stirring occasionally, until golden. About 5 minutes. Remove the almonds and set aside.

Using the same skillet, add one tablespoon olive oil and one tablespoon margarine. Add the mushrooms and sauté until golden brown, about 10 minutes. Set aside. Once onions are thoroughly caramelized, add the beans and mushrooms to the pot. Cook for an additional 5 minutes, adding salt and pepper to taste. Add almonds. Serve warm.

Balsamic and Maple Acorn Squash Ingredients 4 acorn squash, halved lengthwise and seeded ½ cup maple syrup ¼ cup balsamic vinegar 2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice 6-8 teaspoons margarine Freshly grated nutmeg Preparation Preheat oven to 375°. Place the squash halves, cut side up, in a large baking dish. In a small bowl, stir together the maple syrup, balsamic vinegar and lemon juice. Using a pastry brush, brush some of the mixture over the cut surfaces of the squash. Bake for about 20 minutes, then brush the squash again with the maple syrup mixture. Divide any remaining mixture among the squash cavities and add ½ -1 teaspoon margarine to each. Sprinkle nutmeg lightly over the squash. Return to the oven and bake until the squash are tender when pierced with a knife, about 1 hour longer, basting two to three times. Serve warm.

Preparation Adjust oven rack to middle position and preheat oven to 375°F. Fold two 12- by 18-inch squares of heavy duty aluminum foil in half cross-wise. Crimp the left and right edges to form a tight seal (leave the top open). Toss beets with 1 tablespoon olive oil and season with salt and pepper. Divide evenly between both foil pouches. Add 2 sprigs rosemary or thyme to each pouch, then tightly crimp top of pouch to seal. Place pouches on a rimmed baking sheet and place in oven. Cook until beets are completely tender, about 1 hour. Open pouches and allow beets to cool for 30 minutes. Peel under cold running water (the skin should slip right off—wear gloves!). Cut beets into rough 1 1/2-inch chunks. Combine vinegar, honey, half of pine nuts, and shallots in a medium bowl. Whisking constantly, slowly drizzle in remaining 4 tablespoons olive oil followed by walnut oil. Season dressing to taste with salt and pepper. Toss beets with half of dressing in a large bowl, then transfer to a serving plate. Add grapefruit, orange, and arugula leaves to bowl along with 1 more tablespoon dressing. Toss and season to taste with salt and pepper. Transfer to serving plate with beets. Drizzle remaining dressing around beets, sprinkle with remaining pine nuts, top with orange zest, and serve.

Garlic Mashed Potatoes

Beet and Citrus Salad Ingredients 2 pounds raw beets, greens and stems removed, scrubbed under cold running water

Ingredients 1 garlic bulb, unpeeled Splash of olive oil 4 large potatoes (Idaho or russet), peeled and cut in half 1 cup chicken stock Salt to taste Freshly ground black pepper Preparation Preheat the oven to 350°F. Place the garlic cloves in an ovenproof dish and drizzle with olive oil. Place the dish, uncovered, in the oven for 15-

20 minutes until the garlic is golden brown and soft. Remove from the oven and let cool. Place potatoes in a pot and cover with cold water. Bring to a boil over high heat and simmer until the potatoes are tender when pricked with a fork, about 30 minutes depending on the size of the potatoes. Drain. In another pot, bring the stock to a boil, and turn down to a simmer. Squeeze the roasted garlic cloves to release each clove of garlic. Mash the garlic with a fork and throw the skins away. Mash the potatoes with a potato masher or fork. Add the roasted garlic. Slowly add the stock until the desired consistency is reached. Season with salt and pepper to taste.

Pecan Pie Tarts Ingredients 1/3 cup finely chopped pecans ½ cup packed brown sugar 1/3 cup light colored corn syrup 1 tsp vanilla extract 1/8 tsp salt 1 large egg, lightly beaten 1 large egg white 24 mini Fillo shells Preparation Preheat oven to 350°. Take fillo shells out of package and place on cookie sheet. To prepare filling, divide pecans evenly among muffin cups. Combine brown sugar, corn syrup, vanilla, salt and eggs. Spoon 2 teaspoons filling over pecans in each fillo shell. Bake at 350° for 20 minutes or until pastry is lightly brown and filling is puffy. Remove from cookie sheet and cool completely on wire rack. Once prepared, these tarts can be stored in an airtight container for several days. Serve warm with whipped cream or pareve ice cream.

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5 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil, divided Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper 4 sprigs rosemary or thyme 2 tablespoons sherry vinegar 1 tablespoon honey ¼ cup toasted pine nuts, divided 1 small shallot, finely minced, about 1 tablespoon 1 tablespoon walnut oil 1 grapefruit, segmented 1 orange, segemented 1 cup loosely packed arugula leaves Orange zest, for garnish

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A LATKE TWIST Latke Battered Chicken Fingers Ingredients 3 medium russet potatoes, grated, approx. 1 cup 2 tablespoons of onion powder 1 extra large egg 2 tablespoons of salt ¼ cup flour, plus more for dredging 1 tablespoon corn starch Heavy pinch of pepper 1 chicken breast deboned and cut into strips Oil for frying Preparation Grate potatoes. Combine the next six ingredients together with potatoes and mix latke batter well. Set aside. Heat oil on moderate to high heat until oil shimmers. In a separate bowl, dredge chicken in flour. Coat with latke batter and then fry in hot oil until golden brown on each side. Note: This batter works well for delicious latkes.

Red Onion Shallot Jam Ingredients medium red onion ½ shallot ¼ cup sugar 3 tablespoons red wine vinegar tablespoons white vinegar ¼ cup semi dry red wine ½ tablespoon salt Pinch of white pepper Preparation Slice onion and shallot thinly. Coat bottom of pan in oil and heat. Sauté onions and shallots in pan until translucent. Combine rest of ingredients in pan until most of the liquid evaporates and forms a jam-like consistency.

Creamed Spinach Ingredients cups frozen spinach ½ cup of milk substitute ½ teaspoon salt Preparation Place pan on medium heat. Add two tablespoons of water to pan. Place spinach in pan and cover. Heat until warm; add water if needed. Continue cooking until spinach is hot. Add milk substitute and season with salt to taste. Serve hot. Enjoy! Happy Chanukah! I encourage you to send me any or all suggestions to Also please notify me if there is any recipe or idea that you would like to see in this column. Bon appetit!

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Sweet and Savory at your Thanksgiving Feast


ven though I may sound Australian with my heavy “Aussie” accent, I am definitely American in my heart. My favorite time of the year is the American holiday of Thanksgiving. I came to the USA 19 years ago on Thanksgiving and I met my husband one year later on Thanksgiving – so I always consider it a time of celebration. Even though some Orthodox people don’t “celebrate” this holiday, I look at it as an opportunity to thank Hashem for letting us live in this great country where we can practice our religion in public and where we don’t have to hide our traditions like in so many previous generations. Every November, I start thinking about what to make – as I do a lot of cooking classes for various school and shuls around the tri-state area during that period of year. They usually want something involving fall vegetables, turkey, a fabulous side and, of course, a sensational dessert. I love to come up with new ideas every year to enhance my classes. A few years ago, I found an amazing recipe in an old magazine for pumpkin crème brulee. Anytime I make it in a class it is very well received. It’s a real twist on the classic recipe and I converted it to make it parve. The tur-

key is a combo effort of my mother’s and my own. My biggest bit of advice to people when making a turkey: don’t overcook it. Remember, after you carve it, you are going to reheat it so you don’t want it to dry out. I love to use root vegetables as a side dish. The term “root vegetables” include those that are either tuberous roots or taproots. They are the carrots, turnips, sweet potatoes, potatoes, beets, rutabagas and celery root, just to name a few. They are rich in carbohydrates and have lots of vitamins. Also, they are economical to buy and they can serve a lot of people. If possible, prepare in advance. I never leave my cooking until Thursday morning. My family is home that day and we like to do something as a family on Thanksgiving morning. I write my menu and shopping list on Monday, do the shopping on Tuesday and cook on Wednesday. All that I leave for Thursday is re-heating.

I hope that these new recipes can enhance your recipe repertoire for Thanksgiving or any Shabbat meal during the fall and winter months.

Roasted Herb Turkey Ingredients 1 (12 pound) whole turkey ½ cup olive oil 10 cloves frozen garlic cubes 2 teaspoons dried basil 1 teaspoon oregano 1 tablespoon paprika 1 teaspoon kosher salt ½ teaspoon black pepper 1 bottle semidry white wine 2 Granny Smith apples, peeled and quartered

Preparation Preheat oven to 350° F. Clean turkey (discard giblets and organs) and place in a roasting pan. In a small bowl, combine olive oil, defrosted garlic cloves, dried basil, paprika, oregano, kosher salt, and black pepper. Using a basting brush, apply the mixture to the outside of the uncooked turkey and if there is any left over you can rub it with your fingers under the skin. Place the apple in the cavity of the turkey. Pour about ¾ bottle of wine over the turkey and into the bottom of the roasting pan, then cover the turkey. Bake for 2 hours, or until the internal temperature of the thickest part of the thigh measures 180°F. Remove bird from oven, and allow to stand for about 30 minutes before carving. Once the turkey has cooled, remove the apples and blend it in with the gravy. NOTE: For the last half hour, uncover the turkey so it browns nicely. I also like to baste it every half hour while it bakes.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, or at (516) 295-9669.

Ingredients 3 cups Richs Whip 1 cup plain soy milk ½ teaspoon cinnamon 1/8 teaspoon nutmeg ½ teaspoon ginger 10 egg yolks 1 cup granulated sugar + extra for sprinkling ½ cup canned pumpkin puree Preparation Preheat the oven to 300° F. In a medium pot, heat the Richs Whip, soy milk, cinnamon, nutmeg, and ginger over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until it just begins to bubble. Turn off the heat and set the pot aside to steep for 15 minutes. In a large bowl, whisk the egg yolks with the granulated sugar. Then gradually pour in the hot cream mixture. Mix in the pumpkin puree. Pour the mixture into eight 6-ounce ramekins. Place ramekins in a baking pan and fill pan with hot water about half way up the sides of the ramekins. Bake in oven until it is almost set, about 40 minutes. The custard should be mostly firm but still a little loose in the middle. Remove from the water bath and let cool for a few minutes. Place ramekins in fridge and cool overnight. When ready to serve, sprinkle 1-2 teaspoons of sugar over the top of each custard pot. Place ramekins on cookie sheet and under a preheated broiler to caramelize the sugar (about 3 minutes). Watch carefully to avoid burning the sugar. Alternatively, use a handheld propane or butane torch to caramelize the sugar.

Roasted Root Vegetables with Spiced Pecans Ingredients 3 medium potatoes, peeled and cut into large bite-size pieces 4 medium carrots, peeled and cut into large bite-size pieces 3 small parsnips, peeled and cut into large bite-size pieces ½ butternut squash, peeled and cut into large bite-size pieces 1 head garlic, broken into individual cloves but not peeled ½ cup olive oil Salt and pepper to taste Spiced Pecans ½ cup pecans, chopped into dime-size pieces ½ teaspoon cinnamon 1 teaspoon allspice ½ teaspoon ground cloves 2 tablespoon sugar ½ teaspoon ground nutmeg Preparation Preheat oven to 400°F. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper. Mix all the vegetables with olive oil and season with salt and pepper. Place vegetables on cookie sheet. Combine pecans and spices in a bowl and sprinkle over vegetables. 3. Cover with foil and bake for 45 minutes until fork tender stirring 2-3 times to allow for even cooking.

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Lola Lieber Schwartz

A World After This

A Memoir of Loss and Redemption

continued Chapter 23 - Liberation


fter dark we were led to a train station, where again, cattle cars awaited us. By now, there wasn’t one person of any age on whom the significance of climbing onto those cattle cars was lost. Despite our numbers and our eagerness, once we saw the cars we all boarded in silence. It was likely that we all had relatives who’d been taken to Auschwitz in these precise cars – in convoys of death. Traveling in them lowered our heightened spirits back to the level of reality. We were on our way to Munich, one of the major centers of American occupation. Would we get papers to allow us to enter the United States? The train reached Munich in the middle of the night. We were driven to a school auditorium, again in a polite and civilized manner. In the school auditorium there were already a couple of hundred refugees, but they were all young people. They were sleeping on standard issue army cots with U.S. Army khaki blankets. I assumed that most of them had survived because they were young and fit and moving alone. They were probably all lone survivors of large Jewish families. We were directed to the back of the auditorium and Mechel and I were immediately shown to two empty cots. There was only one small ceiling lamp so you couldn’t see very much. Even in the dim light I saw something I abhorred. I saw rats leaping around on the floor, and jumping from cot to cot. Every few minutes someone screamed they had been bitten or touched by a rat. I did not want anything to do with rats. It was an old Yiddish folktale or what we call a bubbe maiseh, a grandmother’s tale, that if a pregnant woman saw a

mouse or rat during her term the baby would have a birthmark on its face. This nonsense was handed down in my own family as well. A cousin of mine had a small birthmark on his cheek and the family lore was that his mother had seen a mouse and clapped her face in fright, causing this mark on the child’s face. I was an intelligent woman, married to a super-rational man, but I was tired, and I was pregnant, and I had been through way too much not to take every precaution. I spent the entire night sitting on a high table – where the rats could not reach me – with my eyes shut.

starvation and brutality, Lola and her husband held onto their faith and values. It was Mechel’s words of encouragement, “There will be a world after this,” that helped them cling to the hope that there will be a life of light and joy waiting for them at the end. This is the story of Lola’s life—from her grandparents’ “enchanted garden” to meeting Eichmann ym”sh to making the Pesach seder for the Bobover Rebbe during the war—her words will take you back to a different world. in with boots and guns; now we would displace defeated Germans. The Central Committee of the Liberated Jews in the U.S. Zone of Germany operated from 1945 until 1950. This Jewish agency took over the administrative duties of helping and providing for survivors. We didn’t know anything about the Committee at that point and so we thought of it as a new Judenrat. As the clock struck 7 a.m. Mechel and I made a fast retreat from the rat-infested auditorium and never looked back. Others were lining up for break-

The world was upside down once again, but in a new way. At daybreak, those of us who were awake asked the people in charge what was going to happen to us next. They explained to us calmly and, I felt, with extreme kindness that we were part of a very large group of survivors. (By May of 1945 literally millions of displaced people were roaming around continental Europe. Of that number, about 100,000 were Jews who had survived in a myriad of ways. Half of that number was “housed” in the DP camps in the Allied occupation zones of Germany and Austria.) We were not going to stay in the auditorium but would visit the Jewish committee that had been put in charge of the welfare of Jews. We were told that we would be given an apartment, probably one from which a German family had been removed or which had been occupied by a German family when its Jewish owners were taken away. It was clear to me that the tables had been turned completely around. The world was upside down once again, but in a new way. Before the Germans came and took our homes and marched

fast. I would have starved rather than eat there. We went to the Deutsches Museum where the Committee had its offices. It was ridiculous of us to believe that they would be open at that hour, but I had been so disgusted and distraught by the auditorium that Mechel was eager to get things rolling. He saw a taxi and sprinted to hail it. I tried to keep up with him, and was careless. I slipped on a hidden patch of ice on the dirt-covered road and fell. On my way down I heard a loud crack. Mechel ran back to me. My right ankle was broken. German women appeared suddenly on the street we thought was deserted and called an ambulance. They waited with us until the ambulance came. It was my first experience with Germans who were not Nazis, or were no longer Nazis. I felt grateful but uneasy. The ambulance driver took our measure quickly and said he would need to take us to the American hospital. He sped out of town. He was a skilled driver, so in virtually no time we had cleared the city proper and arrived at St. Ottilien, a former nun’s cloister

located in Landsberg and now serving as both a hospital and a DP Camp. I was embarrassed and felt foolish. Mechel tried to cheer me up but did not succeed. “Lola, what shall I do with you? You survived the Nazis without a scratch and just hours after we are inside the American zone, you land in the hospital!” He was trying to be funny and helpful but it wasn’t a good tactic to use with me. I was crying. He became tender and told me it was only my ankle, but I was in terrible pain. More than anything else of course, I was concerned that the fall had harmed my baby. I was on a stretcher viewing the hospital from that perspective. What I could see indicated that the former nun’s cloister was on beautiful grounds and in a large and stately building. Doctors were abundant, all in white smocks. The nuns were still in residence, acting as nurses and aides, and garbed in their traditional full religious habits. The others, refugees, were in shabbier clothes, some were bedraggled and others were clearly dying and were there for hospice care. I was sent straight to X-ray and then into surgery. Poor Mechel! How upsetting it must have been for him waiting for me to come out of surgery. I awakened to see his face and just by looking into his eyes I knew all was well with the pregnancy. However, my leg was in a full cast and in traction. It had been a very bad break. By the looks of the contraption to which I was attached, I figured we would not be displacing a German family from their home anytime soon. Nonetheless, we had made it to Munich. “A bump in the road” is how we came to refer to it once I had recovered some of my good humor. Continued next week Lola wrote this book with the help of Alida Brill. A World After This was published in 2010 by Devora Publishing.

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sychologists agree that the ability to concentrate is key to achieving our goals. But today’s high-tech world is full of distractions, from thousands of cable TV channels to millions of internet sites, with smartphones constantly within reach. Some experts say our attention span is actually shrinking. So should it be any surprise that Americans have fallen in love with Twitter, the online social networking and “microblogging” site that lets users send and read “tweets” limited to no more than 140 characters? Twitter attracted confusion (and no small amount of scorn) when it debuted in 2006 — co-founder Jack Dorsey admitted that the service is “a short burst of inconsequential information.” But there are now more than 200 million “monthly active users” posting more than 500 million tweets per day. Twitter’s ubiquitous “hashtag,” the pound sign (#) that denotes keywords, appears everywhere, including at the Oscars, the Super Bowl, and the floor of the U.S. Senate. Twitter still doesn’t make any money. But that didn’t stop them from going public last week. On Thursday, Twitter issued 70 million shares at $26 each. The price nearly doubled in early trading before closing at $41.65 on Friday. And it made a lot of people rich. Co-founders Evan Williams and Jack Dorsey are billionaires. CEO Dick Costello, whose 2012 cash salary was just $200,000, is worth $300 million. All told, about 1,600 investors and employees became millionaires last week. (If you planned on buying a house or a Porsche in Silicon Valley, plan on standing in line and paying more!) What does that all mean for our friends at the IRS? It means a #windfall, that’s what! Twitter has granted non-executive employees over 92 million “restricted stock units” which will essentially

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hanksgiving and Chanukah overHowever, one important overlap lap this year. How does that work to watch out for is how things lay out. out for us? You must make sure not to rest your • Well, the Chanukah celebration gezunta turkey in front of the window, lasts a full 8 days even if you are longing to impress your • Thanksgiving celebrations, neighbors with your masterpiece. Beabout 8 hours! cause you might totally block out the • Thanksgiving we eat a stuffed light of those poor skinny Chanukah turkey candles. And that, of course, is a ma• Chanukah? Oh yes, a stuffed jor no no!! It’s not gezunta candles that jelly donut matter but rather the light it throws off. • Chanukah has no required meal. Thanksgiving is a time to be grateYou are definitely ful for our country, permitted to eat, America. Chanubut only candlekah is a time to be light is required! grateful for our Let’s enlighten Jewish heritage and Thanksgiving you can certainly what it gives us to the world with have the candleshare wherever we light but only the are: our approach to the knowledge meal is required! life, our values, and that we should our moral behavior. They don’t get With us it isn’t how in each other’s all be grateful big we are in size way. But how do or number rather, they offset each for everything it is how bright we other? shine. Listen, we alwe have. ways have a bit of Thanksgiving a challenge with is a great name for Thursday being a holiday. After all Thanksgiving and we are “the Thank Shabbos following right on its heels. You People” the Yehudim, meaning You know, it’s another big meal we’ve hod. And we do start each day with got to prepare, set up, and ingest… Modeh Ani, Thank you G-d. We are all That makes Thursday night, Friday about remembering to be grateful. So night, Shabbos day, and of course, we by having Chanukah overlap Thankscan’t resist Saturday night eating out giving let’s try to pull out the best meswith friends. That’s a lot of eating in sage: Let’s enlighten the world with the a short span. And yes, we surely are knowledge that we should all be gratequite adept at it from celebrating three ful for everything we have. Though our day holidays. But adept doesn’t mean candles are skinny, let them be powerenthusiastic about doing it again! ful! Now, all of a sudden, Chanukah throws itself into the mix. Fortunately, Chanukah is not about some giant Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationmeal. In fact, it’s all about oil which ship counselor, and career and life coach. actually helps all the other food slide She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or down more easily.



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ust the other day, I was on line at CVS, and a reader of this column stopped to ask me if I had any idea how she could display some embroidered hand towels which were heirlooms. She wanted to preserve them and at the same time use them in her kitchen as decorative pieces and out of nostalgia. It had to be in a way that they could not be ruined. I was so happy that she stopped me, as I was thinking about what to write about for a Chanukah project, and this just hit the spot. Embroidered hand towels are charming; a glimpse from bygone days, when women spent time creating handiwork, which was created with intricate details and love. Each stitch spoke of memories and offered a vocabulary of its own. Displaying these special pieces in a

Framed Embroidered Hand Towels for Chanukah kitchen and not allowing them to get dusty and dirty from the cooking and kitchen mess takes some planning. My immediate response was to frame them and hang them up on wall, like in a gallery. I gave her an idea, and she was excited to follow it. I told her to measure the hand towels and then go to a store that sells glass or Plexiglass, which should be cut to size. Two pieces of the same exact size are needed for each towel, which will be displayed. Place your embroidered Plexiglass be-

tween the two pieces. Purchase picture clips to put on all sides of the glass or Plexilas. Place two on each end, top and bottom. This will keep the glass secure. The metal clip has holes, which can be used for hanging. Measure the space between the clips and bang in two nails, one in each exact spot on the wall. You will now be able to hang them all up on one wall as a display. Hang as many towels as possible, as the repetition makes the display appear more important. This will

also make a beautiful Chanukah gift for a loved one. It is simple and charming and at the same time will bring a taste of the past and warmth into any home. P.S. Embroidered hand towels may have been an activity in the olden days, and now, once again, they are very much in style today. If you do not have any of your own heirlooms, they can be found in secondhand stores and thrift shops at a minimum cost. Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg is a professional art educator, artist and designer. Among her known artwork is a floral sculpture presented to Tipper Gore, Blair House, Washington, D.C. Presently she is the Director of Operations at Shulamith School for Girls. Please feel free to email nherzberg@ with questions and suggestions for future columns.


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